Yes sounds about right.

its why everyone is so drawn to Jesus....

It's a native Hawaiian saying.

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claudettedupont And true.

Indeed

Yep

That’s not true! You can act it out, BUT your life is your everything and it’s NOT just about this!

What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger so to speak

Same

I love you, your gonna be okay! I’m an outsider too!

I see you

My mom left the family when I was 8 or so, and she ghosted me for seven years. I ended up developing OCD and manic depression. When she came back into my life, she was still uncaring and disconnected, which led me to believe I was worthless. This worthlessness carried on into adulthood, it's only now as an adult can I understand the full brunt of the pain she caused me. I know what it's like, it is like living in hell where your cries are only met with silence. Your comment resonated with me, we're not alone:)

hey at least you are not alone in this feeling.

I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. That's not a good mother.

GOD BLESS YOU

This Mystic I felt like you're talking about me . This is EXACTLY what my relationship with both of my parents (But especially my mom) has always been . No connection whatsoever no emotions no love . Total distance and disconnection . I relate to hugging myself too. I always did that as a kid and still do it . I'm desperate for love cuz I never had it and it fucks up my romantic relationships despite being an attractive girl I always give too much but end up being hurt and abandoned

It may not be so much that she hates you. It’s just literally emotionally shielding herself from the possibility of getting hurt. I don’t trust anyone. I struggle to trust. Even when I know that there’s someone I may be able to trust forreal.

After a period of time, I reach out...and I try to correct myself, because I know deep down he’s a good man. I know he really cares for me. It’s just the fear of trusting.

Shelby Smith thank you

@Robert Cullen I think you should attempt to reach out to her! At least try and see how she reacts! I’m always grateful when I’ve pushed him away. I’m starting to do a bit better.

that makes sense, but stepping out of your feelings, how do you know that person also doesnt have something in them that has issues that you may one day expose? I know in myself, I am kind in that I dont want to hurt another person, but eventually you find both sides have issues that they need to expose. Thats part of the relationship is sharing who you are, and hopefully overcoming some old baggage, too.

joey_rooklyn I hear you.. :(

How are you doing now?

joey_rooklyn Newsflash for ya - that doesn’t help you or fix anything and it’s a sad way to live. Actually, its NOT living, its just avoidance. You actually miss out on more that way. Take it from someone who knows & is now looking back on the years I feel I wasted & all that I missed out on. I told myself I was “working on myself”, and to an extent, I was, but I was really doing more avoiding and beating myself up than getting to the root of the problem & healing. I didn’t date and became distant from even friends & family. I even avoided many phone calls. I had a few friends who stuck by me & tried to understand, but mostly people just gave up after a while & I just became “the weird one” watching time go by. I told myself I didn’t care but I did. Most of the people I cared about lost respect for me after a while. Now I wish I had that time back to use in a positive & productive way but it’s gone; wasted and misused. My two cents for what it’s worth.

@James George I dont think so, actually , im doing GREAT, its like I was training for Covid19 - Everyone is having such a hard time, but its just another day to me

@@t.brooks5082 Its ok hun, Im doing well, you get used to it, and now that everyone is stuck in their homes, i feel like this lock down doesnt bother me at all, in fact it makes me want to see people less. I am trying for a full time work from home gig, and just never leave the house, get everything delivered. (1995 Movie the Net) Her life looked pefect set ut

Aaron Brutus I feel the same way

Aaron Brutus life sentence.

Me either

How are you doing now?

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I did the same! I came to find funny vids and found that he has some seriously intelligent perspective videos too. Makes me want to stick around even more 😊

LMAO!!!!

what so horrible about self reflection?

GongsunXin Depends on what's showing up in the mirror. Sometimes we see things we've been trying not to look at.

I came for the comedy and stayed for the insight. I've been binge watching these videos. So many thought provoking issues. WOW!!

1 year later I’m 36, on a Friday night/Saturday morning watching this. Positive Vibes to you as well!

Thanks. I find your comment valueable

Conor Santry

Thank you bro!!

Also don't do too much of detective work all in one time. You need a little distance in-between. It shouldn't start ruling you too much, process it, change little things on the way. It's never straightforward, unfortunately. Great summary :)

How do u connect with the inner child?

