Email from a Female Fan: Hi Alexander, I stumbled across your channel about a month ago and really been enjoying the content! I recently saw your "Will Women Split The Dinner Bill?" video and would love to give you my response :) I'd say this question really depends on the culture you grew up in. Personally, I come from an Italian/Middle-Eastern background and was raised in a more traditional household, where part of the courting process is the man impressing the woman with his charming personality and financial prosperity. Now, while I do offer to pay out of etiquette, I still expect the man to pay for my dinner on our first date and to treat me throughout our relationship. To me, this shows you really care about that woman, willing to take care of her, and you're committed. Not sure why many of these men are complaining because you'd be surprised how many men actually do pay for dinner (not many). I can see where the problem lies however, with ungrateful/free-loading women never appreciating anything a man does for her which makes these men more hesitant nowadays to financially take care of their woman. I'm currently in a healthy LTR with a great guy who I deeply respect and admire, loves to take care of me and at the same time I really enjoy treating him out to a steakhouse and getting him a new bottle of luxury cologne just to show him how much I care about him and always appreciative for the things he does for me. Personally, I don't support the 50/50 culture that is becoming very prevalent in the West (I live in Canada). Especially in the long run if you're married and the husband wants to split mortgage, utilities etc to me it shows you're not able to provide, simple as that. And I find it quite hypocritical for men (especially the ones in your comments section) to want a high quality woman to fall onto their laps without them doing any work whatsoever. I can only speak for myself when I say that I'm more of the ride or die type female, and if I see my man going through financial hardships I definitely won't hesitate to contribute and help out where I can, as long as I see [potential] for him to grow. Hope I provided a little more insightful answer than the women in that video as I found their answers to be a bit vague and/or contradictory. Keep up the good work! ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ My video response: www.patreon.com/posts/28289100

Sweeping statement. Not all Christian women follow the bible word for word.

Important point: Just because some girl who called herself a christian did something, does not mean it was a Christian thing to do :)

As someone who is a firm believer in science, and yet believes firmly in the Christian God, I understand your resistance to Christianity. The key difference, for me, is that I trust science as far as it will take me, and beyond that point I trust in God. Science doesn't disprove God. Science can't. It also cannot prove God either. But that doesn't mean they're incompatible. A strong faith in science and logic can go hand in hand with a strong faith in God. Just remember, if God truly is worthy of being called God, then he can handle your doubt and your desire for answers. Doesn't mean you'll get all the answers you want, or that the answer will be what you want, but never stop questioning. A blind faith is a shallow faith. My faith in God is stronger BECAUSE I questioned and doubted Him. But the difference is that I sought out answers, and the answers I got were not things that made me feel good, but they made sense logically, so I was satisfied.

I am a Christian man. I will use your example of stealing. Stealing is a sin, yes. Though I know that stealing is wrong not just because it is wrong, or the bible says so. I know it impacts the owners life, in a profound, damaging way. It takes away more than their possessions, but also love and trust. Which damages them spiritually as well. As well as rob you honor, respect, spritually even more. Being taken from is different than being The one doing the taking. Damaged more by doing the wrong thing. The one robbed can make more, or buy another, and move on in there honest, good work. The bible also says you must work hard by the sweat of your brow, earn everything you keep. The story of the stoning of the adulterer in the new testiment, was to show how Jesus challenged the way man would deal with sin, and to prove his diety through his ability to forgive sin. Which only God can do. The men stopped Jesus, confronting him as to what he would do. Saying by "the law" she should be stoned. He stopped the men who would have her stoned. Asking the men "he who have no sin among you cast the first stone". Of coarse no stones were thrown. The men left, and Jesus shows his grace and tells the woman to leave and sin no more. Adultery hurts everyone around us, and in ones life. It's dishonest, not to mention risk of diseases, unplanned pregnancy. And hosts of other things I can't even imagine. Is that not also wrong because the bible says so. The things listed in the bible as sinful and harmful, are those specific things that you should turn away from, repent for , and turn to Jesus. Also I've seen nothing untrustworthy given in your video, that these women did, to incite you blanket statement that, "christian women are untrustworthy". Just your perspective.

One thing I like about you Alex is that you are open. Seek and you will find.

I've dated christian women and I have to say that, at least in my experience, they weren't just forming options based on what the bible said, they actually thought about it all the way through and formed opinions logically. There are of course women that have this groupthink, fave- value mentality but I don't think it's right to say that every Christian woman thinks this way. You have to determine if they actually think these things through or not and then decide whether you'd want to date them. To me these seems like a matter of intelligence more than religion.

Jesus said the greatest commandment is to love God with all of your heart, strength, soul, and mind. The second is like unto it which is to love your neighbor as yourself. What this means is that if I love you as my neighbor, I won’t steal from you, because I wouldn’t want anything stolen from me. If I love you as my neighbor, I won’t sleep with your wife because I wouldn’t want anyone sleeping with mine. Etc etc

I am a Christian guy and what I have learned is there is absolutely no difference between Christian women and non-Christian women. Meaning they will go for guys that are rich, successful and good-looking. And they have every right to if that is their preference. But their focus on the "godly man" doesn't typically hit the top of their list THOUGH they may say its super important....ultimately its not. They still like the bad boy and all that stuff. So really what I'm saying there is no difference with women. That is my observation at least.

I do think you're missing something, which is that in your example the "God said so" reason for Christians isn't in place of the reasons you gave, it's in addition to. We add a fourth category of reasons, religious. That said, your hesitance to date a Christian is completely understandable. It's the same for us to consider dating a non-Christian, there are serious potential problems with dating someone who differs so severely in their beliefs. Lastly, I seriously doubt you'll find a Christian girl in a western nation who approves of stoning, no church teaches it. We have different systems of punishment now.

Last Christian girl I liked turned out to be a sociopath. She only cared about herself and had zero empathy. Most I have encountered are huge hypocrites and pick and chose which bible verses to go by. Being loving and kind to others def isn't the priority of most..

