People with angelic parents will NEVER understand those who have demonic parents. So easy for them to give beautiful verses without understanding the other person's situation.

Abusive parents are a greater pandemic than Covid-19 and the damage they do is deeper and more enduring. I was in a suicidal state of mind for years because of a lifetime of being degraded, beaten, and all the while being told I deserved it. When I told them how I couldn't stop wanting to die, they basically pushed me aside and told me it wasn't their problem. My pain as caused by them is simply, "not their problem." Walahi, if it wasn't for Allah, I'd be dead today. It was emotional hell on Earth for years. I'm leaving soon Inshallah, now that I'm stronger and stable thanks to Allah's guidance. But really... every time they tell me they love me (which is as rare as the new moon), I know in my heart it's a lie - it has to be. Nobody can truly love someone and simultaneously do everything they can to break that person's spirit. Sheikh, I hope that you thank Allah every single second of your life that your mother's presence could have only been bettered by an angel's. The darkness that I and millions of children are throw into because of cruel parents is wicked and many are not as fortunate as myself to climb out of that darkness. Jazak Allah Khairan for making an effort to talk about this.

sadly no one talk about narcissist abuseive parents.. because they hide behind relegious power they have.. very sad.. but remember ALLAH is watching

The fact that all of us looked this subject up and are watching this shows how hard a child tries and fights to keep up their relationship with their parents and to keep obeying them and Allah swt. May Allah swt bless us and give us sabr for this

More and more Muslim scholars need to start talking about this, it has turned into a generational trauma throughout the muslim ummah owing to the patriarchal toxic mindset. This is turning into a malignant disease and extended family DOES not like to intervene or even believe or empathise with the abused. There are so many wounded souls carrying this pain with no relief in sight even after middle age.

What a brilliant topic. I was thinking about it last night. Why do our parents only speak of their rights and not their children’s rights? What about my mother beating us so bad that I once passed out? How about the fear that paralized me when my dad came home. Not knowing what would trigger him and the madness will continue for hours or even days. I’m almost 60 and I’m carrying all this. The good thing is I’m a very good daughter who raised my siblings and cares for them. I’m a good daughter to my parents and I’m the ONLY one who had to move from Europe to the MIddle East in order to take care of my mum when she needs to e-cards for. I wait for my reward to be given by Allah most high. I’m not bitter I’ve forgiven them but my mind is carrying the trauma. Alhamdullilah for everything. Alhamdullilah.

I really wish this topic was more addressed in the muslim community. When your parents called you a burden your whole life and constantly told you that you were never gonna be succeed in life and physically and emotionally abused you it takes a toll on your self esteem, confidence and how others perceive you.

i was raised by a covert narcissist and it was a huge mental distress. im the first born, so the pressure is bigger than the rest of my siblings. stonewalling, silent treatment, being pinched till my skin was little ripped off, my thighs were full of bruises, cuz pinching me was her favorite. but i couldn't defend myself. my dad kicked my head too. I barely have "happy" childhood memories with them. I learned Islam by myself, and at school. I forgave them but the scars are still there. I know that what happened to me was written in the Lawh Mahfuz, so I tried to accept whatever that had happened to me. After mental health awareness, i determine to break the chain of domestic abuse, i don't wanna be an abuser like them. Its embarrassing that in my age, i still have to appear to be busy so they don't get upset. I think the idea of "parents are always right" needs to STOP. We, children, aren't their possessions who can be treated as they wish. We all belong to Allah, and in the akhirah, parents will also be questioned about how they take care of their children. Please make more this kind of video. Im suffering from PTSD, and it affects me greatly. I hope by raising awareness, more parents will be more aware of their actions. 🙏💕🕊

