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Something I figured out but never hear from the man-o-sphere is that women always compare CURRENT men to ALL PREVIOUS men. So if a partner has a lot of previous men, a current man will never ever measure up. The MORE a woman has "under her belt" the more alpha features she will have to compare YOU to. YOU will never have as big a bank account as "zach". YOU will never be as tall as "dave". YOU will never have as big a eggplant as "chad". YOU will never be as muscular as "steve". It's not ONE alpha you have to worry about, its ALL of the alpha traits she has ever been with.

I was red-pilled by an alpha widow. I really liked her a lot but I felt like I was competing against a ghost. She was holding me to standards that didn't make any sense, I finally figured out that she was indirectly comparing me to a past relationship which I could never live up to. It was very difficult emotionally but I eventually left her. That really began my red pill journey. Alpha widows are no joke, you can't have relationships with them unless you are considered "better" than her ex. Even then, one slip up on your part and she's pining for ex again, either consciously or subconsciously.

The Alpha Widow is the topic which seems to be the most underrated but interesting phenomena, good job addressing it again!

When woman has picture of an ex in wallet or pictures in hard drive or phone or laptop - you have a red flag. Thanks for great content!

I remember what Rollo said on women's infidelity, she will cheat on her alpha or main guy, feel good about what she did, and then hate the guy which she cheated on, just because she was "forced" to cheat on him.

There is no honor in being a victim

Honestly I’ve been on both sides and being on the wrong side is a hard pill to swallow, but I learned a lot thanks

Another sure fire way of knowing if a chick you are dealing with is alpha widowed is if she ever admits to having a friends with benefits arrangement with an ex boyfriend. If you hear this and you also get the vibe that she has been scorned from a previous relationship....just run because she is definitely an alpha widow. Or if you can you can hit it but don't get emotionally attached because it'll never work out the way you would want or expect.

"She cheats to degrade her partner." So true. When she's angry with her main guy, she'll turn to her side D for some revenge sex. Afterwards, she doesn't think less of herself but of her partner who she so easily played.

I would never again agree to be in a relationship if the girl wasn’t willing to get off media. It’s caused problems in every relationship I’ve ever had. You want me to call you my woman, stop sexually marketing yourself on media. If you can’t get off media then you’ll be a plate forever.

OMG this is so true about women cheating on Alphas. I had a girl in my rotation for close to 6 months and she had been pushing for us to be exclusive since the 2nd month. She did everything she could to make me commit, did every freaky thing I wanted her to do, skip days off work if I called her, always getting me gifts and stuff. While I treated her good, I did nothing close to any of these, and went weeks not speaking to her, only calling her when I wanted sex. Around the 5th month she started becoming a little more aggressive, telling me she 'loved' me and she's willing to spend the rest of her life with me. I never told her anything of that nature back, and I noticed it made her pretty hurt. Now there's this other guy she was talking to. She always told me the guy liked her so much and kept telling her he wanted something serious, I just took it that she wanted me to compete which I wasn't going to. Long story short, a few weeks ago, she brought up the guy in a conversation we were having and how clingy the guy was and how she pretty much tries to avoid him now. I was a little curious and poked her a little and she told me this guy PROPOSED to marry her. I was confused and asked if they had sex, and she confessed to it, crying and telling me she regretted it. That she kept feeling she wasn't good enough for me and felt she needed to explore other options. I told her nothing serious could ever happen between us both and told her to give me space for a couple months. She still messages me everyday and sends gifts from time to time telling me she'd never be foolish again. SMH.

I’ve been getting my bachelors in Red Pill philosophy and focusing on my business, hunting, fitness goals, and training for a road bike race. Since finding your channel I’ve flown from Phoenix to Nashville to Dublin to Ístanbul and I’m just beyond impressed with your way to articulate these ideas rather than the RSD route that boosted my notch count in my 20’s but wasn’t addressing several of the topics you cover on your channel. I’m interested in diving deeper since it’s rare to find someone with your humility and class dive deep into these issues and I just wanted to say thank you for doing what you do Richard. Keep the Truthbombs coming brother 🤙

It's not just sex. She is comparing you to the funniest, most compassionate, most social, highest earning guy she has ever been with. She does this not fully understanding increases in each positive trait come with drawbacks in the others. A high earner most likely is not going to have the time to be spontaneous or have time to hit the gym to obtain rock hard abs. Chris Rock said in a standup that women do not want to move backwards on relationship standards. All the way until she describes her ideal man as a mythical 10/10 in all aspects.

Sounds like a whole lot of reasons to have sexual morality enforced. You know like every single society ended up doing. When this is abandoned society collapses.

