Real talk there are friends and then there are associates. As one gets into adulthood it's not like childhood where everyone you see you want to play with and be friends. Some adults can be very vindictive and demonic

Insecure women are unfortunately never good friends. No matter how much they might try or think they are. I wish more women understood the importance of building their own confidence, for so many reasons, themselves, relationships with men, friendships, etc but some people don’t want to grow out of toxic mentalities and you can’t do that for them. And you’re correct that having older women in your corner makes me feel very blessed. I would say my ‘core’ is my mum and her best friend. All of my other friends are people who have truly beautiful characters, even if we only share 1 or 2 things in common.

I’ve learned over the years to see the signs of a “friend” who is trying to rush intimacy and bond with me super fast. It actually gives me anxiety now rather than feeling validating. Those people 100% every time, cause drama and do the MOST to use and abuse. It’s a “hell no” from me.

I sometimes feel like making new friends. Then, I take a nap and get over it.

Yes people can be jealous of you because you have nice things that’s absolutely true if you have a nice house if you have a nice car, a partner who loves you, if you have family that love you people can be jealous of that, also they can be jealous of you because you have a good attitude about yourself, a good relationship with yourself, if you are confident in yourself and have good things going for you. People can envy you for many things it’s not just materialistic!

This is why I wouldn’t want to connect with an “old friend”. If we don’t talk today, there’s probably a reason for it 👀 …it’s fine that people change but I’m just not interested!

I have never had "real" friends which breaks my heart to the core. I truly pray for a deep and meaningful sisterhood friendship. I feel what you are saying 😭

The worst is when other people say “Can’t you just make amends with them? People make mistakes.” Nah. A mistake is when you ask someone to bring back the top they borrowed and they forget to before coming to your house. Spreading cruel lies, sabotage and throwing shade is intentional. Can’t be friends with someone who’s intentionally mean. Not at this big age. May God remove the jealous, callous and wicked from our lives and make way for kind-hearted people❤

Gurl you are breathtaking. Thank you for discussing this topic. I have had a lot of failed friendships and have decided to take a huge step back to evaluate the role I played in the friendship and then the other person. I’ve learned to take my time and really evaluate the person’s character before I can call them a friend. I lean heavily on the Holy Spirit to discern if the person is supposed to be in my life and vice versa.

It hurts when u realise u are approaching 30 and have no friends... and no relationship... and no family (they live overseas) its another level of crippling depression and loneliness I tell u... I may have to try out the better help u mentioned😢

I recently experienced a friendship heart break. Honestly soul shattering. She was my best friend since we we're kids. Our moms we're literally pregnant at the same time with us. I was basically going through a hard time in my relationship at the time and I confided in her. I'd basically cry to her. And when me and the guy broke up. I was so heart broken and sad. She knew this. And still went behind my back and got with him. And they're basically in a relationship now. At first I was in denial. I wanted it to not be true so I was still friends with her. Hoping she would come to her senses. And we did eventually have the conversation. She chose him over me. And I was so sad. This made me think about the friendship. And they we're so many red flags about her but she's all I knew since I was a kid. But I understand now that not everyone is meant to be in my life forever. And she run her course and I needed to let go. The constant betrayal. I had to cut her off.

One thing I learned about “friendship” 1. If a girl look at me up and down 2. tryna look like me. Buying same stuff. I will run! 3. If she talks with friends of mine or start following people that I know maybe on social media. Run! 4. If she’s is not opened like me 5. Never trynna listen to what I have to say just telling story’s about herself 6. When she don’t like u for getting more attention from others specially guys 7. If she only talk more with dudes. Big red flag 🚩 8. If I warn you about a guy and even defend you from people who talk shit behind yo back and u still messing with them.. girl Bye blocked forever. I rather be alone. Some women won’t like you because u just carry that good Energy/shine within you. No matter how friendly you are wish pisses them off even more 😮 Don’t be sad just move on and be proud about it 😅 Get a “friend” who’s exactly like you. Someone who will motivate you and whom u can learn from. Be there for each other. If that’s not the case shit won’t last or make sense.

