Your hair is naturally 4c regardless of you being biracial. I've always admired the way you embraced both your black and white side and that you are proud of your beautiful afro textured hair. Haters are always gonna hate, always live in your truth.
@Prestelle Жыл бұрын
THISSSS!!!!!! There’s something very refreshing about someone embracing all of who they are. 🥰
@paulinebaylock8740 Жыл бұрын
@@Prestelle I agree and your parents, social circle can help or hinder this process✌🏾
@genevaxo Жыл бұрын
Her hair is not 4c btw.
@retronativ854 Жыл бұрын
@@genevaxo Have you seen her hair fully dry without product? If not then you don't know her hair type. She has a small afro in her other videos. Her hair is stretched in this video. I have 4c hair and I know how different it can look depending on products and stretching.
@genevaxo Жыл бұрын
@@retronativ854 She literally said in her videos that she doesn't have 4c hair💀💀 You can only type hair when there's product in it to see the curl pattern. Because all type 4 hair practically looks the same without product. She's a clear 3c/4a. Stop thinking dry hair = 4c hair, it's ridiculous.
@invisiblerevolution Жыл бұрын
If it's your natural HAIR.... than you ain't blackfishing baby. ❤️
@AnyahEMB Жыл бұрын
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@godsdaughter1962 Жыл бұрын
🥰♥
@Prestelle Жыл бұрын
THISSS!!!!
@sherlynbrown5270 Жыл бұрын
That is exactly right
@irinefreeman Жыл бұрын
Girl she is black fishing she doesn’t have 4c hair lmao. There are chemicals out here that turns straight hair into kinky hair! Do you realize in all of her videos she never shows the roots of her hair. Y’all getting played she’s a white woman😂
@crystalwtube Жыл бұрын
Black women: You have a choice. You can choose to see someone that looks like Joy-el, out & about, and ASSume that she’s white, “wearing black hairstyles” and be mad. Or you can see someone like Joy-el, out & about, “wearing black hairstyles” and assume that she’s biracial, or even just light skinned, and not mess up your blood pressure. In other words, you can choose to drink poison, or not. Simple. Worry about your own life and the things you can actually change.
@40mrm Жыл бұрын
Bottom line she is a women wearing her hair how she wants. Her race doesn’t matter.
@WW-kw3rt Жыл бұрын
I see a black girl, we light to dark, dark, and darker in my family I don’t assume everyone that looks like her is biracial.
@msgirlevev9350 Жыл бұрын
@@WW-kw3rt I do think in the black community, we tend to be a lot more lax for who we consider a black girl vs a black guy. She does not look black, and that is ok. If her hair is straight, she is white passing. If her hair is in its natural 4c state, she looks biracial. As a community, we def should stop accepting everyone as black. Anyway, she is a beautiful woman :)
@hummingbird4335 Жыл бұрын
@@msgirlevev9350 It's not up to you or any so called community to "accept" anyone as black. If the girl has black blood in her which she does, she is black. Yes, she is part white & can absolutely also own that part of her. She does NOT need you or any other person dictating where she is "acceptable". For f%#k's sake, this is another human being that you are regarding as an object. She does not need your acceptance to be what she actually is. Get over yourself. 🙄
@msgirlevev9350 Жыл бұрын
@@hummingbird4335 I absolutely do not see her as an object. Watch CHRISSIE's channel if you wish to understand my viewpoint. I'm not "getting over myself" because my viewpoint IS to do with my love for black women. Like you, and for most of my life until recently, I used to accept biracial as black until I came across Chrissie's channel and saw the damaging effects of the one drop rule and how it plays a role in colourism, texturism, and featurism. It's already not about me. My earlier comment was about the black community as a whole. The one drop rule is toxic. As I said before, biracial =/ black and that is fine. She is a beautiful, biracial woman with beautiful 4c hair.
@her.radiantlove Жыл бұрын
As a blk woman, I find it to be so weird that anyone would get upset. It's just a hairstyle... You look great in them btw! Keep being awesome. 💛
@earthgirl7874 Жыл бұрын
I agree! This is beautiful 😍
@her.radiantlove Жыл бұрын
@@BlasianTingz Good Morning and Happy New Year 🥳 I find it weird. I’m fully aware, I just don’t agree with that reaction. Have a lovely day. ✌️💛
@her.radiantlove Жыл бұрын
@@earthgirl7874 thank you lovely 💛
@Bv3276 Жыл бұрын
The comment I’m about to make doesn’t apply to Joy El! So please don’t apply this to her. But a lot of black people get upset because non-black people like to steal our culture and not give credit. African Style Braids(cornrows, Senegalese, Box Braids, etc) are apart of our culture. I find that a lot of non-black people will wear the styles but be disrespectful to black people or wear the styles and not give credit to our culture and gaslight saying we are not the originators of box braids, cornrows, etc. It’s the style of braid and culture that they tend to be disrespectful toward. For example, I’m not going to wear Indian garments/jewelry and be disrespectful to them or act like they didn’t originate the style of dress. It’s rude and distasteful and I see that a lot of non-black people do that toward us and I don’t like it.
@xxxthoughtlessxxx10 ай бұрын
@@Bv3276That's an interesting perspective!
@autumnjade815 Жыл бұрын
You are NOT Blackfishing! Love` A black Mom of a Biracial Daughter 💖💖💖💖
@grena37 Жыл бұрын
I'm black. 2 black parents from the Caribbean. My skin is light, I have 3c ish hair and people think I'm mixed all the time. It was weird growing up bc I had a "mixed person" experience but I know I'm black so I had a bit of an internal battle caused by external judgements. Your experience is exactly mine. Non black and Hispanic people always compliment my natural twists. Idk what darker ppl do when they see me (I don't look at people in public, I tend to stare down or just ahead) but it's always black people who have the "good hair bad hair" view that compliment me and that's sad 😢 I always try to shift the conversation when I hear it. Yes I'm light skin with 3c hair and I call myself black. Honestly it's tiring and at the end of every conversation I just say... I'm me, that's it. Thanks for the video!! Take care of yourself 💐🌷🌸
@princesschanel469 Жыл бұрын
honestly i didn’t have this experience as a dark skinned black girl for obvious reasons, but when you’re considered the “oreo” black girl because you don’t fit the stereotype as to what a black woman should act like, we have similar experiences
@nunya530 Жыл бұрын
I had this same experience. I’m not mixed. I’m not even light skin. But I feel like I have the mixed girls experience. Bc my hair is curly and I got features “look foreign” or “look mixed”. Lol. I feel like Black Americans especially have a very narrow view of what blackness looks like. Africa is a huge continent. Plus, black and/or Africans in the motherland and in diaspora all have varying histories although some similarities. We all aren’t going to look exactly the same. And we all don’t look the same.
@celesteporter2918 Жыл бұрын
@@orange300-ct8fcAfrica is a large continent with many different phenotypes/hair textures. Egypt, Sudan, Nigeria, Ethiopia, Kenya are all African countries. All natives of these countries are African. Yet, can and do have different phenotypes/hair texture. A history class about the continent of Africa can be beneficial.
@wordsbymaribeja1470 Жыл бұрын
@@celesteporter2918 Anti-African delusion about the African phenotype could be beneficial to you also, Africans, largely do not have a hair type outside of type 4. Please, let's leave this 'we're so mixed' to the blacks in the Americas, we don't need this cancer among Africans. And spare me about the Horners, they are racially mixed with Arab.
@rosam6748 ай бұрын
@@celesteporter2918 Don't add Arabs in the north to native Africans. Same as whites in the South. Those are immigrants.
