Dylan, you DIDN'T lose a good friend; her behavior proved that she was an awful friend.

Trust me honey. You did NOT lose a good friend, she was never a good friend, just an acquaintance. Good riddens to bad rubbish!!

Dylan, When I was violently raped by the babysitters son I was 4 he 18, some how blocked it from my memory until I was 28 at my mothers just her and I, she brought up the babysitter, somehow I remembered in vivid detail about what happened, I got up and left my mothers home, I couldn't speak for three days. I went to work everyday but couldn't really say anything. I could have let this destroy me but I chose to live, he ended up a detective in a nearby city, and learned I wasn't the only one. I am a fighter and a survivor. Peace be with you, you are not alone. Thank you for bringing this topic up.

Anyone who has the courage to speak openly about that gets both my respect and a subscription 👍🏻

Dylan, sorry this happened to you. Know, as many have already noted, you are 100% innocent. Thanks for telling us this painful recollection because your story will help many others.

Dang son, that accent is killer! I'm sorry for your situation and having to go through something as traumatic as this but your a survivor and the best thing is that you have the strength to move forward in your life and put this behind you. Stay strong and know that people out here care about you and love you for the strong man you are!

One of the hardest lessons for me to learn is that there is such evil in the world. When we are raised to be nice people and taught that "people are basically good," we often underestimate how really evil some people are. Not everyone is basically good. Some are. Some aren't. And some seem to have no conscience at all - and there are far too many of those kinds of people. Psychopaths and sociopaths represent at least 2% of the population, but they are attracted to environments where their evil can be covered up, facilitated, and enhanced. The guy who did that to you, Dylan, was evil and thank God you survived. Your female friend, though, was never a friend.

I was dosed, raped and robbed years ago, and because I'm a guy and promiscuous and gay and would have probably slept with the guy anyway, it took me 15 years to even admit I was raped(even though I was literally trying to flee the bar and get away from him because I was creeped out and feeling off when he caught up with me). Serious loss of power. Very sad and hard to deal with. Thanks for sharing.

That was shocking. Im a woman in my 50's and your experience sickened me. Im sorry you had to go through this. You are a survivor. God bless you x

I'm so sorry for what you went through. It's so sad your friend didn't believe you. In my opinion she was never the friend you thought she was. I hope you get help for this. I'm 53 and still need help with coping for what happened as a child. You are a kind soul and deserve all the best ❤. By the way, you could never look disgusting even after a hard days work. You're pretty darn cute. Your bf is a lucky man.

I am so sorry this happened to you...But am so glad you are sharing...The stigma surrounding sexual assault, and especially male sexual assault, needs to go away. Have you thought about the very real fact that she may have known what he intended to do. You said you thought "where the fuck is everyone"....maybe she was staying away on purpose. You're better off without her.

That "friend" is someone you are better without being in your life. Thats a terrifying experience that no one should go through.

I’m so sorry this happened. I hope the best for you.❤

I’m a woman and I’ve been through the same thing. I felt the same way after it happened. I blamed myself. I thought I should not have been there. What did I do wrong? I didn’t press charges for the same reason. I didn’t want to relive it. Finally I realized there was nothing I could do and I survived. I was overpowered by a man much larger and stronger and I cried and kept saying no. I told a few people and got no support. It’s a horrible thing to go through. I’m so sorry it happened to you. You can’t blame yourself and be thankful you survived and can tell your story. It is one many share and understand. ❤

Dylan, thank you for sharing your story and I do understand what you're going through. I was leaving a bar in Cambridge, Mass. when I was accosted, knocked out and driven to an abandoned apartment where the actual assault took place through the night, to be left there by sunrise. I did not know who he was and the police really never ,made any serious attempt to investigate. I do not want to make this graphic, but even being seriously injured, the police more or less shrugged it off as soon as they heard I had been leaving a bar when it happened. (I was not drunk, but tell them that). I was 21 years old then and the 21st year mark is soon coming on Nov. 1st. I dread it every year and even after 20 odd years I still have the occasional dream, nightmare. But life does get better, and one thing I learned, and it took me a while is you didn't do anything wrong. I had never imagined, ever, something like that could happen to me, as you also said. It is not part of men's lives, so we are taught. That took a long time to sort out. Thank you for sharing as doing this does provide a lot to those of us who need the support. I hope you're doing well now, wish you the best

And don’t feel bad about being roofied. That was not your fault and I can understand why you didn’t want to press charges, even though I wish you had for your sake, but it’s not your fault not your fault at all you need to believe that.

