THANK YOU FOR THIS. So many people tell me "that's just the way things are in Indian culture, it never affected ME" and completely dismiss what I went through. It's good to know I'm heard and not alone 💕💕

Why Kea is my favourite "Asian content" creator is that her image of asian parenting isnt excessively negative, and shows the more caring side of Asian parenting too

This video hit me like a punch in the gut. My mom said exactly what you said, "What have you got to be depressed about? You have food, shelter and education that WE provided. You're so ungrateful. We didn't raise you to be like this." I realized then that it was a transactional relationship from the beginning. They were only pleased with me for following their instructions at the very specific moment they required me to do. I was not praised for my personal achievements or was told I was loved. Now that I'm an adult, I don't miss or have any positive emotions towards them. I've also been told I disappointed them. I have been struggling with severe anxiety and depression since I was a teen. Everyone noticed except them. I'm in therapy and on meds now. Thank you for making this video.

As a fellow Asian kid, all I can really say to this is, EMOTIONAL DAMAGE

From my POV, it's not that hard for parents to say 'I love you' to their kids (including mine ), the hardest phrase from asian parents is ' I am sorry' when they're messing up with our feelings. Cause they are always right. ( Even if it's not )😢

Excellent grades and good behavior wasn't enough for my Parents. I had to put up with their wrongs, ignorance, and overall imaturity, all while being forced to be "respectful" to their disrespect.

As a neurodivergent Asian, I thank you for this.

I'm so so glad you did this video. The comments of people one-upping the abuse they suffered on your videos always makes me anxious. I was very lucky, my dad was beaten and swore he wouldn't do that. My best friend was taken to the bathroom to be hit by her mother, in front of people her mother would say "do you need to go to the bathroom?". It's given her life-long anxiety and panic attacks, she's also claustrophobic and can never be with another person in the bathroom.

I'm not Asian, in fact that's about the only thing I'm not, but being raised in a 'Winners come from a Strict Upbringing ' or rather the Staying On You Like a Hawk is How I Show Love & Concern, yeah I know about that. And the Inverse as well...

What makes it even harder to heal is that our parents will never think they somehow damaged us growing up, you can't confront them otherwise you will be seen as ungrateful and you will be emotional blackmailed. They indeed tried raising us, but the emotional abuse, favoritism, those are some of small things that are taken for granted by our parents, I hope we become a better generation of parents now that we know the consequences.

07:38 - I know my mum won't be ever be proud of me no matter how much she says she is because on average every 3-4 weeks, I keep getting the whole "the family line ends with you" because I'm gay speech... I swear if I ever have kids through say IVF or adoption, if I EVER hear that poison poured into my children's ears, my mum will never see those kids again as I'm not having them go through that crap like I am. I have a BSc and an MSc in Biomedical Science, am a state registered practitioner and am working towards clinical consultant status and I know it isn't good enough for her unless I'm straight.

I love how you touched on a serious subject both in and out of your character. This is how your popularity will continue to grow among the Asian and Non Asian demographic of your subscribers. As someone who is German, Spanish and Cherokee Indian, I truly enjoy your work and wish you nothing but continued success and always look forward to new content.

Why do I relate to this so much I have the complexion of an uncooked tortilla

So often parents can seem like godlike beings, but as you grow up, it turns out they are people too with their own issues. Many of them had limited access to mental health care or perhaps chose not to pursue it, so whatever issues they may have will come out. Usually it’s with their closest family. All we can do is strive to be our best selves, pursue mental and physical wellness (they’re so strongly interconnected! Git that exercise!), and be kind to ourselves. No need for perfection, which just adds more pressure to life, just aim for wellness and a peaceful mind.

Oh my God you’re so accurate for this video. Thank you so much for making this. I grew up in a Pakistani household and yeah, my upbringing was very super strict. I had to make perfect grades all the time. Any mistake I did, or I caused would be not only my fault, but also bring shame to the family, so yeah, I totally agree with you on this video, thank you so much

It's both validating and a little sad when I realize the upbringing I had may have caused some of the issues I struggle with today. In any event, thanks for making me feel less alone. ❤

I love how aunty Kea also gets her share of voice to this😆❤️

As a parent, this hurts me so much. I just want to hug you. I am so lucky to have a young teenage daughter that has always been so open with me. I had to change the way I behaved with her from an early age. I am very sarcastic and joke a lot. However, noticed some jokes would hurt her and we had to find out boundaries. That's how we ended up where we are now, she will tell me if something I said hurt her. It can be something so benign to me, but she would make it into something else and only way to get over that is to talk. Her confidence is so low, the last thing I want to do is walk over whatever she managed to build up. We've done therapy and I believe my biggest achievement as a parent is that she feels like she can come to me no matter what. We literally flicked a coin to find what subject she should chose for her GCSES! It was a trick I learned. Once you see what the result was, you know how it made you feel- if you're disappointed then you know the answer!