@otherbrides5485 Жыл бұрын
The school kids ask my son how he gets his hair to look like Bob Ross. He explains that he has an afro. Because of his hair type people think it is a joke. He is so fair and has a certain type of hair that people do not believe him when he says he is Black or mixed. He handles it well. We have candid conversations about how he is perceived in the world. He listens to your channel while I watch. You are helping elementary children, high school girls, and me (all in one family). Keep sharing your truth and experiences ❤️.
@trinity1aee Жыл бұрын
As a fellow mixed kid (Nigerian, Mexican, and European), I have spent the better part of my 39 years on this earth also having to explain myself. My hair looks like yours, and I also have very European features. However, I am melanated enough to be identified by strangers as a Black woman. A frustration for me is being rejected by the Mexican/Hispanic community. I have never joined Hispanic clubs in school because I never felt welcomed. To this day, I feel like I would be seen as a fraud somehow. It makes me very sad because I was raised only knowing my Mexican grandparents and extended family (my Nigerian family still lives in Nigeria. I'm in the US). My mother's first language was Spanish. My grandparents spoke Spanish in the home. Yet I have never felt like I was "allowed" to be Mexican outside of my home. My other frustration is that strangers also reject me for not being Black American. My dad is an immigrant. My mom's dad was an immigrant. Being biracial AND a child of immigrants is a VERY different upbringing than being a Black American. But because I look Black, it is assumed and expected that I know and understand everything there is about being a Black American. I have been berated by grown-ass adults because I don't understand a Black cultural reference or because I didn't grow up experiencing something that is uniquely tied to Black American culture. It's sad that, in theory, people seem to understand that Black people are not a monolith and that Black people come in all shapes, sizes, colors, and hair textures, but daily interactions with humans do not play out the same way.
@essjay3051 Жыл бұрын
I am bi-racial a similar mix (mexican and black)as you but both my parents are American. I was raised by my mom who is Mexican but we were not near her family or any other Latinos. Towards the end of highschool, I became obsessed with Latino culture and wanted to know and learn about that side of me. I joined clubs, majored in Spanish, was interested in Spanish language music and dance and still love it to this day. I feel I was accepted by the Latin community at school, but I never was able to feel a connection to that part of my culture. I honestly don't feel much of a connection to either side. I kind of stopped trying and am trying to be myself.
@Melmar09 Жыл бұрын
I am biracial and very light skinned.. I started wearing box braids about a year ago. I feel more confident as I don't know what to do with my hair. I've had Caucasian people look at my and actually laugh, it even brought me to tears,, until I told myself the same thing you said. They don't know me or what I have to deal with when I have never been taught how to take care of my hair being that my mom is Caucasian. Now I rock them with a big smile on my face! I will not let anyone make me feel ashamed of who I am just because they assume they know my nationality. Love your channel and knowing that I'm not alone helps alot. Thank you!!!!!
@kimmcfadden7679 Жыл бұрын
I've always thought that school children should be taught at an early age about human genetics 🧬 The school could do a lot more and moving society forward when it comes to "race"and identity. They probably need to make it a requirement in school and start teaching it starting in elementary school so these kids can go back home and teach some of the ignorant family members about the University of humankind and you can't "judge a book about its cover." Science & Biology classes would clear up a lot of ignorance. My middle school and also my biology class in college went over genetics and how different traits from different parents pairing up together can have an infinite variety of offspring. When it comes to Black, Latin X and white people in America we're so color conscious & hair conscious and so judgmental about people we know nothing about...
@ComaLies225 Жыл бұрын
How are you blackfishing when you are LITERALLY BIRACIAL? Holy guacamole people are being ridiculous. You can’t help your genetics and these protective styles are for your hair type
@Robloxlegend49 Жыл бұрын
Who are these race Gatekeepers?!!! Pay them zero attention!
@daughterofyah6209 Жыл бұрын
I never felt offended by you, I have been subscribed for a few years. I subbed to you because you actually have a tighter texture and a true 4c hair type unlike the “hair fishing” and I like to see how hair styles look on different types of hair. You never came off as egotistical about your combo like I get from other creators-even w/ dark skin people who have super curly hair. Idk I don’t think you have to explain but hey I get it. This is a good video as a introduction video for your channel, like a “welcome to my channel, here’s the 411 before you even start” 😂😂
@SharmaineJoyel Жыл бұрын
Lol that's a great idea!
@Ferrist1 Жыл бұрын
Very interesting situation altogether. I hate that you have to be the one to bear the brunt of this social stigmatization, but it's very fascinating to see and hear people's interpretation on racial identity and who has the "right" to gatekeep and participate. Black people would like to be generous with our culture, unfortunately we learned very traumatic lessons in white people exploiting or stealing Black culture. Now we've become high strung about appropriation (understandably so). If we're not sure the least we'll do is be quiet until we know more. Either way your mother is a Black woman. You have a direct right to the culture Black women take joy in sharing with our children. You look beautiful, don't let people rain on your parade.
@theprimitivista Жыл бұрын
talking about gatekeeping while granting her the right to this style because her mother is black. how generous of you. Tibetan women have been wearing braids long before America was a thing and they have no knowledge of African hairstyles. Blk culture is more than hair, but black women have told the world that it is our biggest weak spot, so of course we're going to get tested on it, every chance anyone gets. It's really not that deep, but blk women have screamed to the world that it is. To be high strung about how someone else wears their hair and the praise is asking for the high blood pressure and early death worrying about such trivial bullshit will inevitably bring.
@theprimitivista Жыл бұрын
@@lynnmitchell7378 We were told that we were dirty and nasty and all that stuff from day one. You can't force people to like you, accept your look or think that you are beautiful. Having your own shit protects you from constantly seeking external validation from people who have never liked you, don't have to like you, may never like you, and aren't obligated to think you are pretty.
@Ferrist1 Жыл бұрын
@@theprimitivista "If a white man wants to lynch me, that's his problem. If he's got the power to lynch me, that's my problem. Racism is not a question of attitude; it's a question of power". - Stokely Carmichael. It goes deeper than like or opinion, it's about systemic power. I don't think the collective Black woman has ever cared whether we're "liked" or not, but most of the hate and prejudice lodged against us has stemmed from or resulted in real life systemic oppression. And when we've made attempts to build or establish our own it has either been appropriated or sabotaged. Sure we keep on keeping on, but the frustration is real and we have the right to vocalize that frustration.
@cassiecoleman9101 Жыл бұрын
Your beautiful, you are biracial and should not have to choose a side or explain yourself to any side, you should be able to embrace both sides equally and people on both sides should accept you for who you are and first of all you are a human being and that is all anyone else needs to know.
@randomgrannie Жыл бұрын
You look amazing. I find humans so interesting. I’m a medium brown skin, almost 100% African and have been told/accused of being biracial because my hair is curly. I was confronted once to just accept the fact that I’m a white woman with dark skin. Humans can be cruel. You are beautiful and unique. Your ancestors gave you a beautiful crown little one. ❤😊 Thank you for sharing. It’s why I love your channel.
@Prettyprofessor Жыл бұрын
You're just a beautiful person, living in the skin that you were given ✨️
@elishebaxoxo Жыл бұрын
So I'm bi racial. I've been following you for about 4 years. When I was in my teens I damaged my hair severely with cramy crack. As I got older and I started taking medications my hair grew thin and started to break easily it could no longer handle the chemicals. So I went natural now my hair is probably about 10" long and I always wear my hair in natural styles at work. I get so much hate from the girls in my office I do not wear fake hair I wear my own hair and I get side eyed. A lot. Lots of jealousy. I cannot change who I am nor do I want to. I'm older now and at this stage in my life I don't care what other people think. They don't pay my bills
@jl9480 Жыл бұрын
What do they say or do that makes you think they are jealous?
