I wanted to express my gratitude to each and everyone of you. Thankyou so much. Thankyou for supporting me, thankyou for joining me on this journey and thankyou for giving me a platform. But most of all thankyou for trying to be that version of yourself you know you are capable of being. You are all so powerful. I love you all so much and may you always be blessed. ♥️

When you're a people pleaser, being even a little selfish feels like doing something bad, feels like being a bad person

That hit my soul when she said "start being okay with people misunderstanding you " and that's something i always dread.

"None of your business, goodbye" iconic ✨✨✨

You are not selfish Liz for sharing these advices

“The woman who does not require validation from anyone is the most feared individual on the planet.”-Mohadesa Najumi

Being called "selfish" makes me blush now. "Yes I am, go ask someone else to babysit your feelings." :)

A lot of people start hating you, cutting ties with you the moment you start prioritizing yourself. I really think it's all worth it because such people never had any pure intentions for you anyway. You do you! Always!

my notes! - You create your reality - Become selfish - Stop arguing with people that refuse to listen - They aren’t worth the energy - Put whatever you want first - Fill your own cup - Say “no” to things you just don’t want to do - Stop always being available - You can’t save everyone - Don’t sabotage God’s plan by always trying to save people - Have strong boundaries and care about yourself, then others will follow - Be okay with people not understanding you - They’re not you and you have to accept that - Stop trying to change people - Create your own dream life - Stop needing external validation - See the good qualities in yourself first - Don’t need compliments - Talk to yourself - Less chasing, more attracting - Feminine energy = flow - Relaxed, not desperate - Do whatever you feel is good for yourself - Only add great people into your life - They have to add value - Don’t ask permission - Peoples’ opinions are irrelevant feel free to add your own notes or anything i've missed!

its so important to have a balance between helping and being helped. its so draining to be the therapist for everyone.

“ how is it everybody claims that they love me and I don’t feel loved” this hit so hard, and that’s how I’m feeling lately.

she is a gem, I feel so much better after listening to her

doing my night skincare, slowly glowing and growing up, manifesting the best life for myself, while listening to her advices is the best thing ever, thank you so much lizz

"How is it that everybody claims to love me, but I do not feel loved" That hits hard, and it's totally true

when you set boundaries people start to call you selfish. Been there, done that and I'm never going back. You know what? Yes, I better be because giving a piece of myself to everyone was leaving me empty and frustrated so I had to get my pieces back together and it was not easy. And if you don't like it, you don't have to, just like I don't owe you anything. thank you for being an inspiration liz! I wish everyone to heal and live a healthy and wealthy life.

I was literally the most insecure creature on earth, until i found this woman, she literally saved me. May God bless u liz

Every day i wake up...i always turn on the Bluetooth speaker then watching ur videos... I feel like a child who always listen you mom..

"Why am I overextending my whole body for everyone, and they're not even extending a hand to help me" literally brought tears to my eyes.

Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm .Something I have to remind myself of.

I just love how clear she is with her thoughts and words.

setting boundaries isn’t selfishness. it’s applying standards and guidelines for yourself and others that you want and expect others to follow. it is healthy. it’s only selfish when you hurt others in the process by being thoughtless and callous.

“How is it that everybody claims to love me? But I don’t feel loved.” I felt that.

Same energy as “stop begging for a seat, build your own table”

Funny how society has manipulated us into thinking that truly loving yourself, which is what she is describing is "selfish". Love you Queen❤❤❤

11:25 love this part. I'm slowly not caring about other people's perception of me, whether they think I'm pretty, ugly, fat etc. they can say all that, but i knew from my self that even if i just woke up, after crying for several hours or after cleaning our house, I'm still pretty. call me fat i could careless still love my body despite of the insecurities i have.

