Thank you for acknowledging this. I wasn’t sure if I was using the proper terms, but my intentions are good, thank you for seeing that. Will definitely check out that book!

@@BeTheVillageCommunity I was also wondering what kind of training you would get for these particular cases or is there any.

@@TheCatholicGirl All behavior is communication. It might not be good behavior, but it is communication because it hints at what a child is feeling. If you think their statement is false then you should probably reevaluate how you see behavior.

@Krista maybe you meant the book titled The Body Keeps the Score? It’s a very good book.

@@TheCatholicGirl yes all behavior is communication it doesn’t all have to be good behavior in order to be communication.it does tell other people that the child is going through something ,what a child is feeling and why people should be understanding about it.

And that was the best decision you could have made 💛

Friends of mine in addition to placement foster care do respite care. A foster family may need a day off for medical appointments or court for another child or another reason. Perhaps it work for your family for you to do respite care when you don't have your own kids?

@@karenbutler5994 oh! Good idea! I'm going to look into this!

We definitely do ❤️

I totally agree some kids will only grow in an environment with no other siblings. This is our case

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I’m sorry.

Wow! I am sorry that that happened to you and your siblings.

We absolutely will reach out for support. And for kids with visual impairments, I feel like that’s another we would have to stair step into. Only because our kids still require so much of us. If that wasn’t the case, we would five headfirst! Thank you for being so supportive ❤️

@@BeTheVillageCommunity understood. There are also lots of organizations that can help for different disabilities. Also, I know Darcy would be such a good help to anyone with a disability with is intelegent and kind a she is.

@Joy Hu you are absolutely right! As long as I have my accomodations and what not I don't really need much. For example, my parents didn't frequently need to spend more time with me for my homework than they did my sister as long as it was in braille. So I really don't think it would be to hard. Obviously the child would need to be on an IEP, and require accomodations like braille and Jaws learning. But there is lots of help available from the state and other organizations for that so that it is not all on the parent.

I hope you can find a coworking space in your area!!

There are a lot of co-working spaces. I thought there would be one almost anywhere, hope one pops up near you 🙂

I was just looking for coworkers places near me and only one option, still 30 miles from home. I live how you share your experience and knowledge while being careful to respect everyone involved at the same time. Working in the mental health field, I can tell you this isn't always easy to do. Keep up the great work!

Congratulations. I'm bit curious how it works with adoptions like that, will you still call him your nephew or your son, or both (he will obviously always be your biological nephew).

@@teijaflink2226 It took me two years to accept him call me mom in till his dad said was ok then was . Mom was out of he's 1st day , dad was in & out but mostly out of his life . Glad it's over if want talk with his dad or mom later date

My daughter is getting ready to adopt her niece and nephew. (My middle son, her older brother) After many years of their parents choosing drugs over them, we were able to get custody. It has been a bumpy road as they were 9 and 12 when their family totally disintegrated. Now they're ready to be adopted and we are thrilled.

@@theneens5535 So happy for the kids it's nice that they have your daughter adopted them .

Why wasn't he placed with you immediately? Most states look for relatives before foster homes.

Very well written and explained. The advice was spot on as well. My daughter is neurodivergent which took forever to get diagnosed correctly. My son was super easy though. Which is pretty typical. We stock so much sensory input and sensory relieving things in our house lol.. One of our favorite are figits, moon sand, weighted blanket and chewies, headphones, multicolor lights and a galaxy ceiling light. Thanks for put your information out there as it helps so many people. I Just couldn't scroll by without commenting.

This is so incredibly helpful!! Thank you for taking the time to be so thoughtful in your comment. I will definitely be coming back to this if we have a placement with these needs.

Love that song!

Thank you for doing what you do. You are incredibly courageous and capable

@@BeTheVillageCommunity Thank you all for sharing your journey with the world!!!

I love this!!

Love this

Thank you so much for doing that!!

Thank you ❤️

Yes, yes... YES! It really can weigh on you.

@@BeTheVillageCommunity so much!

I hope she celebrates the reunification’s too!

Good luck. My friends who work for Children and Family agencies are miserable.

