Thank you guys for tuning in ! ♥️ Wanted to give you guys a longer video as I've been absent for two weeks, even though I'd love for you to watch the whole thing to get the full context, here are the time stamps if you can't: Time Stamps: 0:00 Friendship Betrayal 5:54 Story Time 10:40 Re-define Your Friendships 11:02 Three Types of Friends 15:48 Cutting Off Friends 18:13 When Should I Cut Her Off? 19:36 Dealing With Friendship Break-ups 21:00 How To Make New Friends Remember to share with whoever needs it, friendship is such a crucial part of our existence ♥️

"I can forgive you and still choose not to be around you" 👏

“Just cause there is a connection, it doesn’t mean there’s a bond” 💯👏

Something to note: Don’t make friends, choose friends

I feel like I’m always being their ride or die but no one’s mine 🤷🏻‍♀️

"If you feel betrayed, don't deny those feelings" !!!!!!! THIS

Don’t look for friends look for your best self. All the time I spent on someone else I should of invested in myself .

I feel like I’ve had so many bad experiences with “best friends” I feel like I can never trust and have another “best friend” again.

People "opening up to you" is not the same as "connecting with you", and as you said, a connection is not the same or as good as a bond. Learned that the hard way.

“What you give is not always what you get back” I had to learn it the hard way 😩

I used to be so nice to ppl because I wanted to be friends with them. I was the type of person that would never say no to anyone. They used and abused me so badly especially in college. The truth is ppl don't want you to be too nice to them. They will look down on you, treat you like a doormat, laugh at you and leave you. I learned the hard way. I'm a really caring person and it's hard for me to say no but I've really learn that it's okay to say no.

Ive just cut off a 8 year friendship with 4 girls since they’ve just been having secret group chats without me and for months talked shit about me, not seeing their wrongs if something hurt me and wouldn’t say sorry. I confronted them with how I felt but they still take me as a joke of the group and don’t respect me with how I feel even though I’ve helped them with anything possible. It hurts knowing I’ve had to cut them off since I knew them for so long but I’m sure it’ll get better now their gone out of my life. Thank you for the video it’s helped me a lot ❤️

Friends aren’t your friends their just people you hangout with when ur bored the only person you can really call a friend is ur mom 🥺

Don't overestimate your importance to other people. I've been so good to people who didn't deserve me, people who backstabbed and trampled over me in a split second. I no longer concern myself with such people... To get my love, time, attention, energy and loyalty, you will have to work for it, if you can't be bothered, I can't be bothered about you. Trust that I will use that love up on myself and relish every drop!

You physically are beautiful but your soul is even more gorgeous. You deserve everything your heart searches for.

I’m in such a weird spot. This girl I’ve known half my life turned out to be the most jealous toxic friend I’ve ever had. And now she’s trying to put the whole blame on me after I’ve cut her off and she’s telling people I abandoned her. There was nothing to abandon. We were never truly friends.

*"what You give is not always what You get back."* shocking and hard truth for me, since all my life I tried to give gifts, flatter people, drive my friends home, etc. i feel so broken...

I got rid of all those who are not happy for my success, but are always around to “talk” about things that don’t go right for me. Because, they are Misery and they need company.

Literally like the big sister I've never had

I’m the type of person that cherishes my friendships. I’ve been hurt a lot by friends and I’m trying going forward to not share my business so quickly because I feel that is the first thing where people can take advantage of you. They figure out your weaknesses.

"My heart is pure. I forgive you, I don't hate you, but I'm not gonna let you stay around and keep abusing my trust." PERIOD!

I feel as though, in fact, I know, the only relationship that won't hurt you or leave your heart broken is your bond with the Lord.

Is it weird that I don't pursue making a new friends anymore? Im done w the emotional, physical and mental abuse LOLL.

Had a "friend" for 13yrs she invited me to the full wedding but I must admit I thought she would ask me to be a bridesmaid ... she always called me one of her best friends... deep down I knew it wasn't true but the moment I started confiding in her as a best friend I realized it wasn't a true friendship. And yes, it hurt more than I could have imagined. I think I was more frustrated at the fact that I allowed her to define our friendship instead of sticking to my initial gut feeling... I drove 5hrs to her wedding, brought her a nice gift and honestly, I'm done... farewell...I wish her the best... we live and we learn.

