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I love that this kind of content is out there. But does it REALLY need a 15 minute video?

"I don't want to." is normal ... counter with "I WANT THE PAYOFF OF GETTING IT DONE"

OMG, I can't believe you posted this!! I have wanted to live in Scotland since 2018. I applied for a job there in 2018, but it had to be offered to someone locally first. Which i totally get. Then life took over. I still want to do this, at least part-time. And, I have been procrastinating with the paperwork.

I love the idea of of this and I can see how it works for smaller projects. However, I'm struggling with how to apply it for larger projects, such as writing a book, that can span months to even years to complete, and where the process of the actual writing can be very subjective. Would you have any further tips for how to apply this method to a much larger project like that?

Just reflecting on this and my own experience of having to renew my license plate this month. Sometimes we break down the items of paperwork but inside those items are challenges such as missing information or having to fix an issue with outdated information that the government has on file for you. This can bring up emotions with hyper-sensitive people who don't like to face rejection. Two things to consider: Building a second brain. Using a tool like notion you can collect tons of little details about your life such as model numbers of appliances in your home or all the identification numbers on your car. All your government ID numbers. Sure this is sensitive information to be trusting with a 3rd party software company but you can look into apps that meet your requirements for this task. It can be in one long Google Doc file if you want and you just use CTRL-F The other item with the incorrect info/rejection issue is to remember that the cost of fixing an error or having forms sent back is much less than the cost of having tasks on your to-do list for months on end. Optimize for peace of mind, not for perfection.

I needed to hear this. Thank you for helping so many people with the information you share 😊 you are a blessing ❤️ take care

Such a nice video! I recently realized that this method (to break a project into small small pieces) is what I CAN follow and what I need so as to convince myself to start and follow through a project I do not want to do, but I have to. Small pieces-steps even if a piece-step is to move a small light object and then stop. That way the project is not overwhelming for me and moreover I do not get bored or frustraded. Another huge thing that helped me through this improvement is to think the process without internar judging such as "this piece-step is so small, is ridiculous, do sth bigger or do more or other people do that project all at once and they don't break it into pieces". And of course I stopped listening to other people judgements telling me I have to be different and making me feel "guilty" about myself for being inadequate. I learned the hard way, it took me years, but now I conquered it!!! 🎉

I have found what I’m often avoiding is the anxiety that kicks up once I start doing the thing. If you use the example of the form, I avoid it because I know that once I start, I’m going to question myself and have so much anxiety around whether I’m doing it right. Then I have to deal with all that discomfort. It can be debilitating.

Please don't use the term "first world country", it's inherently very racist

Actually it’s other people blocking my access to funding supports that are essential that’s ruining things for me in Australia

Use the word myriad the same as you would "many" or "a thousand". Yes: The autumn leaves shimmered in myriad colors. Yes: The autumn leaves shimmered in many colors. Yes: The autumn leaves shimmered in a thousand colors. No: The autumn leaves shimmered in a /many/ of colors. No: The autumn leaves shimmered in a /many/ of colors.

"I don't know where this belief came from" - decades of personal experience! Many people with ADHD struggle to create habits at all. No, I don't have a negative evening routine! Genuinely I struggle with routines and habits at all. Like *at all*. Saying i just have to find ones that work for me and it'll stick just isn't the case for many of us. I have an exercise system that I enjoy. That's the way my body wants to move. And yet I have been struggling to maintain it for years, and it has never never never become a habit. It's as much of a struggle now as it was when I first started. I trust myself, I listen to my intuition, it doesn't help me build and maintain routine.

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

Disturbing.

I get burned out because I haven't been able to find a job that respects me being a late chronotype. I am in constant sleep deficit. And then there is the pay... I have taken several classes in negotiation, but it doesn't work. None of the classes take the social cost for women into consideration... I dream of being my own boss. Sleeping enough, and having the flexibility to control my own time, so I can work out earlier and go back to work re-energized. I can work more when the energy is high, and less when I have down periods.