So sorry to hear all this. Wish you lots of love & healing, and happiness ❤

Our stories are so similar. I'm so sorry, but you can be assured the Jesus loves you, and will never abandon you.

Tough to read all that but all I can think of is how strong of a person you truly are to make it through all that

You are very strong keep breezing through this as you do man! I just prayed for you, and you are loved❤️

WandaThePanda One thing I learned is that no adult has the right to tell a child how they feel (or an adult revisiting a childhood wound). I had one friend tell me "But you're a grown-up now and that was a long time ago", which only invalidated me when I probably needed a hug as if I were THAT child right then, feeling that pain. I don't get why even therapists just don't understand this. I could be in my 40's and my parents say one critical comment that made me feel like a child again, which leads to seeking their approval, or the approval of others.

WandaThePanda same here..

@WandaThePanda -- I know I'm about 3 years late to this party, don't know if you'll even see this, but I know what you mean. I've had this lifelong emotionally suffocating fear of abandonment (loss of those I love is a more accurate description). I inadvertently seem to avoid really emotionally deep romantic relationships (even though I'd love that), even in long term relationships. Ironically I actually isolate myself often and enjoy being alone. HOWEVER, I actually had a fantastic childhood with extremely loving, supportive and non-critical parents (truly). So I have been constantly puzzled with where this deep, deep, crippling fear of losing people originated from. I know not everyone will agree with me on this, but I've often pondered if I didn't have an extremely traumatic past-life experience that I brought into this life path with me. It really does feel that way sometimes. If not, I'm totally at a loss as to where it comes from.

Leaping Lynx I hear you. Maybe you ARE recalling your past-life experiences? What matters is how you’re coping or better yet, how you’re overcoming that past hurt and pain.

@@leapinglynx May be you're missing your group of friends in this life, and it could be that they absent in this lifetime on purpose

That's so weird but I understand 😆

Beatrice... Me too..

Hi! Nice video you have there! By the way; have you heard about " Vidadsmedia Child Anxiety Treatment " (google the exact phrase)? My brother had some transactions with them and was impressed by their amazing treatment when the anxious child was completely rectified !

hey hey! Nice video you have there! Since we are on the same topic; have you thought about " Vidadsmedia Child Anxiety Treatment " (Have a quick look on google...cant remember the exact words)? My neighbors wife had some dealings with them and was impressed by their great treatment when the anxious child was completely treated !

Same here and I don't even like cats!

Melanie Gibson what if she wants to talk about Uncle Ronnie?

OMG ME TOO!!

Did you find any solution ? I had 2 "traumatic" events when I was a little kid, waking up alone in the house because both my parents were working full time. It didn't happen often, they usually managed not to work at the same hours, but I was maybe 3-4 years old, and it was the first time I became aware of death. I distincly remember thinking they were gone for real and I was left alone with my toys... which didn't provide me any consolation ! I think of this sometimes but couldn 't notice much difference after doing some inner talk... now I'm much older than when I became aware of that, and I understand I may well have other issues, maybe in relation with my mother having obvious narcissisc and/or codepency tendencies, to make it short !

Smart Cat Collar Project Smart Cat Collar Project Hi! I'm still in the mist of finding a solution. I've been trying to seek more info on YT and attending counselling. Your story is so sad, it's crazy how these events in early life end up manifesting again in later life. One thing I have learned now is that I have to be my biggest fan. I need to be rooting for myself and validating myself ALWAYS. We can no longer give people that role or our happiness will always be in the hands of another. I'm sending you love & light, happy new year!

I hope counseling helps, just don't become addicted ; ) I agree, value yourself, gain confidence (grow a spine like they used to say) and maintain healthy boundaries (to not be too thin skinned), sounds good emotional practice if you are shy and avoidant. More cognitive approachs, also very good ! Then you have these "somatic" therapies, or tapping, which seem to bring some results with serious traumas, PTSD, etc. at least for some people, maybe less to become more assertive ? I was talking about these social issues, family habits we learn from our parents, maybe also useful to learn about that to avoid falling in the same fruitless, frustrating relationships with narcissists, although it's not always easy to start from scratch when you don't have the right script, nor is finding honest people. Best of everything for you and your loved ones !

