change is scary and life transitions suck

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change is scary and life transitions suck

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i saw a ig post that was like "i feel a lot of things, and none of them lightly" and BOY if that doesn't describe me
having a lot of feelings is kinda cringe sometimes, but this has been a very heartfelt project that has been near and dear to my heart since i moved to hk. from conception to upload, it has been in the making for a full 5 months, with me writing little snippets in my head until i had the time to sit down and vomit out a full 2000 word draft about this period of change. nearly 10 hours of editing has gone into this, including time of scouring my hard drive for any old footage and trying to storyboard this. it's probably the most ambitious project i've tried to take on to date, and it felt REALLY good to write creatively again and then turn it into a visual too. if you enjoyed it, if it resonated with you, your kind words would be greatly appreciated in the comments. equally, if your takeaway from this video is that i am too dramatic, you would be entirely correct, and there would be no need to reiterate it in the comments.
i think i've said enough about change in the video, so i won't dwell on it any more. but if you're a friend (new or old), and you're reading this- i love you! i miss you! i hope you're doing well and i'll see u soon :)
love,
abbie
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@dionokeke2148 4 ай бұрын

As a 23 year old, "I often tell myself I don't have to have it all figured out" hit hard. The plant story was beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

@abbieafterhours 4 ай бұрын

what is life if not a constant cycle of learning and figuring it out!!!

@StefKa02 5 ай бұрын

KZfaq randomly recommended me this video and I watched all of it. I don't know you, but being at a similar age made this hit hard. Lots of change is coming for me too and I hope I can adapt to it, but knowing I'm not alone helps a lot. Thank you for this!

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

being in ur 20s is such a wild ride for sure HAHAH im sure you’ll be able to adapt to the change coming in your life with time :) wishing you all the best in your new adventures and your next chapters ❤

@granthandy198 5 ай бұрын

What a beautiful view into a stranger's life for atleast a few minutes. I wish you the best in your life

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

and what a kind and beautiful comment!! i love u and i wish u the best too :)

@calicoinz 5 ай бұрын

youtube recommended me this and this made me so emotional because i'm in a very similar spot.. change is so hard especially in your early to mid twenties.... but it all works out in due time im sure. wishing all the peace and happiness to you, the voice over and thoughts you shared and film were all so lovely!

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

thank you for leaving such a kind comment on a strangers video 🥺 adjustment to change def takes a while.. wishing u all the peace and happiness in the world too! ❤

@chrisholben6180 5 ай бұрын

It’s absolutely wild how much change life throws at people graduating college. Not only is a person leaving an institution that they’ve been a part of for their whole life, but they’re often having to move and start a job at the same time. The whole thing is incredibly scary, and at some point it just all seems normal again. I’m not sure if we just get used to the new circumstances, or if we just get too tired to keep being scared, but either way, one day I woke up in my new apartment a few months after graduating and realized that it was home. The way you conveyed this feeling, from knowing the exact spots where you fell in love and first felt heartbreak, to the metaphor of the plant growing roots in a new pot, was beautiful. I really appreciated the glimpse into your life

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

I def think its a mix of getting used to new circumstances and not wanting to dwell in any negative mindsets of fear or mourning. but i totally know what you mean! sometimes u just stop and realise after a few months that you're not rly fighting the negative feelings anymore. funny how we get adapted to change without realising it thank you for your kind words, and thank you for your time on my video and this comment!!! i really appreciate it

@tobyyu396 5 ай бұрын

The struggle is so real, thank you so much for opening up to everyone and making me realise I’m not alone. hope you all the best in your studies and postgrad!!!!

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

and to you too!!!

@silvanacondezo3137 5 ай бұрын

So glad I got to see this. The plant repotting analogy resonated a lot with me now. Thank you thank you. Really transitions and new beginnings and change are hard. Wishing you the best life in Hong Kong from Lima, Peru!

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

such a kind and loving comment !! 🥺 thank you for watching and commenting. all the best to u too!! i'd love to visit peru one day hehe

@yuetongzhang3702 2 ай бұрын

You're such a deeply poetic and reflective narrator and experiencer of life! Your potent nuggets of truth resonated so deeply with me, as I embark on a journey not so dissimilar to yours (HK here I come). I hope I can embrace and grow in change as gracefully as you have :)) thank you for sharing this

@abbieafterhours Ай бұрын

welcome to hk!

@JoyceKao 5 ай бұрын

this gave me chills i love thissss

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

AW THANKU 🥺🥺

@lokilog8302 5 ай бұрын

I almost never comment on anything online, but I feel obliged to say that while I don't know how youtube knew I would resonate with this video, I'm glad it sent it my way. You've put such complicated feelings into clear words, and hearing the way you talk about it all tempers a lot of those anxieties. I suppose it's comforting to know that this is something we all go through - and I suspect I'll be listening again many times in the future. Thanks for this.

