Awesome to see you supporting the SWU community as much as you do Clark, you truly are inspirational man. This one got to me too.

Good to see you, Clark! Nashville Tennessee

Clark, I just watched yours yesterday! Amazing strength ❤ Thank you for sharing your story.

So comforting to see you encouraging another SA survivor! Thank you for reaching back to help others after sharing your story, and with advice on which therapy to get!! I salute you!! 💯💙🔥🔥🔥

Clark , you are the most inspiring person ❤️ Huge respect to you. I'm still healing for the abuse I have suffered as a child. God Bless you 🙏 Sending my love. Dianna X

This happens more than one can imagine

I have small children and it brea my heart into a million pieces imagining them tormented like this❤️

@@dontbelongherefromanotherp9807 Yup.😢💔

Thank You

😥yesss.

Thank you for watching and supporting us Sierra ❤

What is wrong with being a pacifist?

@@elishal1282 Do you have an Amazon wishlist by chance?

@@brookeschultz4354 hello thank you for asking. I did just create a list. Basically haven’t really been able to give my boys the Christmas all kids deserved, so I did create one to get gifts for them. I can send you an invite if you would like

@@elishal1282 Hello elisha, my name is Pnina, I'm from Israel, I saw you and heard about your story, the trauma and terrible abuse you went through. My heart just hurts, I wish I could take away the trauma and horrible experiences you went through! I really wish you find peace, some way to heal the pain. As a mother of three children I am very sorry for the abuse you went through. May you have lots of success and peace of mind. You are a hero!

Agree

I agree! Never put a man above your child!!!! Ever!!!!!

The full responsibility isn’t just the mothers- every child also has a father who should be equally responsible. Also- most parents who’s children are being abused and are in abusive relationships themselves is because they too are often incredibly traumatised from their own childhood abuse. None of it should be happening but it’s incredibly complex

I agree! We are here to protect your kids. Please give every one of us the strength to help, please.

Women thru time are never able to have enough resources to escape these shiddy environments. Mom is trapped as well. 2022 little has changed. So sad.

@@terywetherlow7970 it's like they are trapped against their will to leave based on twisted emotions of love, strained financial resources, and fear of their abuser

It was not her mother's fault. Like many women in abusive relationships she was probably afraid as well as economically dependent. Stop blaming women for the violent and abusive behavior of men...if he was beating her up you can be sure he threatened her if she left

@@merriferrell2818 exactly, people on the outside looking in don't understand how deeply controlled victims are in these types of relationships. They are not only mind-controlled but financially restricted or dependent financially on their abuser. Also, the love bombing keeps victims in a psychological hold to abusers. They couldn't leave even if someone held the door open for them. Just an analogy of how mental forces play a significant role in victims staying

@@merriferrell2818 her mother was also touching her though in this situation i don’t feel for the mother at all

Yes it does because sometimes people judge you.

Agree strong person

It does

I didn’t even remember anything till I turned 42 then it came down like snowballs

Honestly it didn’t effect me until I realized what I went through.

As a victim I completely agree with you.

Yes this is a fact. How our minds block things until something triggers it and we realize what happened.

@@chrisk7091 yes if you don't heal your traumas it comes back with a vengeance. It's better to heal it as fast as one can (esp when one is ready)

Not to take away anything from her, but there are many more people who went through abuse, that are not self-destructive. To say it is rare, is simply not true. No offence intended.

@@thematriarchy2075 she has only had a couple of therapy sessions... most people need years of therapy to be half of what this woman is. She understands her wrongs and how badly she was abused and despite her suicide attempt she keeps trying to bounce back, to be the best mom possible.. She still holds all of the pain, she can barely tell her own story without tears... even apologizing for crying. She still loves her mother who not only allowed that man to abuse her but who also participated in the act... which lead to her to making bad decisions as an adult. She understands everything yet all she wants to do is be a better mom. I have listened to many trauma stories from all walks of life, I have my own situations as well and I have never seen one person that has had similar experiences and not give up in one way or another. Maybe you have, maybe there's a whole other world of people I have yet to see be this way.. but she is the first for me. It takes a lot of willpower and strength to be able to not give up... to me she is a rare and very powerful type of individual. There's a lot of broken people in this world, some people are open about it while others are not. She reached out to give an interview so that others would understand why she posts about her children all the time... not because she is healed and brave enough...not for sympathy... not to be a hero... A person who has never been loved but her main goal is to be the most loving mother she can be is not a typical person at all.

