agree!!!

He totally has a podcast voice!

@@sofiajacobsson1861 he has it and it's learning english podcast

No. Just make few worthwhile videos which I can watch again and again

pleaseee I would really listen every week

Well, that's the first step, isn't it?

you're of collection of you're own thoughts and memories!

@@-AKrishnaMohan And opinions, interests, quirks and personal experiences that all contribute to a personality you shouldn't have to hide to get people to like you.

Your profile pic matches your comment. And that made me smile :)

Some of the worst people in existence were being themselves. I don't know how a general blank statement could be considered good advice.

Thank you, my friend.

that’s exactly how I feel😂This channel is now one of my favorites

Exactly

Now read your comment aloud and try not to crack up. Only the best version of you can do that

I think I have the simple solution for this. You are what you pursue. You can say bee don’t give a crap, they just do their business, and it’s the same for us. We follow society’s standards and we also don’t give a crap that we do it, and that is also the authentic us. Doesn’t matter what we do, we are always authentic because we are the result of nature. And so is nature authentic? Nature functions the way nature does and so nature is what it is. So how can we be what we truly are, we already are and so what matters is pursuing what we want to pursue without worrying about authenticity. If you’re having a speech and put authenticity on your top priority then the speech will become “trying to be authentic”. If you have a speech because u enjoy talking, and there’s nothing more important than that and your speech will become “The speech” and only that.

Hey there! I appreciate your comment. It inspired me to share a bit of my feelings as well. I don't know how many people are going to see this, but that doesn't matter. Basically, I've been gathering different ideas, philosophies, song lyrics and ideas that come from different people. I've been watching videos on stuff like this. I've heard quite a few times already that we are always connected, that nothing is separate, that the "tennis ball" is not a real thing and that we affect each other more than we realize. Yet we still feel the need to create a personality. I've also heard people talk about letting go of this programming/ego/personality/ fictional sense of self, maybe in order to become truly authentic, but I'm not sure if it's actually possible. I haven't tried it for myself yet, so I don't know. We are affected by our past, social and cultural backgrounds, the shows we watched as kids, the ways the people around us talked to us etc. We can't tell what others are really like, we don't even know what we are truly like. But in fact, personality is not fixed. I like to think about it as a collection of data, experiences, feelings, thoughts and memories, as a programming or as rules that we live by. And, as i said, this programming is affected by everything that has happened in our lives so far. These things form us and our personal truths and these truths, these subjective worldviews, may make us unique in a way. For example, when I imagine a house, it probably looks nothing like the house you imagine. My mental picture of a house is definitely affected by the way I drew houses when I was very little. It looks very similar to those drawings. It's affected by my past. You know, my blue is not your blue. But this doesn't make me feel superior or better than others, it only makes me realize that we are still slightly different, and that's just fine! I really like that part of your comment where you talk about "comparing our notes to other people's instead of trying to find the superior one." :) Or maybe, it makes us incredibly unoriginal. We stand on the shoulders of giants, we need to get inspired by others, we learn from them. But those people learnt from other people who learnt from other people who learnt from other people and so on. All these thoughts and ideas in this comment are not REALLY mine. I've heard them many times from other people and decided to "marry" and believe them. Nothing we create is fully original, yet some of us feel the need to be different from others. To be honest, I felt kinda frustrated and lost when I realized that I'm just a product of the past, that I only consume what others say and don't express myself enough. I gotta mention that I'm still trying to get to know myself better, so I'm just trying to find a good place to start. So, if you feel lost or anything, you definitely aren't weird and there's nothing wrong with you. You're not alone in this. We're all on a journey. Now it's up to you to decide whether these things make unique individuals out of us, or if they connect us/take an amount of originality away from us. It's only up to you. A wonderful thing about humans is that they change all the time and make up their little fictional worlds. Life is just a dream within a dream. A beautiful illusion. I think it's amazing how we all grow, get lost, fall and rise. Everything is just fine. I'd like to apologize if this comment makes zero sense or if it's all over the place. It definitely helped me realize some things though. Keep in mind that these are just my opinions and it's totally fine if your beliefs are different. Also, English is not my first language, so feel free to correct any mistakes! And wow, if you actually took time to read this... just wow. Have a nice day y'all! (Edit: focusing on what's inside and also watching what's outside seems ideal to me. Finding this yin and yang in life is extremely important to me personally. That's the last little thought I wanted to share!)