-stop arguing with people who are not willing to listen -start prioritising your own needs and wants -stop being always available and trying to save everyone -sometimes your helping is actually sabotaging god's plan -start being okay with people misunderstanding you -realise that you can only change yourself, and you can change others giving them an example -stop needing people to validate yourself worth -Talking with myself is the best way to solve and change what i dont like about me or my personality -less chasing more attracting -being more selective and only adding great people to my great life -stop seeking people's validation or permission to do what you want

3:05 1. *Stop arguing with people who are not willing to listen.* Tell people when they cross your boundaries and if they try to twist things, end the conversation. They are not worth your time and energy. 4:20 2. *Start prioritising your own needs and wants.* Fill your cup first. Are you okay? Are you whole? Learn to say no and if you don't feel like doing something, that's enough reason. 5:27 3. *Stop being always available and trying to save everyone.* You cannot save everyone. You can't save anyone if they do not want to change. We do not have mental capacity and energy to always listen to others' problems.Maybe you are going through something too . You are not obliged to listen and answer if you yourself are hurt. 7:37 4. *Sometimes you helping is actually sabotaging God's plan.* Think like people get certain problems because God is trying to teach them something,to help them in some way. If you are being a saviour all the time, you are going against God's way. 8:18 5. *Start being okay with people misunderstanding you.* People do not have to understand you and it's reasonable that they do not. They are different people having different life situations and experiences. You are only gonna hurt yourself expecting them to understand. 9:33 6.*Realise that you can only change yourself.* Changing takes courage, strength and discomfort. Many people do not want that. You are just wasting your time and energy trying to change them, which you could utilise to create your dream life. You can only change your life and set an example which can inspire people to change. 11:22 7.*Stop needing people to validate your self worth.* When you try to get validation from people, you are becoming a slave to their opinion. Others' opinions should not bring you up or take you down because you know your worth and how amazing you are. 12:25 8. *Talk to yourself, take yourself on dates, hug yourself, compliment yourself* 13:51 9. *Less chasing, more attracting* Tune in with your feminine energy. Do what you feel is good for you and your body. Be open to receiving and let that desperation energy go. 15:15 10. *Only adding great people to my great life* Allow those people in your life which add value in your life. Do not be friends with people who are okay with being miserable and complain about being miserable. Be friends with people who have a growth mindset. 16:34 11. *Stop seeking people's permission to do what you want.* Edit:Mumma, I am famous! Thank you for 1k likes everyone. You are so sweet🥰🥰

This woman has truly changed my life

And then when you start prioritizing yourself, give straightforward answers, people think you are rude, mannerless. 🙂

It’s not being selfish, it’s about loving yourself and taking care of yourself.

I always thought being selfish meant you couldn’t be humble. But you’re right you can be anything in this world. Not going to be a puppet to people. Being a people pleaser is truly dangerous.

This happened with me omg. I was always that 'therapist friend' giving advices, helping others mentally & emotionally when I myself was so depressed. What I realized later was that by being this way I was actually attracting those kinds of ppl in my life who needed emotional support. Then this one friend (who I used to give free therapy) dumped me in the darkest time of my life, I decided to fuck this shit. I'll love myself, be selfish and put myself first. I'll not do over the top things for my loved ones IF they're not doing the same for me. Being that advice-giving-friend takes a toll on you too so don't do it for the people who don't deserve it. I'm better now and going ahead in this journey 💜

when she said “I don't need anyone to tell me how beautiful i am” i felt it.

Insights: 1. NO to people pleasing trait 2. My priorities are higher than others' 3. Talking with myself is also therapy 4. Do not chase but attract (?) 5. Do not seek for validation 6. Do whatever you find right for yourself

I felt every word she said! Literally MY SOUL FELT EVERYTHING SHE SAID.

hi, Liz, I'm 11years old and I've been taken advantage off. Contently because I'm a people pleasure. my friends said they loved me and cared about me. But I never saw it they only needed me when they were heart and sad. And I felt for them and always gave them advice. but when I felt sad or needed someone to talk to, they wouldn't, provide. What I needed so I became to stop and answer text messages when I wanted to. i had a problem that i needed some advice on but the words I got was (HANNAH YOUR STRONG U CAN TAKE CARE OF IT!) AND YH BUT REALLY LIZ U MADE ME BELIVE IN MY SELF AND BTW U GIVE REALLY GOOD ADVICE ❤

Being alone and spending my own time with myself is another flow of super power inside me☺

I used to think I was confident but this woman right here showed me, that confidence is a journey, not a destination

“Ppl will love you and support you when it’s beneficial” !!!!