@jesusmywholehaschanged Жыл бұрын
I wouldn't call it jealousy. Thin 10 inch hair is nothing to be jealous about. Anywho, a lot of black women have disdain for unkempt hair and may think your hair is not done, hence the side-eying. I've been asked all my life, "When are you going to do your hair?" and side-eye for wearing basic buns/ponytails without weave/wigs and baby hair. My hair, my decision, but I wouldn't call it jealousy.
@PriscillaB2015_ Жыл бұрын
Don’t think they are jealous of you, personally. There is a negative narrative that black women are jealous of biracials, when that usually is not the case. Usually, they idolize them. Just wanted to let you know!
@mellamobrittney Жыл бұрын
@@jesusmywholehaschanged Firstly, she didn't say that she had "thin, 10 inch hair." She said that her hair was thin, due to medication/relaxers, so she grew out her natural hair which is now 10 inches. Secondly, if she feels that people are jealous of her, then that's how she feels 🤷🏽♀️
@jesusmywholehaschanged Жыл бұрын
@@mellamobrittney And if I FEEL like leaving a comment, I'll leave a comment. 🤷♀️ Feelings aside, there is nothing wrong with showing someone a different way of looking at things. Just because someone hurts your feelings doesn't always mean they are jealous of you. It is also a red flag to hear another poor innocent biracial trope where the black girl meanies were soooo jealous of her. Whether it was thin and breaking at one point and ten inches at another point, neither of those would make anyone jealous. I totally believe she was side-eyed; That's usually a sign of making fun of someone, not being jealous.
@nicolenicole208510 ай бұрын
Shout out to all us mixed kids who look completely different than the stereotypical "mixed person look". We out here confusing people 😂❤😂❤ great video btw! love your honesty and transparency and your hair!
@DrGoldieMD Жыл бұрын
I have no problem with any race wearing braids or other protective styles. Hair is meant to be enjoyed and adorned. I really commend you for having such a positive attitude and being secure in yourself. I’m half African and I get surprised reactions because I have fine looser curls. People often assume that I’m Afro-Latina. That’s how genetics play out sometimes. They need to teach basic genetics in school, lol. I think the braids look beautiful on you. Hope you continue to recover from the flu and feel better soon!
@sarath7619 Жыл бұрын
This was a great video. I really made me think twice about judging someone in public.
@Justme_247 Жыл бұрын
Why can't people wear whatever hairstyle they want?
@sarahb6758 Жыл бұрын
I was always aware that if u have any black in you, you are classed as black regardless of what we look like. It's been like this for centuries. So don't worry what others say or think. There is so much beauty in being mixed and being able to take from more than one ethnicity.
@sherlynbrown5270 Жыл бұрын
Totally agree 💖💖
@hollychaney5820 Жыл бұрын
Actually in 1964 the one drop rule ended but even before that we were not called black until the racist Jim Crow laws. You shouldn't want anyone to follow a racist law.
@livingfinance Жыл бұрын
If you look at history you will see that there is lot more to it.
@msgirlevev9350 Жыл бұрын
@@hollychaney5820 Agreed! It is ok for a biracial person to identify as biracial. They don't have to pick a side.
@skylarsky3173 Жыл бұрын
Joy-el, Firstly, you are an awesome person. I am Kelly Rowland's complexion but my mom is much lighter with really light eyes and she has told me stories from her childhood that make me really sad. Our community has a lot of issues due to slavery. Personally I can tell that you are biracial but that really should not matter. Remember that there are a lot of lonely and damaged people who troll internet all day. I am really sorry that people who look like me are giving you looks. It's their own insecurities and you do not have to explain anything to anyone. Just keep being beautiful Joy-el.
@Bv3276 Жыл бұрын
I don’t think it’s insecurity more than it’s just they’re trying to preserve what little culture they have left after slavery and generations of being stripped from their original African culture happened. I do think black people should be more open minded toward biracial but I can see how it’s hard because in the past biracial people have completely taken over their spaces(not by their own fault). But since they’re praised in black culture for their hair or features, it’s tough. I do think they should have their own space personally. I do think they should be allowed to wear black hairstyles also. 🤷🏽♀️
@godsdaughter1962 Жыл бұрын
I am so sorry that you have to endure these rude comments. You are by no means "blackfishing"! Your mom is African American. I think that box braids look beautiful on you. Your hair is beautiful however you wear it. Ignore ignorant people. My personal story: Both of my parents are Black. My hair type is 3b/3c/4a. When I was in my twenties, I wore it very long. This was in the 1980s. I am sixty now. Black men and women used to ask me if I was wearing a wig. One man yelled across the street "I like that beautiful wig you are wearing". I was mortified! Many Black women accused me of wearing a weave. It was horrible! I started wondering if my hair was real. I know that sounds weird, but I was going through different things and am extremely sensitive. I received these comments whenever I went out the house. Once I went to the emergency room and the African American lady behind the desk asked me if this was my hair. She said that the texture in the front looked different than the texture on the side. All my life, I was teased about my hair. Now, I do not care! I went natural in 2014. GOD bless you. Much love and hugs. I hope you feel better soon. ❤🙏❤
@deva190 Жыл бұрын
My goodness, of all of the things the lady could have asked in the emergency room desk, it was about your hair. Good grief. I don't understand people.
@taquinmcmullen6490 Жыл бұрын
I feel you! I have had long hair all of my life and I always have been accused of having extensions. I just ignored the haters all through middle and high school. We need to learn to ignore the haters! Their opinion does not matter!
@godsdaughter1962 Жыл бұрын
@@deva190 Yes, exactly! That is the first thing that she asked me. All I could think is, "Not here, too. I came here for help, and she is concerned about the hair that grows out of my scalp." I remember the incident like yesterday.
@godsdaughter1962 Жыл бұрын
@@taquinmcmullen6490 Amen to that! Once we ignore them, their words have no power over us! ❤
@tonih4887 Жыл бұрын
I’m mixed (Cape Verdean, Irish descent) married to a biracial man (African American, Turkish decent). My husband was married before to a Caucasian woman and his kids have no look or trace of black ethnicity. My husband is also white passing. His features and hair texture don’t take after his black father. His kids have grown up now but boy when we all go out people are so confused. I laugh at it now. People mistake me for an Afro Latino (curly hair) with my hair straightened, Indian. They view my husband as white. He looks like Adam Sandler. No matter what you look like you have people who want to put you in a box. It is unfortunately what people do. The older I get the more I don’t care. I have had Hispanics tell me off for not speaking Spanish. I don’t even go into it anymore. I’m tired of explaining. I just nod and keep it moving. Life is too short and I no longer explain my existence to anyone. Be proud of who you are, where you’ve been and what you want to accomplish. There is no need for you to explain your origin or existence to no one. Being human for all of us should be enough.
@ShaeliJ Жыл бұрын
I'm biracial. When I straightened my hair, I looked more racially ambiguous. I was mistaken for Mexican and South Asian a lot. I've even had people approach me speaking Spanish. Some people recognized I was at least part Black, but the funniest reactions were the people who would ask me if I was sure about that (um, yeah...I think I know what I am). Since going natural, I think more people are able to recognize that I'm partly Black. Interestingly enough, though, I found out a few years back that I have a good deal of indigenous blood from Mexico in my DNA, so I think the Spanish-speaking people were onto something lol.