I’ve been sharing your Before the Trainwreck series with my brothers from another mother. Thanks for keeping the info going Rich! Very much appreciated!!!!!!

Just stay single and work on yourselves, problem solved.

very good interview / chat - Paul / Apex mindset - very smart guy - As far as chicks phones / txt - if you start playing detective - then there IS something wrong - trust your gut.

Paul’s the best. His channel Apex mindset is criminally underrated.

Why a man should put himself in competition with a woman's past lovers. That is fucking crazy. Let's say you win that competition, now you have a job for the rest of your life to keep frame. Knowing the firs time you show a weakness, and you will, she will start looking around. Take care of you and your resources and enjoy living life your way. We all die alone.

The two truly scary things about women are that most will never take responsibility for anything, and they will self-sabatoge their life, have no idea why, and blame men for it. He’s right, if a woman doesn’t see you as her best option the relationship will not last so don’t even try. It’s better to be with a 5 that respects you than a 9 that thinks she can do better.

Ever since I heard you use this term in a prior video.. I’ve been dying to understand the whole concept behind it and here it is. Thanks!

Just want to give both of you a sincere thank you. Job well done.

In b4 KZfaq deletes this gold coz a feminist reported it

Ran into that myself. The guy kept butting into my relationship and my then girlfriend was clearly a borderline personality behavioral type which invites this behavior. She consistently allowed him, after I investigated her emails, to make personal decisions for her and constantly tried to meet her in his city. I guessed the guy liked the pussy but wasn't into a relationship. There is no winning this scenario unless she finds you to be above this guy in overall physical and financial tally. Now I'll say this, the Alpha guy saved me from a huge painful mistake because this chick was a fraud in total. After the smoked cleared she had a criminal record and a varied past in sex work and prostitution. This chick cleaned up like you have never seen and found a dude to use for money that she kept well hidden. I learned that con artist are everywhere. I don't know what her true intent was but I gathered she tried to go strait and narrow with me only she had no clue what that was like. Then the game started and once I was able to look behind the curtain it was truly ugly.

That was excellent how Paul explained at 11:13 how women are hard wired to be deceiving. It makes perfect sense

So much eye opening stuff here, thanks guys

Great content guys.

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Solid information, learned and saw a lot with in my own past interactions with women as well as a few young bucks I mentor. Thanks fellas keep it up 👍😎

Paul is a great addition to the team!

I leave my socks on the floor dirty, a day later they are in a draw washed!! As soon as this stops she is gone .

Thanks Gentleman brilliant advice and great insights... God bless

Alpha windows are basically red pilled women when you think about it.

I like Paul. Wise, humble and straight to the point

Ive learned a lot, these lessons shud be mandatory in schools

This vid tonight is great education for all Males and how Women think... keep up the great work...

Paul's channel is awesome, this was a great vid

First guy shouldn’t expect a woman to be dedicated in the first month of dating and as you said never ask for exclusivity. He hung himself

This is one of the best of BTT- funny thing about red pill, it is really about understanding how conditioned all of us (men and women) by a gynocentric imperative. Alpha widow as a concept that can be understood cognitively. This video really helps one understand how pervasive and powerful this effects so many relationships. Shows sides and levels of female behavior most men cannot even fathom.

Awesome discussion guys! With regard to your points on women keeping their EX’s floating around on their social media feeds. I experienced this first hand! Called my last EX out on this behaviour and she “attempted” to correct this by unfriending about 10 guys off Facebook but the red flag was there and I bailed. I moved away (from Toronto) and have blocked her. However, she found a way to contact me through a rogue email account and was doing her best to find out how I was doing and where I lived. 😂🤣 I ignored the email and blocked her once again!!!! Once I move on that’s it, never again!

I hate when the commentators claim “oh back when I was a Chad”. Nobody buys that, you complain about women for a reason, Chad has no reason to complain. Not buying it.

There's no alpha widows, females etc. They're feminist plane and simple.

Super show!I love it!Respect!

I’ve alpha-widowed a couple of girls over the last year - their dating went to shit because they now compare every new guy to me. Even men with far higher status and ‘value’ than I will ever have are second best, because they are available and seeking commitment, whereas I am not.

I’m not religious at all, but listening to the stories and the stats around notch count for women. It’s clear to see religion is an old philosophy for primitive people that has so much valuable information and insights. That’s why I don’t dismiss or criticise people who are religious. The ancient people knew that women are better for themselves and their partners if they haven’t been ruined trying to act like a man’s nature.

Gotta love that plug for that coffee cup ☕

It’s hard to hear all this information about women and not grow resentful of their nature.