You are a valuable Man! Always remember that you were drugged your control over the situation was stolen from you . This would never have happened to you if it was a fair fight. Remember that when ever you have a nightmare. Stay strong ❤️⭐️💪👍💜💙🏳️‍🌈🇺🇸🍀🌈

What a terrible situation. I'm so sorry you went through that. I was drugged at a party and almost raped but my best friend interrupted the guy and got me out of there. P.S. You are such a handsome guy and you sound like a beautiful person. I could listen to you talk all day..hehe...your accent is so cute. I'm from CA and so I dont hear guys who talk like you. Big Hugs to you!!

I found your Coming Out video recently and am now following you. Really enjoy your authentic style of storytelling, so vivid and clear. I'm so glad that you have a calling to help others because I can really feel your golden heart.

THANKS FOR SHARING BUDDY. I went through something when I was 10 with the neighbor next door. I didn't have a say in what got done about things at all. My dad blamed me for what happened and would not let the police prosecute the guy next door. He was 18 and a lot bigger than me. I was forced to go into therapy for months and the doctor continually made me relive it every time I visited. That year was one of the worst of my life and I still deal with it.

Drugging someone is not a fair fight and It took an incredibly strong man to talk about that horrific experience the way you just did. You have one powerful soul.

Your story compelled me to say this to you. You are a brave, intelligent, kind, and loving man who survived a horrific event. You are a true man for having the courage to survive and help others. You could not defend yourself as a man because you were taken advantage of and drugged. There is nothing you could have done differently because that mobster took away your abilities to defend yourself. You are in my prayers that you are ok physically and emotionally. Thank you for sharing your story. We have a lot in common. Nice to know there are survivors out there and we are not alone. ❤

Dylan, you are such a sweet, young man. And you are absolutely gorgeous. None of what happened was your fault in the slightest! HE DRUGGED YOU, how could that possibly be your fault! I am so sorry that happened to you! You didn’t deserve to have that happen to you! And it is incredible that you made this video to help others! YOU ARE AMAZING!

Dylan I am sorry. I really am. It takes a lot to overcome this crisis and take your life back. You are right about the police not doing anything to assist. The impact is deep. That is the part people do not understand. The scar and hurt will always run deep. Someone will be helped by you sharing this experience in your life.

Thank you for sharing your story. You are on the road to healing. You are not to blame for what happened. These people are not your friends. Please know that you have many people who support you. I am here for you.

Dylan, you're a beautiful soul. Thank you for telling your story.

My ex got raped by a guy he thought was helping him after he was knocked out in a bar. It took over, became a hatred for gay people, and do this day has never gotten past it! It can change you as a person, and I’m glad you are not letting this be the future for you. Don’t punish yourself for another’s sin!

You explained perfectly why so many women that have had the same thing happen to them don't always report it. Just remember it was nothing you did, the blame is all on the other guy. If nothing else you learned from it, too bad he won't be held accountable but if this is a pattern with him maybe he will at some point

Thank you for your courage in promoting awareness and compassion for fellow survivors! Peace be upon you.

I am sorry this awful experience happened to you. Thank you very much for sharing this video. God bless you, Dylan.

