My Aspergers Diagnosis Journey: Part 2

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My Aspergers Diagnosis Journey: Part 2 - Revelation

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6 жыл бұрын

PART 2:
In this video I share a magical moment in my aspergers story. The big revelation came, not receiving an asd diagnosis, but by meeting other people on the spectrum.
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I'm compiling stories for a special project at the end of the month.
If you'd like to share your diagnosis story too please message me at aspergersfromtheinside@gmail.com :)
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// WELCOME TO ASPERGERS FROM THE INSIDE!!
My name is Paul and I discovered I have Aspergers at age 30.
If you're new you can check out a playlist of some of my most popular videos here: / aspergersfromtheinside
Yes, I know, I don't look autistic. That's exactly why I started this blog, because if I didn't show you, you would never know.
As the name suggests, this channel is devoted to giving you insight into the world of Aspergers.
This blog started off being just my story, but I've learned SO MUCH about my own condition
from meeting others on the Autism Spectrum that now I make sure to feature their stories as well.
I've come a long way in my own personal journey.
Now I'm sharing what I've found so you don't have to learn it the hard way too.
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// WHAT TO EXPECT FROM THIS BLOG
I value your time which means there are NO KZfaq ADS on my videos.
You can expect me to get the the point with concise useful information.
I focus on what is most important and don't shy away from difficult topics.
The best way to learn about Autism is to see it in real life ( i.e. via the stories of many, many people on the spectrum).
In this channel I endeavour to show you what Autism and Aspergers look like in real people and to also give you some insight as to what's happening on the inside.
I upload a new video every weekend with some bonus content thrown in mid-week too.
There's always new stuff coming through so be sure to check back and see what you've missed. (Is this where I'm supposed to tell you to hit that subscribe button?)
Topics Include:
- What is Aspergers/Autism?
- Aspie Tips, coping strategies, and advice on common issues
- Learning Emotional Intelligence (this is my special interest!)
- Autism in real life: stories from special guests
Everything I do is and endeavour to go deeper and take you 'behind the scenes' to understand what may, at first glance, seem 'odd'.
oh, and I love busting stereotypes and turning preconceptions upsidedown :)
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// ABOUT ME
I discovered I have aspergers at the age of thrity.
It has been my life's mission to understand these funny creatures we call humans.
My special interest is a combination of emotional intelligence, psychology, neuroscience, thinking styles, behaviour, and motivation. (I.e. what makes people tick)
My background is in engineering and I see the world in systems to be analysed.
My passion is for taking the incredibly complex, deciphering the pattern, and explaining it very simply.
My philosophy is that blogging is an adventure best shared.
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// EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE TRAINING
I also run autism friendly online emotional intelligence training. So if you like my direct, systematic style, and would like to improve your own emotional intelligence skills, check it out here:
emotionsexplain...
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// CONTACT
Blogging is an adventure best shared which means I'd love to hear from you!
Feel free to leave me a comment or send me and email at any time and I'll do my best to respond promptly.
Email: aspergersfromtheinside@gmail.com
Thanks for reading and I hope you enjoy this channel!
I look forward to hearing from you!
Peace,
~Paul

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@autismfromtheInside 6 жыл бұрын

Would you like to share your diagnosis story too? I'm compiling stories for a special project at the end of the month. To be involved simply message me or reply to this comment and I'll give you more info! :)

@sbsman4998 6 жыл бұрын

Love to....

@jeremiasrobinson 5 жыл бұрын

I am going through the process of diagnosis now. See my channel to find out a little about me.

@MarkLewis... 5 жыл бұрын

I really wanted to watch and absorb your 2 videos... But my vacillation from intense focus to complete distraction controls me. Thanks for trying....

@Golden-Eagle781 5 жыл бұрын

I'm processing. Labels can be used to abuse.

@1mizuka6 4 жыл бұрын

Your story is fascinating. I have worked with folks who have autism, asbergurs etc. Folks like me need to hear from folks like you. I’m retired now but still have contact with folks I have supported. I would love to hear thatfolks like you were sharing your story who need these insights.

@jodo1971 4 жыл бұрын

It hurts when people perceive you as emotionless or robot like, when in fact your overburdened with emotion and feeling. I'm often accused of this and it hurts me very much.

@shimmerngspirit 2 жыл бұрын

My mother told me I was switched at birth with a Russian baby because I'm so cold. Alls I could think was that she didn't know me at all.

@beandoll 2 жыл бұрын

I understand you. I'm with you in this!

@edwigcarol4888 2 жыл бұрын

Same with the difference between a self-centered generosity (ASD) and a social awareness of others paired with a selfish manipulation of the latter in the aim of taking one's own advantage (NTs)

@edwigcarol4888 2 жыл бұрын

But one can have one's short kind of shutdown out of fatigue. I do. I am no longer there mentally, emotionally: i am resting in fact. This is rare by me, but it is taken as an offense. Better social withdrawal then.

@glamaz0n 4 жыл бұрын

OMG. I am in my early 70's. I am a professional graphic designer, (still employed, lol) and I have enjoyed a long, beautiful, healthy life, while wondering from time to time if I am on the spectrum. I connect organically with things like your "semi-circle" and being told it was a "half-circle", or your division of the rectangle diagonally. I did the exact same thing, with the same exact results! Anyway, an even earlier indicator was when I was a toddler and walking in the neighborhood with my mother, she'd say, "Now, Pammy, watch the cars!" and I would stand perfectly still and look at the cars. Then she would say "What are you doing? Let's go!" and I would say "You told me to watch the cars, so that is what I am doing!" The literal interpretation of words. I've been puzzled by difficulties in communication all my life, and you have given me some insight, especially with your personal self-diagnosis, and your intuitive, low-key method of discovery, i.e. the support group. Thank you!