40:52 is my exact story. BPD "LTR" with a lot of distance (military) was eroded after 5 years by nearest beta comfort provider (literally neighbor). I am absolutely sure I am her apex and she repeatedly told me as much in her own words, but she constantly feared being abandoned, especially while I was deployed. It was hard for me to understand for a long time but this "Bambi-legged reverse dread game" concept puts it all into perspective. Now I'm wondering if I should have just let her fall to plate status... she's Alpha Widowed for sure now so I doubt she ever really moved on.

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This is priceless wisdom coming from an Ex-Chad. In the end, many women who were lookers will fade in their looks, and they will be frustrated that they married a beta man in the end. Yes, they married for security but they will dislike him and will be embarrassed of him when she is out in public with him. Chad Flex was her lust dream but it did not materialize so now she has to settle for Robert The Nerd; a Physics teacher who is an adjunct faculty member at Yale or Cornell University. USA.

avoid em at all costs 😖 pay attention to the words “costs”

more with this guy!! legit stuff

What a fucked up world we live in.

One best videos for info on here

Thank you so much.

Some chick that rimmed me about 80 times is getting married. Kiss the bride.

12:00 ~ & 58:00 ~ From here just love it

If you suspect she's been alpha widowed it's bc she has been. Never check her phone unless she trying to check yours. Always have options and make sure she knows it, that is the difference bw alphas and betas.

Grateful 🙏

I thought that was Fedor Emelianenko

I had a ons with a chick and as I’m leaving her house at 5 am I opened the door and met a guy that was her ride to work. Clearly a friend zoned dude that has known this girl for years trying to get what I got in a few hours…

They can smash that wine 🍇 lol what harm can it do its only 14 %

23:44 The ideal situaton in the "enforcement" of Socially Enforced Monogamy is for every one man to marry one virgin bride. Religion was used to get this in place, but apparently nature has successfully "fought back"

13:10 there is a video where a young woman made a dating profile as a guy and did what she thought would net a lot of girls based on what she "knew" to be attractive and found out the reality of it within a week.

🤔 Deceptive By Nature? I didnt know that

Thanks Paul; Apex Mindset for reminding us to hit that like button LOL

She took down her late hubby pic after a few weeks. But prior status was on her mind. I Gave her the best feelings in her life. But the earlier years were social status entitlement materialism.

Hey, really interesting podcast. I have one question tho: How does the dynamic change when she's really a widow? So she's been alpha widowed by a guy who's literally dead? Does it make the situation better or worse?

31:30 what to do when a girl keeps past couple pictures when dating you

That or the women who were trophie wives to alpha. They don’t understand that they have deprecated and that’s why there ex is with a new one who is 20 years younger. I have a friend who is last years model trophie wife, I was trying to explain why men her own age with the cash her ex had only pump and dump because they might ride in a banged out old camary but they buy the new car. A rich alpha doesn’t put another mans garage sale trophy on his mantle.

Women take the last names of men that they respect and see as high value. Aka DMX' ex wife, David Bowie, Eddie Murphy and Mick Jagger's ex wives! Despite their wives being divorced, they still keep their ex husband's last names. As they have been Alpha widowed! A woman cannot and will never move from their best. Also Friends Actress Jennifer Anniston is the perfect example of someone who is Alpha Widowed. She will never move on from Brad Pitt.

Sometimes you learn more from seeing the other side when a woman shows you attention and they have a boyfriend.

What is "Frame Control"? Sorry, I am new here, I keep hearing that.

Hey guys, if women applies the same attitude towards you that I see in those videos best is probably not to try mixing at all.

Homo sapiens is not a monogamous species. During most of our evolution we lived in foraging groups where polygyny and polyandry was the norm. Once you realize that you‘re free.

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IMPORTANT QUESTION PLEASE SOMEONE ANSWER OR MAYBE A DEBATE. I FULLY UNDERSTAND THAT WOMEN WILL BE ATTACHED TO THEIR CHILDREN.....BUT IS THERE EVEN A POSSIBILTY THAT THE FEMALE WILL RESENT THE CHILDREN SHE HAD WITH THE MAN THAT WAS NOT HER IDEAL MATE? ESPECIALLY IF THE ALPHA WOULD COME BACK INTO THE PICTURE, SHE SORT STARTS TREATING HER CHILDREN WITH RESENTMENT. I COULD CARE LESS HOW SHE TREATS ME, BUT ITS MY CHILDREN THAT I WOULD BE CONCERNED FOR.

I agree with he alpha presence/sexual desire. I was the "best sex" of a courtships sexual history. She actually reaches out to me once a month trying to see how I'm doing. I am definitely good on that. lol

The bigger the hoop? Shit! She's been wearing those all week!

The only real solution is to avoid the marriage trap.

