As a man, if you give us the license to drive at the speed we want with no restrictions, we'll cause catastrophic damage! Set restrictions and limits and if we as men don't obey your law or expectations write us a ticket that has a debt to paid. You set the debt payment end of discussion! Demand greatness from us, and don't operate in your feelings! Thanks Tony! Keep pushing us men to be men!

If someone makes you feel negative emotions (anxiety, confusion, sadness, self-doubt), leave it.

When you shut someone down for treating you less than, you open yourself up to something better.

Leaving a man is actually very liberating. You lose nothing if you dont even depend on him financially. Take yourself back queen!

Basically he’s saying if you don’t stand for something you’ll fall for anything! You must have self love and self respect.

Sometimes you have to leave because, they are emotionally unavailable...

Every successful relationship that I know of the woman took a break from the man to show him that she wasn’t to be played with !!

It hurt like hell but I walked away. Taking it a day at a time

I blocked him today. 🤣😌 Never going back.

“You have to let a person know what you won’t tolerate.” TG

my "let go " game is so strong now because of u brother Tony. be blessed i made it

Men only change when you leave them and let them know you won’t tolerate any bull crap. If you stay they’ll never change but if you leave, they might finally realize what they had.

Settling doesn't resemble self worth. We have to go into a relationship with the mindset of greatness and if the other party doesn't recognize it, find your nearest exit!

A man will truly try you! I use to think i was walking away too soon but anytime i went back after men did me wrong it never worked! They never changed...so i was done FINALLY!

Yep after 2yrs had no choice but to walk away. It’s been 4 months, ain’t heard from him and it’s ok. I walked away cuz I respect/love myself

When I told my husband I was leaving and divorcing him because I did not feel he loved me and I explained the reasons why I felt he did not love me: he said he did not think I would ever leave him. I put up with a lot ok emotional abuse and public humiliation. And even though my younger brothers tried to tell me for years that by the way he was treating me he really had no respect for me, I still stayed married for 21 yrs until I had enough. He never physically abused me, but the disrespect, emotional abuse, platonic female relationships despite my feelings, and public humiliation in front of our friends was too much. Separated for 3 yrs and divorced for almost 2 yrs. No longer emotionally and physically sick.

Cheating has to be a deal breaker folks. Not worth it!

“You gotta be willing to lose them, in order to keep them”

At some point you have to stop talking and leave him alone

What people don't realize is that the woman is the prize. The bible says that he who finds a wife, finds a good thing and obtains favor with the Lord. God is blessing the man with the woman and God will bless a man who takes a wife. But there's a caveat to that, you cannot treat her bad. The word says that you should treat her with respect so that your prayers aren't hindered. 1 Peter 3:7. So when a man feels he is the prize and has options, he is showing pride and ego. He is supposed to lay down his life for his wife and give himself for her. That means give his WHOLE self to his wife. This is why so many people are single and marriages don't work out. It's out of order....

Lord rebuke grown boys from my life pleeaasssee

Yep everybody tough in the comments. Leaving is so hard to do I won’t lie and heartbreak ain’t no joke fr

I will DROP everything for ME!!! Point. Blank. Periodttt.

"Cant build an empire with a liar" good one Tony! Thumbs way up!

If you have to force it to fit, it’s not for you-Tony Gaskins Be blessed, I made it!

I always say people know what they can and can not do to a person, but they will def test the water first!

I’m 42- Cheating is a NON NEGOTIABLE!!!! I am out same day!!!

You gotta be willing to lose them and stay gone!

Its this one ex that I thought that I would never get over. And I did. Now that I am looking back, I can not believe I wasted my energy and time on a man like that. Never again. And to this day he begs me asking to sleep with me, thats it. Blocked! I will never go back to his behind.

LADIES never take back a cheater.. imagine what he or she perform in the bed..then picture them doing that with the other person..that image should keep you moving👟👟

Draw a line in the sand & mean it! That's what he's saying.

I just want to loose him forever . I love him but he isn't good for me

It's not a game. Waiting often leads to expectations, & expectations lead to disappointment. When you leave him, you have to get over him. If you get back together with negative energy, it definitely won't work.

