Asexuality (feat. My Husband)

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2 жыл бұрын

Join my husband and I as we talk about our journey into asexuality and how we met.
My Instagram: @quan_taco98
Eli's Instagram: @elijah_jedediah
Feel free to reach out to either one of us for questions on the topic of this videos. Thanks: )

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@BBQNBLUES 2 жыл бұрын

Fascinating ! As an Elderly GAY Male, I am so Proud to see these open discussions among the Younger Generation. BOTH of you are Beautiful Souls that found each other :) May your Life be one of Joy.. together.

@therewillbecatswithgwenhwyfar 2 жыл бұрын

Because of you. Because you all fought and paved the way. Thank you! 🥰🌈

@JoeP44 2 жыл бұрын

Elijah’s Tinder bio: “Sexy asexual”. Devin: “I was sold. Take my money”. 😂💘

@charlafactor3673 2 жыл бұрын

I am a 77 year old woman. I like both of you and from what I can tell from the video decent Principled guys. So good that we can be more open and share who we are. (Really Are) All of us deserve respect and space to share our unique selves out in the open. I'm so glad I have lived long enough to see these kinds of changes in our society. As a young middle aged woman I one day had a startling realization. I heard myself saying, "Sex is a highly overrated activity." As I investigated my new revelation I discovered I'd never been overly excited about sex, (not really) but I sure was good at faking it. I was sad that I violated my true self all those years. I learned a lesson which I started to live out in all areas of my life. "To thine own self be true," and never mind what anyone else thinks about me.

@levigerrardhades 2 жыл бұрын

This video just saved my life, not joking, not a sarcasm. It's always been that "you haven't meet the right person" and I'm tired of people telling me that, as if I don't know what I want. Thank you for opening a door in my mind, and a path to set a goal and pursue it. I hope nothing but happiness and wellness for both of you.

@beastscooter 2 жыл бұрын

You guys make a great couple. Congratulations on finding each other. Proof positive that there is is somebody for everyone. You are both cute boys, fun, interesting and intelligent. This is the first discussion about asexuality I have ever heard. The spectrum makes more sense listening to your explanation of your down-played sexuality, especially knowing you both identify as gay, which is inherently sexual. Your channel, you, are very uniques, honest, .looking forward to more from you guys.

@dasnixblix4846 2 жыл бұрын

Since when is gay "inherently sexual"? It only describes the gender and/or sex of the people someone is attracted to. It doesn't say anything about whether this attraction is sexual or romantic or both.

@kshrvpz1587 2 жыл бұрын

Agree, thank you

@nichotto 2 жыл бұрын

No there is definitely not ‘someone for everyone’, there are probably tens of millions who go to their grave single still waiting for ‘the one’.

@leeosqueue 2 жыл бұрын

“I’ll just think about that later” is literally my approach to any development in my sexuality for the past 5 years. I’m a work in progress. Thanks for this video!💜

@jimmmmy41 2 жыл бұрын

As a gay man, I never was into anal sex. I learned of the term, "side" about a year ago, and realized that's what I have always been. The pressure and expectation to perform anal in gay culture is ubiquitous, and it seems like not wanting to do that sets you apart and de-legitimizes you as a gay man (at least that is the way is was 25 years ago). I can see how asexualality does the same. Being true to ourselves, and being authentic, is the best we can do for ourselves.

@jimmmmy41 2 жыл бұрын

@LGBS so, why do you feel the need to deny other people's experiences and feelings. I'm not asexual, but there are some things I don't like. You're saying sex is one thing. Why so judgemental?

@jimmmmy41 2 жыл бұрын

@LGBS so, you get to say what is made up? You are magically able to look into other people's minds and hearts? Sounds more like an ego situation on your part.

@jimmmmy41 2 жыл бұрын

@LGBS everything you're saying was said about gay people. Too bad.

@jimmmmy41 2 жыл бұрын

@LGBS some people would say "gay" is a silly label and not a real thing. That's bigotry.

