Spot on! from depression to anger back to depression and isolation.... thanks for throwing some light on solutions to fix that.

The Truth will set you free; but first it's going to make you ANGRY.

I remember reading the phrase, 'Anger is just sad's bodyguard.' I've often found that to be true for me.

I’m paralyzed at the moment and haven’t even been able to watch your vids. Today is a good day. I knew you’d help… and you did. Thank you and Bless all y’all.

I write an angry letter, sleep on it and pray. Then throw it away. I then decide do I act and speak up about what made angry, or do I forget about the frustrations and move on. Either way I process it. (Anger takes away your joy)

It happens for me that once my anger is ‘tripped’ it comes on so strong that I have to dissociate a bit so I don’t act on my FIGHT reflex. This is indeed very bad, because you then don’t respond at all to people being unfair to you or actively harassing you. It’s great that your daily practice can help with that (I keep putting off starting it because I’m afraid to open the floodgates hahaha!)

Anna, you said something in another recent video - I don’t remember which one - along the lines of, “If talking about your trauma and issues hasn’t helped by now, it’s probably not going to.” Then, while doing the Daily Practice yesterday, my rage intensified until I was pressing my pencil on the paper so hard, it broke. But I remembered you saying that if my anger increases while doing the Daily Practice, I’m likely going too deep into the past. What a groundbreaking idea it is for people who came of age during psychiatry’s embrace of talking therapy to hear that talking can sometimes make things worse. I’m not saying therapy wasn’t useful, because it was. But I’m getting more out of this channel than I did from decades of psychotherapy. Thanks again for everything you do for our troubled tribe.

Someone who I thought was my best friend at the time told me that I was choosing to be angry and that made me so hurt and also angry because I was literally fighting a war against myself against the anger and when I would lose it would bring such shame over me and have someone tell me that I chose that. I've been working on it since I discovered complex PTSD and narcissistic abuse and realize that this is pretty much my entire life and the only thing that's working for me right now is I leave a little notes all around my house to remind myself not to go off on my child. I'm even thinking of having a bracelet made for myself to remind me

If I ever feel in danger or threatened I am overcome with rage I’ve been known to actually beat people up and I’m in my 50s 6foot tall with crazy red hair so I’m scary looking to start with….I’m not surprised I only have one friend..a lovely lady who I am grateful for.thank you so very Anna we all appreciate you ❤

Writing down my feelings has been used against me later. Therefore I don't write anything on paper.

Sometimes us Traumatic Brain Injury survivors call our short fuses our "HULK"....

The ladder makes me think of polyvagal theory. Dorsal vagal at the bottom (shutdown, numb, depressed) then up a step to sympathetic state (fight flight) but ultimately we want to be at the top in ventral vagal state (safe and social) grounded and relaxed. I love writing down my feelings and thoughts. It definitely helps clear the brain noise. I love the idea of a releasing statement.

I’m such an angry person sometimes because if my childhood and I hate that I can’t control how I speak to myself and others. I know deep down that’s but the real me because I have a lot of love to give. Idk.

I always buried my anger much like the little you who carefully set vases on the hardwood floor. I didn’t have people point out I was angry because it was stuffed down deep, roiling at a boil constantly. After therapy, I started to recognize the moment I was triggered and would dive immediately into anger, recognizing I was actually feeling an equally strong emotion that I was desperate to avoid. Fear. Sadness. Neediness. After pushing past the anger to the real uncomfortable feelings underneath and growing my tolerance to sit with them, my anger shortened and lessened in intensity. Marc Maron the comedian said this which I’ll never forget: “The monster I created to protect the child inside me is hard to control”. Rather than controlling it, I really listened to it and asked it what it needed. It fought less when I did that.

When I was a teen, I had to go to "anger management" counseling (1990's)..... I was angry because I was being emotionally, mentally, physically abused by my stepdad, and everyone else didn't want me to talk about it. Hush, hush, keep it down, voices carry.... The anger management counselor told me I was angry because my stepdad married my mom, and we had to move into his home which is much smaller..... According to him, I was "lying" about my stepdad abuse, because I was angry my mom remarried.... That was not why I was angry.....

My mom was bi polar and extremely angry screaming at everyone. I sort of caught the anger.

