Timothy Gallemore I’m so sorry. I hope you can find peace soon. Just know your life is so much more than that one terrible incident.💜

I was assaulted the last year, and i'm struggling to keep my old lifestyle, i don't date men anymore, i just stopped having casual sex, cause the idea to be with another man makes me sick

Jesus Christ I’m so sorry for that

May Allah help u 😔

Thank you for sharing it’s always disappointing to see that no one cares about male rape victims I wish we got more respect

YAY I’m so glad he’s better! I hope he can find a partner and way better friends if he wants. He sounds so sweet and I bet he deserves the world.

Psalm 34:18 *"The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit."* Matthew 11:27 *"Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest."* John 6:37 Jesus says *"Everyone the Father gives Me will come to Me, and the one who comes to Me I will NEVER drive away."* 🌱🙏🏽🤍

@@rachelbrown3766 Where was Jesus when this nightmare happened?

Sorry for you! Glad you guys helped him.. Are u a blink by the way ( i saw ur profile )

@@rachelbrown3766 Yhea yhea, im also pretty sure the bible says somewhere that when you rape a virgin you "have ;)" to marry her. But of course you wouldn't mention that in your comment 😂

Why you are sorry for Andrew is stunning to me. Yes, every victim of sexual assault should be respected for what they have gone through. Willingly walking into a bathroom stall with another man to have sex, regretting it later, and making a claim of sexual assault is revolting behavior. Don't want to have sex, don't go into bathroom stalls and have sex of your own free will. Just say no and/or walk away.

If the other guy told Andrew to jump off a bridge would Andrew have jumped? What about the guy in the bathroom stall made Andrew go in with him? Could it be that he wanted sex so he went into one of the most profoundly private places known universally, where one defecates? Why is this not obvious. If anything, both young men should have been put on suspension for getting it on in a public place wherein Innocent students rightfully expect to be able to go to do their nonsexual bodily functions without having to deal with moans, groans, or whatever one does in private when engaging sex. Andrew, in my opinion, is no victim and did something indecent by calling this sexual assault.

@@Michael-te7fj Damn right!

@@mileshalpern9320 hey Michael so did you do this? Is that why your so upset and all over this page? You take this awfully personally....

@@austinballard6815 what are you talking about?

Dame I felt that on another level 😬

@@dakota.c.5397 Is that funny to you

@@darky1376 the person is obviously empathizing with them; take some slowed breaths

I’m sorry

Faith Kaisiepo ikr?! And women say they want equality…😒😔

Tina Baker When we blame GIRLS for what we wear we blame men for not being able to fight back.😤

@@sherryjackson8474 Don't people like you ever tire? Girls are not blamed for what they wear. Anyone that thinks raping a girl is dependent on what she was wearing is insane. Sane people don't think that way. So I say, stop throwing out nonsense.

Yes I searched up men s****l harrasment reports even men experience these stuff

Same bro happend to me when I was in kindergarten by a women teacher I feel sad and embarrassed

It’s toxic masculinity. Anyone can be assaulted. Toxic masculinity is why men are not likely to speak openly as adults that they were molested as children. It doesn’t matter they were little helpless kids. Toxic masculinity is still used to shame them. That shame is weaponized even more when assault happens to men as adults.

@@hindsightpov4218 Oh please, he had willing sex with a guy in a stall.

@@Michael-te7fj see there are you again what do you get out of this

Ppl tht says that. They apart of the problem and it piss me off when ppl say tht. I hate when ppl say tht it non sense and bs and sad

@@Michael-te7fj What about that says willing

Where are the négative comment you are pointed????

For God's sake, you were a child. Andrew was a college student that had consensual sex in a college-dorm bathroom stall and later had the guy he had sex with thrown out of the school because he claimed (somehow) that he was the victim even though it was he (Andrew) that followed the other guy into the bathroom stall. Stop confusing real victims which you were, with this creep Andrew. Andrew had bad sex, regretted it, and made a sexual assault claim. Listen to him in his own pathetic words.

Jamal, Andrew in his own words had sex in a bathroom stall with another dude. The dude motioned to him to come into the stall and he did. What in the hell are you sorry for him for. What happened to you was when you were a child. How can you insult yourself by making such a comparison??

bet he’s catholic

@@DSX1 -- Catholics generally refer to their pastors as "priests." And certainly not their "boss."

Its always the priests and pastors who sexually assaults kids, they are so sex deprived that they see young kids as a terget to satisfy their sexual urges, the very people who we should respect and who should protect us are also the ones who traumatize us with their obscene acts. There are tonnes of documentaries about pastors/priests who molested their younger companions in the ministry. They make the house of God a living hell which is very disgusting🤮🤮🤮

@@HumanSagaVault --- *"... the very people who we should respect"?* *"Anyone who can make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities." ---Voltaire, paraphrased*

Andrew is an adult. Not a kid. We don't allow children to have sex for a reason. We don't allow adults to have children for a reason. Andrew and the other students were adults living in the school dorms.

That’s terrible. I hope you know it’s not your fault, he is evil and will suffer. How are you?