@BoobooSnafu 4 жыл бұрын

No - you weren't rambling... I was feeling your words! I was going "yes. Yes - they don't get it" "yes - this 'aspergers from the inside ' is a FLIPPING BRILLIANT IDEA!!! More people with autism should do!

@bellaluce7088 9 ай бұрын

Totally agree! This was so powerful for me to hear!

@jjaus 4 жыл бұрын

This is so relatable. I have always been "weird". Now I understand why. I am lucky I have found a partner who is also like me. The problem is - if it is a problem - is that we don't care. Naturally our social life is very limited and we rarely go out, but that's not such a problem.

@cynthiastogden7000 3 жыл бұрын

So true. Self isolating is no big deal to me. I have my animals friends.

@mattneufeld3399 3 жыл бұрын

I just came out to my parents about being on the spectrum. Mom said " So you hate people and you're not interested in friendships?" Dad argued endlessly about it being introversion and not autism. So, I guess I'm going to seek a diagnosis. For them, not for me.

@shortycareface9678 2 жыл бұрын

I've had my autistic struggles dismissed as being "introversion" my entire life. My parents still don't know; I'm just now starting my diagnosis process. And I've rejected the term "introvert" while referring to myself.

@alinass4494 5 жыл бұрын

He seems to me more normal than regular people in a sense of being more humane, kind and smart :)

@unodos4331 4 жыл бұрын

Just like my dear sweet Dad! Indeed aspies are often knoble and kind people:)

@BoobooSnafu 4 жыл бұрын

@@unodos4331 VERY MUCH SO!!!! The popular belief that predominated for YEARS, was that people on the spectrum weren't very emotional or sympathetic. Which is rubbish! They feel INCREDIBLY DEEPLY!!!! - 100% And their ethics are usually impeccable! I've NEVER met an autistic person that was cruel or deliberately mean. They dont steal, and lying is pointless.

@unodos4331 4 жыл бұрын

@@BoobooSnafu agreed...100%

@Peristerygr 4 жыл бұрын

@@BoobooSnafu Telling a lie generally needs more social skills than telling the truth. That is why aspies suck at lying. Now about stealing, it depends from the individual yet aspies lower social skills make it more difficult to cover up the action of stealing, so generally aspies avoid it too... most of the time.

@BoobooSnafu 4 жыл бұрын

@@Peristerygr Hmm🤔....I'd never considered it from a requirement of a certain ammount of social skills.... Perhaps. I was more in the belief that (and this is quoting only two aspies), "it's pointless, it's wrong",, one even mentioned that "life was hard enough finding the truth, why would I jeopardise it with lying, I've been told that more often than not, their feelings and thoughs on matters are quite defined... Their opinions and feelings are more black and white - than the average neurotypical person - who by contrast, can have many shades of grey, and they are more likely swayed or tempted by other factors. A spies know their decision on a matter, and that's that. But considering what you said - maybe it's not purely ethical standards, maybe it is that they are not as aware of subtle nuances that others are, and calculating exta info I nto it is more trouble than its worth 🤷‍♀️

@jenniferfalla9657 3 жыл бұрын

I suspected I had aspergers for many years. I have 7 children who also show signs of this amazing thing given to us by God. We are uniquely made. I homeschooled all of them until they were seniors in HS. Since they all had it (I didn’t know but suspected) I was able to encourage them to explore everything they were interested in. So now I have engineers, nurses, psychologists in professional capacities in all of my children. Happy healthy and loved. They are so diverse, 2 of them had careers and are now retired at the ripe age of 28 and 32 and are exploring other careers. It’s so fun to watch and I’m so proud of them. Sometimes they do act a little out there but its just based on their unique selves and what God has blessed them with in their brains. Thanks for this channel and more clarity. I feel validated.

@jeanlittle405 6 жыл бұрын

"You're not crazy....this is actually a real thing..." Very well said! Being misunderstood CONSTANTLY is the life of an Aspie. Excellent video.

@autismfromtheInside 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks Jean! :)

@paulmichaelfreedman8334 5 жыл бұрын

Amen to that dude. I feel i am misunderstood very very often. I have a real hard time verbally expressing feelings.

@levibull6063 5 жыл бұрын

I have aspergers and family in australia my grandparents rang me and asked for my bank details and i almost well basiclly broke down because i dont understand the sort code and such And OMG xD the go to the shops and they dont have what you needed thats a total panic situation for me xD i was diagnosed at ten but basiclly had no support but now im trying to get it

@daredawg3776 5 жыл бұрын

People like me but sometimes when i say something i mean something else but people get the wrong idea and get mad at me

@Peristerygr 4 жыл бұрын

@@daredawg3776 That happens to me many times. Occationally when people understand something else from what I am saying I am going with what they understood if it isn't or doesn't sound offensive.

@usedcolouringbook8798 2 жыл бұрын

I just recently found your channel and it's like having an audio diary but with a nice Australian accent. So much of what you share about your thought process and solutions are almost identical to what I had to learn to do to be able to interface with society.