I wanna send this to all my toxic friends and then block them so bad... but then I remember i have to see them every day lmao Edit: it’s been a year and i dont talk to them anymore yaaaaaay

It's sad that nowadays the word "friends" is synonymous with "acquaintances". Great video Breeny!

Who else really wants her as a Best’friend 😂😭xx

This vid made me cry. I broke up with my "closest" friend 2 weeks ago. For me she was my "ride or die" friend. I was there for her every night and day...but slowly I realized that she was really using me as an emotianal trash can and took a lot of my energy and at the end she insulted me like hell...that was a hard lesson. I always get the really hard ones but everything is good for a reason and I am always positive. i wish her all the best because my heart is pure and i am glad I slowly get my energy back for myself....@Breeny Lee : you are great, keep up what you are doing, thanks for sharing these words...

this made me cry.. realizing what type of friend i am.. literally the one that keeps tries in friendships and i don't receive much back. It gets so lonely.. but I will work on making new friendships in different areas of my interests.

How to deal with fake friends: You don't

*Good LORD WHY do your videos always hit me at the most appropriate times* 😂😂😂😂 is it just me or does anyone else find this with Breeny's videos????? 🤔

"I can forgive you, but never forget what you do to my heart."

OMG the wedding thing happened to me too! Lifelong friends that I grew up with did not have me at their weddings and a friend that I've known for 1 year invited me to their wedding!!! And it was gorgeous!!

I have ONE real bestfriend. Been friends since middle school, that's 17yrs of friendship & one friend is more than 10 friends. It's not the quantity of friends but the QUALITY of friendship

I'm at the point where I dont want friends because they just use me.

Realizing my only true friend is my husband.

I’ve learned that I only need 2 true true friends in my life and that’s it

i always help my ''friends'' with their mental health or problems, like... i wanna be that helpfull friend all the time every minute off the day. But when it comes to my problems and i tell them mine they will answer with: ''rip'' or: ''thats not fun'' LIKE I CANT SURVIVE WITHOUT ANYONE HELPING ME ahg :(

I love this topic. I cut off a friend of 15years (it’s been a year) and I don’t regret it. Friendships need to be taken as serious as a relationship with a man/ women to be honest. If you take the person for granted don’t act surprise when the person finally decides that’s the end of the friendship.

I need to level up and find a friend like you! 😂😍😊

“When I love somebody, I love them. Period” My exact morals too 😭❤️

I can’t take those people who have secret issues with you and act funny. If something bothered me that much and you’re my friend then I’m saying something. Let’s have a discussion

I am a woman who truly appreciate and value friendships. I had to step back and take the back seat to alot of stuff... The same women, I've lost jobs over, would do anything for, are the same women who wouldn't lift a finger for me. And I was so blind because I was so niieve and in love with them. When I hit rock bottom and went through something so deep ... Everyone disappeared. And it gave me enough time to reflect. I realized they kept me around for what I can do for them. I was so in love with my friends. But I've learned so much. I stop answering calls, text, and for a moment, actually started to feel bad for stepping back. Like I had to pray on it. I was so used to being so loyal so available. .I'm talking childhood friends. But I dont feel bad now.. If we cant add value to one another. I'm out! Also I was tired of drama and negativity. I want to grow and become better version of myself. I wasnt growing. Nothing. I was extending myself constantly. I was trying to keep up, be at evey invite, anything major happening, whether good or bad, i was right there, trying to prove I'm that ride or die friend..the energy was not returned ...now it's like. .Sorry not sorry. But No love lost. I felt used and not appreciated. Maybe it's just my season to truly focus on myself....

about your ex bestfriend who didn’t make u her bridesmaids: remember some people don’t invite you so you don’t steal the attention !!

“Connections can be broken easily. What is shared can not be unshared” Well-Said!!!!

