Envy isn't just want or desire, it is destroying what the other has. 🎯

Yes! I'm not even really religious but my grandma who was very pious gave me a copy of Corinthians 1 13 for my 21st birthday. It describes what love is and what it isn't. Many years later, I realised it's a way out of the maze for those of us who have narcissistic parents. It took me a long time to understand the message that I think grandma was trying to send me: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."

What the narcissist really wants is more of what they have and when they get more, they still want more. They’re never satisfied.

Gluttony and greed sounds like narcissism to me!

To whoever is reading this keep going, you're doing fine! No matter how slow your progress, each new week is filled with tiny steps forward. Be proud of yourself you got this! Wishing you the greatest 2024! ❤

Once I started looking into narcissism, I came to realize that the signs of narcissism are symptoms of not only rejecting God but embracing oneself as their own god. Narcissism is the spiritual consequence of literally making yourself a god.

As a practicing Roman Catholic, all I have to say Dr. Ramani is VERY, VERY WELL DONE! Happy New Year! 🎊🎆 🎉

Despite being raised in the Roman Catholic church, my narcissistic parent manages to find workarounds, giving himself permission to engage in all of these behaviors while calling others out as horrible people for the same. This is such an interesting connection! Spot on Dr. Ramani!

From a Catholic viewpoint, lust isn't merely about uncontrolled sexual desire. It is about using another person to serve your own desires.

Exactly. The 7 deadly sins Literally Describe Narcissism. I went to Catholic School for Many Years, Including Highschool. Everything you describe is what they taught us to avoid all our lives.

I saw my raging narcissistic father at his deathbed in hospice. I was 46, enduring all those years of narcissistic abuse. What surprised me the most is that he knew that I knew and would hardly look at me. He died with that.

It all clicks so well. Narcissistic behaviour is evil and it has got its roots in malevolence and evil that has always been out there. Thank you dr Ramani ❤

My narcissistic father and brother always had an empty glass that could never be filled; status, prestige, image, affairs and on and on and on.

You gave a very accurate description of my ex-wife (and her mother and sibling). I divorced her after 3 children and 26 years of absolute insanity and abuse. My live is so peaceful now, and I am way smarter now that I know what narcissism is. Thank you, Doctor Ramani.

I’m flabbergasted! My husband is a vulnerable, covert, narcissist. I had no idea that his addiction to pornography, slothfulness and gluttony were all part of his narcissism! I’m still processing…

As a practicing Catholic, you seem to have mostly nailed it. !!!!Of course, I have witnessed many nrc folks within the church, those who identify themselves as Christians ,at every single level in the Church. It is a hospital for souls. I am a work in progress . The saying I remind myself of…”.don’t throw the baby out with the bath water”. I don’t let it lead me to discouragement .( although it can be an ongoing struggle to forgive and try not to judge

Greed is like a dog that is always sniffing out an opportunity to take things or take advantage of. Gluttony is when a person already has an abundance over their needs and still can't be satisfied. Lust is that drive that won't let a person sit still till they get what they want.

Happy new year to everyone! Let this new year be better than the previous one, less toxic, with less narcissism in our lives and with more hope and positive things even if they are small🎉

Absolutely genius re-framing of the 7 Toxic Human Behaviors, Dr. Ramani! (And I think most theologians would heartily agree with your conclusions.) You could wrote an entire book on just this!

How beautifully you have explained the associated between the 7 sins with narcissism! Nowadays we often hear about self-love that I mostly find is borderline narcissism. How does one understand the difference between Narcissism and Self-love? Could you please make a video educating people about this?

The Catechism of the Catholic Church contains a description of the kind of people who are likely to end up in hell - through their own choices: it’s those who always want to have their own will over God’s will. I find that this description could equally apply to narcissists. Narcissists make themselves miserable through their selfish choices, but they also appear to want to spread their negative attitude to other people, like, I envy you, therefore you must envy me; I am unhappy, therefore you must be unhappy too… Suddenly, you realise that Hell is indeed a very real thing.

Yup! Thanks to your channel I was able to discover that my great grandmother (born in 19 th century) was a narcissist and that is why she caused so much mess and destruction in the family in generations to come, a mystery my family has been trying to resolve for generations, they couldn’t figure out her behavior, all the theories they had and confusion around was she good or bad after all? And I thought to myself, since when has narcissism been around?

This is an excellent analogy of those decepticons! I usually quote the scripture: “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy… Thank you for adding to my repertoire of scriptures to describe the spawns of Satan.

