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The headless horseman's room if he was battling depression.

One kid I knew had the pick of all women. Elite wrestler, cute smile, but only 5'6 and 130 Lbs. He'd literally have groups of girls chanting his name when he went on stage to dance. His biggest asset: The confidence that comes from being the best at something. Does any woman care about wrestling? No. But they care about someone being the best, regardless of the endeavour.

"How chocolate milk ruined my physique and my marriage"

8 minutes in and ive not heard the sage wisdom "if you can make em giggle, you can make them jiggle"

"Empathy without expectation is enabling." I want this on a shirt.

So….more curls?

Before title change

I actually did a research paper on this in college. My study group was females (who identify heterosexual, I had to include that!) aged 18-22 and that is an important factor because older females look for different things, physically. Essentially the breakdown was that the majority liked to look at large bodybuilder types, but they preferred leaner, more cut and athletic aesthetics. They tended to cite that bigger guys looked attractive, but they associated the look with unhealthy routines (steroid use) and potential threatening physical displays (abuse, meat head type behavior). That's what my very small sample showed. 🤷

I'm a 38 year old 5'7" construction worker who lives in a trailer and never made more than 50k a year with a 20 year old Pontiac with a cracked windshield. My gf is 6'0" 140lb, think gal Gadot, she makes 75 a year. Before that I was dating a big breasted Atomic Blonde who owned two businesses and is a published author. Before her my gf was a 5'9" Gianna Michael's look a like who ran the FedEx here in our city and I was some of her employees. Wish I knew what I was doing right but I'm not complaining.

"Shush, first marriage Bromley isn't real, it can't hurt you"

Frankly I don't give a damn. I train because I enjoy it. Because it helps me with my anxiety and autism.

anecdotally I can say that on average you command more respect from women when you have more muscles that are reasonably defined (15% bf or lower), which CAN give you some edge. It's on a spectrum, some women go wild for abs and arms but most are more like " I don't need it but it shows me he cares for himself and it looks nice", while some actively avoid your guts for being muscular, mostly for preconcieved ideas of your personality/ intellect (which might or might not be true).

The "most photogenic pig in the pen"...I'm dyin' here🤣🤣🤣

Nothing more disappointing than realizing the girls aren't just gonna come to u when u get big. U still need to get a personality and the gains only complement it🙃

going from 5’9 126lbs to 155lbs in 2 years definitely changed how boys and girls looked at and treated me (or maybe i’ve gained confidence idk). I am a teenage college student though so yeha maybe it pays off when you’re young.

Once in a starting strength discussion someone commented on a link to a discussion where women mentioned either what is the first thing they noticed or what they liked most about a man, the most popular response was forearms, but there were also quite a few mentions of the neck, the shoulders, the pectorals, the legs or the buttocks, against everything we believed, although they did mention other things such as the economic part education , facial features or the personality, muscles are very important probably more than we thought or what they are willing to accept

Great video. Thanks for the advice and motivation.

From my experience going from skinnyfat to trained has a bigger impact than from bulked to cut or anything within the realm of already trained. Once you're not a scrawny weakling or a fat mess it's kinda luck of the draw if the women you run into like your specific build.

This is like softcore Red Pill content.

I have gotten way more attention from women since i got in shape. To the point where I have had multiple women hit on me unprompted; and not in the bar or a social setting, at the gym while i was keeping to myself. Now i just need a personality.

Great video as always. So important for the younger ones coming thru.

Thank you dad for the advice

Awesome video! I'm going to watch it a few times.

Came here for the strength coaching. Staying here for the life coaching. much respect & thanks, Coach 🙌🏻🙏🏻

Yesterday I had leg day, my legs feel like spaghetti. Thank god, Bromley is on the net and I don't have to walk or crawl 😆

Such a powerful video, loved it

You can get away with a small as a swimmer's body, and of course the athletes body and the warriors body are far more attractive than the bodybuilder body yet realistically you just need to have the right mindset and presence. If you have the masculine build but not the masculine presence, you're only going to get so far. Looks open doors but without personality mental fortitude and even quality humor, you're going to get pushed out of all of those doors.

Loved this.

Insanely powerful stuff!

Bromley really is my favourite source of lifting information - and always so well explained and presented - love your work.

