my trick with people, especially men, is to listen. if you listen, people will tell you all you need to know. it's that simple.
@reneemassey-28273 ай бұрын
Sooooo dayum true!!!
@EnchantedAnn3 ай бұрын
And when they don’t talk, it is absolutely all you will never know💯
@rosalind76783 ай бұрын
💯‼️
@desrinesimpson5613 ай бұрын
So true just listen
@monikawoodson37893 ай бұрын
So true!
@annaa62593 ай бұрын
“someone who wants you to be their peace is at war with themselves”🤯😱👏👏👏
@UnityJ1253 ай бұрын
This guy told me one time while dealing with another girl at the beginning that he thought I’d be his peace. I thought that was a punch line he was just trying on me. He was already distant. Called me once every other year. Not until I reached out and all this in the friendship that I thought we had came up.. Huge turn off!
@alana5233 ай бұрын
Yeah so sick of that line
@user-xi2hq1re4y3 ай бұрын
At war with themselves. I Love it!
@LRey853 ай бұрын
My ex loved saying that…hence he’s my ex. My man now never says it. He knows if he brings me chaos don’t expect peace
@anacollado7423 ай бұрын
Wow wow thank you❤❤❤
@pamelawilliams27393 ай бұрын
This is why some men end up alone in a nursing home 😅😅 because KARMA IS REAL
I used to teach art in a nursing home where there was a ratio of about 40 women to every 2 men, and what did the men do? Hit on me when I was in my early 20s, and there were dozens of age appropriate women around them! They actually thought they had a chance even in diapers, with serious illnesses, and in complete destitution. A lot of men never think they're over the hill, and they don't give a crap if they have nothing to offer or are trying to waste the best years of a woman's life. Some men overplay their hands when they're still able to date and age themselves right out of the dating market. Then, they scramble at the end of their lives to find a free young nurse and end up making fools out of themselves. Karma is real, people!
@KM-oy5yh3 ай бұрын
@@FC-ku4ez Lord Have Mercy, Sister, This is Soooooo #TRUE N YET #SAD N #PITIFUL 🙏♥️
@Soulhearts4ever3 ай бұрын
I think people need to start noticing their own red flags... Self awareness is important.
@portiamagaqa15362 ай бұрын
Yes. Wanting security is a red flag identified in myself
@user-fy5kl3nw5r2 ай бұрын
So true,and a lot of people keep blaming the other person but not knowing they are the one giving the red flags
@outsidethebox84062 ай бұрын
Right & work on being better, how about that part!
@Zazezoo2 ай бұрын
@@portiamagaqa1536that should be every woman’s want, not a red flag!
@barbarabermingham93852 ай бұрын
Absolutely 👍 💯
@shabanabegum96233 ай бұрын
words and actions can fool you but patterns never lie 💯
@KM-oy5yh3 ай бұрын
AMEN AMEN AMEN 🎉
@claudiarainone55483 ай бұрын
What do u mean by patterns?
@ahamed67023 ай бұрын
@@claudiarainone5548 watch what a person does (patterns).
@kadinethompson94422 ай бұрын
Hence why I only watch actions
@Erica-cf1xb2 ай бұрын
@claudiarainone5548 people are creatures of habit. They like consistency. You will pick up on it. Most people are hiding something and that something Is usually a flag. Everyone wants to present as the angel.
@tarothijadevenus40173 ай бұрын
Never believe in his words, watch his actions ❤
@YuhhFeelMe3 ай бұрын
Same thing men gotta do wit women.
@sephiwejoycesithole61183 ай бұрын
Red flags...💔 Sleep with you on a first date. Not committed. Doesn't give you a break. Brings up marriage/ loving you Who brings you to date and ask who's paying the bill?. Quick to talk bad about their ex Tells you he doesn't trust women easily. Who asks you to be his peace. He's always busy and you hear from him once or 2 a week. When he just disappears. When he comes over at night only. Or calls at night only. Still learning thank you🙏👌💕
@YuhhFeelMe3 ай бұрын
So its a red flag if i dont trust women, yall are crazyy as hell 🤣
@senorita-qh6bm3 ай бұрын
@@YuhhFeelMeif you have a hatred for all women then yes you should be with a man not a woman
@mandanaa95783 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@Bri-nc8yp3 ай бұрын
@@YuhhFeelMeif you don’t trust women then stay single. But don’t play games with peoples lives and emotions it’s that simple. There are a ton of women looking for stability..honesty …loyalty…fidelity etc so if that’s not you then be fully single…however that’s not what men do…they say the don’t want anything serious ..they say they don’t trust women yet they still want the perks of being with a woman while being nothing to the woman’s life that’s positive just bunch of headache and drama.