Oh yes! Thank you! This was a great deeper dive. Having grown up in churches that learn heavily on twisted interpretations of these standards, this is really clearly laid out and makes so so much sense. If this is what we were taught, more of us would have at least fended off or not been drawn into quite as many narcissistic relationships. Thank you, Dr Ramani. I hope you're enjoying your birthday week! 🎉

Dr Ramani, you might find this interesting... the list actually is from Galations 5: 16 - 21 NKJV in the New Testament .... So it's even earlier than the 5th century, and was then reworked to make the "7 deadly sins". Thanks for this great video 💐

As far as "feasting" is concerned: My mother always taught: "If One Person has More, you should be Obligated to Help those who have less." and she meant that in terms of either food or help. My mother was always helping her children, and always asked my siblings to help each other. That's What Mother's Do.

Jesus had the same problems with people, blinded by narcissists, as we do: Matthew 13:15 15 For this people’s heart has become calloused; they hardly hear with their ears, and they have closed their eyes. Otherwise they might see with their eyes, hear with their ears, understand with their hearts and turn, and I would heal them.

She hits the nail right on the head here! I think the same kind of exercise could be done with the 10 Commandments.

Yes! I went through hell with narcissists. After reading the Bible; I saw that is how narcissists are. Its an accurate description.

Good morning. It truly describes them. Isn’t it amazing that the Bible tells us? Warns us? You know what else it tells us? There was giants in those days and there after. My personal opinion is narcissism is the clinical term and Nephilim is the biblical term. History repeats itself. The Truth is coming and Nothing can stop it. All Glory to God Almighty and His Son Jesus Christ for His Mercy!! Peace and Love be with you.

Awesome insight Dr. Ramini. My ex-narcs have all of these traits. It is good to finally see the light and know that I had the power to leave these people and change myself. I am still empathic, which is a gift from God, but I'm learning how to balance my empathy with discernment. Thank you Dr. Ramini💕

Dr. Ramani, thank you so much for teaching me something new about narcissism. Narcissism is something that I try to apply to other educational concepts. Wishing everyone here in this community a wonderful new year. 🤔❤🇺🇸

For the sin of gluttony, I discovered it not only include food but also information. They want to know everything and be the first to know. They are big gossips

In my opinion 2 Timothy 3 also describes narcissism: "This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, high-minded"

I personally was treated like a witch and burnt at the stake by my family. It was all lies. 😢😢😢😢

This is how i alwaya think of my my boss. She fits the bill for all. Its actually sad when you think about it. Her life will never be peaceful and happy it will always be vengeful and she will want to destroy those she envys. She think she has so much but she has nothing besides hate and revenge.

Thank You for this video. I have read the Bible and knew that narcissism was present back then. It’s just more accepted in culture now than it was then. ❤ Happy New Year Dr Ramani! 🎉

OMG! This is so spot on! Especially the gluttony, as far as my narcissist displayed: I remember one time we were at a restaurant, and he ordered a 24 ounce steak! All the fixings, baked potato all this food. And I ordered a little salmon fillet with broccoli. I asked him for a bite of the steak to taste it, and he blew up and told me that I was the one who needed to learn how to share! That made no sense to me, especially as I watched him, eat everything, Insight… He ate the whole damn thing! Along with part of my food, and dessert… I was so disgusted. He ate himself into type two diabetes, neuropathy, insulin dependence, etc. He’s literally going to eat himself to death and I’m glad I won’t be there to see it!

This might be my favorite Dr. Ramani video yet! This is so fascinating, and YES! to ALL of it! In fact, I once saw an ad for some wine glasses illustrating each of the 7 Deadly Sins, and I remember thinking that the Narc in my life fit all of them! I love the connections being made to 5th Century life, and I love even more that we have better understanding of these behaviors (thanks to people like Dr. Ramani) and we can now put into words what we are seeing, feeling, and experiencing as a result of these behaviors.

So insightful!! Thank you so much!! Dr. Ramini, you have helped me so much there are not words to express my gratitude! Your content has truly helped in understanding and not falling into a deep pit of despair!! Thanking my God for you!!🙌🏼😇💕

I thought of Proverbs 6:16-19 It describes narcs to a tee. Proverbs 6:16-19 KJVS These six things doth the Lord hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: [17] A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood, [18] An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief, [19] A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.

Happy New Year! I'm on 1 year of no contact with my mother. It was a struggle but the best decision i could have made. Your videos (and book) helped me immensely!

