Hope in slower format as well...

Here is a fun fact about asexuality + aromanticism that would also be cool to see in a video! Even before the 80's there was a musician called sun ra (1914 - 1993) who declared himself as "non-sexual". He ran a group of musicians who he called his arkestra, and they also noted how sun ra never had any relationships at all, he basically loved music more than the idea of romance. Although a lot of his music involved talk of love, it was always a larger concept than romantic love. (Brotherhood, universal acceptance, things like that.) He as been a big inspiration to me as an ace aro, and he also identified as a God lol, which i find funny because nowadays you see memes of people calling asexuals non-human and then the asexuals saying "Gods? Yes we must be Gods". Sun Ra was a God even before the memes lmao

I saw a really great Tiktok one time from an ace creator (she was literally wrapped in the ace flag) where she said "To all the people who think that the A in LGBTQIA stands for Ally. It doesn't, it stands for Asexual, Aromantic! Straight people, stop trying to insert yourselves in things that aren't for you!" and I just think that's a fabulous way of expressing it. Those straight people who claim that the A stands for Ally are almost as annoying as the "autism moms" who are neurotypical and use the "My child has autism, so I'm a superhero!" as a personality trait. xD

Seriously….? Ally is not a sexual identity xD

Me any time I hear this: well either we are sitting down and accepting that you are wrong or we are not talking ever again.

@@mariethedicedragon5977 Lol I love that! Luckily none of my friends have said that to me so I must be in good company.

i have never even seen the a

As a Sex Repulsed Panromantic Asexual myself. That sounds cool.

@@KyleEvra thet's way the Kinsey scale is 1-10 and not 0-10 . 0 is ace

@@KyleEvra Hello my fellow Asexual frying pan :D

"And he's been onto us since the beginning" - Comedian John Mulaney

Ayyy same

@@idktbh.2421 omg really whoo

Asexual biromantic here

Me too and only recently accepted/understood this part of myself!!

@@user-tj3po6yn3n i’m ace but sometimes i feel like i switch between aro and biaro and i’m wondering if there’s a term for that, demitomantic?

❤❤❤❤ We like being seen. It can be really hard for people to grasp what aromanticism is.

Sexy.❤❤❤ Hot.

Bisexual isn’t on the asexual spectrum

@@N08R76H that's not what they mean. They're on the asexual spectrum (i.e. somewhat asexual relative to the general population) but when they _are_ attracted to someone, those ppl may be men or women.

sameee!💜✨

I feel you, me too!! Yay for bi aces ❤️ bi Demi over here

@@PfEMP but doesn't that defeat the meaning of asexual? You either have sexual interest in people or not. I know that there is a difference between asexuality and aromance though. I know asexual doesn't mean that you can never be attracted to anyone ever, but I wouldn't label myself asexual if I already know that I can be attracted to someone. But I would be happy if you can correct me because these are just my conclusions based on what I've seen on the internet. Basically, I'm wondering who exactly falls under the label "asexual" (I know sometimes labels are stupid but I guess the ace community has to agree on something?). Would love to hear your answer, I'm curious😊

Also there was apparently an entire asexual manifesto (called the asexual manifesto) published in 1972. There were A LOT of black on white references to asexuality before 1981. Heck, there were workshops and academic papers dedicated to asexuality before then.

I made a longer comment but the OED has this: 1907 S. E. Jelliffe tr. J. Grasset _Semi-Insane & Semi-Responsible_ iii. 150 Between the heterosexuals and the homosexuals.., one might place the asexuals, those who have no sex, or those who wish to have none. The French original was published in the same year.

@@pattheplanter Thanks :)

I see Carl Schlegel has already been mentioned here Karl Ulrichs also sort of did this. He gave names to various identities in... Quite a strangely named system (but he was German, so oh well). We would've been a subset of Uranodionings if we got our term from his system, essentially a type of bisexual, assuming I'm understanding it correctly

Very much this. It can also feel like there is something inside you that is broken. Media and conversations with the people around us can be so incredibly saturated with things that a lot of us just... straight up don't experience. It can easily make you think something is wrong with you without realizing that it is because you weren't given an alternative to the sexualities you were always presented with. Being also aromantic meant it was hard to identify with a large amount of the media that the people around me consumed and spent their time speaking about.

Yes, this was said beautifully. Anyone who isn't a "typical straight" person probably receives hate at some point, but I feel like those of us on the Ace spectrum don't have a space anywhere. I rarely hear people say "they arent gay" but I hear very often that Ace people "just haven't had the right xyz" and thats frustrating.

Have you personally asked Jesus? If not, it's not cool to assume his identity.

@@erin6945 you’re joking right? First of all, how would I ask someone who is dead. Second, I am just speculating based off of evidence.

@@rebekahlovitt9540 Yeah, it seems that Jesus did not engage in any of that stuff. However, since its not an actual orientation or identity. it's just a choice you make. By choice, I mean, you don't feel the desire to do anything. Therefore you don't. He chose not to. As far as we know, He wasn't going around thinking, I'm asexual. Not to mention what does Jesus have to do with any of this?

Hey there! I think I'm straight (hard to tell when on the ace spec) but I find the thought of having sex with someone absolutely vile. I have only felt it wasn't with 2 people I felt very strongly for. Although even most of the time then, I was more often indifferent to it or only liked it when it made me feel close to those people. Despite this I've always been very sex positive and safe to say there's no internalised homophobia affecting my situation. From my point of view at least, you seem totally normal :D

@@thes0mething Thank you so much for sharing that! That sounds a lot like me too. Shockingly so. I never found it vile just was disinterested like when people talk about sports XD until I was really into a man and later a woman and both of those experiences I enjoyed in the moment. I had grown up in a very conservative area and had a crush on a girl when I was 8 . I kissed her and then was reprimanded by an angry adult and have struggled with my attraction to women since and it had become difficult to tell what was innate and what was trauma. My therapist basically said it is up to me to decide so I needed those other perspectives like yours. Thank you!

