It’s simple: 1. Women are easily bored 2. The looks and behaviors of bad boys delay women from becoming bored 3. Bad boys leave before a woman becomes bored with them

“Nice guys finish in divorce court. Bad boys finish on her face” - Darius M

1) Be independent 2) Sense of humor 3) Confidence 4) Being direct 5) Body Language and Social Skills These are traits bad boys possess, not traits that make a bad boy. It’s often the fact that “nice guys” don’t have these traits or don’t show them that makes them finish last. These are all positive traits you can have without coming off as or being a douche, a bad boy, a jerk or asshole. Be direct with what you want, have good social skills to express what you want to compliment your words and be confident when expressing what you want. Have your own life, take what you do and want seriously be lighthearted and easy to approach and talk to when you talk to others, not just when approaching women. If you have a problem doing this when approaching women in particular, consider that maybe you’re overthinking how women work. Women and Men are still more similar than they are different. Two sides of the same coin, but still on the same coin.

1.) prioritise yourself as a man and don’t spend energy to think about what she wants or feels 2.) don’t forget rule one 3.) You can lose all your money by chasing women, you will never lose women by chasing money 4.) it’s not the good of your heart but the size of your wallet that makes you stand out 5.) For men, intimacy is always transactional - one way or another you pay-for-play. Chose the right playground and look for quality, not quantity. 6.) She is never yours, it’s just your turn 7.) She has a backup guy - you should have a backup plan too 8.) Never tolerate drama or shit tests - keep her in check 9.) Be confident when others flirt with your girl, if she flirts back, leave her immediately. 10.) lift weights 5 days a week, no matter your age

Ohh man not this haha 😆. I think guys should stop worrying about trying to be what women want in terms of this bad boy stuff and just focus on being the best version of themselves. One thing I've learned from talking to different women; is they all like different things in guys. You just gotta be confident in your good qualities and put yourself out there for women who like those things. Plus nothing wrong with being a good guy. I rather people say "Georgio was a good man who always looked out for people" when my time on this earth is done. That is how we should think. Anyways happy New Year everyone and thanks Courtney for your kindness and great content my friend 🙌🏽♥️🥂

As someone who made it out of the friendzone last year,im not a bad boy.I just matured and realized that you just need to appeal to the mental attraction,stop being thirsty,and realize if she don't like you find another woman that does💯 And keep your options open

Wishing you all very happy new year may it bring health, wealth, prosperity in your life. 🌹 Things to avoid this year - 1. Trying to please everyone 2. Fearing change 3. Living in the past 4. Overthinking 5. Being afraid to be different 6. Sacrificing happiness for others 7. Thinking you're not good enough 8.thinking you not have purpose in life

So many guys falsely equate being a bad boy with being rude to and ignoring women. That will only make women give up and dislike them.

I was a nice guy in my teens until other guys told me to knock it off. I started being a bad boy, rude, dismissive, jerky, and girls chased me and competed to be with me. HOWEVER: I did not like the person I was, and I noticed that the older you get, the less the girls want you to be like that. But the biggest enemy of females is: they depend on guys to handle the fact that they are constantly bored and don't know what to do with themselves. They should have a life, and prefer nice/kind guys. If "guys are your life", then you'll end up with a guy with a rap sheet who might commit domestic abuse, leave you with a baby, etc.

There was a girl who broke up with a guy early into dating because she thought he was too into her when he wasn't. What he did was normal dating actions where you date the woman. What she didn't realize was he was sought after by many women. His new girlfriend was beautiful and she started coming back around. But it didn't matter because he was no longer interested. She was probably more comfortable being treated badly or indifferent. These women exist.

A great video to start of the year with & it's true most of those traits are misunderstood to be "bad" but they aren't, it's basically just getting out of your comfort zone & being more confident in your life.

1) Be independant - you can work on that and learn. 2) Sense of humor - I would say you can also work on that if you are a chill person that is happy with their own life. 3) Confidence - Going to the Gym, feeling great about yourself I would say is the Key. 4) Being direct - Honesty is important too. 5) Body language - I think this one is the hardest because there is way too many shy people that just can't do this at all without feeling unconfortable.

