I’m so alone and deeply hurt. I grew up raised in the Protestant faith tradition, traditional apostolic Pentecostalism. I’m so hurt having started Coming out around 37, divorce and reshaping family, all because I couldn’t be me because “the decision was made for me.” 😞 So much emotional and mentally PTSD, so much loss. And now single, and alone.

My uncle just came out much later in life and I had never considered how difficult it is to wait. I am in my 20’s and just now got into my first relationship w a woman/ came out to a close family member and I feel like I waited so long! Thank you for the encouragement 🙏🏼💜

You are painfully underdiscovered. I hope more and more queer people find your videos because they are absolutely NEEDED. You're amazing, all love keep going I'm sure you'll get big some day !!!!

Yay, Kelly! What about "late bloomer lesbian"? lol. I'm glad you said this because I've seen 20 year olds describe themselves as "late". I was like "Whaaa?" My friend and I were having this conversation and I said "I mean what is considered LATE, really?" If you haven't sorted it out by puberty? Seriously who sets the standard? We live in a more accepting time than one or two generations so people are expressing themselves younger-but if you've lived with familial, societal and religious oppression your entire life, you can expect it may take decades to sort through. If ever for some .

I’m currently in the processes of coming out. It’s partly freeing but also scary.

I think what you have to say is amazing. I have seen 3 therapist who were no where helpful or knowledgabe as you. Your channel can help lots of people who have no insurance. Hope you will continue the good work

Even though I came out in my mid-twenties, in a lot of ways, I feel like a "late-bloomer Lesbian". I had been in a committed relationship with a then-identifying-as man for all of my adult life and we'd been considering ourselves family, planning to marry eventually etc. etc. Pulling the trigger on upending all of this was not easy. And it left a lot of people, including me, with a lot of heartbreak. It also liberated me to an extent I cannot even describe. Being in that relationship, I didn't even REALIZE how unfulfilled and trapped and uncomfortably-sexualized, while also desexualizing myself, I felt. I LOVE my life now. And I am proud of my bravery

Thank you for your content, it is really helping me. I always knew I was bisexual but I figured I would 'come out' once I actually had a girlfriend. Being very introverted and not 'out', I just had a few opposite-sex relationships, and now at 33 I am very settled with a man. It has recently occurred to me that I've kind of missed the boat and now I don't really know what to do with that part of my identity.

Great video,thank you! I'm just shy of fifty and it feels like everyone is so young.

Wow I’m glad that this topic has been made more aware for me. I think this video is great and I think it will be helpful for ppl who might be looking for this exact topic. Awesome work, you. Are me feel valid and your videos have helped me a lot.

Thank you so much this helped me a lot I’m almost 28 years old and I’m finally ready to Come out to the world

That was so comforting and applicable to my life situation at the moment. Thank you!

OMG I'm glad I found you. I am very nervous n this comforts me.

This. This is such an important conversation. Thank you so much for sharing this. I hope to be that gracious friend if I have someone around me that comes out later in life...

thanks for this! it was sent to me through a network of late-blooming dads - amazing folk, too bad we're so scattered around the world! Anyway I thought you were going to take a different direction at the start re "later in life" peeve - i thought you were going to say how you hate that teens don't feel that coming out is an option at all, and are "stuck" building a suppressed life for so long. because that's how i feel - angry and sad and self-pity that i tried to deny it for so long!!

Congratulations on your 50 videos! 🎉🚀

I came out a few years ago and have only been in one gay relationship since then. It was intense and a lot and brought me to therapy and we parted ways. As a recent 30 year old, sometimes I still regret not coming out as a teen and having those experiences. But that isn't to say great experiences aren't out there waiting to happen. It's just figuring out how to get them in a post Tinder/Grindr world. I also need to learn that I idolise queer films and books as painting such a positive picture of homosexuality, but as somebody who grew up in the 90's, in a small English town, it just wasn't like that. If I had come out, it wouldn't have been roses. Somewhere in there, I can find a way to reconcile past and present me to make my future just a little better.

