Canadian Habits that are Rude in Germany!

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@fraueinblatt3696 4 жыл бұрын

You can modify your food in Restaurants everywhere in Germany. Only in Berlin it seems to be different ...

@habi0187 4 жыл бұрын

You are completely right I don’t like tomatoes and every time I asked to prepare my food without it was no problem except in Berlin. The waitress made it look as if it is a big problem to provide my salad without tomatoes and after some argument about the service quality I just canceled my complete order and left the restaurant. If they don’t want my money I will not force it to them. To summarize Berlin is not Germany and they are specially rude.

@wizardm 4 жыл бұрын

You can modify but it's not normal and it's a bit annoying for the personell.

@klamin_original 4 жыл бұрын

Which is another great example that Berlin is not like Germany. It’s more like a sometimes hated island of its own

@robertzander9723 4 жыл бұрын

@@habi0187 Berlin is special and that is fantastic, i don't know where are you going to eat , if i asked somebody to modify my food i got it, because I am a friendly person. Otherwise I guess there are a lot of food on the menu without tomatoes, so you maybe should order them. I think you are one of the guest that have to complain about everything, only to feel important.

@davefromberlin2274 4 жыл бұрын

Because Berlin is a different country, right....

@meinich5488 4 жыл бұрын

Berlin is a strange place in Germany, it seems. I've never liked it. And it is not representative for the whole country. No problem to modify my food in a restaurant. Living in the north we aren't really famous for talking to much, but it's not generally seen as rude starting a conversation or smiling for some reason. May be it's the neighnourhood to Denmarkthat makes us relaxed and happy.. Same in NRW- ou are seen as rude if you refuse a conversation.

@waelfaraj6705 4 жыл бұрын

As a person who has lived in Lebanon most of my life , ... I see some Germans do not like to have conversations with people they do not know unless there is a good reason to talk...

@boahkeinbockmehr 4 жыл бұрын

Though in nrw, or at least the Rhineland you are expected to be mockingly rude in those conversations. It's some kind of game of goodwilled insults without getting personal.

@boahkeinbockmehr 4 жыл бұрын

@natalie storm what? Berliners are notorious for being the most rude and unfriendly people in Germany. They even pride themselves in it and call it Berliner Schnauze...

@aseriesoftriangleswecalltr6065 4 жыл бұрын

@@boahkeinbockmehr Da hast du Recht. Berlin ist furchtbar.

@lovefilles 14 күн бұрын

I absolutely love Berlin! But yes, it is stressful to live there. I even want to go back living in Berlin.

@janehand2 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve never received weird looks when smiling at people in Germany. Most often I realize that I must have been smiling because people smile back at me.

@Kaefer1973 3 жыл бұрын

I've yet to meat a single person anywhere in the world (though my travels were limited) who doesn't like to be smiled at, but that's only true for actual smiles, put on smiles can even make people agressive.

@alexandraboye109 3 жыл бұрын

We’re smiling back, because we’re nice people, but we don’t want to talk to strangers haha smiling is no problem tho

@ThePrandox 4 жыл бұрын

Recently I ordered fish and salad at a restaurant. I told the guy that I want a steak instead of the fish and fries instead of salad . Was totally fine.

@ulrichlehnhardt4293 4 жыл бұрын

best comment!

@Luziemagick 3 жыл бұрын

Hahaha..picky you..lol

@Tom-hz1kz 4 жыл бұрын

Another one: Congratulating someone to their birthday before it is their actual birthday is a total no-no. People will outright reject your congratulation and tell you that it is too early. It is like with the baby: Do not celebrate before it is there.

@davefromberlin2274 4 жыл бұрын

If your birthday falls on a weekend and your colleagues on Friday don't wish you a happy birthday, I find that very rude.

@martinbinder2534 4 жыл бұрын

@@davefromberlin2274 They wish you a belated happy birthday on Monday.

@rudigerk 4 жыл бұрын

@Hauke Holst Das passt aber im Grunde nicht zu den jüdisch-christlichen Fundamenten des Abendlandes .. siehe: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/q7ukotacx761mIk.html

@tramper42 4 жыл бұрын

6:28 my view as German: if someone I do not know, came with a bright smile towards me: 1)he may to sell me something 2) he is the joker 3)he just escaped from (mental) prison and is glad to have found his first victim today 4)I have dirt in my face 5)my zipper is open 6)he has seen a friend behind me 7)he is happy for a reason I hope that will not hurt me I guess there are more possible thoughts... but the majority are not positive. Ok, smiling at other people baby’s or making myself weird looking by waving, is something I do also. But in general German do not smile without a reason/as a reflex.

@leisen9679 4 жыл бұрын

Ja, das stimmt. Leider.

@saeed10140 4 жыл бұрын

Sounds like Germans need a drink!

@tramper42 4 жыл бұрын

theguy : since 16 I had one or two drinks :-) ... Not smiling does not automatically mean being rude in Germany... in case you plan to visit, please keep that in mind.