Alex, did you follow another dude into a bathroom stall, because if you did, you should get help. If you were assaulted, you have my deepest sympathy, however, if you willingly had sex in toilet stall with another man, I say grow up and take responsibility for your actions. Andrew got off with another dude and he willingly followed him. The other guy was not a "big bro" to him. The other dude was a stranger that he followed and had "sex" with. That was the word Andrew used, sex. In my opinion, as an actual sexual assault survivor, you should join me and condemn Andrew for making a mockery of actual sexual assault.

@@user-cg1qq2er8x I thought I was the only one who noticed that statement he made. When he said the guy MOTIONED TO HIM to go to the middle stall further into the bathroom that meant he had time to RUN and he didn't. So know, this is not an assault story in the least. This is the beginning of a gay porn saga. NOT INTERESTED.

@@user-cg1qq2er8x When you uncover it the way you did the whole story becomes even more sickening. There are people who have LEGITIMATELY had the unfortunate experience of being raped and he is using the rape narrative to garner attention and undeserved sympathy. Glad you peeled the extra layer on this one. Never thought about the unfortunate fate of the other dude. SAD

William, for God's sake, you were a child. Andrew was an adult and he followed another dude into a toilet stall to get off. He could have said no, walked away, or whatever. Why are you identifying with this jerk?

Mark, respectfully, you are crazy. A guy who wanted sex came on to another dude and the guy said yes by not saying no. Not only that, he followed him into a bathroom stall. How about teaching men to act like men? We rightfully protect minors because they can't make informed decisions. We need to have men who are adults. What if there is a war and we need fighting men? Are you f--king kidding me?

@@tylerketchum3315 Tyler, grow up and stop being brainwashed. These were two homosexual men and their customs are different. Sadly, because of having to be secretive for many generations, things like having sex in bathrooms for some are still common. An act of agreeing to come into the stall is a nonverbal cue of saying yes. Then, further consent was given by not saying no. A young man who is not able to say no to an advance into a bathroom stall and then to boot, one that elects to stay there, is one who has the emotional maturity of a child and does not belong in an adult sleep-away environment such as a dorm. Everyone else need not act like a child to accommodate a "kid" who doesn't belong living an adult environment. We are dumbing down adulthood to infantilize. Again, what if God forbid there is a war and we need young men with the backbone to fight it? A young man who can't say no to an advance and in so doing actively participates is a disturbed individual. ...and when and if he grows up, he should seek to in whatever way possible to spend the rest of his life trying to make it up to the other boy who committed only the crime of being an "highly-sexed" young men propositioning another--he won't have been the first sex-driven young guy who somewhat aggressively seduced another person. This somewhat new rap panic is highly orchestrated by a criminal justice system somewhat at the mercy of a feminist dogma that is extreme. Some rape cases were not treated seriously years ago and this was wrong, very wrong, however, with that said, this nonsense is extremest and unethical and zealots like you ought to be ashamed of yourself for going along with it and creating abject hysteria in the process.

Michael Did you watch the video? Not only he SAID he was not interested, his account is exactly how panicked reactions follow: frozen by fear. Abscence of "no", thus, obviously doesn't mean consent. It takes a minimum of discernment to not continue touching a person who is clearly shocked and afraid. Plus, its a gross and fallacious observation you made on gay men. If two gay men walk into a bathroom, it does not follow necessarily that they will have sex, and we cannot blame sexual assault victims for simply exercising their right to freely move around without being constricted by these generalizations. And then you speak of backbone... yes, maybe if he said something or reacted in a firmer way, it wouldn't have happened. But we can't demand that - we need to demand people (mostly men, and I say this as one) to stop feeling entitled towards others' bodies. Blaming the victims lack of reaction is nonsensical when we should strive, first and foremost, for doing so with the agressor's reaction. This also says much, indirectly, about the absolute irrelevance of yours comments about war. I know this comment is 6 months old, but I cannot abide to stay in silence before it.

Michael, this sounds like this may have happened to you and this is your way of handling it. Do yourself a favor and get help.

You sound like a very angry man.

I am so sorry that happened. I wish you the best brother

Bloody sheets?? What happened to make blood come?! (If you don't mind asking..)

Hell is real, and he's going to find out. God saw it all.

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@@daniellelove9763 He was penetrated by an older larger boy.

Danhutson3460, I am a gay man growing up in a small rural area of 8,000 people. So, OMG been there right with you with the bullies. Bullies do this ignorant stuff when they feel threatened or afraid someone will recognize the attraction. Not always but a large percentage. It all changes once you get out of your hell. Find your chosen family, friends. Those bullies hit their peak in high school, where yours is coming & it will be huge.. if you need to talk I’m here Trace

Literally nothing happened to him.

OMG, can I give you advice that save my life? Talk about it to anyone, everyone. Keeping it all caged in you will literally kill you. Tell your story, post it here. I did & was shocked by all the concerns. Telling your story could help someone who might get catfished just like you but not make it out. Your story is powerful, it caught my attention out of hundreds I had gotten. I hope this helps If you ever need to talk or help or just to say hi Trace

You were a child when that truly illegal event happened to you. This man was fully grown and willingly went into a bathroom stall with another man.