I admire your courage. I had a situation that didn't progress as far, and I am a big dude, but I took a lot longer to learn how to stand up for myself. Your strength is amazing and it's wonderful to see

Thank you for sharing a very personal story. It takes a lot of courage to admit to this kind of experience. I'm sure many will be able to identify they too felt ashamed but, this was not your fault, and you were not able to defend yourself. Healing does take time more of the mind than the body. I hope, and am sure your life will improve over time as the healing takes effect. God bless.

You never lost a friend. That woman was never your friend. Thank you for sharing your story!

I’m so sorry you had to go through that. I was happy to hear when you said “husband”. I’m glad he stood by you.

I’m also a gay man, and I just have to say, I kind of hate your ‘best friend’ as much as the guy that roofied you. Your best friend is supposed your safe port in any storm! The fact that she didn’t believe you at all is so shocking, and honestly, evil. Had she believed you, I think getting through it would have been easier, you might have been able to go to the police, maybe stop him from doing this to someone else, etc. i hope you can tell her that someday. (I just had a really DARK thought! What if she conspired with the rapist to let this happen to you, throwing the party, conveniently leaving with everyone else, him having the roofie ready and knowing he’d have the opportunity, her keeping everyone away for so long. Like what the fuck?!). Maybe don’t have ANY contact with her!

Dylan thanks for having the courage to share that horrendous experience. It has given me the courage to face my experiences in a more positive light. Again thanks and praying that your memory is healed. You are one amazing person.

So sad that you went through all this! But I'm happy that you have shared your story and that you have found a path forward. Much love and big hugs to you!

I sure do appreciate you sharing your story! I am so sorry you went through that. It looks like you have come through it stronger and better and I am glad! Be blessed, Dylan 🙏

sadly this is a common thing , it happened to me when I was 17 & now I'm 53 & I still can't think about it with out great anxiety . All I can think is he could have killed me I feel / felt disgusting . That women was not your friend

I had a very similar experience to you Dylan. At first it was so difficult to face and the worst was facing my family and friends and telling them. It takes time to get over the guilt and embarrassment..but it will happen. The positive side is it makes you so much more critical of your decisions and to trust your instincts. Good luck my man..Marcus❤

You look not disgusting… love yourself.. hugs

So sorry this happened to you. Kudos for sharing this, raising awareness, and maybe even helping someone else. I was *nearly* raped decades ago, but I had not been drugged like you and was able to fight him off. I dreamt about it for a while after, but thankfully those faded years ago. *I* belive you, bud. Hugs.

You've done an amazing job articulating the details of your experience and feelings. That's something to be proud of. Imagine all the people that have been helped by your sharing.

god bless you! I"m sorry you had to go through that. there are so many of us that share a similar story/experience and dont or cant talk about it. much love to you for sharing your story

Thank you for sharing your story. I went through a similar drugging situation a number of years ago and I just want to say NEVER blame yourself.

Dylan, I’m very sorry to hear your story, mainly because it mirrors my life experience almost exactly. I can understand how that makes you feel incredibly guilty right afterwards because you are constantly questioning what did YOU do to make something like this happen. You go through the, “if only I had done this…” or “if only I had done that”. But the bottom line is, you did nothing wrong. You were assaulted, period. This happened to me in my early 20s, and I am now 64 years old. It gets better. I had therapy and I’ve been able to move past the experience and can now look back on it as something sad, but the rage and anger is gone. I’ve had a very successful life with very meaningful relationships so I know personally, that it does get better. You will heal and the negative feelings you may have about yourself will go away. Hopefully they have already gone away for you. But please, never ever question yourself. It was not your fault and you could not have done anything differently to change the outcome. I am happy that you can speak of the experience and are willing to reach out to help others that have experienced something similar. You are a good person.

You're a brave man to get this out there and openly talk about it, especially now with all the hate going on. You're strong, you did nothing wrong. There was nothing you could do to defend yourself, you were drugged. Again, you are very brave. More power to you, man, and keep up the good work !

YOU ARE SPECIAL. FORGIVE YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU ARE NOT AT FAULT IN ANY WAY. HOPE YOU ARE FULLY HEALED. BE SAFE !!! LOVE YOU !