@Kaefer1973 3 жыл бұрын

@David Coker Being emotionally open would be certainly be a more positive start than hiding your feelings and thus naturally being dishonest though. A put on smile is more of a sign for the other to be careful, even if it's just about being careful to mind the local customs. But I agree that a real smile is a good way to begin a meaing positively, a real smile means you are genuinely happy to meet somebody, what could be more positive? It's just the put on smile that has completely different implications. Anyway a smile perceived as honest is never seen as rude in any country I've ever been in, Germany definitively included.

@jensb.6786 4 жыл бұрын

I live in the area around Bielefeld and there it‘s very common to ask for modifications. Also in the south or in the north of Germany I‘ve Never had issues with that. Perhaps it‘s Special to Berlin?

@davefromberlin2274 4 жыл бұрын

I don't know it's your country ask yourself, is Berlin a different country?

@davefromberlin2274 4 жыл бұрын

@Hauke Holst I have been to all regions of Germany in the 7 years I have been there, have you ??

@mayapapaya22 4 жыл бұрын

Same. I live in Bielefeld and never had problems with that. Although I still find the people in Canada nicer :D

@niwa_s 3 жыл бұрын

It's not a problem in most Berlin restaurants either. If they reject modifications you either chose a particular pretentious place to eat or one that only reheats precooked food.

@sebastianmatz2828 3 жыл бұрын

Ich kenne Berlin nicht wirklich. Trotzdem bin ich so mutig zu behaupten, dass es eben eine Großstadt ist. Also, genauso wie Moskau nicht Russland ist und Russland nicht Moskau, so wie London nicht England oder Großbritannien nicht London ist, ebenso ist Berlin nicht grad der Spiegel von Deutschland. Woll?

@HrRezpatex 4 жыл бұрын

As a Norwegian i agree with the Germans when it comes to smiling. That way you can also be sure that when someone give you a smile, it is sincere and actually mean something. A smile from a German or Russian actually mean something, a smile from an American does not mean anything at all. Its kind of the same with their overuse of the word "love", if they say they love something or someone, it does not necessarily mean anything, but if a Norwegian or German say the same in their language, it actually means what they say. I like it when things are honest better then to kind of lie every day just to be superficial, false and polite. Actually i don`t think it is so polite to give a false compliment.

@HrRezpatex 3 жыл бұрын

@Benny Hill There is a middle ground. And yes, both Germans and Norwegians smile a lot, because we are very friendly. But if a complete stranger smile for no good reason, we will mostly assume one of two things, either he is a bit insane, or he is a salesman.. ;) When a Norwegian, German or Russian gives you a smile, you can be pretty sure that it is a real smile and comes from the heart. I am sorry, but since i can not write a book and only write a little comment on it, it kind of have to be a bit simplistic here, even if i could explain it much more complicated and for a long time.

@richlisola1 3 жыл бұрын

She’s Canadian, not American. At least have the basic respect to pretend you know the difference

@HrRezpatex 3 жыл бұрын

@@richlisola1 I have not been in Canada my self, but have a lot of friends that have been there. And you are right, i should know the difference. What i say about Americans(not Canadians) are still the same. All my friends that have visited Canada say the same about Canadians, in general they are much more real then Americans. :) I never thought for a second that she was American by the way. Just as i did not think she was Russian or Norwegian, i still also use Russians and Norwegians in my example. ;)

@vodkatonyq 3 жыл бұрын

Politeness should be a general rule. It doesn't have to do with honesty, but with BASIC HUMAN DECENCY.

@henrikarmani8015 2 жыл бұрын

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@agnes15101968 4 жыл бұрын

Berlin is not Germany, for sure. Whenever my west-german husband has to spend time in Berlen he comes back shocked at Berliners´ super rude and unfriendly ways. He says he would never want to live there.

@matekarlo3430 4 жыл бұрын

Berlin is the best city in the world its open mind and not so strict by the rules like other citys in germany...

@Laufbursche4u 4 жыл бұрын

@@matekarlo3430 Sure. But it's like New York: Much more open and much more rude than the rest of the country.

@Kaefer1973 3 жыл бұрын

@@matekarlo3430 The best City is Lübeck, just ask anybody in Lübeck they will tell you how theirs is the best city, particulerly better than Kiel, which shouldn't be the capital of the state in the first place.

@alcar32sharif 3 жыл бұрын

Meine Fresse ditte is die Berliner-Freundlichkeit weste. Da darf man halt nich so etepetete sein.

@toff1568 Жыл бұрын

@@Kaefer1973 eyyyy, I recently moved to Lübeck! I come from an area close to Hannover and I LOVE Lübeck. The city is beautiful, the people are nice and there are so many corvids (crows, ravens etc) which is a plus in my book lol

@industriebauten 4 жыл бұрын

this was so heart-breaking listening to! Please don't stop smiling at Babies, Puppies or people! It might differ from region to region - but smiling is globally considered as general kindness - even in most parts of Germany. I had a couple of birthdays at work - and as it happened, I received a fully decorated desk, flowers, birthday gifts from my colleagues and best wishes. It sounds like a very rude company where you are expected to pay for your own birthday. You might want to check on that. The Harry met Sally moment in restaurant, where you specify your order and change some ingredients happens every day - in Germany too. Because many people have IBS or allergies and can't digest certain types of food. It is a strange thing when a restaurant refuses to serve these wishes - you might check again on that, because this might have been just a very, very rude waiter.