Thing to remember is, they're in a relationship with Jesus. He's 'perfect', and you will never live up to Him.

"Scientific world view and religious are completely different views". No, they are not. Nothing prevents scientist to be religious and vice versa.

If you're dating a Christian woman, then you're also dating her pastor or priest. Whomever is her spiritual guide, has a say in how your relationship with her, plays out.

I think a Christian girl would come to the same conclusion for the exact same reasons but with the added benefit of having her morality objectively justified in God. God, being our creator, has created us to live according to certain laws, which are good and just because God is love and justice. You, on the other hand, can only claim that your morality is (inter)subjective, which leaves people ample room to disagree with you and go against you without repercussions as your morality is ultimately just your opinion. This is what we see all around us today, because people deny objective morality / reality and all that is left is the strong dictating to the weak what is good and just (Nietzsche).

Alexander, the problem with your logic is that you assume Christians don't believe the same as you with regards to the examples you use here. There aren't many Christians whose logic ends at "the bible says so." This is usually a first response when the person isn't willing to debate and you are right that the sort of person who thinks no further into a subject than this (no disrespect to them) would be wrong for you, but you are wrong to assume that a Christian wouldn't follow/agree with your biological or sociological reasoning of theft or gender difference. I do and I am a Christian and I know Christian women who agree. I am supposing that you didn't grow up around Christians and don't associate with many because you seem to have the shallow nu-atheist view of us that Dawkins and co pushed however long ago that was. It was a straw man then as it is here, although I know you don't use it in malice. Is there not a Christian who says "why?" when told something is wrong or right in the Bible? There are many - especially those who came to belief as adults or who have many non Christian friends. The very name Israel means "he who wrestles with God." I enjoy your vids and have been following you for a while. You asked for comments and I hope you see this one. In the end I agree with most of the things you talk about and your reasoning, it's just that I, and some Christian women, would respond, "yes, that's why the bible says that." I mean all this as if I'm talking to a friend so I hope it doesn't sound harsh. Have a good one!

The problem I have with your logical deduction that stealing is wrong is that the logic you employ is not universally acceptable to all. It's possible for anyone to come to a certain worldview using logic, however, they will not all come to the same conclusion. The conclusion reached is based on the values established beforehand. For example, you mentioned that if everyone were to steal, then there would be no "progress" in society. "Progress" is a value that you hold in high esteem, but that is not necessarily true of every person. Apply this same thinking to the rest of your arguments and you'll find that if another person doesn't value the same things as you, then they will likely not reach the same conclusion. Hence, logic is not enough to ensure that we arrive at a society in which people work for the common good, there needs also to be a shared set of values. That is the advantage of religion, it gives people a commonly held set of values that are meant to be unquestionable, so that when people employ logic they end up at similar conclusions. A lot of the values we have in modern society are a product of religious adherence, whether you believe in God or not. The idea of God, or in other words, the idea of their being a set of values that are best for a functioning society, is what moved humanity away from barbarism.

Well one thing you can say about the Christan is that their believe system is very stable. We see the more secular our society becomes the more random our sense of right and wrong is. Because morality can't come from people it must come from God. The fact that you think stealing is wrong is your opinion you can easily make the case through reason that stealing is perfectly fine. Also the fact that you grew up in a Christian society effects your morality, the fact that you agree with Christan is not random.

Jesus says "love your neighbour as yourself". If you love yourself, you’re not going to hurt yourself, and if you love other people like yourself, you won’t hurt them. I invite you to read the Gospels to know Jesus and to know what he really said.

I was with a younger "Christian" women in a relationship once. She turned out to be one of the worst people i have ever encountered. The attitude problems, hypocracy, selective morals, lack of respect, prudeness made me lose interest within a year. After that disaster of a relationship, my older swedish friend told me that most religious women are nuts. He has never dated one and never will. Sadly, I have to agree with him. Never again!

*As a MAN, putting emotions into TRUST is like putting power over you in somebody else's hands.* Trust logically, evaluate the track record, don't become ego invested in people words. Others emotions fluctuate constantly, you don't want them to steer your wellbeing. Be STOIC about life.

10000000000000000000% facts Christian women are the first to say waiting for marriage and be spinning on the rod next minute.

I have never heard a youtuber be so polite to a belief system that he does not embrace. Thank you. As a pastor of 12 years and believer for 30, it is encouraging to hear you speak of "christian" girls in the positive way you do. But the problem of course is that in the bible belt (east texas) it is still socially acceptable to be a member of some local church. C.S. Lewis, a well known and respected Christian author (wrote the Chronicles of Narnia) said that the best evidence for and against Christianity are believers. So I ask that if you are still open to Christianity, go to the source material. There, I believe that you will find why a true follower of Christ is able to "be pleasant" respectful and reasonable reguardless of who we are interacting with. But I have found a big difference in a particular sub-set of Christian. I suggest that if they say they are a believer, ask her in addition to being a believer has she been baptized in the Holy Spirit. Let me explain. As a baptist and pastor, I see a level of commitment and integrity to the Word of God in believers who have been filled and/or baptized in the Holy Spirit that simply does not exist in denominational groups that preach against or omitt teaching about this experience. Just a suggestion. As a pastor, I have read many studies that were not allowed to see the light of day and this what they discovered: Married couples that are born again spirit filled - "Real" believers have better and more frequent sex. There I used the three letter word. And it is no surprise because we believe that God created us sexual beings. Add to that the clear teaching that men are different than women. Add to that the biblical command for a husband to love his wife and for a wife to respect her husband and you have a pretty good start At a healthy realationship. (By the way Love and Respect is a book I use to counsel couples with. It is the only book I have read from Focus on the Family that DOES NOT blame, one way or another, everything on the man). I pray your openness becomes a holy pursuit that lasts a lifetime.

