AUTISM AND MELTDOWNS |Purple Ella

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Autism and meltdowns. What is an autistic meltdown. What does an autistic meltdown look like. What can you do to help an autistic person in meltdown. More below.
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@mariebo7491 6 жыл бұрын

For me the best thing when having a meltdown is when my husband holds me in an embrace. Only him. When he isn’t around it’s harder to come out of it. 😕

@NidusFormicarum 4 жыл бұрын

Good for you! My girlfriend gets angry. :(

@simonpalmer8033 3 жыл бұрын

Dealing with these people even though you love them is verging on impossible and can be very damaging.

@robynevans1287 3 жыл бұрын

@@simonpalmer8033 I dont get what you're saying... would you care to elaborate or explain?

@PapaJunos 2 жыл бұрын

@@simonpalmer8033 that was really fucked up to read with my own eyeballs. ouch.

@simonpalmer8033 2 жыл бұрын

@@PapaJunos 😳👌

@alexfitzroy5849 7 жыл бұрын

The older I get the less I can handle NT interactions. I use to get a meltdown once a year, but now I get them once a month. Usually at inappropriate time and I have no idea if I'm suppose to apologize or not. Most NT don't apologize when they make huge ass of themselves so I'm never sure if I'm suppose to or not.

@Cramondorf 7 жыл бұрын

Alex Fitzroy Trying to find my Twin Flame of Love!

@sarahd3515 5 жыл бұрын

Alex Fitzroy You aren’t alone! My meltdowns are crazy and I end up injuring myself or breaking things. It’s always triggered by some trauma that a neurotypical did to me. Mostly it’s from not being listened to or misinterpreted and I try and explain myself until I’m blue in the face. And since getting my diagnosis, all I want to do is hang out with auties. Neurotypicals are so horrible and shallow. I hope you have a happy life.

@Flamboyant-randomist 4 жыл бұрын

@@sarahd3515 God I hear you about being misinterpreted and not listened to! I was diagnosed in August of this year with Autism spectrum disorder and one of the many triggers for me is when I try and explain basically anything to somebody or ask a simple question speaking clearly people don't understand what I'm trying to say and my blood starts to boil (I often think am I talking a bloody foreign language?). Yeah having Autism is damned hard but when somebody understands the reactive aspect it can make things easier & absolutely the wrong things to say are 'stop causing drama/grow up/just calm down etc'.

@mariagram3038 3 жыл бұрын

this exactly this.Girl yes,that is exactly what I experience too.Why should we appologize for something that it out of our control but NTs can act like anuses and bullies and get rewarded for it.Sometimes I straight on say ,('listen normie ,don´t come and tell me about how difficult I am,because I can see that and do nothing more about it,I´ve told you that I fuction on a different setting ,and you can´t respect that,so you end up triggering absoloute torture in me and I can´t be around that,if you think that I´m hard to be around then you should know how hard it is to be dealing with NTs 24/7',),I really don´t think that NTs understand how draining it is,to act like them even though it feel like a chinese person acting like a south african.Nts have their own culture rules,languages,customs and traditions,they never have to make much effort in understanding anyone,everything is superficial and running on auto pilot for them,where as I walk around thinking,am I being bullied rn,I can tell from the body language that normie here is being arrogant and self worshipping here and that they were projecting something n me.I remember when I was younger a pregnant with me first child,and one of my bosses Catherine was walking along next to me asking about my birth preps,I hadn´t prepared much at that time yet,and she just huffed and told me that I really need to start and that the hospital staff would take my baby ,and that I coud not possibly have a child ,I was to you and to skinny and to naive about how horrible birth was and so on,I had simply thought that she had told me that the hospital would take the baby into a baby room ,and give him back,and she said ,eh no that´s the trouble with your kind your kind and they won´t just give him back,so I asked if that is what happened to her,when she had recently given birth (I didn´t know that it was rude to ask that),she just went a funny colour and told me that such thing don´t happen to her.A colleague who was there tried to comfort me and told me that I should file a complaint,but I just didn´t realised that I had been bullied until years later,and then it hit me that I was actually bullied a lot there,the same Catherine would come and meassure me up for uniforms,I found out later that she just didn´t believe that I was pregnant because I was so tiny,later colleagues started to avoid the work area because of all of the gossip about me,so I couldn´t do my job so I was let goI got blamed for other peoples mistakes too,when I said that wasn´t me as I was on a break at that time and place and someone else had done it,I just got told to sharpen up or go find another job.This Catherine also phoned up to my work area and placed fake orders ,that she then complained about or it would get send to the wrong people who would then complain,so I didn´t look good on paper.Looking back I realised just how many times NTs have done that and I´m horrified,I have an intense fear of them now.Oh,and that baby I was carrying is now 20 and autistic,he is doing just fine.

