5 Pieces I REGRET Buying as a Flamboyant Gamine

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My flamboyant gamine frame has rejected certain clothing items, and it's time for me to listen to her and get rid of them!
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@nlorens 2 жыл бұрын

The wrap dresses and the blue wide neck t-shirt look good on you in my opinion! But then again, I learn that no matter how much people told me I look good in certain clothes that I don't feel so good, comfortable or confident in, I still wouldn't wear them.

@rrenatabp 2 жыл бұрын

as a fellow FG, wrap dresses are a NIGHTMARE! I can't pin point exactly what my problem is with them, but I think it's just the lack of any sort of structure. Even the ones you can tighten to fit your waist tend to look like a sack of potatoes on me.

@dianana7371 3 жыл бұрын

Great idea for a video! Yeah loose tops with a wide neck just doesn't do anything good for our type of bodies

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@wengelkifle880 Жыл бұрын

Can always save unflattering T-shirts for sleeping or wearing under sweaters 😊 Also for hairdrying if the material’s right!

@earthmother4507 3 жыл бұрын

As a romantic it was interesting to watch this and see that the types of items that work best for me are the ones that you regret buying for yourself. I always gravitate towards wrap dresses, maxi skirts and wide neck shirts

@AndRea-hy7sg 3 жыл бұрын

As a natural, I also feel the same way. I find her content very interesting. Gamines must be very lucky to have someone like her to guide them. Still hoping that there would be a someone for other types too haha.

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

@Earth Mother Fascinating! That makes a lot of sense.

@majatodorovic8683 3 жыл бұрын

@@AndRea-hy7sg me too :)

@majatodorovic8683 3 жыл бұрын

yes sister! Although I love mini skirts even more 😊

@sarahfranco6802 Жыл бұрын

oooh nice. Pretty interesting take

@Vadamur 3 жыл бұрын

5 pieces? Wow, half of my wardrobe is a complete fail... Now that I educated myself I regret it so much I hadn't find your videos earlier :( I wasted a lot of money.

@clementine1827 3 жыл бұрын

The first dress would be cute if it fit tighter around the waist

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

I agree! It's just too wide for me.

@ST-111 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for the vid ^^ need to do the same but i keep thinking "well its still functional" or "i might want it in the future" or "its a backup for when all my other stuff are in the laundry n i dont feel like doing the laundry"

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Those are definitely things that cross my mind as well! That's why it took me so long to just let these pieces go.

@carolinejudith1718 3 жыл бұрын

I have a lot of items that aren't necessarily "FG" but I noticed that if a piece is just overall flowing and loose it's a no for me. When I shop now, I always just try to think if I'm going to look like I'm being swallowed in what I'm wearing. If I do, I don't buy it or I add a belt :)

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Love this! Yes, not everything in a wardrobe will be strictly your lines, because it's how you style the pieces that matters.

@tammylawson3376 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, I'm noticing this, too. I was typed a "romantic", but I don't agree now. (1) These light colors tend to wash me out. (2) The flowy clothes just don't fit me right.(3) Darker clothes and shorter, straighter hair fit my personality better!!... I have a large bust and I'm a short rectangle. Even when I had medium boobs, I was a short rectangle. Another thing is that Romantic calls for florals-- I have looked through my camera roll on the phone, and florals do me no favors. The geometrics do. Narrow looks good on me and wide looks overwhelming on my frame. (I am 5'2" with shoes and 160-165 pounds, but it's muscle, not so much fat). Matte lipstick looks more right on me than glossy kinds. And those rounded cardigans that you drape on-- They don't provide enough structure! I'm coming to understand that my clothes need structure... So, I'm definitely a GAMINE, and not a Romantic. Shew!!! The money and time I have wasted figuring all this out! I've also figured out that i DO need more electric colors and not the more muted ones.. Uggggghhhh!!

@lise4369 Жыл бұрын

I relate to this a 100% Thank you for the suggestions.

@michlee83 3 жыл бұрын

LOVE the black top + flowy skirt, and the Gap v-neck tee with pants! Thanks for the ideas for making my wardrobe work as an SG in her late 30's who looks 10 years younger!

@Smoothjazz001 3 жыл бұрын

I never knew how much I needed your channel. Instant subscribe.

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Aww yay! Glad you're here!

@ClaudiaArnold 2 жыл бұрын

That's why I do a lot of alterations. For example, as a proud owner of a pair of trapezoidal hips myself I often have to take away from the hip curve which in a pencil skirt tends to just "stand empty".

@wanda18221 3 жыл бұрын

Maybe try wearing a blouse under the first wrap dress. I also will dye pieces that are the wrong colors for me.