Name Calling kids as monkeys, buffaloes, pigs are also an abuse. Constantly judging children from their past mistakes, bringing up stale incidences by a child and poking it trying to prove as parent that they were always correct is also a form of abuse. Dictating to kids all the time and infringing their self development is also an abuse. Turning kids away from seeking parents help is also abuse. Chasing them away when they do not behave as per family rules is also a abuse. Not understanding the child’s needs wishes, desires and piling up in them filial responsibilities is also an abuse. Telling children that you are a burden, useless, good for nothing, what’s the point of giving birth to you, you are unlucky. Will just create a child who will be scheming to get away from the parent as much as possible. Manipulative,Narcissistic and Mean parents do exist and a lot of children suffer till their very old ripe age because of their parent’s behaviour. No Islamic reminder or Shahaba story can embalm their hurt or make their pain fade. Only make them hate their parents more and more. Such kids need only one reminder! Yes Evil exist in many form. Stay away from hurt and keep away from what reminds or continue to hurt. Allah is very Just and HE knows best.

Some parents really damage their children then act righteous in front of the world

Another topic is the ignorance of Scholars through their lack of experience and unwillingness to open their minds to the experiences of others and make rulings surrounding those experiences. Not everyone gets to live a perfect simple life.

Comment section is way more relatable than the entire video itself

I think we need more people talking about how it is wrong to abuse in the friday khutbas because that is where our parents go every friday to listen to advice

I've been struggling with this for the longest time. You just never know how to handle these kind of situations because some parents really damage their children but we feel incredibly guilty to speak up or know how to react because we're always told about the rights of the parents but not the rights of the child.

We need to heal. The pain is too much. May Allah heal us all.

Lucky those who received unconditional love from their parents, they cannot relate and understand that’s why it’s easy for them to love respect and obey their parents, and the support that they get from their parents of course no one would want to lose such parents

the way the parents have tortured me from my childhood and torturing me now in my adulthood, i can't express the pain, why are these people allowed to be parents

I had to leave the house and my mother alone because I couldn't take it anymore. I had severe depression and anxiety because of her behavior towards me... I try to mend our relationship but she is so difficult and is guilt tripping me (to come back) that I abandoned her and that in Islam it is bad. But Allah is a witness that I was at my limit. Just today I tried again to call her but she kept refusing it because I didn't call her one day so "Don't talk to me again, forget I am your mother"... People speak so much about how children need to love and honour their parents but never on what a parents should and shouldn't do. Tbh I felt like a slave and in her understanding Islam allows it.

i hate when videos like this don't emphasize on the intensity of the abuse, and how detrimental it is to the child, parents like this destroyed their children's life, i want to hear about the punishment they are going to get when they die, i want scholars to berate an abusive parent with as much intensity as they berate a disobidient child. they dont deserve a single ounce of respect.

The one statement that has left my heart broken and bleeding is when I was about 12-15 years old and my father said to my mother "I wish you had been infertile." My father is a narcissist. He is abusive; resorting to physical, verbal and psychological abuse. He makes things up about the rights of a father in Islam to benefit himself. He dictates me about my duty towards my younger siblings (who were abusive towards me in their ignorance). We live under the same roof and often times he wouldn't even acknowledge my existence. I'm a 27 years old woman and my father still threatens me with physical abuse. And he has turned my heart away from the idea of getting married because Wallahi I don't feel safe around men. I won't ever be able to trust a man as my husband that he wouldn't resort to beating me up and abusing me.

I have tolerated my mothers narcissism my whole life. She not only destroyed my self esteem but also did black magic on me and my brother. Just to have full control of our lives to destroy our lives in her evil way. We told her abuse to our neighbours. But it backfired on us. She convinced them that we are lying and we are being ungrateful.