According to the FBI - Crossing your arms is one of most misunderstood body poses. It is not a defensive, or angry posture like so many think it is.

Brilliant and authentic advice Courtney. Your vids never fail to educate and inform in a kind way.

Watching Courtney and Teddy's channel back to back to start the new year 🙌🏾

I think one thing that girls miss here - I notice girls that have liked the “bad boys” - totally true. The thing is, once I notice that about a woman, it’s a complete turn off. I am not attracted to her anymore. Sometimes these videos seem to come with an assumption that the girl is the ultimate prize. Be the best version of yourself to get the girl. Except, yeah, no thanks. Not interested in girls for fall for the dumb bad boy game.

You are surounding the real issue here. Confidence, sense of humor, etc. Those are good guy atributes. Unfaithful, rude, violent, abusive... That's a "bad boy". Why are they irresistible to many women? Because some people just like problems and drama to feel alive. They think that's what they deserve.

"Bad boys" are just tall good looking guys who don't let women push them around. Ever seen a short guy being referrred to as a "bad boy"? I didn't think so.

Happy New Year Courtney - I eagerly await your excellent KZfaq posts in 2022!

Hi Ms. Ryan - I do all the five things you suggested. I do them naturally when speaking to ladies, I don't consider myself a "bad boy" I see myself as a guy who likes ladies company and I have a lot of fun as in laughs and good times with women, yes I look after myself and I don't dress or smell like all the other guys in the room or club. Maybe that's why I get noticed. What I will say is this - guys all you have to do is stop with the naughty thoughts and speak to women with respect and treat them I'm a manner you wish to be treated myself. Also no dirty jokes - big no,no,. Oh the number one rule is - if you walk up to a lady say "Hi" And she is not interested. Then just walk away, don't say anything as it will make zero difference. And be cool about it. This bit will sound a tad odd - if you do right, sometimes a lady will be impressed by the way you handled yourself with the rejection and then she may come over to you and start speaking or she will be close to you in order for you to speak to her. However, always play it save - if she's near you. Then again walk away without saying a word. That way you're being safe. Another cool thing is to go out with some of your lady friends as that always makes other ladies look at you. There's a certain mystic involved when women see a guy with ladies around him they become very interested in who he is and what he does. But the golden rule is always be modest and listen to what the lady is saying and reply accordingly. Yes say something to make her smile. But no dirty jokes. And eye contact is king.

Saturday morning 01 January 2022. These are traits of CONFIDENT men. Thanks for what you do, Courtney. Take care and all the best in 2022.

All guys are confident we just show it more in other areas. Like I show my confidence by working and building things just because I have a hard time talking to ppl doesn't mean I'm not confident . People need to under stand that about guys

When Courtney said "At the end of the day Most women would prefer to be approached by you instead of having to do it themselves" I immediately thought translation, they'd rather do the rejecting than having to worry about being rejected....lol 😆 Maybe I'm just pessimistic but I don't see the rules of the approach changing sadly, I do believe however a big part of "guy has to approach not the woman" is due to the fact that they don't want to be rejected either. Like a job, think about it. Is it easier for 10 companies to be interested in you with you having easy pickings or you going out there on interviews day in, day out hoping you get that job? But anyway great vid and Happy New Year Courtney.🙂🎇🧨

Thank you for all the great advise! Happy I found your channel. Happy new year!

With the above list, I believe I have most of what you, Courtney saw. I still need a little work.on the social skills, since most of the time I am doing stuff by myself. I do not shy away from people. I am just one of those 'Lone wolves'. Confidence comes from being comfortable with yourself and who you are.

1/- be hot. 2/- avoid being unattractive. 3/- be successful (aka, have cash). body language, social skills, confidence ? won't hurt.

Happy New Years Courtney! 🍇🥳🎉🎊❤

Much respect for being consistent even the day before and first day of New Years!

I like how she says im not telling you to be a bad boy,but thats basically what she is telling you to do😂😂

Great video! I like how you described the traits/behaviors. This lets guys lnow what they already do well and can look at areas they can work on.

Happy new year to the true bad boys ! Happy new year Courtney !