@Bv3276 Жыл бұрын
They tend to know. My Dad has Spanish ancestry and they seem to tell with me although I think I look fully black.
@88ashjen Жыл бұрын
My daughter is white passing biracial and I hope she embraces her hair and whatever styles she want to wear. She has 3a/3b hair but I hope she doesn’t ever feel like she can’t wear her hair how she wants. I personally don’t have an issue with anyone having braids I just get upset at the rules made against black women.
@midsu1451 Жыл бұрын
Congratulations newlywed! I've been a subscriber since you started your natural journey. I do have to say in my opinion you are not white passing. You can absolutely see you are mixed with black. From your skin tone to your features it is clear you are not white. You seem very grounded and secure so I'm sure any of the comments will not phase you as they should not. Just know that there are folks who can see or tell that you are definitely a wonderfully secure woman of color. Keep on keeping on Joy-el!
@laylabarns2326 Жыл бұрын
I never heard the term "blackfishing" before until now. Maybe because I'm a little older. Anyway, girl I've been following you for a while and I love you. I'm a very fair skin black women with type 4 hair as well. I just rock with it. Don't have time for other peoples negativity.🙏🏽
@sam-nc5ou Жыл бұрын
When I found your channel I immediately subscribed because I finally found someone who looked like me. I'm not talking about facial features, but the fact that I'm also mixed, white passing with thick type 4 hair. People have an idea of what a mixed child should look like and it's exhausting having to explain who I am and why I look like this all the time.
@40mrm Жыл бұрын
Stop explaining who you are. You don’t owe people an explanation. They should except you however you look. We are all one race. The human race.
@motherearther218 Жыл бұрын
Then maybe ppl can stop asking questions like “what are you?” . I’ve been asked countless times in my life & my friends have never been asked. I know I owe nobody an explanation but ppl just curious, not trying to be rude but it is. I now say a child of god, which infuriates some or alien which also gets the look lol. Also, In hs I was asked if black vs what are you. It was a black group of girls so I said mixed and they like no your black. Ok only to say no your not. Ok so what am? It’s a life only some mixed girls can understand I guess.
@sam-nc5ou Жыл бұрын
@@motherearther218 lol exactly. It's the people who says "no, you're not" or "don't lie" when you're explaining your ethnicity. Like, why do you even ask? Just to prove yourself that you're right? I also get more sarcastic the more people ask, it's just funny seeing their reactions haha
@mariahclemons3784 Жыл бұрын
I absolutely love love love the way you talk about yourself when it comes to your representation. I’m a Black woman and I’ve been following you for a while now. You have my support and your hair is gorgeous!
@NurseMomHopelessromantic Жыл бұрын
I don’t think black women are giving side eyed looks to be mean - I think we’re just trying to preserve what little authentic identity we have before someone profits from it…like always and makes it “ cool” and “ trendy”…I’ve been following you for years and I honestly think people are just confused by your appearance ( Caucasian features) not knowing you’re biracial. You’re beautiful and I think you’re very comfortable and confident in who you are ❤
@Bv3276 Жыл бұрын
Exaaaactly! This comment right here is key: “Preserve what little authentic identity we have”. We are trying to preserve what little sliver of Afro centric culture we have left. I noticed more and more white people are wearing our hairstyles and often time being disrespectful or profiting off of our culture. Then when we speak up, we’re gaslit. And told that we wear straight blonde hair weaves. Very very frustrating.
@caitlinsoliman165810 ай бұрын
It's weird to me you don't realize Native Americans and Europeans, specifically Celts have also worn braids for thousands of years.....
@NurseMomHopelessromantic10 ай бұрын
@@caitlinsoliman1658 I’m aware that other cultures wore braids - we don’t own that hairstyle. My point is that for many years it was not a societal norm for us to wear our hair in braided styles and curly fros until it’s trendy and cool. It’s been happening for decades. Hair is just ONE example 🥰
@caitlinsoliman165810 ай бұрын
@misstravelnursebabe6607 I love everyone but I will say I grew up in a black beighborhood and went to a majority black school and the black kids were very openly racists towards me, other white kids and the few Asian kids....and so we're some black teachers. It was almost accepted and not hidden, I think all the racial tensions are very Dad. White people do Co opt certain styles without acknowledging where they came from at the same time if a black woman wears blonde hair or relaxer I don't interpret her as wanting to be white...people usually like whatever they don't have. **not always. I like your comment but many black people DO think only Africans wore braids and that's just bizarre if anyone was to do a cursory Google search into other cultures. We all come from Adam and Eve so I find it very sad all the racial tension although I know it's real.
@NurseMomHopelessromantic10 ай бұрын
@@caitlinsoliman1658 you are ABSOLUTELY correct 🩷 and I am very sorry you were mistreated by people growing up. That’s really sad to me. I LOVE people and I pray we ALL get to the point of RESPECT for each other. And Yeah and no race of people OWN any hairstyles BUT some people definitely do/say/act/dress in ways that aren’t genuine but profitable. 🩷
@AmberCharise Жыл бұрын
I’ve never understood when other biracial people say they’re not black or not white. For me it’s like Are you black? Yes, & white Are you white? Yes, & black
@tiahnarodriguez3809 Жыл бұрын
That’s because some biracial people don’t identify with either race that they are. It’s the same reason why some biracials identify with only one of their races. Racial identify is personal, so while biracials are technically both, when you ask are you x race and y race, they take it to mean “what race(s) do you personally identify with”? Not “what races are you”? Which makes sense because depending on where a person is raised, and who is raising them, they will develop their own racial identity that may not make sense to others, but it makes sense to them because of how and where they were raised.
@AmberCharise Жыл бұрын
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 & see I’m such a literal person that I wouldn’t even think about any of that lol I never thought of it as more of a loaded question.
@prettypoppin_552 Жыл бұрын
Why is it so hard for folks to understand that a biracial person is a whole person?🤦🏿♀️ It's really not that complicated. Biracial is an identity all by itself.
@silverh34rt Жыл бұрын
I *completely* understand, as a light-skinned biracial human (Black dad, white mom) who just started wearing box braids like 6 months ago. I freaking love them and dgaf what anyone thinks about it. They wanna question me, fine I'll answer. I LOVE my Black ancestry. But like you said, I'm not obligated to apologize for my presence or appearance. Also? I can always spot another biracial person from a mile away -- you didn't fool me for 1 second 😆 Do you notice that as well?
@aprilc8982 Жыл бұрын
I wish I could be this confident my dad is black and my mom is white and last time I got box braids I got ridiculed by a group of teenagers in sams club im 36 years old. I have never worn them since.
@Ummkelechi Жыл бұрын
@@aprilc8982go get your box braids! Who cares what others think!! You look beautiful in that thumbnail!
@ginamt567 Жыл бұрын
That's why I like you being biracial you have Caucasian features but have 4c hair. You are black and white it not your responsibility to explain it to people. I think your unique look make you different make me proud that you embrace your texture. I like that you have figure this hair game out. Your hair is flourishing.
@AwkBlackGirl Жыл бұрын
I’ve always had an issue with people saying that multiracial people (with Black ancestry) are not Black. It’s not right and ignorant. You would think with social media, people would be more exposed to people outside of stereotypes. Oh well. Your hair is beautiful and I enjoy seeing your different hair styles! Very inspiring to me as I have a similar hair type. Thanks for this video, it is a reminder for all of us to be less judgmental and not stare or assume things about people.