M. McC hardly a "fully grown" man.

You were under nine. Andrew was an adult and walked into a bathroom stall. One can say you were a victim but no one in their right mind can say Andrew was a victim. He followed the other guy into the stall and had "sex." Yes, in Andrew's own words, he had sex in the bathroom. He is a hysterical pathetic man to have regret of his sex and blame the other dude.

Sounds like your mom was the problem

Pearse - Situations differ, in some cases there are 2 or more assailats while in other cases the men have been druged.

Meinard Ramirez you too have post hookup regret?

Why are you encouraging Andrew? Clearly this kid is so lost as he is not fit to protect himself in the most basic of ways. If someone motions to him to jump out the window, would he jump. If he gets toward the window and that person is lifting him up to throw him out the window will he freeze up and not say, no, or push back, or run or scream or whatever. It's a sickness that is happening at colleges and stop feeding it. Imagine if we had a war and we had to draft young men. Are you kidding me siding with this weakling of a grown man. We need to encourage him to be a man, not a boy, and have agency. It's his body and if he doesn't want to be touched, he has to do whatever necessary to make that clear. The other guy came onto him so big deal. I am straight and if a guy grabbed my crotch, I would just say, Not into that. I wouldn't have him expelled or prosecuted. Sorry, but it's not the same as if someone pinned me down and forced me. Get a grip Andrew defenders. As for concerning himself with masculinity, Andrew doesn't have to worry. A man can resist following another man into a stall.

@@Michael-te7fj loser! . He froze. Go educate yourself on reaction on abuse. Not everyone is oh so perfect as you I guess. Shameful.

@@Michael-te7fj he didn’t know how to react he was scared. He was touched very inappropriately and nobody cares what you would do he is a man being a little “weaker” doesn’t make him any less of a man he is still one. Your the real weakling because I bet if someone pushed you into a stall you’d freeze too

HE WAS COERCED. BUT IF A PERSON SAYS I AM NOT INTERESTED...GAME OVER!!! SEXUAL PREFERENCE IS IRRELEVANT...

I'm gay too. In our world, if you willingly go into a bathroom stall with another guy, it's on.

@@MandM-tb3lv it’s on like popcorn.

@@jahdagod5563how was he coerced? Please explain.

oh man das tut mir leid

Oh u r in india...?

@@ShinChan-cu8nsyea.

@@theindo-germanguy8817 oh.. Sad to hear something like this happened to u..! ☹️

Why are you sorry for this guy. He had sex and regretted it and then had the other guy expelled.

Why didn't you walk or run away when the child porn was being played. I wouldn't ever watch that crap and no one could make me unless I was tied up or held by gunpoint. Four days, I assume you got up to take a leak, why didn't you leave? Andrew walked into a toilet stall and no one forced him. Neither you nor he should be in adult situations if you cannot say no to illegal or immoral or uncomfortable behavior. You could have been prosecuted for watching that material with your boyfriend and perhaps you should have been because by not walking away your participated. If the two of you were on a hike and your boyfriend started up with a child, would you have stayed with him for four days and watched. Respectfully, I think you need professional help and your boyfriend needs it to and legal investigation as well. You say you exposed him, what about exposing your own culpability for watching that stuff. I find it grotesque that two grown men could watch that crap.

Powerful, this was pathetic, not powerful. Andrew has sex in a bathroom, has the other dude he had sex with expelled and you call this powerful. This is abject weakness. Andrew appears to be a feckless, disturbed, histrionic, weak male and we should all condemn him for making a mockery of sexual assault claims.

JJ It doesn't sound fishy. It's insane. Utter nonsense. I am not of your generation and we think you guys have lost your mind.

How could u even say that

@@kwaziofficial he said he was motioned into the stall. So he obviously went. Why didn't he just leave?

He was assaulted by another guy not a girl!

You thought someone would be cool about being sexually assaulted ? What planet are you on ?

Why didn't you use your tae kwon do skills to defend yourself?

Wait what,?

@@MrSerendipity01 sorry it took so long to respond . When you have a certain color belt, red & higher you are listed in Washington DC & Atlanta Georgia as a lethal weapon. That’s because of years & years of training. Breaking board, sparring with another class mate so if it might happen, gun pulled or knife you can protect yourself rather than killed. The worst thing any person can do when help up with a knife or gun is get in a car with him. DO NOT EVER FOR ANY REASON GO TO ANOTHER LOCATION WITH THAT PERSON. THERE IS ALMOST a 90% you will be murdered or wished. I am a gay good looking & it took only once, a few seconds to let my guard down. I knew better & for that only take responsibility. I never asked for anything from him, not even a kiss. The only reason I did not prosecute him was for what he said the next day when he was standing out next to my car. Yes I came inches from kicking & breaking his leg or jaw. But I would be in jail no matter what he had done. He had a huge personal problem & he needed help not jail time. It's been over 20 + years & yes we keep in touch. Now, he is a great guy & we both grew from that horrible time. Not everyone should forgive, & personally if it was anyone other than him I would have prosecuted. I know it does not make logical sende, but for me, completely. Everyone makes mistakes & I would hope I would be given another chance. He never lied about anything & explained everything knowing if it got out what happened his famous career would probably end. Now if he would have tried to physically hurt me, total different story.. I hope this helps T

@@goddestroyer3416 thanks for commenting on my posting. WOW …. I SHOULD NOT POST WHEN I'M EXHAUSTED.. THANKS AGAIN.