Happy New Year Courtney! 🙌🏻

One thing that is really missing from the discussion is the fact that the examples people use as evidence that bad boys win are attractive, fictional characters with great senses of style. Hank Moody Harvey Spector, Lori etc. In real life you often find that "bad boys" have almost the same amount of success as confident nice guys. The only difference is Bad boys seem to care less about rejection than other types. If there is any attribute one should take from the bad boy, it is the ability to not care about things that do not build or desire you like most other guys do.

It's absolutely true, and I learned my lesson the hard way when I was a simp. I have also learned you can be good and bad at the same time, all women I mean all women either consciously or subconsciously like bad guys. You have to know how to ignore them from time to time and treat them the way they wanted to be treated, be a jerk. Most women when they look for guys usually based on 2 things. First is the look when she's under 30, she will drive 100 miles to sleep with you if you look like an Armani model. Then money when she is older than 30, she will drive 200 miles to sleep with you if you are rich. Accept these 2 facts, you will never get disappointed in life, and your life will be a lot simpler and happier. Years ago, I read a book called "The Code" after I got heartbroken, one of the best books I have ever read! Society has changed dramatically in the past 20 years, but some of the codes are still working, because human nature doesn't change, chics are still chics.

Happy New Year Miss C, best wishes and stay cute and healthy, keep it up!

Haven't viewed this video of yours but just because of the caption/heading it gets my thumbs up!

I heard that body language is stronger than what is actually spoken. When a woman seems interested, but nervous too, a posture of interest and encouraging to speak more mixed with confidence, I think Courtney would agree how importance this is and once past this, if a flow of communication occurs, it will be good for the both of you. I have been told by woman I met within an hour or two say they feel like they have known me for a long time and I can't say I even really understand this. I am calm and friendly and will ease into any topic and am easy going, so maybe that has something to do with it.

Happy New Year to you and Teddy. I hope it treats you both well.

Happy new year Courtney and hopefully a video with Teaching men fashion in 2022

Happy New Year, Courtney and all!

Men need to be independent and confident and direct and funny and take all the risks and spend all the money and chase and pursue her.... and none of it works if you’re wearing the wrong shoes! I give up.

I'm in the early stages of a relationship, and I don't know why but i love watching content like this lol...

Great video Courtney, like always ! Excellent advices ! Bad Boy is very relaxed with women because he's constantly flirting with few of them at the same time. He's approaching so many women, he doesn't even have time to call all of them 🤣.

this is truth happy new year courtney

Love Courtney's advice in general and enjoy her videos. Fellas never chase, although Courtney is describing it as sexy, confident and attractive I believe she is projecting on what she would like men to do which is not the same as what is in their best interest. By all means act on signs of attraction from a woman but chasing comes off as needy and will put you in a certain box in her mind. Instead if you are finding yourself having to chase, look at your own life and start improving yourself. When you are your best version women that you never new existed suddenly come out of the woodwork and pay attention to you. TLDR Improve yourself, don't chase guys.

I used to have all of attributes to be in the great Chad, 6'3", athletic, 6 figure salary, talk easily to women, etc, even tried it for a while. My biggest problem is I don't like the drama, hassles or stresses associated with being a Chad. I've had women ask me out and my response was nah, too much of a hassle. I'd rather just do my own thing and don't have the personality for it.

Love your videos I learn a lot thanks for your relationship wisdom

Simple way to say it is be respectfully brave, read her vibe and be confident about your values

Build young Men, Build... for reference, you don't have to be a "Bad boy" to have these traits, but it's important to have them because it's going to be essential to not only getting the woman you want, but keeping her around... it's a process that will take time, So invest that time into yourself to become the Best you can be. Happy New year and Good luck with y'alls Goals/Purpose

Bad boys win for one main reason, they are physically attractive. Again, it's all about looks. There are very few exceptions. Most average or ugly looking men can't be bad boys, because they don't have the looks to be able to get away with being cheeky or even somewhat aggressive, like many bad boys are. Some bad boys are downright forceful, but their good looks trump everything. Being independent and non clingy isn't attractive to a woman when the man is ugly or average looking. Being independent and non clingy only is attractive if the man is attractive physically. I wish Courtney would just come out and say that her advice is only for men who are an 8/10 in looks. Confidence rarely works in non physically attractive men. It only works in the end, after the attractive woman has ridden the carousel for many years and decides to settle for the beta male, but he'll have to have a lot of money to make up for the fact that he doesn't look like Chad. Facts with very few exceptions.