@wengelkifle880 Жыл бұрын

I’ve done a deep cleaning out of my closet after finding my seasonal color, post college, and doing the Marie Kondo method of seeing wether it brings joy when you’re holding it as well as being mindful of my mood when I’m wearing something and tossing it if I feel bland or not put together. Im a FG too!

@kraz11funk5 3 жыл бұрын

I liked this video! I'm drawn to wrap dresses, but a lot of them don't work for me as a SG. Maxi skirts that aren't tapered on me just make me look wider than I am because even if there's waist emphasis the skirts just don't follow the lines of my body.

@Martina_E 3 жыл бұрын

I hate wrap dresses and maxi skirts too! I’m a soft gamine (or at least I think) but now I’m like maybe I’m a flamboyant gamine. Idk tho! I resonate with soft gamine but also the flamboyant gamine. I’ve been doing a style overhaul for some time now and realize I only wear certain colors: autumnal, prints and natural fabric pieces. It’s been a fun and interesting journey 😊❤️

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Ooo very fun! Keep on experimenting and wearing the pieces that make you feel confident

@mwink Жыл бұрын

I just realized I'm FG (5'2" 103lbs 32-24-34) yesterday and this video describes my whole current wardrobe 🥲🥲🥲 Time for an overhaul!

@RoseColoredGlasses 3 жыл бұрын

Another great video ❤️

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

So sweet. Thank you!

@beamorimm 2 күн бұрын

I’m a FG and my older sister is a natural as well 😅

@meghankelley9994 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you frani !! A lot of time I see something I really love but I just KNOW that it wouldn’t look good . Like super flowy sundress’s/ maxi dresses . Or anything that’s super flowy or frilly / vintage. They are So pretty but they just don’t serve me . So I like to wear semi matching sets / rompers instead. It’s still that fun summer look (some can still be very elegant) but it compliments my lines . Also halters and tunic tops . Especially as a leotard - A big no here haha . That’s also another area I’m becoming more aware of flattering my lines in (the leotards/ warm ups I wear when I dance ) I feel like that would be a really cool idea to research for myself and maybe put that out in the online community... dancewear recommendations for kibbe types ?! .

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Yesss same. I have a jumpsuit that i'm thinking of turning into a matching set.. hehe

@sadrahmuhammad6215 Жыл бұрын

You can put a chanki belt on the first dress and se if that is better

@corneliabayley723 3 жыл бұрын

Love your dog!

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@MichelleSMV 3 жыл бұрын

I understand about wearing shirts that have wide open necklines like that. I bought a flowy shirt like that some time ago and I realise that I never wear it. I always feel like it's falling off me if that makes sense...but if the neckline is round but the fabric is more stiff or structured I find that's been a bit more flattering for me. Dunno if that really is a type thing or a preference thing since I'm sort of waffling between types right now.

@personalbrandsynergy 3 жыл бұрын

Lovely video! It's so interesting to hear your thought process....Do you like ruffles? I think an asymmetric dress with ruffles on the edges would look SO gorgeous on you, and also off the shoulder 😍 XX

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you! And I tend to steer clear of ruffles, but maybe that would be a cool experiment to try in my search for dresses. And yes! I love off the shoulder looks for me.

@personalbrandsynergy 3 жыл бұрын

@@franibeard I think it depends where the ruffles are on your body that could celebrate your curves! Could be so lovely on you in my humble opinion 😃💛 Aah so lovely about the off shoulder Xxx

@PM-ji1wv Жыл бұрын

Loose necks are not good on me either. If they have a wde V and a long sleeve, it's even worse

@gbosonnet 3 жыл бұрын

I feel like the short terracotta wrap dress and the black maxi skirt= black vest combo would both suit you loads if you put a wide belt around them. X

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Hmm maybe that would be something worth trying in the future if I really wanted to make the piece work. Thank you!

@julie-annclarke8673 3 жыл бұрын

Great video

@sharrlizz 2 жыл бұрын

I no longer buy/wear each of these items as well! I have done the Kibbe test several times and always come out as a SC but after watching your videos I am now thinking I might be FG, as I relate so much to your videos.

@annaradcliffe 3 жыл бұрын

I've let go of so many of the same things! I think midi-length skirts and coats achieve the feeling of drama I was going for with maxis and flatter me much better as a soft gamine

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! For sure. A longer line to honor your yang, but cropped to honor the yin stature.

@JessicaandtheMoon 3 жыл бұрын

Most of this I’m so on board with 😄 Though, I love wide neckline shirts, especially with more form fitting bottoms, or at the moment I wear them especially with overalls. But I wouldn’t wear the two you showed because the sleeve length combined with the wide neck makes it sit wrong. Wide neck with three quarter sleeves is 👌🏻 for me 💖

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Ooo good point about the sleeve length. Thank you!