Yes, my parents liked comparisons They wanted me to follow other people's expectations and accomplishments I can't find success, career, happiness, or take my own journey in life

I am white, not Asian, but growing up my father was constantly telling me that nothing I did was good enough. That affected me for most of my life. I always felt like a failure that couldn't do anything right. But at least my mother was loving and encouraging. Without her I would have gone mad.

Thank you so much for this Lyanna. And thank you also for ending it with laughter. "Tumulous" 😂😂😂

I'm not Asian, but I have found your videos both hilarious and unfortunately relatable. And then I've found the comments "this was my childhood, too lol" to be very sad. Because it shows how many people had an at least emotionally abusive childhood, though this video gets into the physical abuse as well. And how often cultural upbringings are normalized as "that's just how it is." So thank you so much for making this (and all the rest of) your videos. You make us all laugh and relate and see ourselves. But then making a video like this about how so much of that wasn't okay was very needed. Thank you. ❤

I would have definitely cried after recording this video and going through that trauma one again. thanks for bringing up this topic.

Thank you for this video, Kea. I’m white European, my parents were very strict, and being a girl, they were more strict with me than my brothers. Depression was very bad as a teen, plus ED, nobody helped, because I was young and a girl, it was “normal for young girls and I will grow out of it”. Took me years to overcome my depression. 😔 But I have good relationship with them now, but I’m 28 now.

The Indian gentleman is absolutely hair goals! 🤩🤩🤩🤩🤩🪬🪬🪬🪬🧿🧿🧿🧿

I know this is not related to the video but I just wanted to shout out how you do such a perfect cat eye! I am always in awe of your makeup. But also thank you for spreading the message to take care of your mental health, because it is sorely needed.

This hit every cord in my body! As an adult and mother now, I understand so much about my parents now, then when I was a teen, especially my mom, who was the breadwinner of the family. However, it doesn't excuse the traumas, the reverse pyschology, and the negativity I have received from my childhood. I've learned to forgive my parents, and I do try my best not to do the same to my kids.

Thanks sister Lyanna for the video.

Lyanna getting input from friends and followers on mental health is a great thing because we are all crazy broken!!!!😂 Getting it right like being raised by committed loving parents that employ not only caring and mentoring love but tough love when our arrogant ego's get the best of us is not always present in a persons home. Just talking about mental health is a good thing. For parents the hard reality is that you have to really work at projecting the best into your kids. It is not a accident that so many young people are drug addicts and resort to violence and bizarre socially deviant behaviors. It is because parents are either totally absent from their childrens lives or no one in their life has given them unconditional love which I define as tender caring affection along with the sincere intent to beat their kids ass if they do not behave in a respectfull and moral manner. Thanks for taking the time to have a disscusion about the nature of our personal insanity as human beings😂. You came out really crazy talented in your own very peculiar way!!!!!

I thank God my mother being both Bipolar and schizophrenic and sometimes mentally attacked toughened me up during my childhood. My sister on the other hand was deeply affected and it still shows even in her adulthood, which most mental issues stem from, our childhood

i will stay quiet. my stories will make you cry yourself to sleep. i'm surprised i'm still alive, Great Topic sista. I love your channel

its the people that can overcome that, especially if they did it all on their own without help, cuz they didnt know how to get help, that i admire the most. it took many decades for me to finally admire myself

Lyanna , anything we deal with in life can effect us all .we just forgot to stay strong and forget keeping things to ourselves can make our minds far worse so it's best to talk to people about what we go threw it actually helps .

I have a really strict mom and everything she could bring up like “every day I see other people kids listen to there mother not like mine”

Lyanna! When I was around 10 years old sitting with the other boys out the back of the school (smoking bits of basket weaving cane coz we knew it was naughty & thought it was cool - tho we didn't know the word cool yet) & one of the boys said "I know I'm in trouble when my dad takes off his belt!" Some of the other boys nodded. Another boy said "I start running when my Mum brings out the feather duster. She gets me with the cane handle!" Again the other boys nodded. Then they looked at me & one said "What do YOUR parents use?" I was embarrassed coz my parents didn't use implements. I said "My Dad just uses his closed fists". I was embarrassed coz I thought it made my family sound poor & I took the other boy's sudden silence as sympathy for my poverty. I was ashamed. love Steve Holliday

I tried therapy. The therapist just compared my childhood to growing up in a concentration camp. After that, I stopped going to therapy. Weights and long drives/walks help. I recommend the Meditations of Marcus Aurelius; it helped me.