@m.gorssa 2 жыл бұрын

You two guys are very cute together. Elijah seems very supportive of Devin. I hope one day I am in your position with a loving boyfriend / husband by my side, living my best asexual gay life!

@twineandstring 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for creating this video and sharing it with us. I'm a genderfluid pansexual person. I recently got out of a long relationship with a man. During that relationship, we figured out that he is asexual and aromantic and that I am not romantically attracted to men. I have been focusing on other pressing problems, but watching your video made me realize how alone I felt when my partner and I learned that we didn't and couldn't love each other. Additionally, both of you have showed me that I am NOT alone. There are so many other people who have experiences similar to mine. Thank you for being the catalyst for my healing.

@kellihiggins100 Жыл бұрын

As a gay asexual, thank you for sharing your experience 💕

@doumekikun 2 жыл бұрын

This is so precious and is so nice to hear more stories around this experience. I actually realized that I'm a Gay Ace at 35 years old, for years I thought I was broken because I wasn't experiencing my sexuality as it was "expected" or how it is portrait and it took me so long understand what was going on with me. Thanks for sharing your story with us ❤

@turbofanct6679 2 жыл бұрын

• No sexualisation of any kind; • Two handsome, genuine, intelligent married guys; • Calm, soothing voices; • Straight to the point; • Airplane models and posters in the background (including Southwest's special livery 737). P e r f e c t i o n.

@michaelfarley9700 2 жыл бұрын

Well, you two are adorable. Just continue being yourselves.

@brianmather4048 2 жыл бұрын

I Whole heartedly Agree ..! As a Demi-Bisexaual .. Sex without an emotional conection is So Not going to ( be possable or meaningful ..) Just enjoy your journey togther .. Congratulasions on finding one another

@DMWolFGurL 2 жыл бұрын

I hate that saying, continue being yourselves, well who the hell else are they going to be. Everyone else is taken. *rolls eyes*

@yongcnkr9223 2 жыл бұрын

After seven years of dating men, I recently discovered I’m homoromantic asexual. I had moments of thinking I might end up alone. I’m so happy to see this to give me hope that I can be happy and find a relationship. 🙏 Thank you

@eliskahudcova301 2 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't believe how much my little asexual heart needed to see this headline. Asexuality (feat. My Husband). Oooh my

@reneeanderson5617 2 жыл бұрын

Really enjoyed this, guys. Thank you for making yourselves vulnerable by sharing with us. And Elijah, you have the most beautiful smile😊

@sushilkumarprem5692 2 жыл бұрын

When you brought up the awkwardness, I realised I enjoyed the awkwardness. It made the video very relatable. Especially the peaking of awkwardness during the goodbyes.

@billsanzone5444 2 жыл бұрын

You both did a fine job with this video, the way you told your stories will make it easy for others to relate and find what they might be looking for or just not to feel alone and you did it in a way that makes someone feel like they're just talking with a friend, you're also both super cute together-much happiness for your future.

@user-uq3qh2cy9v 2 жыл бұрын

I see LOVE between you guys, how gentle you guys talk, and how you look at each other....Bless

@GlennOsborne 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing this! I really enjoyed watching it not only because there is a lot here that I can relate to personally, it because it goes a long way toward dispelling the myth that all gay men are hyper-sexual. This is something I have encountered all of my life. It has made me hesitant to be to open about my own sexuality because people, even other gay men often make this assumption. There is a reason this video is so popular, not to many people have addressed this issue. Good luck with your channel. I can tell that you are very thoughtful and put a lot of effort into your videos. I’m glad that you are starting to get some recognition, hopefully it will translate into a decent income so that you will be able to continue producing high level content.