I didn't come here by coincidence I actually looked at the topic. I'm 30 but I have never told this to anyone but I am consistently abused by my mom. Not physical but emotional 😭 Since my first year of university , we moved from the family home, I took an apartment for the two of us cause I couldnt take the constant pressure of the house, she was fighting with everybody. We've been through hell. I've never let down of her. Now Alhamdoulilah things got better. But I'm exhausted by her toxicity. Whatever I work hard for whatever I achieve she always says it's thanks to her cause she prayed for that. She is consistently controlling me and everything little aspect of my life. She is very supertitious, thinks everybody is her enemy, Cold War war every neighbor.. telling her family want to kill her, she doesn't use her own bathroom cause there is some evil inside, doesn't want to eat in the dining room cause there is something evil that wanna kill her, doesn't like to use the kitchen cause something evil is inside.. doesn't even want to sleep in her own bed cause the devil is inside I had to fight with her for her to actually sleep in her bed.. she put some weird stuff in her bedroom's window to block evil eyes..It sounds crazy but that my life with her. Lately she is having feet pain when the pain comes she cries telling this is the work of evil people they wanna kill her. I'm like mom let me take you to the doctor she doesn't want to. She is using encense which is supposed to chase away evil. I can't stand the smell, I suffocate in the house, give me headache because of the lack of oxygen. She also uses some red and white powders telling itself healing her. She puts it everywhere in the house. I have to clean my bedroom three times a a day.. because I couldnt deal with her lack of hygiene, I hired a maid to clean the house on a daily basis cause I can't work and clean the house several time a day. She just accused them of different things just to get rid of them. Now we are alone again, she puts dirt everywhere the second I clean the house. She is now using my bathroom and I'm using hers cause she is afraid of hers. The state of the bathroom she uses is unbelievable you have to see it to believe it. I am even not mentioning her behavior with my love life. I have sacrificed my whole life for her to be good cause her entire family rejected her. I make money but I absolutely have no savings cause everything have to be spent on her and the house. It's actually my apartment I'm paying for my own money but I don't even have a key for my own apartment. She keep telling I'm not responsible enough to keep the apartment key. She made sure to destroy the relationship with my dearest friends telling they are evil. She curses me sometimes telling I don't respect her I don't love her I don't I don't... God knows I don't wanna do her wrong or hurt her in any way but sometimes I just explode cursing her.. I always cry after doing that cause I don't want to act in a certain way with her and I'm ashamed towards my lord Allah. But God knows the hell she puts me in. Sometimes I just wanna kill myself and end everything cause I don't want to do. I cannot reject her or cut her off. I'm so tired. As I write I feel so weak cause I'm so tired of her. And I am remorseful cause I'm afraid I'm a bad daughter. I'm afraid god is not content with me. I can't talk to anyone cause I'm even ashamed to tell this to anyone I know. Please pray for me as I always pray for myself for Allah to help me and give me sabr to endure this persisting emotional trauma. May Allah help everyone who is dealing with abusive parents.

I've experienced that good parenting is the only way the children become grateful adults who respect their parents. Thing is good parenting or even parenting has been going down for the past 3 dacades. When the parents are horrible, not necessarily abusive but even irresponsible, non virtuous, proud and indifferent or childish and unaware of their responsibility, the children just instinctively grow up not having much affection or respect for their parents despite developing superficial personal awe throughout childhood.

I wish my parents could understand this.

Please please talk about daughters rights on parents as well which are so badly neglected and out of respect we daughters stay silent,no rights in inheritance,emotional blackmailing,putting pressure on daughters to go against their husbands,do too much for parents but still they are not happy.please please do we have any rights in islam i wonder.

Yes this topic hurts every single person with narcissistic parents/parent They are severely abusive, mostly in invisible ways - emotional abuse It's frustrating that so many religious personalities repeatedly use the term 'OBEY your parents/you must be OBEDIENT to them' when nowhere in the Qur'an or hadith the term atee'ul waalidain is mentioned Atee'ullah wa atee'urrasool (obey Allah & obey the Prophet ص) is the only command mentioned & for parents only 'birr ul waalidain (goodness, kindness, etc towards parents)' is mentioned only Please correct this repeated advice as I have yet to come across such a command in the Qur'an or ahadith JazaakAllah khair

Yaqeen institute please make a detailed series about parenting in the shadow of Islam. It will help young parents in shaping them in right direction. There's a lot of confusion about the right parenting. Parenting itself is a huge struggle but if we are sure about the right way it will bring ease in the process. It's a humble request, please make a series about this topic. JazakAllah Khair

Jazakallakhair for this video. You are right, yes this video doesn't help children of highly abusive narcissistic mothers 😥😢😰😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Allah SWT has to provide special help to such helpless innocent children😭 Thavakkalthu Alallah🤲🏼

Only because they have given birth us that doesn't mean that whatever they say are right . Again we also need to express our thoughts and feelings. It can be different from their opinion but it doesn't mean that we are wrong and ungrateful . Why parents nowadays don't understand their child's thoughts. It's so much awful 😢😓.