@@terezalafkova8251 Your opinion is an amazing one. It makes a lot of sense, and you don't need to apologize for anything, Your English also excellent. Thank you.

@@benjaminsetor thank you for your kind words, I appreciate you 💕 I tend to get lost in my own words and thoughts sometimes, so I'm really glad somebody found my comment valuable or whatever the hell the word is. Hope you're having a nice day!

Hello @Natacha Hyuuga, Well when you say to look outside instead of inside I think its wrong because how will you find Real authentic self in the outside, You might find something that the You likes in the outside and will identify with the thing that it likes, but will it still be you if its identified with something found outside? I think your looking outside was a conscious decision of yours (probably based by your experience, looking inside not finding anything and going to look outside) I am just guessing this. So I would say to look inside, but first what is inside? Outside is your body, and the other (people, books, etc.). The mind, thoughts are outside too, here's why, Can you think of something that is new and not seen on the outside (not synthesizing old ideas into new one), an unique new thing that hasn't been thought by others? So everything that is in your mind (what you call inside, but it actualy isn't) is actualy just information from the outside, the movies you play in your mind, the thoughts you think, the music you listen to, is actually things from the outside. So the mind is made out outside things, therefore its still outside. By my understanding (opinion) inside is the foundation of the mind. Something that is You is manifesting your body, and your mind. By mind I dont mean the content of it. Its is someone who recognizes the content. Little jump of thought - when you are you, the you starts making the content of you mind, but also there will still be some other external things that you get from the outside. So in order to reconnect with the REAL YOU, AUTHENTIC SELF, you have to put all things that you know aside, all thoughts everything, not identify with your likes and dislikes, ideas about yourself, who you are, what is your past and etc (you could say past is important because it made you, past was the you, but the You isn't' static and it changes, its fluid). Famous Bruce Lee words - "empty your cup" - how will you taste new tea when you have the old one inside? How will you know "You" when you have ideas of you. And you actually are just identifying with the idea of you, but not being you and thats not authentic. So my opinion you should look inside, but first know what is the inside. By looking inside I say just pay attention, to experience, thoughts and all but don't identify with it, don't hold on it, just let it come and go. I think when you will empty your cup, not identify with things, ideas, etc, you will start to recognize, understand and be yourself. If you look to nature for example you see a flower you see its beauty, you see its uniqueness. The flower is not identifying with idea of the flower its just being, and then you see an authentic flower. Why I say that my opinion is valid. As I tried this practice, letting go of ideas of myself, of my plans, of what are my likes, of what are my activities, I just started to be observe and pay attention. I just letted myself to be nothing in some sense, just being empty, when I achieved that state of being empty, a curiosity in me appeared. It was an impulse (to do a certain thing) a spontaneous action (acting without actualy thinking to do that or not, just gone with the flow). It felt like I wasn't trying to achieve it it just happened, I didn't make the action I just experienced it (it felt really strange) But that action led me to a certain activit that led to one of most profound life experiences - the realization of the self. As I understand it now I would say my subconscious mind putted me in that place without my conscious interference. In that experience I felt like me, I felt bliss, everything started to make sense, what should I do next and what should I pursue, I started too see the wide horizons of possibility. It is one othe most amazing feelings I have ever felt. But do not get me wrong I haven't fully discovered my self yet, I just discovered parts of me. Its an ongoing process. After this experience I had many others, discoveries of self its not onetime experience, because you self is always changing, evolving its not fixated. You need to stay in harmony with that process of becoming and changing, and not identify with wrong things, and learn just to be, let everything come out naturaly don't overthink it, just be. Its tricky cause you can't force it, you need to learn just to be, for it to happen. What led me to this practice of just "being" was philosophy of Alan Watts.

@@lukaso4644 hey, thanks for you comment. It's incredibly inspirational, I really appreciate it. Letting go seems to be an important part of this beautiful process. Seriously though, I appreciate you here. Also, Alan Watts rocks dude. Have a good one!

Experience relies on perception and cognitive faculties. So does the ego. If the ego is an illusion so can be the experience. As always there's something intrinsic beyond those limited definitions. Trying to generalise one's own biases always fails. I suspect his ego was speaking when he uttered that statement :D

@J. R. R. Tolkien You think so similarly to me haha- iv'e said similiar things myself to others when talking about "the bad ego". Thanks for enlightening and inspiring me today 😅

Very interesting, how does one live harmoniously with nature? is it like how the stoics view the world?