Re membership: how about a breakout chatroom for members only that opens after the episode for a limited amount of time, maybe until the next episode. You wouldn't have to be there, just drop in whenever you want.

I have that same painting from the DR:)

WOW that's super helpful. YES to just punting when I think, "I need to get Dad a new doctor." That's so overwhelming in our healthcare anarchy (you can't call this a healthcare "system") so I'll do something I know how to start, like laundry. But I can identify , now that I think of only first step, that I can call his insurance beneficiary helpline to get the list of doctors he's eligible for, then call for available appointments. Mind altering. THANKS

i love to hear more from you. im currently developing stretching for ADHD person. specifically PNF stretching. I hope we can help each other. Love from Malaysia.

Wow #3 I’ve been diagnosed 2 years and realised I haven’t accepted it.

Dumb question 🙋‍♀️ here: why do you need an Irish passport? Why can’t you use your US passport?

I'm watching from Ireland 😊 🇮🇪

I’m going through this now. I’ve had so many jobs over my lifetime. Right now I’m at a job that I just started about a month ago and I already ready to quit.

This is a really good reminder for me to split projects up into smaller tasks so I can spread them out. Especially, putting "Googling the process" or "write down the steps/tasks for the project" on my to do list. I definitely fall into that trap of waiting until I have a full day free (and usually, alone) to start things.

Really enjoyed this video. In the UK we have something called Access to Work - funding support to help those with disabilities and conditions that make working difficult. ADHD is classed as one of those conditions. BUT... the process for applying is an ADHDer's worst nightmare. It's typical government applications and form filling. I've had my assessment and been given some funding but I've been procrastinating even requesting the money as the process just leaves me feeling paralysed. I love the idea of breaking it down into tasks - starting with GET SOMEONE TO GO THROUGH THE FORM WITH ME!! Thanks for that little gem.

so heres my thing with it. i feel like its blocking me from being able to make money and move forward to even be able to have the funds to afford someone like u to help me. 😩😔its already hard enough trying to get through this video but its making me kinda sad at the same time 🤦🏽‍♀️cause getting through this alone has been quite the task. It makes me shutdown, and ive started watching these videos to keep me from shutting down but im still fighting depression, ima figure it out though, once this mood passes✨

Exactly 10 minutes. Impressive

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Great blueprint -- thank you!!

I like this a lot… I have been lagging on getting my passport renewed so I just got my passport photos done. I’m submitting the application tomorrow after locating my other necessary doc. Also, I’m eligible for dual citizenship in Poland. You’ve inspired to claim it. ❤❤❤thank you!!!!!!! So. Much. Appreciation

A question for you Caren, did you get a face palsy before? because I got it twice and I wanna know if ADHD could cause it.

First let me say: Great video! This is my first time finding your channel, and you've got another subscriber in me! One thing I don't quite understand: You very correctly and deeply identify a commonality we all have, in not being able to discern between A) genuine interests/passions and B) pursuits which are based on social pressure/scorecards. I love it! I've never heard it articulated more clearly than this. But... identifying the issue and explaining that this is the key to unlocking those things we'll end up pursuing with less friction is one thing. You follow up by giving us an exercise to make a list and then discern between A and B. But we struggle to do that, and some of us can't do it at all. So rather than explaining a way for us to fix this problem, you gave us a potentially-frustrating exercise which will identify and magnify the exact issue you purport to help with. Is the message here that repeatedly doing this exercise will give us practice and therefore over time we'll improve our ability in this area? Or is there more to this exercise? Some people may not be able to tell the difference at all, and they may think all of their ideas come from them. How should those people seek more information on how to improve this skill? Great video! Thank you for making it. I look forward to watching more of your work.

if you have a project, say you need to go somewhere to do it, you can wait for 4 years and technology will catch up and you can do it online, you can wait for 4 more years and you can do it with a hologram assistant, you can wait for 4 more years and you can do it in your sleep. and you can wait for 4 more years and you not going to need it anymore then - problem solved.

