oh my god im obsessed with the sims

Honestly Obey me really helped me with talking to other people. I've been obsessed with otome games for a long time but Obey me actually felt like how friends would actually talk. Especially the text messages helped me realize how I should be texting people too. It's kinda embarrassing but it literally helped me through college. I have the most friends I've ever had and I'm very happy with my social skills. It's still hard but kinda having a formula has helped

The likeness bar is so REAL, sometimes I wish I knew visually or verbally told how much of a connection I have with someone or how someone perceives me. Usually, I assume that I probably don't matter enough to deepen a relationship. Or that we haven't had enough interactions to go on to the next level which is usually texting or hanging out :p. (texting is so difficult) And the whole connecting with someone based on interests, I've been in many different fandoms and had interest in many things so I keep those locked in memory so that whenever I meet someone with alignment to those interests I can talk about it with them; usually they would have more knowledge about it so they can talk to me about it freely :D

That's so interesting because being the friend always on the side when I was younger I was kinda forced to be tactical when interacting to people (average autistic child lmao), but now having learned all the tips and psychological facts behind social interaction it's literally become one of my special interests and it's ridiculous how much I find going up to someone to start a conversation extremely entertaining. It's become a really fun game to me basically, the best sim :p

I've wanted to talk about this for soo long I relate so much to this video. I've played multiple otome games and definitely am using that script when I interact with others. When I got into my first romantic relationship, the only gauge I had for a healthy relationship came from otome so I was pretty much copying the steps from that (and I mean, it worked, we're still together and we make jokes about how I copied otome games). Honestly, I do not know how I would have coped as an undiagnosed autistic person without dating sims, they were my sole resource for how to interact with people. Also I put like 800 hours into the sims in middle school and still kind of think of my needs as 'bars' to be filled, I need to remind myself to eat somehow I suppose.

I loved the video! I was a kid who was obsessed with the sims and I definitely think part of it was because I was autistic- it was so confusing because I did empathize a lot with my sims to the point of dreaming about them or crying when they died (or even when my cousins killed random sims for fun) yet I was told I "didn't seem to care about my friends" and things like that (which I did I was just never good at masking). Another thing that I really empathized with (unrelated to the games) was having early signs of autism passed off as funny childhood stories. One of my parent's favorites was how I just stopped talking to them and when I talked at home I was just repeating things my dolls said, like how did nobody said "this kid might be autistic"??????

100 percent agree there should be relationship bars irl

DUDE! I can't believe this video popped up in my recommended right now! I've been searching for stuff like this for a while now. As an undiagnosed autistic my communication skills always sucked until I found RPGs and dating sims (I think I was like 11), basically games where you have a dialogue tree and shid. After like a year of hyperfixating on those two genres my skills improved enough and I finally made some friends, though on the downside I began masking so well I ended up getting diagnosed like only 2 yrs ago lol Great video btw 💕

I used to play dating sims all the time, but I’d always cheat and look up a video or playlist someone made to get the correct answers so I could always get the boy I wanted to like me 😭😭 It was always the sweet outcast that everyone else thought was an asshole too! 😂

Man knowing the right answer is the absolute hardest. Most of the time I just look at the options and think “well that’s definitely the WRONG answer cause that’s mean”. I just pick the most honest answer most of the time and hope it isn’t rude. And yeah with practice you can visibly tell if something was the “wrong” answer because of a negative reaction, but right answers are so much harder because they don’t always come with overtly positive feedback. Otome games make the social conversation game very simple. The options are limited and the rules are basically “don’t pick the toxic answers. Pick the answer that will contribute to the wellbeing of this character”. But irl the options are functionally limitless and the rules are almost NEVER stated outright. You just have to figure the rules out by trial-and-error and the rules can change wildly depending on the situation and the person.

saw lucifer… needed to find out what this is about

charisma on command thing is so real....

this video got my immediate interest and this entire video explained how ive felt my entire life especially in my childhood. since i was like six or younger whatever, ive been obsessed with the sims with how much control and order there was to it. i still very much am, especially with the lore and how i can customize a character ive always LOVED customization. then otome games i got exposed to in fifth grade and that really changed a lot, it was something i always turned to not only because i did not have friends but because it would help me figure out how to speak to people. im undiagnosed and have been wondering for a long while if i have autism and it would explain a lot fjearoif sorry this isnt well typed out but i just wanted to say i really appreciate this video for bringing me to realize even more a lot of my behaviour and symptoms

Omgggg I have had such a similar experience as you!! I literally learnt how to socialize from otome and bl games, feeling like there were "correct" choices to make! It ended up really messing me up, sure it helped with making "friends" but because of the romantic framing I didn't realize what kind of vibes I was giving off. So unintentionally ended up flirting with a bunch of people when all I wanted was to make friends, which led to many awkward and failed friendships ;-;; also, took me so long to realize what boundaries were and how to set them agfdasgds Honestly, I want to get diagnosed but I'm worried that they won't take me seriously since I mask so well at this point :'))) and I'm an adult now so seems a million times harder?? and god social cues are the worse, and eye contact??? Get that shit outta here xDD I still don't know how long to hold someones gaze and panic when I walk past someone in the street. Like am I meant to look at them, how long, do I smile? aaAAa the pressure :'))) AhagHAGAGHHa "I was not like other girls because I'm not a girl" love ittt :'DDDD I feel that with the pick me phase, god now I'm all about just tryna embrace and find out who I am. Really thanks for making this video, honestly explaining this stuff to people in my life just makes me feel not too normal xDD it's so nice to know others went through the same thing aaa and we're not alone :))

thank you for this video dude!!!! Ive been sick all week and content has been meh recently im gad i found this!!! i relate to ur perspective a lot so far but im only 7 mins in :-0

for a long time ive been saying i have the symptoms of autism but dont actualy have it because i sometimes feel a lot of symptoms from autism, but at the same time i have behaviours that wouldnt fit within the autism diagnosis. ive never been diagnosed and i dont knw man but it makes so much sense what youre saying about otome games. ive been playing them since i was a tween and ive always liked them because its a controlled environment of a social interaction... its something i can control, if i make a mistake i can go back and that obviously dont happen irl. anyway tldr idk if i have autism or not but i feel you