@@yeid44 Humans tend to view themselves as "separate" from nature. But when it comes down to it, we all deeply know (and likely don't want to admit) that we are simply a product of nature. To admit that nature controls us would be a direct confrontation with our egos (In Dostoevsky's Notes from Underground, this is one of the main themes - man vs. nature and is a good psychological analysis). Humans don't want to admit that nature controls us; that's terrifying. So our egos make up the idea that we are in control, but this is obviously an illusion. We can't control earthquakes. We can't control our height. We can't control other humans. We can barely control our own personal thoughts and actions. So, to answer your question, Taoism would argue that WE ARE NATURE; we are not "outside looking in." View yourself as a part of nature, and not as separate or at odds with it; this is the best way to curb the ego. Don't harness the ocean; bathe in the ocean. Don't control the flow of the river; ride with the river. If you want an introductory read to this I recommend Alan Watts' short book "The Book on the Taboo Against Knowing Who You Are." Watts studied eastern religion and philosophy and wrote about it for westerners.

Taoism seems pretty cool

@@PP-mb2ky 𝙼𝚢 𝚊𝚙𝚘𝚕𝚘𝚐𝚒𝚎𝚜 𝚒𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚐, 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚍𝚘𝚎𝚜𝚗’𝚝 𝙳𝚊𝚘𝚒𝚜𝚖 (𝚘𝚛 𝚃𝚊𝚘𝚒𝚜𝚖 𝚒𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚙𝚛𝚎𝚏𝚎𝚛) 𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚋𝚎𝚕𝚒𝚎𝚟𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚜𝚘𝚌𝚒𝚎𝚝𝚢 𝚌𝚘𝚛𝚛𝚞𝚙𝚝𝚎𝚍 𝚖𝚊𝚗 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚘𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚐𝚘𝚘𝚍? 𝙸 𝚖𝚎𝚊𝚗, 𝙸 𝚌𝚊𝚗 𝚜𝚎𝚎 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚌𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍 𝚖𝚎𝚊𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚖𝚊𝚗 𝚒𝚜 𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚗𝚊𝚝𝚞𝚛𝚎 𝚘𝚛 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚠𝚎 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚊𝚝𝚞𝚛𝚎 𝙸 𝚐𝚞𝚎𝚜𝚜, 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝙸 𝚌𝚊𝚗 𝚊𝚕𝚜𝚘 𝚜𝚎𝚎 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚠𝚒𝚜𝚎, 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚠𝚑𝚎𝚗 𝚌𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚝𝚞𝚛𝚎𝚜 𝚑𝚊𝚟𝚎 𝚜𝚢𝚖𝚋𝚒𝚘𝚝𝚒𝚌 𝚛𝚎𝚕𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚙𝚜 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚎𝚊𝚌𝚑 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚕𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝚝𝚘𝚐𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛 𝚙𝚎𝚊𝚌𝚎𝚏𝚞𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚋𝚞𝚝, 𝚝𝚘 𝚜𝚊𝚢 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢’𝚛𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚜𝚊𝚖𝚎 𝚋𝚎𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚠𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍 𝚋𝚎 𝚒𝚗𝚌𝚘𝚛𝚛𝚎𝚌𝚝. 𝚆𝚎 𝚗𝚎𝚎𝚍 𝚊𝚒𝚛, 𝚜𝚘 𝙸’𝚍 𝚊𝚜𝚜𝚞𝚖𝚎 𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚛𝚢𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚟𝚎𝚜 𝚒𝚗 𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚖𝚘𝚗𝚢 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚊𝚒𝚛 (𝚘𝚛 𝚊𝚝 𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚝 𝚖𝚘𝚜𝚝 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚍𝚘 𝚘𝚛 𝚝𝚛𝚢 𝚝𝚘) 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚝𝚘 𝚜𝚊𝚢 𝚠𝚎 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚊𝚒𝚛 𝚋𝚎𝚌𝚊𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍𝚗’𝚝 𝚋𝚎 𝚛𝚒𝚐𝚑𝚝, 𝚜𝚘 𝙸 𝚐𝚞𝚎𝚜𝚜 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝙸’𝚖 𝚜𝚊𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚜.. 𝙸 𝚍𝚘𝚗’𝚝 𝚏𝚞𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚞𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚝𝚊𝚗𝚍 😅

