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Casual hookups no good?

I have noticed that a lot of your love interests look like Anna with a backwards baseball hat and mustache. On the positive side , money not spent on extra cast members can be used for wardrobe.

@@Emppu_T. If you swim with the sharks, make sure you have the appetite of a whale.

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So unsafe

Also for men

@@lachainone yeah, cause men usually get physically harassed by the people they are dating *irony off*

technically the situation didn't get any unsafe, it was just dangerous from the start

If someone is a bit unusual it doesn't make the dangerous ffs you bunch of snowflakes

Damn I never thought about that hella true.. no wonder our love programming is fked lol

Yeah but....in his case it worked. He saw her in a movie, did all this stuff to get close to her, to get her to notice him, and then he slept with her. I've never like seen an actress in a movie, fly out to a convention she's at, and then somehow get her to even hang out with me. I could never swing that. That's bonkers. This dude MANIFESTED. He also delusional as hell

I see this all the time. Men usually manipulate to get what they want. That's the one time I agree with women. (Yes, you're terrible)

Love this comment. You're awesome. You're so well spoken. Would love to work with you on a future project I'm looking for well spoken speakers to help me create some content/customer service/type from home opportunities. near future though, not now :) I'll message you in the future. Have a good day.

and i think you'd like representing it because it is in alignment with 1 of your securities/observations from your 2nd sentence. "Manipulated rather than respected." and 2nd, im confident to make it viral once we do it. anyways i wanna stop talking about it and get back to work on other things that will lead up to the day ill message ya again, but then ill be hiring and paying haha so it'll be more beneficial for you to pay money for your time x_X peaceeee.

Moving to CA from somewhere else to find her is a BIG red flag.

@@DreamsMeet Creepy #2...

True pretty sure she has at least 2 videos on how creepy asian fetishes are aka yellow fever.

he would've had to actually listen to the videos instead of just staring at the paused screen unblinking

​@@jclyntoledo The thing is... he probably remembered those videos and realized she might realize sooner or later that all of his exes are Asian and tried to "but I'm not like those other guys" in the worst possible way.

Exactly! He should have said "I'm a racist" at least that way Anna would know that he's honest

Only dating Asian women…ugh. That kind of fetish is racist. Because of pressure from my Jewish mother, I tried to date only Jewish women…who tended to be petite and brunette. My wife is half Japanese…and is now 100% Jewish (after converting…and she is a better Jew than I will ever be). My mother loved her…absolutely adored her.

Gotham...!

yeah, i thought she got tricked like they got wasted and had some kind of one night stand that she didnt really want to but she committed to but naw; he went Borat + keyser soze

That's because the title is inaccurate.

@@madhatten00 Ye same

@@ireallyreallyhategoogle exactly

This is why hookups and flings are a bad idea. You never know what they could be hiding from you.

Come on. This is hardly stalking.

@@childofk4993 Right. Not stalking. This some CIA level activity.

Pfft… If he had just toned it down a notch this would be the plot to a romantic comedy, lol.

@@childofk4993 Actually, this sounds very much like stalking!

My face is literally like this right now : =O and the mouth isn't big enough here to stress the "what the..?!?!" feeling I had reading you up there. Jeeeeez.

Hunh? This is not someone you know now, is it?

When you think you already heard the dumbest thing a guy can say to a woman.....

"still Asian enough" Wowwwwww

@@michaelrmurphy2734 Believe it or not, he and I used to be friends. We don't talk anymore, though. He kept making comments like that and playing them off as jokes when I'd respond negatively and eventually I stopped talking to him.

No she is not dumb, but she damn sure was not tricked. She willingly slept with him. She just didn't know he was a fkn weirdo.

@@drp1bb856 technically you're right. She indeed can be a bit more accountable for her own actions. But that dude is a fkn lunatic.

@@drp1bb856 Yes that is a lunatic and if you don't see it then it's likely because you're a creep too

@@drp1bb856 She did decide to sleep with him, but that's it. She even said the guy has moved to LA and is contuning to bother her, he is stalking her and you are trying to say it is her fault? Wow, talk about victim blaming.

@@drp1bb856 Let me get this right: since you wouldn't sleep with a stranger right after a breakup, everyone who does is displaying "degenerate behavior", but somehow sleeping with that person knowing it is a one-night stand is not "doing anything wrong"? And if the guy lies by saying he was fine with a one-night stand when in fact he was actually looking for romance and had manipulated a whole situation in order to get close to her during a time he knew she was vulnerable so he could get into her pants and make her fall in love with him, after she explicitly said she wasn't looking for romance, that's cool and 100% honest? If that's not what you're saying, you really should work on your communication skills, because it sounds a lot like that's what you're saying.

