What kills attraction for men. Women who stress test men instead of having a conversation.

I know I'm not the first guy to say this but, I'm so tired of women believing that they dont need to bring anything to the table!!

Women: Men don't show any emotions, only anger. Also women: Ignores all emotions shown by a man until he gets angry.

Men who want a serious relationship don't want to play mind games.

Funny to see how quick a man's "insecurity" can kill the woman's "attraction", while on the other hand how women constantly demand from men to always find the proper answer to their own insecurities.

Better let women pursue you and you pursue your dreams. My 2 cents.

Being in love with a girl makes you do some stupid needy things, it makes you want to spent all the time with her and care too much for her, which in turn pushes her away from you. Bottom line, you could never be with someone you love because you would care too much and that would push her away... Great.

I love that a woman can be insecure as shit and show it with every breath, but a man can't even hint he has one or two insecurities.

People who are mature and confident don't have time for all this nonsense.

Just when you finally feel a connection with this one special woman and think things are going somewhere, the woman stabs you in the back and pulls away. But it's not her insecurities. Oh, no! It's yours...

Also - SHE is the one that killed attraction by waiting 2 days to text after that.

I would go as far to say, anything negative can kill attraction. Stay positive my brothers. Your outcome will always be better. Relationships, business, health, all things!

Hi Guys! I'm so sorry about the one curse word in this video. I know some of you don't like curse words but I don't script my videos and I get so passionate about these things that sometimes I get in the zone. I try not to ever curse but in this one I did. HAHA xoxo

I think this woman did the guy a favour actually. Imagine he show her his needs her later on, then she will be gone with the wind. She will be better off with a guy without any feelings, insecurities, or "neediness" at all, a psychopath fits that description perfectly.

if modern women were not so entitled and valued men more, things would be easier. Stop blaming men for everything.

To be fair to the guy, no one is that busy to take 10 seconds out of your day to text someone you care about.

everybody has insecurities. thats part of being human.

Because traditionally men do all the heavy lifting in dating, heavy lifting is definitely an understatement

Why is a women's time more valuable then a man's?

When the mind games begin, it's time to move on. No time for riddles or puzzles.

Having made some of these same mistakes myself, I've come to the conclusion that text messaging is the WORST form of communication ever invented. So much can be misconstrued. There's no facial expressions, no body language, no intonation. Keep text messages brief and to the point. They should only be used to arrange the next in-person meeting.

First of all, if a woman told me she "wasn't sure she wanted a relationship". That's it for me. After two or three dates and she says this... she obviously isn't into me! My response would have been, "Okay, when you figure it out, get back to me." Then I walk. I will never be desperate enough to beg for a relationship. A forced relationship is a disaster from the word go!

She'll pass on him and end up choosing the wrong guy anyways 🤣🤣

1. Be your authentic self to emanate authentic energy. 2. Be present and not in the future (anxious) or past (depressed), focused on HER. Breathe properly or discern body sensations. You become self expressive when present. 3. Be curious about the female and actually enjoy interacting. Have the urge to learn about her. 4. Be unorthodox with your methods. Women notice different men. Tease instead of praise. 5. Realize that women reactive emotional creatures, ask emotional based questions. 6. Do not worry about the things to say but rather focus on how to say things. Be descriptive with voice tonality. Never raise your voice towards he ends of your sentence. 7. Reality is a reflection of your perception. 8. Women can subconsciously detect an insecure, low self esteem soy boy through the vibe and nonverbal cues that us men are unconscious. 9. A conversation is an exchange of emotions and energy/vibe. So be positive, cool, calm and collected. If you're anxious she will get anxious. Energy is contagious. 10. Hold onto your reality, do not let criticism or ridicule taint your state of mind. 12. Realize that the brain has a negativity bias, we naturally are inclined towards the negative. 13. Take nonverbal communication (facial expressions, facial gestures, body language) into consideration when communicating; psychology affects physiology. 11. Read the art of seduction by Robert Greene. 12. Convert your self critic into self compassion (love yourself); instead of berating yourself treat yourself with encouragement, kindness or warmth. Become your best friend. 13. If you know yourself and your target there is no uncertainty thus fear. The brain cannot deal with uncertainty. 14. Speak slower, nod slower and take pauses before speaking. 15. Women don't remember what was said but rather how they felt. 16. Pat yourself on the back because you are part of the small percentage of confident men partaking in game. 17. Get in a playful state because remember females are like any other human they want to have fun. 18. Remember that you are like a movie add suspense, love, comedy, action and adventure. Take things slow, be deliberate and spontaneous. Do not spoil the movie. 19. Mirror her body language and tone to build instant rapport. Build trust through non judgment and by making her feel comfortable. 20. Make warm confident eye contact, the eyes are the window to the soul. 21. Never treat women as a superior but as an equal or subordinate. Women are just normal people with vaginas who can plague you with potential child support, nothing more. 22. Expect her to like you. 23. Make her love herself via compliments or hints; women are all insecure about their appearance. Giving her reassurance builds attraction. 24. Do not focus on the outcome, but the process. Eliminate expectations. 25. Dress to impress women make predetermined notions about you and who you are via appearance. Manipulate your image. 26. Possess power (status, wealth, expertise, strength), warmth (compassion, empathy) and presence (being in the moment). 27. Screen, screen, screen. Not all women are the same. Figure her type out and cater to her desires. 28. Women fall in love with you when they are thinking about you not when you are with them so make an impression. 29. Make her feel as if she is lucky you even approached her. 30. Do not take yourself so serious. Dissolve the ego (negative software). Enjoy my brethren, been in the game since 5th grade. Lost it in the womb ;)

