the “alien, or goblin, or fairy, or elf” part weirdly stuck with me, its the perfect way to describe how gender affirming my bizarre piercings are and why they make me so happy and why im so proud to have them

I watched this with my mom and when you said that part about how medicine just isn't able to provide what you want anatomy wise, she looked over at me and said "Now that sounds familiar." I have the exact same feeling about bottom surgery. There are technically options that would in theory give me what I want as a nonbinary person, but in practice, the technology just isn't there yet to give me the function I would want. Listening to you talk about gender affirming piercings has gotten me thinking about getting some for myself. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this. It's helped me start thinking about gender and piercings in a way I wasn't before.

You described a gender experience very similar to my own! I related to a lot of what you said! Piercings and tattoos make me feel in control of my gender expression in a way I never have before! I love you and your content as someone who is new to the non-binary experience and body modification 💖💖

i deeply resonate with this as a fat, queer non-binary person. personally i resonate with agender; with being outside/without gender and often i equate it to something ethereal/otherworldly/alien. piercings/tattoos/body mods have been so transformative, eye-opening, and affirming for me in ways i never could have imagined when i was younger and struggling with depression and dysphoria. hearing you put this into words was really beautiful.

Piercing and tattoos have always been a huge part of my expression. When I was younger it was a form of rebellion (my parents then and now are still very against piercings and tattoos), but now it’s a form creativity and expression!

This is so cool! I’m a bi cis woman and I’ve had my ears pierced since I was 8. I just got my septum pierced about a month ago and I’m considering getting tattooed soon. I’ve never thought about piercings in this way. I always considered them a purely aesthetic thing. But looking back on my life, I could see how even as a cis woman my piercings are related to my gender. Many of the girls I grew up with got their ears pierced around 8 or 9 years old, making it a sort of milestone for young girls. As for my septum, I’ve always felt insecure about my nose (a larger and stereotypically masculine nose) and the piercing has helped me like my nose more. It’s also given me a slightly alternative queer look. A year ago I also dyed my hair from blonde to copper which feels more “me”. I’m feminine but in my own artistic and queer way. I don’t have to be feminine in the typical way I’m expected to be. So cool to hear about your experience and think about physical expression in a deeper way.

this described a similar experience to my current experience, as of right now i'm hyper-feminine and use she/they pronouns, i'm afab but when i was 13-14 i thought i wanted to be male, and i had such an uncomfortable experience in my own body. i dont have any intimate piercings or any below my head, but the ones i do have make me so happy and i feel so comfortable and unique to me and i'm finally expressing myself how i want to!

I have also had similar experiences with piercings and gender. I don't want to fall into the binary, I just want to be shiny, in a way that's something else entirely.

this video popped up at the right time, you're so great to listen to when i work on my art portfolio :] that aside, loved that comment about piercings being one of the first gendered experiences for afab people- i also come from a culture where girls get their ears pierced right after birth and growing up they were actually a source of discomfort for me. now that i'm a little older i realize that might have been because i didn't allign with girlhood at all. it took me a while to realize that piercings and body modifications in general can actually be really affirming! so these days i'm looking into getting my face pierced, but in a way that makes me feel more confident and masculine it's cool how much impact seemingly small things like these can have on people

i relate to this so much!! and this video about how it felt for you to grow into your non binary identity made me feel so seen, much more than ive ever been seen perhaps. thank you.

I love and agree with everything you said here and thank you for sharing this!! I don't really have a label for my gender other than trans but I have been expressing my gender with body modifications since far before I had the words to describe it. I also recently got top surgery and part of what made me decide to get it was the idea of my chest specifically being flat with tattoos. The tattoos are 100% a part of it for me. I haven't been able to get them yet because I have to give it more time to heal and while I love my results I also feel like I'm only halfway through the process. Before I got top surgery I had my nipples pierced (now I have no nipples at all) but the nipple piercings also were a way for me to feel comfortable with my chest at the time.

This is definently one of my favorite videos you've made on this channel and i want to thank you for making this. As someone who identifies as nonbinary and presents more femme this video really resonanted with me. Having body modifications such as piercings and tattoos has been really affirming for me and has really been transformative and life changing. I feel very beautiful with them and im happy that things like this can bring a more positive aspect into someones life. I do hope in the next life for you and others out there that there will be surgeries to help achieve the body you and other people want

As a cis Black woman, my facial piercings have really helped me love my facial features and understand how beautiful they really are when society often tries to convince me they're ugly. This probably doesn't completely align with gender affirmation, but I identified with a lot of what you said in many ways. Thanks for making this video! ❤️❤️

You're videos are so incredible in their depth and introspection. Love your insights into this often overlooked aspect of gender expression. As a non-binary AMAB person, getting my navel done, a piercing only I could see and enjoy unless I explicitly showed someone was incredibly gender affirming, as it made me feel pretty and valid, something I really hadn't experienced before. I hope to get many more piercings to affirm my gender and to hopefully signal my gender to others. Unfortunately this means also signaling my gender to my less than supportive parents, but something I hope to overcome in the coming months and years. Thanks again for this content, it is much appreciated by me :)

this is such a powerful video thank you. its really got me thinking:) im transmasc - i got my ears pierced when i was 9. i wanted only one ear done because that was the “boy” thing to do, but i was made to get them both done. once i came out as trans and tried to conform to a strict binary trans man form of masculinity i didnt use these piercings for a long time. its only since starting t and having top surgery ive felt able to take charge of my body again. ive got my septum and two more sets of lobe piercings and am planning to get more piercings and tattoos in the future. the kind of sparkly gold dangly earrings i love feel so feminine to me- it helps me feel like im not forced into this super masculine box that i felt pressured into as a trans man. its a level of femininity i can come back to and find comfort in. its interesting how the very same piercings that would have caused me so much dysphoria before surgery and T due to how i percieve them as feminine are now a huge source of euphoria to me for that very same reason. thanks for sharing this & for talking about gender affirming piercings in such an inclusive way

Damn... No wonder I'm so drawn to your channel. Your sense of taste and style appeals to me so deeply not only because it's cute but because it comes from the same place. The importance of gender and sexual symbolism and becoming more yourself through piercing.