@@bringbacknormal416 Is it you, Anastasia?

Most people who were abused do not end up on drugs , dead or abusive. I was abused.. many of my friends both men and women were abused the pain is intolerable at times sure but most carry on living very everyday lives or many have exceptional lives.. you just don’t hear about this because we don’t speak about it in public.

Thank you Haley, I really felt how much you understand my pain through your comments, I appreciate you very much and please keep us in your prayers ❤

The system? Dont forget to include her own mom

@@michaelcimags6991 That's why I wrote 'also'. Her mom and stepdad were obviously monsters.

Thank you for listening

@@elishal1282 Thank you for sharing, I admire you so much.

@@elishal1282 Oh Elisha, my heart hurts for you. I cried your entire interview. You are such a strong and brave woman. I will never in a million years understand how people can hurt their children and I also will never understand how women stay with men that abuse their babies. It would happen ONE time! There wouldn't be a big enough place on this earth for them to hide. I would find them! You were let down by so many people and I am so sorry. Life isn't supposed to be that hard for a child. I hope you have been able to find strength to put this all behind you. You are so beautiful and deserve Happiness, Love and a world filled with Sunshine! I hope you have a healthy loving relationship with your boys. I will keep you in my prayers every day and ask God to bring Peace and Tranquility into your life and not let anyone ever hurt you again ... Sending you Love and Hugs from Las Vegas 💜 Laura 💜

I will do the same, those are monsters

From one parent to another, do not let your child ever hear you say that. Only say I will make sure they don’t hurt you again, say nothing more in front of them. That is what stopped my child from disclosing to me because abusers create a trauma bond and they don’t want that other person to be hurt they just want it to stop

I agree, I got so upset when she kept apologizing and it is the fault of the Monster who hurt her, NOT hers!! I hope she continues to heal and continue being a great person and mom to her boys ❤️

Thank you so much ❤

@@elishal1282 Keep pushing , you are beautiful and so worthy of every good thing coming your way!! I'm so very proud of you! 💕💕💕

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Thank you for understanding. So many people will tell me I should “get over it and move on” when people don’t realize the damage all these experiences have caused to my mental and how that damage has effected everything I do in life. Living and trying to be strong day to day is so hard and I know life is not supposed to be this hard. So thank you for your comment because for a while I was feeling like I was weak for still feeling pain. Now I know I’m not weak, I am human. Prayers for you and prayers for us all that have suffered. May we all continue to be strong ❤

Everyone can fully heal, you just need to be ready and the right teacher will show up, and when the student is truly ready the teacher disappears (as the saying goes)

That is terrible. You mom should’ve known you wasn’t making this stuff up.

I wish I could give you a big hug.

And you keep telling her. If she is still alive. A breakthrough most happen for you.

How are you then?

Yeah. I used to resent my parents (just a bit) for neglect, inattention and some perceived failing on their part as caregivers and protectors but this channel has made me appreciate what I had growing up.

@@zek7353 My mind too came to that conclusion after I discovered this channel. I used to blame parents and others for my situations and the narration that keeps playing in my mind. I assume God/Universe has a weird way of talking to me, and this channel is one at an unexpected time of life showing me to appreciate my childhood.

Absolutely

Thank you for sharing your story with us, and thank you for being a survivor ❤️

Sorry to ask but are you a male or femal? Thanks in advance.