You just described Danny Devito. There wasn't a single comment about what causes AROUSAL. Nothing about about the man's physicality , or the sense of anxiety THAT LEADS TO AROUSAL that a Bad boy creates in a girl that makes her want to have sex upon first meeting. Either because of a complete lack of sense awareness of what triggered your arousal when you did meet those men and it did lead to sex, or you've honestly forgot, or you're unaware that you're talking about what makes a man ATTRACTIVE for long term, AFTER you've already been Aroused by him. Or you're virtue signally. meanwhile the same girl at the Club: (thinking) " I want to get with that new DJ (status) I've never spoken to, with the great arse, big guns (Physicality), who all the other girls are also drooling over! (Preselection and Competition Anxiety)"

🌟 Happy new year to Courtney's fans! Go crush your 2022 goals! 🌟

So much for kindness and respect being considered confident. Just cause someone is not an out front or manly. Doesn't mean we are not confident. Keep up with the struggle nice guys. Don't give up.

I think we need to define the "bad boy" trope. I live in the south, and what I've noticed with this trope, at least where I live, this trope has a lot of problems. Usually drugs and alcohol. Dealing drugs, doing them, and ultimately being abusive. I've seen it all. I was literally denied a good relationship for an abusive ex. Then came the "hoe phase" rejecting me once more for "Not being emotionally available" and then two weeks later, actually gets a boyfriend. Pissed me right off, and I absolutely bounced. I'm not second fiddle to a false trope nor a lame ass "phase". At the end of the day, I've got my own thing going on, built from the sweat of my brow, and my brow alone.

I just discovered this channel. Very good advice, it has helped explain a lot.

The key is to be a hybrid of the good man and the bad boy! It works for me.

Stay on your purpose gents and be confident always. Minimal effort is needed at that point.

The perfect video to start out the year

Happy New Year Courtney

I think almost every man in the world is unconfident about something in there life but I believe some are better at hiding it than others.

Let's be very, very clear on something. The #1 reason that "bad boys" are so attractive is 90% of the time they are tall and hot so the woman let that behavior slide because of this. If an unattractive man tried to do even close to half of these things they will get into actual trouble. Stop lying

Happy new year!🙌🏽💯

2022 Courtney’s channel is going to make it to 300k to 500k. Calling it now.

Much respect to you Courtney especially when you said on your other videos telling us men to delete only fans account.. you have so much values, a humble spirit and so feminine with her speech and act. Those traits are mens weakness.. Happynewyear courtney! And i just wanna say thank you for helping us to know women better and to make ourselves ready to make the actions.

The definition of a bad boy to every woman is different, so it is hard to generalize. From my observations, it tends to be the guy that alot of girls want. Women love the competition or even the drama of getting the man that all her friends like. Sometimes, she will even try to steal the man from a friend. As long as the guy does his own thing and stays aloof to women in general, women will obsess over him, but I have also seen the baddest of the bad boys get dumped if they show too much interest in certain girls. A woman wants what she can't have or wants to change a man. As long as the man doesn't let her succeed in those two things, he will be craved by alot of women.

Spot on Courtney :) Being yourself is the best thing..I have life that women want to be apart of.. My friend Amanda says women want to be on your fun bus because there is no drama.

Thank you for such reading. Important to know. May GOD Blesses you

I came across something interesting you can look into and make a video about. In the North American continent about 8% of males ate 6ft or taller. About 14.5% of just US males are 6ft or taller. Somehow many women believe there is an over abundance of men over 6ft and they make 150k/yr up to 250k and that each woman in the US thinks there's one around for just them. You've mentioned the 6ft thing being a silly requirement, and trust me, I've been with women taller than me, it is silly, but it does slow down one's desire to cold approach. If you could make a video that will help both men&women simultaneously, for me, i hope it leads to more subs because you should be one of the top major channels in human's overall well being.