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

i'm glad that the algorithm has been doing its job then HAHA i felt very alone in my feelings so i made this video also in hopes that my vulnerability can help other people feel less alone in their struggles too. talk to those around you, and don't be scared of being vulnerable, and then you realise that everyone else rly goes through the same things. you're doing such a good job! it'll get better :)

@hi.its.cici. 5 ай бұрын

i’m so glad youtube recommended this video to me, as someone who is also navigating through change and entering a new stage in my life. i also loved the cinematography and effort put into this video and it really inspired me as i’m trying to make a similar style video as a small creator🥹🫶🏼

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

AW thank you!!! subbed to u too so maybe we can support each other as creators hehe 🫶

@domodomodomo 5 ай бұрын

This is was such a beautiful, heartfelt, profoundly poignant reflection. Got me emotional as well dammit....big misses Abbie.

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

Mr Ko’s validation is all I need

@youbinkyoku884 4 ай бұрын

I enjoyed and related to this video so much :'DD! Definitely deserves more love

@abbieafterhours 4 ай бұрын

AW thank you!!!

@madelinelee749 5 ай бұрын

this is so crazy different from your other vids but such a well needed video essay . love u and so happy you’re finding lil pockets of home teach me how to shop at wet markets sometime

@madelinelee749 5 ай бұрын

that being said the outro is crazy I’m glad i got a mention 😭

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

@@madelinelee749 ur vid is HILARIOUS r u kidding me

@yeetogami2575 5 ай бұрын

Love the story telling and the effort for the cinematography. Inspirational!

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

LOL i did not give too much thought about the cinematography so i'm not sure if praise should be put towards that- but thank you regardless!

@mathrock8686 5 ай бұрын

this made me really emo i miss u and i miss shanghai!!!

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

miss u too bb

@Jade-pu1zc 5 ай бұрын

this video was comforting as someone who graduated early,, unlike you i did not have a job lined up and am in that very uneasy reality of what’s next?? but this was comforting nonetheless as I’m no longer in that safe bubble of my college town and am back home without any deep roots rn

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

congratulations on graduating early! thats no easy feat. take ur time to figure out what's next, we're so young!! enjoy the time off and realign yourself to chase what u want. all the best!!!

@faithlee3610 5 ай бұрын

great video abbie 🥺❤ glad you are settling in well into HK!!

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

see u soon feefy bb

@mystery1317 4 ай бұрын

I was randomly recommended this video and clicked bc I'm 26, recently finished my masters and have been unemployed these last few months, so the post grad reflections hit. It also made me remember how I felt the first time around, when I was 23 and finished my bachelors. Things have a way of unexpectedly falling into place. They did back then and they're starting to do so now, after a period of me feeling very lost. I wish you the best! ✨

@abbieafterhours 4 ай бұрын

thank you for such a kind comment!!! and congrats on finishing your masters :) things def have an unexpected way of falling into place, and i hope you have many happy adventures ahead of u!

@yourmamatoes 4 ай бұрын

thank you for posting this video . MWAH

@abbieafterhours 4 ай бұрын

mwah back !!!

@leauren 5 ай бұрын

Abbie bestie we love you 🥺 I also feel the same way just leaving London and move away from Shanghai and the words you say cannot be more true and it made me tear up.

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

AW leauren bestie 🥺 we'll bond all about it when i see u next hehe

@_dearsharon 5 ай бұрын

what a beautiful reflection...yes life will change and it won't always be easy, but you will have the strength to endure it 🩷

@abbieafterhours 3 ай бұрын

thank you!!

@shreyamellark9765 5 ай бұрын

this is SO amazing!!!! i know people have already said this but i am still shocked by how much i can relate to this video despite being in the complete opposite stage of my life. i have just got into grad school and will have to leave behind everything and everyone it took years to love. i too used to be proud of being so good with change but right now, it stings in ways i cannot explain. you are such a beautiful writer and thinker. watching this was not only comforting but also inspiring. i wish you the very best and hope to see where this journey takes you ahead!

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

congrats on getting into grad school!!! thats a huge achievement and such an exciting new chapter for u!! :)) change is diff at every juncture, but i hope u find lots of love and happiness at grad school too. thank you for the well wishes and the compliments !

@ceciliarosa4047 5 ай бұрын

Wow. This was so insightful. I am just finishing my year abroad and preparing my goodbyes and grievances - all while having a lingering thought that I should stay here. I haven’t seen my family or friends in 10 months yet I also have friends here that I don’t just want to leave. I am so scared to move back home and miss this. It’s very refreshing to see someone going through the same thing and adapting/replanting yourself at home. Thank you for making and sharing this beautiful video! :) And I hope you the best in your life!

