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My little one is 20 mos and is just starting the “no” phase, so I’m not an expert by any means, but I find it really helpful to do three things. 1. Giving her the plan. I will say “Okay, let’s build one more tower to knock down, then we will put our shoes on and then we will get in the car.” Then “okay, time to put our shoes on then get in the car.” Idk, she does really well when I remember to do that. 2. Don’t ask when I should be telling. Kindly saying “We are going to leave now.” Instead of “Do you want to go to leave now?” And 3. Giving her two choices that I would be okay with either. “Would you like to play with blocks or baby dolls?” Usually she answers with one of the choices. Anyway, no expert here but I hope this maybe helps. You’re an awesome mom! Thanks for inspiring me along this journey!

Hi, another unsolicited tip: When we take something from our 19mo old daughter, we say “I’m going to take ___ in 3, 2, 1” and then take it, so we don’t rip it away from her as we wouldn’t like that ourselves! If it is something that is dangerous, we’ll grab it immediately. But other than that, we count down. She usually gives it up before 1 and without a big feeling! You’re good a fantastic job Brittany, thanks for sharing ✨☀️🧡🔆

Giving her choices between 2 things will minimize the “ no” and make her feel empowered 😊

My son (two next month) was the same with words. He wouldn’t say them unless he was confident he could do it right. I caught him one night on his monitor practicing his words to himself 🥹 We went from 20ish words to over 50 in a couple weeks.

I worked in childcare and my specialty was toddlers. When I was working with toddlers and in situations where we could give them choices I would word it in a way where I would give the child a choice by two options rather then giving them a yes or no questions. I would say either “would you like me to put on your shoes, or would you like to put on your shoes?” Or “are you gonna put on the left shoe first or the right shoe first?” It would just reroute their mind to the activity they are doing rather then going straight to saying “no.” But they are also toddlers and they are learning to make their own choices and they will bound to challenge your patience. You are amazing, I love the mindset you have with parenting and I love your videos. Thanks for being you

Ahh thank you! You’ve been my go to for tips since the beginning of my journey I’m a few months behind you. Can’t wait for your speech tips!

Thanks for the update. You & Arrow are amazing!

Loved this video, especially since my daughter is only a few months behind Arrow. Our “big girl bed” transition went like this for our older daughter though…our crib was able to become a full size bed frame, but we started with the full mattress on the floor for a few months to see how she slept on it. This way it’s still not that far from the floor just in case ☺️ and now she should be set through high school. Potty training is tough and I would invest in a good mattress cover or be comfortable with doing pull-ups at night only. We did pull-ups at night for 6ish months with my first and there is no shame in it. Love y’all and have a good week!! 💖

My son will be 1 next month and I can't believe it. I'm so proud and sad at the same time lol. It's going by so fast. I am so present and involved but I feel it flying by. Let's all give our little ones a big squeeze today and soak in every moment. Love to all you amazing mama's out there reading this. 🥰

Hello Brittany ! I started watching your channel because we were pregnant with our daughters at the same time. My daughter is about 3 weeks younger than Arrow. We just got my daughter a floor house bed in full size and we love it ! I hung little twinkle lights from the middle And tulle around the frame. We kept our bed time routine exactly the same and the transition went good.

I love watching your journey with Arrow. My son is just a two months younger and girl… I get you. The no’s never end. I tend to respond to him with yes with the same fervor but that sometimes upsets him more. I do gentle parenting but when his safety is concerned… “like grabbing a knife,” I tend to say NO with more authority and urgency so he knows I mean business. Then I will explain to him why he cannot have the knife. Then I will comfort him for being sad and offer two other things he can do instead. But toddlerhood is a challenge. Big feelings… are challenging but also so amazing as well. They are really growing up. It’s so great to see.

i'm such a fan of your! my son is almost 1 year old and I have been struggling with sleep/sleep training. Up to this day he wouldn't sleep more than 2 hours straight and this was draining me. Feeding is also not easy all the time, sometimes he would refuse eating or he wouldn't want to sit on his high chair. I have never thought motherhood can be this hard. We always wanted to have two kids but having this one child we clearly see that parenting is just not for us, it doesn't fit us we don't fit iy. I can't imagine how single moms are managing it. It's great to hear about big feelings and your approach to it. Thank you.