Dude, I'm so sorry you had this experience. I'm glad you were bold and got justice. Did any of the other victims testify? I'm a victim's rights advocate and I think I remember this case was this over in Battle Creek, MI? Continue to speak out. Your are one of the many voices for silent male victims of sexual abuse and by letting your voice be heard, you don't realize the power you have in being able to save someone else or help someone else know they are not alone. Proud of you for speaking up.

Dude yours is different. You were drugged, this dude walked into that stall willingly after getting felt up.

John Willis being drugged and raped is legitimate. Being felt on....silent but coherent....and follow a man into a stall never saying no is not on any level what you went through

You don't get to decide. I'm sorry you were assaulted but this stuff is crazy. Just say no or too bad. End of story.

Nonsense John. It happened to you but it did not happen to Andrew. You were sedated, Andrew did not say no. Stop relating to anything that sounds like victimhood. What you're doing frankly is depraved and inexcusable. You should be ashamed of yourself comparing the horrors of real sexual assault and rape to this nonsense.

why are you sorry for a dude that willingly got off in a public bathroom with another dude he followed into a stall. he is a creep for not coping to what HE did.

Men like Andrew should be judged and be condemned without mercy. He has done a terrible thing by ruining the other guy's life, a dude btw, he had sex with because he followed him and did not indicate no.

Yeah, except this was not sexual assault. Andrew willing walked into a bathroom stall with another man and had sex. Let's not dumb down sexual assault to the point where it is meaningless. Sexual assault is a very series crime. This was not that!

He went through nothing. He agreed to have sex in a bathroom stall and walked in of his own free will. Why do you feel he is strong? The dude is a jerk for ever doing this and more of a jerk for reporting it.

I admire you and respect you. One day I will be able to come out about some things too....

Hopefully this action will bring you some peace and relief.

Frustrating to see mostly men giving him crap for opening up

not only because they have to "be strong" Terry Crews came out about how he was sexually assaulted and everyone laughed at him.

He should seek psychological help. Catastrophizing isn't good for one's mental health.

Respectfully, I think you are crazy. I feel sorry for the guy who came onto him because he wanted sex, is not a mind reader, and had a dude follow him into a stall who would later destroy his life.

Brenden, I missed your comment earlier today. These crazy kids are doing exactly the opposite of what CBT theory works on. You are exactly right.

@@Michael-te7fj he literally told him he wasn’t interested dumbass

Even if a person withdraws consent during the act and the other person ignores that, it's sexual assault, and therefore that person is a victim.

Courage? This dude Andrew got off, regretted it, and destroyed the life of the guy he got off with.

@@Michael-te7fj You’re blaming the victim and standing up for the assailant. This assailant did the same thing to others. He’s a sexual predator.

@@Michael-te7fj and there you are again

@@lennardusyoutube8505 Can we start with admitting that Andrew would never be fit for the military! Men that freeze up when asked to go into a stall are not men that could fight a hostile enemy. If we extrapolate from there, we can see Andrew should not be in an adult envir.

@@lennardusyoutube8505 cont. If your goal is to have a generation of weak men that cannot speak up for the dignity of their own body when asked to go into a stall, you are pro-infantilizing adults. We must, imo, make sure young adults are fit for adult situations. You are doing Andrew no favors in that indulging his histrionics is not good.

Brave, this guy is a histrionic weakling that destroyed another man's life after having sex in bathroom stall.

@@Michael-te7fj It's honestly sad that people like you actually exist in this shit of a world. Your ignorance has brought you to the point where you can't understand what some people are going through. If you have nothing good to say then you might as well shut the f*ck up. Edit: Also I'm not being the sick/rude guy here, instead you're the sick, foolish, stupid, ignorant human being that doesn't understand what people are going through on a daily basis.

For God's sake, you were a helpless child. This Andrew was an adult and he followed the other dude into a bathroom stall. He deserves no mercy and our deep condemnation for calling what happened sexual assault.

Are you kidding? Andrew had sex with another dude in a public bathroom. Both students should have been reprimanded. Andrew should not be supported in his narcissism imo. A man that cannot say no when another man wants to have sex is not a man. Any male can and should be taught this as a child. No man that lives in a dorm should be there if he doesn't know how to say no. Respectfully, I think what you are saying is terrible and will scare the wrong people. The guy, if we are to believe Andrew, came onto him in the middle of the night and Andrew was tired and said no. Andrew changed his mind and walked into a bathroom stall with the guy and in Andrew's own words, it was the fifth time he DID SOMETHING with a guy. Let him grow up and take responsibility for his own will and his own body. What was the other guy supposed to be a mind reader. From Andrew's story, the other guy asked him to go into the stall with him and he did. If Andrew is asked to jump off a bridge, is he not supposed to know how to not jump. Come on, Andrew is clearly narcissistic and playing the victim card and he's not even bothering to tell a convincing story.

@@Michael-te7fj one thing is for sure...Andrew is a bigger man than you'll ever be. He shows his face and is honest. You do neither. You're a creep, a predatory creep.