Good topic. I do have red flags in friendships but I think it may be an unpopular opinion, I’ll share anyways 😂 1) trauma bonding/ trauma dumping in the beginning or want to create a friendship with me. 2) not letting things go after venting 3) spiteful thinking 4) too involved in celebrities / influencers life/drama 5) non stop boy talk 6) doing the most for validation or attention.

i think female friends can be so polite and fake friendly.. and make you constantly question, did she even want me to text her/ call her/ be there? why do i NEVER feel like she makes an effort? .. oh well.. i just let it go.. but then .. my dad died. and she NEVER said anything. so i confronted her.... like a long heartfelt message about it, and *she never replied* !! so in a way i was thinking THANK YOU - i always suspected this, but now i KNOW front and center - you were never my friend. now i know.

She could be a supermodel. Her facial structure, skin tone and height. Lawd have mercy, my heart 😍

I recently tried being friends with a coworker, despite knowing the common knowledge never to befriend one, but I thought I’d go against the odds. However, I was humbled so quick. I confided in her that I was thinking of quitting and she went behind my back to our manager pretty much asking to take my place and she was telling me she was going to start training soon. I shut that down so quick and refused to do it as I knew her true intentions. I’m keeping it professional now, but it goes to show you cannot be friends with your coworkers and be careful about what you vent to with them. It’s so hard finding true friends, but I’m accepting being alone is way better than being friends with the wrong people, or someone who is trying to ruin your career in this case.

I remember watching one famous russian psychologist and she was talking about male and female friendships as well. So basically men are always trying to avoid some "deep" topics, they tend to think more about the concequences of their actions whereas women tend to be more emotional and open After watching her and your videos i started doubting the "unbreakable bond" between men, the society tells us that women can't be friends with each other and that men are better at maintaining friendships, but the society doesn't tell us that the cost of many long male friendships are the lack of depth

When you get a gut instinct about someone don’t ignore it I learnt the hard way 😢 when you know the relationship is expiring allow it too as resentment and hatred grows towards the person which is just as toxic

One-sided friendships are real and so draining. Free loaders are not your friends! Had to learn that the hard way. You live you learn.

With men there's always an underlying threat of violence. Respect is paramount in male friendships. That's how I became best friends with my bully at school. Only because one day I decided to fight back. A true friend is not someone who just likes you, it's someone who respects you at the core

I just had a betrayal from someone I called a friend, I think im just happy I dont get to enter another season with such negative energy, In the end, she weaponized everything I told her in confidence and attempted to turn people against me. I started appreciating my true friends more and pouring more of my energy into the people who are truly rooting for me.

This was relatable. It's hard to have female friendships the older you get. Some women do begin to view you as competition and become jealous. It can feel weird to call it like that because if you are "normal" you don't go around thinking everyone is jealous of you. It's sad. I do envy men for being able to have drama free friendships and just vibe.

Just because you know them for a long time that doesn’t mean that they are good friends! Let it go and find peace within yourself! And sometimes your so called friends ain’t really happy for you and secretly jealous of you! I’m the kinda of friend that imma cheer for you and rooting for you! Sometimes it’s good to be alone less drama!

Love this. It’s nice to think that everyone who is in our circle has our back, but the older I’ve gotten the more discerning I’ve become. Many people say they have your best interest at heart but only if you don’t succeed more than them or threaten them in some way.

Love bombing into relationships is so good. This happened to me last year and discernment is now my biggest prayer. If it happened to me when I was younger I’d probably be very broken . I was desperate to connect in a new state and ended up hurt!

Hey Breeny, I can relate. I really love females and I value feminine intimacy and connection but from what I've been through I've always had best friends that have really drained me. They either have some mental health issues that cause them to make bad decisions, or insecurity issues that bring down the vibration of the friendship. I've honestly had my share of bad friends and I'm 22 now, with a lot of female 'friends' but no best friend that I feel I can call when things are tough. I feel that I am always there for people, and a million and one girls can call me when things are down and out but I don't exactly feel that is reciprocated which is fine. People can only help as much as they can give so it doesn't hurt me but it does make me go into this hostile distant energy. I don't wanna bring on more friendships because of the traumatising ones I have had. I long for a feminine connection. May not have it now but I pray that God brings that girly/sissy into my life.

