"Hey, I noticed your shirt was blue. Do you think George Bush did 9/11?"

"...so what's it like being black?"

I always keep these handy topics at hand for awkward silences: R - religion A - abortion P - politics E - environmental pollution Perfect to strike up conversation, plus it has a handy acronym.

sorry, but it didn't work for me. the girl I tried to talk to yesterday didn't even know who dr. landis was

"I noticed you're wearing a wedding ring. See ya."

"I noticed there's no grilling meats at this party, are you vegetarian?" 10/10 great question.

"I noticed you're not wearing black shoes, are you racist?"

I noticed you're running away, are you an athlete?

I noticed that you don't have a wedding ring, is your husband dead?

"I noticed you have blonde hair. Are you from Swedish decent?" HAHAHA , THE FUCK?! 😂😂😂😂😂

"walks up to girl" " I noticed you have big hands, do you have cancer?"

"I noticed you were married, have you ever thought about divorce?"

"I noticed you're not a Jew, are you a fan of Hitler's?"

"I noticed you are wearing a blue dress, do you have something against the bloods?"

Today I talked to a girl and said 'Hi, how was your day?' She said, 'Just make my coffee, please.'

"Ive noticed you look overweight are you pregnant?"

I'm an introvert. This shit is like Kryptonite.

As an introvert, small talk is painful and boring, but I see the value in it.

I noticed you have eyes can you see

Saying "Hey nice bewbs!" is less creepy than asking "I noticed you have blonde hair, do you come from Swedish descent?"

This is like an instructional guide for non humans. Much appreciated.

"I noticed you have an iphone, was their a reason why you chose that over an android?" this question made me LMFAO, the way he said it did not sound authentic or interested at all.

"I noticed you're an amputee, do you work at ihop?" * ice broken *

This did not work for me at all. The girl I tried talking to didnt even know who Dr. Landis was.

"I noticed you have arms, are you a dolphin"?

The power of the stache

1. Anchor, Reveal, Encourage 2. Observe and Listen 3. Compliment + Question 4. Family, Occupation, Recreation, Motivation. Got it, Thanks!

"I noticed we're talking to each other for the past 10 minutes now. Do you mind if I go to the toilet because I have nothing else to say to you?"

This comment section is pure gold.

Is it just me or did the "observe" questions seem super awkward and kind of creepy?

I noticed you're wearing clothes... Do you uhhh always wear clothes?

"I noticed you're in a wheelchair. How did you fuck up your legs?"

One way that I was able to learn how to talk to people, back when I was very shy and anti social, was to help them feel comfortable and relaxed while we were talking, as if I had known them for many years. People, especially women, are very perceptive with regards to how confident or nervous you are due to subtle non verbal cues; but if you look at them as if they are a normal part of your life, that nervousness tends to not be so strong. Plus, it doesn't hurt to be authentically interested in them, as a person. Just my two cents.

I see you're blonde, does the carpet match the drapes?

I hate small talk but it's one of those things you have to learn

Hmm.. instructions unclear, I can't talk to someone with out the dialogue wheel from the elder scrolls: IV Oblivion.

that mustache tho...

I love this advice. Everyone else online that tries to help with this always says the same dribble; be yourself, remember that they are just as scared, don't ask to many questions, get the other person to talk about themselves, eye contact and facial expressions, blah blah blah. It's about as useful as saying "the best way to bake a potato is to use heat and then add stuff to make it interesting"; we know, and it doesn't help us to actually do it. But this advice hits the nail on the head; simple, computer-like instructions to start the ball moving. I've been trying this for a few days (both in person and texting) and I can see a good increase in my ability to keep a conversation from turning awkward, not to mention my social interactions are much more pleasant. Thank you.

In a few years you would ask: I notice you look arabic do come from Swedish descent?

"Hey! I saw a video about small talk, am i doing ok?"

Dude people just reply "yeah" or "no" and the convo ends there

Tip 1: Alcohol

I tried these tips on my starbucks coffee maker... She told me to ''Fuck off,Mark'' she knows my name! ty +art of manliness

"I noticed you're wearing blue, do you have something against the bloods?"

"I noticed you have wooden earrings... Do you feel like you're an earthly creature?" Made me laugh really hard, great video!

what kind of psychopath arranges a meatless bbq!

I usually feel seriously uncomfortable when people ask me a ton of questions back to back and it DOES feel like an interrogation. I usually try to get them to pause and let me know something about themselves too. I don't know if Im overly guarded but I really don't like giving out a ton of personal info when just meeting a stranger. At the same time I don't want want to appear cold or disinterested. I really like this "friendly noises" phrase.

"do you have something against the bloods?" I lol'd hard.

Most of the questions sounded like a job/news interview and seemed very forced.

THAT'S NOT HOW YOU FILM AN OTS SHOT REVERSE SHOT. But seriously, these comments are better than most comedies. Keep it up everyone.

One of those videos I'll watch and pretend to learn from, but never actually used any of the information to my advantage.

Wait a sec here...was 4:39 supposed to be an example of GOOD conversation starters? Cause that was one incredibly awful, unnatural and awkward line of questions. And the dude's delivery was straight up creepy.

This is pretty good when it comes to those networking events that my school hosts every semester. I'll keep in mind of the advice you've shared in this video. Maybe I can land into a job sometime from those events!

4:38 I'm sorry but these are cringy questions

yooo I love everyone in this comments section man, we all have the same sense of humor lmao lololol

how about: Who's your favorite Austrian Emperor? or What's your opinion on Flag change referendums?

You have to be at least 30 to use these

One master of small talk from the movies is No Country for Old Men's Anton Chigurh. What a chatty Cathy.