@rjcarter2904 2 жыл бұрын

I agree with the previous comment that you're both adorable! And I enjoyed this content a lot. I think the reason that so many people say things like, "you just haven't met the 'right' woman/man yet," is because in the heteronormative culture asexuality often is considered a type of sexual dysfunction for which men (and women) often seek treatment. I know a fair amount about this since I am a licensed "expert." That said, the concept of asexuality is evolving. Hearing your perspective was very interesting to me. When people seek treatment for low sexual desire, it's usually because either the patient or the patient's partner is dysphoric about the situation. Perhaps you two are a satisfied match for each other.

@AstroMoonGoddess 2 жыл бұрын

I really appreciate the reiteration of sexuality being fluid. There have been times when I’ve had like zero urges, lasting months if not years, and then times when I have been ravenous. I can’t really define what I’ve got going on, because I do enjoy sex, but I’m very particular about those with whom I share my body. I couldn’t connect love and sex for a really long time, not until my first boyfriend when I was 20, he helped me connect it all. Anyway, this was a really great video and I appreciate you sharing your stories. It definitely helps so many people feel less alone and confused. Much love to both of you! 💚💚

@wlarsen70 2 жыл бұрын

Nice video. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's really important for everyone to do that and engage with others, because you never know who has been helped by it. Best wishes!

@hopelessblromantic8069 2 жыл бұрын

First, I have to admit I watched this so I could see you and your husband together - and you are a very cute couple. I was aware of asexuality before, but it's interesting to hear you talk about it. Although I admit when you said "ew", that's what I felt when I had sex with a girl. You mentioned this, but it's important for every couple to understand that not everyone is the same. Every couple will likely have one partner who is more sexual than the other. And it comes down to communication, and loving one another enough to work through what you can do for each other. I was thrilled to see how excited you both were to find a partner with that compatibility. And it's good for others to understand that just because someone is asexual doesn't mean they don't want to have a loving partner. Love is definitely more than sex. One last thought I just had; there are some of us who can't enjoy casual sex. For me I have to be in a relationship; it has to be about love. I can't help but think that this is a similar concept, in some ways. And probably why I can be in a long distance relationship and survive without being with my fiancé for 3 years (due to the pandemic). Anyway, thanks for sharing about this aspect of your lives. Last comment; you mentioned being awkward or something? I didn't think you were. The two of you interacted well, together. But I know what you mean - it probably felt that way.

@Selfemployedmildautisticartist 2 жыл бұрын

23 very well said and you guys are of age but so young and married wow I hope ur family accepts Cute couple I have heard or asexual though there's other letters in acronym I guess it makes a bit more sense thinking of even this 1 of asexual

@RomanyFree1 2 жыл бұрын

This was great. You guys are adorable, and I loved hearing both your stories. I only discovered that I'm asexual two years ago, so it's been a fun journey of discovering where I fit on the spectrum. There was a lot you both said that I can very much identify with.

@jamesk8s1 2 жыл бұрын

So interesting. I've struggled my whole life, and I just learned a term from you guys: DEMI sexual, then read up on it.... and THAT is it. I almost NEVER feel sexually drawn to someone based on physicality no matter how well built. I thought what is wrong with me. And what the gay world has always presented to me of just being so free with anyone made and makes me feel very hurt and sad inside. So I was getting it before this video, but now I get it clearly. I am not Asexual, I don't have a real strong sex drive, but I do enjoy it....but now I understand. I have a friend who says "You're just scared, and you need to have lots of sex" which irritates me. Reading the def of DEMIsex....the light went on real bright...I feel better. Thank you, and I enjoyed finding you both, adorable, wishing you a long happy life of love together ❤️ liked, subd and belled.

@jsantiago9485 2 жыл бұрын

DemiAce here, thank you guys so much for this video it’s so great to see an Ace KZfaq for the first time. Still waiting on an Ace dating app! Who’s with me?!

@lucasflanders8557 2 жыл бұрын

Very interesting. I've never heard people discussing this issue before. But it makes perfect sense that there would be a large variation in people's libido. Thanks so much for this frank discussion.