@abbieafterhours 4 ай бұрын

maybe you can restart this chapter in your host country after grad! the possibilities are endless :) thanks for the lovely comment and all the best for you too!!!

@royzhang8243 5 ай бұрын

this is so beautiful 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

thank u law nephew

@koutaono9973 4 ай бұрын

I remember when I used to watch your CUHK vlogs back when I was graduating high school and now I’m about to graduate uni watching this video. So grateful for your videos and I wish the best of luck for all of us as we navigate Hong Kong and life in general

@abbieafterhours 4 ай бұрын

AHHH this is so sweet!!! and congrats on finishing uni

@katelewicki8733 5 ай бұрын

Wowowow this video was so beautifully put. I relate to you in so many ways. Resisting change yet also craving it. Even down to not recognizing myself in old journal entries, but being satisfied with seeing the growth on the pages. Thank you for sharing!

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

i'm so glad it resonated with you! thanks for commenting :))

@europaisch2109 4 ай бұрын

Found this video very relatable honestly. Currently am also getting my life figured out as I am supposed to graduate in July, and HK is actually where I am thinking of moving as well as my girlfriend is there. But change is kind of scary, as ultimately I'd be moving to a place where I don't know many people (although it's one I really like)? Anyway, good video.

@abbieafterhours 3 ай бұрын

i hope my video doesn't put you off from moving to hk hahahah it is a wonderful city, but any sort of change is scary! thank you for the kind comment :)

@skelluton 5 ай бұрын

I'm oddly in the same exact situation as you right now. I was raised in Hong Kong and left for uni in London, in a few months time i'll be away to a whole new country with no support or anyone i'm close to. Thank you for encapsulating these thoughts and feelings through this video, it's very reassuring knowing that others in the same boat are doing well! Looking forward to what our 20's have in store for us :)

@abbieafterhours 4 ай бұрын

ahhhh thats so exciting and terrifying at the same time! im sure you'll find your footing in a new country in no time :) enjoy the ride and good luck!!

@SunainaS 5 ай бұрын

Not all change is bad and not all stagnancy is good. I’m also a post grad , and I graduated last year and tbh it’s really scary to get started from here but it all lies on the other end, the growth the hustle and the big things. So it’s okay to be scared and at the same time embrace what’s coming because its gonna come anyway and we will move forward anyways . So might as well be welcoming and happy. Also, did not realise i needed someone to speak about this before this video came up. Thanks for sharing your life here🫶🏻 much love

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

SO TRUE !!!! it's scary for things to change and it's scary for things to stay the same. this is always a safe space for u to talk !! all the best in ur new adventures

@niembar3804 5 ай бұрын

I am in awe how I seemingly randomly was recommended this video. Yet it resonated with me incredibly much. So many things you mentioned really hit deep. And another thing I was sure when I watched your video that my brain told me you had 2.1 Million views. Crazy that such a video hasn't so many views! Greetings from a Second Year PhD

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

really have to thank the youtube algo for sending this video to so many kind people!! hopefully my videos will be deserving of views in the millions in the future :) good luck on your PhD !

@deliciafernandes9946 5 ай бұрын

It’s crazy how KZfaq knows how I feel and I don’t know yet. This video is me. I am here craved out with a perfect job before graduation thinking naively that I won’t fall prey to these feelings. But I’m so close to graduating (in 2 months) and I don’t know where to start/restart my new upcoming life. Thank you for putting my feelings into words.

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

congrats in advance on graduation!! i know exactly how u feel haha, but what i keep telling myself is that we're still young! and we're not married to our first jobs. jobs will come and go and we have the next 40 years to figure that out! baby steps!!

@tuispeatbog 5 ай бұрын

This was absolutely beautiful, wishing you the best in life

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

and to you too!!

@chris_ssoda 5 ай бұрын

I just found your channel and I can’t believe how happy I found this channel. I’m currently in London doing my masters and I know so well that one day I will be going through the same thing as you. I’ve also started documenting my life and hopefully I can follow in your footsteps 😢

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

omg ENJOY LONDON on my behalf too :''') documenting life is so fun so i hope you capture great memories that u can look back on

@user-je6io6cv5d 5 ай бұрын

I graduated too in 2023 in the uk and im having a post grad crisis. I still can’t believe i have graduated uni, all of my uni friends have moved away and i now need to start all over again.

@abbieafterhours 5 ай бұрын

starting all over again is not the worst thing! new people in your life is always a good thing :) just make sure you keep in touch with the old ones that matter