I agree to not bother long distance in the US, but bro, you really DO need to look over Columbian women if you "think' that women are the same everywhere, They are NOT. most emphatically. I DO agree that you should never get involved with, much less marry, one over which you dont have some sort of a club, and when you lose that club (ie, she becomes a US citizen) it's time to dump her and get another one where she came from . I definitely had oneitis plus the "Romeo and Juliet effect" over my first woman, 45 years ago and it messed me up for many years. She was married to a man who made 10x as much money as me. I couldn't believe that the dumbass didn't dump her over the affair with me. It went on for years and years. She even moved in with me (twice) Both times, 6 weeks later, her having refused to help me pay the bills. I called to ask him if he wanted her back, and he DID! Sheesh, once I can (kind of) see, but TWICE? However, that has proved to be an inoculation against it ever happening again. I had to marry my current lady in order to stay in Columbia and to get the VA money for her college, and her college loans. and of course, also to get her into the US. I'm 71 and she's 21, tho.:-) By the time she's free to divorce me, I'll most likely be too old to care, if I even live that long. (ie almost 6 years). She's a sweetie, very smart, lovely, sexy, but without that "club" of her (badly) wanting to get a college degree and go to the US, I'd never have risked it.

Not guna lie. I've been ploughing Paul's tail for years

40:00

What sort of weak beta is going to pop the "where do we stand" question? Good Grief. All this adds up to women being the stronger sex in this context.

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Will the first guy who she has kids to always be the alpha, will another man be able to take his place?

When a girlfriend was ovulating I often noticed that her breath smelled different.

In my 20s, I was very good looking, even though I was 5'7" and skinny. This was during the mid 90's. I ran across a web page titled "How to Lay Girls Guide", and even though I was getting tons of sex, I read through the site to see if I could add to my ability. See, word got around the girls that I would have sex, even do bondage on them safely, and that would be that. I didn't kiss and tell, I never disrespected them, and I never manipulated them or got attached. So I was having sex with all of them. I was the go-to guy. I saw some neat tricks on the site, but I don't like being manipulative, so never practiced the techniques. I have checked into the culture off and on over the years, and have picked up some very valuable insights into how a typical woman thinks. Ultimately, I think The Game is bad for you. Men cannot have inconsequential sex. It affects our ability to bond just as much as women's. The cure for adultery is not more adultery. No one is a player at 90. They are a dirty old man, and I do not want to go out like that. I listened to a Hank Williams song "Rootie Tootie", and it describes plate spinning. That was the norm until the boomer generation. The difference is you didn't have sex with the plates. This culture has a lot of insight to offer, but some things are unhealthy. Eventually I got bored with sex and went on a long celibacy streak. I think that was my psychological immune system righting the ship. Just my train of thought and 2¢. Sex before marriage is bad for everyone. - John

Well I'm alpha as fuck haha. So I'm not worried about it. I'm the ultimate alpha ghost

So thousands of years of evolution has ended in a system which is optimized on our survival. And what do Woman do? They break it, instead of choosing the best male, scoring in all five categories, she choses two scoring higher in different categories...

Every "wholesome" ex I've ever had is still single with no kids. They're still trying to hook up by any means They want to have kids with the best option. They will always compare suitors to their alpha...forever 17:40 reminds me of banging a girl before her boyfriend picks me up at her house to drop me off at the train station to go home. Dude had no clue She was 19 and I was 16 😂

Short nerd and bald nerd telling other nerds how not to be nerds. Classic.

It's cool the MLD guy has overcome his feelings of low self-esteem and come out finally, great to have gaay representation in the community...

MLD checks his boyfriend's fone, of course he does, he'll always cheat.

That Paul guy is somewhat annoying, have no idea what women see in him. Sometimes when men like him brag about his experiences there not always true.

How come all these relationship experts have the same vocabulary / sounds like a 'religion' quoting a bible ....John 3:16 ... Romans 10:13 etc LTR SMD FRAME etc

Don't get into a committed relationship ever. Modern people are so toxic on both sides but particularly woman as they are greatly encouraged to be that way. Also the whole it's your job as a man to provide and it's natural for women to want the best provider thing is not true historically or biologically. It's true culturally post industrialism but really much more recently then that. For most of human history woman were partners in providing and infact probably did MORE do provide then men and the children helped as well. This is true for most mammal arrangements. It's always been shared provision or females do more or even all providing. Even most non mammals have this arrangement. Ever watched birds build a nest, hatch eggs then hunt for food doe the chicks? Is it the male that does it all? No it's shared they both build the nest l, they take turns sitting on the eggs/hatchlings they take turns hunting. And this is true for most human history. Stop using this so called natural inclination as an excuse for shitty behaviour.

Gotta love that plug for that coffee cup ☕

There is no honor in being a victim