@patricianorwood1075 2 жыл бұрын

I just want to say I am glad you have found each other and thank you for posting this video. I am an elderly bisexual with an asexual boyfriend. It has lasted longer than any other relationship I have had because it's based on love and trust. I see that in your marriage and hope it lasts your entire lives.

@AlllAboutYou 2 жыл бұрын

This is a very good content. First time to see this and I liked it. Keep it up!

@jd6760 2 жыл бұрын

yaaay, great topic, gorgeous couple and a cozy vibe!

@alerysiejmak649 2 жыл бұрын

You guys are so sweet! It's very nice to hear a conversation about the ace spectrum. Also, I really felt the periodical urges stuff - strangely I've noticed it mostly depends on my period cycle which is an odd realization, I wonder if anybody else has a similar experience.

@JustKFabre 2 жыл бұрын

Kudos to you two!! I can only imagine how many people could benefit from your experiences!

@XanBos Жыл бұрын

I want to start by saying I love seeing the both of you talking about things that matter to you. I understand where people can find themselves not having the interest or urge for sex. I’m not one of those people, but I understand it. For me, that physical bonding is what expresses another level of love between two people. Grant it, it is not what has to happen to complete a couple. I love hearing about how other gays handle their lives, whether it’s sexual, social, etc….it helps me understand more. Thank you both for sharing! ❤️❤️

@Justin_isslpng 2 жыл бұрын

I was literally having the same dilemmas as Elijah based on his story and this video is very helpful for clearing my mind because my problem is whether I'm gay or not but THIS summed all of those problems up for me!

@wallacehurt2490 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you from a new subscriber. Learning and accepting the differences is a true joy.

@mybloats294 2 жыл бұрын

Awesome video, guys! Thanks for sharing your stories!

@tomkin7803 2 жыл бұрын

Love the video guys. Love seeing 2 husbands awkwardly in-love! Feels familiar 😍 i think being so open about your sexuality is supper helpful for others. I still remember the days when we didn’t have KZfaq to figure things out lol

@adeca5052 2 жыл бұрын

You guys really give me hope. I feel like I may be aromantic while sexual and all I’ve ever wanted was to feel deeply for someone I connect with in so many ways:( but your relationship shows that it’s possible I can meet someone similiar and be content

@paddedroom412 Жыл бұрын

I just want to say thank you for this video. I am a gay male, but also asexual. The topics you discussed seemed to resonate with me. You give me hope that my future husband is out there somewhere.

@liberalpatriot1504 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! Not only did you make me feel better about myself, you gave me some good information. Particularly about the occasional urges. I'm not sure if I meet the asexual definition (maybe demisexual?). My short story: from 1973 to 2000, my nickname was "Next!". In 2000 I started questioning the merits and needs, and began slowing down. In 2006, I made the decision to stop playing below the waist. Not from a bad relationship, not from any sexual abuse (current or in the past), not from an STI, mainly just a case of it no longer interested me. I note that there are occasions when I take my buddy the tablet and have a nice wet fantasy, but really, the idea of playing below the waist with another person just doesn't agree with me. For me, it's been a good decision. I still have to put up with the occasional "you just need to get back out there", but overall people are like, oh well. There's been a plus: I have a few friends, straight and gay, who have no problem spoon cuddling with me for a few hours. One of the straight guys occasionally spends the night, and we take turns spooning. But with all of them, not even kissing. Just human touch. Just nonsexual touch. Just comforting. Just connecting. I hope your video helps a lot of people. I'm off to find some more of your videos to watch. Thanks again.

@Drawlen 2 жыл бұрын

Really enjoyed your discussion and both your personalities. I had never heard of asexuality or demisexuality when I was your age. Just knew I had less interest in sex than others I knew. Wishing you joy and happiness in life🤗🤗

@elissahunt 2 жыл бұрын

You guys are awesome. I don't know why KZfaq put your video in my feed, but I'm glad they did. My sister told me last year that she is asexual. It took me a little while to process what that meant (she generously answered my questions) but I never once even thought to say, "Oh, you just haven't met the right person." I mean, that's patronizing, demeaning, and just plain rude. It makes me happy that you two found each other.