Jazak allah khair sheikh Omar I agree with many in this comments section, this Didnt Help. critical cultural issues have been overlooked in the discussion , it's so much deeper than this , what about an alcoholic dad, someone who is unjust to his kids , physical and emotional abuse, parents that aren't respectable in their speech , fathers that commit adultry , evil mothers that compare and are passive aggressive, toxic house holds , with no love , what about the people that never had relationships with their parents because of all the problems and pain and abuse and have become avoidant even if they are in the same home and much more . This doesn't scratch the surface and leaves us with more frustration and pain. Like many said this needs to be elaborated and taken to much deeper levels , because when you're not a victim of abuse it is difficult to understand the dark dynamics of it and what the victim suffers and how they suffer.

In the Arab world and Muslims world we all the time heard about parents rights but we never hear about children rights😰

Masya Allah. angels in your presence series brought me to this, i hope the team will put the subtitles in new videos since i’m deaf.. jazakallah

My mom is 73 and a liar. How can I be in a good relationship with her when I never know if she is honest with me. Because she was a very beautiful woman, she thought she was something better, she disregarded people who weren't good looking, or had some disabilities. A beautiful woman with a very small brain. How can I honor her when she only honors people that she has some benefits from. She made a hell of my and my siblings lives, and her attitude shows if she got another chance, she would do the same hell all over again.

thank you so much for being the first one to help us relieve ourselves from the one sided "guilt" of not having good parental relationship.

Harassing children is not Islam, it's just a part of Arabic culture. May Allah SWT bless us

Thank you for being one of the only scholars to address this very important matter. May Allah SWT bless you endlessly for it. A recurring problem in the community is the abuse coming from narcissistic mothers. It’s heartbreaking to a child to not be able to find the comfort needed from a mother or honour her in the appropriate way because of constant, often undeserved abuse. How does a child go about honouring a mother and bearing her when she refuses to show empathy and constantly demeans the child in the attempts of pointlessly displaying a power move? Narcissism is hard to “diagnose” because the individuals are manipulative and often display fake images of themselves in the public, while being abusive in private. Clinical psychologists all advise to 1. only have superficial conversations with them (anything more will lead to verbal abuse) - this is not really a viable option if you must live with them 2. Have 0 expectations for them to improve, 3. Just leave and don’t contact them again. Islam justly says to not severe the bonds of kinship. So especially when it’s about such an important figure in Islam, it’s hard to just say “I’ll leave forever and not contact again.” Therefore, how does one protect themselves from the narcissistic mother? I appreciate this isn’t something everybody can speak about, as it is a very complex situation, often not being understood by those who did not undergo narcissistic abuse - it is the type of abuse where a child lacks the inherent love from their mother, and faces either collateral or direct damage from gaslighting, manipulation and shame from her. However, it is a very important issue that I have seen occur to a lot of people. I just need advice on how to fulfil my obligations and not incur the wrath of Allah, while still keeping sane 😭😂

Thanks for addressing this. This topic has torn me for several decades even under the 10 commandments and even more since I have become a Muslim. Because of domestic violence, emotional and other abuse, mental illness of both parents. The obligations to honor and even obey someone who continuously still abuses, without being aware of it. - Yet I believe, no-one gets more than he can bear. And yes I believe, they have been as good parents as they could have been, under their understanding. After Allahs plan.