Boy, this video sure was timely for me. Every single point of it hit home.

This hit home yet again! I'm *just* getting in touch with anger. I have fawning down to a T, i mean so sweet you'll wanna puke, but just a few months ago I got angry *for* myself for the first time ever. I'm the youngest of 4 and have a very co dependent mom. She's has a heart condition among other physical ailments and her own cptsd issues. Well, being the sweet kid, ever since I remember I imagined taking care of her until she died. I grew up being her best friend and caregiver. About 8 months ago, she developed dementia. It hit us all very hard but of course, I was the one to really take care of her. Unfortunately, this was about the time I started seeing what our relationship really was and what my 35 years of life has been. What an inopportune time lol! I felt so much anger for my siblings for leaving me with a sick woman when I was a kid and again when she got dementia, I had so much anger toward myself for allowing me to be treated this way and taken advantage of, and I felt so much anger toward life in general for being so painful, but seemingly passing me by. Anyway, the anger did bring me clarity of the situation and I'm in my own apartment, keeping a job, and working on my marriage which was strained by me taking care of my mother all the time. I reached out to my siblings, let them know my resentments toward them from the past and our relationships are the strongest they've *ever* been. My mama is in an ok place and has a team of professionals to help her through the throws of that god-awful disease. Now, seeing as this is a "new" emotion for me, this Daily Practice has been very helpful in navigating this because it felt to good to speak my truth, as they say, but I definitely don't want to kill the moment by just lashing out at everybody lol. *sigh* anger is rough dude! 🙏💗💗💗

I grew up very similar to you and I tried to suppress my anger and blew up after much abuse with my husband so sadly it was like I repeated the cycle. My ex husband like my father was an alcoholic, he stopped drinking and started and stopped and started... he was also a womanizer and hurt me so much in many ways.. we fought all the time until I had enough....22 years with this man who never wanted to be accountable for anything and blamed me...even when he cheated it was my fault so I asked for a divorce...I still feel anger very intensely at times but I speak my mind now when I feel angry and as a result no longer stuff it so less explosions. It is a very difficult thing when you grow up with those examples. Life is harsh in that way... I mean repeating patterns until we learn... Thanks for your videos! God bless you!

Thank you for talking about this. When I get pushed to a point where I get angry, really angry. I can get real mean when I am pushed to my breaking point. I don't like myself when I get like that. It is almost as if I dissociate myself, and an "angry self" comes out to defend myself.... I even had a name for this self because it would come out when I was angry and in super defence mode.... And it goes too far. Not physical, but definitely in my wording, written or said out loud. Then later when I am calmed down, I realize what a brat I was for being so angry (even though it was in my self defence)... Then apologize for my behavior.... aaaaand The toxic person likely smiles inside, cause they caused me to snap..... The worst is when I have an emotional flashbacks, and lash out with angry words, text, or email.... And then send it.... Later on.... I feel like crap cause I reacted angrily and was hurtful. 😞 Working on this... First step is recognizing the problem, so I am part way there. Starting to listen to my anger before I burst like a volcano. Is my anger showing me I need to get away from a toxic person or situation? Is this anger for good reason? Write it down, journal, journal, journal. Don't send angry messages, don't say angry words to people, write it in the journal.

I’ve been angry my entire life! I’m 56. I’m an adult adoptee from an alcoholic home. I’ve done all sorts of therapy, I’ve done all sorts of healing practices and right now I’m struggling with burnout and my anger is off the charts again. I’ve been eating too much sugar and not walking or working out, which always make me feel so much better!

I find that reminding myself of the the things that made me joyful before depression or anger paralisys helps me. Dont take any action, just remember.

My anger isn't usually top Level until I have people coming AT me. They are trying to talk over me, get me to "just calm down and listen" etc... when all I need in that moment is for THEM to just shut the hell up and let me speak. I would be totally happy to listen to them once I have been allowed to speak. But that never happens. Then they label ME as "the crazy one". As far as festering anger, I don't think I ever used that to get out of depression, I have always just allowed into my depression. I don't do that now. I have better means of handling all of emotional states.

Wow, I happened upon one of your videos today and now I’m binge watching many of your videos. I feel like you are speaking right to me. THANK YOU so much for this channel.