Surprisingly nuanced take from Bromley! Well Done!

I love the delivery of your videos.

Good advice, but easier said than done. Imagine that most people in the world don't have the mental capacity to be useful in any workplace in the future. This impacts men first because they need to be useful in some way to gain their status. New technologies leave 99% of people behind (or even more). So I would suggest that in the near future the dating market will become even worse when no big destructive event is resetting this trend.

I don't even know how we got to the point where we're questioning whether women like muscle. We let nerds take us too far As Derek said "Women can't tell the difference between 6 inches or 8 inches" so you don't need to be dick-skin lean, just look good and their minds will fill in the rest

Look, guys. You don't have to become a social alpha or guru amongst your peer group. Just because you don't have a degree (bachelor's, master's, doctorate), does not & should not disqualify you from a woman. Yes, women are the most "educated" today...But more men are getting trade skills (welding, plumbing, electrician, mechanic, etc...). Some of whom are making the same if not more than "educated" women. Don't believe the self-deprecating lie being propagated that we're doing worse today. Those blue-collar jobs may not be the sexiest to an American woman's eyes. But guess what? Immigrant "Alejandro" and his beautiful wife are laughing at us gringos while they're having kids and steadily building a dream life for their family TOGETHER. "Alejandro" probably cut your grass, built your house, and is currently doing god knows what other hard laboring job as I sit on my ass typing all this; yet nobody knows who he is outside from just his immediate and extended family. He's not a social media influencer. He doesn't own a gym or sell courses (nothing wrong with that, I'm just emphasizing a point). He isn't obese (or else he couldn't work so hard), nor is he built like Captain America, but he's not ugly either. He's just an average-looking, hard-working man. Yet he found love in his 20s (probably earlier) well before he reached his peak. He's still going strong in his marriage, and has forged a union so powerful and "ride or die" that the word "divorce" does not exist. They have their arguments/ups and downs as with most couples, but they work through it like adults. You look up one day and all of a sudden you see a big, brand new, fancy lifted truck on his driveway. His contracting and landscaping businesses (that his wife helped organize and support) have taken off, and now has his kids working with him passing down the family trade. I'm 23, Black, have a bachelor's but still work in my family's businesses. I've seen countless "Alejandro's" in my life while I've been out working with my dad on weekends. And it's the most beautiful/inspirational thing ever. And they achieved their relationships without watching damn near 30-minute-long videos of bs modern dating rocket science. All of y'all need to think on that...Peace ✌🏾

Love your ways of thinking. Nuanced, grounded and realistic. Great content!

I watched plenty of videos on this topic, there are a lot of people whose speciality is this topic, but this is by far the best speech on this topic. Absolutely everything is on point. Everything is true 100%.

Glad you made it out without too much time lost.

Thank you, Bromley.

Dude you said that stuff about your first marriage.. and I related… then you threw out the point about looking decent after 200 pounds of weight loss and not thinking you look good or are worthy and again.. that’s me!!! Bromley your awesome thank you so much

Get buff, get muff. Great video, King. I didn't start working out because i was a confident guy who got laid a lot.

I met my wife online back in 2009, got married 2010 and we're still happily married in 2024. Definitely don't settle find the one who gets you, lifting, lifestyle, etc..

I've had the benefit of working in a workforce that is 90% women, and later one thats 99% men. I got to learn a lot about women, and have sooo seen that look in your thumbnail, LOL! Even saying that you are entirely right. If you dont talk to her (and I said this to many women back in the day that crushed after guys, too) then its never going to happen. I've seen nerdy little guys get the girl more than once - because they shared the same interests, and/or he was reliable and worked hard.

I've been working out since puberty, a solid 17 years. I used to work at a gym while in college, I can say for certainty that most women don't like overly jacked dudes. I've had females comment on my body, and I have the Calvin Klein kind of look, like the model look. And I take advantage of that shit with my clothing and women love my underwear, I'm just being honest, a muscular build while being a slim but not overly skinny, plus some low rise boxer briefs will get you laid quick.