D😉ck pics are alsome

Scary! She does not deserve this. No woman does, actually.

Ur not that beautiful and no one is stalking you

I'm just scared he'll get angry and aggressive... it's not uncommon for creeps who get called out to double/triple down and get more and more desperate to "prove their love". hopefully shes only sharing this WELLLL after the fact and the guy has stopped a long time ago already so that wont happen

Or he'll change his tactics to "try and win her back," when she never fell for him in the first place. Even if he tried this with an actual ex-GF, he'd need to stop after the first, "No," and not caring to do that will keep him wreathed in red flags. I hope her friends and friendly neighborhood grocers/servers know the face of her Stalker and can shore up defenses. I know I want to, for her and myself and my friends who have been through similar enough.

did Anna offer hints? I thought her strategy was to "get out alive" by feigning interest as hard as possible.

@@AbbyTayu yeah, when he first confessed that he was a stalker. in that moment she has to pretend she's not upset because she's worried he might kill her. Once she's out of that situation alive she can tell him the truth: that she doesn't want to be with him, get a restraining order, tell the world the story here, and hopefully move on. We have fight, flight, freeze, or friend. I have had to use the friend one myself to get away from someone sexually assaulting me. Who then immediately lied about it when I told someone. Who then laughed at us and talked about us being bf/gf. you do what you have to, to survive.

Yes, I agree you should either go full deception or full honesty. I think hinting is a bad idea, which is why I'm skeptical that Anna offered hints. If you are alone with your predator and think he may be aggressive, offering hints of your disinterest may trigger him. If you later decide to reveal the truth from the safety of your home, it's best to be as direct as possible; giving hints may make him think there is still room for you to change your mind. Sorry to hear about your story. It sounds like a scary experience. I was surprised by the behavior of the "someone" you told. Was this a friend? An adult? I expect most people would treat an earnest report of sexual assault seriously. We do need to think critically about why a person might respond that way though. Perhaps they also felt intimidated by the predator and took his side to maximize their own safety. Or perhaps the "someone" was a child or someone who didn't know how to handle the situation, so they pretended it wasn't real, as an easy way out. Sorry if this wasn't a discussion you were looking for, and sorry if it looks like I'm making excuses for everyone besides you. I offer these discussions because I think it's valuable to consider why people don't react the way we want them to, so that we are less surprised when it happens and so that we can think of other strategies to get what we want.

What?! She slept with guy on her own. She wasn’t tricked.

What’s horrifying? That she voluntarily slept with someone who put himself in a position to meet her because he found her attractive? Maybe she needs to make better life choices.

@@drp1bb856 ok victim blamer.

@@drp1bb856 I find it disturbing that people keep downplaying this. He manipulated her into sex and emotional intimacy by withholding information he knew would come off as creepy and by telling her he was okay with a short-term fling when he wasn't. That's not okay. It's creepy and trashy behavior. It doesn't matter if she chose to sleep with him or not. She communicated and made her intentions clear. He lied for his own personal gain. Let's not blame the victim here.

@@supremeoverlorde2109 Anna is not a victim. she was attracted to this guy and decided to enjoy casual sex with him. at first they agreed to only have a casual sex fling; however he did not keep his end of the bargain, and we must fault him for that. obviously the guy was emotionally immature, probably younger than Anna, and does not know how to behave around women. let's hope he learned his lesson to leave a woman alone when she does not his company.

what a simp haha

Really… I came. I saw. I conquered. Is precisely what this dude she let get between her legs did with her multiple times over. I certainly don’t have the chutzpah, obsession and tenacity to go that hard for anyone that I’m infatuated with but he sure did and succeeded too. So on some level I have to give him his flowers while he’s alive on this one.

@@endershepard7117 as long as you appreciate an obsessed fuckboy.

Literally the start of a horror film.. 😬😰😰

@@thehungrycatherpilla6427 Starring Anna Akana!

Yeah I was surprised too! Cause it was actually the other way around!

Yeah, why did the director not clue in that something was up?