@shontasmith93623 ай бұрын
Absolutely, well said.
@angelicelevationtarot12 ай бұрын
When people show you who they are.. believe them! - Maya Angelou
@sweetlo34243 ай бұрын
This is the most honest healthy advice on dating I've ever heard.
@konsciousKirk3 ай бұрын
Awwe. Thank u
@teresahendley13163 ай бұрын
I agree! Very direct and to the point also. Thank you for sharing 😊 this information with us!
@justsayit4762 ай бұрын
A man that constantly looks at other women whilst in your presence
@TheNisiuАй бұрын
"Be your own peace!" Thank you!
@suebaybee3 ай бұрын
I was having a conversation with a guy and he says "i need my woman to be my peace." I told him he must first have peace withink himself.
@freespirit-1113 ай бұрын
😂😂
@Virgolove3 ай бұрын
....he heard it and thought it sounded good and thought you'd like it.....but yes...peace comes from within, sir. Be peaceful...
@vodkavuittonАй бұрын
Most stalkers do not have peace that's why they live for drama
@FC-ku4ez3 ай бұрын
I had a friend who would only contact me on holidays asking when I was coming into the city. I got together with him for lunch once, and he seemed rude, distracted, and upset. I excused myself after an hour of strange behavior and my gut telling me something was wrong. I found out a month later that he was in a relationship with a 21 year old girl (he's 46) and he'd proposed to her and gotten turned down right before he met me for lunch and tried to get me to go to his place. Trust your guts ladies!
@KevonnieElaine3 ай бұрын
Whoa😳
@user-nu2xv6mt1z3 ай бұрын
That's insane
@kmydesire123 ай бұрын
Who different level of scumbag
@Katrica6703 ай бұрын
@FC yes they take out their problems from the ones that do Not want them on you!
@RoseMalaneigh3 ай бұрын
@@Katrica670 Exactly ‼️❌ And mess with the wrong one's & 🔚 up finding out the hard way about WRONGFULLY doing thing's to innocent people. It's flat out ridiculous & pathetic. If dude's (in general) can't handle rejection, then they need to just stay by themselves. Period, point blank..... it's not 🚫 that durn hard!
@Mzlilunique3 ай бұрын
My red flag I keep encountering with men is not being invited to their house. Smh. Big red flag. Always want to be in my space.
@howardcinnamon3 ай бұрын
I made up my mind. If I can’t come to your place, u can’t come to mine PERIOD.
@MzBates8153 ай бұрын
They definitely always reveal themselves no need to go looking 💯
@YuhhFeelMe3 ай бұрын
Yall sure do.
@Shai82123 ай бұрын
Also, another red flag is the one that can’t pick up the phone to call always texting
@vfree45792 ай бұрын
I got pulled into the texting big red flag never 📞
@Katrica6703 ай бұрын
"The one who lies in the beginning, then you catch the lie, it never ends!"🤔
@SL-ez5rv3 ай бұрын
I achieved 40 years of that
@Katrica6703 ай бұрын
@@SL-ez5rv of what?
@Kashmir-lt4cx2 ай бұрын
@@SL-ez5rvare you a male?
@vodkavuittonАй бұрын
They'll keep the lies going for years to keep from moving on
@mwoods23752 ай бұрын
Yep when they NEVER ask YOU any questions
@toptier63562 күн бұрын
Thiss!!!!!!
@cynthiachavis96782 ай бұрын
If his mother tells you my son ain't no good and you gonna fix him
@trinjuwan44223 ай бұрын
I'm DONE with men, but I do like listening to "warnings" feedback from men & love to see ppl in love❤
@rachaelrobinson21853 ай бұрын
4B movement
@AhsinacLifeStyle2 ай бұрын
SAME...