Unfortunately this video just doesn’t cover the extensiveness of abuse. It’s easy to cover the big topics on abuse and go by the politically correct answer. And I feel this approach to be the same for whoever you go to for counselling. It is always the rights of the parents or in my case the rights of a relative who brought me up from the age of 12. How much can parents/ those who brought you up actually get to dictate what you do in your life? Must you always listen to what they say and live their way of life? What about the clashing cultures of being brought up in the west and their ways and views of life(of course within Islamic boundaries). How much do they actually get to dictate in your life? I.e making a decision on who you marry and what you study, making you feel like a disobedient child when you have a slight different view. This video didn’t really answer much for me and I definitely think it’s a topic all people of knowledge speak upon. The same way topics of marriage/hellfire/obedience to parents etc are covered, emotional abuse, narcissism and blackmail of parents need to be covered. So many people who are now in their 20s and 30s are still dealing with these consequences. It is truly disheartening. Let’s speak about this more.

Thank you! Khabib incident really made me a little depressing because my situation isn't the general situation every like child parent has and this video soothed my distress, alhamdulillah:)

The only thing i do nowadays is pray to Allah to get me out of this abusive, careless and manipulative house. No one has any idea how they damage your inner self and you bear this damage throughout your life time. Nothing will ever gonna heal you if you don't get the love and care you deserved from your parents.May Allah has mercy on us and grant us jannatul ferdous for passing this unbearable pain of this life .

My parents mentally abused me with harsh words throughout my life, even to this day. I have forgiven them but the long term affects are horrible. I have children now and I have soo much struggle with my inner anger. When they do anything minor I feel like yelling at them. But Alhamdullilah my spouse has taught me how to keep my anger in bay and how to calm myself. Its such a horrible feeling. So much turmoil within myself just because I was abused. We need to speak more about this subject to the elders. it's so harmful and I feel it's in our Genes at some point. My sweet child sees me angry and I feel like hes learning it from me unknowingly 😔

Thank you for this inclusive topic Sheik! May Allah reward you and your team for all your work and make it easy for the children suffering because of their parents.

Parents like this so much too in my country.indonesia😢😢 stay strongh heart and sabr ,sabr until the last time.we realize we just tested in Dunya .sabr reward from Allah will we got.aaamiiin

Honestly now I had been so much physically and mentally broken now I am numb. I have lost faith in everything and just living my life as a looser and being a looser is not that easy you are doing hardwork but atlast you know there is no good result daily wakeup listen negative things about yourself and act as normal and at night close the door and cry. But now I am used to it🙂

As a revert this has helped me a lot. Alhamdulillah I still have my father but I haven’t spoken to my mother in over 6 years (before I reverted ) through out my childhood and teen years she was in and out of rehab and very abusive I ended up in foster care for a time. My father was never contacted during that time. And my last straw was when she abused my daughter. And I haven’t spoken to her since. I’ve forgiven her and wish her no harm but I just don’t believe I need that kind of toxic relationship in my life or my children’s life. I’ve been a revert for two years and this has always eaten at me because I felt I was failing Allah

My father was so abusive verbally when i was a teenager. I was affected very badly. And at that time i have been thinking he is right and i am wrong. And i was affected mentally so bad to the point which, he degraded me as 1/2 mentally affected person in front of relatives. He sometimes say "it would be better to have puppies rather than you which would be thankful than you". He treated me like a burden. And i still have bruises, I still have superior, interior issues and struggling to associate with society. Now i know who was wrong and who was right. if i even try to love my father my heart hates him. Even if i try to associate him my heart feels uncomfortable. Whenever he is present in my happiest moment i feel discomfort. I can not manage those feelings. what i do??????????

Sometimes a emotionally unstable, young single parent can become harsh, and unloving, become abusive or unappreciated towards a young innocent child may Allah forgive them. But this topic needs to be addressed more

Needed this. Especially after Khabib. Its not the same for some of us.

I wish we had more examples addressing abusive parents who twist the religion to justify their abuse. Living with a parent like that is a nightmare, its living with an emotionally immature bully who acts like its okay to use their family like a verbal punching bag to vent out their problems leaving everyone around them psychologically scarred and messed up.