He is a man in age but a child in mentality. He got off in a bathroom stall with another guy and ruined the guys life later. Both young men should have been reprimanded for having sex in the school's public bathroom. I would not want to use a bathroom wherein people are having sex in a stall. The school took an action under Title Nine to protect themselves from lunatics like Andrew. Older people know this is insane. You should to. There is no there-there with this story.

Thanks, strong,n courageous wow thanks, not sure if I fit that mold but thanks. The rape was a piece of a huge section of my life that if I did not talk about it I was going to go insane, not kidding. I had finally found the love that I never thought would come, well he found me. Orlando was my absolute, complete, my all. He was a captain in the AirForce. I was in the hospital for a pretty bad car accident, which led to a situation even worse when was given medication I was allergic. This lead to both lungs collapsing, liver doubling, eye lids attaching to the eye ball, spinal collumn shifting. After a surgery where I was not given any pain meds & was completely awake during the surgery. I saw the scalpel slice my cornea then the doctor used tweezers to pull the cut cornea off my eye, did the same to the other then left. I was put back in a room where I remember looking down seeing myself with tubes going in & coming out everywhere. As I leaned back it was like a window that I was looking down at myself. Then everything was so bright, blinding but it did not blind my eyes. I could feel the warmth welcoming with this great joy. Then a man's voice said it was not my time & in a flash I was back. 6 weeks I was in that hospital fighting to be released. Later I found out that that mixup was never checked to see in my medical records because it does say about my allergies. That I had a less than 10% chance to LIVE. That the doctor after finding about my allergies put me back on the medication after he had known what it had done. After forcing the doctor my release I went home hoping to see Orlando had returned from fighting at war but he was no where. So I called this government agency to locate troops during active duty. It takes about a month, so I waited & still nothing. So after those very long waiting period I called him. Such a great kind man explained that Orlando had died. I kept hearing this screaming coming somewhere, but I was home alone, & in a flash I realized that painful scream was coming deep within me. There is so much more that I went thru. Years & years of depression that kept getting worse. So hard OMG no idea how bad all it was all happening at the same time. It is getting late, or rather early here. Maybe we can talk again.. Trace

More like molestation.

Benawesome BW not even

Sadie Lemarr i disagree. Unless he was drunk. Which he wasnt because he recanted the whole scene. And a man tries to go into the bathroom and I FOLLOW HIM. THATS not rape. As a victim of rape....this belittles the real rape survivors

Sadie Lemarr rape and an inappropriate touch because of not saying anything is two different things. Gays are very sexual. I really dont think it was like im gonna take it. Im gonna violate him. "He mention me into the third bathroom stall". He took him following him into the stall as oh ok he wants it.

Well he didn't say yes either.

THIS! All of this. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

With all due respect, you have no idea what goes on in gay male culture. If a man willingly accepts an invitation into a stall, it sure isn't to discuss the upcoming football game.

No Julie, you educate yourself and stop following feminist talking points. Freezing up is exceptionally rare and doesn't apply to young men following other young men into bathroom stalls. ...and it is you that should stop being hateful assuming women (or men) don't lie.

Bull

It is not hateful to disagree with your premises. Freezing is somewhere between rare and nonexistent. Stop reading feminist nonsense which today has no peer reviewed studies to prove what it claims. Women fought hard for the rights to have sexual agency, not to be the wallflowers that can't speak for themselves that you seem to endorse. You education yourself and you stop being hateful because throwing out nonsense can cause people to be misinformed. Sexual assault is a horrible crime; not everything is sexual assault including walking into a bathroom stall. If one is stupid enough to do so, then they should reflect on it and grow from it and look inward into what the hell is wrong with them. Stop protecting a grown man that wants to act like a child and live in an adult world.

Why are you happy that this Creep that followed another dude into a Public bathroom stall and had sex spoke out and blamed his partner.

Hug him? Why? This guy got laid in a bathroom stall after of his own free will having walked in there. These two with their homosexual copulation or whatever they were doing would expose other students to witnessing or hearing a sex act or at the very least see four legs in a stall when they walked into the bathroom. It's grotesque, albeit not the end of the world. Both these dudes should have received a warning from the school to stay out of sexual relations in the school's public areas.

Yeah like all the women coming out in the MeToo movement were "pushed in". Drop your filthy double standards.

That is pretty much a very weak and vulnerable area for a guy. So if someone grabs us there we are pretty much at their mercy. The pain can be intense easily inflicted. So he was sorta but not really held at gun point and was motioned to the stall. Plus the dude is in obvious fear. When fear has a grip on someone if the don’t run then they feel powerless.

@@RamKumar-yi6wn men are stronger than women though, they can fight back. There's no excuse for what happened to him

@@Straumnes Rape is not about imposing one's physical power on another but power play,there's a difference between the first being physical and the second psychological. You think not even a single young female Hollywood star coming out in MeToo was "physically" stronger than a washed up wrinkled geezer like Weinstein they are accusing ? Rape is not about physical strength always. If you think he cannot be a victim because it's a HE,then, putting it kindly, you're rather petty and ignorant.

This is his story to tell, not yours!

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Stfu

... Did you read the ending disclaimer at the end of the video. The same guy that assaulted him had assaulted two other people. He had a history of that behavior. If this guy hadn’t stepped forward and expose him he would have continued to assault other people in that school.