We got a word for that is danish too: Skadefro. It's a word made by the meaning/words "damage/hurt/bad luck" and "happy", meaning being happy of the misfortune of others 😳

This is perfect just perfect especially on January 1. Start the year off smart ! Thank you !

Yup, they have all these 7 sins. You’re right, not until recently we start to find clues about people who possess those traits are narcissism. And it exists since human evolution. I’m glad we start educating people about narcissism so that we can learn from it and heal ourselves from it, too! Happy new year Dr. Ramani! New year I wish you all the best. ❤

... i've been wondering about Romans 16:11 real hard for the past month. Thank You for this video, i LOVE this intersection 😊 💙❣️

You are a life saver, Dr. Ramani❣ love from India❤

Thank you so much for covering this topic! - I hope I am not taking away too much in advance, as I may have in a comment on a previous video regarding this. You already mentioned the key point about the Virtues at the end. If Narcissists are 100% Sins and 0% Virtues, they condition their targets to be the other way around. That explains a lot of our problems when we come out of narcissistic abuse. What is 100 points in Humility but 0 in Pride? You will never stand up for yourself, never be proud to make anything, maybe even avoid making anything and avoiding any spotlight to begin with. I certainly have issues in that direction and struggled with what I call a "creation-block" since childhood and still not managed to erode it or break through it. Even when it happens once in a blue moon, that breach closes up quicker than one can blink. If only the scars would heal as fast as that block reinforces itself. My suggestion to everyone: 1) Make a list of the 7 Sins and the 7 Virtues. I'll help out with that one to get you started, and do copy them onto paper. It helps your thoughts to jump into work: Lust - Chastity Gluttony - Temperance Greed - Charity Sloth - Diligence Wrath - Patience Envy - Kindness Pride - Humility 2) Now think, and write down your thoughts of what it means, per pair, if you have 100% of one but 0% of the other, and vice versa. Only Chastity and no Lust? No Wrath but only Patience? You will give infinite chances to the same person exploiting and hurting you over and over again, hoping that next time it's different, and if you only show more patience and love... but nothing ever changes. - We also say that Anger is wild without reason and direction, it is venting of pressure, while Wrath is something focused, targeted. It can be what brings down a Despot if used wisely and just. Unjustly, it destroys an innocent. 3) Compare your thoughts and conclusions with what Dr Ramani offers in her teased upon future video on the virtues 4) I would like people to also consider a potential 8th Sin and Virtue: Cowardice & Courage. It Courage is not wanted by the Narcissist, for that might make the victims stand up. At best it is allowed in the successfully gaslit, brainwashed flying monkeys towards outsiders. That is more akin to fanaticism though. Most people who throw us under the bus when Narcissists are at their A-Game are friends who turn out to be Cowards. They just want to save their own hides, not be the next targets to be ostracized from the social circle that got hijacked. But was is someone Courageous without any Fear (Cowardice)? Nothing but a fool, for s/he would not realized the claws and fangs and fire of the dragon to be dangerous enough to worry about. My conclusion: A full, mature, wisened up human being eventually comes to the realization, or natural practice, that both sides are needed. Yin and Yang make a whole. It is up the wisened up to have figured out, to know, when which is appropriate and necessary. Then, there can be peace within, as it can rest on a strong foundation.

Fascinating!!!❤

Thank you Dr.Ramini, i look forward to the Seven Virtues video. Thank you so much. ❤❤❤

Brilliant analysis

Really glad this was brought up and have often wondered about the causes of such behaviors or traits. Thank you for talking about this and Happy New Year!🎊

Thank you for being impartial in your research and giving us all points of view 🙏

I guess I never truly grasped the term “dis regulated ”. Maybe I thought of it as moodiness. But, this explains it better. I’ve DEFINITELY seen it, in narcissistic people and hope I have the introspectiveness to spot it in myself. But, it has always been a question for me. Sure, I’ve become a bit jealous of someone. Maybe I liked their hair or would rather have their job or car. But, it’s passing. Narcissists, however, take it to an unmitigated and permanent level. They don’t step back and think, “Yes, I’m jealous or envious of that person. But isn’t it a better option to make the most of what I have, than to punish someone else, for what they have?” Seems like it never occurs to them. Even if it does, they feel their plight is engraved in stone and the only thing they can affect, is to reach out and punish others for that. Only on a rare, lucky day, with a narcissist, who is lower on the spectrum, will you see them step back and consider that punishing someone else is not only wrong, but there situation will be the same tomorrow, even if the benefit is schadenfreude today.

