Child Abuse Survivor interview-Deanna

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Soft White Underbelly interview and portrait of Deanna, a survivor of child abuse in Ontario, California.
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@calebboersma4717 Жыл бұрын

I'm Deanna's oldest son, Caleb. We appreciate the kind words everyone has for her and hope that this story helps inspire people in some way or another. Unfortunately the hardships did not stop at the end of this story as my father and her husband passed away in 2010 as a result of cancer. I was only 11 at the time, my two brothers being 9 and 7. Despite that we have remained strong and continue to live our lives as best we can. I am proud of my mother for the resilience she has shown throughout her life.

@deannar1000 Жыл бұрын

I love you son. You are one of my greatest blessings.

@-LivingProof Жыл бұрын

@Deanna R: May God keep you in His complete love & I pray blessings over you and your family. You're a lovely woman, and I'm so sorry for the disgusting circumstances you've had to deal with. You are not your past. Thank you for sharing with all of us. ❤

@isabellel4352 Жыл бұрын

What an amazing family. Love prevails.

@noninoni454 Жыл бұрын

❤🌈 Awww.. thank u for being such an awesome son! Wishing you all a smooth travel through life from here on out with lots of love, peace abundance and protection! May God always be with you ❤🌈 ❤

@makaylaoneal111 Жыл бұрын

There has been a few videos that brought me to tears on this channel, and this was one of them. The sweetest people always go through the toughest hardships. Your mother is the definition of choosing to be better instead of bitter. That is so courageous and so inspiring. I wish all the blessings to you and your family. ❤

@darryljamieson Жыл бұрын

This lady was physically, sexually, and mentally abused, then bullied throughout her entire childhood. You would have thought she would have turned out to be a monster. But she adopts 3 kids and gives them a second chance, and she becomes a nurse to help others. This woman deserves a Nobel Prize for the biggest heart on the planet.

@PAPDOG1973 Жыл бұрын

This is shocking - how anyone could abuse a child is beyond me. Stay strong Deanna you deserve all the happiness in the world.

@johnman559 Жыл бұрын

Shame she had an unaccountable bitch for a mother. Thankfully she's a sweetheart❤ The interviewer LOVES asking about incest/sex abuse details regardless of the interviewee clearly wishing to remain vague about it.

@Mr93sharpei Жыл бұрын

I agree Well said. Thank you

@ow3wells Жыл бұрын

Some people abuse children when they feel overwhelmed, which is no excuse.

@419chris419 Жыл бұрын

@@just_nate_8694 watch the film "Kent Park" and you'll understand.

@BravoTassia Жыл бұрын

Darling Deanna I grew up thinking my mother hated me too. My older sister was adored and my mother's daily mantra to me was "I wish you were never born" I was told I was stupid, useless, ugly, and lazy and I believed it until I walked away and I'm 48! I will never give up on myself ever again. You have a brilliant attitude. Keep moving forward! I decided to cut contact with my mother, which was difficult but the best decision. Sending you love. xxx

@lisamarie9918 Жыл бұрын

Had to cut ties with my mom, too. It was Mother’s Day last year when she sent me a fat joke then talked bad about my husbands race. After a lifetime of not being good enough, that was it. Let the healing begin. Deanna’s outlook is amazing! 💝🦋

@ZombieSazza Жыл бұрын

I walked away at 26, I’m 32 now. My mother favoured my brother heavily, she psychologically abused me and told me I was the reason she was suicidal, she wished she’d never had me, she forced me to bring up my brother, so a child bringing up a child. My brother was encouraged and enabled in his violence towards me. Moving away young just changed the abuse, it never stopped, I escaped with a young persons charity so they stole from me when they could, weaponised my disabilities to shame me, and it became too much. I’d been diagnosed with cPTSD which was weaponised. I’d stayed at my brothers for a weekend and my nerve damage (chronic pain, thanks childhood) was too much so I couldn’t move, so I was screamed at in the face, told to sleep on the floor, the cushions from the sofa were hidden to where my crippled body couldn’t reach them, and when they came back I heard “you should’ve said your pain was bad” and “why didn’t you say something”, so I left. My mother decided she was then staying at my house, with no warning, where she tried to weaponise my medication that I NEED to cope with my constant battle with pain. So that’s when I said “enough is enough”, I kicked her out. She texted later “got home late, car crash on road, bet you wish it was me”. They tried a smear campaign online and I released an unholy amount of evidence with what can only be described as a book of writing explaining why I was cutting all contact. I had friends who’d known my family back up incidents I’d written about, I had support, folk knew they were terrible. They ultimately played themselves trying to control me for walking away. So at 26 I said “no, enough”, and every birthday they try contacting me but I’ve a friends circle READY, they don’t get direct contact with me, because my friends don’t want them talking to me either, they are genuinely angry at my treatment through the years from my family. I can’t really celebrate my birthday as I’ve to constantly be on guard, it’s a PTSD trigger date, but I’m much happier, I feel FREE.