@shakiesympathy9852Ай бұрын
Same story with me 😊
@IamCoachCourt3 ай бұрын
Don’t just collect the flags 😩😩
@konsciousKirk3 ай бұрын
Exactly lol
@SS-in1ts3 ай бұрын
Coach Court!! 🙌
@Leahmoonbeamflower3 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂😂 that was FUNNY.
@Erica-cf1xb2 ай бұрын
We playing flag football.
@Uwhowhereareyou3 ай бұрын
I can spot the red flags,now that I'm older.
@annaa62593 ай бұрын
“Don’t just collect the flags” wow- words of wisdom straight at the beginning 👏
@latoyaalexander89513 ай бұрын
Sometimes they will call you while their spouse and children are inside of the house or at the store. They will also pretend to be divorced or a single parent.....
@Katrica6703 ай бұрын
@latoyalexander and where are they, in the car if they own one, or on the road? Then when the family is at the store, it makes sense he is calling from the house.
@latoyaalexander89513 ай бұрын
@Katrica670 No actually inside of the house at the same time as their wife while the wife is inside of another room watching TV, sleeping or running a business. They will say that their on the phone with a family member, coworker or friend if asked.
@sylverista35053 ай бұрын
Happens to me all the time 😂😂😂
@latoyaalexander89513 ай бұрын
@sylverista3505 I am sorry that this has happened to you. These things have happened to me during my marriage and before getting married.
@diannwhitaker63 ай бұрын
I just called off dating this guy last week. We were dating for a month and he "loves me" and wanted me to be his wife. This was after i told him that i don't want to get married. He would call me everyday and always ask where i was. If i said i was home, we would continue having regular conversation. If i said i was out somewhere, he always wanted to come where i am. I told him that i didn't want to date him and he immediately talked about what "I" was doing to him is wrong. What I was doing to him????? I blocked him and then 2 different people told me that he was married.
@peacendukwe3 ай бұрын
😮 wowwwww
@---nj7hlАй бұрын
Narcissistic as his Finest. Don't do onto me But I can do onto you. They are crazy!!!!
@KassieP-sf6nzАй бұрын
That happened to me 7 years ago. I want them to play with me now am I a whole different person now.
@tlbb81992 ай бұрын
When they only visit at night 😂😂 This did make me laugh but ur so right ❤
@joynurse95983 ай бұрын
I have never heard these things explained so simply in my life!
@youvegotmel28443 ай бұрын
10 Red Flags 🚩 1. Ready to sleep with you on the 1st date 2. Openly telling you he doesn’t want to commit 3. One that doesn’t give you a break 4. Brings up love & marriage on the 1st date 5. Ask you out & convo about who’s going to pay 6. Quick to talk bad about his ex 7. Tells you he doesn’t trust women easily 8. Ask you to be his peace 9. Who is always busy 10. Disappears
@zimbinigijana-gz4xu3 ай бұрын
A man who talks about having kids with you on the first date, run ladies
@Erica-cf1xb2 ай бұрын
Great advice. He is into raw semen sex early. That's a BIG issue with the matrix. Nobody cares who gets what. Boys and girls can get it. Wild outside.
@user-re4hv7ns4g3 ай бұрын
GREETINGS FROM ARKANSAS SOME OF THIS IS VERY TRUE AND A MAN WHO TALKS BAD AND TREATS HIS FAMILY PARENTS WHO IS STINGY AND TALKS BADLY ABOUT THE POOR THE WEAK AND THE HOMELESS OR THINKS CERTAIN WOMEN ARE UNATTRACTIVE AND MEN WHO DO NOT TRULY LIVE FOR GOD....A BAD TEMPER AND ANY TYPE OF DRUG USE MJ AND OTHER DRUGS CUSSING IS ALSO A BAD SIGN
@sparkle19493 ай бұрын
also the one who won’t talk about the ex at all when you ask what happened. My narc ex pulled this until I investigated and found out what he did to her ( eventually did the same to me ). Scary how he’s the perpetual “ Mr nice guy” soft spoken in public and you’d never guess he has a over face in doors
@kysharooks52193 ай бұрын
A Covert Nar- I married one- left after 7 months
@Leahmoonbeamflower3 ай бұрын
Yeah most ‘ nice’ guys are secretly evil. Kind guys are different.