This vid is a gym-bag stuffed with hard truths; and things to contemplate and figure out how to implement in your life. Not only for dating benefits, but fulfilling your life in all aspects. The part with the self aware wolf in the beginning hit hard. 😰

Hmm, the things you mentioned about relative status made a lot of things click! I'm the mentor of one of my coworkers. He's younger, taller, more handsome, leaner, etc; but he really looks up to me because of my knowledge and experience. I always find it shocking that whenever we interact with women, they are almost always flirting with me instead of him. This makes sense now! They see me as having higher status, and that matters more to them than his objectively better looks 😅

Gold advice

Fantastic video. Lost my shit so many times as well. The main thing that working out for me did, was help me build more resilience towards harsh things. The improved health and muscle gains, such as they are, are nice and all. But being consistent was a big part of building discipline, which translates to many other things. I started doing more and more things that I did not do before, specifically related to socialization.

Does anyone have a 4 week program for talking to women?

Something that I think is worth pointing out is that there's actually very little evidence to support the idea that there's a beauty-status exchange between men and women, and quite a lot of evidence to suggest that it is in fact *parity* that is the trend. Couples tend to be roughly equal in terms of physical attractiveness and socioeconomic status, and this gels with my anecdotal experience. All my Uni educated friends are with other uni educated people, and all my working class friends are with other working class people.

Really appreciated the lone wolf starving poetry joke, funniest thing I've heard all week.

Is the BaseStrength AI your invention? Looks dope af

Yes , of course. But they also weigh less tangible things like social approval and status as well

Best body in highschool. All the girls liked me. Also, never been taller than 5'7. Just powerlifter... USAPL National Champ and Record holder. I played no sports, dated hottest cheerleader. So yeah...

So,how di you learn to communicate the way you describe?

Women want a confident purpose driven man who takes on responsibility and uses meekness as it is intended. Meekness is not weakness in the contrary it is the ability to regulate one's power and strength according to a circumstance. Women innately are looking for the best provider protector and presider (a just judge) over their lives and their children.

they absolutely do. there are exceptions, skinny skater boy types that attract the skinny goth chicks, but generally yes a well developed physique is a major plus. pro tip: if you’re jacked be a sweetheart. don’t need to act all tough when your massive back and steel-cable arms do more than words ever could.

great advice, for finding a partner but also for finding meaning in life. all humans need community to feel right. ❤

I can answer this. YES.

IMO the level of muscularity most attractive to most women is probably about Men's physique or classic physique amateurs, not even pros. Guys that are maybe natty or maybe using small amounts of PEDs but not going crazy and probably still less than 200-220lbs peak offseason at 5'10 or whatever.

Agree with most of it, but when it comes to women's looks, status also plays a role for men. There's what they actually are attracted most to by nature, and there's the looks that are perceived as high-status in their in-group at a certain time. That's why you had extremely tall, skinny, hipless women with pronounced cheekbones and hollow faces who were in demand in the 90s and early 2000s. None of those traits are considered traditional feminine beauty but high-status men sought and married those women. It was about signaling your status as a successful man through your wife's looks because of their status, not evolutionary instincts.

I wasn't looking for dating advice but I figured if you made a video about it there's bound to be some wisdom to glean from it. Wasn't dissapointed, if I ever hear someone unironically talk about the red pill I'll point them in this direction

Right now I'm sporting biggest gut in decade (still fairly muscular, 42 cm arms with visible triceps etc). Yet, I get a lot of attention. It just happens that some girls are really into that beffy, not cut look. They even like to grab them love handles lol

“no one wants to hear from that wolf” 😂 so damn true

Really great and underrated video. I thought that if I got jacked however the times when I was going out and socialising a lot were my best for women, sure I was not my biggest or strongest when doing that but I was charismatic and confident in those situations and I would just talk sh.t, that worked more than having an additional 10lbs of muscle! Also the standard for a lady's man's physique is low, just lift and be lean and that is most of the battle!

Nice

Hey now, don’t talk sh!t about the whataburger dumpster!

All depends on which country of the world. Outside of big first world countries: US, Canada, France, UK, Japan , Germany, Span, Australia,..... Life is very different. Many girls / women just looking for a good man who is a provider, who wouldn't abuse them or mistreat them and will even be acceptance of their children

my exes always 'tracked the details'.

that description of the first marriage is very vivid lol

Frivolous gains? How dare you! 🤣

Bromley asking for extra servings of dat dere secret sauce on those mickey dee quarterpounders, yo

a lot of words I agree with.