My mom’s always been telling me “your parents are your only real friends in your life”. She was right all along.

My problem with making friends now after I graduated 3 years ago , Is that the friendship starts light and fun for a week or something , then the "deep talk" starts and the vents etc... And ofc i understand I complain and vent sometimes too but then it becomes the main subject every time we meet and I just want us to have fun too you know , to laugh and have silly moments , have balance .

This is a Holy Spirit moment ..like, this is confirmation!! Thank you for being obedient. God has really been dealing with me about certain "friends", that where I'm going I can't take a lot of these people with me. I jokingly told my sister today that I'm about to change my number because there are too many people who think I'm their friend, but they are not even FRIENDS to me. The Bible tells us you will know them but their FRUIT. What are the people around you PRODUCING? I hear Lord, I hear!

Had to learn this lesson the hard way. No real friends put you down just to feel better about themselves.

Girl I don't know whether to cry, scream or throw my phone. You are telling my whole life with your words. This is owed a whole reaction video. Just know I love your spirit girl♡

Most Female friendships fail eventually because the foundations of those relationships are based on mental intimacy AKA talk, gossip entertainment and a listening ear that will validate my existence.. unfortunately drama and toxic nonsense is the prime stimulant but once your life presents less bs and hype (maturity) or you stop chatting all your business you'll find the women fizzle out of your circle because you ain't feeding their ego and even worse if possible they will create drama with you to keep the wheels turning... And thats the normal standard friendship dynamics..now throw a man in the mix that's a decent looker/ catch and it gets 10 times worse because those friends also enter competition with you subconsciously..for women to maintain most friendships you have to play the role of a fan, suck up and enabler to bs..

It’s been revealed who are real and who are not, I had a spring cleanse a month ago and I had cut off the “friends” that didn’t provide security in the friendship.

The way you just described my entire life… you’re the bridge, the peace, the wisdom that everyone is attracted to, that everyone flocks to. You pour & you pour into them but they never have the capacity or strength to do the same. I’m grateful for a partner that pours into me and sees me in a way no one else ever has. I don’t have to be the “tough bridge that carries/supports everyone” when I’m with him. I’m safe to be completely me & vulnerable with him. Cherish the ones that love you for you without any hidden agenda

“My friends call me a lot and I just don’t answer the phone” …why was this me? 😅 ..now they barely call. They finally understand I’m just someone that likes & needs space 😌

Just because you have similar interests doesn’t mean they are your friend. I was friends w a girl for 15 years and finally realized she was never my friend… she always put me in dangerous or messed up situations, blew me off for men and never really present as a friend in general.

I was discussing this very thing with my therapist a couple of days ago because I realised and have accepted that someone I thought was a good friend had never been a friend to me at all. I was actually pretty shocked that I could have been love bombed by someone I thought was a good friend…. That love bombing can also occur in friendships, especially since it’s only happened in my romantic relationships. If someone declares that you’re best friends within a week of meeting you; then that’s a huge red flag. I guess this is a nice confirmation that I’m not crazy after all and that it’s not all my fault that I fell for that other person’s intensity and charm.

Omg Breeny thank you for sharing your story. I’ve had similar experiences with “friends”. I’ve learned that friendships should be reciprocal. No one should be giving all of the effort. I stopped putting ppl in the friend position who showed me that they’re just an acquaintance or associate. 💯

Glad you spoke on this subject False friends can ruin you life True friends like you are a blessing You are smart and very beautiful Dressed in black and gold today Wearing both without intimates Those are needless for you to wear And you are going barefoot as well

“Unfortunately sometimes the ones we have to watch out for aren’t the ones who boldly stand against us but those that stand beside us. Ruined friendships stings! But should remind ourselves to not use that as a reason to never trust again that’s exactly what the enemy wants. To be islands and to ourselves. Instead love harder and realize that the hurt experience is coz you actually cared. That’s strength - don’t be an island but remain vigilant. “ this whole paragraph got me through one of my painful broken friendship last year. We pick our friends but life situations has a way of sorting the categories out for sure! Big believer in solid friendships and community - absolute life changer

They’re watching your story bc they’re nosy & jealous most of the time actually

Breeny I swear you get prettier and prettier each video!! I love your channel so much!! I’m a young women myself (20) and ur videos help me out so much!! thank you thank you for your time , content , & your overall channel!! It’s very comforting for me!