Prayers Dylan, nobody deserves this done to them . I’m so glad you put this out there because you hear a lot about women going through this but not men. Some one like yourself is going to see this same thing and might help them too . 🙏🏼 ❤

I’m so sorry that happened to you. Thank you for your bravery and willingness to share your story to help others 🤗

A very honest video about a terrible experience. Your story should be a help to others.

I’ve been in that exact situation too. I feel your pain. I am grateful you shared your experience. I hope that I can too one day. Like you I am grateful for the lessons that I have been able to take from it and finally being able to take back power over my life, and denying that person the power they perceived to have. I wish you well Dylan! Cheers, -Dylan L.

Dylan, thank you for sharing your story of what happened to you and how it affected your self esteem. I am glad you are making videos and speaking out. No one should have to endure assault of any kind from anyone. In 2010, I left a long term relationship with a man that had verbally abused me throughout the relationship. He never physically hurt me, but he tore down my self esteem. I left him and had to take out a restraining order so he could never come near me. He lives in a different coast than I do. I trust that I will never set eyes on him. I wish you the best. I am sorry the woman friend did not believe you. She should have supported you and been a true friend.

Thanks for this video. It really helped me to better understand how this kind of thing can happen and how it affects them.

Dylan I am so sorry That You experienced something like that. Absolutely heartbreaking. Thank You for sharing this with us! ❤ Love from Ontario.

The way you cope with this evil incident says you have a brave and beautiful mine. I have nothing but admiration for you. I am glad that you got it all out on the camera. It is important for victims to be able to do that, to process it all. But if you think at any time you still have PTSD, do not be afraid to ask for professional help. Always remember: you don’t have to fight this alone. You are not alone! Sending all the love and good wishes 🙏

I had a very similar thing happen when I was 28 and just came out. At that time I was drinking and partying every other weekend, so I could handle my alcohol. I went to a party and the home owner gave me the creeps right from the start when he reached inside my shirt and started playing with my chest hair and making comments on it. That night i had only two drinks that were brought to me by that person and I could not move, I was out of it, so he and one other dragged me to a bedroom where I thought I could recover. How long later I do not know, he had forced himself on me and I was a little more awake but all I could do was cry and repeat no, stop over and over. I now know from others that this is his routine , and does that to many guys. If I see him again I will be going to jail for deleting him.

Thank you very much for relating and sharing your experience. And please believe me when I say that you didn't ramble on about it. Not even in the slightest. And it's not your fault. What you're doing, especially here in this video, is very important and I'm glad I discovered your channel to learn about your strength and resilience. Hope you keep doing the good work that you're doing and stay strong in the process:)

Wow! Thank you, much love.❤❤

I still would have pressed charges! He’s a predator…

Hey Dylam mate. KZfaq decided to bring this up on my feed, so my first time watching you. Firstly, NONE of what you went through was your fault nor did you ask for, NONE of it! As someone who has been going through severe gastric distress for 9 months shy of a decade now which sees me have to be super careful what I ingest the thought of someone having their food or drink spiked makes me feel a lot of anger as what we ingest is so personal. And of course any drug that might be okay for someone could kill someone else, and you handsome man were clearly drugged, so a double assault if you will. Lucky you got out of that alive on multiple levels. Btw, as an Englishman (London) my favourite American accent is from the South, just love it! 😊 I could listen to you recite the phone book, haha. I would genuinely love to meet you one day, you have such a lovely warm presence. Having just written the above I just read the description to your channel here, and love what you say about; ''heal your life through self-love''.... Absolutely! What I am doing but on a physical level, although the last 9+ years (the last 3.5 years especially) has been very much a spiritual journey too as I evolve. Big hugs to you lovely man, and thank you for sharing.

I’m sorry for what you went through. I was molested when I a child then joined the military to get away from the abuse only to suffer more from several fellow soldiers. I had no one to talk to for years. Tried reporting all of it and had a hard time finding someone to listen to me and believe me. Finally years later with the help of therapy I’m able to cope.

