Cynthia G was ahead of the time warning us that we weren't the common denominator. Thank you for sharing this informative video with us!! 😮😮

I’m shocked BW are still wasting their time with BM 😮.

The hardest to date with the least to offer . Have fun ladies

I've been saying that black men who hate black women actually have suppressed anger and resentment for their mothers. It feels good to hear him back that up. What stood out for me is that black men have been projecting their undesirablility on us for too long. This whole time, we've been listening, open to constructive criticism but it was never constructive criticism. It was projection. Period.

The late Dick Gregory said the same about black men aggressions. Mr Gregory said.... In his days black men went to work and "yes sir' "no sir" the yt man all day ....than came home and "raise hell" with the family.

I started dating a white man for the first time. He is so sweet, kind, selfless, fun, and holds interesting conversation. He's very patient with me. I thought that when I dated black men before that they weren't too bad. I still feel that way but this man I'm dating now really gives me what i want and need right now. I feel happy.

BM also don’t try as hard in relationships/ courting for BW as they do for other races. What more do BW need to wake up and leave these ninjas alone! ❤

I’m a black and Canadian. Here we have the SAME ISSUES with BM. However , I still don’t trust BM podcasters.

Also remember what Pastor David Manning said about blk men…. He talked about how disrespectful they are towards blk women as well. And shout out to Cynthia because she was having her foot on these bandits necks with the whole truth!

‘Bottom of the totem pole’ financially, educationally, etc., so they take out their frustration and aggression in BW. Sounds about right.

just RIDICULOUS requirements just to vet... Lord... we gotta leave these males alone 🤮

That happened on the movie Fences with Denzel and Viola... she was amazing but he treated her like crap because he needed someone to take his issues out on.

Aaand lets not leave out that many are downlow or just outright mmhumm

Thanks Tonya for giving Cyn G her props

Im glad hes schooling women.... Im tired of them saying no one showed them anything. No one showed some of us either. We figured it out they can if they wanted to. They dont. They can figure everything else out... They dont like women.

As a woman of color who dates all races, men seem to get scared off by these questions. I’ve asked them before on dates, and been perceived as though I was “rushing things”. It’s like, “I’m just trying to save time, especially if you don’t actually like me”! BM unfortunately have been the lowest number of my dates, because they usually don’t approach me. But they do stare at me in disgust when I am on dates with men of other races! Lol

But who is checking for the BM still in 2024? 😅😅😅

I had to accept the fact that BM & I will NEVER get along. So I no longer entertain them.

BM do to much unaliving for me, even when you think you have a sane one and has been with him for years, one bad argument or disagreement he’s deleting you and the whole family, I just can’t take that chance, you see it happening to much, they’re emotionally unstable

I go to the track and get my steps in at a park in an affluent neighborhood. The black aunties are looking vibrant and youthful walking with their white significant others. They are not dying alone, I guess.

This makes me wanna text my white boo right now and tell him I appreciate him. He's so sweet and kind and patient and just loves to make me smile and happy. BM, when I date them, only interested in "putting me in my place." Funk'em. I'm done BM. Happy you don't care either. That makes all of us.

I figured out long ago we are not compatible. So basically you have to do a bio psycho social assessment to date a bm and even so you still may not get it right. And if they have a nickel over hamburger fare you are really in for some trouble. I think I am good. I would rather put that time and energy into dating and investing in myself.

Im terrified to date. Terrified! It's hard for me to remove the wall from my heart, and this video is one reason for being terrified 😔

When I dated , I ONLY dated men with ACTIVE fathers in the home pr a strong male alpha male in their lives that was older. I dated ONE man who was raised by his mom and older sister and he was the absolute Worst. His mom and sister expected me to pick up their roles, no thanks. I grew up and fathers were in the homes of just about everyone I knew and went to school with? I didn’t realize until much older that apparently that’s not the norm.

I'm not doing any of this. If YOU got to do all this just to date, NO THANKS!!!!!!

NOOOOO LIES TOLD! 🔥💣🎤

I love this dating coach! He's educated, has experience, loves facts and statics ( just like Tonya).

Love Coach Anwar. He generally has great advice

Let BM tell it, we are the problem.

This was excellent Tonya, thank you!

Whew chile! I alrwady knew all this was true 15 -20 yrs ago but to hear it boiled down is juat affirming. I been over black dudes.

But what about when they do have fathers in the home yet they turn around and delete the whole family?!?😫

We need Cynthia G back on KZfaq!!!

He knows exactly what he’s talking about.. I’ve seen so much of these issues with black men and that’s why I can’t respect them. I pay them no attention.🥴

I'll say this: first of all, thank you Tonya for uploading this man's perspective, a true brother for sure who knows what's goin on👏, and second, a big reason why things like this still plague our community are reality shows like Oprah's "Ready To Love", because that's something that tries to paint black relationships in a positive light, but it lacks to portray the authentic reality that this young brotha articulated so well, and at some point, we all gotta wake up.