Looks! We all want a Ferrari but they are expensive, unreliable, demanding, low to the ground and hard to maintain. There are many good looking Toyotas that will last a lifetime if you treat em right. Both cars do essentially the same thing but the performance is different. High cost short term thrills or worry free motoring for years to come at a consistent pace. “If it begins with F, you’re better off renting”!

Females don’t care for muscles like that , it’s a boost but very little where it’s noticeable. Women care more about financial stability, not being fat , and how you make them feel (personality) !

I think it’s about proportion, aesthetics, and leanness or lack thereof. Muscle vs no muscle is vague

As long as you can drink beer, look decent, and not take things so seriously, you’ll always have good luck with women. Finally ended up saying F it a few years ago and just talked to women and asked them out - standing at 5’3 at 155 lbs. Got rejections of course but after the first few, you get used to it and more comfortable in getting a rejection - if anything, I’m not as afraid and see it more easy going since it’s not all that serious as it seems and the fact 99% you’ll never see them again. It’s all in your head my dudes - just see them as a human being, like you (we all fart and poop don’t we?) and you’ll have an easier time with it (coming from a dude still short, small beer belly, feminist, yet been able to have some fun sessions with lady friends late night in my car - no lie)

Alot of women are attracted to it, but not all of them. Some actually dont even notice it. But all women are attracted to confidence. Having muscle, money, a nice job, clothws, car etc usually makes you more confident (or the other way around). Somd drugs also increase confidence, and that is why some people have an easier time meeting women that way.

Summed up - YES, they are, but without community, status, and charisma / personality you wont get far with it alone.

A guy can have money, looks, or game. With game being the most important and looks second.

Probably one of my favorite videos of yours Bromley. Thank you for using your big ass gifted brain to lay these concepts out for me to understand. I’m 12 weeks into 70’s powerlifter after ending a 12 year relationship and I am committed to growing in and out of the gym. Needed this man, thanks again.

Great video, not everything is true, but thinking this way is better than a fatalistic mindset.

I'm dating up. I'm pretty sure she makes close to twice what I do, but I do make about 25 an hour in a small city in the Midwest. She is great! She roasts me in a playful manner, and she is ambitious like I am. I have a story. I beat drug addiction/alcoholism, life long effort though, and I went from 305 without any added muscle to 240 and fairly jacked! So a lot less fat. I have confidence, and I'm self-aware. I have a great sense of twisted humor. I take accountability for my actions. I can be vulnerable. She is probably the same level of attractiveness as I am, okay a bit more lol, but she sees me for who I am and what I have to offer and how good of company i am.

What about costs of owning a car?

i happen to be tall... but the way women looked at me when i was fat (they didnt)...versus now as the literal embodiment of jack reacher, is night and day. Nowadays i can go somewhere and just stand around and within 15 minutes there will be women that find their way into my orbit. I still have to talk to them and make the first move, but it's pretty clear they're looking to get asked out and selecting me, versus the other way around.

When I was younger I was more muscular, leaner, now I am a bit fluffier, but in my opinion with 10 years of difference, women check me out more. I am more confident than I was, but my face is the same and usually they think I am in my early 20's,despite being almost 34.

5:00 "FLOOD MY INBOX, DADDY"

Sad Wolf Poetry and Rusted Broken Bicycles Ex Wives... I'm in for this one!!!

I think every man needs to attempt a G.O.M.A.D. period in their life.

How old is Bromley

Your first wife sounds like a treasure 😂😂😂.

world class content

Bromley...that Jack O'Lantern is killer!

Am I attracted to muscular women? Yes.

The SECOND I put up shredded photos on tinder, I was drowning. Y’all don’t have to believe me. I know what happened.

If YOU are not satisfied with the state of your life, how should a potential partner be satisfied with it. That is what my motto is.

Remember guys you were born into this world so you must live.

Based video 👍🏽

I could not stop working out and be good. Why? Because my head wouldn't work well if I'd stop working out 😂😂 Otherwise a good video on an important subject. A lot of men think that big muscles are the ones which get dates. More plates don't mean more dates, sorry. It's about charisma, confidence and how you look at yourself.