Great video Courtney. Quick question though. I am one of the rare breeds that will go up to anybody and approach and 75% of the time at least get a phone number. I’ve had great luck with it and have never used dating apps. When I tell people I approach them, most girls say what are you crazy that’s creepy and scary etc. They say that you’re a complete stranger, but ironically strangers are also on dating apps and you can easily lie about yourself. When I tell guys, there like that’s awesome but then some guys in general are afraid to approach and I guess it’s natural to me. So I guess the question is why do most girls say they want men to approach them, and then when people like me do it they get weirded out? Keep in mind, older woman I have approached never are weirded out and they appreciate it but girls in their 30s and 20s are creeped out by it which of the ones that say they want to be approached more. Very confusing, can you please elaborate on this Courtney. You’re the best ☺️

Excellent job at solving this one. This one has mystified and confounded men since they experienced high school. Can we make this video definitive on the subject? K thx!

You make wonderful videos. You have great knowledge and insight. I do have one question?

Based on observations in my own environment, there seems to be a correlation between the "bad boy type" or "fake alpha types" and "loose women types". These are not the types to exude an actual interest in relationships and are thus prone to sleeping around and make for horrible partners. So long as they remain this way they tend to showcase themselves as being bad mates male/female. These are generally speaking also the "popular kids" at school or the "jock and cheerleader" archetypes and tend to be rather aggressive in these environments which is why you see them as filling a sort of "alpha role" but this tends to be a false perception, as they don't actually fulfill the responsibilities of an alpha. It's quite fascinating to observe people around you. Now of course I could be completely wrong here and frankly be making an ass of myself, however it is what I have observed over the years and the correlation does seem correct.

confidence=the ability to make others belive that you really know what you are talking about

Happy newyear!! 🎆🎇

I’ve been single for 4 years so being a nice guy ain’t cutting it

Male Game: Being confident, assertive, decisive, unpredictable, and having an abundance mindset. Female Game: Being submissive, cooperative, loyal, supportive and having a virtuous and wholesome image.

Anyone else just over dating and trying to be "successful" with women? Doesn't seem worth it all specially these days. Rather stay alone and happy than to have to put in so much work with women when you can put that energy into other areas of your life

Love the eyebrows!

thanks for the tips

If you put in the time to learn and understand female pleasure it literally changes everything for you

at this point in my life i've seen so many strange things that women have been attracted to that it's really no magic wish list that you can tell a guy to follow. just be around enough women and be at least a little sociable no matter how awkward you are, at some point some women will like what you are. i've seen the most clumsiest, cringiest, dorkiest guys completely mesmerise women with how "cute" they are when they are fumbling around with their words. i've seen criminals just standing around women and the women getting all excited about being with them, not because of muscles or any particular attitude, just for the very fact that they are criminals. i've seen fat people, small people, tall people who all look extremely strange be attractive to women in some shape or form and none of these guys had any game or assertiveness or acted dominant in any way. it's all about her perspective that you need to be favourable about you for her to like you. how many times does women not lament every time why they go for bad guys? not necessarily a bad guy but a guy with next to no redeeming qualities. it's all day every day. stop trying to figure out women and just shoot your shot, if she likes you she will move the basket so it's unmissable.

Happy new year!

The thing is, you can't fake confidence. Be yourself and love yourself, and confidence will exude from you.

"just because you are loud and obnoxious does not mean I am not confident about who I am" - Daft Punk

I think there's a huge disconnect with what women perceive as a bad boy vs what a bad boy truly is

Early 20s had a bad break up with a cheater and narcissist. I am about as strong of a male type as it comes, but this girl damaged me for about 1.5 years. I guess this was my "bad boy phase". Ran through women, didn't care and just did what i would need to do to get women and live my life however I wanted. I wasn't abusive or verbally manipulating, I basically just didn't care. Would literally sometimes go up to a group of women and just chat them up until i figured out which ones of the group I could play off each other to get a ONS or fling out it. It was garbage way to live and luckily had a buddy of mine and an eventual woman who i had a great relationship with for several years snap me out of it. I still utilize these traits when it comes to dating now that she describes in the video, but when i was in my "bad boy phase.", i was a complete scumbag and would just jump from woman to woman. Now i am much more selective about who I actually want to pursue a possible relationship with.