4 жыл бұрын

When I see a cute dog… I smile. Can't help it, I love dogs.

@SaltedSense 4 жыл бұрын

How the birthday thing works: typically you will receive an email from a colleague that its his/hers birthday and he or she invites you to the kitchen or so to share some cake or drink. The cake or drink treat is to create a nice atmosphere. Sometimes just a get together in a corporate kitchen drinking coffee from the "company machine" will do as well, but you see the difference, bringing a cake is a bit more personal, cosy and just nice. Why is this: first i dont have a clue when my colleagues birthday is, and having to bring them a gift when they tell you would look weird (like he/she is telling you just to get something). Second you are just colleagues, not necessarily friends (although you may like the others), and there are lots of them (especially in bigger companies). See it this way: you bring cake, we bring love. And dont worry, if you throw a birthday party all your guests will bring presents for you! Oh, and about smiling at babies: They smile at you, you smile back, no issue there in small villages at least, where people know each other. Berlin or other big cities with more anonymity might be different, but i doubt this is in full contrast to north america with the usual "helicopter", overprotective parenting there.

@JuLioVasquez95 4 жыл бұрын

Another great video 😊😊. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.

@SilvaLuna 4 жыл бұрын

Here in NRW it is totally fine to modify your dish. Often ppl ask for another side to the menu, other dressing or to leave out something. Never seen that it was a Problem.

@Rehe78 4 жыл бұрын

It‘s the same in Hamburg and Schleswig-Holstein... But in Berlin, depending on the Restaurant you’re in, could be different.

@louismart 4 жыл бұрын

It shouldn’t be a problem in average restaurants. But in very good restaurants the dishes are a well composed work of art. You don’t modify a piece of art, you are most probably not the better artist.

@suveemi60 4 жыл бұрын

I'm from Düsseldorf and never had a problem with this :) In any restaurant I could modify my meal :)

@shadowhunter0815 4 жыл бұрын

@@louismart Yeah but to be honest, if you go into a restaurant you usually are not there to buy a piece of art.

@louismart 4 жыл бұрын

Maguss well, sometimes I go to a restaurant to get decently full. But if I pay 80€ per person or the double or the triple, I am expecting art.

@marcpadilla1094 4 жыл бұрын

I met some Germans here in Manhattan when I was a valet.Very friendly and outspoken. We talked about German vs American cars.What their favorite German car was and they were very impressed with Ford, particularly the Ford Explorer and Mustang. They like muscle cars.

@frs-01-35 4 жыл бұрын

Modifications in restaurants (such as fries instead of potatoes, a different salad dressing...) have never been a problem where we went out to eat. When I get a pedicure people always chat with the person giving them the pedicure. It's never silent. I don't however talk to the other customers as there are curtains in between for privacy.

@seelendomizil1068 4 жыл бұрын

Aww keep on smiling 😊 we Germans need more smiling Canadians. I am sure when they turn around they secretly smile because you smiled at them 😉

@Kaefer1973 3 жыл бұрын

Most people can tell if a smile is honest or put on, if they think it's honest than they are indeed likely to also smile since smiles are infectuous. A smiles is a bit like cough that way.

@NeinDochOhh 4 жыл бұрын

It always depends on the restaurant. Good restaurants have no problem with modifying your meal. Busy restaurants or bad restaurants might say NO to any extra wish you have. It also depends on the waiter. Some are lazy or are paid badly and do not want to have extra work with your paraphernalia or are not so motivated.

@rodduke2040 3 жыл бұрын

I will never understand those who think we make fake smiles. Obviously there may be some but me, my friends and family we are always happy. The smile we make means that we are happy to see others and that we are opened to talk to that person. And don't forget that we are Canadians are not Americans and maybe when you say fake smile you think of them not in us because you've maybe never met a Canadian.

@SuperPyoo 4 жыл бұрын

A quiet salon where no one talks would be heaven to me. I've avoided any type of salon just because they always strike up a conversation with me. I just want my hair done because I can't do it myself. I don't need to know their whole life story and I'm not comfortable letting them know anything about me either. Instead of relaxing, I feel pressured to be nice and pretend to care about whatever they're saying and that's just stressful.

@DianaVerry 4 жыл бұрын

Haha very true 😅😅

@terryomalley1974 2 жыл бұрын

Yikes!!! Hope I never run into you in a dark alley, lol.

@bluemountainw1789 8 ай бұрын

As an Canadian I relate to this. Hate small talk at salons

@Timetravel1111 3 жыл бұрын

Well another great information and funny video!!

@DianaVerry 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Jody! 😊❤️

@IIIOOOUS 4 жыл бұрын

The smiling thing, I miss even as a German in Germany sometimes, but the people here. have just a very serious and private mentality but also very loyal.Kris

@SmallSpoonBrigade 4 жыл бұрын

It's not just Germany, most of the world outside of the Americas doesn't smile unless moved to do so. But even within that area, places with a strong Germany influence won't. It's a lot of work to smile most of the time.