@krpbdp 2 жыл бұрын

You two are so cute together and it is remarkable that you have found each other; congratulations and best wishes for a very happy, long marriage.

@eawillis 2 жыл бұрын

Gentlemen, you did an awesome job. Your honesty is appreciated. Your information was helpful. Religion screws up so many people. Glad you have moved beyond the guilt that some wish to associate with a non-heterosexual lifestyle. I wish you a long, happy, and fulfilling relationship!

@michaoz1002 2 жыл бұрын

OMG I can't believe I didn't see that video before Just seeing your dynamics is fantastic, as an ace guy this video gave me so much hopes and things too look forward too Also it is nice to hear someone with so similar experiences 😊

@aeron0828 2 жыл бұрын

This video just appeared on my recommendation.. and it answered a lot of my questions and I am so happy I can relate!!!

@Selfemployedmildautisticartist 2 жыл бұрын

4sure me to things well put

@dbh6668 2 жыл бұрын

A family member has expressed that they believe they are asexual and I wish to understand/provide support. This was useful, thank you.

@MrJackrlove 2 жыл бұрын

Very intelligent discussion of human behavior on a broad and individual scale.

@egxmoon Жыл бұрын

5:16 This is me. I'm 21 years old and also sometimes I have these thoughts. But I still wait patiently. Whatever has to happen, what happens, I don't close the doors

@shawnstevens5668 2 жыл бұрын

I like how you both said that people mentioned that you haven't met the right person. I'm glad you met an asexual man that makes you happy. Good strong relationship you have with each other. This relationship looks solid and long term. I see yall together till one passes.

@mariom6884 2 жыл бұрын

I loved this video,guys.Very interesting and new for me.Thank you.You're both adorable.Love and respect from Brazil.

@lisawanderess 2 жыл бұрын

Team awkward squared I think you did awesome too! Love you both for shining light on Ace life so eloquently. Sending you both hugs from this old ace chick in Australia. 🤗

@irangel1958 2 жыл бұрын

awkward but adorable (actually, pretty good both of you)...thanks for sharing part of your lives

@tomdelisle8955 2 жыл бұрын

Nice talk. Relationships and sexuality come in many forms. Interesting to hear your guy's experience. And yes, you two are way too cute.

@mtlman12 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you! What an incredible discussion. I am completely unfamiliar with the term "Asexuality". After hearing you both, I think that I may have taken that path in my youth. I am in my 60s, grew up in a morman country town and couldn't come out until I was almost 50. I've never had an open relationship. Every one has had to be secretive. I was never able to date men. I put on a hetero disguise most of my life. You are so lucky to have found each other and I wish you the fullest life.

@gavvo-7640 2 жыл бұрын

Oh wow! Devin & Elijah - you guys :) You two are soooo lucky to have found each other! I'd love to meet a guy who isn't that bothered by sex but still wants the connection and to just cuddle up. What an awesome couple you make together awww. Big hugs to you both xx

@kyrvhy 2 жыл бұрын

Just happened upon your channel. Yay! Many years ago as a young man and "fully sexual" I met a guy who was asexual and I had no Clue. The kicker was that he had permission, sort of, from his boyfriend to hook up with me and I really didn't understand what was Not happening with us until it finally did. Very confusing for me and at that time there really was not much awareness of asexuality. Now I understand completely and am really glad to see your posting and to hear both your stories. You guys are so sweet and I with you all the best in your life together.