I used to be a nice guy, but i realized putting your self first and be confident more often makes you a better person, its not about being an asshole its about knowing your worth, and knowing that if you are unhappy you can not make anyone else happy. I still a kind person just not a push over.

From personal experience the bad boy package can backfire because some good women assume you're an F-boy

Yeah I definitely fall under the category of being confused. When women said they wanted equally and independence I thought that meant socially as well. I thought they would be begin approaching me and paying for my meals, lol.

This just happened to me with someone I worked with during Covid. The place we work is conservative/church compared to hanging out at Cafe Stella in Silver Lake. So I told her I was going to make mushroom soup. We talked about Hans Zimmer. She would literally not return texts etc. Turns out she is hooking up a married guy with three kids. I'm sure there talking about Hans Zimmer. This happens all the time Courtney.

Hi Courtney, Happy New Year dear❤🤗

No matter what a woman tells you she wants the guy she really wants is that guy she cannot have. Why do you think when you have a girlfriend it's so much easier to get other females?

Just be yourself, it's very simple.

In my opinion be confident be yours dont change for that girl love yourself and care yourself is important that i learned

Aight yall check this out: I had serious issues with women. In HS I was popular, record setting athlete as a point guard and 100m sprinter, heck even a decent student, lead singer in a band and even learned how to teach myself to play some sick guitar. Yet still? Had no success with women. I was very very insecure, but not even in a way that made me feel “sad”. I just assumed that since I had orgscnallly ended up having all of these traits I began to notice were the typical “ladies man” traits, yet no women wanted me? I just assumed that I had a terrible perosnality and was super ugly. And I sort of accepted it easily. But I was so out of touch. I sort of didn’t put it all together. I had forgotten about the times at parties when upper classman pretty girls had tried to sleep with me and I rejected them( out of fear and lack of confidence) early on in HS. I had forgot about the times my friend-girls said things like “dude I was looking at this hot dude across the room..then I realized it was just you!” All of these interactions had happened between me and women that i had forgot about, or didn’t really think deeply about, and didn’t realize what the actual situation was. I thought that since I hadn’t been with any women, Clealty none of them liked me. I forgot that the truth was? Not only had I rejected women who had come onto me, but I had literally not ONCE asked a girl out or even made it clear that I was interested. So uh..DUhHhH, clearly I had this vibe going between being so insecure about my desirability, or sure that I had none combined with making some women assume I must be gay. I had such a feminine energy. I had been subconsciously waiting for women to approach ME( and when they had, rejected them!) and then whenever a women didn’t approach ME, I let that mean that I Clealty just wasn’t of high value to ANY of them, and so I just became someone who accepted I wasn’t desirebale. I literally created my own issues with women. By the time I was a senior, and at my “peak” in terms of HS years wirh sports and popularity and all of that, all of the girls at school treated me like a gay BF. They all loved to hang around me and shit, but they also sort of talked down to me whenever something about dating or sex came up. It was like they didn’t even see me as a man. So again since I didn’t understand what I had been showing all along, this just cemented to me I had no “value”. Buuuut then I get to college? Right? Where the girls have no idea who I am, have no opinons formed about me through my HS behavior, and it was the first time I started to get really confused. I had accepted I wasn’t attractive, if I had all of these other things going for me and I still couldn’t get girls in HS rifgt? But then at college it was like from the beginning of first semester, all of these BEAUTIFUL girls( way more beautiful than anyone I knew in HS) were being like extraaaa nice to me lol. My buddies were even like “bro she wants you!” But again, since I was so insecure, I thought they were just being nice? Literally it got to the point where one told me she wanted to have my babies, the other straight up just jumped on me and kissed me, one came and found me and asked me to “walk her home” from the party, and so on and so forth. Had an old friend girl from HS come visit me and she said she was getting Death Stares from some of the college girls the night we went out together. She said they were jealous and didn’t want her to be with me. Dudes…all of this should have helped me see clearly, but no. I still didn’t take advantage of any of this. It did make me wonder a bit more if maybe I did have a chance wirh some of these women? But I was still too self loathing in my core to do