Arrow’s eyes are so pretty, she is getting so big! It’s been so fun being able to go on this journey with you, thank you for sharing! You go girl! 💝💝

I can’t wait for my boys to really start speaking as well…I remember when you posted about her being in speech therapy and I felt less alone! My boys are 18 months..we’re getting there. So proud of Arrow! 💓

Floor bed all the way!! I got it from Cocovillage at 15 months (she is currently 21 months) and she loves it. The transition was smooth and she can get in and out by herself and walk on the bed safely, I did got her a “bumper” to put on the side because she moves a lot and one time she rolled out of bed and got scared obviously!

I have been following you since you were pregnant with Arrow and I just want to say thank you for your amazing content! My son is 4 months behind your sweet girl and you have helped me with our journey! I have a 9 month old daughter too and I use so much of your advice etc! Keep doing you girl, soooo inspiring!

You have no idea how much i love watching you vlogs Brittany..wish you all the best

Your videos help me so much in my motherhood journey. I have one baby, Liam, who is turning 1 yr old next weekend. When I watched Arrow's 2 year birthday, I choked up when you all sang her happy birthday! That'll be my son one day. Anyway, thanks for sharing your experiences, including the difficult parts, of motherhood!

Just wanted to let you know I love your vlogs and you’re an amazing mama! ❤️

2-3 was my absolute favorite age I have to Say. Aquariums are so great for kids!!! At least mine..the water and the fish are so calming, and fascinating.

I have 2 kids in Waldorf school one in kindergarten and one in class 2 it absolutely amazing and my son in class 2 is still learning to read write maths all the school things they just learn in a much more natural way and is thriving I highly recommend kindergarten is amazing they cook clean plant walk play learn it's a magical time 💕

I enjoy following along with your videos. My daughter turns two this week and I think because they are close in age, your videos have helped me along the way! I don't think I have ever commented on a KZfaq video but thought I would provide what I've learned to help answer your question (hope this helps). With toddlers and young children, asking lots of questions can often overwhelm them. These days when we're getting ready for a transition in our day, I try to tell her the plan and make statements about what is coming next rather than ask her (example: "it's time to put our shoes on to go out for a walk. First shoes, then walk" instead of "Do you want to go for a walk? Can you put on your shoes? ). These statements are definitely not the typical way we would talk to our partners or friends so I found it really unnatural at first, but now I'm noticing it helps move things along with fewer big feeling eruptions (they still happen) and I think it puts her at ease to know the plan and that I've got it sorted. I've noticed at some of our toddler classes that this is the way the teachers speak to the young kids as well, it's effective. I have read in a childhood development book that toddlers and young children need their parents to take the lead because their little brains have so much learning to do that it actually calms them when an adult takes the lead and provides gentle guidance. I would compare it to how we would feel if we were in an emergency and had a firefighter come up and start asking us questions instead of providing us clear directions on how to escape. Although it seems nice to investigate and ask them lots of questions about what they want instead (like in your soother gentle parenting example in this video - totally been there and done the same thing) I think it can be overwhelming for a little person to hear so many asks. And at two years old, the answer is almost always ....."NO!!!!!" (even if it's something you know they would probably enjoy once you started doing it). Anyway, each day comes with new challenges over here too, you're not alone in that. Hope this helps a little! It's a fun but exhausting stage of parenthood!

You can get side rails that hook onto the side of your bedframe as long as the frame is accessible (some beds with drawers or wood accent pieces aren't compatible). Great video as always! My little guy is turning two next week 😢 it goes so fast.

I love these! My son just turned 1 so it’s nice that Arrow is a year ahead so I can learn from you.

I’ve been watching you for like a decade now and even though I’m still not a mommy I appreciate the work and effort you put into your KZfaq. YOUR THUMBNAILS ARE SO BEAUTIFULLY EDITTED AND THE COLOR SCHEMES MY GOSH! 😍

Love your videos! So informative (as I have an 11 month old baby) 💜 And I adore your style to!

I have been watching u guys since I was pregnant. My baby boy is now 1. I can’t believe arrow is 2 now. Thank u for all ur great advice. Lots of love from the uk xxx

Really great video my toddler will be 2 soon and this was helpful as I related so much to the imagination playing that’s how my toddler has been lately. And the potty training talk is good as may start soon.