@brianuke2301 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. As a dad of a 5 y.o on the spectrum, these kinds of videos from others on the spectrum on youtube has really helped me understand my son, which helps me be a better dad to him

@melissad8824 5 жыл бұрын

This resonates completely with me too. Learning about ASD online and taking the online quizzes all point to a very loud and resounding YES I am autistic (and probably not even all that high functioning considering I haven't had a job in 20+ years). But my family all give me the look and tone of total disbelief with a high dose of "you are just a little bit crazy" when I try to list examples of how I am autistic. To the point where it might even be worth a few thousand dollars just to get an official diagnosis. And yet ASD explains me so well that if some professional said I wasn't autistic, I would probably break down in tears and be utterly crushed. It's not that I want a medical excuse for the way I am. It's that it so perfectly explains the way I am, and I want to be able to offer outside, unbiased, expert evidence that backs me up when I say "stop trying to shove me into your NT box! I don't work that way, and ASD is why!" I've always been labeled the weird one, never understood why I didn't fit in no matter how hard I tried or how many books I read and took copious notes from on how to make friends and hold a conversation and be a good listener. Understanding that I'm autistic has, for the first time in my life, helped me truly feel that I am not broken.

@thecreativemastermin 4 жыл бұрын

I am having happy tears for probably the first time in my life.

@DarrellGrainger 2 жыл бұрын

I've recently been talking to my family about how they perceive me. My sister would tell me, basic on her observations, how I was feeling. She was totally wrong. I explained to her what I was feeling. She acknowledge that certain behaviour in me meant something different then that same behaviour in her husband. Understanding that neuro-typical people, who care about me, treat me in a way I find very confusing because they misread me. They got frustrated with me because they did the "right" thing but I got frustrated and angry.

@livingcleanhomestead4960 Жыл бұрын

Watching your videos makes me incredibly emotional. That strong desire to fit in and be understood is overwhelming at times. I'm struggling to fit in and find my place in this world. I'm struggling to find a job that is a fit for me. I want to be loved and accepted as who I am rather than who I am try to be to fit in.

@susibul5320 6 ай бұрын

I am in tears, your words are lovely.

@angelalopez2003 5 жыл бұрын

I believe my son, 28, has Aspergers, and just watching you move as you talk about this reminds me so much of him. It's like movement helps him think.

@terhiherukka2476 5 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I personally find that I can think much better if i’m moving.

@vericacvetkovic9093 4 жыл бұрын

@@terhiherukka2476 Thats perfectly normal. Some ppl are audio or visual learners and some prefer to move. Kinetic learners. I think thats what they call it. I find Paul perfectly fine, maybe more intelligent than d rest of ppl.

@MomoKunDaYo 4 жыл бұрын

For me, moving helps retain focus. If I'm shaking my leg or playing with my fingers, or scrathcing a particular part of my body, even just walking around during conversation, it helps retain focus on the particular subject, it keeps my body busy so my mind can focus more. It's something similar to a security blanket, its a tangible grounded sense, that can hold you together.

@creepsnocturnal8063 4 жыл бұрын

I also have a suspicion that many geniueses were aspies... They dared to think outside the box... They were laser focused... They, many times, had odd social behavior. I'm just saying.

@heathergiunta7563 6 жыл бұрын

Rambling is okay, rabbit holes lead to interesting points too.

@autismfromtheInside 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the feedback! It's hard to know how far 'off topic' is ok before it becomes an issue :)

@forgiven212 5 жыл бұрын

@@autismfromtheInside If that's a "sign", I'm scoring once again. That's how I Verbalize how I think... talking it through and evolving with new ideas...

@carolmcdonald8288 5 жыл бұрын

I was hanging on the edge of my seat about to hear the deep revelation and you stopped and said you were rambling! 😃 But I will keep watching and listening. I’m learning!!

@poppyEars 4 жыл бұрын

Honestly if youre gonna watch an autie youtuber you should just be prepared for rambling and rabbit holes,,,

@c4p4c1t1v3 4 жыл бұрын

youtube recommended this to me. it is obviously a diagnosis

@HunnyBee23 4 жыл бұрын

Rofl 😂 That's hilarious

@kristivice5150 4 жыл бұрын

Hah! This video popped up for me as well! I diagnosed my younger sister, and then she sought and received a formal diagnosis. I took a test once that scored me high in Aspergers traits and high in empathy traits; the test author described people like me as rare and rarely successful! I recently watched The Irishman by Scorsese and I suspect, “it is what it is.”

@dandahlen3532 2 жыл бұрын

Wow. I so relate to everything you say. It is so comforting to hear your take on all of the experiences and evaluations both internal and external. It really is difficult when people close to us diss our evaluation. They do diss the validity and the significance of the diagnosis. Thanks for your willingness to share your life experience with us. You really are amazing.

@Keith_Mikell 4 жыл бұрын

Im 39 and just realizing in 2018. I had a sickness and someone else who had the same sickness was talking to me on fb from across the nation. He asked me if i ever thought i had Aspergers bc he thought he had it too. Thats when i looked into it. I kinda grazed over it though. I cant believe i went through my entire school career like this, and still skimmed by. I go tuesday this week for an appt for testing.. You've been alot of help Paul!

@sandrairizarry4658 3 жыл бұрын

3 of my 4 kids are on the spectrum. You remind me of my oldest. You are a wonderful human being and I enjoy your videos very much and have passed them on to my kids.