@Kaefer1973 3 жыл бұрын

@@SmallSpoonBrigade It's true that people don't smile unless moved to do so, it's an emotional rewsponse to positive emotinal stimulation, it hard to cause it in any other way. But since smiles are naturally infectuous at least among friends or people of a neutral mindset towards each other, they spread rather easily. And it's not just a lot of work to smile most of the time, it's completely impossible. You can have a put on smile most of the time, and that's perfectly easy, but that won't motivate others to have an actual smile, at most it will motivate others to also put on a smile (let's call it business smile), particularly if local customs demand it.

@patriciamillin1977 4 жыл бұрын

It’s true that it’s sometimes difficult to talk to strangers, I had the same experience when I first came here, but it’s not always like that. As far as restaurants are concerned, I’m always asking to have something changed on the menu and it’s never been a problem. Waiters have always been very friendly about it. I smile a lot, even at strangers, and it generally is returned.

@theklawassilou7910 4 жыл бұрын

When I listen to this, I learn that all the germans in the place where I live would be considered rude in Berlin ^^ Of course, I live kinda at the other side of germany in Nordrheinwestfalen, but here people smile and talk to strangers (well we don't talk to people who look angry at us), order food with modifications (I *always* order hamburgers without pickles :-D) and while we don't have baby showers as such (different traditions), it is very common to buy things for babys before their are born. So yes, I am rather surprised at this. Last time I was in Berlin visiting customers, I just smiled at people like I am used to and they looked happy and just said "Du bist aus dem Rheinland, oder?"

@raphaelmanuelgutierrez6844 3 жыл бұрын

Im happy to hear thats the case in nrw 😁 i am going to live there soon.

@felixlingelbach2758 4 жыл бұрын

Good one, thank you. I like to watch these 'being a xxx in yyy' sort of clips. Watched the entire series 'being black in Japan' :-) I always get two cultures in one clip. This time I learned about my own country.

@xaviermillar9375 3 жыл бұрын

One thing I found a bit strange was sharing a table with strangers. While sitting with a friend at a table for four, a couple approached our table and asked if it would be OK to have a seat. We of course said “yes”. As for the context, it was at a very busy patio right on the town square.

@megremisfamily4music 3 жыл бұрын

Diana, are you familiar with the German custom of the Polterabend before a couple marries?

@tramper42 4 жыл бұрын

5:20 „no modification“ ... depends... yes, don’t expect that they change the menücard for you... 1)please ask friendly... 2) ‚normal‘ changes are in the sidedishes.. if they have potatos on other dishes, they might change that. I ANY chase: do not forget: the waiter life not on your tip. He is at his workplace. You do not want to get him angry. He is a human like you. He brings YOU the food, sooner or later, sometimes much later. In the other hand should the waiter treat you as a welcomed guest.

@alicewonderland2148 4 жыл бұрын

yeah fake smiles, thats what i really need😅

@MrRuumi1 3 жыл бұрын

Seriously I live in Canada and I noticed that their "niceness" is really fake

@Timetravel1111 3 жыл бұрын

Smile 😃 Mine are genuine and I do smile at work and at a dog 🐕 or someone walking that brings me joy. Humm I won’t refrain they will have to enjoy or not my expressions. I am going to fucking smile at you, and laugh out loud at the nail salon, hair salon! I am living my best life!

@Timetravel1111 3 жыл бұрын

@@MrRuumi1 it’s not.... it’s Minnesota nice 👍really

@taminy2051 4 жыл бұрын

I'm German and I constantly start conversations with strangers! Perhaps I do it in a special "German" way, but I'm bored stiffless in queues and most of the time simply start a conversation. No problem!

@LawtonDigital 3 жыл бұрын

Another thing to note is that some words don't translate the way a North American English speaker thinks they would. Examples include: "friend" is not "freund" in most cases, and "warm" can be rather tricky in unexpected ways.

@lovefilles 14 күн бұрын

True! I remember It cost me so much money on my birthday that I stopped telling when it was my birthday. and restaurant, yes! The waiter is right, not the client!

@andrewmay3001 4 жыл бұрын

The title would be better phrased as "in Berlin " city in western and southern Germany are different it seems. Happy 2o2o!

@CoolHeadHotHands09 4 жыл бұрын

As a traveler in Germany, I've met a bunch of friendly strangers on several occasions; who pointed me in the right direction when they saw me perusing my city map. Apparently, I looked like a lost tourist so they offered me help without me asking. A German woman I struck a conversation with while waiting for a train even offered me a ride on her car to my destination when we got off the train. That being said, I had a different experience. I am far more comfortable starting a conversation with strangers in Germany than here in Seattle.

@LauraTheRed 4 жыл бұрын

I've lived Düsseldorf for four years, and I still smile at everyone and talk, sometimes I even make conversation with the cashiers when they ring up my groceries. I don't care what people think, it makes me happy.

@knicklichtjedi 4 жыл бұрын

For about 18 years Ive been modifyring my meals here in germany without any issues if you ask for it while you order it. But I would never expect them to modify my meal after serving it.

@anirbanjana9302 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Diana! Would you like to help me to find a short course what will be enough to get a job in Germany. I did masters in Zoology. Have there any job based on my subject?

@scottsmith8546 3 жыл бұрын

Same in the USA (at least in Michigan) where on your birthday, you bring in doughnuts for your colleagues.