That was so on point.

I've never dated a BM, so I have no idea, but from the way I see them with other women or how other women talk about BM, I never feel like I'm missing much, even when I get women telling me it's weird that I haven't dated in my race. Thing is, it's not like I never tried, but they either were like, "I don't date BW" (even when I had no interest in wanting to date them) or they'd try to have me lower my standards... like why wouldn't I come to their house at 9pm to "netflix and chill" (I don't do that with anyone), and, oddly, non-BM were just always more receptive to me, so that's what I've always dated. And, tbh, if I ever go back to dating, I doubt it will change, but who knows?

The collaboration we need. 🙏 When you invite others on your platform it’s executed so seamlessly and enjoyable to watch.

GREAT VIDEO!!!!!!!!

Thank you sir

👏👏👏 Thanks Coach Anwar.

❤❤❤Dude I been saying these things and asking questions. When I try to help heal I get the oh you "doin too much" stare

Here to promote the AMBW it’s nice over here 👍

No thanks I’ll choose none of them .. #4Bmovement

YOU AND ANWAR PREACHED A WHOLE SERMON!!!!! ALL.FACTS.

Great !!!!!❤❤❤❤❤ vid post and who is this man def looking him up 👯‍♀️👯‍♀️👯‍♀️

I love his clips, he does bring a fresh perspective to the conversation. Its good to have intel on men; although prepared to be shocked. Beta & Delta males will internalize structural discrimination and bring it home to dump on his family. This just repeats a cycle of generational interracial familiar violence that's normalized in the community. Think "Poppa was a Rolling Stone"! "Me and Mrs. Jones, Clean Up Woman"! Alot of the soundtrack of my early childhood, is real problematic today. 😮✊️🐈‍⬛🪮😻❤️

He hit the nail on the head and yes Cynthia G also lays it out like no other straight truth!

I'm definitely gonna swim with the current and definitely not against it! I'm definitely gonna date out!!!!

6:50 💎 💯

What’s his info because I need to book a call

Ladies, I’m a white Jewish woman (free Palestine, btw) and my recommendation is: TRY JAPANESE MEN and you won’t be disappointed! Smart, educated, hard working, raised to do chores in a perfect way and great cooks. Once they are out of their shells, they can also be extremely fun and affectionate. 😊

This man is actually very smart and well intentioned. Finally someone speaking the truth.Too bad he is gay I think.Women do not have to meet him

They dont want to speak on this fact tho. I. No longer limiting myself to black males. You have to be healed or at least acknowledge your broken. 💯

They are..that’s why I abstain! 👩🏽

Tonya!!!! LMAOOO Those facial expressions 🤣🤣🤣 I tried talking about this with another youtuber, but she got extremely defensive. A lot of BM have unhealthy relationships with their mothers and as this coach said, they feel a sense of entitlement because of what they've done and or are doing for their mothers. I recall a BM approaching me and then bombarding me with bullshit about paying his mom's bills and how the women in his family love him. I told him that I didn't give a phuck and that he needed to go and take his mom out on a date since he was paying all of her bills. They think it's impressive and the mothers don't help. I've had to tell a few of them that the moment their son's have their first 🌊dream, he's on the hunt and it's not for mom's front.

I tried. I'm done. I love my BM, but .....

Systematic nothing, everybody can go to school and college.

What are Anwars credentials?? What degree does he hold?? I do agree with him though! 👩🏽

I could be wrong, but, this guy seems to be giving subliminal messages of marry a bus driver. I say this because with every thing he says about blk men, he add the disclaimer of it's not the blk man's fault it's society's fault. Should I feel sorry for them that they was raised by a single mother, or that they make less money, or do I do everything in my power to keep him happy because another woman might be waiting for him. People tell us these by the way the blk man things to put guilt in our minds.

YEAAA ....NAWWW THAT LAST 2 ONES I DEALT WITH NO NO AND HELL NO!!! ONE HAD A MOTHER WHO USED TO HAVE A DRUG PROBLEM ALONG WITH A FATHER WHO WAS A WOMANIZER AND THE OTHER WAS A KING BABY!!! NEITHER ONE I SEEN HAVING A LONG TERN ANYTHING AND I WAS NOT ENTERTAINING NO BABIES WITH THEM.....THEY WERE JUST FOR FUN AND THAT WASNT FUN CAUSE THEY WERE PROBLEMATIC ....SO NO!!! I DECIDED TO OPT OUT OF DEALIGN WITH THEM ALL TOGETHER...RATHER KEEP MONEY N MY POCKET LOOKING FLY STAYING HEALTHY AND BEING SINGLE

What you bring to the table boo boo 😂😂😂😂... Turn that crap on them!