@@depressedteadepressoespres186 Hi Depressed tea. I will attempt to respond, although I don't know if I truly understand your question: "𝚍𝚘𝚎𝚜𝚗’𝚝 𝙳𝚊𝚘𝚒𝚜𝚖 (𝚘𝚛 𝚃𝚊𝚘𝚒𝚜𝚖 𝚒𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚙𝚛𝚎𝚏𝚎𝚛) 𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚋𝚎𝚕𝚒𝚎𝚟𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚜𝚘𝚌𝚒𝚎𝚝𝚢 𝚌𝚘𝚛𝚛𝚞𝚙𝚝𝚎𝚍 𝚖𝚊𝚗 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚠𝚊𝚜 𝚘𝚗𝚌𝚎 𝚐𝚘𝚘𝚍?" This is an interesting point; I am not an expert, but I have read a bit. I think a Taoist would respond by saying that society creates structures and laws which are unnatural. In the Tao Te Ching by Lao Tzu, he consistently repeats the phrase "wei wu wei." This can be translated into: "Do not do. Doing not-doing. To act without acting. Action by inaction. You do nothing... yet it gets done." (Translation by Ursula K. Le Guin in her version of the Tao Te Ching) The idea of wei wu wei is precisely the opposite of society. Society by definition has structure and law, which is a form of action. Taoism would argue this goes against nature. There are no laws in nature. Laws are simply man-made ideas that exist simply to force people to conform. Nature follows the wind, she does follow the will of humans. The sun sustains life on Earth: no one asks it to. Humans prefer structure and conformity because it is very difficult for us to create our own. People say they want to be "free," but the paradox is they don't TRULY want to be free. If humans were TRULY free, there would be no laws, there would be no government, there would be no money. Since we are not truly free, we need a way to navigate the structures of society. This is where the ego comes in. The ego allows us to separate ourselves from the world. This is where the ego says "I am different." This is where the ego makes its mistake. Taoism would argue that humans ARE nature, and since humans are nature, humans cannot control nature. It would be like a baseball trying to control its own curve. The ocean trying to control its tide. The heart creating its own rhythm. Nothing is separate. Everything is one interconnected entity. The ego is an illusion.

this gave me and end for the existential crisis that i had.

I just found out that I am still going through existential crisis.

Welcome to the club u_u

@@argenticrux9266 same xD

To each their own. I found it very helpful.

I don´t know what is the best for me... the best of me? with what do I compare myself, with my point of view or with those around me? I will solve it...... some day

@@baal544 all d best mate 🤝

@@baal544 don't say that, because tomorrow u will think about this again and leave it for later once more. Instead try mindful meditation, it de-attaches u from all the problems and makes you aware of the now. Ik u r probably thinking "... Wth does this even mean" well, it basically means u become one with the nature, u become aware of everything around u and u start realizing how life is and whether u r living up to others' expectations or your own I have a guided meditation video that I follow everyday I'll give u the link if u want.

@@rensan5655 thanks... Yes, I'm trying to find some Goals and objectives for the future. I have found things that I like and I'm trying to improve myself in every aspect that helps me to be efficient in what I'm trying to do... Your advice is good, thanks again. If you want pass me that link.

@Humanity Skills thanks, I have always changed but without a fixed direction, it is like I did a thousand things but without knowing why. It gave me skills but now I'm starting to discover things that I like and some of those previous skills made things easier for me, so your advice is helpful too. Thank you.

I definitely agree, the notion of being authentic is actually related to grandiose goals of leaving footprints behind once we are gone, which is understandable but trying to reinvent the wheel everytime seems to me like the wrong way to go about it. I do think however, that looking inside to find out if the things you are doing are really bringing you joy, ease, and wellbeing in general, or are you regurgitating and repeating patterns that are actually harmful for yourself without you realizing it. I'll give you an example: it has come to me in recent months that I do not like tight clothes. This is seems like a rather vain or superfitial thing to begin with but its actually something deeper. I wore those clothes because as a I embraced the fitness lifestyle I wanted to look leaner or more muscular (having being myself really overweight for most of my teen years) so these clothes that are actually really uncomfortable to me, were just another way that I use to seek validation in a non so healthy way. I actually even downplayed how uncomfortable they were because I wanted to believe I liked them. That little epiphany could not have been possible havent I really tried to dig within myself and "look inside" to see how are my actions reflecting how I feel.