@hollychaney5820 Жыл бұрын
Actually we are not only black so I say it all the time no I'm not black I'm black and White Biracial and I never understood why black or white people care or get offended by this. Really its very respectful for us to acknowledge we can never be black and not try to take black women's place.
@vb8932 Жыл бұрын
Biracial people are what they are…biracial. They are not black nor white. Claiming to be black is ignoring your white ancestry too. They should be proud to be both.
@livingfinance Жыл бұрын
I have an issue with people such as yourself who can’t seem to understand that embracing mixed race women doesn’t mean pretending that they are only black, which does a huge disservice to monoracial black women representation.
@AwkBlackGirl Жыл бұрын
@@hollychaney5820 My comment was not intended to say that individuals are not the other racial identity (or identities) they are. It was only to say that I, personally, view multiracial people with Black ancestry as Black as well as White, Asian, etc. If I focus on race, I see people as what they tell me they are. My comment was jsut to say that I don’t think non-multiracial people should deny multiracial people the right to identify as apart of the Black community as they are a part of it just like they are any other community. I did not clarify that in the comment so I wanted to clear that up. But, that’s just my opinion. I respect yours (especially as you have personal experience with it) and will always refer to people as what they tell me they are!
@livingfinance Жыл бұрын
@@AwkBlackGirl truthfully most black people who want mixed race to be labelled accordingly arent saying that. They are saying it is disingenuous and a misrepresentation to label them as just black. You see this in advertising and entertainment all the time, mixed women portrayed solely as black women. Mixed kids portrayed in black families with two black parents. Like come on. It goes far beyond just identity politics and it’s the constructed narrative surrounding once again biracial women and their identity in black communities that are being in question. Men seldom are subjected to this. So this is not mixed race problem as it is a mixed race women issue.
@andreamorina2887 Жыл бұрын
Keeping being you! I am a Black American but people think that I am Indian or Ethiopian but anyway I think you are another one of God beautiful human being I like your channel because you do seem very real and authentic in who you are and it comes across very real your not “fake” in anyway and I respect that continue to be true and happy with yourself because that just how God made you and part of your beauty is walking in who you are “congratulation” on your new marital journey you seem to be a very kind and loving person and I personally look forward to seeing how your new family will evolve by your husband being Asia you guys are what the future really is going to look like beside that keep doing those hair style and sharing your natural hair journey with us because I am natural too and have learned a lot from you and your channel…God continue blessings upon you and family keep Inspiring us I ❤ it! 👍🏾
@hc7092 Жыл бұрын
I’ve been watching your hair content for a few years now. I remember when I first saw your video on my homepage and I did genuinely think you were white wearing an Afro. Which looking back, I find it quite hard to believe because now I know you, I do think it’s clear that you’re biracial. But I guess hindsight is 2020. It’s interesting to see your experience with braids, and other protective styles is different to black women. Black women get criticised for it especially in the workplace, or in schools. It just shows that the hairstyle isn’t the issue but rather people just finding an excuse to “other” black women. Obviously none of that is your fault. But it’s interesting that your experience is different. Anyways, keep doing you girl. I’ve loved seeing your natural hair flourish over the years. Your hair is really similar to mine and we are on a similar journey. I learnt so much from you!
@40mrm Жыл бұрын
My son sent me one of your videos several months ago. It tripped him out because you and I look almost exactly alike. I being the older version tho. He literally said when did my mom start a KZfaq channel. Anyway, I am biracial as well. Mom is white, dad is black. I grew up in Texas. I have always gotten the looks and the questions so I know exactly how you feel. It’s almost as if they need to put you in a category so they will know how to treat you. There came a point in my life where I decided I’m no longer playing that game. We are all of one race. The human race. Now when I get that question “what are you?” I simply say HUMAN and keep it moving. I don’t wanna know a person that needs to know what race I am. Judge me by how I treat you and carry myself. Not by my skin color. I also get the most hate from black women and I don’t understand why. My hope for you is that you reach a place in your life that you don’t feel the need to explain to anyone who you are. Just be you and you’ll be fine. God bless
@xxXUnderdogHeroesXxx Жыл бұрын
On November 27th 2022 I have decided to do the big chop after 8 years of damaging my hair with a flat iron. I finally found out why my hair won't go back to its natural 4c texture and I barely straightened my hair. I only use the flat iron once or twice a year to see how long my hair had gotten so yeah my long hair is all gone and now I'm starting over on my natural hair journey the right way. Say no to flat irons
@artrishcampbell2110 Жыл бұрын
Hey there Joy-el, I'm not a biracial woman I happen to a black woman who happens to be a little bit on the lighter side myself and I find that I get side eyed by other black women myself or other black women will actually come up to me and tell me why am I choosing to walk around with my hair looking like that I should actually cover it up or straighten that mess up. I actually get compliments from black men about my hair. A lot of us black women believe the only way to attract a black man is to wear your hair straight or cover it up with a wig or weave which is so false btw. I've been natural since the late 90's and I'm in my late 40's and I'll say this to you and other biracial women embrace your blackness because I've seen a lot of young biracial women run away from it and hate their black side and the way you are embracing your blackness is through your hair. Keep on embracing your hair.
@motherearther218 Жыл бұрын
I embrace myself. Almost 40 So I care less what others think. My kids fully pass but I so get what it’s like to not be accepted. I’m not white or black enough but just being me is often an issue too. People just don’t get how they treat others is insensitive.
@natasha831969 ай бұрын
I’m bi-racial and grew up in the 70s and 80s. Mixed kids were a lot less common then and I got used to the looks and comments. Two of my kids are white presenting and they have both talked about people looking at them oddly at times which really surprised me. As a mom, I’m thinking “Of course they are - you’re gorgeous!”, but what’s really happening is people are trying to figure out “what they are”. We live in a society that feels compelled to put labels on everything instead of just letting people be. It comes from a place of ignorance. So glad to hear someone sharing these experiences.
@twomisfithippies9790 Жыл бұрын
Good to see you again! ❤ I loved this video. I used to feel I had to explain myself because of my hair, however I have the opposite issue. I’m a brown skinned African with wavy and curly hair. I’ve been accused of being mixed or white fishing or that my hair is permed. Neither is true. People are interesting to say the least.
@js1js135 Жыл бұрын
I too am lighter, especially in the winter!!! LOL…..I love Senegalese twists, but I get THE MOST “shade” from the installers themselves! I get the side eye, the upturned lip, the “insults” in another language, etc….I walked in for one appointment and had a hat completely covering my hair. There was a different braided present because my regular braided wasn’t there yet. The woman who was there literally threw me out saying that they couldn’t do “my type of hair”. Again, I had a hat on …so her statement was completely based on my skin tone. I told her that I had been coming there for years , etc….but I eventually just left. I also used to get a lot of hate from hair groups such as those on Facebook., etc…back in the day. I got tired of the negativity. So I left all of the groups. I was only there to learn how to care for my type 4 hair.
@Mandyb054 ай бұрын
I'm so sorry you went through that. 😔 Please don't let that deter you. Kicking you out is absolutely disrespectful and they should have at least seen or looked at your hair texture so they can help you. Very unfortunate behaviour and it does seem to stem from ignorance. Don't give up on your journey. 💕
@BlackTinkerbell Жыл бұрын
Girl I missed your content! Lovely to see you you have so much support here!
@NiaJolie Жыл бұрын
People are so silly. You look mixed to me
@Ferrist1 Жыл бұрын
Right. I thought so too. Her mother and father are perfectly balanced in her features.