Hey Alexander, long time sub here who grew up and still considers himself a Christian here. I do not attend or support Churches as organizations. I think you raise valid concerns about the difference in the thought process on of we might come to the same conclusion, albeit with different routes to get there. I don't think you understand that a vast percentage of young Christians grew up in a time where their religion was heavily scrutinized. This forced many of us to question our faith, morals, and ultimately our entire upbringing. For an example on how this has influenced a fresh way of Christian living and reconciliation is that we belief the Bible is true & most importantly wise, but we don't blindly believe it. We use our minds, analysis, & emotions to understand just how & why these rules or guidelines work. Many Christians in the past have fallen into this empty, rhythmic, & blind rut of Christianity. This group of people frequently do a vast disservice to the values, logic, & faith that religions can bring. These types of Christians generally have a strong affiliation to their sect/establishment and divide more than unite when it comes down to their beliefs. They would rather believe blindly than truly question the rules, context, or interpretation of The Bible. I have a high commitment and value for my religion & how it has shaped my life, but I'm also a deep lover of philosophy & evolutional psychology. Faith & logic CAN coincide and can even help explain each other. I see people frequently treat them as 2 sides of a coin when they're really just different forms of philosophical currency. There's a lot of misconceptions that non-Christians have about Christians & how the different contexts of the Bible. Sadly, too many Christians instantly turn the general public off to their faith. Their misrepresentation pains me.

I feel you on Christian chicks. I think that's pretty cookie cutter, you know? The devil's in the details, and so are individuals. Even if a woman does give you that answer, I bet you could easily enough lead her out of it. Thanks for your interviews, and lack of hatred in them.

Spirituality and Science don’t have to conflict.. They conflict when (A) there is a hyper literal interpretation of religious texts with an exoteric view And (B) scientific people get caught up in post enlightenment thinking, thinking that science can explain everything (when it only explains the physical, not consciousness )

I find it refreshing to know there are other people that value the same things as me when it comes to finding a partner. Loved this video

There are so many variables in place that would change dramatically the equation that considering them untrustworthy as a rule is irrational, and I don't mean it as a insult, but a constructive criticism. And in fact non-religious women are much more likely to be more untrustworthy (because they usually hold weaker, nihilistic beliefs and tend to constantly swing to the directions of their own short-term egos) than women who follow the moral principles of Christianity the opposite. Christian women are usually more predictable and predictability is an important factor in a investment.

I'm going to keep that in my mind. But I'm still going to date someone of my religion

Logic and rationality are a part of the bible. When looking at Christian women, you have to be able to differentiate between the ones who casually follow the bible vs the ones who pull the reality of the teachings out, those who don't segregate spirituality and science but combine the two.

I experienced the same things you've explained in this video. My ex gf claimed she agreed with me on the idea of free will and God's sovereignty can be coincidal and not necessarily mutually exclusive things. Most people think either God made me the way I am and I'm only acting the role of my personalities and traits to any given circumstance or I can't have any free agency. But it would be an assumption that it's impossible to have them coincide. My ex said she agreed on one hand, but her expression and tone said differently. Based on her responses it became clear her understanding of it wasn't truly there. I inquired as to how she came to that same conclusion but her reasoning was shallow, it was simply because it was because the bible says so. I said that's good that you agree but I don't think you should simply accept anything without critical thought. It's one thing to know how something is, but another to truly experience it in your life time and time again. When you want to take responsibility for yourself and nothing is happening, all logic and reasoning tells you you SHOULD succeed if you apply these principles but God's sovereignty doesn't allow for it because it simply isn't happening. So then should I do nothing? If I feel I can't achieve the results I want? -No, God uses my weakness and my shortcomings for his purpose and I can truly be at peace knowing that I don't have to strive for his approval, he already accepts me and that should encourage a Christian to do his/her best rather than acting as a prostitute. A prostitute meaning someone who only views God as a transactional being. If I do good, he will reward me rather than loving God for his character. These feelings I wanted to express and communicate with my ex, but it seemed like this idea was foreign to her even though she claimed she knew this truth. True faith requires thought and meditation on what you are reading, not just blind reading and blind "faith" because if that was the extent of all it took for you to believe, what's to say something else could catch your faith and twist it to something else because your faith can be easily swayed? I believe as a Christian you should meditate on God's word and try to reconcile it in your own mind. Not simply reading it mindlessly and accepting it.

"A little bit of science takes you away from God, a lot of science leads you back to Him" -Louis Pasteur

As a Christian I've never really understood people's concern with our faith in the Bible. Deuteronomy 32:35 "vengeance is mine and recompense their foot shall slip in due time for the day of their calamity is at hand and the things to come hasten upon them" we don't need to stone people karma is a thing. judge them by their fruits if you truly think these women are untrustworthy people put yourself in a controlled position of weakness just to see what they'll do 2nd Timothy chapter 3 verse 16 to 17 "All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness: That the man of God may be perfect, throughly furnished unto all good works." a girl's belief gives you an excellent opportunity so long as she truly believes in the Bible all you need to do is find the right verse assuming the Bible does actually agree with you and you win every argument. Women generally like to take an emotional root when they're losing an argument but assuming that this woman in question is actually a Christian that's not going to be an option for her. this is what my dad does to my mom all the time and they've been married for 29 years

Do not speak bad of yourself. For the warrior within hears your words and is lessened by them” Old Japanese Samurai proverb

I appreciate your open mind on the subject. Being as I was raised in a Christian household I can understand where the views of these ladies is cultivated, and I also appreciate the logical way how you have managed to come to the same conclusion. There is an explanation for how these two approaches can both be compatible. But it requires a bit of both philosophical and theological base assumptions to be made first. I would love to engage you further on this subject if you are curious, and if you're not then that's fine too. In the meantime, thank you again for your open mind and positive approach. I have enjoyed all of your videos that I have seen to date.