Cis woman here. I didn't even get earlobe piercings until I was 16 years old after coercion from my father's then wife. I eventually grew to be quite unhappy with their placement and got them re-done by a professional piercer ten years later. The society I grew up in heavily associated earlobe piercings with femininity, but I never considered them to be a gender affirming thing for me personally. I just got my earlobes re-pierced this time because I wanted to do it and I wanted it done right. I'm much happier this time around and can't wait to go back to my piercer for more.

the ally-to-gender-nonconforming pipeline - O.M.G. i felt that

This so spoke to me. I’ve recently realized that I am very likely enby and it makes a lot of things make more sense. Getting my nipples pierced overjoyed me, I feel so good about my chest now, where before I always felt like it was either too small or too big, now it feels perfect and fitting with the rest of me. I didn’t notice that as much with my other piercings, though I’m sure I can reflect more. Thank you for this video!!

I buzzed and dyed my hair recently and it has been so euphoric for me. Like I still feel pretty, which I enjoy, but I don’t feel like a woman. I haven’t done much with piercings for gender but I might start considering it

What is the toner you’re using at the start of the video? I love all your videos; a good idea for another video. I think if you wanted a skincare video for people with facial piercings would be nice 😊 keep up the good work

Thank you for sharing your experiences so honestly and deeply. You genuinely brought me to tears.

Thinking about me and Transfem friend getting our ear pierced together to affirm her femininity

Hi lynn, im kye. Just found your videos last night n i binged watched most of your vids already. 🤣 i love your ear weights n plugs collections. God THEY.ARE.AMAZING. i used to wear 51mm glass plugs, n because of it, it tore my left ear, probably bcos it was too heavy. Dont get me wrong. I stretched since 2003. So it wasnt a "u stretched too fast" situation. So anyways, i was thinking of doing transverse lobe, so i can connect my torn lobe, just bcos i really wanted to use ear weights. As a professional, do u think its a good idea to do that for that reason..? Surgery is kinda out of e question cos funds is an issue right now. Thanks in advance! Keep doing you! Have a nice one

I’m nonbinary but I don’t experience bottom dysphoria at all, however all of my genital piercings give me gender euphoria. There’s just something about them that makes me feel like my genitals are correct for me.

My mom wanted a boy when she had me she dressed me like a girl for like 2 years then we moved and she started only buying boys clothes and shoes the on top of my feet being bigger then all my male cousins I was made to be masc to the point I started shaving my head on the regular was call he or him all the time I felt so out of my body that I couldn’t explain I had to fight to get to be fem that I still don’t feel right as either still so confused

I wanted to ask about being nonbinary. I'm a cis man and I wanted to educate myself. I was raised to be respectful and part of that is yes ma'am and sir. It's like an auto response to anyone no matter the age. But recently I saw someone get upset at another person for saying ma'am because they identified as they them. So what is the acceptable term to use when address someone who uses they them pronouns

This is so interesting to think about! Thank you for sharing.

I wanted you to know, you have a daily wire ad on your video that comes off as transphobic af. it's called daily wire's what is a woman. I know I've reported these ads before and I'm getting very tired of seeing them because I feel harassed by KZfaq. I know I've gone off in my reports just about PragerU ads about harassment... your videos are a blessing to the LGBT community, because of your perspective. Love your vids.

I love your content. And I think that I feel so much more free in listening. Between you and lizzo I am so excited to start to love myself for who I am

Hey! I have a question that I'd like to answer from a professional, so I figured I should ask you. I've been wondering for a while about piercing prices, and how much is considered okay. I've always had mine done for less than 20€, but I know a lot of piercers that work with prices from 50€ and up. And even though that's on the pricey side (for me, because I can't really afford it), I know they work with really pretty and good jewelry made of gold, stones and silver. I'd love to have my piercings with them because it seems like they actually care for what they're putting in you and they want you to enjoy the pieces, but it's too much for me. It'd be great to know your opinion (if you haven't spoken about it yet). Love your content!

As a fellow non-binary she/they, I was a real tomboy growing up, I would go through shoes so quickly from all the really physical stuff I’d do during recess. My mom got my ears pierced because I was a bald little baby, and everyone kept calling me a boy even when mom had me in bright pink clothes. I was 8 months old with a gun (it was January 2002) and I barely cried. And now I have 16 piercings, and have 3 more booked.

I love this and you. Did you do a custom order for that shirt? I work at an animal sanctuary with cats and this shirt purrfectly describes me.

Did you upload pictures of your piercings on twitter?

Please do a tattoo and piercing tour

I have trouble understanding the non binary stance. The way you describe your own experience surely falls under the range of what it is to be a woman. Regardless of my thoughts, I encourage individuals to do whatever is right for them, I don't have to agree to remain an ally