@2ecember Жыл бұрын
exactly
@bowiegerl Жыл бұрын
Hope you feel better soon. And congratulations on your wedding, I’m sure you made a beautiful bride. 😊
@elizabethtimothy4776 Жыл бұрын
Really, in 2022?! I bet those people didn't pay attention in biology class. I also think they are so jealous of your beauty, from head to toes, God made you perfect and beautiful like all his work.
@lalaliacat9067 Жыл бұрын
Great video! I think it's crazy for people who don't know you to judge you (and I've definitely been guilty of this in the past). At the end of the day black is black no matter if or what you might be mixed with, and black people come with any number of skin tones and features and just because someone may be white passing doesn't mean they can't participate in their own culture. Ignore them and continue to just be you!
@godsdaughter1962 Жыл бұрын
Amen! ❤
@veelove777 Жыл бұрын
I'm pretty sure no one in the Bahamas was side-eyeing you BECAUSE of your hair. There could have been another reason. Also they may have just had resting b face. Many women have it and are very nice. The Bahamas has tons of braiders that braid tourists hair on the beach and where ever else. White people who live there wear braids too. So seeing caucasian people with braids is VERY common and is something that no one there cares about like in the u.s.
@karlamiller1453 Жыл бұрын
I just found your channel! My grandchildren are biracial. You don't have to explain yourself to anybody. Keep doing what you do!
@Dtzeo503 Жыл бұрын
People should really just focus on themselves. You look amazing Joy!
@thedistinguishedpeasant48 Жыл бұрын
I am biracial half black and half white. I never have these experiences living in France. Keep wearing your braids, like you said ' you know who you are'.
@savvygirl1972 Жыл бұрын
You don't have to explain anything to those people. You are so Beautiful and I so enjoy your channel. ❤️
@reginadavis5873 Жыл бұрын
Joy-el, Please put your health first! We can wait for you to feel better. As for the "haters".... Haters are going to hate. Take care, 🙏 🙏 🙏
@CJizzy819 Жыл бұрын
It’s sad that you have to endure such ignorance. I’m black and I have biracial cousins that look exactly like you. I’ve never thought you looked like a white girl with an afro. You look biracial as you are. Simply stated you look like you. Beautifully and wonderfully made. ✌🏾&♥️, CJ
@lindamunro4422 Жыл бұрын
Good morning, I am British and it's late morning. It's been a while since I have commented. I have been watching your growth for over 4years now and have seen you grow in confidence. You should NEVER have to explain your existence to anyone, Black, white or others. I don't say bi-racial, I say mixed race, my children are mixed race and have never had to explain themselves to anyone. In England/ Britain there all kinds of mixed race persons? Let these awful individuals jog on! Sending you and your loved ones, nothing but love and good vibes from England 🏴❤️❤️💯👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾🙏🏾
@ennvee1989 Жыл бұрын
It matches your 4c hair texture so it's not black fishing to me. You are a beautiful biracial girl, braids or not!
@moremiaj4786 Жыл бұрын
Joy-el. I empathise with you. I wish things were not the way they were. I love your glorious crown. Thank you for sharing your experience, it helps so that we can all treat each other with empathy and kindness.
@dorissykes84698 ай бұрын
I am a Black Woman that looks like you, complexion and hair like yours, green eyes, So I got called White girl even as an adult and asked about why I have this type of hair, like aren't you supposed to have "good hair" but I have learned to embrace my natural hair finally and I love it!! I also wear Afro and Braids if I want to. Girl you and your hair Rock and you are Beautiful ❤️
@EbonyWhitee17 күн бұрын
2:58 You can tell when someone is trying to pull off box braids and they have straight white people hair. I would have noticed your Afro hair all around the perimeter and at your scalp immediately. No question.
@ThreeLittleBirdsssss Жыл бұрын
Little do they know you’re a 4C queen under those braids 😂 so funny, I would honestly laugh and brush it off. I honestly thought you were a white woman with an Afro wig the first video I saw but that’s okay. I learned how wrong I was and grew to love your channel
@tsims9595 Жыл бұрын
Both of my parents are black and I have always been encouraged by the way you embraced you 4c hair. It really drew me to too your channel. And made me appreciate my own hair. How can you be “black fishing “ when your mom is black. It’s in your genes, it’s part of your heritage. It’s in your beautiful head of hair 🖤 Keep being the best YOU❤God bless. Love your braids 🤗Your black is beautiful 🤩
@skizbees Жыл бұрын
Your hair is versatile and textured. You care for your hair. How are you fishing when you're biracial? Do whatever you like.
@rharris8121 Жыл бұрын
It's so funny how people forget that black people come in all kinds of shades. It's also funny that we side eye another black or biracial person for embracing afo hair but we never side eye other black people for putting chemicals on their hair that can kill them or wearing hair on their head that belongs to another woman of another race. I'm not saying either of those are bad I've done relaxers in the past (but never again) and continue to do weave. What I'm saying is you do you and let other people to them. The truth is a lot of people don't want to see/accept kinky 4c hair because that's not the beauty standard so when someone who looks like they shouldn't have 4c hair is embracing it they get upset. Thank you Joy-el for being confident in who you are. Please continue to be authentically you. I can't say I relate to your experiences, but as a dark-skinned black woman, I'm often asked what I'm mixed with because I have type 3 hair. As if to say I can't be dark-skinned and have type 3 hair. Or I can't have what they consider to be good hair if I'm not mixed. 🤦🏾♀️ We've come a long way but clearly have a long way to go.
@moremiaj4786 Жыл бұрын
black people, black women in particular put relaxers in their hair to be more acceptable. It is a known fact that black women are more desirable to even black men when their hair is relaxed. Watch the numerous youtube shows of black women speaking on the type of men they attract when their hair is natural. Black women, until recently preferred black men, but when black women had their natural hair, black men shunned them and non-black men accepted them. Many black women still desire black men. it is also really expensive to have one's hair braided, put in protective hair styles. Black women also relax their hair when they want to look less intimidating at work. Do not be ignorant of the plight of black women.
@jl9480 Жыл бұрын
This why we have to get back to root of understanding race as a phenotype and social construct. It’s very hard to apply and maintain a culture based in how someone looks. Because that is all race is. So people passing or not etc really confuses folks. Because of this, it’s hard to attach to a culture because you identify with it but you don’t pass as black. (Not talking about OP to me she LOOKS mixed) BUT for people who pass as white they very likely don’t have a black experience even if they do identify with our culture. That black EXPERIENCE is huge and I feel gets dismissed when white passing mixed people feel hurt by black folks saying they black fishing. Is it fair? No. But one could argue it would be nice if we could all still be black but skip the negative experience of being black if only we passed as white. Best of both worlds socially speaking (I’m a dark black girl and love looking like I do I’m just making a point so don’t start y’all. No self hate here lol)
@muwatch Жыл бұрын
You and I are in the same boat. I’m from South Africa and it’s a bit more common but still surprising when I have a protective style. Now I understand the side eye I get in the US when I have braids. I was also treated badly by a few people in Rwanda last month then a Kenyan colleague finally told me that mixed race kids are usually rich expats who are clueless about daily struggles. Also, he mentioned that I’m cultural appropriating by wearing braids. Like you, people assume that I have straight hair so are surprised if/when they see my Afro.