Thanks for being there ☀🗣🌈🤝

I'm 49 years old, have always had relationships with men but have never felt truly comfortable with intimacy and sexually have never been satisfied, if anything at all I spent years trying to avoid that side of the relationship all the while telling myself its because I feel unattractive as I'm both overweight and disabled. In my 20s I came close to an experience with a girl who I felt 'tingly' whenever we were together, but I told myself it was wrong and threw myself into a disastrous and abusive longterm relationship with a man. I'm struggling with myself and feeling like I'm just never supposed to feel tingly again and even though I fantasize about being with a woman how do I know its not simply that? Everyday it niggles me now as I'm no spring chicken and what about the consequences of coming out as bi or lesbian? I'm in UK and can't seem to find a place online to chat and get answers... Its tough and lonely

"later in life" vs "in maturity", "in adulthood", "as an oldeer person"

It took me decades. I wanted it to be anything but that. I was terrified and finally outed by an accidental circumstance... a month ago. I feel like I made it to the middle of a mine field and can't remember the steps I took to end up there and can't follow them back out.

Thank uou for this video! At the ripe age of almost 27, I've realized and am coming to terms that I'm a lesbian. It's been a spiral since I feel like I missed soo much but this video made me feel better!

I always knew I was different. I love feminine things. Started dressing at around 7-8, first time I went in public as a girl was 16. Then used to cross dress in mid twenties. Was supported by now exwife and was considered very passable as long as I kept my mouth closed. Buried many of my interests and kept it that way almost 30 years. Did still do some feminine things. Never even though about being trans. Read a couple articles and examined my likes and thought process. Came out to wife and do not have her support. So kinda in limbo for at least a few months and get holidays out of the way. Brianna

I know it’s a on year old video. But really want to share my thoughts. I discovered being neurodivergent, non binary, trans and aroace during the pandemic. For myself it was so liberating. I’m so happy that my life finally makes sense to me. At the same time, I realized that it was the society I belonged that denied and rejected every piece of me. I have no interest in explaining to anyone. I just came out unapologetically and provocatively (according to them) on social media. My parents questioned me and they felt embarrassed. I simply don’t give a damn. I appreciate those who care, support and stay. Those who apply stigma on me, I consider them non existence. I’m almost 40 and starting new life. At least my work place is very supportive and I got so much of validation.

😭 I do have so much catching up to do though

I just came out (at 48) after 20 years of marriage, which has destroyed my marriage. I feel like I should've remained in my marriage, cause the pain and depression I'm going through now is just heart-wrenching. I don't know what to do. I haven't yet found a good therapist.

Hi Kelly, this is an important video. Coming out in later life can be really tough, and i am one such person, i still like women and actually prefer women's looks generally, however i am predominantly sexually attracted to men (the cuter, the better lol). So i am exiting my marriage of fifteen years (not due to my sexuality per se but due to a breakdown over time of relations with no emotional or sexual intimacy amongst other things) and i am still wondering whether a new start at aged fifty could or even should involve coming out to people and leading a queer life rather than entering into another heterosexual relationship and making it clear early on about my sexuality so as to not be hiding who i am to my partner. It all feels very confusing to be honest. I wonder whether i might desire a same-sex relationship but cannot handle the ramifications of it and the perception of me by others, or whether i might prefer an opposite sex relationship in order to feel comfortable and fit in with societal expectations. I am not even sure how i feel about either scenario to be quite honest.

Exwife supported my cross dressing. Current wife does not support it at all. Starting home laser hair removal and will continue on the path and see what else I can get worked in as time

I am mtf trans, and consider myself bi or pansexual. As I look back at it, things were becoming apparent when I was 13, but I was probably in my early 20s before I accepted or became fully aware of my same sex attraction. Even today, I am more likely to notice an attractive woman, but I am much more romantically attracted to men, though all of my romantic relationships have been with women. Could it be related to the fact that I am trans? Sometimes I'm not sure what the true nature of my attraction for women is. It's very confusing. How can I examine this and get to the bottom of it? Is this a typical thing for someone to go through? What could be causing it?

Iam came out quite unsurprisingly as a crossdresser but changed to bisexual now at 50 now 61 and married 34 years and come from a church environment . I should have gone to my doctor firstly who is a amazing , but didn't 😠 .....

Think I may be bi but I do not comply sure. Knowing what I know now looking back there were potential sines of being attracted to the same sex. Still, back then I did not know anything about bisexuality until much later in life and by then I had been going to church. You know in a lot of churches no sex before marriage which had its effect not to mention this feeling that curves every now and then were not acceptable. and since I am attracted to the opposite sex more often it was easy to push these urges to the side and just embrace my more acceptable ones more. The thing is I do not know if I did not pushes these down Would have just been that I was bi-curious or something more who knows but How do I deal with this now?

Post pandemic? When was this?