@@susanfudge1737 Recently for my intro to social work class, I had the pleasure of interviewing an LCSW who works with a local child advocacy center. She was very encouraging, especially around the fact that there are so many social work fields to try. I'd like to start out in the trenches of family services, but if I can't handle it, there are so many other ways to branch out. And I hope to work with foster families just like this!

Woah...

I agree that romanticizing adoption and foster care is not a good thing. I remember once reading two "competing" articles about the pros and cons of foster care and adoption, and I was so dismayed at how short sighted and uninsightful those articles were! Clearly, the best thing for children is to be with their own parents as long as those parents keep them safe! The problem is when families do not keep their children safe, requiring others to step in to help. You're right, being removed from the home is very traumatizing! Foster children should never be "tossed around like nothing," and should not be seen as "puppies." I support a well-functioning foster care system that intervenes when there are no other options. I also support initiatives designed to strengthen struggling families. The day when a foster system is no longer necessary will be a great day in our history.

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Thanks for watching ❤️

Thanks for replying ❤️

Not the best, but we do our best

You guys are amazing would love to chat with u guys sometime

That is a great thought!

It will always depend on your location, age, and child characteristics. But yeah, it’s why we went with the Cincinnati county and not the suburb county we live in, there’s more of a need.

Right. We are in the Cincinnati county too.. Instead of our county, although I guess our agency could potentially get referrals from all the surrounding counties... I'm not actually in any hurry to get a call because our current placement is a bit of a handful. He was with us for the first 2 years of his life and re unified on his 2nd birthday and came back a year and a half later with so much trauma.

I don’t understand the comment but I love this comment.

They have a video about it on their channel. The Playlist is titled Becoming a Foster Family

Lots of factors to consider. It isn't black and white. But unfortunately, so many licensed foster caregivers only want "the young ones" and therefore, yes, it takes awhile. For older kids, it's all about how to stay consistent with school.

Hours or minutes... usually, I talk to john IMMEDIATELY after the call and then we respond right away.

I wonder if getting some counselling for yourself would be a good first step in exploring these ideas. You’ve obviously given it a lot of consideration but I wonder if a professional might help guide your thoughts. Also, perhaps start the process of getting the training for foster care and that training may help you with this big decision. All the best and God bless you.

I don't know your health, but I am an epileptic mom to 2 boys! My neurologist was great and showed us I am only 1% more at risk than any other mom in general! Due to my medication, I did go on very high folate because my medication puts a baby at high risk for spina bifida. Though if your epilepsy is uncontrollable and you are regularly losing consciousness that can certainly be a high-risk issue. I would definitely seek medical help and counseling. No parent is ever truly ready or without their own issues, but if you already know you have some big struggles, address those first as much as possible. Neither of my children has any epilepsy-related needs, we have done speech therapy but that is not related to my health, but a very common need for kids.

The fact that you worry says volumes! I'm a foster parent who had a traumatic childhood in care and out myself. The trauma we endured can make us more empathetic and understanding. Do not let your past stop you from helping kids who need it!

For us, the process was parallel. We may have had a few extra steps along the way but I think most of the extra work is on the backend with casework paperwork

I'm currently in nursing school and we do our clinicals in hospitals. I didn't know that kids would just be dropped off at a mental hospital whenever the foster parents could not or simply didn't want to deal with the child's behavior anymore. I honestly say and think if you're not ready to deal with all the emotional problems they're coming from, please don't get involved. It takes a lot to take care of a foster child, that involves doctors appointments, psychotherapy and much more. This particular case broke my ❤, we interact with the patients and this particular patient was just dropped off because foster mom did not want to deal with the behavior anymore because of other placements at home. This situation made it worse for patient. We don't give up in our kids and foster kids should be taken as our own. Let the child know you're not giving up on them that easily, give them love, attention, support and have lots of patience for what they are going through. It's not easy to be taken away from your family and be placed at a strangers home. Be there for the child 100% and be mindful of not taking any other child/children if you already have a group of siblings and don't have the time or patience to take another placement. I am a mother and I went through a situation with one of my kids. I never left my child alone, we worked it out together as a family with love and psychotherapy and lots of patience. For a long time I took my child to even 3 appointments with psychologist per week but I never gave up. There's hope in many kids and we have to make an impact in their lives. I wish I could have taken the child in my home, but I would probably have contributed to the pain of feeling neglected since I don't have much time because of nursing school. I am considering becoming a foster parent in the future when I can assure I'm able to be there 100% and contribute to the child's emotional support. I wish you the best and always put the child first even if that means I can't take him/her in my home.