@@apk7961 I'm so sorry to hear that you were treated like that❤️ and I fully understand the confusion! I never understood how so many of my friends found celebrities "hot" etc😂 In my later teens I thought I was gay or bi for a while because I wasn't drawn to any men (nobody else either for that matter but I hadn't been introduced to the concept of asexuality yet). Sadly when I did fall in love I was relieved because I thought I wasn't broken after all. I'm happy to say that nowadays I'm very happy with my asexuality and wouldn't have it any other way! It's completely okay to be confused and figure yourself out. I don't quite 100% understand myself but nowadays it just kind of amuses me😂 I relate to the "sports" comment! luckily I only find it vile when I think about me participating. Otherwise I usually couldn't care less or I find it really funny

I completely understand your point about not being sure whether you're on the ace spectrum or just scared to do stuff until you can trust people. Continuing the TMI thread -- I also think I'm demisexual bc very very rarely do I want to have sex with people (even if I'm attracted to them or have a big crush). BUT also: Having a serious fear of abandonment, a mainly anxious-preoccupied attachment style, low self-esteem, and having been sexually assaulted during multiple early sexual experiences, I also question if these are the reasons for my demisexuality or if the demi came first (chicken or egg ??). I don't have the solution. I'm not sure the reason for not wanting to have sex without attachment actually matters tho, as long as I accept that that's my disposition and don't attempt to change it. Also I try to get out of my head about these things and just do what I want in the moment (or things I have had a sustained desire for) with whomever I feel comfortable with.

Additionally, I get the internalised homophobia point too bc I believe I'm way more into the opposite sex than my same sex but also there's a lot of homophobia around me so sometimes idk if that's my real disposition or I just try to conform.

Sameeee and we are both (I'm assuming by ur account name lol) called Elizabeth!

Interesting :)

Oooo. That’s really interesting. The 1903 article tho….🤨

Clearly it's time travel because obviously there's *no way* asexuals aren't just straight people who want attention!

Literally same. So glad I can listen to her voice while watching videos about things I find cool. It's a win win

I realized I am ace in maybe the lamest way possible, reading a fan fiction of a cartoon! Glad it's out there

Our Grey and Demi friends are totally legit! Have a wonderful day.

Same... What has twe world turned into?

Yay well done!

@@blacktipreef3996 an accepting place!

Same! Jaiden's recent video was, I think, the first time I saw someone in media really talk about it. I never really realized I wanted to be acknowledged like that. And the anger a lot of people in the LGBT community seems really weird to me, too. I don't get it.

no, i’m an asexual guy as well, and the lgbtq community is for all genders.

@@mx_nana_banana thank you

Nothing wrong with ya, friend. 35 year old asexual guy here.

Not exactly. Nuns come in all sorts of sexual orientations. Many had children or a significant other or both before joining a convent.

What are the 4 types? Homo, hetero, bi and asexual? Just wondering😊

How do you scientifically prove an orientation? (Not trying to argue that asexuality doesn't exist, I am ace, just not sold on the idea that there are only 4 orientations that are somehow scientific)

@@ryn2844 maybe through scientific research? Idk I heard it before for other animals that science has evidence for things like homosexuality and polyamorous relationships. I guess that watching animal's mating behaviour can also be done with humans, although I have no specific idea how that would work. Studies and questionnaires, I could imagine.

@@moongirl8807 I'm just saying that it's kind of impossible to know whether someone experiences attraction to one gender or another without just asking them. Sexual behavior doesn't equal attraction, and several animal species can literally naturally switch biological sexes over the course of their lives, so not everything they do is applicable to us. So if we're going to go on questionnaires, why would we take ace, bi, gay and straight people seriously when they tell us about their orientations, but not the rest? How would you go about scientifically proving or disproving demisexuality, for example? Would you just give a questionnaire to a bunch of demisexuals? Would you go observe frogs? Would you go look for historic evidence of people having written about demisexuality in the past? Why would their opinions have more weight than the opinions of people who live now? What would your bar for 'this counts as scientific evidence' be? Why is your bar higher than: 'Well this person experiences this, so it must be a thing then.'

@@ryn2844 Well, I'm not an expert myself since I'm not a scientist, but there are researches in the area of sex that measure different patterns of attraction and classify them. That applies not only to sexual orientations but to researching sexuality in general. According to some sources there are 4 main patterns in human attraction based on sex of the potential partner: heterosexuality, bisexuality, homosexuality and asexuality. Of course, these are main classifications cuz generally most sexualities are spectrum instead of a switch. But stuff like pansexuality is commonly regarded like an identity on bisexual spectrum, that's why identities and orientations are separated. Also, when we talk about sexuality it's important to note that the romantic orientation isn't taken into consideration. I can link you to American institute of bisexuality providing explanations, if you consider the source credible enough.

I didn't realize she got hate for it, though unfortunately I'm not suprised.

Wait.. Why?!?!? Her video was really good!!

@@randomhuman_05 Ikr, ot actually helped me realize that I was also aroace

yes but this is referring to the meaning as a sexuality

Yeah, it should be "*that term used in reference to human sexuality" but this is a 40-sec long video. and you can easily pick it up from the context so I think it's fine.

@@shenree1178 i'm just very surprised that she considers the 80s a long time ago

@@venus1813 well she was born in the 1980’s, so for her it is a lifetime ago. 😀

@@venus1813 in relation to sexuality and how it's changed over time that is a log time ago honestly, think how much has changed since then

No bitches by choice

No... just no

@@inexistentexistence9941 it’s not by choice though

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