I think I have the simple solution for this. You are what you pursue. You can say bee don’t give a crap, they just do their business, and it’s the same for us. We follow society’s standards and we also don’t give a crap that we do it, and that is also the authentic us. Doesn’t matter what we do, we are always authentic because we are the result of nature. And so is nature authentic? Nature functions the way nature does and so nature is what it is. So how can we be what we truly are, we already are and so what matters is pursuing what we want to pursue without worrying about authenticity. If you’re having a speech and put authenticity on your top priority then the speech will become “trying to be authentic”. If you have a speech because u enjoy talking, and there’s nothing more important than that and your speech will become “The speech” and only that.

Totally agree.

Thank Luke Jacobs so much. The Art of Disappearing: Buddha's Path to Lasting Joy by Ajahn Brahm also said about this

Can you tell more about the concept of Fitrah?

True, and it's sad to see it used to justify unhealthy gendered norms (not an islamophobe btw, im a muslim myself :D)

the concept of fitrah implies everyone is born muslim, that's all there is to it.

it's still there somewhere. I'm 100% sure you'll be "united" one day since you're already acknowledging that you're not being your true authentic self. That alone is huge and it's very hard to realize. I wish you the best

I think I have the simple solution for this. You are what you pursue. You can say bee don’t give a crap, they just do their business, and it’s the same for us. We follow society’s standards and we also don’t give a crap that we do it, and that is also the authentic us. Doesn’t matter what we do, we are always authentic because we are the result of nature. And so is nature authentic? Nature functions the way nature does and so nature is what it is. So how can we be what we truly are, we already are and so what matters is pursuing what we want to pursue without worrying about authenticity. If you’re having a speech and put authenticity on your top priority then the speech will become “trying to be authentic”. If you have a speech because u enjoy talking, and there’s nothing more important than that and your speech will become “The speech” and only that.

oh this video tells you what you should do too.

I wonder if they gave a crap if they could. We will never know.

@@LudmorHun or maybe we will?

same bro

Me too

Life I lost interest

That’s why I love working with elementary and middle school kids, because nothing shows raw humanity and pure authenticity as young children do! I love working with kids and how unfiltered unapologetic they are! Until society moods them to what they need to be :’( which is depressing but as long as they’re in my class, I try to encourage who they are! I do my best I’m still a new teacher and only human 😅 but yeah kids are great !

Yeyy, I am so happy to see some BTS positivity in this discussion! Actually I used to be quite stuck overthinking "authenticity", but ever since I quite unexpectedly found a love for BTS (and Kpop in general) I kind of stopped caring wether "my true self was supposed to like a certain thing". BTS are the best and taught me + the world so much! I am really thrilled to find Army under this video and reflecting about the topic. I actually think, that if one doesn't specifically try to be authentic, one is authentic. One should try to develop organically rather than try to find the roots of oneself. And by doing that( kind of "Plant Metaphorically") your roots also develop, and even though you can't see them they make you stronger.

@@ommelpommel3276 wow also happy that you commented! That was the exact way I stopped caring about it and just started enjoying what I like, without caring what I show to society. Yes BTS has taught me a lot too and gave me a lot to think about, so I don't think is just a coincidence I can see another Army here! The boys show us they deal with these things too, and they reflect on it and give us their thoughts. For example, in the last Namjoon's log (200927), which gave me a lot to think about, he was so sincere with his thoughts, trying to keep his authenticity, develop organically, which can overlaps which the massive success they've gained and this music industry that tends to be against what we call "organic", he is trying to keep the musical purity that made him start music in the first place, he wants us to listen to it sincerely as they give us their music sincerely, he shared a lot of his concerns with us thank you for sharing your thoughts with me!

@@nadie-qm8rq I really was touched by RMs Vlog :))) To be honest, truly understanding their Lyrics is a process for me, but by knowing that they mean their music sincerely, I know that their music will always be advice I can fall back to. For example, "Filter" is a song I have alway loved musically, but I am just starting to understand the lyrics. Have you heard of Namjoons reading list? I think I might read some of the books, to gain more understanding of what they mean by their lyrics :)) I send a lot of love towards you

@@ommelpommel3276 This comment is kinda relieving to me because I can relate to wanting to be authentic and I've been overthinking about it for a few years now wondering if my true self is who I am and how it could be more important to be your best self since your self is constantly changing. Also I like BTS as well but don't consider myself an ARMY. I just enjoy their music from time to time like other kpop groups.

You my dude have figured it out...I think similar to you

Totally agree