I been feeling like my boyfriend is playing games and not being honest. I know I'm right. I dont like to play games with people feeling. Yesterday I told him I'm done I'm moving on..... he been calling and texting I'm not going to answer him. I'm praying to God about it. God will heal me

My husband of 14 years did this he cheated 3 times and I took him back. I found out 2 months he was sleeping around again. He then had the nerve to say he realized he got what he need and want at home and he should have never did it. I told him its done. He was making ppl think I was just being crazy. He had me thinking I was inadequate in some way as a woman. We would go weeks without sex, no romance, and minimal effort. I finally realized I have power over my situation. I found my value and when you know your value you control how other ppl treat you. I see that I have to move on. It hurts and we have little kids together but I can't keep being his fool.

It takes a lot of effort to balance the scale of having boundaries and being a giver.

I instantly thought of Fantasia song ‘Sometimes you have to lose to Win Again’. 🗣 Be blessed. I made it.

I literally just experienced the most confusing relationship of my life. This man pursued me for months. Studied me. Gifted me. Learned my hobbies and made travel plans for us all the time. Gained my trust just to drop me stating "we are incompatible" All because I won't allow the disrespect of him texting a specific female friend late at night or being at her beck and call I'm in utter shock He liked the chase I guess then dropped me like a hot potato. I won't tolerate that. Especially since she was a brand new friend he had just met. Like what? You can't cater to her when youre trying to build with me. I'm not controlling but it was inappropriate

No transparency in the comments . I stayed and got left . Biggest mistake . Now, I’m doing the work, Thanks Tony .

Lack of transparency is actually dishonesty as well. It facilitates distrust. That’s a real breaker for me!

You truly teach people how to treat you.

❤Please use this quarantine time to .....get your home and life in order.❤ Use these last days wisely in love, jobs, relationships and with family.❤

We might find love or we might not. The key to taking back your power is to not be afraid to do without love. It won’t be easy but I suppose it can be easier than living on a rollercoaster taking breadcrumbs and being used and losing yourself.

Absolutely! Tony you have helped me so much. I recently left my children’s father 6 months ago who cheated and lied for years. If I would have left a long time ago, I would have saved myself 9 years heartbreak and emotional trauma. I stayed because I wanted my kids to have a “family”. Mentally and emotionally I feel amazing now. I am getting the three B’s together. Thank you again Tony I have found my self respect 🙏🏾🙌🏾

I don't tolerate NOTHING im not doing to anyone else, I don't set standards for people that I don't hold myself to as well. What I REQUIRE I GIVE & its just that simple

I'm teaching him how to treat me. I can tell he's getting frustrated. Oh well, that's the rules...

You crack me up! I never thought I could laugh so much over leaving someone. God bless your talent!

This man is really giving game - sheesh

Leaving is hard when you love someone and you have invested so much time, emotions etc.....it is very embarrassing when the person u plan to spend your life with keeps cheating

I wish I left a Long time ago! I put up with way too much and you’re right, they just lose respect for you for putting up with them!

Exactly, you teach ppl how to treat you by what you tolerate, accept, or block.

You know or recognize someone’s value only when you lose them.

My bf has been getting too comfortable. I’ve been ignoring him for 3 days now and I miss him . But I’ve wrote down his pros and cons and when I think of him I read the cons and it helps . Lol now I’m here . I needed a stronger solution . Know ya worth y’all ! ❤️💯

Willing to leave is one of the best things you can do !!!!!! And trust if they really love you ... you’ll know !!! No questions no confusion. No games intended! You goin learn today!!! 😬 thank TG

I was so hurt but I had to leave...cried about it daily but got tired of being mistreated it did not start that way.

Be blessed! I made it! Sometimes leaving is uncomfortable but it is needed to get the respect your deserve. Never settle!