@@michaelrmurphy2734 bc they only cares about free labour and not about the risks to people on set

@@summahthevegan3796 They were probably flattered and smooth-talked by a psychopath, is my guess. I doubt all or most directors want free labor. A lot of them are Marxists.

Realistically there are plenty of people willing to work for free to bolster a resume, and plenty of companies willing to take advantage of this labor availability.

Yeah a better world for all you rich females huh? 😂

A BIG dog. Bernese are intimidatingly large, but super chill.

Great comment. And as far as the romanticism. I’m not singling out Disney, but I will use them as an example of how we grew up with this. Aladdin stalked Jasmine. Ariel stalked Eric. And they had happy endings. We saw it from the stalkers POV and no one was complaining or terrified then.

Did you not see the dog in the bed? Where is Congress The Brave?! A farm? I'm on three acres up the country. Will that do?!

This is weird. I had the exact same thought as you. Confusion

Yeah, sadly a lot of media has given us a warped view of what is romantic. There are a lot of "romantic" movies that are extremely unrealistic, and would be extremely creepy if they happened in real life. As a guy, I know that those movies have affected my way of thinking. The whole, pursue a woman and perform antics to get her attention thing is in my head. Thankfully, it isn't really acted upon, but the influence is there. I don't really know how to go about romancing someone that I'm interested in. I wasn't really taught about it, so I just do the best that I can. I try to be cognizant of a woman's potential concerns. Meeting in public, trying to leave a safe path out, and keeping the lines of communication open. Until I started watching videos like this and learned other things women deal with I was quite ignorant. The thought of harming a woman for rejecting me is one of the last things on my mind. I'm more likely to withdraw and heal than do anything to someone. That said, I also can see how someone as obsessed as the guy mentioned here could be dangerous. I am aware of how that mindset can come about, and that such people can be extremely dangerous. I hope that Anna, and other ladies in similar situations stay safe. I am grateful to Anna and other ladies for sharing their experiences. It is really informative. We need more open conversations about these and other relationship adjacent subjects. Many people have largely been left with media being their only teacher when it comes to romance. Which really doesn't work.

That order is f**ked up. Normally the intimate part comes after the gonna fall for me part, or I'm just old...

I know right! How does "This man took advantage of me sluttily offering myself" turn into "This man wants to kill me?"

Only the most voted. If you sort by new, there's a ton of guys laughing at how silly the whole situation is. She wanted to sleep with a coworker, and she did. End of story.

Super vulnerable. And also that stalker can read all these comments and find himself both validated and also as something scary. Hopefully these comments, along with therapy, can help him.

It’s creepy af how many people think it’s ok and she’s overreacting, EVEN AMONG HER OWN VIEWERS. Now imagine how many more people think like that, who wouldn’t be in the demographic to watch her videos in the first place. Downright terrifying.

I kinda get it but also don’t… Some people have to actively act to make things happen or things just won’t.

@@marciamcdevitt964 I agree 100%. What's really weird is I'm seeing a lot of comments where people are being like, "I don't see how she was tricked. She chose to sleep with him." And I'm like, do you people not know what "tricked" means? It's as if people think it's totally okay to manipulate and deceive others into intimacy as long as they're not actively forcing them.

@@supremeoverlorde2109 I'd agree if maybe 60% of the women I knew were not somehow manipulated and deceived into a relationship. I think that's just how the ball rolls. And I get it why it's wrong. I just think that's a bad thing that is normal.

@@brunoverasferreira6263 It shouldn't be how it rolls though. We should be fighting back against the normalization of that kind of thing. If we just throw our hands up and accept it without seeking accountability, there's no opportunity for change. That's like saying, "Oh, well I had to suffer, so you should have to suffer too." People should be allowed to demand to be treated better, and for other people to be treated better. And they SHOULD demand it. Also, the guy Anna is talking about was not just a manipulator. He was a stalker. And that's definitely not normal, nor should it be portrayed as such.

Why one shouldn't hook up with whoever

Nobody goes on the internet to ask for a creepy stalker, GERALD

Let’s get one thing straight. Stalking is harassment. Is people watching, stalking? Is simply pursuing what you want out of life, stalking? The way she told this story, she was the one pursuing him for bedroom fun, not the other way around.

@@endershepard7117 Ok Shep...let's really get one thing straight. If a person saw you in public, researched online who you are and where you work, flew to a foreign country and got a job at your workplace just to get close to you, then hid all that from you until they felt it was safe to confess because they needed you to "fall in love with them first"...THEN moved to your home town after you called it quits...that is stalking. All Anna did was meet a guy at a job who was PRETENDING to be a sane, decent guy. See the difference?