@@patri1689 I’m a woman

@@crackbabisims Thanks for your response. I am not being insenstive but i would kinda understand the melostation part but how is it a woman can do rape? U dont have to respond if it triggers any of those memories. Btw, i'm glad to hear you say not being a víctim bit a survivor.

@@patri1689 really? You can’t think of any way that a rape/molestation could happen between 2 females?

I was SEXUALLY abused from age 4 thru age 17 then experienced martial rape through out my 13yr marriage I dont trust ANY MAN even my fiance who has never done anything tht deserves not to be trusted but I can't fully trust I've been betrayed by every one in my life I ever trusted a little I have severe PTSD I've stopped screaming in my sleep I do talk and hit in my sleep I've improved with therapy and rx without those 2 things I would be dead I first attempt ed suicide @age 7 nobody noticed thts the abusive household I grew up in I've been a cutter since age 9 still deal with very very strong urges to cut in highly emotionally charged situations I freeze or dramatically over react during arguments I can't handle them I can handle an argument with a complete stranger but not with fiance I've cut ENTIRE birth family out of my life either they don't acknowledge how abusive childhood was(mom) or are severly mentally ill ,emotionally warped or addicted to hard drugs(meth opiods) I don't need ppl in my life who hide behind god and a religious cult(seventh day Adventist) to excuse their behavior it says heaps heaps about you as a parent if all three of your children have either severed ties with you or severly limit their contact with you and 2 out of your 3 grandkids abuse is HORRIBLE &HORRIFIC LEGACY

@@Jenny-uv4dl is there any way I can connect with you personally, maybe we can help each other head. Your story is very similar to the parts of my story That was untold.

So true, that’s one of my biggest fears not able to share my story. I’m still trying to an accept that this happened to me an I’m 29. She’s so so strong for this. I pray she gets the help she needs we all need that’s been there I love you all

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Dont watch at work. I watch these at home

Please help her!

Hoping for the very best for you too! You’re so brave for sharing your story as well 🫶🏾 I hope both monsters burn in Hell and suffer a long, cruel, painful existence for what they’ve done to y’all. You’re free now, he is evil and u didn’t deserve that BS… heal and move forward and make sure you do all that you can to have a child grow up safe from abuse 😊

I'm normal

Some women have been so abused that they get numb about their surroundings. They get desensitized, sadly.

I don't know how you were strong enough to wait for police! If that would've happened to my own kids growing up I would've went ape shit and probably would been sitting in jail away from my kids..

Thank you ❤

@@elishal1282we believe you!

That is the truth. I always look at people driving or whatever and will say to myself “I wonder what’s on their mind or wonder how they are doing” because everyone is goin through something. Thank you for listening ❤

Your mother is a piece of work.

I've come to the realization that most ppl don't really care about kids

@@come_on_barbie_123 Yes, agree w/you 💯 %. What I always find shocking is how many children are abused by their foster parents, who are part of a care system that theoretically was designed as a safe, nurturing haven, for already abused, neglected, and/or abandoned children. It’s similarly shocking to know how many mandated reporters of child abuse and neglect actually do nothing. This happens primarily in school settings. There is now a federal law that stipulates that any professional, working with children in any capacity, that even suspects abuse, is mandated to report their suspicions to the appropriate authorities. How often do we hear of cases where a child’s life could have been saved “if only” someone had said something. And even if a child is actually rescued, there is absolutely no guarantee that they will not become permanently disabled by their inability to overcome their trauma(s) for whatever reason. And yet, as a society, we tend to punish these victims of childhood trauma for not taking personal responsibility for their behaviors. And, with anonymous reporting available, there really is no excuse for anyone to not help a child. “One of our most serious collective syndromes is the fascination with, and yet cruel neglect, of youth.” - James Hillman Founder of Archetypal Psychology

The reality is parents have so much on their plate already that they don't want any of that drama. They know a sex offender is living at the house with the graces of the mother of the abused. Why would you risk your kids going over that house? Who's gonna offer to through a birthday party and have to debate whether to invite mom or explain why they don't want the step dad around. Why even risk your kids being good friends with that kid and having that step father not too far away from your kid? It's messed up, and Elisha does not deserve any of it, but this is how it plays out. It's painful how the cycle of generational abuse traps people.