This was ABSOLUTELY a great video. I needed this. The tasks aren't projects thing was an eye opener for me!

I had to take my car in to be inspected for my warrant of fitness. I started it a month ago (because I know me) and I got a new tyre (phew) which was all I needed in order to come up to code, but do you think I could take my vehicle back? Anyways, my desire to drive a vehicle that is legally road worthy, makes my reasoning to take it back my goal.

I’m a gambler, and I picked 4 winners today, which could of won me 1000’s of pounds ,didn’t bother putting the bets on today, happens all the time for me

I’m so happy I found your videos. You’re like an angel sent from heaven 😊

there is a book about a writer that couldn't start his main book and wasted time on small job to get by. He called this main book project "my majory thingy" (I'm translating). he didn't finish it.

Breadcrumbs! I'm going to try that!

I had a club-based duty that had become an absolute anchor around my neck. I had been nominated (not by my own agreement) and voted in as the ‘Secretary’ of the club. The task wasn’t hard, per se…but relying on club members to get back to me, let alone the club president to INTERACT with me was an absolute struggle. I no longer wanted to face it. It took me months of knowing I HAD TO DO the task, but it was so far gone…and I was in defiance mode. I finally tucked in and knocked it out because there was finally someone else to take it on. Knowing it was going to be someone else’s job got me to get over the finish line. Sadly, I also told the club leadership that I no longer wished to be a part of it, and they didn’t even try to understand. At least it’s no longer in my life. It’s also taught me: don’t necessarily believe folks who say it’s not that much of a time hog/don’t accept a position I’m not actually wanting! Done and dusted. Smarter, more protective of my boundaries/time. But now I feel wrong for wanting to go play the game when they’re not at the court. They don’t own it, it’s a city park.

bro! this is the content i so effing needed❤❤❤ no bs straight up like Paula Abdul😂❤😂

4 years? That is not too bad. What about a project I have, that if it's done properly it can change my life for the better drastically, but it's waiting to get started for almost 10 years? Although, is project that can be very beneficial for me, all the times I try to begin with it, my brain goes 4:51 and I always leave for the next day. And as we know, tomorrow is always tomorrow. :(

Holy cow!! I got my citizenship and need to get my passport. I’ve been procrastinating as well for about the same time. You described all my pain points. Thank you for the much needed perspective shift.

I have struggled so hard my whole life with ADHD symptoms, as a creative producer and entrepreneur... only now getting diagnosed, and over time I have come up with almost the same exact systems you are prescribing, like the one you set up in notion. I have set ambitious goals, and a lot was at stake since it has been figuring out how to work with my ADHD disposition and make a living. It's pretty cool to see how i came to the same place. Your perspectives are so helpful, either way. You dive into the things i know i need to explore more. You also you put things into words really well... Key phrases like "point of entry" and asking is this a "project" or a "task" have allowed me to zero in on the best subject matter to focus my time and concentration on. I constantly have multiple list entries on my list getting bumped to tomorrow. I always said, oh i'm putting the whole job on the list without breaking down the baby-steps. This job is too complex to be general about. Getting more specific changes everything. Anyway. Love your work. You're giving me a lot of hope, optimism, and practical input.

I saved this video to my watch later Playlist. YT just suggested it, and I was like yes! I need that video only to realize it was in my watch later list.

Thank you Caren 🙏🏽

Interesting… I’m dealing with having someone dump on me a lot of their expectations of me that I apparently didn’t live up to, and it’s been a lot to think about. Would love to hear you discuss others’ expectations of us and how to deal with them.

a question i have is, is there a diffrence with teens and adhd and adults? because our brains arent fully developed yet, so what is the level for me as a teen

i dont know if you have or not, but im a teen who struggles with ADD and ptsd and bad anxiety and deppresion, and i dont want to fail school, but im having more than a hard time, and i cant seem to make a good plan for myself