Well, he gave false pretenses. And in a pretty clear and planned manner. I'd say that was manipulative and should count as tricking someone.

The trick was manipulating events to appear organic and natural. It's like when a closeup magician asks you to "pick a card, any card", in reality, they've already chosen your card for you. It's a matter of making you pick the card without realizing it.

Thank you! I was looking for this comment! I agree the title is misleading. More like she was tricked in getting close to someone and choosing on her own to sleep with him rather than her being tricked just so he could sleep with her. Still, what that guy did was wrong.

@@marcioa1811 I am curious. What _would_ count as tricking someone then? Aside from litereally switching out the person.

@@Alresu I can't say what Marcio means, but to actually "trick" someone to sleep with you would probably not be easy. The best I can think is if you're offered sex with Brad Pitt, but it turns out that it was a celebrity lookalike. Or if a man thought he was having sex with a woman, but it turned out to be a transgender.

Then don't have sex with that kind of men. Problem solved.

Except people like me who go to art galleries...!

I still can’t tell if he is a creep… or he is but until we get to some details of the story. Not for actively acting to make a relationship happen, that’s is just living and not letting only chance handle all your life.

Creepy or not is in the eye of the beholder, and she was creeped out. It’s a form of obsession and it’s unhealthy and he indeed needs help.

Women often do the same thing with guys, it's not gender specific.

Right. And Anna needs protection.

I get what you're saying but I think that's because it is typically seen as on the man to make the first move. Sure women can but the ratio of will/won't/need is ver disproportionate

…that was his only mistake?

Also, falling in love. Dude had a success story but ruined it by falling in love. Newb.

Okay but hear me out... What did he actually do other than decide he really liked her and that she would like him then turn out to be right?

Yes, it is a horrible tragedy that she slept with a guy that was really into her.

@@funnyfuckerfranco basically tracked her down based off her online persona...

@@funnyfuckerfranco he could have opened with 'hi, im a big fan, and i only took this job because i was hoping to get to know you' like, yeah, thats a problem.

@@funnyfuckerfranco he pushed himself into her professional life and built a relationship with her predicated on a lie, she says it very clearly

Recover from what? He didn’t have involuntary sex with her. This dude went after what he wants like he’s Bruce Wayne/Batman or something and honestly. It’s damn impressive!

It blows my mind that people that come to terms with stuff like have to decide to keep the behavior up until bad outcomes happen or get professional help. It's in their hand to act on it, baffling to think that's someone's experience. I've seen troubled people with personality disorders that do interviews for awareness and they aren't prisoners or anything, just formaly diagnosed and sharing information. Being in their shoes sounds scary to me because I'm nervous to admit my fear, or my weaknesses, or my limitations. I can't imagine an arsonist, or pedophile, or cleptomaniac signing up for an appointment and asking someone for help. *Bizarre!*

You’re totally right - he actually even knows it’s creepy and just keeps going

A literal stalker

No. He put himself in a position to meet her. He didn’t attack her, she voluntarily slept with him. She wasn’t tricked. She’s trying to blame him for her desperate attempt to avoid real life.

@@drp1bb856 She WAS tricked though. He made it seem like a chance encounter, but it wasn't. He tracked her down beforehand. Had he opened with "hi, I'm a big fan, I'm actually working for free here in hopes of meeting you" she would not have slept with him. Plus, disregarding that she didn't want anything serious and admitting to only dating asian women are two more red flegs on top. You do not start relationships by stalking and then forcing yourself into someone's work life.

@@drp1bb856 wat? u serious?

@@omolisa3783 ignore this guy. He clearly sees himself in this situation and has been trolling the comment section. It's almost like he's obsessed with Anna himself.

I didn't get it either. She wanted sex and that's what she got. But then she got more than she bargained for. If she had known he wasn't a casual and safe choice she wouldn't have slept with him in the first place. Thus she was tricked. I guess? I still think "Guy tried to trick me into a relationship" would've been a more accurate title. And more entertaining.

Seems the classmate is more in the wrong. At least a heads up with some backstory on the guy would have been nice.

Who approached the man

Almost seems too good to be true

No this is reality, the problem is you women watch these dumb brainwashing shows, that imply if anyone likes you they are stalkers and psychotic.

Dude she slept with him