So proud of you 🧡🧡

Im so happy for you 🧡🧡

This transman of color appreciates you speaking to your journey. Even though I started my journey many years ago I have a ways to go and a lot to learn. It always does my heart good to hear others life stories. I thank you for sharing yours.

Thanks for correcting. Honestly, I really struggle to differentiate between the two within myself (as you kind of mention). Sometimes it's hard to know why exactly you feel negatively about your body and whether it has to do with gender

So awesome hearing this. We need more non binary representation n you made me feel so seen as a person with the same chest issue

Thank you for sharing your story! Best wishes to you on this new path.

Tuck, thank you for sharing your story. I am glad that you are able to come into your identity.

Much respect to you!

Just to help you out a bit in your journey in understanding folks who identify differently than you (good on you for that, btw) -- Whitney uses they/them pronouns. It's disrespectful to refer to them as she/her. It may seem like a minor thing, but it goes A LONG WAY in validating the experiences and identities you're trying to understand and be supportive of. Much love. ♥

@@Lenny4254 Ok. Thank you! Still learning, lol.

Plz do not cut parts of your body🙏

@@user-zg7nf5yv1r You don’t have to understand it, just mind your own business 😊

I agree to an extent. The part I would change is that it’s not about whether therapy is or isn’t about proving yourself if people feel it is. Maybe the way it’s done needs to be changed then?

As a therapist myself, you explained it perfectly. People don’t seem to understand the complexity of managed care and mental health especially when it comes to the trans umbrella and surgery.

I work in this sector too, and I think there is a HUGE difference between gate keeping, and providing genuine care, support, and helpful pathways for people to feel empowered, informed, and making the best choices for themselves. What whit described is starting to be researched.. How many non binary and queer people have to fit themselves into boxes to get the heth care they need, in ways that arnt right, truely them, and can often cause more harm and confusion that if we had genuinely supportive systems. Big ups to therapists who genuinely have it together, but there is a lot of ticking boxes, gatekeeping, gaslighting, and in appropriate "therapy" that goes on in the name of some proving that they're trans enough, and that is unnecessary suffering for sure.

I think for some trans people it’s the difficulty of affording proper therapy. It can be very expensive. That’s something I’m dealing with right now. I’ve been through 2 therapists and I’ve used up my HSA for the year. It took me months to find a WPATH certified therapist near me and I have to pay $250 per session. Something I just can’t afford right now. So it sucks to have to get someone to verify that you need the surgery. But I also absolutely understand how important it is.

same! ive only ever doubted top surgery cuz of complications and my own fear of surgery, but I know for a fact a perfectly flat chest is what i want and need.

@Antonija K it’s not about misogyny; it’s about being true to yourself and your gender identity.

@Antonija K Exactly. That’s why people have surgery. Your body is an integral part of you. People make their body fit to themselves because of that. “Nothing truer than that” is a bit extreme though because what about one’s faith, personality, and family. Those are all far truer than one’s body.

@Antonija K One, if yourself is your body I feel bad for you. Two, why do you think people have the surgeries? It’s because surgeries help relieve dysphoria. Three, fulfilling anorexia’s ideal can kill you, while relieving dysphoria can save you. For many, the surgeries are lifesavers and if they couldn’t have it, they might not have been around anymore. It helps make them happier, healthier, and right in themselves.

@Antonija K They do, but intolerant people like you make recent post ops just as likely. The more someone passes and the more support someone gets, the less likely they will to commit suicide. “among trans people who had undergone gender-affirming surgery, the longer ago their surgery, the less likely they were to suffer anxiety, depression or suicidal behavior during the study period,” researchers reported in The American Journal of Psychiatry

@Antonija K I’m actually not a man. I’m a gender nonconforming woman who thinks people should have the option to be how they choose. I never have had surgery and don’t want to, but I know several people who it’s really helped. The reason why I choose Justin Time was because it’s like “just in time,” but it looks like a name. I made it when toilet paper was low so it just went in with the whole mood. My ideal world is one where everyone can exist without discrimination, including trans people.

“My self-confidence is the most attractive thing I could possibly have”

-AMAB nonbinary people exist they are just underrepresented -Yes some women may not enjoy being a woman due to misogyny, but some afab people don't enjoy identifying as women because they just aren't women and think that there are more accurate and comfortable ways of describing their gender -Them "escaping" misogyny by being trans/nonbinary is replaced by even more transphobia -If you think that being a binary woman is accurate and comfortable label for you than that's great, but it isn't your reality because you were said to be a girl when you were born, it's because you personally think binary woman is accurate and comfortable label.