Swear I needed to hear this I've been isolating myself because I'm tired of being betrayed but people kept telling me I must dwell in hurt and try to friendly but tbh its hard

I would never tell someone my life story even within months... it’ll take longer than that to know me

It’s very hard to find reciprocal friendships. Struggling with this right now. You can’t expect much in return if you want to keep your sanity

It’s sad that I thought that my “friends” from elementary were type 3 friends but they definitely showed their true colors after I glowed up a bit and started to elevate I’m my education/career. They turned into type 1 friends then fizzled out into type 0 friends. They were very toxic and they mad me feel terrible hanging out with them and I just couldn’t do it anymore... taking advantage of my kindness, talking about me behind my back, and everything else you could think of. I’m glad I came across this video because I currently don’t have any friends anymore. It’s tough. Especially when you try to be a nice person. Hopefully soon when I move back to Virginia I’ll make some new true friends...

i think Breeny is my secret Guardian Angel like gurll hit me hard evraatimme

Omg nail on the head. I literally don’t have any friends anymore. I use to have 5 close friends. Now, I just don’t trust letting anyone get close to me in that close friend way anymore and this feeling sucks. It’s hard to make new good friends as adult. I do stuff alone alllll the time.

One of my best friends just told me she hated me and why. She said I was “too nice.” She said it today, on my birthday.🙃

I'm more of an introvert. It feels like people aren't really drawn to me, even tho I'm trying to socialize. But I notice right away that they aren't "impressed" by what I say, so I end up feeling weird :/

Can you read minds Breeny????? this is completely applicable to me right now

Yaaaasss , you said it all !! Once again you come up with a strong topic . “ Sometimes it’s just God showing you who they really are and who needs to be part of your life and who needs to go” . Not everyone had meant to be part to be in your life forever , some are just meant for us to learn and move on.

Advise I was given by a friend is "it's about quality rather than quantity" and that has stuck with me

when you said “don’t deny the feeling of betrayal” I really needed to hear that thank you so much! Whenever I try to express my feelings my friends act like I’m dramatic and annoying and play the victim it hurts really bad and I don’t know how to fix it without denying my hurt feelings even though they’re not taking mine into consideration

I haven't had no friends for the past 10 years due to betrayal.i have been so hurt. I'm closed 😭

Can you make a video on how to deal with not having any friends 😩😭

The girl you described in the distant friendship sounded exactly like me. However, I cared for those friends and wanted the best for them. I just wasn't able to feel close and open up to them for whatever reason.

I've been through that as well .. Friends can make you change your behaviour. It's even painful when they treat you differently in front of people. I personally never felt loved by my friends and that's just it. The pain built the "I don't care " mood in me. It made me learn how to enjoy my own company and mind my business.

Wow I feel your pain. No wedding invite just to the party😔

I’m a guy btw and I left my “friends” just bc they used me for money,popularity and played with my feelings,also bullied me,they acted nice around the teacher but really they would rip up my stuff every time without the teacher looking

"What you give is not what you get back!" True! Just give what you and and move on! Only God can repay you back! God bless!

I seriously was thinking about this because of the hurt and disappointment lately. Then this came up! Thank you sis. ❣️ you’re God sent.

I've always tried to hold on to friendships but once I see how girls be moving these days...I chill and monitor the situation because I am the CEO of my life and as the CEO I have to make executive decisions and cut myself from the situation.

I care too much, not realizing that people can be cruel; and not everyone has your best interest. This is the most real video I've ever heard. WOW. You hit the nail on the head. I needed to hear this story about the wedding. My best friend got MARRIED and didn't tell me until after the wedding. OMG, I was hurt, couldn't believe it.Told me it was PRIVATE, and nobody knew. I found out different months later. I feel better after hearing this. Thank you.