As a retired life coach/ re-integration coach ( helping people work more wisely after burn out) this one moved me to tears. Thank you Lyanna for helping young people recognize the traumatizing parts of their upbringing, find their way to BetterHelp and also normalise getting help.

i like how she completely changes by just wearing that head band (if that is what its called)

Thank you for making this. I grew up in an abusive situation. My mother's second husband always made me feel small and that I was bad. My real Dad a lot of mental health issues and was yelling at me. I was also bullied because of my weight and when I asked for help, Everyone told me to ignore it. So, I learned that my feelings meant nothing to anyone and I meant nothing to anyone. I've had trouble with relationships, I ended up in a terrible job and I think about killing myself a lot. I really hope that the people in the video find love and happiness. Everyone deserves that.

THIS WAS NEEDED!! THANK U SO MUCH LYANNA!! 😭💕

I'm gay and in a middle class Indian family from east delhi and it's kinda horrible and the horribleness is expected to grow with me.

Much Needed Video Thanks Lea ❤

This is such a good topic. Thank you for this episode, Lyanna.

Thank you for this ❤

OMG. This was a great video. I watch all your shorts and love them very much. Keep up the great work!

One problem with having a strong mother is that if you have troubles and you're like, my mom had it so much harder. So I can't complain.

Thank you! I love this!

I love when you add outtakes at the end because I love seeing your natural reactions & laughter

I love this!!!!

I luv. All ur videos but I think it's the best one I've seen I'm glad you touched on this topic keep up the good work ❤

Video show what a great and real person Kea is. Total respect from California!

UR AMAZING LYANNA!!! I LOVE UR VIDS!!!

I need more than YT comments to describe my upbringing and mental health. I suffer from IBS too. I believe this made me a better Stepmother. I have a GREAT relationship with my step kids and I think it is from my lessons learned on how NOT to parent.We can break the cycle! Thanks for this though. Makes me feel less alone.

I had low self esteem my whole life bc of my upbringing. When you're told your stupid and useless and worthless your whole life, u start to believe it. Always got the crap beaten up bc of my very low grades. Constantly being compared to classmates or siblings. I mean there's no such thing is depression in the chinese community. Decades later I started to see a mental health specialist but I feel the damage is already done tho. My mental health specialist said it's going to take yrs to undo what happened

This was refreshing. its always fun and content. But this was real. Longterm fan keep it up 🎉

I'm mexican, my upbringing was strict in a way that I was basically groomed to please my narcissistic parents and the people around me. Comparisons between others was common, I learnt to do everything they wanted, exceled in math, music, science, they were very strong parents, but saw vunerability as weakness and something that I had to be ashamed about. I slowly learnt they were controlling me, and when I began to express my own individuality everything turned bad. In a way I was scapegoated as a child, so basically all their flaws to keep the "happy family image" were passed onto me. I was basically a human punching bag to them, mentally and physically. Afterall if they are "perfect", they need someone to push all that "unperfectness" they hide. and of course they are never the imperfect ones. They used the excuse of moving as a "family" to make me "follow their ways", without even considering what I liked or respecting my own beliefs. This takes a toll mentally, because you give them a part of your "self" to them to keep them happy. And if you don't notice with time it can lead to serious complex-post-traumitic-stress-disorder without not even knowing. These types of parents, like mine basically are like vampires, they use their own children to feed their own ego and make them codependant so as they never leave them. The worst is that, no matter how much love you give them, it will never be enough, its like pouring water in a broken glass. They don't even love themselves, how can you expect them to love you back. Its f'd up since the beginning. It was never us, and we were never the real problem. They see children as extensions of themselves instead of individuals and proyect onto them their different personas so as to not take responsability of their own dark feelings and family traumas. Gaslighting, public shaming, love-bombing, scapegoating and violence to control children is extremely dangerous, it is not ok. For people who have survived this, we have no option but to reparent ourselves later in life and learn to love ourselves, because no way in hell our parents will do that.