@rses916 Жыл бұрын

Are you FG too?

@JessicaandtheMoon Жыл бұрын

@@rses916 I’m not totally sure. Definitely a type of gamine.

@unneighborlyarcades6356 3 жыл бұрын

For dresses, I find patterns help a bunch. I personally don't mind maxi-length skirts so long as I pair it with a shorter top (or tuck it in at the waist) and wear shoes that show the tops of my feet. And I was surprised to learn that I find wrap dresses-a particular wrap dress, I should say-rather flattering. I wouldn't like myself in the orangey-rust wrap dress you showed, I don't think. It's just too wide. All in all, I think it's important to let yourself "try out" different garments because you may surprise yourself.

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Great points here and solid advice! Thank you!

@darlamerrill8052 Жыл бұрын

A good tailer can do amazing things.

@Al-zm2sc 3 жыл бұрын

I had a dress like the second one you showed! I tried so hard to like it but nah my FG self just doesn't work with it lmao

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

Literally the same situation. I got real tired of making that one work. Haha

@fuzzywuzzythebackyardigans2283 Ай бұрын

Hello, I’d like to know where you got the pants from near the end of this video, thanks!

@RashaSardest 2 жыл бұрын

It almost helps me better to watch these videos of what is not for the type. I agree to all these things. I’m still confused as to how I can be a flam gam when I’m 173 cm tall…. Could I be a flam natural? But I NEED those fun elements and I have a youthful face.

@linibellini Жыл бұрын

I personally love wrap dresses on me and I thought I was a FG too. But looking at your frame and shape, I do look shorter, wider and curvier than you. So I might be a soft gamine in the end? But I completely agree on the wide neck shirts, it’s the worst style on me too. But usually when I like the pattern and colour of a blouse or shirt, it comes with a wide neckline of course 😭

@jewelryboxballerina 3 жыл бұрын

Being a gamine is tough these days. Most clothing retailers sell merchandise that is tailored to Naturals and Classics. I hear that Dramatics and Romantics have a hard time finding clothes too. Most women are either some type of Natural or Classic. Gamines, Dramatics and Romantics are rare. I used to buy a lot of my clothes from Loft. Sadly, not anymore. They use to sell a lot of styles that were perfect for gamine body types. They’ve recently changed the style of their merchandise that is more suited for Naturals and Classics. I was so disappointed. I even sent them an email asking why the abrupt change. I even explained to them about body types and how they’ve done a mis-service to women like me who are having trouble finding somewhere to buy clothes. Naturals and Classics have plenty of options. There was no reason for them to change up the styles for a group of women who have a ton of retailers to shop from.

@Martina_E 3 жыл бұрын

I agree with loft! I’m a gamine as well and it’s hard finding clothes. I have gotten a few items from ModCloth but I’m very particular with the items I pick - it’s hard finding stores for gamines? Idk where to shop sometimes 🤦🏾‍♀️

@Felicity1247 3 жыл бұрын

I agree! As FG I have a hard time finding clothes that actually fit. I actually go to the girls’ section sometimes to get the boxy shape and cropped look.

@destinykish9496 2 жыл бұрын

Soft Classic here and o have a very hard time! I feel like everything is tailored towards naturals, naturals, and naturals!

@rses916 Жыл бұрын

I think everything is tailored to romantics imo.

@sarahfranco6802 Жыл бұрын

7:00

@rses916 Жыл бұрын

I tried to get a wrap dress once. It looked so ridiculous on me 😂 it's sad because it was a beautiful linen expensive one from etsy. Eh. I'm soft gamine but it doesn't work with me. Also I dont know whats your height but when I shop fast fashion I make sure it's from the petite collection. (Dog is so cute)

@franibeard Жыл бұрын

Aww that's such a bummer!! I have yet to find an wrap dress that makes me feel good. And yes! I've actually been shopping in the kids section for some things! Works like a charm! (And thank you

@catherineemond9596 3 жыл бұрын

Have you thought of getting the first dress tailored? It could be very pretty on you if it wasn’t so big.

@franibeard 3 жыл бұрын

I've definitely thought about it, but it's not in my budget at the moment, so it's just been sitting in my drawer for the last year. Time to just let it go...

@rses916 Жыл бұрын

@@franibeard what's your height?

@franibeard Жыл бұрын

@@rses916 I'm 5'5"

@clementine1827 3 жыл бұрын

Oh gosh I’m a maxi skirt culprit too 🙈

@Glambunni 3 жыл бұрын

I love wrap dresses but they definitely need to be more fitted in the arms and the upper torso. The second dress actually looks pretty cute on you, I bought an over the knee boots just like the one you have and the issue is the heel (too thick needs to be more triangular) and the overall shape of the toe, it gives a witchy feel.