Thank you for this explanation of the seven deadly sins. It makes much sense to me. He was all of these things.

As a believer in Christ who's had enough of churches, where submission is still viewed unequal between wo/men, it's nice to hear Dr Ramani preach. Bible does say the last will be first, perhaps meaning those who don't know will know.

❤ The best video you have ever made. I am a Christian . And I truly believe 🙏🏾 that as old as time. Jesus wanted us to walk in honoring the Bible the Truth humble and appreciating. What you have been given, it's not taken anything for granted to love thy neighbor Treat people with respect and honor be disciplined. And all you do do it with Love this is the most beautiful video thank you so much for sharing

Thanks for covering this from this angle.

Excellent video Dr. Ramani, as always. 2 Timothy 3 in the bible also describes narcissism and instructs us to stay away from these people. Thank you for your generosity of sharing your priceless knowledge to help us all.

Wow. I just adore you & the work you do. You're beautiful inside & out. Thank you for sharing your knowledge, care, & help with everything 🙏🏻❤️

Religious familiarity is powerful and I commend you for working with it instead of against it. I say that as an atheist who parasocially trauma bonded to atheist narcissists who wanted to attack religion rather than highlight the narcissists within using religion as a means of coercive control. It was a spectacular disaster which paved the way for Islamophobia. I'm still an atheist, I just don't have the crippling insecurity that manifested being in the presence of theists due to that toxic relationship anymore.

Happy and Godly New Year everyone, and dr. Ramani what a great color you wear !!🙏✨

Yes! This is the original sin: to want to be a god. Narcissism is based on pride …..

Happy New Year Dr. Ramani!!!!🎉🎊❤️🎊🎉

Oh my goodness! You are spot on, Dr. Ramani! I can see ALL of them in my narcissistic husband. EVERY single one. God help us all who are struggling with these people and trying to get out! Eternally grateful for your work, Dr. Ramani! God bless you! Look forward to your virtues video!

All of the above, absolutely ALL of these. This is mind-blowing

The Church didn't and still doesn't want to "punish the sin out of them." 😄 We "churchy folk" know that only God's grace can help us to overcome sin and vice. Identifying the 7 deadly sins helps churchy folks identify what offends God so they can avoid them.

Happy New Year, Dr. Ramani! 🎉

You prompted me to look up ‘avarice’ as I distinctly remember that being a Deadly Sin that I learned as a child in the Catholic Church. I’m so glad you’re going to do a video on the Sacred Virtues. So thought provoking. ❤

As I've progressed through my spiritual journey into Traditional Catholicism, I have begun working on rooting out those 7 deadly sins. A recent sermon from the priest at our chapel really convicted me...sloth has been leading me around aimlessly, not really keeping myself to a set schedule or rule of life (akin to priests and religious brothers and sisters, though not quite as strict). Now that the new year has started, and I have a new planner to start writing in, I can make it a habit to incorporate spiritual reading/mental prayer and a few other devotions into my day. Replacing the 7 deadly sins with the 7 virtues (humility, gratitude, generosity, temperance, chastity, meekness, and diligence) doesn't happen overnight, but every day is a new opportunity to begin the work again. Happy New Year, Dr. Ramani, and God bless! 🎉

Before watching the video, my first response is, "Yes, the 7 deadly sins describe narcissism pretty accurately". Looking forward to now watching the video and seeing/hearing your take on it, which I always enjoy immensely.

Happy Birthday & Happy New Year Dr Ramini 🎉🎉

People have moved away from religion but nothing about human nature has changed. The actions and reactions of some people are now often recognized under the newer identity of narcissism.

And I’m in the city of the 7 deadly sins (Las Vegas). Wish me luck because I’ve learned a lot about narcissism and this city in the last few years.

Happy New Year Dr. Ramani!!❤️🥰🙏

I'm so glad you did a video on this. I have offended thought about the 7 sins and Narcissism and wonder if there was a connection. Thank you, Dr. Ramani ❤

You are famtastic!!! Thank you so much for keep doing this. ❤

This video is so spot on! I hadn't seen narcissism from that point of view, though I did see wrath, pride and envy quite clearly in narcissistic individuals. Thank you very much Dr. Ramani and happy New Year.

Dr. Ramani - Happy New Year! May all of us including you continue to enjoy more time away from having to tip toe around any narcissists who are quick to take offense no matter what our intentions are when being ourselves is at the time.