@alexThunderrr 4 жыл бұрын

Not sure how it is in Berlin, but talking to strangers is definitely not rude, at least in other parts of Germany. I'd not consider it super common, but still fairly normal.

@oliverstozek 4 жыл бұрын

Well I'm German and I do 2,3 and 4 regularly, so I think you can do these things but the question is how to do these things... And number 5 well I know some germans who do have baby shower, not as big as in Canada or the US but sometimes... of course it is not very common and it depends upon the mother

@cdc962 4 жыл бұрын

Wow, your way of handling birthday at work sounds really nice. It feels others celebrate you instead of you "buying" the others to celebrate with you. Also you may know that Germans create events and invite people, while for some occasions in US, probably Canada as well, people just drop by.

@sarahschaarschmidt7106 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah we are more quieter in waiting areas, tube and so on because we want to be polite we show our respect to other people and won't annoying somebody. To be loud that is considered rude but we Germans also talk in waitings rooms, tubes and so on and there are also loud people from time to time.

@LawtonDigital 3 жыл бұрын

There's a difference between personal space and mental space. It's the uninvited intrusion into a German's mental space that isn't welcome, e.g. small talk. However, if you bump into someone (personal space) on a crowded tram, it's no big deal, and most people wouldn't say anything at all unless they wanted someone to actually move. Speaking of personal space, if you've got a few extra seats at your table in a restaurant, the waiter or a guest may ask if the seats are free (ist hier frei?). If they are, it's polite to say yes and invite them to sit. You won't be expected to make small talk, though they may wish you a good appetite when your food arrives. So once again, you're sharing more personal space than you would in North America while at the same time preserving mental space. North American visitors new to Germany may take this sort of behavior as rude, aloof, or even sullen, but in actuality, it is a German's way of being considerate. Festive occasions with outdoor drinking would be exceptions to this. During these not so rare events, you're a stick in the mud if you don't smile and laugh and even sign and dance. I hope you like the polka.

@graycarlyle8627 4 жыл бұрын

Regarding the fourth statement, its more a city thing, people from rural regions are bit different.

@hermione5525 3 жыл бұрын

@Petter Eliseussen As a Canadian I often smile at strangers just because I felt like it and it made them smile and then they made the next person smile and so on. Spreading joy is not a bad thing, on the contrary! It does mean something and is far more enjoyable than the death stare in my opinion

@peterkoller3761 4 жыл бұрын

meal modifications: ask when you order, not when the food is served. people are certainly willing to oblige - within certain limits, of course: french fries without potatos, steak without meat, poached salmon without fish just won´t happen.

@raik4987 4 жыл бұрын

"Und für Diana wieder (eine) EXTRAWURST!" we Germans are a people of sausage eaters. So much so that even vegetarians can look forward to a sausage here - at least if it is said to be an extra sausage.

@stevenbaer1207 4 жыл бұрын

I am German decent person, I love to eat sausages, sauerkraut, drink beer, red potato salad, pretzels, etc. I am very glad of my Bavarian cuisine products, Bavarian folk music, Bavarian dance, and the history of Bavaria and Germany regime. 🇩🇪👍🇩🇪✝️🇩🇪🎉🇩🇪

@MehdiD.Ardebili 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been living in Kiel, Germany for 3 years now and I’m sorry, but what she says about people finding it offensive when you approach them in Germany being offensive is total bullshit! I have struck up tons of conversations with people especially women in Germany and many of them absolutely love being approached. I got several dates with girls this way and one of them became my girlfriend, despite that that I met her in the supermarket Sky! Just be positive friendly, outgoing, funny and confident. If what you have to say is original and interesting, people will likely be curious to talk to you at least for a bit unless they are having a bad day and are stressed or whatever. So don’t be scared to strike up conversations if you want to even if it defies the social norm! Often they will be pleasantly surprised to have someone approach them even if it is a bit weird and unusual for them!

@ArmandoBellagio 4 жыл бұрын

The only places I've seen the modifications in restaurants done in Germany is at Pizzerias, Döner Kebabs or at places like Mc Donald's. Usually American tourists who asked for that at the last one 😁 But sometimes Germans too

@haraldritter4687 4 жыл бұрын

Love the pillow (Canada...)!

@davefromberlin2274 4 жыл бұрын

That's a maple leaf pillow, nothing Canada about it, but I notice how Germans judge on what they see, otherwise they don't believe it. The Germans wouldn't think Dianna is Canadian if it weren't for the pillow.

@sandrad7110 4 жыл бұрын

Dave FromBerlin the maple leaf actually is our national symbol, so it’s a pretty obvious link to Canada

@arwinture9306 4 жыл бұрын

Hi Diana. You always looks beautiful. Thanks for sharing your videos. I really liked your videos. By the way, I am an expat as well and I work in Stuttgart

@spinFK 4 жыл бұрын

At Bürger König I always ASK for modifications, thats a good was to geht a fresh burger. Extra chalapenios are always free!

@wmf831 4 жыл бұрын

As a German, I am mildly surprised About some of your findings, and can not really relate to them. But maybe this is something that only happens in Berlin? I talk to strangers very often, I smile at children all the time, I smile at people almost always, and it is quite normal all over the place. But you are on point with baby showers. Nobody will frown upon you if you do it, but Germans do consider it bad luck, same as wishing Happy Birthday before the actual birthday.