@jeremiasrobinson 5 жыл бұрын

You said that people "need to meet people on the spectrum in real life". I suspect everyone does know people on the spectrum, they just probably don't know that they do.

@Sky-Child 4 жыл бұрын

I love how open and honest you are. It's brave to be so vulnerable. I also love how you describe finding your tribe. I have that in my Mums on the Spectrum facebook group

@Feline713 6 жыл бұрын

I found out I have aspergers a year ago, but every time you talk about your aspie traits, I still want to scream OMG I TOTALLY RELATE TO THIS!!! in my computer. :-D

@autismfromtheInside 6 жыл бұрын

haha. nice :)

@forgiven212 5 жыл бұрын

I just did!

@piro_the_cat 4 жыл бұрын

I am crying again, thank you

@JAMQWERT 6 жыл бұрын

As a female my acceptance was a very different experience. I was labelled as "crazy/strange/odd" because I do things to my own tune (out of survival). But for all the complications my brain throws out, there is a whole world I get to experience that I know NT's can't see, so it's understandable why they act afraid of "difference". I accept their difference, because I can't see things the way they do, I just wish it was mutual understanding. I think the world would be a better place if everyone was as accepting as aspies are.

@akumaplantstudios8869 4 жыл бұрын

"I was so sure from that experience that I was on the spectrum. I started reading these books and telling off the books, and going No, that's not what's happening. That's what it looks like on the outside but that's not what's happening on the inside". I found myself in that position a few months ago. I remember reading something that really infurated me. I'm paraphrasing here, but it was something along the lines of "Autistic people have no empathy". The way the whole thing was written almost made it seem like "If you have an autistic child, you're basically caring for a machine". "It's not a child, it's cold and unfeeling". In the short time that I've been looking into this, that's a huge misunderstanding. I'll probably comment on what got me into this another time. However, from what I've come to find is this: Autistic people DO feel empathy. Problem is, if you struggle to express it, if you don't know how to utilise that socially. What do you do with it? What's right, what's over the line? We're sometimes talking about people here who struggle to put their own feelings into words, let alone their feelings for others.

@irrwisch73 5 жыл бұрын

So good to be able to watch your videos. Just realised I'm on the spectrum sind my son's been diagnosed. Hard but also very validating, finally know why I felt like the alien amongst peers.

@Golden-Eagle781 5 жыл бұрын

I think asperger is normal. What a nice group.

@justinevans6546 4 жыл бұрын

Gold Eagle I attest that the majority can in fact be incorrect

@thecreativemastermin 4 жыл бұрын

I hope you are able to see through the fact that this is just his story. Everyone else has different stories. Also, kindly don't call it normal. It just desensitises it. I think you mean Aspies are normal. Which I appreciate.

@Sganarell 5 жыл бұрын

The "not being believed" part REALLY hit a chord with me, thank you for that :) I going into therapy and diagnosis soon. I also internet diagnosed myself after my sister's therapist "diagnosed" her (even if the therapist doesn't have the authority to give her the piece of paper) So thank you for your vidéos, it helps a lot :)

@susanloveshuskies 5 жыл бұрын

Excellent information. I say there is a fine line between genius and special.

@idontwannapickanametho 8 ай бұрын

5:04 "i had a strategy for every situation" -- yes, exactly! I thought i didn't "script" because i didn't have literal word-for-word prepared dialogue, but i try to have a plan for every branching outcome. The grocery store example is so relatable

@MeepGenesis 6 жыл бұрын

This video helped me feel less crazy/alien. Thank you. Keep up the great work.

@autismfromtheInside 6 жыл бұрын

You're welcome! Glad you can relate :)

@anak_kucing101 3 жыл бұрын

Awww 😍 an anime profile picture.

@GeorgiosB Жыл бұрын

I understand now why I chose to work in the Software Engineering field. Thanks, Paul, for your videos. They really help me understand you, and me.

@lindalambert8727 3 жыл бұрын

73 years old and just diagnosed myself. Wish I had known this earlier. I have always wondered why I can’t seem to fit in anywhere.

@agrotta1650 6 жыл бұрын

Do you have a hard time going to bed because you are so engrossed in researching your interests or reading your books?

@magsdoesnotknow 6 жыл бұрын

A Grotta it's almost 4 am and I don't know everything there is to know about autism yet so no sleep for me :)

@acatssoftnose3940 5 жыл бұрын

@@magsdoesnotknow Lol same. I can only sleep by exhausting myself. I usually sleep around 4am too.

@forgiven212 5 жыл бұрын

Ahhh, YES. It becomes an obsession. Whatever it is. OR, turn into utter opposite of the prior obsession I discovered was WRONG... 🤔🤷🤦💃🤣

@ibjacked 5 жыл бұрын

Every day lol, and I'm almost 50. Be careful/mindful, it can take its toll over time.

@yourbore 5 жыл бұрын

Everyday!

@mattmorgan2525 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for posting this story and the rest of your channel. I'm 29 and basically going through this experience right now. It is wonderful to find that other people have a similar internal life to me.

@naomibedwell9383 2 жыл бұрын

As a mum who has just had her son diagnosed I feel the same. I’ve always been his advocate having his diagnosis is hopefully helping others to realise that he ( and we) arent imagining these things

@jojozepofthejungle2655 3 жыл бұрын

I'm so grateful to people like you for making the penny drop for me. Gracias

@rickdumas2142 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your TRUE gifts. You’re more “normal” than most of us, I would venture to guess.