@ziggypip2938 2 жыл бұрын

Interesting I am NT and I apologize constantly where my ND partner never ever does

@phileofarm1 7 жыл бұрын

I'm SO glad I found you. I'm in my 30's and my doctor and counselor are strongly suggesting I get diagnosed with Autism, and it's likely my almost 6 year old son is on the spectrum too. I'm finding almost NO HELP for mom's who themselves have autism! It's all about the kids! You are helping me not feel so crazy and alone. I never knew other people didn't experience the world like I did! I felt like a freak and a wimp cause of my sensory issues. I thought when parents yell at their kids to be quiet it must be because they are in PAIN like me! But no! I'm finding out I'm NOT like everyone else. And that's quite a relief. I really can't possibly thank you enough! 💕

@PurpleElla 7 жыл бұрын

Hi Ashley, I'm so glad you find my video's helpful. You are definitely not alone, being autistic is just a different way and I've found that now I have a greater understanding of my strengths and difficulties life is much better. I hope you find the same thing.

@rubylace9963 4 жыл бұрын

You describe it so well! To me it's being so frustrated that I can't do anything but cry, shout and scream. I have thrown things and even broke the coffee pot once, hurt and cut myself and just lashing out at people.. then feeling very embarrassed after. I think this is why so many women with autism have eating disorders since it numbs feelings but it's a horrible dangerous disorder. It's so important for us to practice self care. We need alone time, we need to recharge our batteries.

@relentlessrhythm2774 Жыл бұрын

Right now, I'm hiding in a corner by myself at an event to prevent a meltdown.

@idlewildwind 3 жыл бұрын

"Because I didn't know at the time that they were meltdowns, I basically just thought that I couldn't control myself" yeah I feel that with you! Having no diagnosis growing up just made me hate how weird and flawed I was and think I was just bad at being a person. Since learning stuff about autism at age 20 and finally getting diagnosed at age 28, I've started to accept myself more, which has led to taking care of myself better, which has led to fewer meltdowns, actually. ^^

@thatonemessyartist1760 3 жыл бұрын

I’m currently having an extreme meltdown at the moment. I was mad because I didn’t like how small some of my pills are, and they’ve been bothering me, so I was trying to talk to my mom about it, but she was just saying solutions I didn’t like, or I’ve already tried. I started getting mad and I cried, which triggered my screaming when my mom wasn’t helping and treating me like I was irrational. My dad was yelling because he got angry because I was yelling at my mom, and she did one of those laughs like she does when she can’t believe how stupid I’m being. The problem is, I realize how crazy I seem when I’m having a meltdown, but I just want a solution to help. And I can’t control all my feelings so I start flailing and stomping because I’m just so upset, which makes me look like a 5 year old, but that’s the only way I can keep myself from throwing myself on the floor and shutting down. Now, I’m trying to find videos to help me stop crying because I don’t want to for another 3 hours. But I guess this goes to show how something so small can trigger a gigantic meltdown, which I just wish I knew how to stop feeling so strongly about little things,

@CharleneDodge 2 жыл бұрын

Wow, I can so relate to your meltdowns. I almost explained mine the same way to my therapist several times over the years. They diagnosed me with explosive disorder. I have already been diagnosed with general anxiety disorder, Adhd, and ptsd. Your explanation is so on par that I an even more encouraged to be diagnosed. I soooo wish people would not talk to me either once the dragon has awakened, as it has ended badly when I am pushed way past being broken down. The recovery takes forever and is so draining and I hate how I feel like utter trash afterwards about myself and what I did. I have been trying to remove myself from situations whenever possible to avoid interactions. Again, thanks for putting your story out here. Knowing others go thru the same thing I do makes me feel less like an alien. The more I learn about ASD, the more I have learned about myself and why I act and think compared to NT people and it explains many of the hows and why's of the person I am.