Thank you for such a meaningful video, I found something very familiar in each situation

I hate that "it's normal here and that's how they show love or they're just worried about me" NO. I hate my mother for years of degrading me, calling me fat, hitting, barely showing any kind of affection that wasn't bound to good grades. I get that's just how she's grown up but that doesn't justify causing emotional damage to her own children. Edit: I respect her, her life was not easy. But I don't think I love her.

Love the ending. Very good!

I love how it'll be 2-3 posts of silly dancing and threats with a sandal and then like, a quality little look at mental health and asian parenting or one of the saddest clips of a mom who is sad her daughter won't eat her food now. The range and honesty is so good.

My mum was Polish and I'm white AF, yet my experience of discipline and expectations aligns near-fully with those of many Asian first/second-gen kids. She also hit me with shoes, fly swatters, belts, etc. whenever I did the slightest thing that wasn't aligned with her ideas about how I should be. I was never allowed to do anything: couldn't talk to boys (yep, at all, even classmates lol), couldn't watch most shows (Friends and even The Simpsons were too sexual), had to get A+ or I would get yelled at and grounded, wasn't allowed out ever, etc. She was also super homophobic (turns out I'm gay lmao). I'm also traumatised and it's definitely affected my mental health, so thanks for talking about it. Your Shorts are a nice, light way to process some of what I went through. I'd be curious to see if there are broader similarities between eastern European and Asian cultures in terms of upbringing.

That was great!

This is a great video that people should see and learn from

I am white European but I understand all of this so well. The grades were always the most important thing for my father. I was never allowed to go out or even have a part time job. I had to sit at home and study, even at university. I graduated from the university he chose for me with the best grades and he just said "Of course you have all As, you are my daughter". I never heard from him that he is proud of me. And because I spent all those years at home, I now lack the social skills normal people have. I have no friends, because I couldnt get any while in school and now as an adult it is so much more difficult.

My dad gave me a shit time since I had a cousin who got all A's for her Ordinary levels. A few months later she eloped with a guy and got pregnant, after that my dad stopped comparing me to anyone 🤣

I'm not Asian but I feel like some African parents and families are like this. When I was living with my aunt and her husband I definitely experienced tiger parenting and my Mum is perfectionistic so I have high expectations of myself and I'm a people pleaser and apologise too much but it's good to see I'm not the only one and that I can make it.

Thank you for including "caucasian" - that term always confused me as a kid because it has "asian" in it!

I love your video so much they are Soo funny ❤

Girl my mom always wanted to be a doctor so she would always focus me to do medical studies

I really crying my eyes out 😭❤ Not even because of other people

Nice work! Good to get Auntie Kea's perspective...

There's a whole support subreddit for people to discuss the abuse they face from their Asian parents. It can be really helpful to validate that you're not the only one who went through - or is going through - hell. It breaks my heart to read posts from.kids who are still in it and can't yet escape.

I am Japanese, and I can relate to what people were saying in the video. My parents were super strict, and I was not allowed to hang out with friends or go anywhere. I got hit and kicked often and slapped with slippers was very common. I wasn't allowed to even read normal books. My father said if I had time for reading novels, I was expected to be studying.

I love Aunty Kea's cameo in this!

My grandmother never told me she was proud of me until i turned 40.😐 All my life i got compared to cousins and other people.

damn, that making me feel proud park really hits home

That ending was great 🤣...tumultuous

Before I say my piece, i just wanna say that i absolutely adore you and your channel and that i don't mean any disrespect. I just don't understand why people need to fork out so much money to get help with their mental health when really they can do it themselves. I've been seen by so many therapists since I was kid and i can honestly say that not one of them helped me any way. I'm 44 now and i still deal with depression and anxiety but i don't feel the need to seek help from a professional when the conclusion will always be the same as before with no positive results. I find it more helpful to just rely on myself. Wether it be singing or drawing or doing something else that i like doing, there's better ways than talking to a total stranger about what's going on in my head. I know I'm only one person and that not everybody is the same, i just feel that there's so many things you can do to help yourself without spending a bunch of money.