Its beautiful to see people calmly exchanging their views, after a shift in supermarket it really gives you some hope and warms your heart.

I think common sense should be superior to any religion.

I'd very much like it if Alex would take a poll of these women regarding whether or not they would commit to a man if the ceremony was taken seriously, but not the marriage contract to the state.. if I ever got hitched, I would say to her: "oh no, no need for us to both go down to the county courthouse, let me take care of it love." /proceeds to bury said certificate in an undisclosed location, smiling while she gets busted for tax fraud in the years to come. Hey, in a gynocentric world, a mans gotta have some sort of ace up his sleeve! 😉

I just deleted a very long post. I couldn't think of a reason to care. Hoodies up

Small correction: dopamine is not a reward mechanism. If you really want a chocolate bar, you have high dopamine levels, once you get that choclate bar the dopamine levels go down.

Alexander, you have to try to see 'stealing' as a concept, to see the big picture in the Bible. All the laws in the Western Society are made based in that book of concepts and stories. The girls are just saying it in a simple way without really thinking about it.

There's also a lack of personal responsibility in relationships with religious women. There's a refusal to admit that their God who talks to them is just their own subconscious. "God tells me to love you." Well, what happens when he stops?

Science made all women emotional for one thing,procreation.

The stealing question is a moral question...as christians we belive that it is wronf because it is not good and what defines good is God. Because if God doesnt exist, then whats right or wrong would be our own opinion. So it wouldnt be wrong to steal, it would just be ur opinion that its wrong.

(I apologize for any typos I'm on my phone and the keys are significantly smaller than my thumbs) I don't know if anyone else has mentioned something along these lines, but as a christian woman, I know i make it a point to come to my own opinions outside of religion. I don't like saying "well, cause the church/scriptures/Lord said so" as my only reason because I understand how flimsy an excuse that is for someone who doesnt share my beliefs. Plus, I was taught from a young age to come up with my own opinions/have a mind of my own. So while i may get nervous if I'm put on the spot (curse that social anxiety) and blurt out "its my religoous view/its a commandment/etc," as my first reason, if I believe a certain thing to be true, I've usually taken the time to think of why I personally believe it/think this way. I.E. Its part of my religious beliefs not to drink alcohol, but my own personal reasons for choosing not to drink is because I don't want to risk becoming an alcoholic, I don't know what kind of a drunk I would be and I don't want to risk being one of the bad kinds of drunk, probably saves me money in the long run, i don't want to consume anything that could be addictive (that's also one of the reasons I don't drink coffee), I've heard it tastes disgusting so really why would you drink it in the first place, the health risks that come with alcohol, etc etc. I know that's just me personally, and I think a lot of people di have these other reasons, though im sure we've all experienced how being put on the spot can make your mind blank in the moment so you only spout one thing, sometimes. and yeah, im sure there's also plenty who mindlessly follow--people from all walks of life follow different things mindlessly. I dont think its christian women specifically that should be worried about as people who lack basic rationalizing skills. I hope what I'm trying to say came across clearly, its like, 5 a.m. And i haven't slept yet, haha.

Alex, I don’t think that it is fair to assume that taking the Bible’s word for something is inherently illogical. In fact, I would consider it very efficient. Even if you dismiss a lot of the Devine claims that scripture makes, you cannot easily dismiss the rigorous testing of the Bible’s moral concepts throughout thousands of years; concepts that essentially laid the foundations for Western civilization. I think that some personally derived scrutiny is always important, but I would be a fool to trust strictly my own logic over thousands of years and billions of people’s experiences with scripture, and assume that my word would be more authoritative. That being said, I really appreciate your point of view and respect towards someone else’s. I also think it is important to point out that there are many Christians out there like myself who are not afraid of questioning traditions and ideas, not simply taking them at face value. Great videos, and thanks to all the women who participate in them!

I have been dating a christian woman for about three months last year. I would say she was pretty religious. Going to church, praying a lot and so on. She always said that she follows Jesus and as Jesus is described as pure love, she therefore followed love. Now her actions did not match up with that at all. She was often very negative, cold and disrespectful and could not take any critizism. I was always wondering why she couldn't see that. It was like that in her mind she did not do anything wrong since she was religious and prayed to god. She did not really reconsider her actions, her words. She did not try to work towards love, reason and a healthy relationship. I often think a lot of religious people do not care about the truth. It's like the truth is whatever they want it to be. And they stick to that. What are your thoughts about this guys? Have you experienced something similar?

The more my wife and I tried to follow biblical principles of our marriage, the better our marriage became. As far as rules for life, it's my assumption that God already knows human nature since he is the creator. That's why those rules exist. Also, virtually all of our rights-based basic laws are derived from the biblical reference because all of the logic you added is already known and had been meditated on by folks throughout history as well as Christians today.

I’m a Christian woman and I can see where you’re coming from but there are some flaws. First, I think your assumption that Christianity and science are completely incompatible is untrue. There are Christian scientists who work to link the two together. Also being logical, it’s difficult for me to throw away science because I believe there is a God... and it’s also illogical for a scientific man to completely throw out the possibility of a God... but this is for another discussion. Second, not to offend the women you’ve met but I think they are quite “simple” to say they do something just because the Bible says so. I do good to others because I would appreciate others doing good to me and it makes society a better (stable, pleasant, orderly) place. Times change and we must adjust (so modern Christians wouldn’t believe in stoning for example) so not all of us take every word in the Bible literally. I think the Bible (Christianity) is there to help guide people in the simplest terms so that most average people can understand. I don’t think it’s the Christian aspect that will make a women untrustworthy, I think it’s her thought process and actions... I believe you want a woman that can think and in your experience the Christian ones haven’t shown you that... but some of us are logical.

