What if his words say no.. twice, and his actions say yes.. OFTEN.. he is still healing from the loss of his wife.. but it's like he is trying to step out but then maybe feels that attachment still.

Right! It is an art we have to learn and have to want to learn. Have you read the ART OF LOVING, by Erich Fromm ? Too, as a Christian isn't it our "job" to love in all situations? Our return does not necessarily come from where we place our love, but more so from the wonderful generation of Godly love within ourselves. Like a fruit tree that bears much fruit is a "happy tree." My Aunt who had a very successful school for pre-schooler's said, "the child who is the hardest to love needs your love the most". -john

true, you need love to give before you can give it. 1 John 4 is helpful

But they can learn if they want

Na they just dont want to. In that case you just move on

100% true

Let's hope the person knew you loved them. So many times no direct communication can be an awful way of expression. I hope you find the love u want.

@@xoxo-nw6tb Thank you very much.

Loge doesn't exist. Ur better off just staying single. Women aren't worth u wasting ur life on. Live ur life for you.

The crazy thing, is that I have this on a shirt I LOVE but haven’t been wearing lately because I finally noticed the rips😢

@@user-cy5kd6km9f no lie detected.

Girl omgosh this!!!

My advice is : don't fall in love with anyone yet. If you already like someone, start to see this person with the rational glasses on, otherwise you'll get into the delusional side already. You'll be to able to decide to fall in love with your husband at the time you'll get married. At this point you'll be safe to give a piece of your heart to someone trustful. It's all a matter of decision. Be wise. May God help you and give peace to your heart 😊

@@darmend94 thank you! I’ll take it to heart

Wow! I'm so glad this was timely, God is good!

Praise the Lord

This is absolutely my experience as well. Its like he took the thoughts from my heart, analysed them and spoke Gods heart about them. Thank you so much Mark, God bless you

Dude. God has been using this man for a whole week in guiding me in some super important life decisions. Such a blessing

I also hope you have a good local church to help support you.

May God bless you, I hope in time, your life improves a lot sooner than you think. Hug

Amen 🙏

Sister, please stay strong in faith. I'm a fellow single mum (not my doing) with two boys, one on the spectrum and I had to give up my work to home Ed. God blessed me with a business and clients that allow me to WFH...he will provide. I learnt to trust him more and more and he does come through. We don't live a grand lifestyle but we have food on the table, a roof over our head and just enough. God's looking out for us and love in our household. I'll be praying for you. Stay in the word and pray for some good believing friends for support. God will provide them. Well done for not giving in on the poison. REV 18 talks about all nations being deceived by sorcery aka pharmekia. Stand strong sister, our rewards are in Heaven. Maranatha 🙏

Pls. Stay encouraged in CHRIST JESUS, I struggle with situations, however the struggle is different when you're focused on CHRIST JESUS🙏🙏, stay on your knees...

God bless as you seek the Lord's leading!

I am going through the same thing! if you can find ask the Holy Spirit to help you find a christian community or to make friends at church. I have that now and it makes all those hard and weak times so much better, its tough being in the battle sometimes. I pray you keep holding onto God and endure until the end, bless you xxxxx

You are not alone. Many of God's children are experiencing this. I agree to ask God to bless you with a community of believers. Also, to show you His love. It lightens the burden of persecution from the world and creates perseverance in Christ. ❤

Evaluate if your family is good for you often: if they are frequently toxic, better to love them from afar. God wants you to be edified, not mocked. Try to surround yourself with other God-loving people. I hope God helps you with this and changes the hearts of your family members. Bless you!!

same

Never too late! Have Hope.

Please don't give up. Abraham's wife Sarah got pregnant at 99. Joseph became the head of Potifers House after being sold into slavery and locked up. Saul became the mighty apostle Paul.. It's never too late. Trust me..its never too late🙏🏼

Jesus took him away and its okay.

@@michelleward1173 that didn't last long

I'm so glad it was useful! God is good!

Same here. I may not know what will happen down the road but what i know is that i had to give my heart back to God fully again... 😢

Very well said 🙌💓

I know how you feel. Going through the same thing right now. It's so hard, especially when you truly care for them and they reject you believing in God yet they still keep some sort of communication with you. I hope things workout for you one day.🙏

God bless Matthew!

Hey Matthew, I agree with your message! Very well said. I had to learn how to communicate better since coming to know God.

God bless!

Wow! All glory to God!

So glad it was helpful!

God is good!

I'm so glad it was useful! All glory to God!

I can’t believe I will be one of the women who just invested love and respect over a man who would end up taking my heart from granted.😢

@@justbargelleGod will bring someone right. More than anything, you’ll lean on God more, this time, and from now.

Stay in the word. God will lead you!

I was in the same boat but I only had it last for few months cuz a girl has needs ( communication, quality time) and he wasn’t meeting it. I broke it off and cry a little but moved on. I need someone but I’m guarding my heart until he man up 😂

@@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger Amen. I WILL... please keep praying for me. Thank you so much Pastor Mark. 🙏🏻

Can you explain how to spot a seasonal relationship

@@solomonkabutey3356 I think that might be one of those things you realize in hindsight. As of right now, I can see that with the current season I am in, which I work part time, go to school full-time, and go on missions intermittently, but am currently working up to go on missions full time. Some of my friends graduated and went back to their respective home states or elsewhere for post graduate school. Some of the friends I've made from previous jobs, I have not had contact with in months, sometimes years. Some of the romantic prospects I've had previously, have also moved on whether they changed jobs, went to different countries, and so on. Many have taught me very valuable lessons, whether they realize it or not. I know God has used them all for various purposes in growth, or placement or for setting the stage for another season of my life. I know for myself personally, I'm reminded of "the bigger picture" in God's plan for my life, and keeping my expectations loose, which is not foreign to me. My time served in the military paved the way for understanding seasonal relationships too. Some of the men and women I've served with, are some of the best relationships I've had in my life, but they move on too. Some of them went to be with The Lord and that's just the way it is sometimes. Sorry, that was much longer than I intended 😅 Does that all make sense? I hope that helps! 😇

@@GrimSoldat Great context

@@solomonkabutey3356 I think, also, if we keep in mind where we are,, whether it's work, or the gym, what season we are in with different parts of our life, like people from ministry, people from work or social gatherings, we can have an idea of whether this person is present in our life for a season, or not. What is the purpose of me being here in a specific place? Is it strictly for work? The overall will of God is to glorify Him and represent His image everywhere we go and in all that we do. Am I representing God well or poorly? Like some relationships are limited to certain places for certain times. Like this one girl I was getting to know, I basically did not exist to her outside of the place she worked, even though we had some very personal conversations, so I had to come to terms with the fact we were only in each others' lives for a period of time, and that I did not mean more to her than a friendly client. You see?

@@GrimSoldat I get it. Thank you camp.

God bless Tracy!

I think the details matter a lot so you might need to talk that out with someone in your life. For example, there is a time for correction and then a time to cast someone out like it talks about in 1 Corinthians 5 until they repent. If someone is not repenting you have to keep moving in your life. So it all depends. But here's a video about boundaries: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/nNWJi8p806qvo6M.html

God bless!

Yup .some people unfortunately don't find love

yes, but biblically there are different types of relationship rules. As a Christian, your love for people is different than your love for a person you want to make your spouse. So it's not biblically accurate to confuse the types of love and put rules on relationships that don't apply to that type of relationship. Romance is meant to be mutual unlike the charity type of love that can be one sided. A ministry is different than a mutual relationship. For example, to love your enemy is clearly different than to love your spouse . . . both are love but a different type. For more on this you can read C.S. Lewis' book called The Four Loves