Would you tell a trans man that they're just confused and running away from misogyny by transitioning? No? Neither am I.

I agree. And Irony that when actual women speak up about choosing not to dis-associate from being a woman, the backlash response defaults to [trans]men...? Males & Females are shown statistically to transition for different reasons. Females are escaping sexual objectification of their bodies while Males are seeking to make their desirability more visible. Females are suffering under a debilitating patriarchy & ...looking for a way out.

It’s the “I’ve gotten so comfortable with identifying as whatever makes other people feel comfortable about me” for me. Soo relatable fam. Eventually I hope you find that you matter more than that **complacency you have become accustomed to. They’re comfort is to your detriment and you have to love yourself more fiercely. Sending love your way, I def feel where you are coming from, I’ve been there.

is it a new class? I am 30 & it is awesome they are covering this topic in schools

if you do not identify with your assigned gender at birth (a.i, being cis) then by definition you're trans. But some people dont use that label and that's ok

@@monomonito929 yeah I'm OK with association with my AGAB. I'm in a weird position on what to do with my chest. Some days I want it and others not so much. I also just wanted to ask the question cause I saw it somewhere online and I'm like???? Is that a thing or is this trolling? Also thanks for the reply

I felt similar about being raised latina and identifying as nonbinary like I expierence life as a women of color I don't identify there but I honor that expierence to the upmost it is complicated being a poc and engaging in the self but I so appreciate this video

Yah for sure cutting is a hard décision to make. If I was a 20 yr old in a heartbeat. But I see a different universe on the cusp. A place where we can love each other and see a universe of different cultures and colors and love. I can now see different universities. I can say it hasn’t been easy. But if we can learn to love and except each other. To embrace the story of each culture and each person the ending will be so much more beautiful. Each of our struggles will be that much more beautiful. I’ve lived in Los angles for over a year. Less than 100 miles to a place I swore I would never live. And in this time I have learned more loved more. And become a much better human being. With so much more love and understanding in my heart. Excepted so much more derversity . So much more understanding of how cultural derversity is to be loved not discarded. Derversity is not about color of skin, it’s not about the way we look. It is about love and understanding, and forgiveness. About where we came from. It’s about how we grew from pain to adulthood. I have never loved life more. I have never seen more love. I am not a easier person. But I love more. I think and talk different. I am different. I love to talk about loving ones own culture. I can see more how hard it was to see the original mother. I love to think about her.

pronouns aren't just for nonbinary people, everyone uses pronouns and you can't assume someone's gender just by looking at them. what pronouns do is make everyone feel more affirmed so you're not going around with your assumptions of what a man or woman "looks like" and invalidating people's identity. nobody's going to force you but they're super easy to use and don't hurt anyone. and p.s. they were never a woman

@@bettydereje9947 Actually yes humans can assume people's gender simply by looking at them for what 98,99 % of the population. Even babies can. I don't have a problem with people stating their preferred pronom just don't force me to do the same especially when I don't believe in gender identity ideology. As Withney never being a woman, absolutely just as much as Elliott Page isn't a woman.

@@bettydereje9947ps : I don't go around with assumptions of what a woman or man look like I just can see when I'm talking to a man or a woman.

Any recs for trans/non-binary therapists in LA?

In general, it's somebody who doesn't identify as a man nor as a woman. But it varies a lot though, there's no *one* way of being non-binary and it's sometimes used as an umbrella term that contains many other, more specific identities that are related to gender-non-conformity. It's best just to ask a non-binary person what it means to them. Also, enby (non-binary) people could use different pronouns, not just "they" necessarily, so it's good to ask that too.

@@daoaraya I don't think I would know if someone is non-binary. Thank you for taking time to answer my question One 💘

they/them?? they left their phone. i like their shirt. yeah that's my friend, I love them. super simple.

I'm pretty sure they have just had top surgery not bottom surgery.

I think you are confusing gender with biological sex. When it comes to biological sex they are female but their gender is nonbinary. When a person's gender doesn't match their sex at birth it can cause discomfort and that discomfort can often be relieved by getting surgery

I've always thought it's interesting why some women don't choose reconstructive surgery after a cancer related mastectomy.

Hey man not cool. This doesn't have something to do with you nor it is your business to post your negativity.

Bro wtf is your problem!

it's good that you said it looks uglier to YOU.she isn't you and you aren't her so if that makes her feel better and beautiful about herself that's all that matters.Not everything is about you 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

Please learn the meaning of *support* . Until you do, do not describe yourself as such.

@@achannelhandle do your research and you will see how many transgenders regreted their choice. The phsical pain was too much for them. If you're wishing this for your community that makes you a REAL SUPPORTER i guess🤔