It's always the "I didn't have this kind of luxury (freedom), so you should be grateful for whatever we have for you and shouldn't cry about things you don't have" There are many things I can't do as a child, but mainly because I have an autistic brother so the family's freedom is pretty restricted. I can't go to birthday parties or sleepover because my mother has to take care of my brother so she can't take me out for too long and my parents have over-protection issues. No, they will loiter at the door and demand my leaving every 10 minutes, even when I was 18, and my dad waited at the entrance of the bank when I was having a job interview because "it might be a scam and you could be in danger". I can't even go home (in an East Asian city) without receiving a call every 15 minutes. Even at work when it's 5pm, I got calls from my mother while I was having a meeting with my colleagues, and she wouldn't give up calling. Then I get shamed for "not being grateful for having caring parents". Going out to dine also a luxury because it's embarrassing when my brother screams and throws fits. Fast foods and snacks are banned in the household because it triggers his temper. So as a child, I can't have any food that makes a child happy. No sweets, no chocolate, no chips, no coke, no sugar. Also, my parents HATE sweet things and any forms of play, so no playing, reading is my only freedom in the household. Moreover, my parents have "inferior status anxiety" because we aren't well-off and neither of my parents went to college, so they always fear that others/relatives may look down on the entire family. The worst thing is that my maternal cousins are 20 years older than me and they are really good at studying, got straight A's without force or help, got into top-tier universities, became doctors/lawyers/big corp headquarters management, we're talking about USD 600K+ per year after tax. The constant comparison was terrifying and I HATE family reunion yumcha. Luckily, now that I have worked for 2 years and now supporting the entire family, and finding out that all those years of over-protection and banning of entertainment only fortify my love for games and snacks, they lifted the ban. I still receive fat-shaming, short-stature-shaming and ugly-face-shaming every day, but there's nothing I can do about it and that's the end of my rant lol

You need understanding on both sides. If your parent had it hard with physical needs (having food, shelter), it's gonna be really hard for them to understand your self-esteem and self-actualization needs. I have a medical diagnosis of anxiety attacks written on actual piece of paper, yet my parents never accepted this as a real thing. My parents did everything they could their entire life to take care of their family and children. But they did also go through a lot of hardship that I never had to face. So while I'm upset about it I can also kinda see that it's hard for any person to understand concepts that never bothered them. It's hard to understand that you have some mental health issues when you have everything needed to develop healthily. I developed anxiety not because my parents were strict or had high expectations but due to some sort of their own anxiety of wanting their children to have it good, of always fearing for us, of always doing things in our of place so we didn't have to, a sort of love that is so great that ends up being toxic in the long run. So how could such a parent understand or accept that sacrificing everything for you meant you still ended up having issues. Not tangible issues but emotional ones. That's another thing we usually fail to understand ourselves. That a parent accepting you having a mental issue means they failed you still. They'd have to accept that they did you wrong and when they work their asses off for us, it doesn't sit well. To some parents it simply doesn't seem real - having it "all" but still not developing right on the basis of something that they cannot see. Either way, it's not fair to anyone, but now that some us are adults and can see better, maybe we can understand them a little bit better too. Maybe it can help with our own issues. Maybe it can help us in our own parenting.

Aunty Kea gives me LIFE!!!🤣🤣🤣

As an Asian growing up, I realized both my Dad and Mom weren't that 100% strict but still kept the pressure of doing good in school - which was fine for me back then since my friends are mostly there. I am also allowed to visit my neighbors house and just play with them as a kid. Yep, the occasional slippers, belts, hangers, and kneeling on salt with books on both hands, the broom are all present but wasn't that much an everyday scene in our household. And we have this Aunt and Uncle where me and my brother actually tells what's happening to our household. Their like our "therapist" and they don't rarely tell mom and dad whatever we told them. We also grew up with my Dad and Mom having "affairs" which also contributed to what me and my sibling are. And I realized after so many years, even after they passed away (RIP Mom and Dad), they both prepared us for the harshness and realities in life.

As a kid who grew up in a Filipino household all the things they said is so f-ing relatable AF bc when I was a kid between 10 to 12 I suffered from severe anxiety and depression,i always ALWAYS got compared at school with my classmates for getting a score lower than that girl for example I got a 98 over 100 and this girl who got a 100 over 100 my mom would say " aiyo why she get a perfect score and you only got a 98 u r so f-ing dumb why cant you study hard and get a good score haiiya" and they would beat me up with a hammer sometimes a belt which caused me a severe trauma and insomnia so I am so thankful that I was not the only one who's experiencing the this ❤

OH MY GOODNESS 😂😊you are awesome 😎

Thanks beautiful ❤❤❤

I love Luana’s Tic Tok work. I come from a low socio-economic level loving Provençal family and I can easily relate to those stories. Not all caucAsians are like this lovely red headed man (good for him btw!).

My neighbor studied every day of the year for college entrance exam. He studied almost every waking moment. His only mental relief was his pet fish. His threw his pet fish out of the window so he would have zero distraction. He was devastated. It was so cruel and traumatic.

