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@MiMi-rc1bv4 жыл бұрын
If he doesn’t value you, forget him and move on. He is not worth it.
@srishtishaifali87604 жыл бұрын
The more we crave the more we lower our value..💯 correct
@margaretdelacruz48364 жыл бұрын
agree
@aiszagsvsg2 жыл бұрын
@@margaretdelacruz4836 It works! My boyfriend started to talking almost only about himself, taking me for granted, not listining to my feelings and thoughts, helping his ,,female friends'' while ignoring me. Firstly I have been feeling sad, undervalued and unworthy but next step was to ignore him, don't check his social media and just move on to my life. After a couple of days, he started to wonder what's with me become more polite and soft. It maked me feel well but not excited and ready to put him on a pedestal - I know what I should do to maintain the state of chase.
@rjrj85152 жыл бұрын
So true...feed your craving with self loving activities...live with purpose....not only to please one person to have their love....REMEMBER...you are LOVE👸🏻💖
@Thenoobestgirl3 жыл бұрын
This is a very important lesson that I've learned this weekend thanks to your videos. I really needed to hear that. I am done chasing my love interests. I am a fucking catch, I'm the fucking prize, the gold at the end of the rainbow and I deserve to be treated as such! Update: met my new boyfriend 2 days after and we've been together nearly 3 months now :)
@princessharrison30382 жыл бұрын
Love this for you. Goodluck❤
@ericad8412 Жыл бұрын
Aye that's what's up
@lycheeprincess520311 ай бұрын
Update? Anything you’ve learned from it.
@cicicorleo2 ай бұрын
Sucker 😂😂😂
@paolaguerrero87593 жыл бұрын
"we teach people what they can get away with through our actions."
@reginayfavors2 жыл бұрын
This is why we need to stop rewarding their bad behaviors with our time, support, finances, body, etc.
@MoonFoxASMR4 жыл бұрын
Plants ARE more trustworthy than men 🤣
@TijaunaK4 жыл бұрын
Truth
@Patricia-uz2xx4 жыл бұрын
You can also take care of many and they will make you sooo happy ;)
@MayMay-sk1iw4 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@collectiveconsciousness.4 жыл бұрын
YES
@lemostjoyousrenegade3 жыл бұрын
And they don’t refuse to grow. 🌳
@santiagoscho4 жыл бұрын
don't look for love when you feel lonely, super dangerous!
@FreeHeartDance4 жыл бұрын
“Plants usually don’t refuse to grow”... 😄😄😂
@carolynliddiard84124 жыл бұрын
Mine do!🤣
@immaaprettygurl19434 жыл бұрын
😆😆
@neverdidIeverchangethis4 жыл бұрын
Good one!
@milaquna4 жыл бұрын
🤣
@WHEREYHERE4 жыл бұрын
😂
@rpd42782 жыл бұрын
Recently stopped the "doormatitis"; so glad I did! Your description of the woman having not had a relationship for years perfectly described me. I had high standards & was not finding a man that met them. After 5-6 years with no relationship, I let my guard down & became the doormat. After 8 months, I put a stop to it. I know my worth & said enough was enough. A month later, he's back & we've communicated what went wrong. The "doormatitis" is gone & he knows it. So we'll see what happens. 🙂
@carolswingewood13273 жыл бұрын
Been single 6 years , learnt my lesson abt giving giving not receiving the same back, stepped back ,and now I see the signs of ego and control from manipulation, so I now know my worth and I love myself to much to be in that situation ,thank you 💜
@lindamolyneux35362 жыл бұрын
Can so relate! Such a great comment, thank you. " )
@mariamwrites534 жыл бұрын
"I am into plants because they are more trust worthy than men and definitely don't refuse to grow" 🤣😂🤣 I don't believe this but this cracked me up!
@Derlet304 жыл бұрын
😂
@shengsheng14313 жыл бұрын
🤦♀️🤣
@FreeHeartDance4 жыл бұрын
I value myself... I’ve been single for 12 years now! I’m only 37 and an attractive woman.
@faeriefirejb4 жыл бұрын
I know a great guy who is struggling with finding a wonderful woman. He's in Montana.