Welp

Well damn, look at this guy adding to the statistics.

I waiting to hear about all the black males who will cause this male to lose his job because he told the truth about their ways.

This man is so insightful. Perfectly said, statistics and facts. Truth is something most bl@ck men are running from. It would change their lives if they would tell themselves the truth about the state of their being etc.

He is clearly coaching gay black men that don't apply me lol. Gay men are going to this coach for help. That ain't us.

See if they're raised with "fathers in the home", or who had active fathers? Yeah like T.I. Boosie, D Wade, and Dwight Howard?😂 Oh, and Puff daddy🤦‍♀️😂.

Funny thing is, this doesn’t apply to ALL BM however. But any man can be a douche bag!😂 My ex husband is black American (I’m Black British female), I have dated white and Indian before. Let’s just say, they weren’t great relationships. The two white guys I dated… not great blokes however my very first ex bf who is white, we are on common ground now as friends 👍🏾. I just think it’s down to personality and background. My ex husband was the worst relationship I had sadly. It also comes down to the types men we choose as well.

As a black man I know one thing, majority of black men don't detach from their mother's in a healthy and effective way. We can be stubborn, but I don't think every black man is divorce oriented, it's possible to work it out with a black man, because we don't actually leave completely, it's still very easy to contact a black man you separated with, we can't let go of affection and empathy as easy as white men do, it takes a long time for a black man to get over a lady he respected and adored. But be very weary of the black man who hasn't completely detached from his mother, that is where evil resides, if the mom was distant, unavailable and Narcissistic he will be very, very, judgemental and even hateful of black women and want them to submit their entire life to them, these are your Incels, redpill dudes, then you have the dude who either had both parents pass away or the parents are both immature, distant, abusive, this dude will feel like he is god, saving you and that only he knows how you should, think and act in everything, such a dude can kill you if you step out of line, this is like Diddy, he wants every man and woman to submit to him and his sadistic need for satisfaction by destroying others, he considers you privileged to be with him. Then you have the last type of black man, who's mother was empathic and loving while his father was Narcissistic and putting him down all the time, such a dude will be very good to everyone but himself, he can even give you a house and walk away, he wants others to be ok while he destroys himself, doubts himself, pities himself, he always doesn't feel good enough, even though he is better than all other guys in all areas. However, there is the black man who was raised by both parents who were loving and empathic and supportive, obviously this is the best man to ever find, but they are like unicorns and elves, very hard to find, a tip to noticing one is that they are usually very well dressed, clean, they look once but don't stare, they like you but don't force themselves on you, they are extremely thoughtful, they solve very difficult social problems very calmly and easily, with mutual satisfaction.

Waiting for the MANDATORY STD results when dealing with a Black women is so complicated Better off just to be alone or else with someone more healthy

The problem for black women is not trying to determine if they want to be with black men or not, many of them have already determined that they want to date out(divest). The problem facing black women is the fact that non black men generally are not interested in them. Continuously making videos convincing your audience that they need to start shopping for high end german luxury vehicles while knowing they have 400 credit scores is futile. If non black men found black women desirable, these types of videos convincing black women to date out would not be necessary.

How are we raising our sons. 🤨🤨 This behaviour just does not hapoen on its own. He said it, they are running away from their morhers who unfortunately is left to raise a boy into a man. Some of us really try but its a vicious cycle where there are not a lot of fathers and male mentors around to teach our boys how to be responsible men. 😢

bm make more money that black women. what this dude is saying isnt even true.

It's always the GHEYS😂😂

This doesn't mean BW should give up on BM.... just be aware of the issues he may not be healed from... and mommy issues definitely impact how he treats you... but that's true of all men... and fyi some men treat the women in their own culture the worst bc of the mommy issue.... dating outside your culture doesn't solve this.... an unhealthy man can be triggered by any woman regardless of race

He's been rejected by black men---FOREVER🤣🤣🤣

Where he get his statisticsfrom?

Black women should stop being too critical and bring up healthy boy to Men.We can do better!

This guys voice is so obnoxious

Every one is down on the black man sad

I remember writing in my diary about an ex from 17 years ago. He was always so angry and would lash out at me. He was 27(i was 21) at the time, in a gang, had a child that he couldn't support, was a loser, felon, couldn't get or hold a job and had nothing of his own and would go from house to house. I never understood why he was so angry. I eventually left his dusty ass because I got tired of him. When i moved to a new apartment in a new state, he tried to move in and i told him no. I knew he was just trying to live off of me. I reconnected with him 2 years ago and he is still a bum living off of women. Now he has 6 kids with 4 different women (maybe more now).

4B movement needs to get here faster. Im already a member. Have fun with those broke society's reject losers