@YuhhFeelMe3 ай бұрын
Why do uu care abt his personal business.
@ahamed67023 ай бұрын
Yes, the one who pays the bill at restaurants with friends, but struggling to pay his bills. The one who thinks he’s a comedian every where he goes, but sarcastic with his family. Screaming at his kids but in public goes out of his way for strangers. Watch out!
@Virgolove3 ай бұрын
Or they always blame everyone but themselves as being the bad party....always the victim...no accountability
@user-sn6yr9kh6e3 ай бұрын
This definitely is very important in Dating today and one more thing when you see a narcissist run
@KM-oy5yh3 ай бұрын
AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER 🎉
@kysharooks52193 ай бұрын
You got that right! The love bombing, compulsive liar/cheater, toxic, trauma
@user-eb3ty9dp8n3 ай бұрын
Yes 💯💯💯
@user-fy5kl3nw5r2 ай бұрын
My brother,you're real. God bless you
@angiepurpleyoda3 ай бұрын
When you connect with your true self it all makes sense. If you are true to yourself and what you want emotionally, you’ll be in a desperate situation…and you can save yourself if you lean into truth. Discernment is very very important. People tell on themselves in the first meeting but you’re not vigilant enough to see because you’re stuck in desperation mode evaluating the situation for yourself emotionally instead of logically. Train yourself to not respond emotionally first and you’ll see a lot.
@samanthalake50113 ай бұрын
Just leave men alone period. 😅
@Tend2Rose3 ай бұрын
😂😂
@mommynti3stewart3913 ай бұрын
I’m telling you. This shit shouldn’t be so complicated.
@AsheBee1233 ай бұрын
I agree!
@YuhhFeelMe3 ай бұрын
I agree, men will still win without yall.
@The_torero3 ай бұрын
@@YuhhFeelMe..Dude, you've answered several women on this video. You're definitely afraid of being alone/single and you're deflecting.
@cassandramitchell8023 ай бұрын
These are PURE FACTS!!! I APPROVE THIS MESSAGE 😊
@ZaraUchiha133 ай бұрын
he gave 5 out of 10 red flags. no commitment, disappeared for days, was there for the benefits only))) and yeah tried to sleep with me on the first date, pushing several times and backing up after i firmly said no the 3rd time i left him and the trauma bond, feeling better a month later... trust me, it works. if u'r going thru sth similar, please be strong, it does get better, there's a better u at the end of the journey :)
@lesegomatlhale62823 ай бұрын
I just left a guy who has all 10...
@carlamitchell4663 ай бұрын
You're correct my husband did this to me and I lost all my friends bc they Said I don't like him he's controlling
@Tend2Rose3 ай бұрын
My ex took me to measure my finger, he was always the one to mention the 💍 not me!…I waited to see if it would ever manifest. 6 years later…🧐 He was all talk and no action and he wanted to be the MAN and LEAD? How he expected me to let him lead, when I could never trust his word. Talk is so bloody cheap and will cost u years of wasted time
@aracelismith65073 ай бұрын
Wow. I'm going through the same 😢.
@joeroot91423 ай бұрын
but you stayed 6y smh.
@kmydesire123 ай бұрын
Right💯they already trying to lead us into a ditch, and run off with the person when stuff hits the fan
@joyricherson45703 ай бұрын
Curious why did you wait 6 years
@Frugal6373 ай бұрын
They will waste your time until your biological clock ticks and thank toks. Don’t allow them to waste your time.
@rialee97893 ай бұрын
I agree! Listen to what people say and believe it!