Yes it can

Tbh my Chinese parents are those who-in my friend’s POV-not typical Asian parents. They respect me, they care about me, they support me, they love me (they will show love verbally and physically), they help me during my downtimes…seems nice, right? No. I got serious anxiety since 7th grade and huge depression in high school (I’ll cry all the way to school while driving, skipping classes, fail exams…). I really hope I was born in America-unfortunately, I was born in China and stayed there for about like 10 years. My life back in China, back in elementary was HORRIBLE. My dad used to be very strict on my grades and everything I did. He always spank me in the face-he once did this in front of my teacher and yeah that scared her a lot. My mom, however, she’s always lovable and kind. But my dad was…huge, like, with muscles. So my mom, she can’t really protect me from physical violences, and she’s also very busy because my parents ran couple organizations back in China. My low self-esteem, low self-confidence, and lack of courage that builds up to my mental issues started in elementary school. Everything worsen up because China don’t really care about “mental health” and it was until 1st year in College I founded that my illnesses are something called ‘mental illness’. But things changed when we immigrated to America. I was in elementary school when we moved, and things just got better. My parents don’t want to start an organization anymore so probably that’s when they started to really slow down in life and began to care about other things. My dad started to be reasonable year after year, I remembered in 7th grade, I got multiple Ds and F in classes because my English SUCKS. He saw my grades and came to my room with my mom, telling me that he understands my hardship in languages and as long as I tried my best, he think I am an amazing kid. This was first time ever he talked to me like that and I was shocked, relieved, and cried my eyes out. My dad changed the most, and I am very glad that we got to stay in the US and living a completely different life-a much more wonderful life. However…my mental issues has been building up back in China. I was sensitive, I got serious anxiety issues that I will be out of breath when it hits me; I got depression once in a while (it’s not serious but depression is there inside me). My parents didn’t know that my weird actions are mental issues, neither do I. Later on in college, I started taking psychology classes about mental health and that’s when I found out my actions has names such as ‘anxiety’ or ‘depression’. But it’s already too late, for me. Luckily tho, I convinced my parents on learning about mental healthcare and they understand my past actions have explanations. They feel very terrible that they didn’t realize something was wrong with me back then; so now they insist me to confess my feelings to them whatever and whenever--and it actually did help me to control my mental issues, for me tho. So personally, I’m very lucky to have two understandable parents-even things wasn’t great from the beginning. For now, 2024, I haven’t got my anxiety for about 3 years; depression too. Sometimes negative feelings will hit me, but I always walk myself out of that hole of depress. Now I can joke about the life back in China with my dad and how harsh he treated me back then, because he has changed so so much and I know he love me and my mom more than anything in this world. I hope all the kids who grown up under harsh parenthood can still love themselves and find a way to climb up that stone wall filled with hardships in front. I’m not saying that we all should try to communicate with parents and let them change their minds (this won’t happen most likely), but we can care about ourselves and let us be the first priority above everything. I really hope we all can live a beautiful life, and you know, a butterfly needs to overcome so much life-struggling hardships before becoming that pretty, lovable creature.

I am a mixed child and grew up in Europe. Growing up I felt my mother was very abusive (she was) both physically and emotionally. It made me feel unloved and worthless and left me with low self esteem. Watching comedy by such creators as well as living in Asia now-it makes me Feel my experience is more "normal" and be able to laugh about it and move on. This is not to diminish my own responsibility for my mental health and wellbeing, but helped me to let go of that attachment to the pain of the past and that feeling "why me..."

Love you

The rainbow duster, every Asian had one in the household. Whenever my mom hold it, I immediately froze bcs it was used to cane me quite often when I was little.😂

YESSSSS, I'm a Mexican-American!! Free yet overprotected❤

Mental health focus 👍

My mother was an intelligent, polite & loving person, who gave us all her love & care. My father was a rude, manipulative jerk, who wanted just to take, and not to give. He saw children as an investment in his own project, and free-of-charge servants at home. When he has died, we all were very happy.

I’m white (German American), and I’m 40 years old from central Pennsylvania. I got smacked on the mouth, whacked in the butt with a yard stick, and if I didn’t clean my room my mom would literally come into my room and knock over my book case and furniture and destroy my room. Now, my condo is pretty much always cluttered. Oh the irony.

The Queastion Were Your Parents Strict My Answer :Yes😂😂😂

You rock. I’m not Asian, but Jewish parents do a great job of messing up your MH. Thanks for sharing this.

Same

Not Asian, but this definitely raised some "tummulous" memories... Did anyone else get the cattle-prod? 😂