It varies by state but not too difficult for fostering. You take a few classes. They do a background check and a home visit. In Georgia, they do not like pit bulls, Rottweilers, or any other aggressive dogs. Must have vaccines even for cats.

Yes and yes. Depending on the state and county and agency, there are regular conversations. And yes, the foster family is able to weigh in and provide direction/context as it pertains to the best interest of the child. They are part of the child care team.

It greatly depends on the case and team. We were an adoptive placement but had no say in where our little one ended up. Thr child is being moved put of state to a relative.

@@woohooitscrystal Agree 100%. Her agency seems really good. Others maybe not so much. State laws also determine how many 'rights' foster parents have. I know Georgia and West VA have lobbied for more rights of parents. DC allows foster parents to intervene in court cases. Other states, too (amount of time in care before intervening varies). I"m in Maryland and a group has lobbied for a House Bill being considered now for foster parents to have the right to intervene after the child is in care a year. We can go and make a statement in court, but this would allow us the right to stay through an entire court hearing (we are often asked to leave), after a year, this would give us the same standing as a relative re custody. So, in a case like yours, they wouldn't automatically go to a relative in another state they didn't even know.

@@amymenjivar3489 here in CO we are not even addressed in court. It's like we don't exist...yet we are the ones who know the most about these children. That sounds like a great step for foster parents in your state. Our agency is great but they basically say to accept it because that is just how it is.

Yes, but a lot of the times dcf does not believe the child. I was being abused in a foster home and told my social worker who kept me there. I finally called her supervisor which foster kids are aloud to do but just are not told( I contacted my older sister who called them and told me to call her supervisor) well the supervisor was pissed at the social worker and I was moved immediately. My sister finally got custody of me when I was 15. I do not like foster care it’s a very broken system. Some foster parents are ok but most are not.

In Georgia, the YMCA is usually used for summer and after school care. I was going to send my kids to a Y camp until I realized the profanity used by these kids. I'm not a snob but I raise my kids not to use profanity.

Same

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This was me too. Lol

I thought the exact same thing!!

Honestly, we don’t have a lot of info on that just yet.

I feel like that's heavily going to depend on the situation. Like they might have some info on the child if there was already an open case (for example, if the parents were given a certain amount of time to change what was wrong, then the child has probably already been interviewed by Child Services), but if the parents are getting arrested or it's a severe case then I'd imagine they just take the child immediately.

I was removed by CPS (as well as several of my close friends), have several friends that are social workers, and have previously worked with kids who were removed from a parent's custody; so I can share the usual process. However, I just want to be sure I understand your question. You're asking what occurs when a child is removed from the custody of a parent while they are living with that parent, correct? Sorry, just want to be sure as you said apprehended (which means arrested for a crime) and could be asking something entirely different.

Agree with Sam L that if the child is known to the agency, there *may* be more info. But, think about how quickly info can get lost. If I understand what she said in the video with county and agencies, you might have county workers investigating, they might call their county to report they are removing which starts the chain of contact to the agencies who have foster/resource families to take a child and then matchmakers in each agency relaying info to the families. Info gets lost, twisted etc. Usually when workers determine they will be removing a child they go in and get out as quickly as possible to reduce additional trauma to the child. There may be police presence. This is one of the worst days for the biological parents. They may not be reacting well. That is why they aren't stopping to pack bags, get the kids favorite toy etc. Some biological parents are helpful and will pack bags, formula, bottles etc. On the calls they typically state age, gender, sometimes race. I've had kids that show up w/wrong ages but have had foster friends get kids of a different gender. That can make a difference if kids share rooms etc. Placement is usually chaotic. Then, they have a court hearing the next day...a little more info trickles in...if it is determined the child is staying in care, usually more info trickles in. Maybe you connect with regular pediatrician. It's a trickle...and workers decide what they want to share with you.