Sadly people claim to be “Christians” but not actually follow and be disciplined to the word. In Genesis, before the creation, and am not discussing KJV because it has been omitted and revised, but here it goes In the beginning there was the Word, and the Word is God. So logically speaking what is the meaning of this Phrase? Well God is the Word, and the Word flows through God, and God flows through the word. You can’t claim yourself as a follower if your not obedient servant to the Word. Even in Revelation when 2nd coming of Messiah arrival and judged every living souls and the dead, and the world is at its end, God’s Word still remains. Adam the first human was obedient to his creator, it was beautiful then. But unfortunately woman was created as a partner for man, but no need for me to explain, I believe we all know the story unfold to. So it doesn’t mean she is a Christian she’s Golden, it’s still in her nature to be disobedient.

Thanks for your Gracious commentary Alexander. I do agree that there are many who profess the faith that have a surface level knowledge of the Bible where they can be lead astray into such argumentation. The difference between a knowledgeable Christian and the others I mentioned above is that there is the basis of knowledge of the character of the deity that Christians worship. Your response presupposes that Christians believe in a god that seems more deistic than a God that is both transcendent and simultaneously imminent. The doctrine of simultaneous transcendence and imminence is as easy to reconcile in our finite minds as Kant's paralogisms of pure reason. Let's take another example within nature. Light is a simultaneous manifestation of waves and particles. Although such a manifestation cannot be reconciled by quantum physicists, they must affirm that such paradoxes exist. Getting back to God's transcendence and imminence this is why you are able to reason that stealing is wrong. I believe that the transcendent God created us in his image and because of this you are able to reason that stealing is wrong. That is what you ultimately derive from general revelation or natural law. This is what The Apostle Paul addresses in Romans 1:19-23 and Romans 2:14-15. I hope this helps clear any conflicting information you may have received from the so-called new atheists movement? Peace.

I agree with this completely out of my own experience. I would also not recommend being with a girl just becuase she said she is christian. i will only be with a girl that has the same mindset of me and come to same conclusions as i have about right and wrong. i was married to a "baptist christian" for 9 years. she said divorce is wrong, she said lying, stealing, cheating, hating is wrong because God said so. well, she said she believed those things..... In our marriage she lied, stole, cheated, hated and was disrespectful for many years. unfortunately, this ended in divorce.... now i am with a girl that is not extremely religious but the most kind loving girl ive ever met and im much more happy for it becuase the goodness in her heart is what she truly believes, not just because God said so.

Hi Alexander! You probably won't see this but I'm going to share anyways because I really liked this video (plus I'm trapped in bed right now under a sleeping toddler). I'm a Christian woman and I'm glad you enjoy talking with/listening to my sisters in Christ! It's true that we agree on many issues and that's probably why I like your channel so much... It doesn't offend me in the least that you wouldn't date a Christian woman, in fact, I think that's very wise. Our worldview is completely different from yours and (here we go... I'm doing exactly what you talked about) the Bible warns us not to be "unequally yoked"

Alexander, is what you are sharing about the Christian perspective on morality based on your experiences in actual conversations with Christians? It sounds like in your examples that you are share what you think a Christian would answer rather than your experiences with engaging in conversation on these topics with them. Further, your examples would hold true for Christian men and women as well. Wouldn’t you just say, “Christians are untrustworthy?”

Mr. Grace can you tell me your secret how you can explain yourself so good? You seem to be always aware of the things you need to say and have the right words for it, I seriously envy you, it's a really good skill

I am a Christian and I think you’re correct in your thinking on this. You shouldn’t date a Christian girl because of the same argument you put forth. If her one authority is the Bible, and yours is not, the lives you both live will never be guaranteed to be lived by the same motivations and will never end up in the same place, at least happily that is. That is the same reason that a Christian should not date a non-Christian. This is actually pointed out in the Bible as a command in the New Testament. So if a girl who claims she’s a Christian is even willing to date you, assuming you’re a non-Christian, assume that she’s likely not a Christian and even if she is, she is not a reasonable one at that and will cause you both misery.

Hey, I am a Christian woman in my early twenties, in Australia, too. I believe it’s crucial that two people in their Christian partnership must wholeheartedly be on the same page, so there is no question about Christian women dating non-Christian men, and vice-versa. Personally, I won’t date, but be in courtship.In my opinion, what most people don’t think about is that there are also different stances on every person’s beliefs and values. For example, there are Christian denominations. Additionally, two people who share the same denomination can also disagree in many values, political stances and social preferences. Furthermore two atheists can be incompatible with one another (I’m speaking for the world’s traditions in dating) if one person gradually becomes more agnostic through friendship/ co-worker influences. This is where I also differ with those women in your video; I believe the Holy Bible is the Word of God - all that is Holy, Law, Truth, and something that has no beginning or end (no matter how hard the concept is to grab ahold of), and not just a religious book to pick and choose verses to live out by. God bless anyone who’s read this :’)

As a Christian woman with a degree in Philosophy, I am honestly disappointed in your ignorance. Are there Christians who reach conclusions based only on the Bible, yes, but there are idiots everywhere who have not bothered to figure the world out for themselves. One can be Christian and logical. Perhaps I could suggest his as a new perspective. You agree with Christian values, after following a logical process. So do I. It is a reaffirmation of my faith that logic and the Bible often agree. If you have never questioned, never doubted and never figured things out for yourself, then you do not truly believe. Sometimes modern perspectives and the Bible disagree. Why? Because it is a text and as any other must be considered from the perspective of the time and context in which it was written. The 2 rules that Jesus put above all else are: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and love others as yourself. Although difficult, these are the cornerstones of the faith and any interpretation should be measured against these laws. As for things one cannot prove, like the existence of a benevolent God? Well, that is faith and a deeply personal experience that cannot be adequately explained, nor argued.

Nothing worser than marrying a faithless woman pretending to be faithful. Let alone tell you her own translation of what God wants

Fair video, Support form a conservative Christian from Norway!! :)

I'm surprised Alex Grace didn't recieve a #Metoo charge yet.