@TheLipstickhippie 6 жыл бұрын

I now know these are not just crying fits which wipe me out for the next day x

@jasminebecker8424 2 жыл бұрын

I find as I get older the more I melt down. I can't mask like I used to, I'm just too exhausted to do it. That, coupled with trauma added throughout the years and I have meltdowns quite often. I am typically able to hold it in until I get to my house or my car, but sometimes I need to leave a place without warning so that I don't start sobbing hysterically in public. I'm sure people think it's weird but I'd rather leave abruptly then meltdown in front of other people. The thing that helps me is dark, quiet, and when my boyfriend gives me deep pressure therapy through squeezing me tightly.

@rainbowdrops6869 6 жыл бұрын

As I was younger I threw things, I cried. And I also kicked trafficlights or those round big things. I hit myself, I have bitten myself. This is what I remember. Everything feels too much, people have to leave me alone. After that I feel exhausted and guilty.Don’t try to talk to me and try to say everything is okay and that I have to calm. Maybe it’s helpful that people say they are there for me. Don’t touch me, I might hit you and I don’t want that. Most time I try to suppress it till I’m at home and alone.

@kristak9699 6 жыл бұрын

Having these experiences and especially feeling ashamed afterwards is what's sent me out looking for answers. I want to know why I feel and do what I do, because it feels like it's beyond my control. I want to know what I CAN do, so I don't have to feel so powerless. You're describing exactly what I've felt. I can't tell you what that means and how much that helps me figure this all out.

@noukiepulp 4 жыл бұрын

@@kristak9699 And what do you feel you can do? I would really like to feel more in control

@PhantomFan1a 5 жыл бұрын

I usually cry and sometimes bite my fingers, and I just become silent and almost non-responsive. My eye contact also goes out of the window, and I fidget a lot. But I recently had a meltdown that lasted for two days, all because of one crappy customer, and I couldn't go somewhere quiet straight away, so I was suppressing my symptoms and emotions until I got home......it was horrible and made me feel so exhausted afterwards :/

@Flamboyant-randomist 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Purple Ella, I'm a 46 year old ASD survivor (don't believe in calling it sufferer) and your video is really helpful. Reactive symptoms are very common with the spectrum and on my worst days I'm VERY destructive. I now run a support group at a specialist college so am looking for good quality advice for dealing with the worst aspects of having ASD, and to anyone reading this, we on the spectrum have brains that are more evolved which is how we often spot things neurotypicals tend to overlook.

@nikolateslaize 5 жыл бұрын

Yesterday I had a meltdown and now I have bump on my head. To hear your experience gave me a relief. As a late self diagnosed hfd woman after all the trouble that I'd gone through, just like you, makes sense now. (treated as drug user- spoiled- possessed etc. multiple times) And It is the hardest part of autism for me.

@hayleywood3111 3 жыл бұрын

Last time I had a meltdown I threw anything I could get my hands on, and there were a lot of expletives happening which is not like me. It’s as if something is in control of me . After I’m so tired.

@Catlily5 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I yell, cuss and cry. I don't throw or break things. I have hurt myself.

@KatieM786 7 жыл бұрын

Thank you for another great video Purple Ella! You are so honest and informative and your channel is really helping me process the fact that 'Im not mad, I'm autistic'! 😊 I'm sorry to hear you have been having a few bumps lately and hopefully things will look up soon. 🌼

@PurpleElla 7 жыл бұрын

Katie M thanks Katie, I'm so glad that my videos are useful.

@riannamajzoub5241 3 жыл бұрын

One thing that works is going and grabbing food or a drink or even suggest it. Sometimes getting away from the situtation and finding an out is the best option. Best thing is to know triggers ahead of time and avoid them too. Otherwise its just better to not intervene if you don't know what to do.

@g-tech3113 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for being brave and sharing. This sounds very much like what my partner and I have gone through for years now, she's awaiting testing to find out if she has autism. I really appreciate how far you've come with your openness and self awareness, good on you for that. Thank you for expressing your perspective and lending advice to those who are bystanders to meltdowns. I've been trying to help for almost 10 years and every bit of information helps me get better at it, so thank you

@Catlily5 3 жыл бұрын

It seems like I have had my worst meltdowns in the psych hospitals. They can say the stupidest things.