He needs a few Women in the rotation and he won’t Even care if she does want to talk to him anymore

Stay single. Stay sane.

Are these women so perfect that a single mistake is unforgivable ?

If you do not hear from a woman in a couple of days, that´s her giving in to some more flirts she has on her job/school, gym, parkinglot, the food market, her hood, car reapair shop, dancehall, gasstation etc. Yes, you´re not the only one. You will never bee.

The problem with this is that he was right. There was a reason why he was insecure. She was just playing with him and if he keeps going along with it, she will take you for granted and jump on the next guy who is nonchalant towards her.

Getting to know yourself would always be my message for everyone. Who are you, what do you like, and just finding yourself. All before getting in a relationship. We are all only human. Insecurities is pretty tough but once one realizes, it takes continuous work. Thank you for the video.

That woman caused that Drama ‼️

No man wants to do all the work in a relationship either. Thats a common problem I see. Relationships develop and then the guy is left doin all the work to make it happen. Its takes 2 to tango. From personal exp in relationships I done the work and the woman didnt do anything, then flip the tables on the women, they get pissed off and throw accusations at the man. Its a dog eat dog world, the women dont give an effort dont the expect the man to keep giving an effort. You only get out of a relationship what you put into it.

Sometimes woman creates insecurity.

I love the fact this lady is feeling absolutely feeling the guy's painful texts.

I thought women wanted to connect with the real you, insecurities, vulnerabilities and all.

Moral of the story, no need to be pushy toward a woman that has already shown in interest to you! It makes you look weak and needy. The guy in the story needed to show that he has his own life and not just putting the woman a pedestal.

I've seen this with a lot of guys and it's something I've never understood, but at the same time it's something I could have been guilty of but haven't, but not on purpose lol. I've been the type to kinda develop feeling quickly towards women, but when the situation gets to what the email describes I do the opposite. The whole "should I see you" thing I just don't get. In my mind I would have been like "ok, she is ignoring me, guess I'll ignore her too", wouldn't have sent another email, and would mentally be preparing myself that if she doesn't respond at some point then it's time to move on.

Men, if she doesn’t text back after 2 days, she’s not interested.

When i read or listen to the requirements needed to make a woman to get a even relationship, i feel like giving up. Almost like if you make any mistake, you will fall off something with your head. Mistakes are made, no one is perfect. We have rain and sunny seasons.

The problem is incompatible personalities. Men become insecure when they start developing strong feelings for a female. Women want men who aren’t insecure yet show a great deal of desire for the female. One of the reasons why relationships don’t last is because this idea conflicts with human biology. It’s human nature to protect things in which we find great value. It is only when we find something that’s worth keeping do we fear it’s loss. While I’m aware that some people have a tendency to become neurotic or possessive in the unhealthy sense, men need to know how much effort and investment should be allocated for these efforts. This is why it’s important to have somewhat of a similar outlook in this aspect of dating. If one person is looking for something serious and the other with contrasting goals, it’s not optimal. While the following comment isn’t really directed just at women, based on the video content I’ll address it as such. Women must understand that men who aren’t insecure is that way for a reason, they either don’t care due to conflicting goals, confident in their ability to move on, or more rarely confident while committed. The last one isn’t as common as women prefer to believe. The less a person needs you, the easier it is for them to move on when the level of difficultly is higher than their threshold of tolerance and every relationship has such obstacles. Insecurity is a weakness yet it plays a distinct role in protecting the relationship during tumultuous times. While it’s true that the guy in the video example may have been overbearing too early. While it’s important to make some minor adjustments to your behavior, one shouldn’t drastically change who they are, because you just end up playing games resulting in bitter feelings in the end. While this relationship didn’t work out, it may be good that it didn’t and they’re better off finding more compatible personalities. In relationships, if you have to try that hard especially in the beginning, it may not be worth it. A person is better off investing their efforts elsewhere where that mindset is appreciated.