@moriliveshere8414 4 жыл бұрын

I am 34 now, I was diagnosed at 26. I related to so much of what you said. Thanks for sharing.

@kimbazzani8697 4 жыл бұрын

Hello my grandson had aspergers and he is 15 , thank you for making these vidios it is helping me understand him .

@TheAphrodita 3 жыл бұрын

I like the information you provided about high frequency and hearing. Thanks.

@ViktorJ957 6 жыл бұрын

I think the worst discrimination against Aspies is the difficult process in getting a diagnosis. I hit me last night while I was at work after I was trying to explain to one of my managers that I may be on the spectrum and how being on the spectrum explains a lot about me. The same way that people are assumed to be straight, people are assumed to be neurotypical. Two people can share the same sexuality but can be vastly different. So this made me think it was screwed up that Aspies have to go to such lengths to prove that they are different. I think that instead NTs need to educate themselves to understand us better. While I hate to imply that "the world needs to change for us" it sorta has to because of the alarming co-morbidities of mental disorders. A lot of us are suffering because people don't understand us and don't want to understand us. So we feel locked out of society. And it is especially hard for those of us who desperately want to have friends but don't know how people act to get friends. It hurts a lot.

@flandrensinteriors3428 4 жыл бұрын

Very true. Print some info in aspergers and the workplace and give it to your employer

@GuacamoleKun 3 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed at age 11 and I STILL went through years of "..really though?" because it was so hard to recognize how all those traits you read about manifest in myself, and most of it was cosmetically just a little different from how the traits are described. I thought I was just lazy, a bad kid, maybe "crazy".

@koalamama2 Жыл бұрын

Yes, I need examples to match precisely to relate, and I need questions to be worded the right way to understand and be able to answer them properly (in conversations, interviews, tests, etc.).

@Delexia07 4 жыл бұрын

I realize now that if someone were to believe they didn't have autism or weren't on the spectrum in any way, they wouldn't look into it as intensely as I have been for the past..few years?? It was on and off because so many times I felt like since no one else's experiences felt like mine then that meant I couldn't be on the spectrum. I thought to myself that it was normal to see myself in a box and feel alienated among my peers, I never felt like I fit in and that I was just blending in or "masking". Or that I had a very box/category way of thinking and thought that was normal for everyone, I've just found your videos and they're really helping me see into what I feel could help me understand myself and my feelings better! :)

@ginastotallybodaciousunive2375 6 жыл бұрын

That book sounds awesome. You express yourself very well it is easy to listen and understand you.

@autismfromtheInside 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks Gina :)

@KiraCatsoup 4 жыл бұрын

This Channel is so important

@noahbee4290 10 ай бұрын

I know this is an old video, but I have to say this. I don’t know if this is a an actual sign that I may be on the spectrum or not, but whenever I’m alone and bored (or feel like procrastinating), I have a tendency to fill the silence by pretending that I’m explaining something to an invisible discussion partner (or that I’m filming a KZfaq video). Unless I’m feeling very physically tired or drowsy, I’ll pace around the room I’m in, usually while flipping a pen or a similarly shaped object into the air. I’ll watch the pen fly up, then I’ll catch it, but I’ll never stop talking. I can go on like this for about an hour and a half before I finally decide to stop and do something else. Doing this helps me to collect my thoughts and the whole process gives me comfort, especially since I’ll “explain” all the thoughts and feelings I have after a particularly stressful day. The way that you were pacing around and playing with your ball while explaining your experience reminded me so much of what I just explained. The difference of course being that you were filming a video, while I’m not normally doing anything nearly as productive when I do my “discussions.”

@kirstymaccallum7059 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Paul. It has helped me to understand my partner and myself.

@Robinicat 5 жыл бұрын

Hmmm...outside versus inside perspective! You are a very interesting speaker.

@Claudiese 4 жыл бұрын

Paul, I have to tell it to you, I´ve received my official diagnose today. And I´m 60 years old (musician, photographer and technician) , Your channel is the best for me about being an aspie (I can´t believe it, I´m still shocked)...We´re from the same group...thats it. Thanks paul. I´ve enrolled in the free webinar. Thanks thanks thanks.

@clericleech Жыл бұрын

Thanks to You I found a community I adore! Thank you so much!

@robertjohnburton9775 5 жыл бұрын

I have never found my tribe. I have tried, but time has beaten me. Now, I just take each day as it comes. I have read so much and I have run out of energy for people. Online is the only place I 'talk' to others.

@rob28803 4 жыл бұрын

I hear ya

@cynthiastogden7000 3 жыл бұрын

Same here. Covid has brought some bonuses!!! Meet more like minded people on line.

@isabelmmg2371 6 жыл бұрын

Ohhh, thank you! I suspect that I'm asperger from university (I studied pedagogy) but never accepted it because i didn't agree with the approach of symptoms. I know i'm different, i know i have to pretend to fit in, but I'm not who the definitions talk about, I agreed to most of the behaviors but i disagreed to the reasons of theses behavior. This made me to feel frustrated and upset about and just decided to keep going on my on, study and survive. Now I can't denied it anymore (because my son seems to be asperger aswell, and I want him to be happy and free, so better change the point of view and open eyes to the world. Thank you!