@AmericanAmy 3 жыл бұрын

It is not that one is angry during a meltdown one just can’t take anymore at that time. Thanks for the video. I enjoy your work. 🙂👍

@lysagreen2314 4 жыл бұрын

For me, a lot of times, I completely lose it when I get home from work, over nothing. My dogs bark when I come through the door, and I feel like I have been possessed by something. I slam things, rant loudly, talk recklessly about things, I don't even know what or why. Mostly, I am home by myself, as I try to keep myself together until I am safe at home. Thankfully, my dogs are very forgiving. After a while when the pressure is gone, I am deeply ashamed of my lack of self control, and feel very tired and guilty. My co workers do not know about me, as I mask my weirdness, although, I have snapped at work a few times. They probably think I am a total nutter.

@kamistark772 3 жыл бұрын

THIS I finally lost it in January and quit my job I couldnt take it anymore. Im an undiagnosed mommy just realizing im autistic and it is the best change in my life but its so big to me and noone else seems to think so

@kamistark772 3 жыл бұрын

It just explains everything

@staceyruwoldt9158 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for that insight, it was super helpful cos I don't have those typical meltdowns, meaning those well known ones, others have on the spectrum💕 Mine are really minor so knowing how to help somebody else, has helped me a lot so thanks again ☺❤💜 xoxo

@Susan-tr9rh 4 жыл бұрын

So glad I watched this video. I have been criticised by members of my family for what they call my bad behaviour. I display all the symptoms that you describe when I have a meltdown. Then my family members will ask what is wrong and try and problem solve, only making the situation worse. I will certainly show them this video so that they will be able to understand what is going on with me, and know how to approach the situation in the future. Thank you for this insight.

@RPSteve 7 жыл бұрын

You are amazing Purple Ella! I'm Autistic myself and I really admire you for being an advocate! Anyhow if you don't mind, I have lots to share with you about my Autism and I would love to tell you about my experiences!

@artisticafflair408 3 жыл бұрын

Your videos are like a huge comfort blanket. Love you Ella x

@atomicsnowflake 5 жыл бұрын

I'm not allowed to have meltdowns so they have me medicated. I don't like meltdowns, but I don't like medication either. I got through the supermarket today by going through the self service checkout so I didn't have to interact with the checkout person. I feel a bit better as a result. Being forced to make smalltalk makes me have a meltdown. The supermarket is a big problem for me.

@stayhoney6863 5 жыл бұрын

atomicsnowflake move to NYC and that issue will be eliminated. Lol

@atomicsnowflake 5 жыл бұрын

@@stayhoney6863 Noooooo, all those crowds tho 😰😂

@amymurray2857 6 жыл бұрын

Wow! Thank you so much for such an honest video. I can relate so much! Much love xx

@gabeangel8104 6 жыл бұрын

Wow, thank you, this helps me understand myself so much more. Thank you so much

@Daredevil792Thefinalfantasy 4 жыл бұрын

Someone i know told me about this channel and i an glad he did because this is really a part of me - Yes i am Autistic as well (Aspergers). I already admire you for sharing this knowledge i have subbed and will look into the channel more in my free time ❤️😊

@cindyeisenberg8367 2 жыл бұрын

I have schizoaffective disorder and if I get too much stress and too much happening at one time, my anxiety gets bad and I blow up. I have been told that I can’t control myself and get a lot of shame. My meltdowns feel bad. I also am so tired by the end of the week because things are too stressful for me and I try to behave like a neurotypical person. I can’t reason when I am too emotional. If you try to reason with me, I just get more upset. The world doesn’t understand this. My psychiatrist says that schizoaffective disorder behaves like autism. I can assure you that the world doesn’t understand, because they aren’t going through this, like we have to. If they spent one day with my disorder and the delusions, they wouldn’t be able to deal with the anxiety. Then, try working 11 hours a day 5 days a week and keep it together.

@undertheradar001 2 жыл бұрын

C-PTSD + melt-down is harder to manage.