I don’t know who are the 47 people who disliked this when everything he is saying is 💯 correct

Man I left my grown boy at 7 months pregnant for all of the above. Everything you could think of he did. I left and THE NEXT DAY he had a party and some female in our house. I moved 8 hrs away and have been gone going on 7 months. I still tried giving him ample opportunities to fix it so we could get back together. The last straw FOR HIM was me moving out of my parents house and getting my own space NOT WITH HIM. Now mind you he lost his job and everything when I left and is STILL on his friends couch with NO JOB. He said since I'm doing better without him then he doesn't want to work it out anymore. I went OFF I have this man's child and he mad bc I'm bettering myself and not wanting to continue living with my parents! I left and it didn't work. He just kept doing the same stuff it was just easier for him because I'm not up under him no more. So much time wasted really thinking he would change.

I walked away now I'm dealing with not having to worry about who he is with. It hurted and I feeling dealing and healing.

I learned my lesson didn’t give any last words or explanation I literally just stopped calling and stop responding. He is very toxic but has that gift of gab that will have me right back in the same mess. I’m good I won’t go back either

I will hold on for dear life for the absolute longest. But when I’m done, I AM DONE!!

It's more painful to leave than to accept breadcrumbs. That's why people stay.

My ex of 3 and a half years just left me. I would stand up for the things that I wanted and the things that I disliked. He followed pornstars and such which i did not like...he unfollowed after i said i would not tolerate that. A year later hes following them again...i bring it up again and he gets defensive. He already knows he completely disrespected me the whole relationship. I gave everything I could for someone who had nothing to offer. I tried to be a woman who motivated him because I have big goals that are going to be met and I wanted him to be a part of that. Every argument was some how MY fault...everything always got flipped around leaving me so confused and anxious. I now realize I never respected myself because I stayed for someone who never wanted a future with me but claimed he did. All talk no action. NEVER AGAIN.

It's 100% easier said than done. So many are in denial

I haven't found fault in anything Mr. Tony said. For a long time, I thought I was wrong for breaking off a relationship with a best friend (turned boyfriend). We dated for 2 years and he said something to me I never thought he would EVER say. It was so disrespectful and broke me. I gave him space for 2 months, but I was still cordial during that time. I was working on me, trying to heal correctly and contemplate our relationship. We never got back together, which I'm happy about now. Overall, I am so thankful for that time and this video as confirmation 3 years later. Growth hurts, but is needed.

Honestly most couples that been together for 20+ years always say something to the effect of they went through a period where they had to leave each other alone for a significant amount of time.

Not leaving after someone cheating on you doesn't teach them anything, other than the fact that they can continue to take you for granted, because you don't love yourself enough to let them go.

Tony, be blessed, I MADE IT!! Honestly, for 2 1/2 years I settled, then you woke me. I would not be here without you sir, you literally saved my life and I am forever grateful. Thank you💙

Woo Tony you dropped this video at the right time 👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 My ex was texting me last night trying to come back to my life and I said “No I don’t want you no more. He said his apology to me but I said “No more chances 🙅🏽‍♀️🙅🏽‍♀️, i don’t want to see you or hear from you ever in my life.” And after that I blocked him and deleted him (block ministry, holla) Thank you 🙏🏽 for “A woman’s influence” I read it front to back coupled with your videos I been watching and have been healing, knowing my self worth, and to love ❤️ myself.I know Jesus has the best thing for me. Thank you Tony and Sheri, God bless you guys.

This is my 3rd maybe 4th time listening to this video randomly and I'm still learning something new that I didn't process the first time.

No he didn't just say, "your goldfish gonna try you". 😂

It took me THREE times. I swear on everything my third time I had no mf tears in my eyes . I told his ass to lose my number and don’t think another second of speaking to me again and I mf mean it! BLOCKED

Tony & these voices 😩😩😭💀💀💀💀💀

11:50 You have to have deal breakers bc when a person sees that no matter what they do you’re going to stay they won’t have respect for you!!!

The unsaid thing about this principle and self love journey we are not told is that you do truly lose a lot of people forever over it.... We are told they will come back better when we raise our standards or we will get higher quality but we are not told that for some people this means waiting for years. Think about a handsome successful guy displaying these behaviours you describe. There are millions of girls prettier than you out there on the line who will tolerate their behaviours.... Once you start setting standards for them girl they are gone. Why would they pay £10 for you when they can get you and more for £2...This is the part we havent been told. Its a high price we pay for raising our standards..... And sometimes you have to be prepared to be alone for quite sometime

I so wanted it to work…but my gut told me not to stay in the relationship. I miss him but I realized that he truly never loved me. He didn’t even fight for me when I left. I definitely made the right choice.