@@BoyBawalKo Americans have perfected the art of being both sanctimonious and deliberately indifferent to the plight of others. I agree with C’mon Barbie above, in that people really don’t care about children; children have no power and no defenses. The beloved aphorism, “it takes a village to raise a child”, sadly, is a total myth in actual practice. Our culture’s “cult of the self” probably does more damage to children (and to others, especially the vulnerable) than any other political-economic force in our society in the present moment. As the founder of Archetypal Psychology, James Hillman, so aptly wrote: “One of our most serious collective syndromes is the fascination with, and yet cruel neglect, of youth.”

@@donacatanguma most people don't care about others but since you're one of the people who do care, how would you react in that given situation? Would you let your kid go to the birthday party knowing a sex offender is present? Would you offer to throw a birthday party at your house and not invite the stepdad? If you were forgiving enough to invite the mom, would you wonder if at some point in your lives she would allow her sex offender husband around your kids? I think people care but the situation presented is incredibly more difficult than most people are willing to chance.

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You sound like you did a lot of healing to reach the awareness you have. I hope you keep thriving ❤❤

Thank you so much for listening and I hate that you understand. I never thought about a therapist, because what is that?!?! But hearing so many people comment about it, I was def look into speaking with one

@@elishal1282 a good therapist will help you cry your tears in safety. They will help you understand your guilt and explain to you that you were not guilty. Seeking help is not a weakness for we do not have the answers 2 hour questions and our dilemmas. It doesn't have to be hardcore therapy just someone to calm your mind and to strengthen your soul. God bless you.

@DDZ that's hella real that you are addressing the shame/guilt associated with feeling sexual pleasure during the abuse. This is often over looked, not talked about, and as a result never reconciled. If more people understood that it wasn't their fault then they wouldn't have to feel dirty, unworthy, or that they were responsible for the abuse happening. I would imagine more people could come forward about their abuse sooner.

I don’t know why but her telling us how no one showed up shattered my heart. She must have felt so alone and rejected. And she deserved to be so loved and protected. I just want to hug her and protect her.

Same

❤ thank you for your words of encouragement, thank you for listening and thank you for caring. Please keep myself as well as my boys in your prayers

@@elishal1282 We will all pray for you! Never give up! Your boys have a very strong mama! ❤

@@elishal1282 stay strong sister U r worthy and u r more than enough.

Thank you ❤

I put that one right in my pocket when I heard it. 🙌🏼

We’ll said

Agreed

Thank you Jay for listening ❤

@@elishal1282 of course, wishing you nothing but positive from here on, stay blessed 🙏

@@elishal1282 You have had so much bad. But you did not lose your dignity. And that is very important. That man has lost his dignity, and to my opinion your mum, too. But I guess she did not know better, because of her own history.

It's absolutely terrible. And when it's a child, you strip it's Innocence for the rest of their life.

you

Sending you so much love ❤

You need to report it to avoid it happening to someone else you love. Sexual abusers never stop until caught.

It's funny because while listening to her I was thinking her soul is beautiful. You can tell when someone is genuinely good. I surprised myself because I'm not the type of person who describes people that way.

Thank you guys ❤ God bless us all ❤❤

@@elishal1282 your video had me leaking a bit from my eyes while listening at work. Keep healing.

Hello 👋how are you doing?

He says what he has to when it's necessary. If youve watched enough then you know that.

Thank you love ❤

What an ignorant response. She is trying to help.

@@leahlogsdon3969 you’re not helping

@@elishal1282 no one owes you anything. Find your own way.