@artisticafflair408 3 жыл бұрын

Your amazing ella, people judge like they do when they see a huge breed of dog but is a puppy and they look as though you havnt tought your dog to behave properly. Just like they judge meltdowns like your an over grown child...

@jenh9232 5 жыл бұрын

I always felt detached from them like I had tourette's syndrome. Stability in relationships becomes paramount.

@marcusrayrosales1 6 жыл бұрын

Melt downs are by far the worst part of being Autistic; after breaking up with my ex, it was almost like a whole year of this. I looked up ways to deal with crying so much (6 hours or more a day), but there was only help for infants. Adults just don't cry that much. It was a very dark time for me.

@Onewaverider 6 жыл бұрын

I cry a lot too - I get overwhelmed and cry and then feel overwhelming self-judgment about the crying

@currybread5298 2 жыл бұрын

I mean that sounds a lot like me.. But professionals don't think I have autism. One therapist said "you have clear signs but lost likely can't get a diagnosis." So one person sees it but don't think I will become "legit" .

@HelpfulMum 7 жыл бұрын

This is a great video and so informative about meltdowns. Thanks for linking up with Your KZfaq.

@KatBuckner 6 жыл бұрын

This is me to a T. I want to get a diagnosis

@lillemy4260 11 ай бұрын

Thank you!

@Ursella999 4 жыл бұрын

This is such a great video! Thank you 🖤

@karencorcoran5875 3 жыл бұрын

You are not alone...meltdown is real and sometimes are very severe..

@soulTraveller144 Жыл бұрын

Oh shittt the way you explain this is so like what i do with the ranting thing where you get agitated

@ziggypip2938 2 жыл бұрын

I appreciate the advice.

@mgw9562 5 жыл бұрын

Excellent explain...helps me to understand my daughter better.

@mariagram3038 3 жыл бұрын

i do the incoherent ranting too,but had a full on screaming fit the other day,i just couldn´t control it,I mostly screamed into my pillow which thank God was right next to me,not that I had any cotrol over wtf I was doing anyway,I was just inside of my body observing what it was doing.I was just going arrrrggghh ,and I can´t take it anymore.The trigger was a public service worker being rude on the phone,but of course it was building up before the grand eruption.Explaining how exhausting that it or that you can´t deal with words is so hard,people tend to make it all about the,question me,argue with me or asking wrf areyou exhausted for,or well I just needed to tell you blah blah...no you don´t what anyone one needs to do to me ,they´ll have to do later,rn I need to shut off everything,just reboot my brain.I´ll lokk rude AF just sitting there with earbuds in listening to lectures on archeology or biology,and I´ll look rude af shaking my head at offers of food ,every attempt at commuication takes so much and i risk just exploding all over again.I just need chill time,and sometimes when I say no to doing something it means no,so don´t pressure me intoit with,you aren´t even trying or it is just a small task,because no it isn´t,and i´ll give you a full on rant of incoherent nonsense full of swearwords (maybe with you as the topic),,and see items thrown around....so just don´t.Just let me chill in peace,maybe hold my hand ,because familiar touch helps,but unfamiliar touch certainly does not.And if all I eat for a week after that is the same,chips,with no ketchup touching it and under no circumstances can it be chip shop ketchup or mixed with anything like mayo,chip dips or mustard,and also stirred eggs with plastic cheese,then that is how I manage,don´t question the magic,and don´t talk to me about vegetables,or buy stuff for me and then blame me for not eating or drinking it,just let it go,if I don´task for something or it isn´t my usual go to,then don´t shove it into my personal safezone,it will be treated as an invassive object and may be splattered on the wall or at best ignored until it is mouldy.I can´t conrol it how ever much I try,but NTs you have the ability to do something,just listen to the affected person and take notes,don´t push anything at them.

@7Swedy 3 жыл бұрын

If I get a meltdown its met by wrath: I get told off and get to know what a horrible person I am. I dont have one single friend left. To combine autism with severe pain-illness make my chanse to cope very small. If I read about autism in Swedish there is almost nothing about meltdowns, there is not even a word for it. Aschberger called it a neurological storm, but people will never understand what it means. I had a meldown yeasterday and it was met by anger and threats: If you do that again, screaming by anger, I will move out. These words come from a homeless that lives for free in my guestroom. He helpes me a little and because of Corona its the only help I get.

