If he doesn’t value you, forget him and move on. He is not worth it.

The more we crave the more we lower our value..💯 correct

This is a very important lesson that I've learned this weekend thanks to your videos. I really needed to hear that. I am done chasing my love interests. I am a fucking catch, I'm the fucking prize, the gold at the end of the rainbow and I deserve to be treated as such! Update: met my new boyfriend 2 days after and we've been together nearly 3 months now :)

"we teach people what they can get away with through our actions."

Plants ARE more trustworthy than men 🤣

don't look for love when you feel lonely, super dangerous!

“Plants usually don’t refuse to grow”... 😄😄😂

Recently stopped the "doormatitis"; so glad I did! Your description of the woman having not had a relationship for years perfectly described me. I had high standards & was not finding a man that met them. After 5-6 years with no relationship, I let my guard down & became the doormat. After 8 months, I put a stop to it. I know my worth & said enough was enough. A month later, he's back & we've communicated what went wrong. The "doormatitis" is gone & he knows it. So we'll see what happens. 🙂

Been single 6 years , learnt my lesson abt giving giving not receiving the same back, stepped back ,and now I see the signs of ego and control from manipulation, so I now know my worth and I love myself to much to be in that situation ,thank you 💜

"I am into plants because they are more trust worthy than men and definitely don't refuse to grow" 🤣😂🤣 I don't believe this but this cracked me up!

I value myself... I’ve been single for 12 years now! I’m only 37 and an attractive woman.

The best thing about your tutorials is you focus on empowering women which is the need of the hour !

This describes my most recent relationship to a T. I didn't date for years ,I was focused on being a mom. I met a guy who treated me well, but was hyper critical of me. I tried to please him, and totally started not acting like myself. Eventually, he said he "needed a break from seeing me." I used that opportunity to lock the metaphorical door on him, and I feel much stronger and better about myself without him.

Been trying to prove my worth to others for many years, now finally at a point of asking "Why don't I value myself?" Thanks for your insightful and empathetic video, Geert!

This is where online dating may be really useful. Even if you don't want a relationship at the moment, when you keep your profile up, you can see that there is abundance of men wanting your attention. Most people have a closed group of friends so when there are 1-3 single men in your group of friends, it's easy to start thinking "oh no, there are only 3 single men left, I need to hurry!". Online dating will remind you that there are more single men available than you may think, so it may help you adopt the abundance minset.

I started being like that by cooking and posting pics of myself so he could notice me...trying to make him see my value. This video makes so much sense. Thank you

I'm married and my husband doesn't value me so I left him ,don't have time for i know my value

I find that when i put the least effort into making the relationship official, keep my option open, but still interested to know more about the other person, the dude always chase me so hard and they even ask me to be their girlfriend in around 2 weeks from meeting each other the first time. Btw i'm not that good looking or have a very high status, but i'm quite friendly with people in general, i care about my surrounding, but still do what makes me happy and live my life the way i want.

This is how I proved my value. Early stage in the relationship we were at a local pub. We started to play pool, when a girl he met a few days back, walked in. Apparently he had told her next time I see you, I'll help you learn darts. Well no pun indeeded, but he literally darts right over to her and leaves me hanging by myself at the pool table. I just stood there in amazement, thinking, are you kidding. I made a statement about how rude and disrespectful he was. I said, now out loud to him, are you kidding? He made a few lame words. I interrupted him and said, with truth confidence, I know my worth. It was awesome 😊

Yikes, you’re totally right. I’m totally focused on my career and education rather than my dating life. I doubt my own value

Those dislikes are from manipulative men.

I really liked this video because it resonates with me. I was in a relationship for a little bit more than 2 years. Things started fine, but with time and distance, because we were in a LDR, he was not the same person I felt in love with, but, I was still blinded by love. At last part of our relationship, I was ready to give up everything for him, move to another country, start from the bottom, but, he clearly, was not in the same page. He blamed anxiety and stress to be rude with me, to belittle me, to critize my body, for speaking my language, and i was so heart broken. Finally, he ended things by text. Now I see, clearly how I lowered my value for someone that was not that great to begin with. Thanks for your advice

Hey Brian, I was sitting quite on my bed almost brokedown after i got rejected by my crush several months ago..I needed to talk about it with someone,and dint know how should I take it and move forward. Emotions can be so strong and painful. But then, your video notification popped up and I should say it really helped me get a clear picture on how "self-value" is so important for ur well being. Thankyou so much.

Don't look for love... let love find you 🧡💙❤

Doormatitus 😂😂😂😂😂 I have it 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ You’re hilarious, Brian!