@FreeHeartDance4 жыл бұрын
faeriefirejb Haha.. That’s a bit far! 😄
@FreeHeartDance4 жыл бұрын
LBC Ulrica I feel you and I can totally relate..
@tobinskaya004 жыл бұрын
I’m 44 been single 12 years
@leesteal44584 жыл бұрын
I did the same thing. The long time away from a relationship will impact you when you get older. Date.
@SNUG007014 жыл бұрын
The best thing about your tutorials is you focus on empowering women which is the need of the hour !
@jessicam7252 жыл бұрын
This describes my most recent relationship to a T. I didn't date for years ,I was focused on being a mom. I met a guy who treated me well, but was hyper critical of me. I tried to please him, and totally started not acting like myself. Eventually, he said he "needed a break from seeing me." I used that opportunity to lock the metaphorical door on him, and I feel much stronger and better about myself without him.
@raffifurni4 жыл бұрын
Been trying to prove my worth to others for many years, now finally at a point of asking "Why don't I value myself?" Thanks for your insightful and empathetic video, Geert!
@Chimalmita13 жыл бұрын
This is where online dating may be really useful. Even if you don't want a relationship at the moment, when you keep your profile up, you can see that there is abundance of men wanting your attention. Most people have a closed group of friends so when there are 1-3 single men in your group of friends, it's easy to start thinking "oh no, there are only 3 single men left, I need to hurry!". Online dating will remind you that there are more single men available than you may think, so it may help you adopt the abundance minset.
@melc83884 жыл бұрын
I started being like that by cooking and posting pics of myself so he could notice me...trying to make him see my value. This video makes so much sense. Thank you
@dellyvlogs12844 жыл бұрын
Oh wow this is a great idea. Thank you for the tips. Have a nice day Melony.
@yolandawalton7494 жыл бұрын
I'm married and my husband doesn't value me so I left him ,don't have time for i know my value
@lainebustero-solidad894 жыл бұрын
I hope I can do the same
@CarolineJoyAmico4 жыл бұрын
I hope I won’t have to.
@samragyidhital3 жыл бұрын
Brave woman
@yolandawalton7493 жыл бұрын
It's not easy when you're married it takes a lot of faith to leave, but if you want make things work you are have to do a lot of compromising in order to make the marriage work
@adelinedinda60844 жыл бұрын
I find that when i put the least effort into making the relationship official, keep my option open, but still interested to know more about the other person, the dude always chase me so hard and they even ask me to be their girlfriend in around 2 weeks from meeting each other the first time. Btw i'm not that good looking or have a very high status, but i'm quite friendly with people in general, i care about my surrounding, but still do what makes me happy and live my life the way i want.
@UmaJaiswalArtist3 жыл бұрын
Great 👏👍
@juliafisher58443 жыл бұрын
You are beautiful good you got it goin n girl!
@ClaudiaSanchezQuintero3 жыл бұрын
Yeah that happens to me and when it does, I see it as a sign of someone who is controlling and aggressive. Nobody should be telling me they love me or that they want to commit to me within weeks of meeting me. That is just pure infatuation and hormones making the man crazy. I love watching these videos! Brian is the best!
@ruthkkusha27323 жыл бұрын
Gal you are beautiful🔥🔥😍😍💞
@aimisakee8672 жыл бұрын
Whatcha talking about? You are beautiful!
@annies89944 жыл бұрын
This is how I proved my value. Early stage in the relationship we were at a local pub. We started to play pool, when a girl he met a few days back, walked in. Apparently he had told her next time I see you, I'll help you learn darts. Well no pun indeeded, but he literally darts right over to her and leaves me hanging by myself at the pool table. I just stood there in amazement, thinking, are you kidding. I made a statement about how rude and disrespectful he was. I said, now out loud to him, are you kidding? He made a few lame words. I interrupted him and said, with truth confidence, I know my worth. It was awesome 😊
@GinaKayLandis3 жыл бұрын
Did you leave?
@SamElle4 жыл бұрын
Yikes, you’re totally right. I’m totally focused on my career and education rather than my dating life. I doubt my own value
@Boom_Bianca4 жыл бұрын
Those dislikes are from manipulative men.