@jasonvancura2139 3 жыл бұрын

I had a meltdown earlier this evening. My parents were arguing with each other, and I just lost control. I was screaming and hitting my head and yelling obscenities. I was also punching my bedroom door. My sister and parents needed to calm me down. I'm alright now though.

@zentient8840 3 жыл бұрын

Had a meltdown at work. My sup said, "Are you CRYING?" Instant shame and MORE anxiety.😢

@Catlily5 3 жыл бұрын

I go cry in the bathroom whenever possible.

@michele0324 Жыл бұрын

I stumbled upon your channel while researching hEDS and was immediately drawn in by your sunny disposition. I watched one of your more recent videos in which you disclose you were diagnosed with hEDS. I'm curious to know if you can distinguish sensory processing affected by hEDS vs. Autism?

@Flamboyant-randomist 4 жыл бұрын

HI Purple Ella, I'm a 46 yr old ASD survivor (not sufferer) and this is pretty helpful in the respect of showing the world how it feels from the inside but do you have any good coping mechanisms for meltdowns? APrt from the most obvious which is leaving the person alone when they're feeling triggered. I know as well as the next how maddening it is when things change without warning which NT's take for granted such as public transport being persistently late, favourite shops being out of stock of whatever we need, neighbours making excessive noise etc. I only ask as I recently set up a support group for other people on the Autism spectrum and have been looking for any good info from other survivors.

@juliebrickley2562 Жыл бұрын

How do you cope when someone (e.g. Your family member) scolds & shames you for having a meltdown then!

@EMILYHERRERA Жыл бұрын

lol I've legit had to go to anger management for acting out. The only thing I learned was to walk away as soon as I feel the teensiest twitch of anxiety or frustration, else I have a harder time controlling it. Overstimulation, especially audio, is usually *always* my trigger. So I do try to limit things, wear headphones, etc., but I'm not sure my anger management teacher wouldn't be happy with me sometimes. 😆 I'm just a wreck sometimes, and I need space without lots of stimulation and BS. I also apologize to my kids. I call them my "avalanche". Being overwhelmed plus it's too loud is a disaster. I hate it. I wish everything was quiet.

@EMILYHERRERA Жыл бұрын

My favorite: BACK OFF! This is me in a nutshell. That's a kind way to put it for my fanciful tongue. ❤️

@EMILYHERRERA 4 ай бұрын

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@gravestoner2488 Жыл бұрын

Ella, thank you for your videos. I understand how hard it is to put these experiences into words and you do a very good job of it. I was wondering if you could give me some advice, I'm in a work pickle due to autism. I worked in HVAC repair, and was recently promoted to Inside Sales, basically to keep it simple my new job is to call people, and it can be very lucrative(100k+/year). I thought I could do it, but a few months later after they have paid to train me, I find it really hard to find the motivation to pick up the phone and dial out. If it were you would you try and build the skill and get over the anxiety behind calling people, or would you try to seek a different career path to prevent an overload of stress? I will note I went from a meltdown every few months to what seems to be once a week at this point. Your opinion would be appreciated

@kathybramley5609 7 жыл бұрын

Part of me wants to share this everywhere and say "this is me" but that seems like it might be unfair bringing potentially disruptive attention and exposure to this small channel. I hope you're feeling a bit better. I was feeling bad about the conversation about having a good relationship with my son on here, but we've had quite a lot of meltdowns and we've all been quite meltdown prone in the house and I can hold on to it for so long when I am trying to manage two stressed children with very different ways of acting out and that feeds into the whole competence angst in relation to parenting and for me in general. Also I'm over thinking their philosophical and emotional position and I need to to talk and overstimulating everyone but I really feel like I can't help it. I'm a pedantic speaker, being a complicated muse is how I got by as a kid and it's so hard to break that pattern. And that makes me feel like a really bad mum,like I'm sitting onnmy hands saying can't. And I fear people might view it this way. I need to get a job but if I had a meltdown at work (I had simple exhausted crying meltdowns at my last job) that would be embarrassing, I don't know how that would be. I need to get onto Remploy like I've been told. And/or job centre... who may be able to sort me out with a proper autism assessment. 💜💜💝💝💜💜💜

@PurpleElla 7 жыл бұрын

Hi Kathy, Please share, I'm only a small channel because getting subscribers here is really hard! I actually want to be as public as possible because thats the whole point of what I do. It's really difficult being an adult who has meltdowns, so try to be gentle with yourself as I'm sure you're trying your very best to be the best Mum you can be and best version of yourself.