Wow! Such a powerful video, thank you as always. The contrast you endured, to evolve as an amazing human being, an earth angel for *us*. 💫🙏

I am hardly ever angry. Looking forward to watching this

I was severely humiliated onced I got angry with someone, I received rages, name calls and mockeries because I asserted my boundaries. I didn't insulted the person I just expressed my dissatisfaction and tried proposing alternatives that can assist me but the person interpreted it as a provocation and rage at me instantly... took me 3 years to heal and now I am boiling with anger 24/7.

I’m doing my anger work now. Looking forward to this video.

Do you think your ability to keep your space decluttered and clean and CPTSD is related? I would like to hear about decluttering and CPTSD. Thank you.

You see that’s the problem I wasn’t always this angry

Thank you Thank you Thank you ❤️

If exocise my devils, my angels to may leave too Tom Waits

Thank you for this. Regular therapy just made me angry at the people who had hurt me. In fact the therapists were angry about what I told them. It's true it only made things worse. Being angry just pushes everyone away.

you are so smart, it's unbelievable

Saved this video, like how you can look back and laugh a little. Appreciate the advice as always.

Good timing. Thank you! 🧡🙏

This made me cry

😢😮‍💨 I have this problem. I get so triggered around my family members. None in my family knows boundaries and I'm only new to them, which really increases my anger and irritation when they r not being held. Even towards my brother which I can't stand cuz he is the last one who needs being meet with anger. (He does wrong things to get me started but no near the level of anger he receives cuz he gets the anger I have held in for so long from everyone. I guess it's because it's always the same issues and criticisms that it goes so far up cuz earlier anger wasn't enough) He is clearly the family Scapegoat and I think he might subconsciously act towards that role.. it's complicated, I, he, our family is quite the mess. How do I controle myself when I feel triggered or downtrodden by narcissists? Cuz there are a few of them and a lot has rubbed itself of on how my anger come out 😕

My husband had an awful upbringing and has depression issues so he started seeing a therapist in december and has been so angry wince he started therapist it almost ruined our marriage his outbirsts and stuff were awful. I didnt realize other people have had that reaction from therapy too!

I have ADHD and anger makes me be able to get motivated. I am trying not to get angry to get motivated. Now, I can’t figure out how to get things done without getting angry at myself or others.

Had a similar childhood, sorry to hear.

I'm one of the people for whom anger is actually useful as a means to not fall into despair, and one of the steps after that which works for me was to find a framework by which I could turn it more towards righteous anger and calling things out. I did this by happening across a story which featured a character (in my case, two) who had a personality like mine who had responses that were more well-adjusted than just blind rage. And incorporating that. Sites like Cinema Therapy can sometimes help find these sorts of pieces, as can character personality quizzes. The most comprehensive of these quizzes I've found is a 5000 character personality quiz. Last I checked, they don't include a lot of anime characters outside of Avatar the Last Airbender, though, so if it happens that your personality is like that of an anime character who is portrayed as good (and whose behavior is called out when it's less than good) in a show that doesn't glorify violence as an answer (yes, those exist, anime is a highly varied form of media), you might not find that there.

I lost my partner due to my anger. When I get anxious and things don't go to plan, I get so angry. I have no control over what I say or do. He always said that I did have control. I felt attacked then, that he was saying that I should have control over my mental illness, when I had seen psychologists and psychiatrists and had gotten nowhere. I tried to change, but it just keeps happening. I had childhood trauma, but I also had another trauma as an adult. I feel stuck. And now I don't have the one person who actually cared.

I understand the need to move past anger, but people that bypass it are even more exhausting to be around. Constantly stuffing their emotions and expecting you to do the same to maintain a peaceful facade. I call it toxic positivity and it’s almost as bad as the energy vampire imo. I think I need to express some anger right now though, so my opinion is thru an angered lens.

Excellent ❤

I have a problem when I do the daily practice. When I say I have resentment because I have fear I feel that repeating I have fear of this I have fear of that makes me get in a fearful state does anyone have any suggestions on how to not be fearful.