What an awful thing to happen! I can’t imagine! So sorry this happened to you 😢. I have a friend, a male, that was made intoxicated by a female friend who took advantage of him. The sad part is nobody believed him, except me. I told him, why would he say something like that if it weren’t true. He felt emasculated. There would be no reason whatsoever for him to reveal something so personal and humiliating.

Thank you for sharing your story. You can help so many by telling this. Very brave and courageous! I am sorry that you went through this.

I applaud you for sharing your story. You are a survivor. I hope you continue to heal and move forward from such a traumatic time in your life. Sending you good vibes :)

Thank you for being brave and putting this out there. I’ve been through this at a party that devolved into an orgy around me passed out on the couch and people took my lack of response through coming in and out as a tacit approval. I’m not friends with that group anymore.

Dude, that was a tough video to make. And you did it so well. You are a great man for speaking out about it. Discussing what happened to you, helps to heal others that don't say anything. As well, I have found that as tough as it is to do, the repeated disclosure will heal you even more. i built a new app to provide people, when meeting online, to be able to rate a situation anonymously, post-engagement, Once a user builds up a great composite rating, then that user can share that they are good people. Now, that pos person who assaulted you, would probably not be on my app, and that refusal to have a composite rating to share, that in itself would help someone in deciding to being their friend in the first place. Just saying, that as you plan on helping others with your videos, for me it was building the app that has helped me to heal as well. It gets better bro, but its a trigger that won't go away but you get better at handling the response to the triggers when they come about and you become able to guide your reactions. You should be proud of yourself.

Dont lose in humankind, though. Most of us are good people and act in good faith. You are a survivor and will get your strength back.

Yes, making our tragedies and life experiences a foundation to minister to others is the highest of vocations and leads to inner healing, as well. What joy we feel if we even help one person. God bless!

I'm so sorry that happened to you! I hope you have found the strength to get the therapy you need to deal with this and its after-effects. I'm also sorry about the loss of your friend. I too was sexually assaulted once and never told anyone about it for many years. I hope you get closure and justice and peace.

Remember...that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger...he was the coward weakling who had to drug you to force you. You are a hero for sharing your experience

I want to thank you for sharing such a dramatic story. I hope you're doing much better now. It seems like you are doing much better. I am a mental health professional and a college professor. I would love to use your story in some of my classes.

Thank you for sharing this. You are so brave and resilient. I'm sorry you had to go through that, and no "real" friend would doubt you in the first place. She was a fair-weather friend at best. Cherish your husband. That is your "true" friend.

❤sending you love and light... Thanks for sharing your story with us...

You’re very brave. Thank you for sharing your story.

I survived institutional sexual abuse in a group home for 5 years. This is something that will never leave you but if you become good at channeling the emotions this causes you will find yourself in a position where when you think about it you dont have a pannic attack or get angry and take it out on the worng people. It has been a life long struggle for me. But know you are not alone, what happened was not your fault in any way. Therapy is necessary. Trauma specialist. Do it. I promise it will help you. Most insurance covers it now.

I’m sorry for this tragic experience you had . But it does appear as if you are coping with your hurt and for that I am very grateful. One of the better ways to continue to heal is to share your story and how you have grown as a person through this. Thank you for sharing your experience and some of your journey since then. I encourage you to continue your growth and never let this experience control you. You control it!! I will look forward to additional updates. You are a strong, confident gay man who had much to offer❣️💥✨

So well told. So beneficial for others. Good for you.

Thank you for your honesty and telling your story. I’m a survivor, too. I was aged 5 - 7 years old at the time. It was 1959 - 1961. My perpetrator was our neighbor, a married guy with two teenage kids. I was groomed and lured until he could spring his trap. I never told anyone until 2013 when I began therapy. We live with the trauma and the awful truth all of our lives. Every day.