@cherieestbien1902 4 жыл бұрын

I had a layover in Frankfurt, Germany, while flying from Majorca to Barcelona. Yikes......

@ht5362 4 жыл бұрын

5:58 That's my favorite 😍in my country, if you don't smile a lot they consider you anti-social. I really HATE smiling to strangers.

@jessforan7810 3 жыл бұрын

Where in Canada are you from? We certainly don't do that striking up with conversations or smile at each other in Toronto.

@jaakkohuttunen5114 4 жыл бұрын

I hope to vitsit Canada someday💚

@sarahschaarschmidt7106 4 жыл бұрын

3. Of course in Germany you can make a wish for your court. I already did, my friends and family already did that too.

@berniv7375 4 жыл бұрын

Hiya Diana, Thanks for the video. You have to admit that the Germans have a lot of natural common-sense. Guid Luck and Best Wishes in the New Year.

@DianaVerry 4 жыл бұрын

You too Bernard! 😊

@susefink6099 4 жыл бұрын

I smile alot myself and i have walked passed people who looked so mad back at me,i was wondering if i should run,actually it does scare me sometimes.

@sarahschaarschmidt7106 4 жыл бұрын

4. Yeah we don't smile all the time. It is because we don't fake smile just to be seen as nice. When we like something then we smile, when we really like the person then we do small talk, smile, etc. It is just because we don't fake, we are true honest.

@jerryroman3075 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful!

@JustAGuyRichie 4 жыл бұрын

Hey Diana - nice Channel and Videos - love to watch them as a German. As said some times b4, modifiying meals is no problem. Berliners often are just a bit more rude than the rest of Germans 😂 though I like them, I have to admit they‘re..

@davefromberlin2274 4 жыл бұрын

....A bit on the weird side

@PortCharmers 4 жыл бұрын

I remember a TV show where they pranked a famous chef by "improving" his meals with ketchup and other barbaric condiments and filmed his (raging) reaction with hidden cameras.

@MultiScooter63 4 жыл бұрын

I'm a big fan of Canada - in case I would leave germany one day, I'd go there rather than USA or elsewhere. I really love the KZfaq videos "Just for laughs Gags" which are always filmed in Québec or Montréal, they are so funny and show how friendly and open-hearted people are there. It's really amazing :-) maybe you know them too. Also Canadian music is very interesting, like Rush, Alanis Morrisette, Nelly Furtado and more.

@sandrad7110 4 жыл бұрын

MultiScooter63 I’m a native Montrealer and yes, just for laughs is SO funny. I hope you come to visit sometime!

@Shankarai11 3 жыл бұрын

Berlin restaurants and eastern german restos may stand out in that concern (no modifications on meals? not exactly my experience, lets say it may depend)

@sarahschaarschmidt7106 4 жыл бұрын

Also, to buy a round of drinks is NOT a German culture must-have. Some circle of friends may do that but it is absoultly NOT a must-have. To cook or bake and offer some drinks is a German culture thing when you invite your friends to your Birthday party at home but also there are maaaaany people in Germany who ask you what they can bring something (drinks, snacks, etc.) to your party too.

@paolaandreasanchez 4 жыл бұрын

Do you receive a pay to have a canal in youtube?

@zeldazyklus7044 4 жыл бұрын

I start small talk oftentimes for example at/with the ALDI cashier. None looks weird at me.

@zeldazyklus7044 4 жыл бұрын

@@user-sm3xq5ob5d Nein, lediglich ein Zeichen von Extraversion

@davefromberlin2274 4 жыл бұрын

Maybe in a small village you can chat to the employee, in the city like Berlin they speedrace to get you cashed out fasttttt

@zeldazyklus7044 4 жыл бұрын

@@davefromberlin2274 I´m talking of an ALDI shop in Cologne. Not really a small village. Berlin to me ain´t no place to be anyway. btw: why not talk to other customers if employees are too busy. Which I do if I want to.

@zeldazyklus7044 4 жыл бұрын

BUT: Cologners are from another mentality anyway. If Diana would come out of her Berlin comfort zone she would realize how nice and warm (and talkative) Germans can be.

@davefromberlin2274 4 жыл бұрын

@@zeldazyklus7044 yes perhaps Berliners are different but overall many Germans are friendly just takes very long to break the ice with them.

@markhall6306 3 ай бұрын

I am from Minnesota a very cold weather state really not that different from Canada my question is why would you choose to live in a country that it’s not very warm and the people rather nasty? Wouldn’t rather live in a warmer climate where people are more friendly?

@idoj4ever 4 жыл бұрын

I'm Canadian and my best friend is German (from Nuremberg). Some time ago I flew to Los Angeles to meet him there. We went out for dinner and when we ordered the food/drinks, I forgot to tell the waiter that I didn't want any ice in my Coke, so when the waiter brought the drinks, I let him know that I had forgotten to ask for "no ice". Of course, he replied "no problem", took the drink back and brought it back to me with no ice. My German friend was shocked/amazed, he told me that this would never happen in Germany. If you forget to say "no Ice", then it's your problem, they will not remove it for you. I have been in Germany many times (it is my absolutely favourite place to go on vacation) and it is true, customer service there (and pretty much everywhere else out of North America) really sucks. LOL! It is also true that Germans are very superstitious about celebrating ANYTHING before the actual date. They wouldn't even wish you a "Merry Christmas" if it is not Christmas day (which they celebrate on the 24th of December instead of on the 25th)!