I can say her energy isn't going to waste at all. I watched her videos before and I've changed and I'm feeling the ✨BEST✨ and now I'm back to watch her videos to get more motivation. She says she doesn't helps us, we help ourselves and yeah that maybe right but she for sure pushes us to help ourselves. Thank you Liz ❤️

A question I now ask myself is “Would they do this for me?” I know ppl express love differently. So it may not be the exact thing, but I guess it’s at least an energy equivalent. It’s kept me from overextending myself

I do not know if you do read comments but I wanted to tell you that you’re probably one of the youtubers who when I first saw in the thumbnail thought to myself that you were gonna end up being one of those people who just shout out repetitive and quotes that do not really actually give us good advice. You gave out very good advices and you were one of the youtubers who were not just relatable but that boost everyone needs and the reality check people need. If you’re reading this I hope you keep making more videos, and for the people who are reading this as well, I wish you go over any issues or problems you have, I pray for you all.

Liz, i was with my friends over the weekend and we were taking pictures. One of my friend who was taking the group picture said that I am on my "main character" energy 😂 YOU did that... Thank you

Girl never stop making such videos many girls out there need a person like u in their life's if not in person than through social media like you're videos are helping me a lot to learn detachement keeping my self first prioritising my goals

This happens when you start treating people nice and expecting them to treat you back the same way. That's how nice people end up changing, they feel consumed and dumped.

I feel immensely grateful for this channel. I'm 17 and I've been through all these bs you're talking about.Fortunetly I'm over these self destructive behaviors,no desire to ruin the rest of my life because of it.i love you Liz,you're like the older sister I never had.

I am on the journey to be more selfish and put myself first. To care more about my own goals and make myself happy. I really enjoyed watching your videos. They have helped me so much. Thank you so much for making them!

the fact that I became selfless only to make them feel better.

You mentioned an important part here 6:10. why nobody reaches to me when good stuff happens ? Why do people only reach out to me when they have problems ? I realized that with my bff as well. With me she’s the sad girl unsatisfied with her life and always calls me to complain about her life but then I open social media and she’s partying every weekend, going out with her friends and I’m where exactly in all of this ?? If I’m not in your life for the good and the bad than I don’t want to be in it at all !! ⚠️⚠️⚠️ (Little update: she texted me saying where I’ve been cuz I distanced myself from her and stopped initiating convs and I told her that im busy with life and blah blah blah and she got pisssssed lolllll. Anyways im moving abroad in less than a week and she’s obvs not super happy about it but I am cuz this is the best opportunity to meet new people and create new experiences without her being in every one of it !!! )

When Liz said “They will not have the same mindset as you, they will not have the same heart as you, they are not you” I felt that, and I was literally thinking about why people are like this and now I have clear understanding from it. Thank you so much Liz 💗💗

I watched this video many times, whenener I feel drained by people, feel used and taken advantage, I go to this video to encourage me to be selfish again just for myself and I feel so much better and get motivation to become better me! Thank you, Liz! No other words can describe the blessing I got from this video! Thank you, thank you, thank you!

i really love how you pointed out that at the end of the day, it is our mistake. because most of the time, we somehow blame it on people- but it's only happening because we let them to. that it is indeed a reality we make for ourselves. and i've learned that the hard way. i used to always complain about at least getting the appreciation and acknowledgement of my efforts, but i realized that people don't owe me anything. and that's when i realized i do not owe them a shit as well. i love this video.

How can smo not loving her.....she just gives us the confidence we need♡

You know I'm still a teenager and I've gone through everything you're talking about and even while watching this video I felt that this is what I wanted to hear! You literally jumped into my every thought going on in my mind rn! You're doing really appreciable job, I'm so grateful that I heard you today, you're going to achieve everything you have desired and aimed of in your life one day!