I'm glad this came on my feed, I am at the Jaded stage of friendships right now because I truly don't know how to scout friends anymore. I always check up on people, I've walked on egg shells to keep people happy, I try to be understanding of people being busy and having lives, and I will literally change my entire schedule to see people and they wouldn't even do that for me. And I'm just tired of not having a real friend, I finally had to acknowledge to myself that I am generally lonely, so I have been taking this time to just work on myself and learn how to be a friend to myself first and then be a friend to someone else when that time comes. I don't have friends right now and that's okay with me right now. This video helped me alot on what I need to know on how to be in a friendship.

This video was just what I needed to confirm not feeling guilty for walking away from a friend I've had these sentiments & signs about. Discernment and boundaries are sooo important! A huge red flag is someone thinking that everyone is jealous of them, something is definitely off upstairs.

You are extremely beautiful & with that it’s very hard to have people that want to be your friend just because you need a friend. Women can be very competitive and will sometimes pry or relish in information that makes you seem flawed. I’ve found it very hard to trust people that want to be so close so I find that I keep relationships surface level to avoid people feeling satisfied instead of supportive when you’re going through rough patches or experiencing hard times. Never dim your light even if you have to be alone!

I really got struck by that statement of meeting people on the same level as me, Mentally! That's a game changer! Like that statement would actually make a whole topic & conversation 🙌

Be careful who you trust because not everyone who smiles at you is not your friend

that's why I say I have 1-2 friends at most. bc all of the others are just acquaintances. So many "friends" judge, gossip and hate these days that its not a flex to say "I have friends" but instead have good healthy friendships even if its 1-2 ppl max.

There was one friend I had through my late teens to early twenties. It took me such a long time to realise she was toxic. It has scarred me because with all friendships I have now I question whether my friends actually want to see my downfall which is how that other friend used to behave. She would literally be happy if things were not going well for me. She was also the source of all the drama I had in my life. Be careful out there ladies.

In Arabic, there are 12 words to describe the different levels or stages of friendship. The 12th level is the type of friend who is so in tune with you, so connected, that you can basically read each other's minds. I've never had a friend like that. I wish I did. I totally understand what you meant when you interjected at 18:50. I admire your ability to take accountability for why you might not feel that close and connected to your friends as you'd like. But I understand what you meant. A best friend will feel natural. It's okay if not everyone is that for you, even if they are a good friend otherwise.

Omg I relate with you so much in being a bad friend rn. Past people and life just created this guard and being alone feels the best in this season.

i love the (risky) honesty about the closeness you have for your current friends. it’s the type of stuff that needs to said out loud but no one wants to acknowledge or talk about it

I’m so glad that I can relate to this because even tho I have a sister friend from 10 years ago. I did had a fake friend experience a couple of months ago and it was honestly like going through a break up when I found out everything that she was saying behind my back and how drastically “changed” without me doing absolutely anything to her. And now I’m kind of in guard now. Thank you @breenylee ❤️ I was depressed because of that for months but now I’m over it. Still I appreciate you and this is one of my favorite KZfaq channels, love you. From Puerto Rico🇵🇷🙏🏼🥺

I can almost 100 percent relate to you. Thank you for sharing this. It is always awkward and uncomfortable when I'm asked for an emergency contact. I haven't had one in several years. I have been through some very tough times in life so I had to and managed to build a life to where I don't need anyone close to me to be an emergency contact and I will be fine regardless, but it does feel uncomfortable, also realizing you don't have a best friend. I was just thinking that dating friends the way you date men is an important way to vet friends.