@@Swanselm dang, are you ok? Do you need therapy? You seem like you have a lot of anger built up inside of you. Sending light, love and happiness your way ❤💋

@@elishal1282 I do a actually need it, maybe I too can sell my pity story & hope mark gives me some money

Amen 🙏. That's what it took for me to start healing and be able to have a semi normal life, was talking w an amazing counselor at 35 years old i FINALLY told my mom and dad and step mother that her son, my step brother had been molesting me for a few years when I was about 11 to 15. I still think of it often, but I can live my life! I pray to God she heals to not feel so traumatized. 🙏

Its not just the "black" community.

Black community?? Happens in all communities.

@@HelloWorld-lg1pz It is all communities. Speaking as a black woman speaking specifically on MY culture I can’t speak for no one else’s because I’m not apart of anyone else’s just to be culturally correct

@@roannfrome1025 it does and is extremely frustrating and that is the point of marks channel to educate on all sides; whether if a person can relate or not

You are so correct. The trauma is real.

It’s the birthday party part that just broke my heart even more for Elisha. She deserved a party and felt so hurt. But like she said it wasn’t her. But people should have invited her over and at least have her a card and a gift. It’s the thought for her

My mother only gave me the birds& bees talk to prevent me frm being raped after I was molested she was too late I had already been raped at age 4 my mother with held food until I ugly cried and begged forgiveness for something I didn't do then when I grew to were I could reach plates she started silent treatments again had to beg forgiveness for an imagined sin while my sister could and did anything she wanted ( in adulthood sisters husband stole parents car drove to a large city traded it for drugs parents got back car mostly stripped didn't file police report cuz he was dad a two small grandkids) I was repeatedly molested by church elders of the cult (seventh day Adventist)my parents belonged too my parents did ZERO usually only thing tht happened was we would change church's or molester would he won't lose status nothing some of these men I remember hearing had been molesting children for 25+ yrs and ZERO had been done first time I told my mom I had been molested she told me not to ever sit on my dads lap again I might misunderstand him now as an adult I say WTF? I had been molested I knew wht a bad touch felt like my dad and I had been close until tht point she must have told him the same cuz I never sat on dads lap Again so I was rejected by dad kinda denied a mother's love over a lifetime ( I have zero contact w/her 15+ yrs) no wonder I was molested raped ended up in an abusive marriage were spousal rape happened I almost became an addict/sex worker all because I was denied emotional support of a parent

Thank you Marcy! It was very difficult and it was difficult for me to watch. Your support goes a long way

It’s crazy how we don’t notice until we do, thank you love ❤

Helena, don't be consciously deceived...I respect your response and opinion however, this channel is not for people to debate negatively about social atrocities, It's to understand, be more informed and to encourage people who've experienced hell on earth..For me it's not about debatable viewpoints but to show support for others in the kindness that I've experienced knowing Jesus Christ.

Religion has nothing to do with it. Pulpit pimps like you are part of the problem

💜💜So sorry. Keep healing Survivor.

Thank you ❤️ prayers that you completely heal as well 🙏🏽

Great comment.👍

Trauma is multi-dimensional.

Thank you Wesley ❤

I've always had this idea to have all males snipped at birth, and after a certain age, and a test (a great big deal test) to have it reversed when they're mature and ready. Maybe pay a bit of money to get it reversed too at that.

They do when you are a foster parent I had to be licensed certified background checks for any and everyone in the household including if pets are fit to stay

Hmmm interesting

@Texasgirlinacrazyworld Thank you! You can go to my KZfaq channel and listen to the videos entitled "The Trial". Or you can go to my website which is my first name and then my last name. Or you can search on Amazon for the book with the title: The Trial. Subtitle: Giving Myself Permission. I don't think KZfaq will post my comment if I try to include the URL.

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That is the reason I stopped talking to most of my family. They are like cults protecting abusers.

Speak up anyway! More power to you!🌸

Thank you very much. I do plan on doing a follow up video soon, just have to have the affects from this video sit for a minute before I get to that point. I’ll be sure to inform you when I do ❤