Dont talk to much she will love you

why is it always the guy that has to do everything right ? women want validation they want to be equal yet often they act like they are the ALPHA and you have to earn them ? its all about them, what they want, how they feel, what they dont like blah blah , and you do the slightest thing wrong and they can call end of game in an instant. this wasnt the case centuries ago the shoe was on the other foot. women wanted and tried to win over men but now a man is sooo putting himself out just to please and impress a woman its quite sickening when we think about it" why should these women have so much dam power ?

Dude was definitely insecure. But a woman with high interest shouldn’t wait two days to reach out

My god men are expected to be some mind reader with these womens games its best just not to enter the game.

This is the misinterpretation of the century. The guy obviously has some set of values and it ain't got anything to do with insecureities. A girl taking more than 24 hours to reply to a message is having different priorities and no real interest in a guy. Also, a lack of respect. Just ignore her if this is reoccurring behavior and move on.

There are so many women that won’t give you a hard time and make you jump through hoops so just keep a look out for the good ones that will keep things simple and communicate things clearly,they are out there

You are unbelievable amazing at helping men find and actively work on their insecurities.... I haven’t heard you say anything that wasn’t relatable... I have been watching all your vids and they have been extremely helpful with understanding my own past mistakes and how I can correct my attitude.. your beautiful and I love you apollonia!!!

Sounds like she was playing head games with him. Yes he was needy in his response but it wasn’t without reason. Both messed up.

Hello Appollonia;-) Happy Friday! Great video. If she doesn't text you after your last text. Try to reach out to another lady that you are also interested in. Show your confidence men. You're the prize/man.

This is a solid breakdown Appollonia. When men get their game together they'll stop blaming women for their failures.

So... I've been really into a girl but I'm a very introverted man and haven't done any serious dating in about 4 years. You have helped me so much! Many thanks! Now looking forward to my date in 2 days with confidence

Appreciate your realness & the tools you share ... Insecurity does kill attraction bcuz the female can sense a lack of "confidence" in that man & that sets off bad ⏰ alarms & red flags .. No woman wants a man that's not sure of himself & doesn't know what he wants .. A man can kill his mysterious part about himself by having insecurities ... A man's 1st impression is a lasting impression ......

You're right girl..... this guy is doing it wrong! First off, first date.... take her somewhere different, forget food and traditional . At this point the guy is calling the shots never her, connect with her emotionally. Just when things are clicking .... end the date!!!! 2 days to return a text has not interested and game player all over it. I don't care how much you like them if it takes her 2 days to return a text then trust me you're wasting your time. Go get you one that has been taught respect because that one will never work out for you!

Let me get this straight. They were in the beginning of a relationship and had recently slept for the first time. Guy contacted her and offered to go for a drink. She dint replay for two days and then she accuses the guy for getting insecure? Or did i misunderstood this situation? If i did not, she was being very rude and unconsidered and should take a deep look inside of herself. NOBODY is that that busy that cant find the time to answer to the text. This is wicked.

whether you are just friends or in a relationship.......YOU CANNOT BE SOOO BIZY FOR TWO DAYS THAT YOU COULD NOT REACH OUT TO YOUR FRIEND. iTS A MATTER OF RESPECT. Send a short note saying that you are tied up with stuff but..." I have you in my thoughts". Its a simple thing. Words are cheap and free...use them. STOP THE "TESTS"..ITS JUST FReeKING MIND GAMES.

Blunt and to the point, just the way I like it. Thanks for another great episode. I do not nor have I ever been needy and insecure with my current relationship. We both have very busy careers and see each other about two-three times a month. In fact, we've cancelled just as many dates as we've been on because of conflicting work schedules and other family matters. Guys just need to realize, women have lives too, sometimes very busy.

she got attention from someone more interesting and wasn't so sure about the poor love filled guy..