@peterthomasdalton1180 3 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome in 1971, when it did not have a name. I'm a Gen X Aspie.

@Charlotte-ti6oq 4 ай бұрын

Who first noticed it in you ?

@ryanliberty 6 жыл бұрын

How fortunate that a group was meeting the next day! 😃

@autismfromtheInside 6 жыл бұрын

Yeah! I thought so! They only meet once a month so the odds are like a million to one. lol (PS: that was a parody of a Simpsons quote).

@johannsalzstreuer5006 5 жыл бұрын

i love the point you make, that you felt understood when you met other aspis. and that this showed you, you are one of them. exactly this i felt when i became a ,,punk,, went to small concerts, same when i started being a bike messenger and met other bike.enthusiasts. a year ago i found out that i have adhd and lots of my friends have the diagnosis. i feel most satisfied hanging out with these people. always fun, lots of energy and humor. you dont have to explain yourself for talking like a waterfall or ,,mean,, jokes.

@matydavus1078 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you man, i have to wait until august 3rd to see the psych iv been referred to, to get a diagnosis and management plan... after watching this i will get in contact with my local support networks despite not having an offical diagnosis, its was hard to hear that after draging myself to the local GP and going threw the emotions of coming out and saying i think i have ASD and explaining why i believe it, all the momentum got taken out of my sails like someone hit the brakes on my plans to get help and support, i did feel like if i showed up to a support group or something like that without an offical diagnosis i wouldnt be welcome, seriously man thank you so much

@gloriamurley385 Жыл бұрын

I loved that you could explain how it feels.

@naomiparker389 5 жыл бұрын

This is great and informative. Thanks so much for sharing your story. I'm very happy for you.

@jacobwatkins2355 3 жыл бұрын

Duuuuuude! The number of times I have called my wife when I'm at the super market because they don't have "exactly" the thing I came for... or they have different varieties of the thing that I came for... thanks for making these

@getreadywithmemamma6973 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this my son is four and has high functioning autism he is super social on the spectrum and my father, sister, mother in-law, husbands four cousins are all in the spectrum. I love hearing your perspective thank you soooooo much!!!

@nodoubtdoubtnone7557 4 жыл бұрын

Was told at 33yo. I'm now 36yo. Due to my amount of personal experience with high functioning spectrum kids and my own insight I've been told the diagnostic procedure would make absolutely no difference to my life as I know myself so well. When I was told in an instant my life made sense.

@brendanramsey8311 3 жыл бұрын

What made me really conclude that I am on the spectrum, beyond just everything I’ve experienced, is that when I was in the 3rd grade, 8 or 9 years old, there was a child that was diagnosed autistic, as he was quite high on the spectrum and was not well socialized at all. None of the other kids understood, and as a result they did not like him. But he really liked The Legend of Zelda Ocarina of Time for Nintendo 64, like I did. So I talked to him. I liked talking to him. He was strange but he was also interesting and I understood his interests such as science and cosmology. He wasn’t always in class because he had frequent meltdowns and was generally kept with 3-4 low-functioning children. Whenever they allowed him to recess, we would spend time talking, away from the other kids. I did this because I didn’t know how to play with them. I didn’t really like most of them, either. They were mean, and I didn’t understand whatever fun they got out of the ways they would play. I just wanted to talk, as did my autistic friend. It also really helps that my sister is on the spectrum too.

@KAHHHH8548 2 жыл бұрын

Thankyou so much for this. What you have described on your channel resonates with me so much

@DrsJacksonn 4 жыл бұрын

When I was 13 I saw a movie from Belgium about a dude who was diagnosed with Asperger's. It was mostly told from his perspective and somehow, it resonated with me so very strongly. His words described exactly how he felt.

@trevorsolway3592 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for helping me understand the complexity of ASD.

@pamtufnell6751 6 жыл бұрын

Still haven't been diagnosed nearly 55 now

@kathleenfitzsimons3388 5 жыл бұрын

Never too late, Pam...

@Mrs.Silversmith 5 жыл бұрын

An "official' doctor stamped diagnosis is only cucial if you need special services like accommodations in the workplace or at school, or for therapy purposes. If you just want to can make your own adjustments through self education or join a support group, a diagnosis doesn't really matter.

@edmondeyre9628 4 жыл бұрын

55 Pam, same same

@annawong3112 4 жыл бұрын

@@Mrs.Silversmith, hi there. Perhaps you can try seeking company and fellowship in a church. Many had put their trust in Jesus and found healing, Deliverance and blessings. NB : God is love and those who put their trust in Jesus, had never been disappointed. May God bless and keep you. Shalom and Godspeed, Agape

@Mrs.Silversmith 4 жыл бұрын

@@annawong3112 Funny you should mention that. Actually I am a Christian and active in my local church. I think that my relationship with Jesus has definitely grown me in a lot of areas including how I cope with Aspergers.

@edwigcarol4888 2 жыл бұрын

06:00 "no! That is what it looks on the outside but it is not what is happening on the inside" so true. with seeking friends, with emotional life .. and with "intelligence" (language is NOT thinking) and with the difference between "Self-centeredness" and "being selfish"

@MySecretJourney 5 жыл бұрын

You have ALOT of self awareness

@HappinessOrDeath 4 жыл бұрын

It can be a curse

@alexzanderthompson1709 3 жыл бұрын

May very well be a way to compensate for autism, I very much relate

@anak_kucing101 3 жыл бұрын

I have that too and believe me, it's not funny.