Videos like this affirm the reason why my friendship circle is small. You look amazing Breeny ❤️

Girl I can relate! All of my friends went down the drain between the end of 2019 and 2020. I'm talking about friendships that were 5-10 yrs old. I had to start from scratch and when I attempted to make new friends that bit me so bad in the butt because my guard was down and I was open/vulnerable. Now I just have some really close associates and acquaintances. I would like more closer connections but my problem I don't really feel like telling people what I need. I'm looking for a person or people who have organic traits. I'm kind of a low maintenance friend too, I don't need constant contact or adoration. But my love language is words of affirmation and acts of service which I would prefer it translates as geniune support and reciprocity. Something I've only recieved in spurts that were attached with an alterrior motive. 😫

I’ve been watching u for a couple years now and you have helped me a lot with my relationships with myself and others as well as my self confidence. It’s like listening to a big sister 💕💕

Love this! I agree there's a difference between friends and acquaintances, I'm not quick to make friends because you just never know with people since it can be hard to tell who is genuine. We really gotta take our time to vet and get to know people before we can call them a friend

thank you Breeny for this video. i parted ways with my best friend of 6 years and i realised that as much as i was trying to pour into the friendship, i was not a good friend overall. i’m learning as i’m going through these experiences.

GIIIIRRRRRRRLLLLLLLLL YOU PREACHIN A WHOLE WORD! So many people always tell me how much they "love" me but their actions never show it. People love having access to me without the responsibility of being accountable to me for their actions because i can provide 100% transparency, but thats too much for a lot of fakes.

Strangers are Your Biggest Supporters Brenny! Keep it that Way! That Top Gets Lonelt but it’s Peaceful Trust Me! Not having the biggest expectations in others but getting different needs from different ppl is the best and Healthiest

Woooo glad you touching on this topic. I had to let go of so called gossiping friend off. This whole topic became an epiphany to me last year during my Self discovery journey. I am also learning to pace myself not to falI in love with PERSONALITY but CHARACTER with time. This video needs to be on repeat! The world has changed. They don't make them like they used to.

Your transparency and authenticity are helping more people than you know .❤

Breenyyyyy, you are gorgeoussssssss as heckkk girl!! Fine like wine.... You spoke pure facts and I experienced the exact same things. The exact same things. I'm born under the Cancer sign too girl and yes at givingggg! We're always there for others sincerely but geeezzz this world is crazy sometimes. I found myself really jaded because literally allllll my "friends" did me really dirty to the point where I started to question myself. Turns out some of them were just seasons of shifting and have managed to reconnect with my best friend in a much more mature way. The others I couldn't care less about lol. One girl used her words to try and curse me because I didn't give her money while she was pregnant and her baby daddy was just around doing the most and the least at taking care of her lol. You are absolutely right about the crazy ones walking around saying that everyone is jealous of them. One of them who always copied me, was intensely jealous and envious of me (I only accepted it about 4 years ago) treated me soooooo badly because I received a compliment from a stranger on her birthday celebrations. She copies EVERYTHINGGGGGGGGG even my words I'd use as captions etc lol. One time I posted a caption in 2018, by 2020 she literally copied my exact words and changed two words (now I'm convinced that she has a dossier of my pics and everything hahahaha). She also loves bomb the heckkkk out of me when she's in a good mood; the girl is crazyyyyyy. Last time we hung out was last year and she just stopped speaking to me lol. Still copies everything I do on social media as if no one will notice it but oh well. I genuinely think she is a narc so no loss on my end at all; I've got my core of women who I pray for and about and still hold space for forgiveness when anything comes up.

This video came right on time. You really put things into perspective when you spoke on placing certain people into certain categories. I truly desire an abundance of love and support and simply don’t have it. I’m the strong friend and I’ve been feeling like no one pours into me the way I pour into them. It has left me depressed and depleted. I will be 27 in a few months and I find it hard to make new friends at this age but I’m yearning for sisterhood, it’s so important to me; I’m definitely looking forward to your video on how to make friends!