@baublesanddolls Жыл бұрын

Omg, that's terrible. I'm so sorry you went through all of that!! I hope you don't have any contact with your mother!

@kayleighohler9999 Жыл бұрын

You are beautiful! Stay as strong as you always known you have been!

@dubaiedge Жыл бұрын

@@JC-du6sn JC, can you pls. stop with this book rec on every comment on every video, it's obnoxious. Thanks

@EnnVee959 Жыл бұрын

She is an incredible success story. She became a nurse and she has children. She is able to sit upright and articulate herself intelligently. The way she turned out is amazing given the start she had in life.

@jayeb4494 Жыл бұрын

It's good to see that all that pain didn't turn her into an addict, sex worker, or convict. She is a success! I love it❤

@Davina-ru4gp Жыл бұрын

Listening to Deanna's story, I was so proud of her for taking such a traumatic childhood and using it as her motivation to do better ! ❤

@GenuinelyCurious120 Жыл бұрын

Not like all the rest of the losers that couldn't get over it huh

@carolnahigian9518 Жыл бұрын

Wow! my parents gave me 30 Days " room Jail' for years. THIRTY DAYS neglect for sny 1 offense-- Deanna had it Worse...

@Davina-ru4gp Жыл бұрын

@Carol Nahigian still sounds just as hard. I hope you are doing well? Sending love from the UK

@crimsonmckenzie98 Жыл бұрын

Her story got to me... I use to watch the hallmark type movies, roll my eyes, thinkin NOBODY has that wonderful of a family... I vowed to be the best parent I could despite the odds. Then I met my bestie, and his mom... Who embraced me in their lives. Wow. I couldn't believe family could be that loving, kind, non-judgmental. Not perfect, but accepting. You CAN start over, and you can make the best of any situation. Just like this beautiful woman did. Love, light and a peaceful existence to ALL ❤

@a.wanderer5006 Жыл бұрын

What a remarkable woman 🤩 I think the title kind of underplays it a bit there! She is a warrior. A double amputee, works as a nurse and is raising a family. Some people throw their back out and get on workers comp and try to get on disability. I wanted to hear more. I sense she went the people pleaser route from how she underplays living with a severe disability and her choice of profession. She said you have to 'let it go' - the good old fashion 'suck it up' method, under-appreciated these days. But I sense an undercurrent of sadness remaining. She's busy taking care of others. I suspect her biggest liability is forgetting to fill her own cup. Take care of yourself too, Deanna. 💜❤‍🩹

@JustMeeZZ Жыл бұрын

Damn straight this woman is a warrior. That should totally be in the title.

@NECOLEsadiah Жыл бұрын

AMENNNNNN!!!!!!

@leann5949 Жыл бұрын

Well said ♥️

@Cali-Girl Жыл бұрын

I got the message that she has been able to heal some by giving to her adopted children, who needed motherly love and care.

@NiniThomass Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing. I get so tired of the excuses abusive mothers get. Your mother did not “misunderstand “ the doctors, she was abusing you. Being a young mother has nothing to do with character. Who does this to children?

@sues3728 Жыл бұрын

What an amazing lady, she’s literally been to hell as a child & back. You’re children are very lucky to have you as their mom . One of the saddest & yet most inspiring people on your show I’ve listened to . Thank you both so much 🙏🏻🥰❤️

@terrytownsend5583 8 ай бұрын

She literally hasn’t

@terrytownsend5583 8 ай бұрын

Do you know what the word literally means

@naomiemoore5725 Жыл бұрын

How people can be so cruel is beyond me. And what people do to children is unconscionable. These people need to be hunted down and tossed in jail.

@enlightenmentworldunited8545 Жыл бұрын

Jail too good for them.

@sfwatxyo2162 Жыл бұрын

How wonderful hearing her describe how loving her own children the way she should've been loved, helped to heal her.

@YOUR_MOTHER_WENT_TO_COLLEGE Жыл бұрын

Every time Deanna brought up a situation about her and her stump, it seriously gave me the chills and my hairs on my arm stood up. Poor lady, I can't even begin to imagine what that type of upbringing and emotional, mental psychological, physical damage that would've done to me. You are a very powerful and strong woman, inside and out. Thank you again for sharing, wish you nothing but the best.😇

@blissbliss3531 Жыл бұрын

this constant childhood abuse is epedimic out here; it takes exhorbinate courage and fortitude to move on as Deanna's has, become a nurse, adopt and raise her children, she is the poster woman for courage, compassion, brains & a kind heart...