@indiagragg273 ай бұрын
This video of all the videos is by far the most detailed and straight to the point. This guy is literally being purely honest with no chaser.😮
@jacquelinefarquharson58483 ай бұрын
Discerning Spirit.... Have to have that ❤. Real facts bro 💯
@debede82962 ай бұрын
I saw your other video about men who pick women to prey on. It was just timely in my life. Met a guy who was my sister's friend. Said he liked me. I never knew what it was about him, but my guts didnt trust him. Turns out he was also professing love to my sister. I feel so validated for not trusting him and giving him a chance. What a loser. Ladies trust your guts amd don't break principles. This man was already naming "our" kids.😂 It was so fake and senseless. I hadn't agreed to date him. He said if I didn't agree, he'd die or become depressed. What a narcissist. I'm so mad at my sister for introducing us.😢 God bless you for being so wise and keeping it real with us ladies.
@chrishanswann4333 ай бұрын
❤🎉😂I LOVE THIS😂 Sir I Am 45 & Been Through These Things, You ARE ON Point Once Again. I Pray All Your Female Listeners Take Your Sage Advice❤🎉
@KM-oy5yh3 ай бұрын
AMEN AMEN AMEN, SISTER, ME 2, I just turned #52🎉
@rachaelrobinson21853 ай бұрын
Just realized I've been doing the 4B movement without even knowing it for years!😅
@user-dr6vj8ez9q3 ай бұрын
Appreciate your knowledge & tips! Trust your intuition! When in doubt.....
@konsciousKirk3 ай бұрын
🙏🏾🙏🏾❤️ thank you
@kmydesire123 ай бұрын
My ex had all of these traits. He was rude to waiters just to not foot the bill at restaurants, he would never have money but all see something he like at the mall. To make it worse this guy I recently mentioned marriage after having 2 conversations I told him right of the bat, I don’t think I’m the one for him to try and date he’s already talking marriage in the talking stage. And other little nuisances in his way that he watches me and notices every , little, detail about me. It’s giving major turn off vibes, Deleting and blocking
@aandreahodge2 ай бұрын
This was a red flag for me I just met a man within two months he stood me up twice first time he said he was sick after I call and asked was he still coming. Next time he stood me up he didn’t call me like the first time. When I asked he why he didn’t call to let me know he wasn’t coming, he said I didn’t have anything thing else to do. I was furious . I said to my self he didn’t value my time. So he doesn’t value me. I hung up the phone. He kept calling and calling me leaving voicemails, so I blocked him. Just to let you know I never slept with him.
@---nj7hlАй бұрын
I would have Bailed the First time he stood me up on the alleged date.
@SharleyPaul3 ай бұрын
“If you connect with the truth within yourself, you will know everything.” 💯 God = Truth
@MissOne3 ай бұрын
If I can heal my trauma, maybe I will no longer attract these types of men. And if i do, i wont suffer them for very long.
@Virgolove3 ай бұрын
It's exactly how it works:).you heal....and after that hard work, you will find yourself to be much more discerning, boundried up.....and won't take anything less than u really deserve. It's ok to be single. Many of us are now preferring it🎉❤
@wongiwesamana34823 ай бұрын
No7 😢 i was there....i broke up with him 4 days ago, we've been fighting and forgive each other but it never stops. So i decided to leave him. Thank you Kirk 🙏💞
@Virgolove3 ай бұрын
Don't go back. God, universe ..is trying to save you. Good relationships have fwd movement, and last. Bad ones are chaos and heartache..❤
@portiamagaqa15362 ай бұрын
They never ever leave until you leave
@crystalgeter.62943 ай бұрын
One More The Man or Woman who says I Just Want to be Friends With Benefits Great Message❤
@MissOne3 ай бұрын
At least they were honest. I respect that.😂
@shahneezyswayyy86893 ай бұрын
Yeah they're honest, but then starts acting like we are together, giving mixed signals. Never again will i entertain that notion. Broke my own heart with the back & forth. He wanted me to be with him & only him, while he did him and of course lied. Smh
@MissOne3 ай бұрын
@shahneezyswayyy8689 EXACTLY 💯 when you know you know.
@user-cb4oq8sd8p3 ай бұрын
Thank you. EVERYTHING YOU SAY IS SO TRUE.I AM IN THIS SITUATIONSHIP.
@bernetajohnson32962 ай бұрын
Excellent video. You kept it 💯! Every woman in America should take heed.