Wow, this brings me so much comfort to know that I am not alone and I feel the same way about friends. I really needed to hear this. Thank you so much ❤

Such a good chat,thanks for the insight and knowledge 🫶🏾✨went through a friendship breakup last year summer but I still reminisce about the good times while knowing I could never open that door again because it was becoming unhealthy and draining. Don’t be afraid to walk away if the bad out-ways the good,choose your peace ladies at all times❤

Girl! You spoke to my heart! Its like you read my mind. Your just like me, and I am hurting from being love bombed. I couldn't put all these feelings into words. You validated this dichotomy of friendship that I thought I was crazy for suspecting this was a thing. Thank You. I needed to hear this, you were feeling this same shitty way the same time I was last year.

Thank you for sharing your story. Listening to this video you remind me of myself Breeny. And what I've learned is that I do the most lol in every aspect of my life, my relationships, my passions etc. Regarding relationships, people have to earn that. Now I slowly let people in, slowly let people reap the benefits of me. Slowing down allows me to see the subtleties because even within your story I can hear the subtle signs this girl did not value your friendship, may not have even liked you or the things you offered. We have to have some accountability too in who we choose to let in. Just like men earning privileges when dating, friendships have to too. In adulthood, it is not enough to simply share interests or similar life experiences. They have to value what you bring to the friendship and you have to have standards for what you want out of it. Sis sounded neglectful af. Praying for inspiring, adoring, uplifting and giving friendships and romantic relationships for all of us 🙏🏾 we are deserving

You’re absolutely gorgeous! This video resonates with me so much. Im learning boundaries and realize how many jealous women I’ve had in my life. It’s been painful yet, I’m thankful to now know what it was.

This was such a healing chat. Thank you once again for sharing your time with us❤ Sending you love and light :)

This is so true. I was in this position(and still sometimes fall into it because it’s our autopilot nature to give more) But honestly speaking the whole ‘energetic boundary’ game completely turned it around for me.

Yes I really enjoyed this talk. This is so true how females will act one way and then switch up when they are with other people or secretly hide their hate. It is so sad but I’m glad you have now gotten a good set of people around you, who understand your needs and boundaries!

woaw still adapting to that new image she is so much better like that. damn. beautiful

Awwwww Breny!!!! 😢😢 This video couldn’t be more timely!! I have learned the hard way that some friends do have an expiration date and anything kept beyond the expiration can stink!!!! Sending you hugs❤

Breeny, u talked about this in ur videos but Id like to reiterate that if you want support and emotional availability from friends in ur down days YOU also have to be emotionally available. That means making time even in the busy days. But if friendships r not ur priority, u must accept also being deprioritized. Shan Boody made a great vid about this. Friendships r like flowers that need to be watered. Sometimes we must sacrifice to recieve. But unfortunately some of us r more givers than receivers which is where self soothing n compassion come in. 🧡

Thank you Breeny Lee you are the realest ever, I only realized this in 2020, it felt so good cutting ✂️ all my fake friends out of my life. I realized the people I called friends, don't even like me. They were never there for me when I needed them, they judged me all the time and they competed with me.‼️🎯‼️

The most powerful form of courage is vulnerability ❤

Thank you so very much for this one Breeny as I truly needed to hear this. I felt alone in it. Now I can move forward in a much healthier manner. CORE, INNER, OUTER / PROMOTE, DEMOTE, TERMINATE makes soooooo much sense and I will start to really pay attention to that.... QUICK EXAMPLE: I have a younger sister who simply doesn't communicate with me. Doesn't even reach out to check in on me, spend time with me, share anything about her life with me NOTHING. I've sensibly communicated to her my perspective and how this makes me feel but sadly as the years go by it seems to be getting even worse. It has left me distraught, emotional, and over compensating just to see if I do this or say that maybe she'll come around. Growing up I always imagined us being close and being each others best friend. The hard truth is that I will have to pull her out of CORE / PROMOTE and relocate her to OUTER or TERMINATE even though she's my little sis. I have to stop sidetracking myself and continue focusing on self care on every level. Thank you again.

Breeny!!!! I love how authentic you are! You're so open and honest! I love your content! You have been an inspiration in my life! May the Lord bless you one hundred fold 🙏❤️

Watching this actually reminded me of one of my relatives. I distanced myself from this person for the very same reasons you mentioned in this video, jealousy and saying terrible things about me that just aren’t true. Always gave me weird energy since we were kids!