@Derlet304 жыл бұрын
😂
@elle123903 жыл бұрын
Lol
@emmaculateaokoochieng69113 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@LouisaWatt2 жыл бұрын
Correct! 😂
@cordeaniaknox41582 жыл бұрын
🤣
@danielavallejo73064 жыл бұрын
I really liked this video because it resonates with me. I was in a relationship for a little bit more than 2 years. Things started fine, but with time and distance, because we were in a LDR, he was not the same person I felt in love with, but, I was still blinded by love. At last part of our relationship, I was ready to give up everything for him, move to another country, start from the bottom, but, he clearly, was not in the same page. He blamed anxiety and stress to be rude with me, to belittle me, to critize my body, for speaking my language, and i was so heart broken. Finally, he ended things by text. Now I see, clearly how I lowered my value for someone that was not that great to begin with. Thanks for your advice
@junehanna42934 жыл бұрын
Daniela Vallejo I hope your doing better now
@MultiGats4 жыл бұрын
It takes a lot of strength to admit this. Tbh you're strong 😊
@danielavallejo73064 жыл бұрын
@@MultiGats thanks for your kind words 😘
@anaghakhot42454 жыл бұрын
Hey Brian, I was sitting quite on my bed almost brokedown after i got rejected by my crush several months ago..I needed to talk about it with someone,and dint know how should I take it and move forward. Emotions can be so strong and painful. But then, your video notification popped up and I should say it really helped me get a clear picture on how "self-value" is so important for ur well being. Thankyou so much.
@chikarae174 жыл бұрын
I got rejected last night. I cried my eyes out, in front of him. He said that it is impossible to have a relationship with me. He will never have feelings for me. I'm still hurting now. Trying to find myself back after investing too much and devaluing myself for months. Wish me speedy recovery 🙏🏻
@bettyssalmon71684 жыл бұрын
@@chikarae17 sorry you are so 70set. At least you know the truth instead of wasting years on this person. Take the time to grieve then recover and learn from this. You have value. You will rise stronger. He was not the one for you.
@CarolineJoyAmico4 жыл бұрын
I think our phones are spying on us. This just popped up after my husband treated me like he didn’t value me. By text.
@lexussykes3 жыл бұрын
He couldn't be perfect. He doesn't belong on a pedastal, clearly. You love yourself, you know that.
@AK-xj2di2 жыл бұрын
You will find someone better, just invest in your self 😎
@originalgoldengoddess2 жыл бұрын
Don't look for love... let love find you 🧡💙❤
@egyptiangoddess54403 жыл бұрын
Doormatitus 😂😂😂😂😂 I have it 🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️🤦🏼♀️ You’re hilarious, Brian!
@jddouet51924 жыл бұрын
Omg i just went thru this..kinda felt good for someone to be attracted to me. I devalued myself and almost..almost became a door mat! Luckily after a month i said no you're blocked!
@rangogh4 жыл бұрын
Such a valuable video! We teach people what they can get away with through our actions
@mariellche31444 жыл бұрын
Doormatitis GREAT
@SamElle4 жыл бұрын
I suffer from this Haha
@andreamagyar77764 жыл бұрын
That's a good one. Hahaha. First time I heard it.
@ebstudio95254 жыл бұрын
Honestly, this guy is a genius. :)
@vanessal24624 жыл бұрын
I'm a crazy plant lady.. and they are indeed more trustworthy than men
@Aeorith4 жыл бұрын
"Ignore the butterflies and ask 'What is the intelligent thing to do here' ", I really needed to hear this! Thank you Brian :)
@onceuponatime89003 жыл бұрын
Thank you Brian for these videos. I married a guy who broke up with me four times. Six months after being married he asked for a divorce. I knew the problem is me... diagnosis = Doormatitus.. you are raising me up..god bless
@sherriecrevoisier10544 жыл бұрын
Time to get some plants.
@TheNendja4 жыл бұрын
It makes sense, but That doesnt guarentee That Person will fall in love you.Just That you doesnt regret it later for being doormat.
@andreamagyar77764 жыл бұрын
Isn't that enough?
@dlwsport2504 жыл бұрын
Your wise and helpful content is delivered generously and with insightful understandable humour. Thank you.