Sometimes fake friends tend to show they’re toxicity at the start but you don’t notice it especially if you met them at young age

I get the whole 3 type of friends thing but we gotta think, if you feel your friend is not investing in your friendship or you can’t get something you want out of them, they maybe just feeling the same way your feeling and I feel like Categorising friends can kind of ease into a fakeness. I wouldn’t want a bunch of different type of friends for different things if you know what I mean. If I have Friends(which is a strong word) we are FRIENDS period. You are either an acquaintance or a friend no more no less. ❤️loved the vid just my thought, really got me thinking

I used to be a friendly type of person but people respect u if ur not if ur friendly they think ur a fool or use what u tell them against u and laugh at u behind ur back sometimes to your face. Nothing can surprise me when it comes to people family included. I surround my self with people who I can learn from or who can help me move forward in my life and I also help them too in return im happy with that. I surround my self with people who can uplift me and encourage me. When u start to move with more positive people positive things also start happening.

I just got betrayed by my “friends” yesterday at a party. I was left friendless and with a broken heart. Thanks for this. I really needed it

Watching some of your old videos and it's crazy how much the wedding story resonates with me and how often it happens these days as I've gotten older. I remember having a good friend/teammate from college, and when she got engaged I was one of the first she told. I couldn't wait for the wedding. A year later, I wake up on a Sunday morning to see on Facebook that she had her wedding that Saturday night beforehand and invited all our friends/teammates except me. And I had to find out on Facebook of all places. I learned that day where I stood in her mind and that apparently our friendship meant a lot more to me than it did to her. You really find out how someone feels about you when their wedding comes around😅

yoooo that part "imagine a relationship you dont have to hold back your love for them" thats a WORDD

WHYYY DOO YOUUU TALKK SOOO MUCHHH SENSSEEEEEE, loool i love you.

my so called “friends” never care about how I feel when I talk about my feelings. i would tell them that I felt like I was going through rock bottom and that I felt like some of my other friends leave me out of things, or don’t even like me when I’m there. they would just listen and either talk about something else and slide my feelings away or talk shit about that person and later on be the best fucking friends with them. I would talk to my friend who’ve I’ve known the longest about this new person who comes into our group who seems to hate me and only wants to be friend with the “popular kids.” She’d agree with me in that time but in front she’s her best friend and the next thing is. THEY HANG OUT ALL THE TIME. the clout chasing friend, the old time friend, and the fake friend, all hang out together and it’s just like ?? didn’t y’all just BARELY talk shit about each other to ME and then act like nothing happened?? We have five people in our group but out of the five, those three people are all fake to each other and I don’t know how to deal with anything anymore. I can’t even talk to people comfortably anymore or make new friends bc I’m just not comfortable speaking to anyone since I’ve been around these three snakes. I know most people won’t care about this long ass comment lol but if you do help a girl out pls bc I need advice for my emotional mess that I’m growing through.

Men have the same problems. I had friends that always talked in school and always outside of school, except without me. After awhile I realized it, so I asked if we should go somewhere and nobody showed up. Eventually they just stopped talking to me so I was just like fuck them. I'm tryna find some new friends now.

I'm going to say something. My friend and I watch your videos. She lost her mum this year. Your videos are so helpful, she actually cried in the video HOW TO BE FEARLESS because her mum was such a strong woman. She was so close to her, she talked about these topics and this just makes her smile :) thank you so much angel, you don't know how much you help other people

This literally could not have come at a better time. You are a God send Breeny ❤️🙏 I just cut off a old friend, we've been friends since kids, because I really felt toxic to be around her and she wasn't growing me or encouraging me, its been hard to make that decision but I know it's better for me and my soul. I pray I did the right thing and it wasn't out of my own pride.

i stopped believing in the concept of a “ best friend “ there’s a friend and a good/ close friend. i am my own best friend, ik alot of people and a lot of people know me , i just make good memories w them . and if anyone wanna leave i just say “ thank you for stopping by i can’t wait for another better memories “

I would never share my best friend business even though we not friends anymore

You look like a doll!!!!