Hello Miss Anna I was wondering if you had ever heard of a channel called Grace at sunrise? She is a Christian lady who is trying to help other people addicted to Kratom to get off of Kratom. Her approach is much alike Susan Pierce Thompson's approach in bright line eating. She and most of her subscribers were/ are addicted to Kratom because of symptoms of trauma, myself included. I just thought that you might be interested. You and Grace at sunrise and bright line eating are literally my whole plan right now. She's not giving medical advice or anything she is just sharing her experience for other people who may have given up hope by now.

Dear Anna - i dont know if there is such thing as 'seasonal anger' but my parents seperated 3 months before the summer holidays when i was 19 , slowly it became a time of dread , it got really bad - no swimming, no Christmas ect , i wanted none of it - last year i made a effort to change and spend Christmas with my mom , she died 4 months after and i feel doomed in sone way to be let down during this time - however i decided not avoid or isolate like before , i accepted my dad's request to spend Christmas with me , along with his wife - while i am excited and making the most of this time , however those years of avoidance and isolation fermented into anger that ice never really dealt with in a healthy way and i would very much appreciate if you can talk about the blended family and Christmas fear or avoidance, which i think alot of people might struggle with - Adult children with blended families or Adults in new blended families might cause alot of Anger or resentment from someone and atleast for my own behaviour i want to know how i can deal with it in the swing of things - i really want to enjoy it this time -

Best to have silent anger. You get away with everything. What are teaching? Be predictable PLEASE 🙏

Hey Anna...just a question, What makes someone not do the things they know that would help them heal from cptsd? I have adhd and cptsd and I've been going to therapy for years... but frequently don't do the homework set. I'm angry at myself for holding myself back, perhaps homework feels selfish or I lack spoons, or I'm so scatterbrained that I just can't organise my life enough to get ontop of it. Is this a common issue? I really do want to heal.

At times I feel like giving up. Sometimes my symptoms anxiety,rage,freeze make me feel so helpless. Can't afford therapy really neither the courses u offer. What to do

My anger boiled over when I punched a wall and got a boxers fracture. At this point I can’t even remember what pissed me off so much, which is funny since at the time it was so bad that I wanted to be violent.

I have been watching your utube channel for several years. However I must disagree with you on this. I am 58 years old and was raised in an alcoholic violent family. I started my healing in alanon at 18. I have tried just about everyting to heal during that time. First thing is there is nothing wrong with healty anger. We have thr Right to be angry at what happened to us as children. I will say this......doing anger work changed my lfe. It is probably the number one thing. Also, I have done extensive inner child work. That is one thing I don't hear you discuss. I am now for the most part mentally healthy. With all the rage and violence going on in the world......could possible be solved if people Really knew how to deal with anger. I have sponsored over 100 women over the years and this is the number one thing I see. The inner anger casuses people to sabatage themselves and others. Feel free to reach out to me. I don't want to come across critical but it might be good to rethink this.

OMG yes. I am p’d at the world!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Especially after trying to stay ahead my entire life, losing it all before Covid & h a t i n g everything in the world these days since then!!!!!!!!!!!!! Going on 3 yrs, I think I’ll try to chill.

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Me too - I’d get up at 6am and clean up all the smashed glass one morning the poker from the fire was in the tv 🙏 I became introverted and minded my ma and da and put them to bed 🙏 my older brother minded me he was only 4 years older unfortunately he passed away in January my dads in a b nursing home mam has cancer and I’ve no siblings left. My brother hugged me in November last year when I going through what I thought was a breakdown he said it’s not your fault we grew up in a mental asylum 🙏 I’ve had a few anger outbursts in my adult life and am very discerning about who I let into my life - after my outburst I crash and hit the bed for the day in depression/ I’m in recovery haven’t drank in20 years and done a lot of inner work on codependency/ but got severely emotionally and psychologically damaged last year by a doctor who manipulated me, had me in cognitive dissonance and eventually a trauma bond. He then made a sexual undertone comment and I terminated the therapeutic relationship it was the aftermath that affected me because after I called him out he became very angry, stonewalled me, I asked for healthy closure and he ignored me.my brother rang too he would not speak to him either / I called him a narcissist with plenty of supply but he met his match with me I reported him. But I honestly felt like I took a breakdown in emergency room 5 times full of fear that’s when I stayed with my brother for a few days. What hurt most is he is s professional to help me not abuse me. But now I’m healing my old inner wounds he triggered - abandonment