Totally true !! I personnaly suffer a major prob th my abusive father ......I still never reply to his verbal abusive language......very hurtful and degrading......at the limit of saying your trash not my kids .....may God give me strength and he his 81 !!!

Jazakallah ya shikh for covering this topic as I'm always feeling guilty regarding my parents and it hurts me alot as i feel there's no hope to make things better.

This Sheikh's words are so wise and priceless.Much respect👍🏼🙏🏻

Thank you so much for this! ❤️ It is of extreme importance that this be spoken about. This “unspoken” form of abuse is so prevalent but we are made to hide in shame. I plead you to please go deeper into “narcissistic parents” specifically. 1. What are the characteristics of narcissistic parents? 2. Describe the forms of abuse that can take place (physical abuse, emotional abuse, gaslighting, smear campaigns, favouritism). 3. Describe the effects of this abuse on children (both young and older children). 4. Describe why this type of abuse is wrong. 5. Describe what healthy parenting looks like. Why I feel it is important to address all of this is because for a lot of us, our experiences haven’t been validated. This is extremely traumatic. The guilt and shame when it comes to leaving your parents as they are given such a high rank in Islam makes everything more difficult. Of course, one should only go no contact ONLY AND ONLY if a situation truly warrants this; no one should ever take this lightly nor do I. But if one must like I had to, the guilt and shame of it is difficult. Having to pretend in front of your in-laws and others that all is well in your family when it isn’t takes a toll. Many people also don’t seem to understand how the parent can be wrong. “All parents love their kids”. Explaining to most people this kind of abuse is futile because people only focus on the rank of parents in Islam, NOT on the way a good parent should be. It would be amazing for someone in our Islamic community to speak on this. I personally would feel so much more at peace and I know I am not alone. I completely understand that it can seem daunting to speak about narcissistic parents as some people may accuse parents who are actually not narcissistic as being narcissistic. But I am certain it can be done in a way that would still respect our beautiful religion’s teachings while still honouring us as human beings. Please please please kindly consider this. ❤️🙏

Some parents will ware out their children to some levels. Some abuse is actually emotional, they will torment you into thinking you have not done enough for them

Dear brother, jazak Allah khair for reading my comment and request for this important issue. You can see by the comments that many people, young and old are suffering

Definitely a much needed topic requiring more discussion and help for those negatively affected by abusive parents.

JazakAllah Khair, I really needed this. It hurts when i listen to a khutba and the imam constantly mentions parents and love your parents and respect to parents and don’t disobey parents and how children can be horrible to their parents sometimes and I feel like a lot of imams can sometimes confuse cultural norms. I went to an imam for help for mental, emotional, and spiritual abuse from my parents and he dismissed me and actually made things worse for me by telling my parents- not in a way of support but look at your daughter airing your dirty laundry kind of way. May Allah forgive us all.

Jazhakallahu hair. Please we need an extensive series on this🙂 may allah give all of them who goes through abuse, betrayel etc by their parents a high level of sabr( patience) 🙂ameen ya rabbal alameen

We love to listen you Imam Omar. No matter how long it is.

Jazakallah khair I really needed this May Allah allow all of us to improve ourselves and our relation with our parents and our family members and also allow them to do the same, and may Allah keep us patient and grateful in these circumstances

mashallah sheikh has a so calming voice .may Allah bless him.ameen

Jazakhallahu khayr for addressing such an important topic. May Allah reward you for this and all your efforts 🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾🤲🏾❤️

Whoever going thru family problems, may Allah give you sabr it’s only a matter of time and everything will go back to being okay your almost there InshAllah.

Jazak Allah Khair for speaking beautifully on a difficult subject.

I really needed this. Alhamdulillah.

JazakAllah for great words.

Mashaallah Jazakumallah khairn

the fact that we all seached this up is so sick itself

Definitely a topic that needs much more attention and help given to those negatively affected by abusive parents.

JazakAllah Khair. Sheikh you have helped so much. May Allah reward you.