Hi Brittany. Thanks for the great video. I have a 15 month old and really struggling with establishing a sleep routine. I don’t know if you have a video on this already, but can you give tips on how to sleep train and establish a routine? Thanks 💕

I love that I found your channel right before my daughter was born. I love watching and it definitely gives me pointers to keep in mind. My daughter is going to be 2 in December and our new addition will be here in November a week before her 2nd birthday. It's scary and overwhelming when I think about how I'm going to take care of 2 munchkins, mostly on my own. Their father and I currently don't live together temporarily. Our daughter goes over to him and his parents house on Saturdays and her being picked up breaks my heart evertime. Though I know she's well loved over there but still. I love hearing what you have to say about self care and mother hood 💚 You are doing great 👍🏻!

this is a great video to put out there, i wish i would have watched videos like this before becoming a mother. this was the hardest thing i’ve ever experienced and people need to be more honest about this

I’m actually loving the toddler stage. We’re finding choices work really well (time for a nappy change, do you want to walk up or be carried? etc). We also use distraction which really minimises full on tantrums (you can’t climb the TV stand as it’s dangerous, let’s get your climbing frame out instead) 💖

I went to Waldorf from preschool to 8th grade! Loved it.

Needed this today!❤️ thank you so much

I LOVE your sweater!

Arrow is perfectly 6 months older than my daughter, and your videos are just such a big help and inspiration for me!

Love these milestone videos

I have a 21 month old and up until recently every fruit was called “mimis” he recently just started naming each one and my favourite is “banas” 😂 as long as they can communicate to you and you understand I don’t think at this age it matters too much. Signing has also been great for us, he speaks very well for his age but still signs a lot of words as he’s saying them. Hopefully he continues and can possibly help children at nursery who maybe can’t communicate verbally. Keep going mama 🖤

I need all the tips too. My 2 year old says no to bath time now… 🤯😵‍💫 And the speech thing is so relatable. She suddenly starts saying words we haven’t been practicing for months! She definitely remembers from before.

Brittany you can use pool noodles under the bed sheets if you want to get rid of the railing for the twin/full bed I use pool noodles right now for his toddler bed. He has only one rail but the pool noodle seems to keep him in too. He fell out one night when we were first transitioning and ever since we did the pool noodle under the sheet he hasn't fallen out. (My son just turned 2 as well July 8th)

The mindset you have with “big feelings” is huge especially at the age your daughter is at. Children are just learning feelings and they also do not understand why they feel that way. They are just as confused as you are about why they are feeling that way. As long as you aren’t giving into those “big feelings” (example, by giving Arrow the pacifier) you are not enabling that behaviour you are just supporting your daughter. Ugh you are such an amazing influence!!! You make me so excited to be a mom

Explanining what will happen before it happens, then asking her what choices she has that way she feels she has control of choosing what she what’s to do. Always always explain to your child what will happen next, that makes them feel ready and comfortable to what will happen. It always makes my little girl feel comfortable and not scared. Offering a hug when they have uncontrollable Tantrum calms them down at that age. At the end they are kids and they don’t know how to control there emotions. As adults we sometimes don’t know how to control our emotions either lol. When a mom tries to do there best for their children and gives them love!I think that is makes us great mothers even though we feel like we aren’t 💗

Our daughter had very fast speech developement (in a weird way tho, She kept focusing on one Word at the time for a long time) but her social and emotional developement is definitely way slower than her peers!! They're all so different..

My step son (now 6) didn’t start speaking at all until he was 3-4 (not even basic words like no) and he’s currently in speech therapy when he’s in school. My daughter (turning two in just a couple weeks) has a wide range of vocabulary and every child is different and processes life differently. I would not worry too much about her speech yet. With day care/preschool, it’s a fantastic tool for helping develop language and vocabulary because she’s hearing all the other kids talk and she wants to communicate with them too. We didn’t do preschool until 3.5 almost 4 years old with my step son and he’s still doing great in school now. It is fascinating how 2 toddler girls (only about a month and a half apart) are so different with their play time. My daughter loves stacking toys/building things and chores around the house. She loves to help vacuum and mop (think swiffer wet mop pads). She loves to help with dishes and cleaning up the house. Any kind of toy or game that requires thinking, she loves it. She also will get books and ask to read books multiple times a day as part of her play time. I could never use reading as a bed time routine even when she was little because she wouldn’t get drowsy. She always got excited when I would read. Keep going one day at a time, Momma. You’re doing great and she is obviously well adjusted and handling her “big feelings” really well. You’re doing amazing and the coparenting you’ve got is obviously working and going well. So happy for you and your family. Hugs and love (and a whole lot of appreciation) from the Midwest. ♥️