I wish your channel existed when I was younger! I wasted a lot of time helping out people I shouldn't have allowed in my life instead of using that time to set myself up for an early retirement! Thank you for being a beacon of light and inspiring others to stand up for themselves!

My goodness, you just described the entire process I am going through right now. I am 35 years old, but 30 years of my life, I have spent pleasing people and running after them. Never standing up for myself, never listen to own my needs, never respecting myself. Last year my body and mind just couldn't deal with that anymore. My body was imploring me to stop. As your my mom, my mother was a people pleaser all the way, plus, she wanted to be everybody's darling all the time. For this specific reason she ignored me for so many years, let people scold at me, scream at me, and barely or rarely did something about it. Just to be in good terms with everybody, therefore costing me a lot of pain, shame and trauma. She herself rarely respected my needs or my complaints, beat the heck out of me with a belt for literally every little thing I did. Never gave me space to evolve as a little human being I was. Never really listened to what I had to say, and when I wanted to express my feelings she shut me down telling she's going to cut my wings off. Pretty much like who am I to try "to fly" like that while being so small. The result of all of that was me at the age of 19 loosing her to a terrible disease and begging for people's love and affection. The way she raised me made me the most me insecure and indecisive person. Making impossible for me to understand my value, to have confidence and some self respect. End of last year, my mind and body couldn't bare with that any longer. I was having a major mental and emotional breaking down, that lasted months. I was in so much pain. Today I am not really mad at all people that used me, stole money and things from me, that backstabbed me so many times, that lie to me and talked bad about me while I was helping them with everything I had. I am not mad at them for being such energy vampires and narcissists. I am actually sad and disappointed at me for not being able to stand up for myself when I needed to. For not saying the word NO when I couldn't do anything anymore, for breaking all my own boundaries and not for loving myself enough to protect me from evil people. That's why I am learning step by step to be selfish. I am no longer serving peolple needs over my needs. I am no longer peoples doormat. Today I have a voice, and I think about me FIRST and if you slap me and mess around with me, you are going to get the triple back, that's for sure. Thank you so much for this video Liz ❤

I definitely can relate to this. I am 21 years old and I spend all my time in school trying to fit in and trying to make friends by pleasing them and not long ago I started to realize that being a little selfish I was going to see the true intentions of those so-called friends, now I have no friends, literally no one, but I'm totally fine with it and I feel better that way. I will start college very soon and I hope I can do things right this time. It is not bad to think more about your own feelings, just be kind to others but be kind to yourself too.

The blunt and real talk I need in my life. Thank you ❤

I Stumbled upon your channel at my lowest point in my life. You have really inspired me to start making changes. Thank you 🙏🏼

I’m new to your channel. I must say… *I AM OBSESSED* You are like that big sister I never had and I have two. The advice you give is unmatched and raw and true and tough love. I’m always in a cycle of being on top of my self care and priorities then I fall back into a hole and it’s just a pattern. Before I had my son I always had that will power and consistency and now? I find it hard to stick with it. Your videos are helping me TREMENDOUSLY. So Liz, thank you girl. 🤍

WOW, this is exactly my life. I am so selfish now. I'm 50 years old and I'm living my BEST life! You are learning this so young. I'm so proud of you and as a 50 year old, if you ever need anything from ME, I am here for YOU!

I love your truth Liz!! Thank you for these reminders. Cheers!

Even when you were a people pleaser you were selfish, you always wanted something in return for your "altruistic" acts, you wanted to feel better for pleasing, and the fact of not receiving after giving made u feel empty. "Love is the extremely difficult realization that something other than oneself is real", I myself am selfish, and recognizing that true love is being assertive your loved ones needs and wants is something I struggle with up to this day.

i JUST had this conversation with my siblings , ever since little i wanted to be everything but selfish, i hated that word, i put myself so low in the bar that i adopted the mentality that everyone comes first, and that i should never speak up. 2021 was a year of growth, i went into situations where people took advantage of how ''calm'' and ''understanding'' i was, it put me more low than i had put myself and it was like something switched in my mind, it was that hurt of beind disrespected, the feeling of not being important enough that motivated to become the most self-centered, selfish person i've been in my entire life and i DON'T regret it. totally agree with you Liz