@nyneegardner6235Ай бұрын
They should listen to rhos Worldwide! The dust is global!!
@Katrica6703 ай бұрын
@7:54 this male did that with me about his ex, and I said stop that ain't cool, funny, or flattering! I ain't that chick!
@tlbb81992 ай бұрын
Time after time I always get the BEST advice here ! 💯
@802lioness2 ай бұрын
When someone moves funny (🚩), lies a lot and/or cheats (🚩)...of course you're gonna have trust issues. At this point, it's time to move on.
@lijonpichon7123 ай бұрын
I wish so much as women, that we could make better dating decisions when choosing men. We are hurting ourselves and our future family units.
@iamtaliba.divine.love1322Күн бұрын
Every time I hear you speak, it saddens me because it seems like the state of Men these days is almost hopeless. 😢❤️🩹🙏🏽 Thank You for the enlightening though. 💝🙏🏽🤴🏾
@MAGAMomma273 ай бұрын
You have great energy. Your nature is refreshingly straightforward and full of common sense. Thank you & God Bless. 🙏🏻
@marvetteaiken45343 ай бұрын
Thank you for that!! I needed to hear this.
@shahneezyswayyy86893 ай бұрын
Needed to hear this. Thank you.
@gingermark23213 ай бұрын
Thank you Kirk - valuable information
@sharonwilliams44613 ай бұрын
You’re so right !
@spice1743 ай бұрын
Oh I am paying attention 💯thank you for the 10 red flags❤️
@LetsTalkAboutItWithTALEYA2 ай бұрын
Thank you for these confirmations…it’s very necessary, as it truly does take a King to heal a Queen!
@marissahumblytherealistone89503 ай бұрын
Wise Man 🦉❤ Thank you!! God bless you Abundantly 🙏
@user-xi2hq1re4y3 ай бұрын
Thanks! This is so good. Where were you 20 years ago, when I really needed to hear this. Thank you for it now.
@konsciousKirk2 ай бұрын
Thank you so much🥰🥰
@IAmTheQueen873 ай бұрын
Great list
@MelitaLabort3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much coach 🥰 Very clear advice, I hear you. I already feel so much safer learning from you. Love and blessings 🙏🏽💖
@StandupGirl-ym3ey3 ай бұрын
You are absolutely correct!!!!
@candyyelton72863 ай бұрын
So true. I love your wisdom!
@tendaiMufandaedza-ku4gr3 ай бұрын
Thank you so much
@angelamhlongo17492 ай бұрын
Thank you 🙌🏽 💯👌🏽
@joannpotts8193 ай бұрын
Peace and love my Brother thank you
@NB-xt7tj3 ай бұрын
Real talks 👏👏👏 your so right, thanks for sharing
@rosalind76783 ай бұрын
Teach!💯👍🏾💪🏾🖤👑 Everything That You Stated Is All Truth‼️
@mrchrischrischrischr3 ай бұрын
This I think is speaking from experiences. He sure knows his sh**t.
@cherylphillips51593 ай бұрын
Excellent!! Ty
@empathicmisslady3 ай бұрын
Very Authentic you are. You get straight to the point. Thanks
@gladyscole50623 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing
@hannahkhannahk92892 ай бұрын
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
@moja1053 ай бұрын
Thanks for this ❤
@KefiraSanders3 ай бұрын
Thank you🕊
@mariacrombag62833 ай бұрын
Thank you
@s.l.copeland15493 ай бұрын
this is good! Thank You so much! 💯 appreciate your realness!
@sharonwilliams44613 ай бұрын
Very Knowledgeable!!!
@sylverista35053 ай бұрын
So valuable!!! Thanks 🙏 ❤
@tay4682 ай бұрын
Thank you for your advice
@haimanotlemma72473 ай бұрын
Thank you brother
@edilchristian30343 ай бұрын
Thank you.
@jacquecook99043 ай бұрын
Thanks for the confirmations!
@carolejackson516Ай бұрын
Thank you 😊
@breadiva72053 ай бұрын
Thank you for this information 🙌🏾
@vfree45792 ай бұрын
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