OMG! I can relate so much to the paci part. My son is 22 months now and I also give paci only for bed time. Sometimes when I take it away from him not knowing, then he searches for it just like Arrow. It was very cute to watch her ;-)

we bought a full mattress and got a little “house” frame bed on the floor. no railings but so close to the ground, no problem if she rolled off. she sleeps well there! it’s also just such a cute little house bed frame. i think she can use it until she finishes elementary at least

I love the ikea big kid options and you can just add a bed rail until the are ready to take it off

I always love hearing how Arrow is doing. On the note of bed size, my policy has always been to get the bigger size. My daughter goes through stages where she needs/wants cuddles (when she had Covid and croup I slept in her bed for 9 nights), and I'm always grateful that we put her on a Queen. Our potty training approach with a nice bed that we hope lasts is just double-making the bed. Layer 1, waterproof sheet, fitted sheet; layer 2, waterproof sheet, fitted sheet. If she has an accident, we pull a layer, change her clothes, and get her back to sleep as seamlessly as possible. Her mattress is on a bunkie board on the floor until I'm comfortable raising it higher, and you can always add foam bumpers if you find that Arrow needs railings.

Your such a great mum! So patient, caring and beautiful :) Thanks it motivates me to be better... sometimes when my toddler has tantrum after tantrum I can yell and then feel bad about myself:(

There are some wonderful speech therapists on KZfaq that make videos geared towards toddlers. My nieces turn 2 this month, they love watching the videos.

I didn't speak until I was 4 or something - although I was a horrid brat. Speech therapist confirmed this too lmao. My child who is about to turn two is the total opposite. She's speaking in full sentences NONSTOP and words I didn't even know she knew. Totally from her father! It will all come in time. Toddlers know a lot more than they let on. I also didn't potty train until I was 3 or 4 and my child is already doing it and almost fully trained. Wild tbh how different from me she is in terms of development.

the way you handled your daughters tantrum was masterful. she's lucky to be raised by such an empathic and compassionate mother!

Awe! Love this! I have an almost 2 yr old girl and a 5 mo old boy, love the little reminders and tips from other mommas who GET IT! Who’ve BEEN there! 😅 Bless you girl! You and Arrow are wonderful humans! 💘🤘

My son recently just started talking and he is 2.5😅 I wanted to put him in speech therapy but one day he got mad and started mocking everything I would say😂 so I knew he could talk he just preferred not to just like me lol

I have an 18 month old and I’m 6 months pregnant with his baby brother, so yea I’m deep in the middle and need something to relate to 😂😂😂❤️❤️ thank you!! I love all your videos 😍

Definitley get a double/full. It will come in useful if she needs you in the middle of the night (things tend to go up and down with young kids at night). Very easy to snuggle them back to sleep in a larger bed. We did a double mattress directly on the floor with a low profile bed that basically wraps around the mattress and has book shelves as the headboard and along the side. Helping kids learn to talk - we found asking open ended questions and allowing all the time our little one needed to respond helped a lot - sometimes that means biting our tongue and not saying anything for what feels like an eternity while she collects her thoughts and puts together a sentence. We also talk to our LO using the same words and language as we would an adult (minus swearing) instead of using “baby talk” or only simple words or made up words. We also refrain from using stacked questions (asking multiple questions in a row at a time).