Yes! I have have recognized the lack of empathy common in the seven sins so I can certainly see the connection to narcissism, now that you mention it. My own understanding of sloth has been lacking. You have piqued my curiosity. It its time to re-watch "Seven", in which the protagonist could certainly be described as a narcissist.

1. Pride 2. Greed 3. Lust 4. Envy 5. Gluttony 6. Sloth 7. Wrath

Happy New Year to you, Dr Ramani, your staff and your subscribers. Stay healthy. 🎉❤

Exactly! You cannot reason or negotiate successfully with such ppl. What I found most challenging/frightening was the unabated simmering rage which could explode at the slightest frustration. Happy to be free now.

Happy New Year and Happy belated Birthday!

Very clever. A lot of food for thought. Now do the 10 commandments which reads like a narcissist's prayer.

Hi Dr Ramani, I do remember the 7 deadly sins. Not just as a Catholic, but I know them from hearing them from people, plus, that Horrific movie, Seven, with Brad Pitt. My ex narc is guilty of all but ONE...Believe it or not, LUST was the least of his problems. Personally speaking, (we're ALL Adults) he had some problems in that department. When you "don't feel" anything for anyone, how can you perform with someone you're lying to? My Love life was horrible with him, but I let it go. I hope he got his act together for his other supplies.❤

In buddhism, jealousy is the opposite of rejoicing in other people's good fortune. Envy (i don't remember where i heard this) is when jealousy is intensified and you deliberatly act out in order to prevent the other person or people to enjoy what they are enjoying, or having.

Reading the Bible helped me lose my guilt in putting up serious boundaries. The seven deadly sins are spot on. Also Matthew 10:36, Leviticus 16:8-10, and I’m sure there are more.

Another amazing video! I'm so glad I found your channel! Thank you!!! ❤

How very insightful observation dear Dr. Ramani. I think you are absolutely right.

Happy new year doctor 🎉 Thank you for your videos it's helped me alot ❤

This take is so interesting! The meek shall inherit the earth!

Sloth and envy describe my CN ex so well. We were both in college and she would go on about how x classmate doesn't deserve to be doing better than her and she's only failing because all her professors hate her but she never studied, texted me when I knew she was in class, didn't do homework… she'd get mad at me when my grades were good. We were in different majors, thank God. Looking back, she did it with everything in her life. Driving? I got my license through luck, not because I drove and practiced every chance I got. She was mad when I would ask why her mom was driving instead of her when she'd get dropped off/picked up and she'd yell at me for asking. Art? She'd draw *maybe* once a month and be upset that it wasn't better than last month. She'd get mad that I was improving while sketching near daily and sewing on the days I didn't draw. (If you're an artist and struggling with fabrics/clothes, I can't recommend sewing enough btw, draping one dress helped more than all the fabric studies I've ever done) All the while she would complain about how the world was out to get her, why? She's significantly overweight, has IBS, and can't drive. Two of those are literally her fault. Meanwhile, my college experience was a near death medical emergency, then granddad (basically third parent) dying, then dad getting cancer and dying the next year, then getting a new chronic illness, all of that with level two autism that makes me unable to wear a mask. (Started college in 2020) I used to tell myself she was going through it too and that's why she didn't care about my struggles, then I realized she's lazy, jealous, and vindictive. There's a reason I'm still improving at the things I love and have my associates (which is all I need for my career) while she still doesn't have a license, a degree, or any kind of skill in art. Suck it Sarah. The best thing I did in 2023 was cutting you off. (She even took her laziness and jealousy as far as being mad that I was better at MINECRAFT than her!)

Very well done Dr Ramani!! Good Lord have mercy do i have a list to look out for..my grandfather was a minister & i remember him preaching about these exact things..I'm just going to work on myself for right now & get my mind straight.. Hope you have a prosperous & blessed New Year!! 🎉🎉🎉

I agree Dr Ramani ! So true! Bingo. I do think vanity would kinda go with pride maybe

Hi Doc!! I suggest you to read Rene Girad!! He explains all the mechanisms that take place in the process of Scapegoating, and on the other hand, this is connected with religions too!!

Happy New Year Dr Ramani and all beautiful people ❤

Thank you very much Dr Ramani.. You rock 💪

I've long thought of religious traditions in such terms as humanity identifying and codifying behaviors we considered anathemic to our survival

For the record- One of my beloved counselors listened to my explaining that The Narc was tough to handle and said, “ You want to drain the swamps but it is all you can do to keep the alligators from biting.”