Everytime I feel to text my ex i watch her videos 😭

Thank you Liz, you have changed a lot of things in my life. Now I will work on finding myself with all strength, love and selfishness. ✨💗

she is just like a big sister to us.Thank you liz

wow you worded everything on point, I’m currently going through a reflection in life where I’m realizing that 90% of my friendships I am the “go to”, ppl pleaser, “dependable” friend, or vent buddy. And I’ve gotta to the point where I’m exhausted and question are these ppl even my real friends but it feels like they don’t even bother to ask about me. Thank you for this video Liz.

"Their opinion can change your reality. When you are the one that always creates your own reality" Girl I am covered in chills...Painfully true.

Yes. I resonate with all this because this is where I’m at in life. I am receptive to your message…..We can only help those that are receptive to our message; and the only person you have the ability to change is yourself. There’s a power in that. Thank you ❤

This made me realize how much of a people pleaser I was. I always asked how their day was, but they never asked about my day. I was surrounded by people who always made themselves the victim, complained, and didn’t really care about me. Thank the lord I cut those toxic relationships.

I'm still a teenager, but in these last years I became "selfish". For a while I felt extremely guilty and like the worst person, like I was a narcissist. Who doesn't care about anything or anyone. This year I had my first appointment with the psychologist and I told her about it in more detail. She made me realize how necessary it was to focus on myself and my self-esteem. I have learned a lot these last few months and I feel confident about my actions And the part about giving explanations YES!

You're changing my life and my mindset i will forever be grateful for you liz !

This woman saved me . Changed my opinions. Lots of love to you Liz.

This is not being selfish. This is literally just self love and loving yourself enough to stop allowing anything that doesn’t serve you. Loving yourself will trigger other people that are insecure and can hate you for that but you know what ? Being a people pleaser will not get other people to love you either so love yourself first and don’t be afraid to lose anyone in the process. ❤

I’ve been a people pleaser my whole life and I just turned 22 this year and I’m just starting to put myself first. I had to realize that not everyone deserves the good parts of me. I don’t need to be only the good parts to people.

your videos gave me courage and im better at socializing now! I'm planning on managing my social anxiety better this year, thank u.

taking notes for myself 1). stop arguing with people who are not willing to listen. when people cross your boundaries and are not willing to work on their issues or apologies, stop engaging. cut them off. whatever you want goes first. 2). fill your own cup first. are you okay? are you whole? if not, don’t talk. make sure you’re okay first. 3). stop being available at all times. if your phone is always on, if you’re making people believe that you’re fine, it’s on you. establish your boundaries. you cannot save everyone, you can’t save someone who doesn’t wanna change. 4). start being okay with people misunderstanding you. you have to realise that people are different and they will not understand you!! they do not have the same mindset as you. they are not you, so they will not get it. that’s it. you have to accept that. 5). stop trying to change people. human loves comfort. so, it takes a lot of discomfort to change and most people don’t want that. people HAVE to want it and you can’t make them. 6). stop needing people to validate your self worth. see those qualities in yourself. know what your worth it, know what your qualities are. if you constantly need that validation from others, you’re a slave to their opinions. their opinions will change your reality, when YOU’RE the one who creates your reality. 7). talk to yourself. hug yourself. go on dates with yourself. let things flow and let yourself receive things. stop chasing and start attracting. 8). only add great people into your life. people need to add value into your life.

honestly she has the best mind set ever and i LOVE her advice it’s really changing me to the best i can be

OMG you spoke to my soul in this video! I love all of your content. I've been going through a phase of isolation bc I've been drained for a while from being a people pleaser all my life. I recently had to create some strong boundaries for myself, and old friends try to make me feel bad for doing what's best for me. So I thank you for this confirmation. I really needed to hear that I am moving in the right direction, and sometimes being selfish is necessary. Thank you and God bless. I'm looking forward to hearing more of your videos

I have only one thing to say. You have changed my mindset. ❤

This is exactly where I am at these days. Tired of people using me and dragging me into their toxic drama. By being selfish I have lost some "friends" but I gotta say my life is much more peaceful now

I wish I could find this video from 2 years ago. I learned a lot from the last 2 years but lost the most important 2 years of my life. Thank you Liz for the video. Who ever reading this comment start prioritize yourself otherwise you will lose so many valuable time of your life. being selfish is okay.