Hey I was molested also you live in israel?

Psalm 34:18 *"The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit."* Matthew 11:27 *"Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest."* John 6:37 Jesus says *"Everyone the Father gives Me will come to Me, and the one who comes to Me I will NEVER drive away."* 🌱🙏🏽🤍

Keep your head up and God bless you I hope you're Okay ❤

@@arianalushtaku4329 thank you; your thoughts are very much appreciated!

What happened to him? Did you willingly walk into a bathroom stall when a freshman at college? I am sorry for what happened to you but what Andrew did was imo done with consent.

@@Michael-te7fj you know, it migtht seem that way but we do not know the exact circumstances entirely...but there is such a thing as, recognized legally, as duress or coercion that play into consent...a tricky issue legally but I does sound more like he, Andrew "went along" out of fear...that's coercion and not true consent, is it?

@@austinballard6815 Yes, it sounds like consent. Although it sounds cold to say that consent can include fear, it has to in instances like these or things will become even more chaotic. If we are to use fear as a reason to why Andrew could claim a lack of consent, we get into having the other student responsible for reading Andrew's mind. Reading minds in sexual situations is the worst of all worlds. Words as in "no," which doesn't preclude one asking a second time, and the need to say "no" a second time are a far better way to get points across than reading minds. Additionally, making consent simple is also best. No means no is just fine. Sometimes a no may switch to a yes, and that's a fact. At some point, for example, a grown man not walking into a bathroom stall with another man must be expected if he first says no, in other words, nothing says to me one has changed their mind much more than walking into a bathroom stall. We must not give into insanity for the sake of histrionics like Andrew, in order that all of the other sane students can if they are so inclined, change their minds in such situations which they often do. Human seduction is part of sex. Often one party has to entice or woo another one into the mood. Because Andrew is a hysteric and destroyed another human being's life as a result, the rest of humanity need not protect him. He was not fit to be an adult situation yet most other adults are. We don't protect those that drive just because they are of age if they can't see the road and demand to drive. The rest of us want to drive and incur the risk that being behind the wheel is. That said, if a blind man insists he has the right to drive and he insists we should support him when he causes a car crash and in addition, he wants to be paid damages, we should not indulge this madness. We should Not support this type of childish inability to make reasonable decisions. We could stop all driving because a blind man "should have the right to drive," but we don't, at least not yet. We can and sadly have extended sexual assault to mean a young adult man that cannot say no to walking into a bathroom stall? No, I say, let's make sure our adult men act like adults. Andrew was an adult and acting like a disturbed narcissist debasing the horrors that actual victims endure.

After what happened to him? He followd another dude into a bathroom stall and got off. He called it sex. So probably you wouldn't mind walking into the stal to use it after these two came all over the floor? The school should have given them both warnings about using the public bathroom for sex. What the hell is wrong with you for feeling sorry for this creep?

Anthony Coca it seems rehearsed, but that could come from him having to tell the story so many times that he’s just speaking lines from a script.

Don’t base his story off of other stories you have heard. Everyone heals differently. Everyone tells their story crying, angry, or just plain out calm and “normal”.

I agree. Something seems off here.

I tend to agree that something in this story is off....being touched repeatedly against your will is technically "assault", however, saying he "motioned me into one of the stalls"??? after being groped?.....unless physically "dragged" leave.

George Yeck-Ozark Exactly. He had two choices. Either walk in one direction towards the exit, or the other direction, towards the stalls. Freely. Perhaps maybe with some slight reservation, but nonetheless willingly. The other guy wasn’t behind him shoving him in. Apparently he was already in the stall and non-threateningly motioned him over. He was bothered that it happened in a public bathroom, but gives absolutely no indication of any of it being forced.

onkar phall he never wanted he went into shock the guy took him into the stall listen to the guys story

Matt Howland went into shock really that sounds like if I did not like it latter on then I all ways can say "I went into shock" standing in court of law. Think about it?

RunnerEye that's exactly what happened no one forced him in there. Maybe the dick wasn't big enough so now he's screaming rape. Imagine that you sleep with a woman or a man it's all consensual the next day she screams or he screams rape all because she/ he regrets it! what a joke.

No he said directed he was drunk and he said he wasn't interested

It wasn't a case of buyers guilt he didn't consent he didn't want it he was violated rather it was miscommunication or a guy that just thought it was ok to force the issue and aggressively take what he wanted then say well he didn't fight back if this had been a girl they would have easily been called sexual assault

What this dude Andrew did is disgraceful and that the Huff Post gives him credibility is sad.

You want to tell me that he can't recover from Willingly walking into a bathroom stall and having sex? I don't know what was done to you, but if you were an adult college student and followed a guy into a stall, had sex, and 30 years later couldn't get over it, you are off your rocker. Sexual assault is a very serious thing. This was not that.

I'd love to hear the other dudes side. Since this IS a huffpo piece, the entire story is probably fabricated.

It doesn't.

No, a creep that must have regretted bad sex which he willingly walked into a bathroom stall to have. Yech.

One's experience of pain is subjective. It doesn't tell you what really transpired.