Goodmorning Tony Gaskins and everyone I was willing to leave my marriage after infidelity .

The longest I allowed a situationship was 17 days. I had to sit back & self-reflect. I truly figured out his intentions & he never really loved me. He was trying to get busy. I thank God I dodged that bullet.

Just wanted to share this with you real quick, Tony you saved me. The day I came across your videos it was a extreme blessing. I was broken in every way but it’s like God wanted/needed me to find your channel. Since watching your videos in every way my life has elevated. You did the work in these videos and I did the work at home by following what you’ve said. So thank you so much for taking a woman who was literally ready to give up on love into a woman who is solely focused on the Lord and waiting till one day a man proves himself worthy 🤍🙌🏽 God and You saved me!!! I’m crying while writing this, because this is real life and I am doing everything I can to make sure that I become a woman with influence.

People take advantage of you if they know you are not going anywhere. Your not going to leave. If you allow people to try you they will. Some people also try you to see how much they can get away with or some people do it because that is who they are or they are trying to call your bluff. If you have to leave someone because of something he did or didn't do, do not go back and allow the actions to happen.

Just ordered “ A Women’s Influence” !! I’m so excited🤪❤️❤️

Incase you need a reminder, staying longer won't make them love you more, it'll just make you seem little to no value in their eyes and how can you attract high value partner/people if you're not high value yourself

This is absolutely correct, I’ve enabled bad behavior and it doesn’t change without a person being held accountable...

I rather hurt now then to hurt later! I have to set boundaries

Point blank, per eee odd!!!!

My second time listening to this. I feel like everyday you should evaluate your relationship. The biggest mistake we can make as ladies is letting things slide years down the line. Check that behavior that day. Stop waiting 2yrs then saying i finally left. This was also my mistake as well. Nip the small offenses now or reap the bigger ones later. Evaluate on a daily basis!!

I listen to hours of your videos while doing chores, commuting etc. I feel like my brain is getting reconfigured. And I needed that. Thank you!

Sleeping with someone else...First Offense....I’m gone for good. Knowing I’ve been faithful and committed to my partner all these years?? I’ve done it already. Got cheated on after 8 years and when I found out I was like this here👉🏾 🏃🏾‍♂️🏃🏾‍♂️🏃🏾‍♂️🏃🏾‍♂️Goooone!!!. That’s my standard and I’m sticking to it. Don’t care how many years we been married together have kids together, nope I’m goooone....like “PSHOOOO!!!” gone. Standards are standards. Both knew the deal from the get go so...... I’M GOOOOOOOOONE!!!!!! I don’t care what my kids or nobody else say. I’ll never cheat on my partner. And I’m married....20 years now. Yup. I’m leaving if she cheats don’t care what nobody says. And if it happened years ago and I find out about it today, I’m still GOOOOOONE. 👍🏾 WHATEVER IS DONE IN THE DARK WILL EVENTUALLY COME OUT IN THE LIGHT. So don’t mess up. Peee-reee-od!!!

I’m planning my exit plan. AND not planning to make room for another. Nothing wrong with being single. Let God. Lol

🔥 This man is the truth y’all. 💯

I needed this. Thank you TG. Be blessed.

It’s not games...it’s setting boundaries!

The one thing most of us were never taught was about boundaries and how to apply them in our lives. I am ready and willing to start a group an Accountability group on boundaries for those that express interest in taking responsibility for their lives, healing, growing and transforming into that person God intended you to be.

I had to put my weeds in CHECK in my own garden! Real talk! LOL

Be blessed! Thank you Tony you really are a blessing to so many

Be blessed. Thank you for sharing and teaching. Collecting all these wisdoms.

Some of your examples be having me cracking up but you be on it!

BROTHER TONY!!!!!!!!!!! When I tell you these videos BLESSED MEEEEEE. Point. Blank.PERIOOOOD.

I can’t think of anyone wiser than Tony right now… 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 God bless Tony! 🩵

Gratitude 🙏🏽✨ Tony For your wisdom.