@esiole_poiu 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! I told my mother I was asexual a while back, she already knew I was gay and was fine with it, but when I told her I was an asexual, she just laughed “Honey, sex is beautiful. Your just not old enough to understand.”😑 Trust me, I love her, but still. I can’t stomach watching two people kiss on tv or do “the deed”. I could never even imagine holding someone’s hand, let alone doing that. I loved your video, it explained everything so well and helped me understand myself more:)

@marilyna.1358 2 жыл бұрын

Very nice young fellows. Adorable couple. You do not seem at all awkward just very natural. You are very dignified in your presentation which could help so many folks especially those raised in religious dogma. Happy for you both. Thank you for sharing.

@john7027 2 жыл бұрын

Hi guys, Just had you pop up and thought I would see what you were about. I found this most interesting especially because I am not totally understanding about Asexual. Very much enjoyed this video with two very nice down to earth real people. So that you can help me I am subscribing and look forward to your content. You both are very sweet and adorable. Thank you for sharing and will be watching. All the best guys.

@corygiesbrecht5423 2 жыл бұрын

Preach! My views line right up with you guys! Thanks for sharing I found it very interesting. I hear you on trying to explain yourself to others and they pretty much send you to the mental hospital! "12 years without sex!?!?" It is so annoying 🙄. Again thanks for this video! Bless you both!

@vyvy840 9 күн бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing. I love learning about asexuality!

@MrFr2323 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video! My 56-year-old brain is blown. I never realized there were options and a spectrum. I will reach out on Instagram as well. Sending two huge cuddle hugs! 🤗🤗

@aNFTraining 2 жыл бұрын

This was actually quite educational....ty for that brain scratcher. Had no idea that it was on a spectrum basics, clearly different from just "I'm not in the mood".

@T-41 2 жыл бұрын

You are a delightful, super cute couple. Thanks for sharing your story. Wonderful to see guys who seem comfortable in their own skin.

@sarahelizabeth7638 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story. It is good to safely hear of other experiences.

@kevindigo22 2 жыл бұрын

To both of you, great video, not something I had expected, but glad that I found you and watched. It was fascinating. So Devin, you say Elijah is your "husband"? Are you actually legally married? Or is that your way of defining your relationship? I thought you would have talked about your relationship more in this video, but maybe you have already talked about this in earlier videos. Now, please allow me to prove my ignorance about asexuality. So I gather that you two are in a loving relationship, where you both have an emotional desire to be with each other, just without the lust and urges to express that love through sexual activity with each other. Is that a reasonably accurate way to describe your relationship and what you get from each other? My assumption about asexuality had always been that asexual people are single by choice, they prefer not to be in a relationship. But you both appear to be happy to be in a relationship, just without the hot and heavy sex part of it. Thanks again, great video!

@martinfisher7193 2 жыл бұрын

You are very lucky to have each other! I'm 56 years old. Back in the day we didn't know that it was "okay" to not want to do "it." I've been in an asexual relationship for 14 years now. Stay strong! Stay happy!

@Kee900_ 9 ай бұрын

You two are so precious!! Thanks for helping give me more hope I can find an ace partner!!

@ojyochan 2 жыл бұрын

I think it's wonderful you both are sharing your experiences. You're 100% correct our culture is hypersexual and there's nothing wrong or not normal about a lack of interest in sex.

@pacificodelnorte6628 2 жыл бұрын

You guys are too cute! As someone who is also A-Spec (biromantic graysexual), which I didn't figure out until 15 years ago, it's so nice to see an actual A-Spec couple (homoromantic ace [maybe gray-ace] young men). Thank you so much for sharing! ♠⬆

@stevefreedman470 2 жыл бұрын

You boys are just tooooo cute....all I can say is just be yourselves and enjoy life....youre both so young and you have your whole lives to look forward to. Be happy and loved the video..😊👌🌈🐻🐻🐻🐻

@cookiecat7759 5 ай бұрын

I’m aroace and I love seeing elder aces talk about their experiences !!! :)))

@Richie07a1 2 жыл бұрын

P.S. love your chemistry and cuteness!