Thank you Liz, you have helped me overcome some of the biggest hurdles of my life

this video is incredibly meaningful, I'm not a woman but I think what Liz said applies to everyone

My mom is still the biggest people pleaser I know, she would do anything and everything to help everyone in our city if she could. But at the end of the day she always feels really stressed and low. I, growing up, also started doing the same thing. I wanted to be like my mom because I thought that putting everyone first was the only way to live. Until I started going to therapy. I realised that it wasn't okay. And since I've been trying to put myself first and fill my own cup before I help people out and it works well for me. As for my mom, I hope one day she can put herself first too.

Liz you might be an empath just like me! I realized that I’m always there for people and I genuinely from the bottom of my heart try to help people out but realized over the years that nobody really sees that, the effort and the concern and all that, no, they throw that behind their backs and move on with their lives. Now what I learned is : If I feel my attention and effort that I put into this friendship is not reciprocated I will simply stop. If they don’t send a msg to check up on me I won’t. If they don’t invite me for dinner or coffee I won’t either. Stop giving your energy away to the wrong people !

I’m so happy to come across your KZfaq page. I feel so hurt and resentful of a lot of things. I have help a lot of people in my life including families and friends; just to realize that they don’t care about me.

I just randomly came across your channel few weeks ago and you are already changing my life. I love it, love myself more and I have to thank you for that. Thank you so much ❤❤

You're officially my therapist! You're just amazing, girl!

What you said about taking Gods place trying to help others and blocking your own blessings.. 🤯 you have NO idea how much I NEEDED to hear that. It makes SO much sense. THANK YOU 💜

This is one One of my favorite videos, and it gives me a lot of peace too. Takes me out of the perspective of despair

people pleaser is exactly word for me and thank you so much for your sharing. i look forward to listening your video

Everyday I’m getting 1% closer to the best version of myself because of Liz, My inner voice is starting to sound like her and I’m so thankful for that!! ❤️❤️❤️

God, i love this woman. thank you for all that you do, youre incredible. may Allah (SWT) take care of and guide you always

I just can't.... after being people pleaser for my whole life everyone dumping their problems on me and me as always providing them the help especially i was a speaker like i can easily motivate or understand someone else people have said me tons of time I'm a good freind just because I was a helper. But when I needed help no one was there no one has ever ever ever understand me watching this video I'm literally crying I'm not being dramatic but seriously for the first time ever someone has understood me . This girl is a real real helper may allah bless you Liz. You are a saviour as a teenager i couldn't get a therapist but here are you a total saviour☺️❤️

As a highly sensitive empath I can completely relate to this message. Giving everything to everyone and getting nothing back. Lots of trauma dumping, crappy presents etc....until I stepped back. Things are way different now and I deliberatly dont accept anymore close or familiar friends to protect myself. A current friend that I was quite close too i have moved our meet ups/conversations to every three months as all she talks about is her boyfriend problems. I just have friendly acquaintances. I dont really offer to help anyone anymore. I plan my day to suit myself and spend a lot of it on my own walking in parks, coffee shops and just reflecting, practicing feeling good, law of attraction etc. Its completely changed my life. I also do this in relationships too, I sit back and allow myself to recieve.

She was right!! When somebody needed my help I was always there for them but that same people when I need someone ,they were like "ok don't worry" "that's life" .Even If we care about their problems they dont care about us.

It feels like an angel is motivating us from heaven.

I needed this video so much. I was raised to be a people pleaser and I’m working on breaking that and setting boundaries