@holmgirl0526 5 жыл бұрын

I am thinking my 23 yr old son is aspy. He isn’t so sure.... so thank you for your videos, I think he may see he has a lot in common with you.

@Mrs.Silversmith 5 жыл бұрын

I was so tickled to hear about the discussion about the supermarket scenario. As an Aspie I can totally relate to the mental distress that situation would immediately produce. It would have seriously freaked me out as a teen, but now I have a lot more strategies for handling that sort of thing. (Rambling a bit is definitely an Aspie thing too!)

@rhomboidman Жыл бұрын

Listening to this is magical

@Flow-Joe 2 жыл бұрын

Relatively new to my realization on being on the spectrum, but the way you are looking around in the room and rolling your shulders is already like looking in a mirror.

@lisaschulze6665 2 жыл бұрын

I don't think i am an aspie, but because of the number of people in my life who are, I definitely Speak aspie.

@gerbenschwab9588 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you man, had to turn 41 to arrive at this path.

@akumaplantstudios8869 4 жыл бұрын

Don't beat yourself up over that though, my dude. Everyone comes to different forks in the road at different times.

@CaleAnderson 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the help brother.

@raylaughlan5324 3 жыл бұрын

I love this guy lol best resource out there for figuring out if you have aspergers or not!

@creepsnocturnal8063 4 жыл бұрын

Just thank you for making this channel. I had a roommate with it and I didn't understand it... Hers was coupled with a lot of taboo so I couldn't talk about a lot of things with her... But she was a very nice friend.

@hisnewlife3543 5 жыл бұрын

I just self diagnosed but I havent known what to do with it. I have the same answers and responses that you have and I have to do something to stay focused and I also ramble a lot. It is so good to see someone just like me! Although, I am a woman, so I do find some of the typical aspects of autism like math and science and engineering and some other traits do not apply to me. My expertise is more in the area of art and design, to a detailed level.

@emmax0000 3 ай бұрын

For some reason you throwing the ball made me feel comfort, sort of relaxed me…🤷‍♀️

@micro_adVANtures 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for the video. I have just secured funding for an ASD assessment at the age of 52. A lot of things you discuss in this two parter really do resonate. I literally laughed out loud when you discuss your ideas not matching the mainstream - exactly the same for me as a teacher (maths of course). This leads to me often being disciplined by SLT because for example task B hasn’t been completed. I then explain that I can not complete task B because I have not yet completed Task A and that in completing task A it may influence my thoughts on Task B….. etc…. In fact today I’m in trouble because I did not complete the full content of the lesson for year 11 foundation maths. We have only two lessons to do so but the couRse designer gave me three lessons/ppts to deliver so I started at slide one and worked through as far as possible….. arrrrggghhhh!!!

@mayalua1 4 жыл бұрын

This is so lovely. I been feeling so much like this

@JCinLapel 3 жыл бұрын

This page helped me to name how I think

@gonnfishy2987 3 жыл бұрын

oh oh oh. totes you’re not crazy. and i really want more of your content because you make me feel so understood and NORMAL

@DarrellGrainger 2 жыл бұрын

OMG! You talked about joining a local support group. You talked about them asking the question: "What do you do if you go to the supermarket to buy something for someone but what you need to buy isn't there?" That is so triggering for me, in a good way. Then you go on to talk about strategies you developed. I so identify with this.

@pozzee2809 Жыл бұрын

What a fantastic explanation

@ltkritzinger 2 жыл бұрын

Watched 1st and 2nd video so far, towards the end of this video, I cried. I had a flashback of the faces of therapists and psychiatrists I spoke to over the years. Some of them didn't see me at all, especially not the psychiatrists. Among the therapists, one I think saw me but couldn't comprehend me. Another tried hard to understand me, but events of my life were chaotic and took precedence over really getting a sense of who I am. I recently visited a place called the neurodiversity centre to start the diagnostic process for autism. I immediately felt that the therapist understood me, that he understood me before we even met. And that's one of the reasons that the provisional diagnosis feels very true to me. And I just want to say, when you said "but I'm rambling", I have to say that several times a day when I catch myself just talking and talking non-stop.

@MsJokyo 6 жыл бұрын

I feel the same way, I discovered that maybe there was a reason I felt different, and maybe I'm not crazy, but I'm so broke that I can hardly afford to eat, let alone spend gas to go see other aspies in person or get a diagnosis. I'm so torn about it all...

@Livetoeat171 5 жыл бұрын

Call a group anyway. Explain your situation and ask if there was any way someone could pick you up and bring you to a group meeting. I’m sure they would make arrangements for you somehow

@christinapalafox 2 жыл бұрын

I was diagnosed at 46. When I was young, they didn't believe women could have autism- even though my childhood behavior ticked a lot of boxes. Autism came up as a possibility when I met two people who I finally, 100% related to and got along with- who were both autistic. I got an "official" diagnosis (seven long questionnaires and six hours of verbal interviews that resulted in a thirteen page report) because I am physically disabled as well, and have to prove that I qualify for assistance. I'm seeking further revisitation of some diagnoses that I feel are incorrect or no longer accurate- I'm pretty darned sure I've got ADD as well.