Smart Cat Collar Project Your comments regarding this topic have been inspiring.. Please know that someone somewhere in the world heeded your words, and has taken them to heart. I don't know who you are, but I want to thank you for having taken the time to write what you wrote, because it's just what I needed to realize at this point in time.

Smart Cat Collar Project Wow this just gave me a realization. I’ve experienced that feeling of waking up in the middle of the night alone so many times. I was raised by a single mother who was constantly working to make ends meet, and would often work graveyard shifts. As a child I would wake up and run into her room, realize she wasn’t there, cry, and think that she died. Eventually that feeling went away (maybe i detached from her and put up barriers). But then when I was a preteen, I would wake up in the middle of the night in this intense state of existential crisis, where i felt a brush with death and oblivion. I would feel this overwhelming weight of death, like “wow one day i’m going to die and never exist again, never ever again”. I would usually just freak out for like 30 seconds, heart racing, and then calm myself down and fall back asleep. It happened most recently like a week ago, and I just wrote it off as some sort of nightmare, but i think it’s a symptom of my abandonment- that feeling of waking up in the middle of the night hopelessly alone and lost, with no one to comfort you. In the dark it almost feels like you will be swallowed by oblivion. But it’s crazy how our feelings manifest, and I thank you for sharing your experience, it just helped me piece together my own. Happy healing friend.

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Your stories bring up another interesting point; sometimes the issue isn’t always something from childhood. While childhood can establish those feelings, sometimes the stuff that happens to us in our teens or even college years can trigger abandonment issues, especially because it feels like nothing will ever change after growing up.

Sometimes it is also the community or even the country.

I can totally relate, at times people fail us and they are unaware how this affects us later on

That's so sad.....I'm so sorry.

Victoria Nauen My son was 14 when I told him, in the counselor's office at school. He said he knew (his parents would split up) sooner or later, he just didn't know when. And a few days later when he thought I wasn't listening, he said it was a relief. His dad and I fought a lot.

Recovering Soul Our children often know before we can admit it to ourselves when we are in detrimental relationships.. Your son sounds like my daughter. 💜 We have smart kids. 💜 Let's honour them by doing well for ourselves. 💜

@_egas calybird Hi, I'm sorry your mindset won't allow any breakthrough. In my humble opinion, it isn't about self control, as you have had the self control not to bring the pain up in the first place. It may be that your coping mechanisms you've put in place are very strong. The cover ups are to help self soothe, it's little wonder you can't access. There is therapy called Schema which explains reasons why we feel and behave in the ways we do. It works from past to present which eventually brings about the awareness of feeling. We have schemas in place to block and overcompensate for past pain as we continue to push down feeling which the brain has learned to do well, though in doing so we manifest ourselves in a non authentic way even though we know deep down something is wrong internally. Overcompensation is normally what happens, this is a learned process from childhood... i.e. people pleasing, being clingy, distrustful, the joker, excessive shopping, over working, being avoidant, dismissive, grandiose, punatitive etc All in place to soothe the inner conflict of past pain. Your body is reacting to the pain being brought up through memory which is actually a step forward and little to do with self control. Self control is when you have pushed the pain down. Be easy on yourself its not a quick fix. Take a look at schema therapy it is a path to healing. Take care.

♡ sending you hugs. (I just learned about JP Sears. His gluten free videos make me laugh because I have celiacs. XD)

+Rebecca Arnold You're welcome :-)

Eloquent

James Evans Are you my brother?

James Evans I thought for a long time that I was adopted.. but years after.. when I look in the mirror - I see my mother. And parts of my father. So.. nope. I’m theirs..

It is curious, but I hoped I was adopted. At 15 I found my birth papers and my hope was buried. 😬

Is that your real picture ? Also, did you progress or find some particularly useful videos or website about this issue ?

Wow ! Reading the comments, it becomes obvious it's YOU who are stalking and criticizing other people ! Stop projecting your own insanity into other people's life ! What a narcissist and obsessive drama queen, unbelievable ! I made a joke about her avatar, that's not a crime ! Someone did the same about mine and I found it funny !

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LOL.. and the place of balance is what? :)

Sooo funny