Yes, depending on the situation.

Freedom to practice their religion or lack of religion is built into our agency’s policies but regardless, it’s how we operate.

Another channel that has fostered (Crazy Middles) said that pretty much all their foster kids not only were not religious but many had never even been to church.

@@kellypat125 I watch them too! They are mormon and i’ve heard them say that they do make their kiddos go to church but they don’t have to “participate” in the religion

And it may be for safety reasons too that they don’t want to leave them home alone.

@@brooklynncrowder1998 yeah they have to go to church but not join. They said in a video Weston didn't want to be with them because of the church rule but ended up loving it and joining the church. (Edited this)

Ask your county, it may be a restriction but it also may not. Hard to tell.

This is one reason why some teachers (including myself, though I am still a student teacher technically) don't require kiddos to turn cameras on. Equity and privacy matter. Not every student lives in a home they wish to publicly show (for many reasons). If I need students to have a camera on for a specific reason, that's different, but unless I am told by admin or an advising teacher (at this point) that I must have students turn on cameras, I let them decide that. Heck, as a student, there are days that I don't want to put my camera on, so I try as much as I can to extend students that grace.

they have said in other videos that they are completely open to that!

@@gretchen7675 awesome :D

YES YES YES YES!!! We actually got a call for one today and they ended up with another family and it broke my heart because I knew we would be able to support them and love them and provide an environment where they would feel the acceptance they deserve.

@@BeTheVillageCommunity aww, you guys are so sweet 🥺

@@BeTheVillageCommunity this is what i like too see ❤️❤️❤️🤞🏿

Not true

@@BeTheVillageCommunity maybe it's a suggestion for foster parents given in the UK

Hi, are you alright? Why do you want to be removed from your home?

@@bethanyknepper8552 I have abusive adopted parents and they neglect me control me my life a lot so much my bff is scared to come around or hangout with me you can even ask her she will say the same thing i been sexually harassed by my adopted mom i can give you my social media and we can talk more about it on there Ms. Bethany

@@bethanyknepper8552 I never feel safe or happy anymore in my home right now

I hope you found help, hugs!

You’d have to either contact CPS yourself by calling the hotline number in your county or tell a teacher/guidance counselor who will then make a report. I hope you are okay, honey ❤

Thank you. I hear you. I guess because of our job responsibilities, the channels, our kids right now... we were hesitant to jump in with the specific needs that were disclosed. However, we are open depending on what the needs are and if we feel that we can handle it. Appreciate you

When you love and care for a kid, you’re excited and elated even when you see their family come back together.

They kind of are, I have a couple of brown streaks in one that make it look green.

I hope that’s a good thing lol

@@BeTheVillageCommunity Hahaha yes!! Absolutely!

Welcome to the early viewing party!!

Absolutely, I misspoke. Thanks for bringing that up. I'll be better next time.

This is definitely not an “office” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

@@BeTheVillageCommunity shower, get dressed, leave house, work not in bedroom. UNACCEPTABLE!

@@jmichael6965 You don't know the exact situation. We know that Whitney and family have followed mask rules, etc., so I'm sure she is still following guidelines to keep herself and others safe. Unless you know every factor at play in a situation, please don't make blanket statements. You do not know that how she is working is unsafe or unacceptable. Everyone is doing the best they can during this pandemic, but not everyone can always be home for many reasons (I say this as someone who has literally only left the house once this year, but does understand the need others have to get out a little bit.)

@@KM-ye9so oh I'm not commenting about covid or anything, just how you would still have to leave the house to work, which I'm permanently over lol

@@KM-ye9so Everyone is not doing the best they can during this pandemic! 😢

I don’t know how to take this 🤣

@@BeTheVillageCommunity *you have "youtube voice" which is a performance voice. a lot of people do it from youtube to newscasting, doctors and nurses to police. humans employ this sort of signature voice thing and it always leaves me wondering why they sacrifice their own voice for something unnatural. don't worry, i'm the minority opinion on the matter. nobody else cares. LOL!*