I know from very close friends that a lot of them leave the religion because of their parents. There’s a lot of lectures on parents right but barely anything on children’s. And the trauma breaks their faith…

great topic. Be blessed.

Thank you so much for bringing up this topic.. Thank you so much.... Thank you so much......

JazakAllahu khayran Shaykh.... So beautiful explained ❤️

I have my mother yelling at me no matter what I do.. I have done and sacrificed so much for her but still she hurts me and swear at me and sometimes it becomes unbearable..and most of the time her yelling doesn't stop until I say something...my mother had hurt more than anybody in my life and it just pain and hatred that I don't care about her feelings anymore.. even if I try to be kind .. it's gonna hurt me .. she's gonna take advantage of me.. I don't want to be hurt anymore..so I Just stopped caring about me..it gave me depression, abandonment issues and trust issues and a lot of trauma

Jazakallhu hairan.. The message is soothing me .I am in terrible situation.

Amazing Amazing beautiful lecture Dr Omar Suleiman! thank you in such a heartfelt way, which I've never thanked you before for this deep subject n reminder :)

May Allah reward you, and protect us 🤲

Thanks br Omar, I did my best and I'm still trying to do my best

The long talk was necessary. Jazakallah Sheikh.

Thank you so much. I was looking for something on this topic for so long.

jazakAllah for sharing this. Allah guide us all.

Allah bless you, really appreciate your effort towards helping those experiencing much emotional trauma with connection to this important topic and as a result live in confusion as to how to behave and respond both internally and externally , as islamic counselling and religious knowledge and guidance is much needed for inner peace

Jazakallah kheir

Sheikh, may ALLAH bless u and ur intelligence. Amiin.

Beautiful advice Jazakhalakharian brother

may allah bless you sir

Good, balanced, video. I wish more men of religion had this courage and clarity.

I do understand most of this but i have questions. What kind of abuse do you mean exactly? What to do if you try to talk to your parents about what is hurting you but they turn the blame on you and basically guilt trip you questioning your level of religiousness all the time? That's abuse too. Also, it's sad to accept but most of the times when parents are abusive relatives can't help bc they either are not on your side or they don't want to worsen their relationship with the parents. I would also want to hear at least something about parents abusing the power they are given and what falls into that category for example. The biggest reason why I am still afraid to seek help from e therapist is because i am afraid to overstep and to do something sinful where i will be in the wrong, but it's really getting unbearable at this point.

Just wanna highlight one thing ...we ain't talking about abusive narcissit mushrik parents we're talking about muslim parents who practice islam,pray 5 times a day, Read Quran daily, have a perfect social life and yet abuse their children with all kinds of abusiveness that y'all can imagine beating, burning their children alive, cursing them, making fun of them in every occusion ,not giving them the bare minimum of affection, nutrition or any kind of requirements of life ..may Allah help us all to pass this test and be the best of ourselves to worship him and not to disobey our parents as possible as we can Allahouma ameen

I needed to hear this

hasbunAllahu wa ni'mal wakeel !

A unique and deep perspective.. ♥.. just like you've considered the unnoticed topic and people, May ALLAH consider you always for HIS MERCY and Love. Aameen

I have been mentally, extreme emotional and physical abuse from my parents. Ya’Allah I have tried my best to amend and overlook but where these words became so hurtful that I had fully had to close off completely because I have to a stage where I do not want to be in this dunya and be at peace. Ya’Allah forgive me. I have tried but the door has been shut countless times 💔

Thank you. I needed this. I am not muslam, i learned so much from this ❤🙏

Masha Allah

Jazzakallah akhi or ustadi Dr omer may Allah add to all of your efforts on the scale of the Hassanah

May Allah reward you with Jannah Firdaus without reckoning. Aamiin.

Dua @2:17.....Ameen So good

Id rather distance myself from my family than end up in arguments with them amd potentially disrespect them. I have written letters stating clearly that I love them and am grateful and cherish the good memories, but that I need certainty that they will stop doing certain things if I want to be near them again.