Dylan, Thank you for sharing a very difficult experience and your personal feelings. I know this happens more often, than people want to believe. It bothers me that close people in your life, do not believe it occurred and end friendships. Take care K.Anthony.

I'm just barely starting to talk about what happened to me. I needed to hear this

Dylan, sorry for what you went through. You did a brave thing by coming forward and sharing your story. It’s a stark reminder that anyone can be the victim of sexual assault and that it has a profound and lasting impact on people’s lives. Hope this message finds you well and that you continue to heal. Be well.

she was NEVER a friend....had a woman I thought was and she was NEVER!!!

I had the same thing back in the day thank you for sharing your story Dylan...

I’m sorry this happened to you. When I was 30 something similar happened to me. I am now in my 50’s and still working through it. Good luck to you.❤

Dylan, you have a very kind heart, no arrogance, no hatred. You are a very loveable person. Good wishes for you. Please always take good care of yourself. I can feel your sincerity.

I feel sick to my stomach about what happened to you 😢! You have such a beautiful energy and a seemingly genuine loving heart and soul. I'm glad that you are here to tell your story. It could have been a different outcome. YOU ARE LOVED!!!!

Women as sexual predators. I just wanted to say something on this topic I have had experiences of being groped and sexually assaulted a few times and nothing like the experience you have had but all of the perpetrators in my case have been women. E.g. I was only 26 and I had to get my female colleagues at work to walk in front of me and behind me whenever I went near the lunchroom to avoid a particular woman groping me or pinching my ass. I had an ex boss try kissing me tongue down the throat and grope me at a Christmas party in front of my partner. She claimed she was going to turn me straight coz I just hadn't met the right woman. I can't wear my uniform especially at nights out in London e.g. for the trooping of the colour because of women mostly drunk trying to lift my kilt. I was in a bar and nearly stepped on a woman's face she was lying on the floor trying to take a picture under my kilt. I get so sick of it women have a right to be treated with dignity and respect by men always but they also have an obligation to do the same to men. If I went around lifting womens dresses or trying to take pics underneath I would be arrested in minutes. Women seem to think that because you are a man A. you are gonna enjoy that sort of disgusting attention from women B. That is just a bit of harmless fun. Neither is true and sadly I can attest that women are not always the victims of sexual abuse in my case they have always been the perpetrators.

Oh my... Your feelings about this really shows😢 How can someone do something like that. Makes me so sad. Thanx for sharing. It makes me aware of that this things can really happen everywere and we shouldxall try harder to look afer eachother.

Thank you for sharing your life. I hope you continue to be safe.!☺

You're a a beautiful soul. You don't know me, but you have a friend in me. I appreciate your courage and honestly. You're one of the strongest men I now. Thank you for sharing.

Im sorry to hear this happened to you.but im glad u have found a way to move on, and have someone that loves u beyond all things. May your future always be happy.

….people don’t believe things like this until it happens to you. The sad thing is MOST men have NO ONE to talk to (i.e. family or friends) about the assault and life HAS to go on for us who are abused and we have to bury it inside of us! Plus, you are LABELED less than a man if it happens to you and that is sad!

You are Grogerous, So sorry you went through this. Lifting you up.❤❤❤

Terrible. Evil stuff. Young people gotta stop thinking that drinking and drugging is “fun” in most social circles have snakes lurking around and this is why. Poor guy, glad he survived and telling your story is a powerful thing

Stay strong. You did the right thing coming forward. It also might help someone from not becoming a victim.

Thank you for sharing your story 🙏

Man, my heart hurts for you. I've been there too, I feel for you 😔 And fck that "friend." She'll get her karma when something horrible happens to her and nobody believes her. I appreciate you tellin' your story. I get really frustrated when women talk about how men will never understand what they go through with these types of situations, when it's happened to me and so many other men out there. Thanks for makin' us part of this conversation!

I’m so sorry for what happened to you, you’re so strong to speak about this

You’re a brave strong man, sorry you were violated and your friend not believing you is a real slap in the face.