If I were you I would probably talk more about religions in general and their effect on women instead of just talking about christianity. Lately you've been sharing quite a lot of videos about moroccan women showing probably that you like the way they think and guess what : Moroccan women are mostly muslim so...

As a Christian girl I would never date an atheist anyway. They always intimidate me or think I’m stupid because of my beliefs :(

In conclusion Christian women should seek Christian men and vise versa 😊 God bless you all ❤️💕

From my experience females need religion way more then man, because they are more emotional driven. The same is true for emotional(impulsive/hedonistic/criminals/psychopaths) man. Thats why i think its very wrong to assume atheism is the superior morality. Humans are different and for some religion is essiental to the core (to stabelise their character). I cant see how its superior to take an essiential part of others just because you dont need it. This is especially Darkmatter2525 doenst understand.

Such an insightful video. My ex was jehovah witness and she was the most untrustworthy person I ever met. I could never date a religious person like her after what I experienced. She had no morality compass of her own and relied purely on the bible. It was a horrible relationship that I wish no one with any rational or logical mind go through.

What always unnerved me about Christian girls is that some of them do the most horrible things, and think it's all okay because "Jesus forgives me, so why can't you?" I think you should use whichever religion you have to try to become a better person, not to get off the hook for something an atheist wouldn't do.

I am in so much agreement with your statements I almost forgot I was a christian. It's called in the bible being unequally yoked. I never knew that there was piece outside of the faith until I left and my eyes became open to realise life is still carrying on just like it use to.

The woman that first broke my heart when I gave up being in a relationship with an absolutely beautiful woman for a plain "Christian Cupcake" and it's haunted me for many years. I was even within her father's good graces very easy without trying, I was just being myself. That's not the part that's bad, anyone can choose to cheat or not, it was the Christian girl's crime from my perspective is that I loved her, but she didn't bother showing me the same courtesy when she had to and I quote "had to see her ex for something" it absolutely broke my heart at that moment. I do get many flashbacks often unless I am working on something to keep the memories out of my mind.

Women are like water. Water takes the shape of the container it fills.

As a Christian, I would love to see your progression of thoughts that leads you to logically conclude that stealing is wrong.

I divide my explanation of what to do (from my perspective) to get along with this kind of psychological differences. I divided in two things: - Psychological perspective - Solutions Psychological perspective There are different types of personality trait identified as OCEAN(openness to experience, conscientiousness, extroversion, agreeableness, and neuroticism). In this comment, I will just talk about openness to experience. There is a high probability that religious women(but this can apply for men too) are low in openness to experience. Therefore, they are not necessarily willing to debate abstract ideas, or to organize logical process on thinking to approach daily situations and topics. For what I notice, Alexander is high in openness, as perhaps some of the audience. This can be considered the real problem of this video. If you agree with a religious woman in the conclusion to a specific topic, even though both of you had a different approach of thinking to that conclusion, that is not necessarily a problem because the act towards the thing in discussion will still being almost the same. Then I think that is not a problem. The problem is: how do you get along with a partner who is not to passionate for looking at the world from that high intelectual perspective? Here I get to the solutions: 1. You understand some Christians women are not willing to discuss ideas with such an open manner. Simply because is not part of their daily approach towards the world. They more conventional and traditional. However, if they cannot pay with intelectual satisfaction over your philosophical perspectives, they can pay and other way(as with that femininity you just told about, higher probabilities of loyalty, sweetness, kindness, comprehension, and many other ways as you have define in other video a “high quality woman”). You can leave those process of thinking and understand for people as high in openness as you are. On the other hand, the only thing religious women might do for someone like you, and anyone high in openness(including me) is to listen to our rational approach and ideas, independently if they agree with them or not from a biblical perspective. That makes the relationship easier-going and at least you can feel more satisfied because you’ve been heard, anyway. 2. The second choice is to give up to someone who is not willing to think outside of the box(or the biblical view) and establish a relationship with someone with your same level of openness. Yet, you can lose many of the fulfilling Christian-women’s behavior and values. That is what I think is the real problem to solve I this video. I hope everyone is safe!

At 3:06-3:20 I think you are thinking just like the apostle Paul when he wrote 2 Corinthians 6:14..."Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness." You are basically saying... be ye not unequally yoke together with a believer... Because it's unsafe and shaky at best. Essentially Christians also don't trust how atheist come to there conclusions as well.... You mention the idea of not stealing and gave 3 reasons why you shouldn't steal... But you also gave reasons to actually steal.... 3:40 ( 3 reasons) stealing is bad Social -- in this case stealing is okay if things still progress... And as long as everyone is not doing it lol (3:49-4:08) Practical- it's okay to steal if you can maintain your peace of mind lol...(4:09-4:24) Biological- with this logic it's okay to steal if your self esteem remains "healthy"(4:25-5:27) The Christian however states that stealing is wrong because God said it and God is good thus stealing is bad..... With this logic you can only steal if God tells you to do it lol. Speaking strictly theoretically... You would never be able to date a Christian woman... Because she would not want to be unequally yoked ( so you don't have to worry much about discussing things with him/her). If you manage to date a professing Christian... You are technically dating one who does not follow Gods word.... let's just hope that she overlooks other verses if you know what I mean.😅👍.

You mean a lax Christian who goes to mass for Christmas Eve n Easter but has a very risqué Instagram account updated every hour lol

The way I see it is that many women who claim to be Christian are still women and will still be controlled by their emotions. For many of them, religion is the true way but they dont really know the real reason behind religious teachings, they just go "well, God says so in the Bible". Without a logical reason behind it, they may be more willing to fall to their emotions and rationalize later, or worse, ask God for forgiveness and repeat. Somethin' like that, I suck at putting my thoughts into words.