I wondered the same thing.

Not everyone has a fight or flight response. Some people surprise themselves by mentally and physically freeze up. Unless you’re in the exact same situation yourself, you really don’t know how you would react, even if you think you would automatically run.

@@hindsightpov4218 No! I know what I would do. In a court of law this would not hold up as rape. This would hold up as something else, sexual harassment maybe. In courtroom trail that statement alone would change everything.

@@JT-ok6re You think you know what you would do. But you were never sexually assaulted so you don’t know with absolute certainty. People who did freeze instead of doing fight or flight surprised themselves that they froze when they thought they would run if they found themselves in this situation. People don’t always respond the way they think they would. It’s called being human. We’re all imperfect. Not everything we do makes perfect sense, despite our best intentions. Grabbing a person’s genitals isn’t harassment. That’s assault. This assailant clearly didn’t like that Andrew rejected him and escalated the situation by making it about power by doing sexual acts onto Andrew that Andrew did not want. That’s rape.

@@hindsightpov4218 Feminist lies. He went in willingly. There was nothing to freeze up about. The guy did not have a knife to him. He followed the guy. Stop making excuses for Andrew. He is not mentally fit to be an adult situations.therefore he should not be there and stop getting other people expelled for awkward advances.

THIS. 👏🏼 The systems were definitely built to protect predators and definitely not to help victims get some justice. There are people out there who are working diligently to try to change this. I promise...💚

Brave, he destroyed the other guy's life because the other dude made a successful pass. Andrew is a terrible person for doing this to that guy. He followed him and didn't say no after following him.

​@@Michael-te7fjlol troll

Are you better now?

Not only did he not say no, by his own admission the other dude motioned him to the bathroom stall and he complied.

Oh please. If you're a grown man, heterosexual or homosexual, and another man motions to you to go into a stall or for that matter to jump off a bridge, if you do, your a moron and should not be in an adult environment. The school should have thrown Andrew out for daring to make this complaint and the grounds to expel Andrew could have been for getting off in a bathroom and potentially exposing other students to having to hear or see it.

@@Michael-te7fj “Oh please” yourself. You are being so judgmental and ignorant. Some people mentally and physically freeze when sexual assault is happening. Not everyone has a fight or flight response and you don’t know if you’ll freeze or flight until you’re in that situation yourself. People who did freeze surprised themselves that they didn’t run when they thought their instincts would tell them to do that. When people freeze, their brain goes into autopilot and they space out as they follow the orders of the assailant out of fear. You’re very keen on blaming and punishing the victim, saying he should have been the one expelled from the university and not the assailant. Your comment also comes across as homophobic with the disgust you expressed about any sexual activity happening in the men’s restroom. It’s apparent where your judgement is coming from.

@@Michael-te7fj I looked into you and I see now why you are particularly angry about this case. I am sorry for what happened to you. I really am. But what happened to you does not mean that Andrew was making false accusations. Do false accusations happen? Yes, tragically they do. But they are rare. Most accusations of rape are true and most rapes are never reported. Not all rapes happen the same way. Different people react differently. If you did not want it, it is rape. Being rejected does not excuse escalating the situation by grabbing the person’s genitals and doing sexual acts onto this person who already said no. It doesn’t matter after Andrew mentally froze when his genitals were grabbed that in his shocked state that he complied when the assailant motioned him into the stall. Andrew already said no. The assailant knew that. He didn’t care and then physically assaulted him. The assailant is guilty.

@@hindsightpov4218 When blacks and other minorities express opinions based on their experience, we do not discount their experience. The same should be permitted to the wrongly accused. That said, one's experience adds insight but can be challenged so you can challenge mine or anyone else's.. I would always thought Andrew is in the wrong. This is not complicated in my mind. He was not raped. He went into the stall and did not say no. He should not be an adult situation (a dorm) with such lacking maturity. Should I agree with your notion that he froze, which I don't buy, but should that be true, what kind of monster is Andrew to destroy the other person's life. The other person had reason to think Andrew was within the range of normal which would be someone that doesn't indicate "yes" when they mean "no." Where you are in error, is the notion that we must cater to the most disturbed people among us. We cannot, utopia is not a place. We cannot and must not cater to the hysterics among us. We can instead suggest that they get treatment and stay clear from adult situations they cannot manage.

Are you f==king kidding? If you walk into a bathroom stall in a dorm with another dude, have sex, you have consented. My God, the feminist talking points have got you hooked. You wrote this three years ago. I hope you have grown.

So what are you saying; it was invited? You're as big of a shitbag as the guy that assaulted him.

Moron

He did not describe how the assailant forced the assault and he does not have to. He told the guy no!! Anything beyond that is assault! How stupid of you.

You can say no afterwards too.

Your body shuts down too and you just freeze not every thing is explained as easily as black or white

a a I could see that if a weapon was involved but the guy just motioned to the stall. Instead of walking to the stall why did he not walk out the door?! He was under no obligation or duress to go to the stall. It’s all very strange.

@@TWalsh-ji7jh The assailant was rejected by Andrew. His response was to grab Andrew’s genitals which made Andrew go into shock and his mind froze. When you’re in that shocked state, your mind goes into autopilot and he complied when motioned into the stall when he otherwise would not have if he wasn’t in that shocked state. Not everyone has a fight or flight response. Some people physically and mentally freeze when they really do want to run. People’s minds and bodies don’t always react the way they want when in a threatening situation.