You described 99 percent of the females friendships I've had 😮. Ive known them either over ten years or since childhood and it was unfortunately my normal. Ive since had to just move away because for years they claims i was just sensitive but as i got older i realized their negative comments within our friendship circle was ALWAYS them directing it to just me. They never did each other the way they did me

It's a good time for the message in this video with the Shanquella Robinson case having happened recently. I respect it Breeny 💜

You don’t know how much I needed this right now❤ thank you🥺

Hey Breeny, Cancer here as well. I resonated with this video so much. Currently in this phase on my journey of taking a step back and reflecting. Thank you for the insight and perspective! Much appreciated❤🤞🏽

I wish this video came out three years ago when I was literally HOLDING ON FOR DEAR LIFE onto a friendship with a friend who didn’t want anything to do with me. Cutting off that friendship and moving solo for a while really helped me heal that need of wanting to have a best friend. It was like I always needed a best friend and didn’t know who I was without one. when I was truly alone, I realized so much about myself. Thankfully now, I have one friend, who I’ve been friends with for nearly ten years and has always been consistent. And I’m happy with it like that.

Everything that you’re stating in this video is so true. I just ended a short friendship the girl only knew me for a month and was asking me to get a place with her and she had a child. I thought this was so bizarre. We were hanging out every day, and when I finally told her that I was not getting a place with her because I just don’t know her like that and I wasn’t comfortable. She immediately stopped hanging with me. The phone calls slow down because she was calling me every day up until I told her that. When we first met, she was just telling me how how easy I am to talk to how understanding I am, how I am not judge mental. She even said something strange about me and the way I interact with her son very weird.

💯 I can totally relate … Definitely about mindset, also we do have to recognise who we are and not seek to make friends with people who aren’t on the same wavelength.

Lower your gaze and disengage!!!!… That’s my new motto. ✌🏾

You are GLOWING GIRL !

It’s so fucking crazy this video came up. I was legit JUST talking about how I feel I’ve outgrown my friends. You put what I was feeling into words so beautifully. Thank you so much ❤

i love how active you have been!! good job girl! i’ve needed this conversation in my life right now.

Breeny I can totally relate. And sometimes it makes me feel a little crazy, but hearing this from you has provided perspective and comfort. Thank you so much for sharing 💕

So breathtaking . 3 strikes and you’re out 📝 Thank you for this Breeny❤

This topic is so real and right on time! Enormously relatable as well. 🖤🖤

I feel you. I feel like I never had a "best" friend frfr. I feel childish for wanting that at my age. The concept seems so elementary but I do understand that humans are wired for connection. I want to be close to ppl in a non-sexual way. I could go on and on but now I'm just like maybe it's me. Maybe I really don't have the time to build that type of connection 🤷🏽‍♀️

This is one of my favourite videos you have made! I’m turning 21 and have no friends 😂 a lot of it is my fault and some of fault of theirs as well. However, this video has really highlighted to me the work that I need to within myself to be a better friend.

I get you, relate & empathize. In the last year, I lost a couple friends of two decades. I got red flags they were jealous. But I chalked it up for issues they were projecting on me from their home life partnerships. So I made excuses until they made it crystal clear they really didn't care about me. When Fear becomes a person's best friend. You & me are going to be spaced out. ..the bigger the fears 😨 it really hurts. But it's teaching me to not give so much of myself. I need rocks too in my life. Huge hugs. Your not alone. The stonger, more loving we are - the bigger the fall. But it forces us to shift & evolve to learn more self love. Hearts painted on your Third Eye. Skye

This is so true and was sooo good. Relationships with women can be very tricky but I love all of the points you made.

I had a friend/cousin who was talking mad crap about me behind my back to a family friend.They didn’t know that individual was going to tell my mother. I confronted them and they denied it. They started saying things like “I’m always defending you when your mother and my mother say stuff about you moving out of home before marriage”. When I never asked that. Anyways, I spoke to her twice about this and she denied it. Therefore, for as a result I got really pissed off and I sent her a nasty text message and then blocked her ass.