I had no idea they could start pre-school so early either🙌🏼 And go Arrow! She’s doing so great❤️😊

So excited to watch this later when my 18 month old baby naps! i love your videos brittany thank you!💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏

I've noticed with my little girl that I've said no more than yes and it shows. What I've done to remedy her emphasis on no is to really put emphasis on yes. When it is something good that she likes and you ask her if she's hungry (at her normal mealtime) really nod your head and say YYEEESS a few times. This is just what I've done and it is just one example. See if it helps you :)

My 23 month old says all of the same words!! Too cute

My four year old has a twin bed from IKEA. We put some lights around the headboard to jazz it up. I feel like twin leaves room for a desk, dresser, and some of her American Girl stuff is sorta big. She has a play room but the smaller bed allows for toys in her bedroom too.

As far as the bed, if she rolls a lot I suggest the Full with a guard rail to be safe. My 20 month old son rolls all over and is still cosleeping in our King size bed. He has still found a way to fall once. Thankfully it’s a platform bed so it’s not high up, he just got a shock in the middle of the night.

I have some advice about the “no” and tantrums about taking an object away! ♥️♥️♥️ For the no, try offering her a choice between 2 things/activities instead of asking her a yes or no question. And the tantrums from taking an object away will last shorter if you immediately divert her attention to something else and start talking about the new thing in detail. Ex: “we can’t play with the knife because it’s dangerous, but here I have 2 spoons we CAN play with! This one is orange and this one is purple! Which one is your favourite?” Lol 😆♥️

Where is your necklace from? I LOVE it!!!!

Target has the attachable railing you can add to any bed for $20 and you could save and get a normal sized bed. Also they have platform beds that aren’t too high off floor but after sometime with a no spring or risers can be converted to a normal bed

My thought is even if my daughter won’t remember all the activities we choose to do, like The Worlds Largest Bounce House is one, we’ll remember it as parents & how happy they were & there’s always pics & stories for our kiddos to be told!

Hi! Where does your daughter sleep when she is traveling like at your mom’s house? Does she have her own room? Does she sleep in a pack and play or floor mattress? Blackout curtains or tent? My daughter is 19 months and out growing the pack and play and trying to figure out the next step when we are traveling. Thanks!

Came back to this video again as my son will be two in March and we’re experiencing the same big feelings around his pacifier 😬 Do you have any tips or a video on how and when you transitioned away from it? Thank you and love your content - you’re doing such an amazing job! 🤍

So glad you touched on speech therapy! My daughter is 19 months and I’m trying to get her an appointment. I have a lot of guilt over feeling like I did something wrong and that’s why she’s not speaking, but I’m trying to remind myself that that’s not necessarily the case 😅💕

Floor bed!!! Use a twin or full mattress just on the floor, so if they fall it’s like a foot so no injuries, but then you can obviously use the mattress on a bed frame once they’re a bit bigger(:

A lot of daycares offer a learning curriculum for as early as one year. Many daycares offer a hybrid learning program (which I think is more realistic than strictly Montessori or Waldorff).

Awwwwwwq...mine will turn 2 Sept. 26th!!!! I'm so happy for you 2!!!! Your surviving and thriving and im here to watch you succeed:)😚

My baby is 1y5months and we transitioned recently to the kura ikea bed, we just put the mattress directly on the floor so she has a small railing, not to fall out while sleeping, but she can step out of the bed awake, and she loves it. We also like it that we won't need to change it anytime soon, since it's a full size :) it's also reversible in case she will want to change it up someday in the distant future.

Hey babes I haven’t looked through the comments yet but with the no thing my son has been doing this a lot to but I try to give more options for them to choose from so there can’t be a no and it’s worked so well. Hope this helps I think this video is such a great idea because I’ve needed more toddler how tos and what to expect than I did as a newborn 😂

Transitioning my son to his big boy bed was actually very easy and there wasn't much fuss or tantrums (we did this at 20 mths). I did prep him for the big change, by telling him that he was getting a big boy bed and to say bye bye to the crib (crib went to his baby brother). I didn't involve him in the purchase of the bed, but you could do that with Arrow. Also you can buy bed rails to attach to the bed, so you can remove it later).

If you like the Montessori style a floor bed is always an option.

What about the Montessori floor beds? They have rails with a small opening and you can get them in any size mattress

Ms.Rachel has helped my 20 month old with talking and learning. She currently learning her letters & it’s going really well. I would recommend watching Ms.Rachel. Could help Arrow 💞

My son is 18 mo and he sleeps in a full size bed. He’s also almost 3ft tall and the would wake up too often in his toddler bed . Like he didn’t have enough space lol but he’s doing great in a full size bed so I’m happy we got lucky with that.