For people who are struggling with small talk, I have your perfect solution! Go up to people and ask those weird questions, like what's the bloody meaning of life. The people who respond and play along are worth your time and the people who don't, well leave em alone. They can go engage in boring, time wasting small talk.

as embarrassing as it is for me to admit, this video is quite helpful. As an introvert (not anti-social) it's hard for me to engage in conversation with strangers about things that we both care nothing about, but the main thing i think I found helpful was that it pointed out that small talk is the only way to get the ball rolling on to more meaningful conversation, which, obviously i knew, but i guess i just needed to hear someone say it to realize just how true it is

My biggest problem is stopping small talk WITHOUT an awkward, "soo... bye". How would a man end small talk?

wow cant believe there are videos of how to make small talk on here. I cant believe how shy some people are. All you have to remember is no matter there achievement in life or how hot they are they are all flesh and bone just like you, and anyone who doesn't give you the time of day because they think your better then them just means there not worth the effort. Its a shame there are people that make others feel less or insecure. But if these videos help others then all for that, but really no one needs a video they just gotta know who they are. Once you define yourself as a human/ Male or female, Then its very hard for others to change that, its damn near impossible. Ive been shy for many years but what helped me is the fact I had many years of hell I had to go through alone, Not gonna discuss the details on here but it really made me look at myself differently. I know realise there is no point to being shy, there is no one I wouldn't talk to, there is not much I wouldn't do to get a laugh, Hell I wore a tiggar suit ( from pooh bear lol ) through a shopping mall just to get a few laughs. years before when I was shy I didn't like talking in public much. You can watch all the videos you want and slowly build courage sure, or u can just jump in the deep end and learn it quick. what is the worst that will happen is they say go away or no, is that really worse then being lonely? if your truly lonely then u realise that is something you don't want to live with, and other peoples opinions just don't matter. Not saying its easy its very hard, but its still harder to hate yourself or doubt yourself.

I don't get it, I ask dozens of strangers everyday if they will be my friend and its always really awkward. What am I doing wrong

why didn't you tell me this when I was in high school?

Conversations with people you dont know is just way too exhausting.

Those "I noticed" questions made my day.

Good luck trying these tips with social anxiety like myself. 👍🏼😄🔫

These are brilliant instructional videos on this channel - very informative, logical, precise and direct. I think the video demos are what make it great rather than just hearing someone lecture you

I have a lot of social anxiety, like, i can barely smalltalk without it getting awkward after literally five seconds This really helped.. Thanks

Man. I'm so grateful that I found this channel. Thank you for existing. Totally binge watched so many of your videos.

Thank you thank you thank you. This is one of my greatest struggles and my wife is so frustrated at my fear of social settings. She can't believe that someone can be so awkward like I am. She seems to think I am intentionally antisocial but it is not true. What helped me the most is that "friendly noises" concept. I don't want to sound fake with new people but since there is very little connecting me with the new person, the initial exchanges are necessarily going to be pretty superficial. Thanks again! SUBSCRIBED!!

This was very helpful for shy non social critter like myself. Cant wait to use it.

I noticed you have a ring. Are you into open marriages?

I noticed that comment section is the best thing in any video

Wow, I watched this video a while ago and thought to myself that I’m already good at holding a conversation. This morning I went to a new church, and I was the awkward single guy that just stood there listening to others. I’ve got to practice these things. It’s hard at first, but I know once I’m successfully able to execute these tips, they’ll stick in my mind. Wow, unless you work at something, you don’t usually just have it naturally.

This one is HUGELY important for me. I will be taking extra notes on this one.

I've watched a couple of videos about making small talk, but none within the context of a man. A great video, tips on an essential skill for ANY man. Thanks Brett!

This is the most helpful and logically sound bit of small talk advice I've heard in a while. Thanks.

I noticed you have fingerprints. How'd you get such a unique pattern?

This channel is freaken awesome... The last 4 questions were great!

As an introvert (who obviously is better at understanding neural networks rather than small talk) I gotta say this is the only small talk video that I actually understood. Great presentation.

Dude, thanks for the video. As an introvert, it changed the way I look at small talk!

the vegetarian will tell you before asking

Great video! Social media has crippled real life interactions to say the least, so I understand why some people might find it hard to strike small talk. Awkwardness is avoided like the plague, so sometimes interaction is too big of a risk, being that there is no time cushion to think up a witty resonse as there is when replying to something online. Practice small talk guys!

Are you........vegetarian??

“I noticed you have blonde hair, do you come from a Swedish descent?” totally gonna use this as a precursor to my pickup line

I hate talking but I like listening. I simply don't know how to small talk.

I noticed you have a stache do you have candy?

this is great. I have actually stumbled upon these occasionally when I wasn't painfully aware of my awkwardness

Usually check out these videos just for a kick. I don't personally see myself as being bad at small talk, but this was actually well done and pretty insightful

Nice clothes! Mind talking about that jacket?

Great tips.. I'll bet having a great mustache is a good ice breaker.

Your videos have helped me overcome a lot of nervous and awkward social interactions

I loved those awkward questions at the end! That guy was great.

Hey AOM! I just wanted to say how much I live your videos. They are always very helpful, and well made. I can see you put lots of effort into these. Thank you very much and keep up the good work :)

"I noticed you have blonde hair... Do you come from Swedish decent" this made me laugh

Glad to see the best translation of The Odyssey on your bookshelf.

This video is dope af! It's whimsical. The presenter is on point and likeable and it provides an ample amount of examples for each section of the lesson. Thanks!

the questions around 4:50 are so awkward

How am I now finding this channel.