@idoj4ever 4 жыл бұрын

@SHIGARU It seems you didn't understand my comment, it was not me who said they wouldn't remove the ice, it was my GERMAN friend!

@Mamaki1987 3 жыл бұрын

What do you mean you can't modify dishes in Germany? I do that all the time because I don't eat potatoes or rice or noodles. I always get my veggies instead and it has never been a problem.

@sethm9726 3 жыл бұрын

Well, I've lived in germany my whole life and for the most part I can agree with you. You an modify your food in the Most places though. Maybe not like in high class Restaurants because it would indeed offend the Chef! Germans for the most part are pretty rude and don't smile a lot. Sometimes they even feel offended when you want to make Small talk to a Stranger. I guess the Most Germans wouldn't agree with me because they've never been to the US oder Canada and saw how kind people can be

@rostykh79 3 жыл бұрын

I would also add that Germans (as well as most Europeans) would find speaking load or "happy" screaming such as "oh my God", "No way!", "That is so exciting", etc (typically North American) as rude. Some other things: talking while chewing, sitting close to strangers, having a mess in your room, misbehaving children and parents, getting drunk and other stuff. Well, you got the idea. The only time I spoke with Germans that I met for the first time was in a pub watching football (not the American one). Ordnung muss sein, as Germans say.

@lenny108 4 жыл бұрын

Germans, Germany? Well, this is a multiculti country with 180 different nationalities mixed up. A revue performer, cabaret artiste, recently came up with the idea of paying anyone who is able to localize a 100% Teutonic individual is getting a reward of ten thousand Euros. Nobody showed up.

@derPiel 4 жыл бұрын

Come to Cologne and you'll learn that not all Germans avoid small talk. If you sit at the bar in a local pub here, people will start talking to you and often share very personal details. As a Colognian how stayed in Vancouver for a few months, I experienced small talk to be very superficial compared to here.

@rollingthunderinho Жыл бұрын

vancouver is Canada's berlin when it comes to small talk. that would explain it. ontario is known for small talk

@PandaGialla93 3 жыл бұрын

In Italy, baby shower has become a bit more common because people love everything from America. But otherwise here is bad luck too to celebrate the baby before it's born.

@sarahschaarschmidt7106 4 жыл бұрын

Yeah this is a German culture things to bring cake or other biscuits to your work when it is your birthDAY or you had birthday, but please notice this is only a courtesy it is not a rule. If you don't want to do that so you have not to do that. It is the same if you get an open-ended contract then you spend one in the company. But this is also not a must-have, if you like you can do it, if you don't like you have not to do that. It is just a courtesy.🤗 How about in Canada or the U.S.?

@IIIOOOUS 4 жыл бұрын

The Canadian way of being treated as a birthday kid sounds kind. of. nicer that is true But even though it is not so common to have small. talk. with stranger, I think, if you want, you can have that with the most. Kris

@tidalwave76 4 жыл бұрын

Substitutes in a meal shouldn’t be a problem at most restaurants if they are not dissemble the dish totally. If you want fried potatoes instead of fries it should usually fine. Regarding the baby shower, in Germany it is usually done only by the father‘s friends after the child is born. It is called „Kind pinkeln lassen“ and the father and the his friends get drunk. 😉😂

@zombiemeal6915 4 жыл бұрын

an other thig thats diferent is the drinks in resturants. un the us the put so much eis in it that its way too could, and you have only a litle bit too drink. in germany, you get a full glass with the drink you ordert.

@noycat5061 4 жыл бұрын

Lovely

@DE-iv8if 4 жыл бұрын

Very very very good Video!!! Annnd: A Happy New Year!!!! :D I also noticed that smiling at Germans can cause them to feel _noticed_ and it seems to me, that Germans - in general - do not like so much to feel noticed by a Stranger.. :/ ! I also tend to smile _a lot_ and so I also noticed, that it makes Germans very often feel uncomfortable and akward and like it seems, they also question the Sanity of the Person that smiles at them as well.. it seems... :/ So smiling at Germans and especially as a Stranger to them, is _maybe_ not allways so recommended... :/

@DE-iv8if 4 жыл бұрын

Oh and I also think, at least as far as I remember, that smiling at Strangers is / possibly could be seen as a Way of _flirting_ in Germany... :/

@karstenvoigt7280 4 жыл бұрын

Smiling without a reason or celebrating a childbirth (or a birthday) before it actually happened is very optimistic. How can anybody be so shure, that he´ll live to see the next day? The successful reduction of miscarriages and infant mortality to a point, where it´s the exception and not the norm, just started less than 2 centuries ago. The last big pandemia that killed a big part of the population, just happened a century ago. And 3 following generations that had the luck to grow up in times of peace? That´s something incredibly rare in the history of central Europe. You may have seen the great comedy "A Million Ways to die in the West". Well, the movie is set just a few generations ago. The difference between Europe and the Americas: In the perception of the new world, the 19th century is a long time ago. But from the perspective of the old world, the whole history of the U.S. just started a short time ago. In the U.S., the early industrial tycoon dynasties of the guilded age count as old wealth. Here in Europe, everyone who came after the Medici are the new rich.