anything. Wanna know how I finally lost my official V card? A girl got ME almost blackout drunk and jumped me in my car lol. It was like she was the first one to just be like “ok this dude is such a pussy im just going to force myself on him, clearly the obvious flirting doesn’t work”. Even after that I still had no confidence. I swear looking back I don’t know how I had all of these experiences and Still lacked any confidence wirh women..but I think it was just becuse my internal makeup was SO much more that of an insecure woman than a confident man. It was like no matter what experience I had already had, the next day I always needed more external validation or else I had no belief in myself or that anyone would want myself. Eventually I became so depressed. I really really liked girls. I knew I wasn’t close to gay. Heck I even wanted to be gay some days, because gay men had no issue approaching ME and that made it easier on a soft ass like myself. But anyways I end up stumbling into opiate pills that some friends had been using. It was a crazy experience. It was like they just took away all of the fear. All of the constant second guessing in my own mind. My conscience. Gone. All that existed was me and my desires. All of a sudden I started to act like the way all of my guy friends always acted. They just went after it. They were sort of selfish sometimes. Sort of rude. Made passes at girls all of the time, got rejected, sometimes didn’t get rejected. They didn’t care. And this new drug I had found made me just like that, maybe even more extreme! And guess what? I slept with more women than I had ever, ever, ever come close to before. Sometimes two in one day. And I was a drug addict prick. I remember as I was going through it I always was sort of studying it. I thought it was so weird and intersting. Like it got to the point where I had a rep for using drugs…so some of these girls they would like literally know and think I was a bad guy who was using drugs…but then they’d sleep with me??? Like wtF right? Lol. I remember my friends who really cared about me would say that they miss the old me. That I wasn’t being myself. That I was better before, I was such a good guy. But from my point of view? Not only could I get away with being a selfish prick, but it seeemed to actuallt get me more what I wanted? It was like if I was “nice” than that’s what gave my friends what they wanted. If I was a dick? It got me what I wanted. So effed up. I ended up cleaning myslef up. But I always tell anyone interested how what I experienced was that I had to literally become a drug addict to truly be more like the typical “guy”. Isn’t that so wild? I’m naturally SO empathetic and friendly and happy and even super intuitive, all qualities that I’ve learned to really cherish! But it turns out the the oppsite of those qualities worked out best for me romantically. Since I cleaned up I did continue to date women. I def had gained a bit of confidence through it all. I had come to seee that I was attractive to some women and I should be confident about that, and that allwoed me to approach them and shit. But what I have to deal with now is a weird type of rejection. Like I’ve had girls multiple times go from saying how in love they are with me to ghosting me, only to tell me later on when they come back that it’s becusdr they were terrified I would leave them, because they didn’t trust me, or because they thought i was “too good” for them. Like they sort of thought I could do better. Even they MY choice was to be with THEM. Shit is crazy. Ever since my drug days I haven’t been close to a player or anything like it, but just becusde of how I look I def get girls who just assume that I’m off limits cuz they can’t trust someone who looks like me. I’m not some super tall guy with a chiseled body, but I guess I have a really nice face? I don’t like it that much lol, but that’s what they say. So I guess I just wanted to share allll of this story because it seems like a lot of people think that any guy who has the physical desires that women wants locked down, makes dating easy? I’m not saying that isn’t true, but I am saying that sometimes even if you look good, if you’re disposition is swung too far on the feminine side, it might not even matter if you look good. And also, sometimes even if you are the exact opposite of a player, women might just assume that you are and therefore they’ll reject you to protect themselves.

Literally, every point on this list is: "If you're hot, this will work." "If you're ugly, this is harrassment."

I wish all men a year filled with close relationships, platonic and romantic love.

Bad boys talk. Totally cracks me up. Bad boys may get the girl at first but are terrible at long-term relationships. Yes, terrible.I know this very well due to my profession. Not being nervous or insecure is dating 101. And women do approach first, very often.

The distinction between "Bad Boy" and "Bad Man" is quite interesting and telling.

Young men you don't have to be a bad boy. Be your authentic self and raise your self respect it will make you a masculine man in which females love