I love you mum, I almost cried realising my one mistakes that I have done so many times over after listening to you!

this is true. When I like a girl, I fall hard. Once I'm emotionally invested my insecurities will surface and all it takes is a few triggers to make me lose myself. It's incredibily hard not to get jealous or speak out in insecurity. I honestly dont know how I can overcome it. Attachement theory says I should date someone who is secure in themselves. It's true...iv always been much more stable around girls who have high intelligence and dont play games and have high level of integrity.

5:51 Apollonia’s facial expression and reaction is priceless lool I love how genuine she is. Excellent work.

It's best to just be yourself no lessons needed in that.

This is a video that should be titled, Why Women Can't Find Love

She should not have broken contact with him for two days in the first place. No excuse. It takes 2 seconds to send someone a text. Yes , the guy might be insecure but turn this situation around, and the man would get flack.

There is nothing wrong about being insecure (not overbearing), its perfectly normal, there is nothing wrong about being "slightly" needy, we all have feelings that sometimes we cant control, everyone has been there, we are not machines, it just happens, and for something futile like this we break potentially good relationships. You cannot "train" to suppress your feelings or show them in a different way, its just plain wrong, and there is nothing wrong about putting a person u love on a pedestal as long you dont neglect ur life, health and other priorities. Of course wat im saying is nonsense because things do not work in this way sadly.

A woman always wanna do watever they feel like doing, And think men should suck up to b.s I chase money, dreams not headaches.that women brings

This is a pretty common scenario. Most men know pretty quickly if they want to pursue a relationship because it's mostly based on the women's looks. It takes longer for women to figure that out because it takes time to earn her respect and build emotional intimacy. So it's a catch-22. Most guys who give a woman enough time and space to let their feelings build do so because they're just not that interested. So women typically end up developing feelings for the guys who don't care about them as much instead of the ones that do care.

I don't typically listen to women to women when it comes to relationships with women, but you are good.

I think I learned to turn off any form of interest with a woman, especially in the beginning. The last woman I dated curved me just for showing mutual interest. I think by me just being mutually interested, it made me appear needy....because I responded to texts, gave compliments, wanted to be around them. I just realized that I CANNOT do that. It may just be how I am when I like a woman, but it completely repels them.

Dear Apolllonia. The girl waited 2 days to reply which is a clear indicator of non intererest. Obviously either 1) was not that interested 2) was playing mind games both are not a good sign for the man. So, I don’t understand why do you blame the man, when clearly she wasn’t into him in the first place ( or perhaps was just looking for a shag or emotional validation ). And then set up this “trap”, knowing he would have this reaction. If she had real interest, she would’ve wanted to meet him regardless of the texting. So yap, the guy did well in the long term. It’s not his or her fault that things didn’t worked out. Just move on

Fellas, you've got great advice here. Why are you all not listening? Just relax and ask a gal out and date. Don't act insecure or needy. Pursue your goals, work and dreams. She will do the same.

I agree because I've been here.Insecurity or taking things the wrong is indeed not gd. Learning 2 view things from a confident perspective can indeed change alot.Insecurity often brings a vague misunderstanding.Great video again on point.👌😊

Lol ... you talking like this woman is a prize and because she can't pickup the phone or call in three days he could have called her or her him... sounds like to me this female over valued herself... she did him a favor far as I can see..

From what I understand/gather, it's probably best that they both go there separate ways! She seems more trouble than what it's worth! Trust me, it will all work out in the end!! 4 the better, too!! ;-)

Good enough?! Everybody is good enough. The only thing that is wrong is the focus on how can it benefit “Me, Myself and I”.

I'm a guy and insecurity and low self esteem drives me nuts. You only live one short life why be so worried just be a good person and you'll find a good person.

I hate neediness and clinginess = Insecurities

So the guy is basically toast and there's no way to clean the slate.

I don't think you're being fair with your perspective.

I have an extremely good talent at killing attraction.

He's not insecure. He lost interest in her after they had sex. That's what "It's up to you" means. Her defensive response was to put him in the friend zone. Did you do post relationship interviews with these two to get the full story? Or have you drawn conclusions based on a few short texts?