Omg i just went thru this..kinda felt good for someone to be attracted to me. I devalued myself and almost..almost became a door mat! Luckily after a month i said no you're blocked!

Such a valuable video! We teach people what they can get away with through our actions

Doormatitis GREAT

Honestly, this guy is a genius. :)

I'm a crazy plant lady.. and they are indeed more trustworthy than men

"Ignore the butterflies and ask 'What is the intelligent thing to do here' ", I really needed to hear this! Thank you Brian :)

Thank you Brian for these videos. I married a guy who broke up with me four times. Six months after being married he asked for a divorce. I knew the problem is me... diagnosis = Doormatitus.. you are raising me up..god bless

Time to get some plants.

It makes sense, but That doesnt guarentee That Person will fall in love you.Just That you doesnt regret it later for being doormat.

Your wise and helpful content is delivered generously and with insightful understandable humour. Thank you.

Your videos are so valuable, for anyone at any age of circumstance in life. Such a simple concept, but so profound for all humans, "how to value yourself" Thank you Brian, you're very valuable! I am reading your "valuable" books too!

I really enjoyed this, the quick jokes and funny but the plant thing the whole story ringing true to me :)

I did not ask for what I wanted because I was afraid of losing them (happened over and over again). I lost them anyway. Listen up, sisters!

Your videos always put a smile on my face. Wise words and great anecdotes.

Not the video I wanted, but the video I NEEDED... Thank you Brian for helping me realize my own value!!

I laughed out loud several times, but there is a lot of truth in what you say.

This video just changed my LIFE! Geert, you are pure gold and I LOVE LOVE LOVE your wacky sense of humor!!!😂😂😂

You are amazing to listen to, I love your down-to-earth image and your incredible insights and wisdom. Thank you for the great advice, Brian. I love your videos!

Thank you for teaching us to value and love ourselves first Brian 💖💖

So true!! One of your best videos! Usually we tend to project our perceived rejection on the behaviour of others but actually it is us who provoke it!

I've been following you for quite sometime now but never commented on your videos... They're really profound and you go right to the core of the problem. I find your advice very valuable and it helps me a lot. So true that self value is an "inside job". Still I find it hard sometimes to say no when I really like the guy but I understand completely what you're saying about our feelings blinding us. This is the case for sure! Thank you very much!

His humor 😂 Thank you for sharing your life experiences 🙏🏻

And believe me they test this first : self confidence and value urself

Very very very good video. Might even be your best. The Storytelling really hit home

Best sense of humor in conveying serious and humiliating topics. Bravo Geert. 🏆

All your videos are really good - but this one is my story to a 'T'. Been alone for 8 years. Went to a music festival by myself and met a guy. I'm even a certified Master Gardener currently tending a large flower garden.... Had the reaction you described and laughed out loud when you said about her bedroom looking like a jungle. If only I could post a picture here. I'm in my 60's and I've literally been blown away by this. And then two days went by with no communication and there was my old thinking giving me a rough time. Your suggestion of asking myself what would I do if I valued myself, is one I can't quite answer yet because I realized I don't value myself as a potential lover - YET. It's so helpful when you have an idea of exactly how to apply effort in order to feel better. Thanks for the really good information.

This single piece of advice could solve SO many problems, I've done this so many times without realising. Thank you 🙏

This was the best thing I have heard in a long time. Thanks!

I really love your videos. Please post more.

Great & timely message Brian - thank you 💕 #doormatitis 😃

He deserves more subscribers!

Thank you for sharing your experiences to enlighten others.

Watched this on the most important time of my life.. Thanks Brian.. it's an eye opener which I find difficult to follow..

Thankyou for your great advice. I cringe when I think of the many instances I have had doormat - itis. My goodness I am so very ashamed.

Brian, I love your videos! Could you pleeeeeeeease talk about love bombing and how Narcissists use it undeliberately? I believe all women should be aware of it!! ♡♡♡

Umm no,...I have been single for 15 years and never been lonely. The loneliest I ever felt was when I was married.

Brian, you are helping me alot to get easily recovered from this idiot!

This legit feels like he was watching my last several months and shaking his head in disappointment, lol. It made me feel like I was losing my mind as to why I suddenly felt SO bad about myself when I had just done so much work that I could be proud of. The mind is a weird thing sometimes.

Self appreciation ❤ no one can give you as much love as you must give yourself first

I value you Brian Nox - Thank you!🙃

Yes, I can see now that I have slipped into doormatitis. Thank you Brian, for bringing it to my attention. Running after 'the catch of my life' sure has become harder, the harder I tried(you made me aware of that in the previous video I just watched). No matter how much it hurts, I must remember to hold back. oh, that's gunna hurt! But when his work takes him away out of contact for weeks on end, how do I decide when enough is enough and open the door again?