@DocTgo5 2 жыл бұрын

"I think we did pretty good".... Yes... Yes you did ! ! Great video.

@andywillis3723 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the insight and sharing your personal experiences. Wonderful see some charming southern gentleman...

@ghostedflower6295 2 жыл бұрын

Omg i relate to this so much...i had a similar experience in high school...and you both make me feel a bit reassured too :) im sure there r other asexuals out there

@DaniParducci 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! 💜🖤

@jdmand9733 2 жыл бұрын

I've been asexual all of my Gay life. I didn't have the identity until in the lazt few years with so much talk of gender spectrum. I've been enjoying your videos. At age 61 now I've not thought of seeking a partnership. Seeing the two of you is very encouraging. Devin I am also an introvert and a highly sensitive person. For many years I denied who I was. The result was much depression and anger. I was hurting myself and confounding people close to me. I admire that so early in your life you're so self aware.

@devin_eatman98 2 жыл бұрын

I wish you the best of luck on your journey! Thank you for the kind words❤️😊

@briananthony4044 Жыл бұрын

Same here, 66, introvert and highly sensitive as well. Male female sex repulses me, but so does male male sex. What sex I have had I have never become emotionally involved.

@LadyNikitaShark 2 жыл бұрын

Someone very near and dear to me came out to me as ace and probably aro(their words). This does help me understand them a little bit more bc tbh, I don't know what to say more then "you can talk to me" . There is so much pressure on men (hetro&queer) to be sexual. You look lovely together.

@Yaakovrenteria1 2 жыл бұрын

This was absolutely helpful!!!

@mhaynes22 2 жыл бұрын

Lovely couple, thanks for sharing your lives, definitely subscribing

@andrewbiroc4969 2 жыл бұрын

Great video!! Good to know all of this, as I am also asexual too!

@Selfemployedmildautisticartist 2 жыл бұрын

We all rock but I literally bi rock 🎸 bisexual musician other then that not trying to be rude just silly And ya loved this video

@carlmichaels6562 2 жыл бұрын

I think it's human nature to think everyone just has to be like you. Anything different than we are just seems unusual. Hopefully, as time goes by we'll learn to be more open minded to accepting that sometime is truly just NOT like us. Thankfully. And it's just fine. Loved your video. Very informative.

@jimmyrayterryjr989 2 жыл бұрын

You guys are cute and courageous. Thank you for sharing.

@damonturnbull5903 2 жыл бұрын

You're very sweet boys. I wish you both the greatest happiness.

@kylegawron5358 2 жыл бұрын

i like your glasses Elijah. looks good on you.

@alexcorrigan6974 2 жыл бұрын

I think this is so beautiful.

@michaelbahr7267 2 жыл бұрын

You two are so cute! I wish you all the best together!

@PinkyZAce 2 жыл бұрын

You two are so very lucky. Meeting another asexual is rare. Technical terms- fully sexual is known as allosexual. The definition currently accepted of asexuality is 'not sexually attracted to people'. Personally I use it to describe both my lack of attraction, and my lack of interest in having sex at all. (I'm sex repulsed). I hope you continue to make videos about asexuality. If gives the rest of us asexuals joy to see you!

@MAR7LO 2 жыл бұрын

Everyday I learn something new! 😊

@phily8093 2 жыл бұрын

I think you are both so adorable, and it's so lovely that you've found each other. All through my teens and 20s, I found moments of "intimacy" through many hook ups because I didnt have enough self esteem with my depression to be in a long term relationship. After being raped, and lots of therapy, I found someone who became my husband, but that turned into 7 years of abuse of one kind or another. I'm now desperately alone, and would give anything to have a man in my life just to be there for me emotionally and just cuddle me at night. If I never had sex again I could care less if I could have that. With all the problems I have now, both with my physical and mental health, it's highly likely that I will be alone for the rest of my life. Sorry for bringing down the mood. All the best guys. Take care. X