Here for this video!! Ever since I started leveling up and becoming serious about what I wanna do with my life, Friends started to disappear! I’m so thankful for God showing me. Ik I’ll be successful in the end and i’ll be rewarded with BETTER people who are worth my time. Good video😘😘

It really hit me when I just realised that I don’t think any of my friends would take a bullet for me

i feel like i share too much too soon, so certain people who were fleeting phases in my life are walking around with information about me and i can't get that back. losing friendships are so painful

*Sis, came through with the amazing advice in the car again* 😩♥️

I have made that mistake many times, not defining what type of relationship it is and expecting more than the relationship is capable of. I love to get deep so not being able to get deep with people I see all the time like co workers or family members has been a challenge for me to accept. But what can I say, I am learning to do that now 🤷🏽‍♀️

When I was younger I used to fall into friendships. Now I’m definitely a lot more selective and I am deliberate about the associations I make.

I'm the opposite it takes a long time for me to call a person a friend. I love silence I don't have to talk just to past the time. I advice my nephew and neice Just because you call them your best friend doesnt mean.You are their best friend. When people show themselves. Thats who they are.

YES the idea of the Facebook group is great. I am all for it! This video was amazing and definitely relatable.

I find it so disappointing that I'm always willing to put my all in friendships even more in a relationship than a man because I feel that I can connect better with women but it's so disappointing how fraudulent women can be even when you show them loyalty

This video really helped me decide what to do with a friend who behaved badly with me, so thank you❤ I tried not to take it personally but I have been hurt so many times in the past that it becomes difficult to give people the benefit of the doubt when they act poorly.

I actually realise what an awful friend I've been sometimes. May God be merciful to me. I'll do better.

I truly don't understand why you don't have millions of subscribers. Such a great message !

I just dont deal with them at all 😭😂 But indeed facts: we are our own enemy

" It's impossible to talk friendships without betrayal"

I'm so glad I found your page, this is really helping my spiritual and mental growth as a woman! Thank you so much for being you💛

This video so good, I watched it twice! Lost my best friend of 20 years because she couldn't be bothered to tell me what I done wrong, but in all honesty we grew apart and am at peace with myself. Thanks again for covering honest & relatable topics. You know I have subscribed!

I am so glad that I realised thanks to Breeny that it wasn't just in my head. I've been a class colleague with this girl for 8 years, always having a good laugh whenever we spent time with each other. Ff after highschool, somehow we became closer. Ff aprox 2 years later till this day, I thought she's my best friend and I closed an eye whenever she was gossiping too much thinking I do the same sometimes (but not as bad as she does to be honest) and we all have flaws as humans. I closed an eye whenever she was making faces like she's fussy or disgusted with me, thinking that she still has a pure heart and good intentions. Two weeks ago she told me that she knows it doesn't sound that nice but she would never give a kidney to someone in need, but to her parents only. It made me realise that I was giving much more than she was in general, she has a pure heart and a smart mind, but she's not on the same page with me. She's not mature enough to have open talks, to accept opinions that contradict her, unless I drop it. I realised that if the girl I call a bestie wouldn't be there for me, while I would in the worst situation, then I can't actually count on her.. And what is the point? I became more selfish with my time and now I am thinking only if I want to do what she wants, just like I feel she does. Since then she's less stuck up and we stuck to only having a laugh. She also chose to not visit me where I live in England, even though I offered to pay her the plane ticket to come, but she bought herself one to go to London to someone she didn't speak constantly and in a while. Actions speak louder. I also realised how much I tried to lift her up while she's so insecure and anti social and doesn't even want to work on that, while she pushed me to follow my dreams in a shallow way like almost even a stranger would. And I just switched my attention to people that encourage me to be myself, they inspire me, I have real talks, open talks, without feeling like I have to bite my tongue, I feel more confident and happy that I can count on this people and it shows. They are slightly less warm and fuzzy but they are definitely there whenever I need them to be and yes, I am the same. Thank you this was my TedTalk and I encourage anyone to give up investing in people who don't do the same and honestly, whenever I cut or just stop investing that much in someone, every.single.time someone else appeared in my life out of a sudden - laws of the universe work indeed.

*PEOPLE ARE ENTITLED TO FEEL HOW THEY FEEL WITHOUT YOU MAKING IT ABOUT YOURSELF SO DON'T ALWAYS TAKE THINGS PERSONALLY* Looouderrrr for the ones at the back!!!!!

“Redefine Friendships” I definitely can relate to that!