When I look at your example, I think about it both ways. I look at it logically and how staling can have negative ramifications on society as a whole but I also look at it from God perspective and from the view of the bible and how you should not steal and treat others how you want to be treated. The whole 9 yards. You make a good point, and I agree with you that some Christians abandon all thought logic and reason when it comes to issues like this and uses the famous tagline, "because God said so." That is a hazardous thought process, and if it weren't such a mainstream thought process for Christians, Christians would be able to understand people more. That thought process can get dangerous because it has been in the past. What is really annoying is that when people bring up stoning and other things that the Bible, it is tough to argue against that point because even though we don't necessarily use that part of the text because it is looked at more of history, people in the past have misused it and messed it up for the rest. I try to tell my Christian friends all the time, and some listen, and some don't. That thought process is very dangerous. For me, I look at your stealing example both way. I look at it logically and how it could have severe ramifications for society if everyone keeps stealing, but I also look at how the bible tells you to treat people how you want to be treated. Sadly, this thought process in the church is not mainstream and is taken over by the mindless Christians. Someday it could change though. Great video.

That sounds like every Woman.

Your channel is really interesting and a breath of fresh air. :) I feel like there is actually some healthy discussion going on in the comments and that's rare in my experience

The most important problem I see when asking someone if for example stealing is wrong whereupon the say yes with reference to the Book, is that they did not answer for their true self, only with what the manual says, which they per default will claim adherence to - simply because. It is an evasive answer.

I’m a Christian man, and I don’t trust or feel safe with women, Christian or otherwise. I’ve never met a woman who can use logic at the same level that I can. No matter their beliefs, women are women and think differently. If you and I lived in the same region, I would love to take you out for a beer and discuss our ideas further, but distance being what it is, keep on doing good work sir!

when you realize Alexander expects logic to guide his woman

"He that is without sin- cast the first stone" The Bible does not promote stoning

It is Personal Self Awareness that will change people for the positive!

My experience I been Cristian 3 years. Talking Normal woman and Cristian woman not much difference. They put there values and everything first then God. As man of God my opinion there small % real Cristian woman and man really follow God with there hearts. The rest is imitation. I am praying for people to wake up from this deep sleep. I pray for the believers in Jesus Christ to; Wake up to loving God with all our hearts, minds, souls and strength; delivered from the God of mammon (Matthew 6:24). Father convict us and deliver us from our hearts attachment to money and what it does in promising freedom security, power and enjoyment.

It is more stable to lean upon a higher authority, rather than your own logic. Your own logic can fail, but an outside source, if reliable, can be more stable than you are.

All women I met suddenly become religious in front of my eyes. They say praises like: “Oh God! Oh yes! Right there!” all the time.

What's an in-depth video. Thank you very much

Alexander, This is a tough one. I really believe people should chase the energy they understand. My meaning behind that is if you are someone who grew up in a (healthy) Christian environment it may be in that person's best interest to date Christian women. When I say healthy I mean someone who still practices their faith. If I were to try to date a woman who does not believe in faith or a God then a huge part of my life and energy is foreign to her. She might reject it, attack it and consistently question its usefulness in my life. It's energy she doesn't understand (she's free not too) this isn't a knock against an atheist. I think it's safe to say an atheist and a Christian probably shouldn't date. Either the Christian or the atheist will have to constantly defend their thinking process and a hard thing to do. A man who loves God and practices faith should pursue a woman who loves God and practices faith. This is a good starting point for a Christian relationship, however, men must remember women are still women. Everything that you've been talking about, hypergamy, she's not yours it's just your turn, woman's emotional response to clingy men, the list goes on is all in play. This where many Christian men screw up terribly. Many of them believe being a Christian is enough, it's not it's merely good grounds to start a conversation in hopes to date someone. In conclusion, I wouldn't say don't date Christian women, I'd say don't forget that she is a woman because she is a Christian. All of the rules of communication and attraction are just as much in play with Christian woman as any other woman. Often times men join a church start giving and doing really good things and assume they can trust everyone. Hell No! Do those good acts and deeds to strengthen your relationship with God, don't let it blind you and allow you to assume you can trust everyone women included. In short, don't drop your guard because you are in a church.

Alexander, I feel like I must point out some flaws in your logic and judgement; since Christianity acknowledges the fact that this universe and everything in it obey designed laws, therefore, we must acknowledge that there is a designer. Starting by this premise you can really figure out the rest, since the bible has got many facts that were unknown to most people even millenia after, we can see that it's a reliables a source of information. I have many things to help you out to discern, if anyone wants to talk about this, let me know through inbox because I barely got time for typing, a discord voice chat would be a better way for communication.

You have made an elementary category mistake. Philosophy and religion deal with "why"-questions whereas science deals with "how"-questions. There is no incompatibility possible even in principle unless you are committed to a fundamentalist approach to reading religious texts which disregards Genre, metaphors etc.

I am sorry I really want to answer to this video but I can't put my tough into wards :(