@Flamboyant-randomist 4 жыл бұрын

HI Kathy, as you describe yourself as a "complicated muse", that sounds to me like you may be on the higher functioning end of the spectrum so embrace it. It shows intellect, and if you find that you're also quirky in that maybe you find humour in random or surreal things, embrace it for it's part of who you are which is incomparable and makes you a unique human being.

@giseerouchon 7 жыл бұрын

I have a print-block shelf with little figures just like yours! Weird!!

@holisticwebdeveloper4603 3 жыл бұрын

This is scary am not autistic but it sounds like me

@ambercody3458 3 жыл бұрын

I have that problem to breaking things i broke my presents k my birthday twice

@colleenc1993 6 жыл бұрын

Do u have mood swings? Haha I have meltdowns still & I’m 24 😀

@skateranddancer 4 жыл бұрын

Great channel, new subscriber here. I’m looking forward to catching up on your vids!

@lugaruna 3 жыл бұрын

Okay i have question about melt down's. Can they happen trough over stimulation? Im a 28 yo female and i have been diagnosed with combined adhd 5 month's ago. We wanted to check if i also have autism but so far it hasn't been found yet. I have looked up a few things about it online specificly list's with female auristic trait's and an audio book. Alot of the things i find i can relate to im still listening to aspergirls and i recognise alot. Okay so for my question before i start rambeling of, can you get meltdowns from a sound overload (everything being to loud)? A few day's ago at work i was working with a level 3 protective headphones on and alot of things still seemed to loud (i work with tools and very loud machines/coworkers). I could still hear everything... From the radio to my coworkers and the machines. I was also listening to some music to calm myself and all the sounds just came trough all my protection. I felt like i wanted to claw my brain out or pull my hair out. I did clench my nails in my hands and on my head but i was dessperatly trying to keep it together. In the end i cried infront of a coworker that just wanted to have a friendly chat and after that he wanted to pray for me. But yea i realy get the feeling im autistic and because of my adhd it's not realy easy to find the patience to wait and go trough all of the other things they want to look at before we can test for autism. Any tips anyoneXD? And thanks if your read my rambelings:).

@Catlily5 3 жыл бұрын

Sounds can make me have a meltdown.

@kitt3813 5 жыл бұрын

Had one the other day after being at the vet for nearly 2 hours - staff know I'm autistic but it wasn't handled very well at all :/

@noukiepulp 4 жыл бұрын

I feel like I have meltdowns to. And they usally end in a massive verbal fight between me and my boyfriend. At some point he will call me an stupid autist (or something simular) which always end in me crying, having no selfworth left and feeling useless as a person and as a partner. I showed him this video hoping we could handle these situations differentely if he could help me see I'm having a meltdown when this happens. But he didn't respond as I hoped! We feels al information on autism is directed at how the people around autistic people need to behave. And not on what autistic people can do themselfs to prevent their anoying behaviour. What is your take on this? Can we change? And if so: how much? Or is are wellbeing more relliant on how well the people around us are capable of dealing with autism?

@soulTraveller144 Жыл бұрын

Does anyone self harm in meltdowns?

@gustopherj 3 жыл бұрын

: / mood

@zentient8840 3 жыл бұрын

Meltdowns: I now know why 😒

@sophiehenderson2442 3 жыл бұрын

All very well and good until a hostile partner or other family member steps in an goes to social services, then autism (dx on its own without evidence of meltdowns) = inadequate parenting. Outcome - social services entering your home and interpreting anything as an outcome of this inadequate parenting. God help you if any children develop mental health problems, which Childrens services are already predisposes to look upon as evidence of abuse. Thanks Freud and the Tavistock! The scandalous disconnect between properly evidence-based medicine and that faith based approach allowed to exist in children’s services will for ever remain a source of on-told damage. What we need is not view based on social care ‘evidence’, and a host of other warped theory-based treatments, including, worst of all, the “social theory” we need a science based approach.