@sarahschaarschmidt7106 4 жыл бұрын

5. Stop no! We also do Baby showers. My girlfriends, co workers, etc. had baby showers. Maybe there are not so big like in Canada, I don't know but it became very popluar to do baby showers like in the U.S. In my grandma's and mother time they also did baby showers, only they weren't decorated as colorfully and pompously as in the U.S./Canada.

@beachboy0505 3 жыл бұрын

I like the pillow, maple leaf 🍁 ?

@MauriceECoates 3 жыл бұрын

There are many places in Europe where someone smiling without a real reason would be considered an idiot. Americans and Canadians tend to create the image of someone who has had one to many when smiiling at every one.

@Knallteute 4 жыл бұрын

the thing with the changes in resturants I really don‘t see. My mother dosent like stuff like potato wedges or fries so she often ask for like salads or so and never had a problem. Just be nice and ask don‘t demand. Also the servers don‘t depend on your tip so they wn‘t put up with a-hole behavior.

@swanpride 4 жыл бұрын

...I never had any problem asking for modifications. Unless it is something overly complicated, it never was a problem to adjust a meal to my wishes. And nobody ever rolled his eyes at me over it. I also don't think that a baby shower is a problem if you do it as an expat. Different countries, different traditions, Germans understand that just fine and are ready to adjust, though don't expect them to know what they should do for a baby shower. When a German does it, though, it can be considered greedy.

@chicdon 3 жыл бұрын

Berlin is special. Outside kind of rude but inside very warm. i love berlin.

@Wuppser 4 жыл бұрын

I like your smile, keep on smiling, maybe you can change Berlin. Don't say it loud, but they are really rude compared to the rest of Germany. 😘

@thestonegateroadrunner7305 4 жыл бұрын

Baby showers are done, at least here in Bavaria, but after the birth of the baby. Only then it makes sense because the baby can be seen. ;)

@beautyforashes2230 4 жыл бұрын

I don't agree with no food modifications. I always ask for a larger side salad, or maybe a different side than French fries, etc. Servers are always happy to do it and I've never had a negative response. OK, those aren't HUGE modifications to the main course, but why wouldn't I ask for exactly what I want in a meal I'm paying for? Sounds like Berlin is a bit rude and not like the rest of Germany that I've come to know...

@gordonloessl2822 3 жыл бұрын

Being a Canadian brought up by German parents, I know German people are very reserved and always right. I just let them roll with it.

@finnmuller9079 3 жыл бұрын

I don't eat tomatos and when I say to the Service i don't Like them they don't put them on the food.

@AnnaKaunitz 4 жыл бұрын

Berlin has like almost 4 million people. All larger cities across Europe tend to be the same, the pace is faster, commuting takes time, people are busy getting around, to, from work, appointments, picking up their kids etc. People don’t have the time nor the energy to be conceived as “smiley” and “perfect”. Germany has a crazy load of burocracy for everything so obviously that is bound to cause frustration. Saying there is more or less only one way of being friendly is ignorant. Different is the word. Without the language, you won’t be able to understand your fellow locals. Because you don’t learn the language, of course you’ll face daily issues and misunderstandings. Most things you wonder about are based on the lack of language. Without German, you won’t understand the historical context, culture or pretty much..anything on a deeper, much needed basis. You won’t understand habits, behaviours, body language. You expect people working at restaurants to understand and explain everything in English. In a non English speaking country. If anyone would move to Canada and not learn any English (let’s stick to English and leave French out) for 3-4 years, I’m sure life in Toronto, Montreal Vancouver, Ottawa would be very difficult, virtually impossible. Small talk is actually very important in Germany. Its a much needed social skill. It’s just done differently in every part. Again, without the language, you don’t pick up any of this. Your a nice hard working girl but surely you have to connect the missing language dots here? :) For your own sake I hope you start learning the language. It’s perceived as awkward when expats complain about things based on their lack of not learning the language and you’ll have a much better life in Germany with some German.

@dianabecker4624 4 жыл бұрын

Du kannst sicher Änderungen an Deiner Essensbestellung vornehmen, solange Du es bei der Bestellung sagst. Wenn Du es erst erwähnst wenn das Essen kommt, dann ist das sehr blöd für den Kellner und den Koch.

@alexandras.7143 4 жыл бұрын

You can usually modify your meal in germany everywhere but when you order it and not after you got it. 🙈

@rivenoak 4 жыл бұрын

asking for while ordering is always ok.

@lilalullaby 4 жыл бұрын

I am born in Berlin and live here, i modify my food all the time. I am known for that. But you are right, they say about Berliners, they are rude and do not smile a lot. And i hate the thing, that when its my birthday, i have to pay for everybody and have to bring cake and everything, so that everybody else have a nice day. I will never get that🤷🏼‍♀️