@Paula-ig8xx4 жыл бұрын
Your videos are so valuable, for anyone at any age of circumstance in life. Such a simple concept, but so profound for all humans, "how to value yourself" Thank you Brian, you're very valuable! I am reading your "valuable" books too!
@bernesemuir80224 жыл бұрын
I really enjoyed this, the quick jokes and funny but the plant thing the whole story ringing true to me :)
@jeanetteh.92404 жыл бұрын
I did not ask for what I wanted because I was afraid of losing them (happened over and over again). I lost them anyway. Listen up, sisters!
@cindytran62264 жыл бұрын
Your videos always put a smile on my face. Wise words and great anecdotes.
@RenopunkJo4 жыл бұрын
Not the video I wanted, but the video I NEEDED... Thank you Brian for helping me realize my own value!!
@beccadecker20184 жыл бұрын
I laughed out loud several times, but there is a lot of truth in what you say.
@WZech-ly8dm4 ай бұрын
This video just changed my LIFE! Geert, you are pure gold and I LOVE LOVE LOVE your wacky sense of humor!!!😂😂😂
@jennipreuss69784 жыл бұрын
You are amazing to listen to, I love your down-to-earth image and your incredible insights and wisdom. Thank you for the great advice, Brian. I love your videos!
@comodemiel4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for teaching us to value and love ourselves first Brian 💖💖
@cathrinekatsigianni88234 жыл бұрын
So true!! One of your best videos! Usually we tend to project our perceived rejection on the behaviour of others but actually it is us who provoke it!
@marzac95084 жыл бұрын
I've been following you for quite sometime now but never commented on your videos... They're really profound and you go right to the core of the problem. I find your advice very valuable and it helps me a lot. So true that self value is an "inside job". Still I find it hard sometimes to say no when I really like the guy but I understand completely what you're saying about our feelings blinding us. This is the case for sure! Thank you very much!
@Dragonfly_magictarot4 жыл бұрын
His humor 😂 Thank you for sharing your life experiences 🙏🏻
@mundoomundoo13713 жыл бұрын
And believe me they test this first : self confidence and value urself
@sabrina84364 жыл бұрын
Very very very good video. Might even be your best. The Storytelling really hit home
@chippychick62615 ай бұрын
Best sense of humor in conveying serious and humiliating topics. Bravo Geert. 🏆
@ladybug9561 Жыл бұрын
All your videos are really good - but this one is my story to a 'T'. Been alone for 8 years. Went to a music festival by myself and met a guy. I'm even a certified Master Gardener currently tending a large flower garden.... Had the reaction you described and laughed out loud when you said about her bedroom looking like a jungle. If only I could post a picture here. I'm in my 60's and I've literally been blown away by this. And then two days went by with no communication and there was my old thinking giving me a rough time. Your suggestion of asking myself what would I do if I valued myself, is one I can't quite answer yet because I realized I don't value myself as a potential lover - YET. It's so helpful when you have an idea of exactly how to apply effort in order to feel better. Thanks for the really good information.
@elharrop2 жыл бұрын
This single piece of advice could solve SO many problems, I've done this so many times without realising. Thank you 🙏
@robinjayne95564 жыл бұрын
This was the best thing I have heard in a long time. Thanks!
@VioletttMusic4 жыл бұрын
I really love your videos. Please post more.
@jaszi334 жыл бұрын
Great & timely message Brian - thank you 💕 #doormatitis 😃
@namitadewan12864 жыл бұрын
He deserves more subscribers!
@anaghav104 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your experiences to enlighten others.
@amberd39854 жыл бұрын
Watched this on the most important time of my life.. Thanks Brian.. it's an eye opener which I find difficult to follow..
@khadijahnyabinghi3 жыл бұрын
Thankyou for your great advice. I cringe when I think of the many instances I have had doormat - itis. My goodness I am so very ashamed.
@luizabattistetti27334 жыл бұрын
Brian, I love your videos! Could you pleeeeeeeease talk about love bombing and how Narcissists use it undeliberately? I believe all women should be aware of it!! ♡♡♡
@mariam.66944 жыл бұрын
Narcissist use it deliberately!!!! There are way too many videos out there about narcisissts.. I personally have been involved with one.. and when you re hurt you search online and you find massive information. He talks about normal people, I prefer his style.