@antwonewilliams2184 Жыл бұрын
You would also have other black people who be upset if you don't embrace your black side
@d.c.7533 Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@trishse4030 Жыл бұрын
I follow your channel because you have typical black hair. So please keep sharing. Also, My children are biracial. But my daughter didn't get my skin or hair. But she has a black mother. So, she wears braids. Because I did what I no to her hair. She has told me people confront her about it. She and I think there is humor in this. Another thing that happens A LOT!!! When she she tell people she is mixed. They insult her "white mom"😐. She has been told that her white mom probably told her she was better then BP and my daughter has no real understanding of BP life. This of course is when Im not around. I asked her how she responses. She said I wait for them to finish and then say say my mother is black. And they side eye her. Nothing to be done🤷🏾 I guess.
@Clm76 Жыл бұрын
Wear your hair what ever way it makes you happy.
@SAN_DRA.33 Жыл бұрын
You look biracial to me! I'm so sorry you have to deal with dirty looks. I hope the negative attention never makes you want to deny your black culture. Truly sucks you have to deal with that. You are biracial but you're also a black woman. I'm so happy you embrace all of you. The conversation around multiracial people especially those with black ancestry is so complex. Thanks for sharing with us your experiences
@cookieDaXapper Жыл бұрын
WOW, well if you were here in Louisiana, you would fit in as just a fair-skinned Sister. Oh well, american ignorance is GRAND in its application. PEACE dear Sister, God bless and Keep BLOOMING!!!!!!
@Vanessa-iq3vt Жыл бұрын
I’m with the school of thought that black people come in so many shades and features. Black folks could be even lighter than you, so i don't get it. It’s so weird to me that there’s a resurgence of making that distinction between biracial and “full black,” especially since there is a WIDE spectrum. It’s sad and regressive. I hate that your experience is lacking an embrace from black folks just based on you as an individual. Your spirit and personality ooze kindness and genuine qualities.
@GreenGorgeousness Жыл бұрын
Right? The one drop rules is hideous and has no place in a tolerant society.
@tiahnarodriguez3809 Жыл бұрын
It’s honestly disturbing how the idea of “racial purity” has been creeping back into the black community. Especially since black people can exist in combinations outside of the considered typical dark skin, dark eyes, and dark hair. I’ve seen black people with skin whiter than a white person’s, gray eyes, blue eyes, blonde type 4 hair, slim facial features, straight hair, all sorts of in-between shades, etc. We are so diverse that it saddens me that some members of community believe they have authority over who can and can’t identify with their blackness. I remember one KZfaqr identified as black, had black parents, and grandparents on both sides, but because she did a video on her dna test results (this video was done when dna test videos where popular on KZfaq), and it said she was 47% black, there was an uproar in the comments telling her she wasn’t really black, so she shouldn’t identify as black. She had to turn off the comments section because of how bad the comments got.
@RETROGEMS Жыл бұрын
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 My two cents? I've been in a lot of black & multiracial spaces online stretching back to the early 2000s when I was a teen, where I 1st started seeing these sorts of abusive, hostile attitudes where the 'parameters' of Blackness was being narrowed. I'm mixed b/w & have had people try to verbally fight me time after time after time about what I am, even *demanding* that I refer to myself as 'white' instead of *mixedrace*, the entirety of what I am, some even going on the digital warpath against me, bullying & harassing me & my family. Back before KZfaq was even a thing, a number of people on early social media were quite literally so triggered over me even mentioning I'm part African-American & mixed, they would start tormenting, threatening & intimidating me over simply being what I was & not calling myself what they insisted I call myself, which inevitably was based in ignoring a part of my own family lineage. I've come to the conclusion that many people over the years have likely been invading POC spaces, were & still are in digital blackface over the internet, a lot of racists who don't like the existence of racially mixed/white passing people of African descent. There's actually bigots who specifically hate people of mixed race repping their Blackness. Maybe because it increases African-American solidarity/ political power because of numbers. If mixed people are identifying more with blackness over whiteness, that gives more numbers, influence & power on a demographics basis to the Black community & doesn't exactly help white interests, LOL. Not everyone imo, is Black pulling these stunts. A lot of 'others' have invaded channels, forums, various online mixed communities time after time, I've seen a lot. Discernment is needed whenever anonymous randoms pop up abusing, disrespecting & attempting to propagandize people of mixed b/w heritage on social media. I NEVER trust a person who thinks they know more about the ethnic heritage of a stranger, taking it to the level of telling them who they are. People like that, no matter what race they are, usually always have some kind of agenda.
@livingfinance Жыл бұрын
@@tiahnarodriguez3809 these kind of comments mean well but go off the rails very quickly. First of all this subject always mostly focuses on women, how come mixed race men are not as represented when it comes to black male representation as mixed race women are when black women are concerned. Why is it when the subject of black racial identity comes up it largely focuses on women. Second of all the idea that there can be no parameters when it comes to identity even black racial identity is nonsensical and ludicrous and counterproductive, if black people can be any shade any color and there is no legitimate definition of who is black and who is not then how were racial classifications created at all? Why does white and black, etc…exist how did black people even get labelled black? There can be acknowledgement that mixed race people have black lineage and very much part of black history and black communities worldwide and simultaneously acknowledge that they are not solely black and cannot be viewed solely through that lens. Why is that so hard to understand? Also you are expecting black people to have no parameters on their identity yet every other racial group have parameters on theirs how realistic and how fair is this really. Or because black have had the history they have they are not entitled to draw some parameters on who is part of their in-group? Like what you are saying makes absolutely no sense. And I am appalled that people keep touting this like it is remotely sensible.
@Sara-fv4mt Жыл бұрын
1st, keep the twists in until after new years! Too many holiday festivities with Christmas and New Years, parties, family get together, etc., to stress about taking them out now. Leave them in until January, and then take them out, etc. Aww. You shouldn't feel bad for having protective style as a biracial woman. You're gorgeous and this is a healthy protective style. Even if I see a ww white braids, I'm happy because she likes or accepts bw hair styles and wants to have the experience or likes the look. I see no issues with any biracial person embracing their heritage and wanting to wear their cultures hairstyle. It must be hard to get looks, but honestly you're entitled to take care of your natural hair like everyone else regardless and shouldn't have to worry or stress about explaining. When I have kids, I'm going to enjoy the hair day extravaganza with wash day, braiding/twists, and taking them to the hair salon for natural hair! Is a great cultural experience to have and to get while in your formative years!
@TheMspoodle2 Жыл бұрын
ignore the drama queens.
@M3OverSeas Жыл бұрын
You’re beautiful inside and out! My daughters are biracial: African American and European Polish American.. my oldest daughter does not look “traditionally mixed” color wise but she has more Eurocentric features…. although she is my complexion… I appreciate how you handle how some AA ppl treat you… but I’m sure you understand the nuance in that mindset…not condoning the behavior.. wish you all the best 🙏🏾❤️
@cathyalingard4757 Жыл бұрын
From a black woman...Keep doing you! You don't have to explain yourself its no ones business. People will always find a reason to hate on others. You'll never be able to please them so don't even try! I love your channel and your positivity.
@crysj1932 Жыл бұрын
I don't understand why some black people want to gatekeep the race and kick positive, black identified people with literal black blood in their veins out of "the club". Most of us don't even know our full racial makeup, why are we paperbag testing our own? You're beautiful honey, and how I was raised was a drop along with participation and love of the culture is enough to be black. We need all the numbers we can get in this country anyway!
@lwilson3005 Жыл бұрын
I go through the same thing and my mother is Cherokee Indian And my father is a 100% black my hair features is 4 /a And 4/b. And I had African American women treat me just the same but I don't let that discourage me because whatever someone feels about you it doesn't matter it only matters what you feel about yourself you're not gonna please everyone you were born this way and don't worry about the people who don't like you you are who you are and you have beautiful hair No matter what people feel about yeah I've been dealing with this all my life and it don't bother me because my hair grows really fast and I Take care of my hair but I choose to treat everybody else the same no matter how they treat me. It's not our fault that we're light skinned it and we have long hair that grows fast.
