In my early twenties I thought..."oh, how romantic tortured love is", in my late twenties I think "oh, how dangerous it is to glamorize emotional abuse and codependency"

He only wanted her when he couldn't have her

Big was in love with the fact that Carrie loved him and that’s it!

this two never could have a normal conversation, it was always like a fucking word game.

I’m just realizing that Carrie’s storylines were completely derived from her desire to either be with Big or get over Big 😩

If you ask a man in this context, "what do you want" and he responds, "I don't know" and "I'm so fucked up" RUN!!!

He calls her "kid". She is just a little girl he can mess with everytime he wants to.

They always want you back, when you're dating someone handsome and decent. Thank God we get Smarter/Wiser with age

Lol , when a guy says idk. That's just a meaning for only sex

Rewatching these clips makes me happy that I eventually gave up on the "Big" in my life. The mental gymnastics, mixed signals, and constant let downs are not worth it.

Having a real life Mr.Big in your life is a little different because it is r e a l!!!!!!!! This show opened my eyes and made me realize how awful being with someone like that can be!

Awh the two towers in the background!

Carrie looks so pretty in these scenes.

I loved the seasons when Carrie's hair was curly.

She was always trying to get something emotional out of him that he didn’t have to give. I did that, too. It’s self torture. I wish I had just accepted it and moved on when I could see that it wasn’t available.

He married Natasha, not Carrie. That should have been the end.

He felt comfortable with her but she was not high class enough. I was obsessed with a guy too n he strung me along until he met someone n married n I woke up 😁. Thank god.

The chemistry is off the charts . ☺️

this is the typical case where a man mistreats, and doesn't appreciate what he has in front of him, leaves her and goes for someone he feels "comfortable and safe" with. but when that fades away, he realizes it wasn't what he truly wanted or needed.

Carrie should have thrown him overboard.

That bit on the boat was so good. Reminded me why I loved them together.

A man who's serious about you isn't going to have "dont know" answers in their speech... like never!!. I'm dating a guy now who clearly express his desire to be with me, build the bond, and take care of me. If that significant other have those big's lines... chica, move on from there.

I always remember the S1 episode when Big says that after years of dating model-types, he’d want to end up with the woman who makes him laugh.

Big and Carrie had great chemistry, no matter how dysfunctional their relationship was

Big with that spiffy opener would've gotten me too. They have really good chemistry.

With the two towers in the background. Perfect direction.

the way she looks at him sjp is such a good actress

They deserved each other cause they never left each other alone even when they were in relationships with others.

She really did have the best hair

Damn,, they play so well!

Big was wrong. He only wants Carrie because she is happy with aiden.

I kinda like this part becuz it's one of the fewest times where big shows his vulnerable side, he always seems so collected and non challant but here he actually for once admitted that he is indeed fucked up and needs help..

Carrie waited almost a lifetime for Big.

Ok. As much as I don't like Carrie, I have to say she's got...swag. She's so effortlessly chic. Idc if you're conventionally non attractive or whatever, you convey that vibe, you're desired.

Love Carrie's outfit in this scene. Wish I had that dress.

They should have ended this series with Carrie and Big being good friends. That’s it. In the end it looked like Big settled for Carrie, leaving her to the same old ‘guesswork routine’ over and over again. If I’ve realized anything, it’s to never settle down with someone who always makes you wonder what he or she is really thinking or to settle down with someone who’s just plain emotionally unavailable.

❤❤ I miss this so much!!

I dated a Mr. Big for about 6 months. Commitment issues, a drinking problem, insecurity, he was older than me, and a hot/cold personality. When I left him, he came back the same way, saying he made a mistake and he knew what he wanted was to be with me. Like Carrie, I caved in and got back with him. One month later during our first trip together to NY, he called it off again and I went home in tears. It took me a couple of months of being single, a few therapy sessions, and support from my friends and family for me to start dating again and leave my unhealthy relationship in the past. I love myself and will not allow myself to be in another relationship like that again, no matter how strong the attraction is.

Everybody blames Carrie on these videos but she tried moving on. Big is the one who yanked her around. She definitely made mistakes but he is the one that continued to fuck up their relationship knowing how she felt about him.

I had one of those magazine clutch purses back in the day 😀

@cheers4Tears He didn't love her enough to marry her, but loved Natasha enough to marry. He told her he never wanted to marry again, then married Natasha. His way of loving her was to have her be alone. I don't think so.

love carrie's hair here xxx

The scene when big appeared on carrie's apartment, it just so touching, because she got so emotional and confused...

Trapped on a boat ‘without dates’ - Sis He’s Married!

SJP looks very beautiful here.

Wow 😍 look at the Twin Towers in the background

You can clearly tell from their looks that they have always loved each other. Just see whenever they are together they laugh and we know from the first day they met that there has always been chemistry between them. I'm not sure big only wanted Carrie when she was with someone because both when they danced together in the room they almost kissed but Carrie walked away and also in season 2 when she ran away after they were kissing, he's gone to her house to see if ''she was alive'', so he always had an interest in her.

Big loved the thought of Carrie. When he thought he couldn't have her is when he wanted her. That was never true love.

I love her hair in these scenes. Shes so beautiful! I missed STC. Reminded me of my New Your City life 🤭🤭

@leelacify Because he only wants her when someone else is interested.