I don't hope he's feeling better. I hope Andrew is feeling remorse for having sex in a bathroom willingly and then destroying the other guy's life because he felt dirty afterward. ...and by the way, if I were the third student and walked into the bathroom and saw or heard these two going at it, I could have gone to the school authorities and had them both thrown the hell out for engaging in sexual behavior in a public place for students that made me uncomfortable. Because I am not a hysteric like this dude Andrew, if I walked in on two dudes engaged in sexual behavior forbidden by the rules of the college, I would politely walk out or pretend not to notice so I wouldn't embarrass the couple.

@@Michael-te7fj Your insistence to being apathetic speaks volumes to the kind of person you are.

My comment may be unpopular, and I don’t mean it as an attack on anyone except perhaps Andrew’s counselors. And I recognize there may be painful, personal details Andrew is omitting out of privacy, and those details (if I knew them) might change my opinion. On the basis of the information presented this is how I feel: I don’t think the actions he describes amount to an assault. The other student flirted with him, touched Andrew’s crotch over his clothes, said “nobody has to know” and motioned him into a bathroom stall, and Andrew followed. I’m missing any element of force, coercion, or intimidation. Andrew specifically said the other student “motioned” him into a stall-that means he was free to ignore the other student and walk away. Based on the actions described I feel bad for Andrew having to think he is a victim of anything, and it looks to me like his counselors failed him in a major way. They should’ve asked him to explore his feelings that motivated Andrew to follow that student into the stall, and make him feel ok about his sexual curiosity and exploration. It sounds like they did the opposite, and made him believe he was a victim of something. So his counselors really created a victim, and ultimately got another student expelled over this encounter. I’m generally a very sensitive person who would always stand up for a victim, it’s hard for me to even make this comment. I feel like this video should not have been made, or if there are other painful details (that should remain private) but really make the assault more clear, then the video should have shared those details but protected Andrew’s identity. As it currently stands, this video feels irresponsible to me, it lowers the bar of what sexual assault means.

Totally agree.

...but Andrew followed the other dude in the bathroom Stall and had sex. Entirely different than what you went through.

Andrew was a f--king adult and followed a guy into a bathroom stall. Stop identifying with him. You were a child and what you went through was therefore without consent and horrific whereas Andrew got off in a PUBLIC bathroom and is a creep for blaming the other dude.

DoublexKeyz that is the most stupid thing I've heard. Would you say that to a "grown woman"? Man are assaulted too

Lila, women fought or the right to get raped in the early 1960s. They didn't want people like you keeping them safe. The man;s crotch was touched and he freaked out. He needs psychological help to empower himself. He is pathetic. He actually blames another guy for coming onto him. It's not the job of one who wants sex to be nice or read minds. The one who wants the sex need only understand the word No. The rest is your generation being puritanical sickos who are bored because you don't know what things like fighting a war are and you don't have any idea what oppression truly is as you parents have treated you like babies and did not let you grow up. This young man could have said No. He could have said F--k off. He could have run. He could have called out for someone to help. He could have taken out his fist. A man must learn to protect his body if he is going to freak out so easily. A man must learn to fight if he's going to be such a feckless human being. I would add to that, this young man is a heartless jerk for having the other guy expelled.

brian fidel he was afraid. When someone's afraid, they don't know what to do. It happens!

Tina: Give me a break. This freeze thing is made up nonsense. Perhaps one freezes when they are pinned down and feel their life is endanger. How are we going to send our young men to war if God forbid we are attacked? This young man is not fit to be away from home. It's not the guy who grabbed his crotch that is most problematic. It's Andrew. How do parents raise a boy who cannot say no once another man has grabbed toward his penis? This is as basic as tying one's shoelace. I don't think Andrew should be defended. I think he is right questioning his own masculinity as he did not act like a man--any kind of man. He acted like a child. I'm not saying guys should go around grabbing other guys crotches. That said, it's not the end of the world and resident assistant could have handled the entire matter. The grabber was probably drunk and probably Andrew not being able to say, "leave me alone" or "get the f out of here," was not clear. That said, once Andrew went into the stall with him, he became a willing partner. Andrew and the expelled young man were in a bathroom stall having sexual relations. Surely this is in the current handbook as improper sex. If another student had walked into the bathroom, that student would be innocent and perhaps feel humiliated. In normal times, none of this would be a big deal and the boys having sex in a bathroom stall would merely be met with shame as in the other students later saying this was not cool for the guys to be doing this in the bathroom. Given that these are not normal times, Andrew should have been thrown out of Brown for creating a hostile sexually intimidating atmosphere.

Rick, why do you even feel bad for him? I feel bad for the guy who was expelled. Perhaps he was a drinker and he was gay and many in their culture are sexually aggressive that way. It the times have called for a change in this way, then adjusting to this change rather than expulsion is called for. But forgetting about the accused, Andrew should not be coddled. If the other guy motioned Andrew to jump out the window would Andrew have done it?

Or grab his stuff and exit the Restroom?