Matthew 5:17, 18 says, “Do not think I have come to abolish the law or the prophets. I have not come to abolish them, BUT TO FULFILL THEM. Amen, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not the smallest letter or the smallest part of a letter will pass from the law, until all things have taken place.” - Christian doctrine interprets this verse as meaning JESUS WILL FULFILL THE OLD LAWS FOR US. This means that Jesus has LIBERATED Christians from any duty to obey the old laws. According to every famous Christian theologian in history, this verse means that WE DO NOT NEED TO FOLLOW THE OLD LAWS. We are ABSOLVED from the old Mosaic laws, because of our faith in Jesus. This is how Jesus was able to offer us a New Covenant, based on faith in Jesus as the Son of God; not based on obedience to Mosaic law. Furthermore, there are at least two additional reasons which prove this verse does NOT require Christians to follow the barbaric laws of the Old Testament. REASON #1. There are at least a dozen OTHER Gospel verses in which Jesus clearly says WE NO LONGER NEED TO OBEY THE OLD TESTAMENT LAWS. Over a dozen times, Jesus either changes the old law, or else tells us that the old law in NOT binding on his followers. In fact, the whole point of Christianity is that we Christians are NOT obligated to follow the Old Testament laws, because we have a “New Covenant” based on our faith in our redemption through Jesus. The “Old Covenant” was based on works under the Old Law. It is not binding on Christians. - For example, in the same gospel, (Matthew), just a few verses later, Jesus CHANGES the old Mosaic law. In Matthew 5:38 Jesus says, “You have heard it said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ (See Exodus 21:24) But I say to you, offer no resistance to one who is evil. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn and offer them the other cheek as well.” Obviously Jesus is NOT preserving “every letter” of the Old Law. He is changing it. - Also, in Matthew 5:43 Jesus changes the Old Law in another big way. “You have heard it said, ‘you shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ (See Sirach 3:18, which is contained in Catholic and Greek Orthodox Bible, but is not found in most protestant Bibles.) But I say to you ‘love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” That’s a pretty big change! - In Matthew 7:12, Jesus again changes the Old Law, by cutting it down to one simple sentence; “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. That is the law and the prophets.” - And Later, in Matthew 22:36-40, Jesus tells us that we will satisfy ALL OF THE LAW, if we simply love the Lord our God, and act kindly to other people. Here is the verse: “The whole law and the prophets depend on these two commandments.” That’s right, Jesus said “the whole law” is satisfied if we just obey these two simple rules. So there is no need for Christians to worry about, “every letter of the law.” - Throughout the four Gospels, Jesus tells us to do MANY things that were previously banned under the old law. Jesus tells us we can eat any foods we want to eat, which violates the old dietary laws of the Old Testament. Jesus also tells us we can work on the Sabbath day, which violates the Old Law. Jesus also tells us NOT to impose the cruel punishments for sexual immorality which were required under Mosaic law. “Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone.”

This is a little silly. God's law is also also based on logic and science. And when Jesus came, he broke it down real simple for us. Love God, and love other people.

Calling religion anti-science by comparison is putting yourself in troubled waters. I respect your ability but wish you to come to the wisdom of God. Best wishes and thank you for the video.

Hi Alex, First off, I want to thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your work is incredible. I like your work and the people you surround yourself with. It’s like finally finding someone who can clearly and eloquently articulate what I’ve been struggling with all my life. I wish I could meet you in person. Your video where you interview yourself regarding opening up and sharing feelings with a woman is so bang on, there no words to describe it fairly. The aim here is to help men become better men and therefore the world a better place. And I cannot agree with your purpose more. We need more of you great work so please keep at it. On that matter, also please extend my heart felt regards to your fine friend Jasmine! Your videos together are a treasure. In this video you ask about another point of view that you may have not considered. There is a world renowned Muslim scholar Dr. Zakir Naik. Although he is not Christian, but has an interesting argument from the religious (in general) or theological point of view. As to the difference btw Islam and other religions, he mentions that a little bit in the end. His videos are all over KZfaq. Very interesting and very diverse topics addressed from the point of view of Islam. I invite you to watch this video where he addresses the same question about theft and other transgressions posed by an atheist person. It is as if he’s answering your very question. kzfaq.info/get/bejne/rdxorJWfys_epmg.html

Pausing at one second. Wish I found this sooner. I can wholeheartedly confirm the title. I still have a large box of bible study notes, scripture, letters from her family with verses.. 20 years worth. She read the Bible three times through… i dated strippers with more loyalty and dignity than her. Absolutely the worst gurl I’ve ever known, and I’ve known some evil B’s. I’ve been on a mission to learn all that I can about dating and relationships. You, Alexander, and a couple others on KZfaq are very much appreciated. Thank you

Science is just a way to explain GODS work. Not counting the theory’s.

I love your videos Alex, but in this one you got it wrong my man. Assuming that a Christian (like me) doesn’t agree with stealing just because “God said so” is not only over simplistic, but it’s wrong for the majority of people. Disclosing that you follow a reasoning process and “Christians’s thoughts spring out of thin air” is terribly supremacist, because Christians can also think. Ever since I started watching your channel I’ve been more and more satisfied with my decision, made 3 years ago, of marrying a 19 year old virgin Christian woman. I wouldn’t trade her for any of the hypergamous thots you display in your channel

Thanks for your video -------- REALLY HELPFUL. It pains me to say, I have been at times deeply immersed with my local church and I find there are girls that I am attracted to, but have always hesitated to date them. Now I know why, and won't waste my time or attention entertaining the thought. Good. Why? Because whilst I agree with the values in the Bible, it's crazy that people would take everything in there literally and interpret everything in their world through the lens of what being a 'Christian' means. If there's no critical thinking (thinking according to their deepest personal values), and they live life according to some external value system: how do I know who is the real them???? And do I have to pretend to be the perfect Christian the whole time to qualify as their partner? What if I have at some point legitimately challenging questions against the faith, would it all fall apart then? I feel they are either brainwashed or they are hypocrites (why go if you don't truly believe it?). There's no reasonable middle ground.

I do think there are some points that can be added to this discussion. I am a christian and I am also a firm believer in science. My perspective is that if science is the study of the world around us and God made the universe we live in, then the systematic study of our world should lead us closer to the truths taught in the Bible. In my eyes, if there appears to be some sort of contradiction between the two then one of two scenarios is occurring: Either my interpretation of what the Bible teaches is wrong, or my application/interpretation of the science is wrong. So I have to reexamine both until I can come to a conclusion, and sometimes I'll admit it isn't clear. Another point is that ideally a good Christian should examine the character of God and the teachings Bible to determine whether they think this is something worthy of placing one's faith in. Placing your faith in something blindly is not a mature trait. Now, if someone has come to the conclusion that the God of the Bible is real and that He is a good God, perfect and holy in every way, then it is entirely consistent and logical to use His standards of morality to guide your life.