Powerful video...it's so true,cause men response with their emotions. I've been in numerous situations like these because I didn't understand the fundamentals of wemen. I'm admitting this as a man. Sometimes you find yourself so,emtionally invested that you don't see the bigger picture. As a man,you should always see yourself as a catch regardless of what any woman may think. It's having the attitude of what do I have to loose,but a whole lot to gain. If is one thing I've learned these past few years, is that wemen are like sharks. They can smell blood. So,as a man you,you should never doubt yourself. Cause if you do,a woman can tell without even demonstrating it. Men fall in love quicker then wemen. We have to learn to see pass beauty and body parts,and keep our emotions in check. You gotta be the alpha despite the outcome of the situation. When you're acting like a little bitch,then basicly driving the car right off the road. Crash and burn. Just live in the moment and be you,and no one else. Show no fear and don't think to much about it. If you meet a girl and she's not into you,then oh fucking well!!!! It's her lost and keep it moving. That goes for both parties. As men,we sometimes thinks doing more is good,but doing less is great. Just stay centerd and don't come unglued. I guess when a women don't call you for a few days or a week,she's probably testing you and to see where your head is at. I learned this the hard way,as men,you have no claim to the pussy. A wemen is going to do what ever she wants!!!! So,let that sink in.

Your not entirely correct, speaking with more alpha males would help. This guy wasn't so much insecure, a man knows if a woman likes them or not by how much interest they show. He was actually testing her, just to make sure she wasn't interested, so he knows to move on, not the other way round. If she really liked the guy, she would not have left it 2 days without an interaction. Normally there will be another guy in this woman's life who she IS interested in and certainly wouldnt ignore him for 2 days. So the guy already knew she wasnt that into him. He was not insecure he was actually the opposite, because he later thought he will give her another chance to get to know him.

Ahaa, Now I see. So THAT is what "being a nice guy" actually means. It just means that you are not assertive and insecure. WELL LADIES. *Why didn't you just say so?* It's not like it would hurt my feelings. I am open for the possibility that I am wrong and want to be a better person.

Fair play she was busy with work, but a quick text message takes two minutes!! Life is about effort!! I wouldn’t leave a woman that I like hanging for two days! The guy didn’t help himself in the end though lol

Great video. Even when at some parts I don't really resonate with how you said it I find it very interesting. Very important to have self-love and self-respect. And don't be needy and reactive. You are always loved Apollonia!!🙏😊

She was sleeping around. Point blank period.

I've been wanting to date ,but after seeing this maybe I'll just get a cat instead.

Sorry but busy with work is excuse. A women has her phone with her 24/7 these days. You need to be talking at least few other women to keep you're options open. I agree he showed his insecurities but also the women wasn't that into him. The last chick i asked to meet up kept on making excuses on why she couldn't meet up. I might of come off as too keen but if a women making excuses that she i busy with work and every other excuse that means she isnt that keen and you're a back up guy. I say move onto other chicks. If she was into you she would meet up with you.

When men starts doing that with a woman, unconsciously he just don't like her or don't trust her.

You say a man's insecurities are a big turn off. That goes both ways. I remember being in a relationship with this girl for four years. She was so insecure it wasn't funny. I was at the point when I didn't want to be with her anymore. I got back together with her a couple months after we went our separate ways. After two more years, she broke up with me because that's what her mom wanted.

Yes she was working alright. She was working on another dude. In this day with all this technology, there was no reason for this woman not to get intouch. If a guys does this, he has to have another woman.

Had this happen to me unfortunately I got call from her husband...

I wish I had known this years earlier. The sooner you understand these rules, the better your life will be. This stuff should be taught at school

Awesome topic!! As a guy who has struggled badly with insecurity it was painful for me to hear this poor guy's situation. I've had to work hard on myself and my confidence over time and its still a work in progress but I will tell you guys that although its a tough pill to swallow, if you can learn to not act like this, women will be far more attracted to you. Confidence is everything. I also highly recommend Dan Bacon's KZfaq channel. He has a ton of excellent information.

1. Lack of desire 2. Getting accustomed 3.Time. all 3 kills attraction

Nah, there were definitely problems going into that 2-day break. She was already annoyed and he was too soft to address the issues directly. Odds are there's another guy she's more interested in and doesn't want to acknowledge it.

Very interesting video, I even seen the problem in it lol It actually made me think about myself. I'm not insecure or a jealous type guy but I believe my problem is more too laid back where it may come off as not interested or don't care........ I think 🤔 Thanks Apollonia...... always a awesome job from you.

This guy obviously hasnt read the book 10-15 times 😂

the most assertive man nurtures the woman, gives her ways and oppertunities to flirt herself. Some men are better at this than others, but you need to be observant

Your utubes are quite fascinating and your honesty is like a breath of fresh air👏thanks for creating this 💎 gem of wisdom👍😎