I love big and carrie together no matter who says what!

a man that doesnt know what he wants is so annoying

Can we have a conversation anymore? I don't know can we? Great question, Carrie! ❤️

Her hair is amazing in that last scene.

I think Big liked her, liked her personality and having sex with her and just hang out but Carrie always wanted more, she wanted a REAL relationship and Big didnt want to be tied down AND I think he always pictured himself with "exceptionally beautiful " sophisticated women like Natasha but when he realised that he was getting bored and actually not happy with Natasha he went back to Carrie assuming she would run in his arms instead of the fact that she had a boyfriend and that she grew as a woman( maybe not that much coz she still cheated on Aidan with Big) during the time he got married to the " more luxurious version of her = Natasha) 🤷‍♂️ I dont know it's just my view on all they've been through

This is the recreation of the same scene where they bump into each other in a club (literally) in Season 1!

She is an adult woman. She allowed this behavior(s) from him from the start of their relationship. What they have is not love in any stretch of the imagination.

Ugh. I wish he had just left her alone (though the affair episodes are among the best). Ultimately, though, I felt their relationship was sealed, once and for all, in S6 when he was in the hospital. They'd always be friends - special friends - and nothing more than that. That's how I wish they'd left it.

big is getting me worked up here! looooool!

How beautiful was Carry while being with Aidan.

Sjp look gorgeous in that blue dress🧡🧡🧡

Love isn't blind. It's stupid.

He was so gorgeous

She looks great here

It's strange seeing the twin towers in the background. I forgot the show was filmed before 2001.

she should got rid of him earlier, why did she let him to do those things to her like she deserves it?

Carrie is always eating when Big appears or getting knocked into by some random guy.

She looked so beautiful in this episode. 👗

The Twin Towers in the back❤️

That wasn't cheese, that was a cantaloupe she ate

Such a stressful relationship

@Vydio Well, don't you see, thats his way of showing that he is jealous,and that he loves her. He cant express that, instead he just critizises her every next boyfriend: Aidan, the saxo man, Russian etc

Carrie looks so beautiful.....

CArrie is so beautiful

I felt the same 😩

Good lord, he was fine af

I think Big liked her but did not love her, he only considers a certain type of woman as relationship material and an other for fun, he's been in a failed mariage before probably with a woman that is close to his ideal so he was only looking to live as a bachelor that's why he, albeit superficially, shackled up with Carrie, I don't think he ever saw it as going anywhere. Then there is Carrie who thinks she loves him for sure but doesn't know him at all, she sees him as a prize to be won otherwise she would have been more attuned to the ugly reality behind his "NY charm", she is a classic social climber who ignores it, she really revealed herself when she talked about how Natasha is "vogue" and she is a "sex column" at the beginning of the show she looks confident with her life and choices but as she meets Big we find out it was all pretense and she's incredibly dissatisfied insecure and troubled, she basically thought if this "great" accomplished guy chooses me, I am myself great and accomplished, if he disses me, I'm officially trash.

He went looking for her b4 he knew she had a boyfriend, he chased her when she ran out of the Opera & left Charlotte.Now he's @ a party alone, hoping/knowing she'll b there. I love him all tousled & desperate, humiliating himself cos she blew him off, shows he can b vunerable with his feelings towards her. I agree tho once he knew she was dating he really persued her. If he only wanted sex, why not just find anyone random. I believe he had more feelings for her than Natasha & was afraid of them.

Here it is in a nutshell, Big's an emotional sadist and Carrie's an emotional masochist

i was always told that men like the chase and once they get you the game is over. i’m happy to say that my boyfriend’s passion and fire for me has only intensified since we solidified our relationship. he doesn’t take me for granted the way Big did Carrie.

There’s a Mr. Big who roams in & out of my life & I guess I’m like Carrie in that I still love him.

when big showed up again, she said Jesus. lol

0:59 the way she puts her purse over the side of the boat always makes me nervous.

He said I don’t know. He couldn’t even say he wanted her. Why did they end up together?

RIP to the world trade centres

Never pick a guy like big

Been there Carrie. Sigh.

So much bullshit and game-playing, this is how grown children behave.

This comment section is why women are always mocked emotionally, and yet we get mad when a guy stereotypes us as anything but positively. Forget about finding a man, find a partner who you can talk to and grow with, not someone who would lie just to make you feel better and empowered...

He never loved her....

man i gotta find that dress!!

She should've been like Big here. Absolutely disinterested and said a polite hello and walked away. Start mingling and talking to others. He only talked to her because his wife missed the boat. Had Natasha been there he wouldn't even have looked her way. Have some dignity Carrie. Learn to slam the door on him.

It's pain.... missing love...

Uomo bellissimo

It's sooo bad when you can't restrain the chemistry and affinity with some guy and you're basically perfect for each other but you know you can't have him because he decided to be with some trophy wife to flaunt around, I've been there. Lots of men are like this actually, they want a relationship for "social-validation" and not because it really makes them happy. That's why lots of marriages end up in divorce and failures.

That was her opportunity for an unplanned pregnancy to lock him in by draining his wallet and she missed the boat.

Would it had been a mistake to talk to Aiden about what was happening with Big and the confusion she felt? Hahaha

I know it’s tucked up*, but his desire for her was very intense. It did transform into love.

Whyyyyyy this scene has the most clear feel that this is not the end between those two???

Gosh, he's such an attractive man. I don't think, I could resist him.