@riquipoo55782 жыл бұрын
Umm no,...I have been single for 15 years and never been lonely. The loneliest I ever felt was when I was married.
@ufuomat3295 Жыл бұрын
Me too ✋️ my loneliest times were during my nine years marriage
@almiramichelle91303 жыл бұрын
Brian, you are helping me alot to get easily recovered from this idiot!
@caliv06082 жыл бұрын
This legit feels like he was watching my last several months and shaking his head in disappointment, lol. It made me feel like I was losing my mind as to why I suddenly felt SO bad about myself when I had just done so much work that I could be proud of. The mind is a weird thing sometimes.
@karolinah12 Жыл бұрын
Self appreciation ❤ no one can give you as much love as you must give yourself first
@Elizabeth-uj8vn4 жыл бұрын
I value you Brian Nox - Thank you!🙃
@ClissaT3 жыл бұрын
Yes, I can see now that I have slipped into doormatitis. Thank you Brian, for bringing it to my attention. Running after 'the catch of my life' sure has become harder, the harder I tried(you made me aware of that in the previous video I just watched). No matter how much it hurts, I must remember to hold back. oh, that's gunna hurt! But when his work takes him away out of contact for weeks on end, how do I decide when enough is enough and open the door again?
@kf46702 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much! I was a little sick with Doormatitus but now I'm taking my power back!!
@BrendaBaBoom4 жыл бұрын
Can we say devalue? WITHOUT A DOUBT people know when you’re trying (or not) to impress them. After they reel you in, your VALUE will go ignored intentionally, thus a trauma bond has been installed. Now you’re stuck with some LAZY, boring and flatlined individual who brings nothing to the table. Move on.
@juliafisher58443 жыл бұрын
You always have a choice ie not stuck! But I agree some people become v lazy and take for granted.. when I feel that happening time to make more plans with friends and take focus on my own life .. men are so if it's ok then it's ok and we look for some romance etc treat yourself and he soon notices!!
@dianemary3 жыл бұрын
Speak for yourself I don’t stay stuck to people who don’t make the effort.
@BrendaBaBoom3 жыл бұрын
@@dianemary I did an edit and speak to the fact ... move on.😎
@clairexxx04054 жыл бұрын
I think I’ve suffered from Dormatitis for many years 😳 Thank you Brian, you always help me see things clearer than I have, I guess when we feel low value we accept attention even unhealthy attention we shouldn’t accept, in all aspects of life. 🤗 x
@suzewuk4 жыл бұрын
Me too. Doormatitis kills self esteem as well as our own value. Totally relate to your comment & thank you for sharing 💗
@sumairaaslam44054 жыл бұрын
Very helpful as usual.i can relate myself to this☺️but now you change my perspective & make me realize that i should question my emotions first.Indeed self- value is an inside thing & one should take care of it.thanx again🌹
@roelewis76834 жыл бұрын
Been there. Did it for 2 years. I keep my distance now.
@teripersson13083 жыл бұрын
Exactly the same for me. Had the chance to speak to my Ex the other day, but chose to walk on. No contact for 4 months now.
@wildwoman49114 жыл бұрын
Thanks Brian, I did the waking up thing with an intoxicating/toxic man after being celibate for 18 years. It is a dangerous time!
@jddouet51924 жыл бұрын
I did this too smh.
@teresarodgers1764 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so candid about this matter..It open my eyes
@LightElnaz3 жыл бұрын
I love your accent and they way you talk is very soothing! 💕
@donnameyerssister2018 Жыл бұрын
I am learning, thanks to your videos, to not be a blind mole no matter how strong my feelings are for him. My dignity must come first.
@h.a.nicola-heather-anne14264 жыл бұрын
Cannot relate personally, I’m living that single life and if anything my value is sky high. A little attention doesn’t sway me. I guess I’m more exceptional than I thought ☺️😏
@analir70754 жыл бұрын
Very wise lesson! Thank you. I’m glad I watched this video.
@kristinpetersen57094 жыл бұрын
LOVE your advice!💗💕 Always such amazing insight and explained SO well! Thank you please post more often!!