@cynthiaallen6354 Жыл бұрын
I have watched your channel for several years and I have greatly appreciated your sensitivity and honesty! I don't ever comment on videos but I was moved by you. I understand the difficulties that mixed raced individuals faced, because although I am not "mixed raced" I am in a family of diversity and I have witnessed the ill comments and rudeness. You do not need to explain! Don't explain! You represent all what God intended. Diversity of genetic pheno-types, no division among people, 1 race the human race. Everyone else is upside down, you are not. Be proud of who you are, what you are and how you are!
@juniorchavesopicassodeyahu988 Жыл бұрын
You look extra gorgeous in that thumbnail for video. You are unreal, perfect and beautiful
@MegaOpulence10 ай бұрын
Hi Joy-el! I just discovered your channel recently. I just want to say I love your hair and your look! It just shows that black mixed with anything comes beautiful! I'm a black woman; and I'm sorry you had through all of that trauma in high school and college. Your story lets us know that you are a strong person. You have compassion for the black side of your family. Thank you, and know that you are appreciated. I like Meagan Markle, but unlike you, she chooses to straighten her hair. For that, I honor you. Blessings to you.
@jgirl203 Жыл бұрын
can you make a video taking down your twists and how you protect your hair from breakage as you are taking down a protective style.
@SharmaineJoyel Жыл бұрын
Darn, I already took them down but the key is to go slow so that you aren't yanking on your hair or making it more tangled :)
@moniquebrown7778 Жыл бұрын
I’ve never heard of Blackfishing🤷🏾♀️, but when I came across your channel you look like a light skinned Black woman, & you have your moms facial features to me. GOD made you how HE wanted you, & whoever doesn’t like it, let them take it up with HIM😉👍🏾 GOD Bless you sis💜
@juanitakimble8771 Жыл бұрын
Hi Joyel, I know that, like you said, people stare at you, but sometimes people look at other people because they are attractive. You're a very pretty lady..
@joarriaga5613 Жыл бұрын
God made you the way you will best fulfill His will. There are plenty of Black people who receive flack from their own people if they have straight hair, if they color their hair blonde, if they have a better grade of hair, etc., etc, etc.. You continue being who God made you. He makes no mistakes. ❤
@tiffanycotter9675 Жыл бұрын
When I saw your pictures before watching your video, I thought you were black fishing. After seeing that you’re biracial, I found out you weren’t blackfishing
@larchangel3758 Жыл бұрын
Great video! Thanks for sharing your experiences. Feel better soon!
@amanimuhammad43207 ай бұрын
I really appreciate this. I'm about to add some box braids and I'm dying inside from bad comments... I am way lighter skinned and have very blue eyes hehehe so once I put my braids on and the fro disappears (my only 'evidence' of being mixed) people start laughing at me and looking at me in uncomfortable ways hehe... You are very motivating, I am scared, but now I feel not so alone hehe I'm half ''whitesican'' (light skinned Mexican) and half black. And that's also extremely hard when I'm asked where I am from... because just saying I am Mexican, I'm called a whitesican... and then its like, I'm not sure I should add I am also black...? hahahaha man the identity issues of being mixed is tough!
@gracehasbeengiven2588 Жыл бұрын
Protective styles has grown my hair so much , that's why I wear braids a lot now xD.
@meme-fs1jn Жыл бұрын
Don’t let them bully you! Do what ever you want with YOUR HAIR. Black women are not all on the same page about, How they feel about biracial women. Some will embrace you. Some will not . It’s quite the position to navigate.
@KLB12189 ай бұрын
You’re my FAVORITE hair channel ! And you’re a Taurus. ♉️
@msstacey777 Жыл бұрын
Hey hey! Been watching you for a while! My family is very diverse and our shades go from light white to dark chocolate. I would never look at you and think you were white passing or that you were black fishing…I guess because I have family that resemble your features. We also have hair that is straight and fine to kinky and coily and tight. Your hair looks great and I wouldn’t even remotely be concerned if others or what they think. Keep being you 😊😊
@Qbabe2448 Жыл бұрын
I had a classmate in the 9th grade that was a white passing biracial (she had blue eyes, pale skin, and blonde hair which she wore straight everyday). I honestly did not know she was biracial which is so crazy because we spoke everyday in health class, but one day we had to present something in Health class that people didn’t understand about us and then BOOM 🤯 that’s when I found out she was mixed. I was extremely shocked 😮 because She really looked like a white girl. Also, my step cousin is black and white and OMG she looks like a little white baby (brunette hair with, big blue eyes, and pale skin). If I didn’t know her I would think her mother is white not black.
@woodswal Жыл бұрын
Chile...there is no blackfishing here. 4C on and popping is all I see.
@RETROGEMS Жыл бұрын
Hi Joy-el! VERY interesting video, thank you for sharing your feelings on this subject. Anyone who accuses you of "black-fishing" is acting idiotically, who has no clue about what racially mixed/light-skinned African American folks look like, the diversity in this little sub-group alone. I feel the knowledge about these types of people has severely regressed, actually. I thought it was a given that fair-skinned mixed heritage people can of course have coarse hair. I mean, we *are* of African descent, this shouldn't be at all difficult for the public (of any race) to understand. I've seen countless pictures of historical figures, every day light-skinned people, celebrities, authors/artists, etc. who were pale with coarse hair. One woman who actually was an inspiration to me growing up, a fashion model of the '90s, was a gorgeous lady from the Caribbean called Chrystele Saint Louis Augustine. Totally white-passing, similar to yourself, with very thick, African textured hair. She made an entire career from the juxtaposition of her hair texture with her European/French aesthetic. Those of us with thicker/coarser hair who are white-passing are not at all rare enough for anyone to accuse anybody else of black-fishing. They're being intentionally malicious, imo. Abusive. And spiteful. I've been online for years and there are loads of people from both races, in my experience, who enjoy harassing, mocking and gaslighting people of mixed race because they can't stand our existence in the 1st place. Attacking what we naturally are, how our hair naturally grows out of our scalps, says it all about their hateful, abusive nature. Keep proudly being you! Love your channel.🙂
@A.Luckybug10 ай бұрын
I have the same hair texture but darker skin. I really appreciated that you pointed out how your looked at for something you can’t chose. Especially because if they saw your real hair, they would find another issue. Like why you don’t wear it out all the time 😂 It takes too long! Lol
@celestec.grimes32 Жыл бұрын
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT! GOD BLESS YOU!
@goddesstara4949 Жыл бұрын
You are not black fishing at all. You are a biracial woman with a black mother. Just because your phenotype is more white, does not mean you cannot wear braids.
@DrSimpleBeauty Жыл бұрын
Its funny because I have had the opposite problem. Grown men and women have neighed like a horse at me and in Target a man told his girlfriend “see her hair is fake” and yes as a child growing up people touching my hair without permission and even guys Ive dated accusing me of having chemicals in my hair. Then the question comes…”what are you?” I’m black. “No but what are you mixed with/what country are you from/what is your mother?” Wow the ignorance of things called genetics and phenotypes!!!
@starelise1387 Жыл бұрын
European in the face but you got Africa in your hair ❤ You look like a biracial version of Nelly Furtado
@d.c.7533 Жыл бұрын
That's a great description. 👏 Blacks people's #1 unique feature is the hair