I would go with a full size with waterproof mattress cover. I have a six year old who is much taller than most kids his age so it just made the most sense when going from crib to the big boy bed.

Waldorf school is the absolute best!! I was in Waldorf from kindergarden to 8th grade and my mom is a Waldorf teacher. It was an absolutely amazing experience, I loved school and my class became my second family 🥹 20/10 recommended

Brittany what lip colour are you wearing ? So pretty!

Honestly I wish my baby and I can meet you guys love your videos 🥹🙂

Your doctor may be talking about your state early intervention services. Early intervention services are free nationwide for 0-3 year olds if they qualify (if they have enough of a delay). This is for OT, PT, and speech. Any parent with concerns about their child’s development can self refer to be evaluated (although this doesn’t mean a child will definitely qualify). I hope everything works out!

I’ve potty trained 3 babes as a nanny. Dont rush it. It’s not worth it lol I have been putting a potty out and just letting my son familiarize himself with it. He the same age as arrow. He watches us go and lately he’s been so interested in going before a bath. So we put him on and today and he finally went! I pushed it as a Nanny with the 3 day method and it was just a lot. Also you can look into Reggio Emilia it’s similar to Montessori and Waldorf. And I also gentle parent check out RIE approach and “no bad kids” book so good!

My daughter is a few days older than Arrow and we do Guidepost Montessori (they have them in a lot of places). It’s age 18 months-36months for toddlers and then 3-6 for their childrens house. They got to make their own jam from scratch and after their month on ocean life they got to touch a real octopus (it was dead). My daughters speech improved 100% after starting school and being around other kids. I would definitely recommend it, and we do a half day so she gets to eat lunch there and then come home for her nap. But the waitlist is horrendous like you said.

I think with mobility and words daycare helps because kids copy other kids, my daughter started walking independently 10 months and now she just turned 2 few days ago talking non stop very clearly she would tell stories and sing long songs count till 20 .. etc but I do think daycare plays a big role in that I’m not gonna lie! Also my husband and I try our best to talk with her all the time but we never ever pressure her with anything Every kid is on their own pace !

How do i set my daughter on a schedule any tips? Also how do i get her to sleep In her crib?

We did a twin bed at 19 months. The ikea kura bed and left the mattress on the floor so she’s still somewhat enclosed. It has worked out fabulously and she stays in bed for her 11-12 hour sleep window even if she wakes at night.

Hi Brittany! I was wondering when are you planning to stop the pacifier? My first one had a paci since he was born he only had 1 and we lost it target when he was 15 months old as we tried other paci he didnt like any of them so we didnt have a choice and just stopped giving it. My second one never liked a paci. I noticed for my first he talked more once he lost the paci. Also its common to be waitlisted in preschool. My first born was #42 when we were waitlisted but he was barely 2 when we enrolled him so by the time he was 3 (which was the planned year for him to go to preschool) he did attend that school esp after COVID happen

We didn't buy a transitioning bed, we got a bunk with floor bed (Ikea, later you can put the bed up and play under it), but we haven't transition from the crib because our daughter still wants to get out, doesn't like to go to sleep yet, you can adapt a protective barrier if you want to. Internet is full of house tree like bunks that can adapt from early stages to when the grow a little more ❤️🥰

Hey babe hope your well she is gorg xx

I really recommend you watch “montessori at home” with Ashley from the Hapa family! you’ll have pretty much all the answers you need! ☺️

The “no” phase is real for sure. What is helpful is to ask this or that questions when you can. But it is totally normal. You got this.

You are doing really much to help with speach. Keep talking talking talking...great video. About bed..potty training time is messy but if you will buy cool waterproof bedsheets no problem.Potty training is fastest without dipers. Every diper wether sleeping time or outside time slow down process. But honestly I dont know how this 3 day potty training works..im doing this atleast 1 month.

I cant wait four months and my baby is one omg how does the time go by so fast

It's so cute I have 6 month old and I am excited for 1year and 2year and many more

Off topic but what’s on your lips it’s such a cute color!!

Do a floor bed. Get it big enough that she can grow into it and put a mattress protector and you can make it super cute with railings or frame.