@iammarilyn13404 жыл бұрын
I love this video, great message.
@user-tw6bj4xx1l3 жыл бұрын
After 8 years I flat out told my man that I deserve the commitment and if you wasn't sure about a life with me at this point then I need to go... he told me he doesn't know about season life nobody knows what's going to happen in their future I flat-out said wrong answer. Peace... I now have 42 plants
@SF-pm1ov4 жыл бұрын
Thanks! Much needed reminder!
@margueritedejonge45573 жыл бұрын
I like how you bring in simple terms the message that you share. Just found you on line today, and have listened to quite a few of your videos back to back while cleaning windows!! Made mundane work enjoyable!!
@natnat08154 жыл бұрын
thank you so much! this is what i need right now, a kind reminder to always keep my value high.
@angelinasamson6996 Жыл бұрын
Yes you are spot on , I did this then I actually devalued myself by sending provocative pics 😬 that was so needy of me to do
@Infrared1967 Жыл бұрын
The more I listen, the more I believe in myself.
@sophieacapella11 ай бұрын
"Dormatitis" 😂 Excellent video, Geert ! 👌 Thank you so much ! 😊
@rjrj85152 жыл бұрын
I love all his videos...the way he delivers a message is emotionally touching.
@rjrj85152 жыл бұрын
And i love being that plant Lady!!!!🌲🌿🌱🌴👩🏻🌾🏡🌲🌿🌱💖🪴
@mrajclnlvmrgl32204 жыл бұрын
I learned a lot from you! Thankyou, Brian Nox! 😊
@natiagogichaishvili35564 жыл бұрын
This couldn't come up at a better time. Thanks, Brian :)
@renamaze2 жыл бұрын
Hi ladies & guys if anyone is reading this:) so when I was in my teens & 20s, even though I didn’t really like the guy I was going out w/, I sought my value through what they thought of me, always trying to raise my value in his eyes. And when they rejected me, I felt so down, almost went into a deep depression. But now in my 30s & after a few years of accepting Christ in my heart and working on being a Godly woman, I’m learning to not feel the need to raise my value in a man’s eyes. Just today I went on a date & I was absolutely myself. When I felt he crossed the boundary, I told him I felt uncomfortable. I wish I knew this in my teens & 20s. Although these videos I find very helpful, I find that by simply having Christ in my heart, God holds my heart and I don’t need to seek validation from anyone else. And this actually truly raises my value, without trying to please anyone because I know and speak up about my boundaries.
@rosemaryflynn5289Күн бұрын
This really hit home with me .
@egyptiangoddess54403 жыл бұрын
NO TIME = LOW INTEREST LEVEL 😭😭😭 What would it take for us to hammer it into our heads? 😂😂😂 Your CRYPTIC humor examples are sticky, Brian! Freaking awesome!
@suhayothman2554 жыл бұрын
Very good advice. You are absolutely right. Thank you for opening my eyes to see my worth one more time ;) Very inspirational ...
@kellyburkin5004 жыл бұрын
Thanks Brian, good advice
@peaceandserenity224 жыл бұрын
The Story of the plant-invested lady is similar to my recent situation & man I have been single for a looong time . That’s so helpful Brain 😊
@nicolelagamo112 жыл бұрын
So good! Thanks Brian!! ☺
@jJust_NO_3 жыл бұрын
these days as a woman i tend to express what i want. im genuine in my dealings and i dont play the game of being hard to get or play calculated moves. imagine the entanglement and energy i need to consume inorder to extrapolate other people, romantically that is. its a trap for the mind to make others fall in love with you. the amount of time you consume in doing so inevitably makes you fall inlove with that person you entagled yourself with trying to manipulate. but i have standards and are already set for potential partners. unless i see those within them, i dont settle because im not afraid being alone.
@amalft_3 жыл бұрын
I can't stop watching your videos and they truely are very helpful and convincing.
@ItsSoarTime8 ай бұрын
EXCELLENT. AS USUAL. ENOUGH SAID (or written)!!!!!!
@missaysa4 жыл бұрын
What an awesome video! Everything is SO true ! Thank you so much! xoxo from France 💜