Thank you so much! I was a little sick with Doormatitus but now I'm taking my power back!!

Can we say devalue? WITHOUT A DOUBT people know when you’re trying (or not) to impress them. After they reel you in, your VALUE will go ignored intentionally, thus a trauma bond has been installed. Now you’re stuck with some LAZY, boring and flatlined individual who brings nothing to the table. Move on.

I think I’ve suffered from Dormatitis for many years 😳 Thank you Brian, you always help me see things clearer than I have, I guess when we feel low value we accept attention even unhealthy attention we shouldn’t accept, in all aspects of life. 🤗 x

Very helpful as usual.i can relate myself to this☺️but now you change my perspective & make me realize that i should question my emotions first.Indeed self- value is an inside thing & one should take care of it.thanx again🌹

Been there. Did it for 2 years. I keep my distance now.

Thanks Brian, I did the waking up thing with an intoxicating/toxic man after being celibate for 18 years. It is a dangerous time!

Thank you for being so candid about this matter..It open my eyes

I love your accent and they way you talk is very soothing! 💕

I am learning, thanks to your videos, to not be a blind mole no matter how strong my feelings are for him. My dignity must come first.

Cannot relate personally, I’m living that single life and if anything my value is sky high. A little attention doesn’t sway me. I guess I’m more exceptional than I thought ☺️😏

Very wise lesson! Thank you. I’m glad I watched this video.

LOVE your advice!💗💕 Always such amazing insight and explained SO well! Thank you please post more often!!

I love this video, great message.

After 8 years I flat out told my man that I deserve the commitment and if you wasn't sure about a life with me at this point then I need to go... he told me he doesn't know about season life nobody knows what's going to happen in their future I flat-out said wrong answer. Peace... I now have 42 plants

Thanks! Much needed reminder!

I like how you bring in simple terms the message that you share. Just found you on line today, and have listened to quite a few of your videos back to back while cleaning windows!! Made mundane work enjoyable!!

thank you so much! this is what i need right now, a kind reminder to always keep my value high.

Yes you are spot on , I did this then I actually devalued myself by sending provocative pics 😬 that was so needy of me to do

The more I listen, the more I believe in myself.

"Dormatitis" 😂 Excellent video, Geert ! 👌 Thank you so much ! 😊

I love all his videos...the way he delivers a message is emotionally touching.

I learned a lot from you! Thankyou, Brian Nox! 😊

This couldn't come up at a better time. Thanks, Brian :)

Hi ladies & guys if anyone is reading this:) so when I was in my teens & 20s, even though I didn’t really like the guy I was going out w/, I sought my value through what they thought of me, always trying to raise my value in his eyes. And when they rejected me, I felt so down, almost went into a deep depression. But now in my 30s & after a few years of accepting Christ in my heart and working on being a Godly woman, I’m learning to not feel the need to raise my value in a man’s eyes. Just today I went on a date & I was absolutely myself. When I felt he crossed the boundary, I told him I felt uncomfortable. I wish I knew this in my teens & 20s. Although these videos I find very helpful, I find that by simply having Christ in my heart, God holds my heart and I don’t need to seek validation from anyone else. And this actually truly raises my value, without trying to please anyone because I know and speak up about my boundaries.

This really hit home with me .

NO TIME = LOW INTEREST LEVEL 😭😭😭 What would it take for us to hammer it into our heads? 😂😂😂 Your CRYPTIC humor examples are sticky, Brian! Freaking awesome!

Very good advice. You are absolutely right. Thank you for opening my eyes to see my worth one more time ;) Very inspirational ...

Thanks Brian, good advice

The Story of the plant-invested lady is similar to my recent situation & man I have been single for a looong time . That’s so helpful Brain 😊

So good! Thanks Brian!! ☺

these days as a woman i tend to express what i want. im genuine in my dealings and i dont play the game of being hard to get or play calculated moves. imagine the entanglement and energy i need to consume inorder to extrapolate other people, romantically that is. its a trap for the mind to make others fall in love with you. the amount of time you consume in doing so inevitably makes you fall inlove with that person you entagled yourself with trying to manipulate. but i have standards and are already set for potential partners. unless i see those within them, i dont settle because im not afraid being alone.

I can't stop watching your videos and they truely are very helpful and convincing.

EXCELLENT. AS USUAL. ENOUGH SAID (or written)!!!!!!

What an awesome video! Everything is SO true ! Thank you so much! xoxo from France 💜