@roycarder6179 4 жыл бұрын

Diagnosed in my forties....change ...a move of house ...a new family dog ....change highlighted my diagnosis , guess it was meltdowns during stressful changes ...was happily married but my issues was the deal breaker and I sadly got divorced ....two beautiful children ....loss of loving person in m ex wife family home sold .....caused me to go into free fall ..got myself together then I relapsed ...struggled with jobs hence I've had years of self employment ....this last year I've been in a bad place ...struggling living in my location of Liverpool....overwhelmed ..have moved to the Lake District ..Cumbria ..living in a bunk room ..missing my children but needed out of the city...It's been a rough time ...your clips explain so much ..thank you

@cullenburnett8564 4 жыл бұрын

The first time I went to get a diagnosis a Dr saw me just once and did a few tests. The Dr said I wasn't a high functioning aspie, I had depression, anxiety, adhd, ocd, and a personality disorder. Lol

@mackereltabbie 3 жыл бұрын

I'm a psychologist; not a therapist, I work with unemployed/underemployed people who have various "issues". One guy showed up with a long list of diagnoses: depression, anxiety, ADHD, OCD, OCPD and avoidant PD. Plus dyslexia, some motor skills/coordination issues and an eating disorder. Maybe if the psychiatrist had asked _why_ he had trouble eating (sensory issues) he might have considered an ASD? And this was someone who looked/sounded very stereotypically "autistic" in terms of body language, voice and so on.

@KommentarSpaltenKrieger 5 жыл бұрын

Take it as a compliment if people utter disbelief. It only speaks for your coping/ the high-functionality of your condition.

@terryestepp2615 Жыл бұрын

I really appreciate your honesty and your channel. I ,too, would read about autism early on in my journey of learning and I would say "No ... that's not what is really happening." I mean I was already doubting the mainstream understanding of autism and realizing that I understood the inner workings in many cases better than the experts. I mean I am one of those Aspies that assimilates information well... despite being clueless in certain areas of life. I live the enigma every day of my life. But, of course, few , if any, people believe that I know what I am talking about. I am alone in my understanding ...but the accepted science will catch up eventually....lol

@Talia926 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much. I have a friend in his 30’s who suspects he’s on the spectrum as you say. Your stories help me to understand him a little better. I look forward to learning more from your videos.

@ilozeet 6 жыл бұрын

yeah you do the same aas me, and animate loads when talking, but this was your best delivery yet!, awesome

@atinity6749 6 жыл бұрын

Loz Turner me too! I need to find some gadget for myself, because I usually walk around and touch my face. Either bring my hand to my chin as someone would when they're thinking, or touhing my eye or pulling my cheek or lip. Or twiddling with my hair. I bet it looks pretty stupid to other people. I tried fidget spinner but I get bored with it very quickly. My husband told me that he and his mother had talked about my Aspergers few years ago. At that point I had visited my in laws few times and apparently they had noticed something about me. Every time I went outside, I did the same routine. I would walk from the kitchen to the bedroom, touch certain item, walk in to the bathroom, wash my hands or brush my hair, walk back to the kitchen, lean to the kitchen table, go back to the bedroom and touch the same item... I had not realized this myself. Apparently I did it a lot and my mother-in-law, who is very observational, could predict where I would go and what I would do. I thought I just pace around or fidget randomly when I'm nervous, but apparently there is some method to it. Recently me and my husband have talked about the way I phrase things. What was most surprising to me, that for years he has thought I mean something totally different from what I actually say. Like that supermarket thing for example. If he had asked me to buy a specific item and the store didn't have that item, I would try to call my husband to ask what to buy instead if buy anything. If he doesn't answer, I have to make some sort of decision. If I have no idea what to subsitude the item with, I don't buy anything. So I get home and hubby asks "where is it?" I say that I was unable to figure out what to buy. That I tried to call him and ask what to do, but he didn't answer. My husband has thought that I am being a cunt. "You didn't answer my call so out of spite I didn't bring you that thing you asked for" - type of cunt. Apparently he really doesn't get that I am actually unable to make decisions like that, he thinks I am being difficult. The conclusions he has drawn are weird to me. Are other, normal people really that petty, so passive aggressive? If they are, that is sad. I have tried to tell my husband that I actually mean what I say. Almost without exception. I have said this many times but for some reason he doesn't believe me. He sometimes insists some weird, dark hidden meanings to my behavior and to the words I have said. I think because he is very insecure person sometimes. He is the kind of person who people instantly love or get annoyed by, and often he worries that people secretly hate him. I get that because people don't say that to your face, that they don't like you. But nothing I have ever done should indicate that I can't be trusted or believed. I am incapable of lying, especially about the little things, how come he hasn't figured that out already? And what does it all mean? Does it say something about me that I insist I am being honest and people don't believe me. Does it say something about other people? Are other people so dishonest and petty and that's why is logical to think that I am too. Or does it say something about the person who doubts or constantly misunderstands me? Are they insecure or are they projecting their behavior onto me?

@autismfromtheInside 6 жыл бұрын

Thanks! :)

@annehislop2449 5 жыл бұрын

Very, very helpful Paul. Easy to listen to and understand. So insightful.

@munkiking4511 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this set of videos!

@soulwise9508 Жыл бұрын

Yesterday my husband realised life is much harder for him than others. Part 1 of this video is exactly my husband in every way. He doesn't like labels and is struggling with getting one. I would appreciate any advice on how to best help/advise him. We live on the Sunshine Coast in Queensland. I appreciate any help, much love to you all.