@richardkarnes5286 2 жыл бұрын

Phil, I am so sorry to hear about your struggles. Please be good to yourself. You deserve to get what you want out of life. Like you, sometimes all I want is to be held closely, to be in the arms of a man who knows and understands that I have moments when the most important thing in the world to me is just to be held. I hope you find that man. I hope that you will find happiness and healing. Please know, Phil that you have value and that you deserve to have that value recognized. The first person who has to recognize that value is you yourself. You deserve to be loved; you deserve to be held; you deserve to be happy. Thank you for sharing with all of us. If you stay silent, silence will be all that you possess. Blessings to you. Richard

@phily8093 2 жыл бұрын

@@richardkarnes5286 Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful response Richard. I really do appreciate it. There are so many good people in this world, and without the compassion of many of them, I know for certain that I wouldn't be sitting here typing now. It's responses and acts of kindness like yours that keep the world going. I try above all else to be kind, and empathy is one of the few worthwhile traits I believe I have. But with my depression I really do find it hard to be kind to myself. I admit that I do seek validation outside of myself, and that is not always healthy, and for some reason people with sociopathic/psychopathic tendencies are drawn to people like me who are sensitive, who constantly seek approval that will never be granted, however badly they are treated. I really hope that you too Richard find or have someone that gives you those hugs and holds you in the way that you need. All good hearts deserve another for company. Wishing you all the best. x

@richardkarnes5286 2 жыл бұрын

@@phily8093 Know that you are stronger than you think, but know that you are also very vulnerable to the sociopaths/psychopaths in our world. Part of your giving kindness to yourself should include self-protection. Part of your concept of self-value should be that you deserve to be safe, that NO ONE has the right to harm you physically or psychologically. The fact that you are kind and empathetic makes you shine as a human being and I can only imagine that you have made life easier for so many people around you. But you're right, there are those who will abuse that kindness. Do you have a therapist to help you with your depression? I certainly hope so, Phil. I have been blessed by several good therapists. Medication can be helpful, but sometimes just have a kind, caring person to talk to is of even greater help. Please don't hesitate to reach out for help. That should be part of your effort to be kind to yourself. Being kind to yourself means so many things. Never forget that being kind to yourself means taking care of yourself. If I could give you a hug through the Internet, I would. And I would remind you over and over again that you are a precious, valuable man. You say that your empathy is one of the few worthwhile traits that you have. I think you're probably selling yourself short. Sit down one day and ask yourself about the other worthwhile traits that you have. I find it hard to believe that that list will be short. Hang in there, Phil. Don't give up on yourself. We need good, sensitive men in the world and so we need you.

@jomccutcheon2173 2 жыл бұрын

Aw, you're both so cute, just b yourselves, be happy,,,

@khmarcum752 2 жыл бұрын

You both are so smart . I enjoy listening to you .

@MxEickley 2 жыл бұрын

Cuddling is the best

@JamesBerkley1 2 жыл бұрын

The irony is that I was drawn to this video because I was sexually attracted to you both but I applaud your openness and I think you guys are going to be very happy together for the rest of your lives so congratulations. I’ve been married to my husband for 31 years we are both very sexual but completely different in what we like so I can relate on a different level.

@jeffreymartin6369 2 жыл бұрын

I subscribed, just to learn more about this subject. I am very sexually motivated but age and being obese no one is interest any longer, so I I have no sex life now. I cannot relate to this, but I totally believe them and accept them. What a darling couple and I wish them much joy.

@RobertFleming 2 жыл бұрын

OMG, I love you guys! You’re cute and you get it. Thanks. 🙏 I lean more sexual, but I’ve never really taken the time to explore the possibility that I’m on the asexuality spectrum.

@poetinasia 2 жыл бұрын

It is always good to go to the wisdom of the philosophers. The French philosopher Montaigne wrote an essay "on friendship" in which, among other things, he says husband's and wives cannot be friends because of the sexual appetite which transforms them into sexual objects