This. Most problems can be solved if we look at them for what they really are. The truth is not always what you want to hear, but it's what you need to hear.

Facts

@juanancriadillas I disagree... The last thing you want a woman to have is confidence it turns them into monsters

Correct.. even better make her work for it.

@juanancriadillas You do not want such a woman.. if you actually think they are doing this run.

I wonder if there is a connection between women who flake and women who initiate divorce.....

Or paying decades of child support!

@@hazardousjazzgasm129 lmao

This is dumb logic. Just because you can imagine a worse scenario doesn't mean the universe did you a favor.

@@runreilly It's just an expression. He means she's done you a favor and be content is all.

@John Volken You make a valid point, but I'm a larger man, so I don't' usually have to worry, also On a first date if she runs off with some other guy I say good riddance.

Props for this

I usually would prefer to meet them somewhere where I had friends at (I would breakaway from them if she showed up), or meet them at the park for a picnic (and bring a book). If they never showed up, I could keep myself entertained.

Hahaha that's awesome.

I like your logic.

Boss move

I would definitively go with that lol

I would definitively go with that lol

I do like the humorous gesture which puts the ball back in her Court to make a decision about whether or not she really wants to get to know you or is putting you off because she doesn't. Like he said women tend to be more emotional with their decisions, well this is truly an emotional decision.

I did the same thing. Never asked either girl out again but it felt good and I moved on.

marcelo2169 Yes, if she wasn't interested, she shouldn't have led you on.

I agree. However, for many men, if they endure enough rejection, drama, BS, fake phone numbers as well as being stood up despite lowering their standards, many of them just give up entirely on women.

Actually, it can be your fault. Sometimes you look attractive enough, and have a life and personality she would enjoy being a part of and have a relationship with, but you lack seductive ability, not the least of which includes the ability to make an emotional connection and lead an interaction. If a woman feels like there'll be a lot of negative pressure in the form of awkwardness or that she'll have to make all the moves, it's hard to feel excited about meeting you.

Not the man fault If he never was given the opportunity to build those skills up. I suppose anybody could but you will be though as a creep as you build those skills up. The point is is it worth deali MN g with all this bs just to barely get a shot even when you mastered those skills? Maybe, it just depends on the person. I prefer not dealing with it.

Double negative

@@MidnightPolaris800 Thank you, saved me from pointing that out but I'm guessing it flew right over their head. It's cool often when people use a double negative as you can have fun with it.

Yes they do, they have weak ass egos I've seen it I'm on roll bruh lol

@@notanotheryoutubechannel777 Lol. It's easy to break a woman's ego. Call her out on how weak her body is and mal nourished her breasts are. She will think about that comment for the rest of her lives because of her ego.

Anything*

I agree. BUT if she tells you that she wants to meet you, she comes. If the meeting is not good well ok it will not work. I undertand. But if she says that she comes and she doesn't come, she shows no respect for you. Actions lead to conséquences. Today girls think that there are not conséquences, they can do everything. Just no. I will trashtalk her so maybe the next guy will thank me because the girl will come anyway at their first date.

@@perretlaurent6665 Trash talk is counterproductive.. the next guy will not thank you. Just take it like a man,and leave her guessing. Do not reschedule for less that 2 weeks later...

Marc Grundfest I wouldn’t reschedule or reach out at all lol why tf would I ask again in 2 weeks when she’s not even putting in effort to counter another time ?

@@CertifiedTyrone Then don't.. that's ok . But dont trash talk .. it shows weakness not strength.

Marc Grundfest Im not the one that said I’d trash talk lol I go 👻

Nailed it

Vamoo yes very commun too, I’d rather not swim In those swimming public pools full of std’s, not even with a speedo hat.

She's mostly busy with a bunch of Chads and Tyrones.

Getting that excuse should be an automatic delete and block.

If the roles were reversed then you'd have to be really rude to flake on a woman or to set up a date with her if you weren't even going to commit to it. It's been done to me a few times and i often wonder if they are setting up dates with many guys so if the one they like cancels then she won't flake on you.

James W thanks.. just telling the truth. Glad it resonates with you

This is a video specifically about women..

Flashy dates is a waste of $...... dating is a waste of $.

Thanks AMS

Pizza only.

@John Volken I actually disagree with Alexander a lot in this video. He offers too much weak advise.

LOL HAHAHAHA! *DEFINITELY using this*

If you like games. Text her about 40 min later and say you are sorry you are late, but you ran into an old friend... You will have lots of fun,if you have game..

That would actually be funny as hell to say to a woman. It would most certainly be taken sarcastically.

Hahahahaha!!!

Bruh, it's a lifehack how to make woman you don't like to stop liking you without any drama

Usually if they flake, they aren't interested. I learned to just ghost them if they do this. The first few times I worried that they might have been in an accident or something. I was raised to make it to appointments on time, and if I even think I may be late, to try to contact the other parties and let them know, sooner, better than later. It didn't occur to me that most women don't have enough respect for others to bother with social niceties. They see no issue with insulting people by wasting their time. I only had one woman ask for a second chance. After 30 minutes, I declared her a no show, and left the restaurant and went out with friends. Later I learned she was an hour late, and waited on me, and assumed I stood her up. And that's all I remember about her.

@@Weaseldog2001 Who the hell assumes THEY are the one getting stood up when they are A WHOLE HOUR late? Incredible the nerve of some people...

@@hazardousjazzgasm129 Anyone who is used to people waiting on her, and sees that as normal.

@@Weaseldog2001 : 30 minutes without her sending you a message that she is running late is too much time wasted. I give them 15 minutes and leave. You did good anyway.

@@childfreesingleandatheist8899 I don't rush a good stout.

Sabergon you must be one of the rare unicorns out there unfortunately majority rules

When growing up didn't you ever come across such horrible women? Even as early as 5th grade, I've seen women who got off manipulating men for their own pleasure. The worst is when a girl pretends to like you just so she and her friends can laugh at the inside joke of making the guy into a gullible fool. I even knew someone in high school who committed suicide over it. A girl pretended to like him, then mocked him in front of her friends. They all laughed at him. He killed himself that very day.

@@bullballsallday I'm sorry to hear that happen to your friend, unfortunately everyone has the potential to be a nasty and inconsiderate pile of heaping steamy garbage. Men, women, white, black, asian, ect. What you're born with and your character are two separate things. You cant control your birth, but you can control who you become and how you treat others. Altho I cant say I've experienced that scenario specifically, I've had my fair share of heartbreak or consoling someone who's in heartbreak because of how self centered someone was.

How is this shocking though lol. I have been flaked on so many times in my life i lost count. Its extremely wide spread.

today it's become a rare thing to find a woman who doesn't flake

More like red pilled gbp

hahaha

😂😂😂 the funniest thing I’ve read today. Captain Sinbads needs to do a spinoff now lol

@Google User He wasnt really addicted to benzos, just had extremely unpleasant withdrawal symptom which is also very rare

😂😂😂

Judge a woman by her actions. If her action contradict her words, just believe her actions above everything else. A woman thats interested will move mountains. If she's not initiating contact that only means you're a low/no priority to her. Women and most people hate confrontation so thwy wont be upfront with you. So dont expect or ask for closure. Just take her unavailablility as a sign she's not that into you.

Go for fatties. They’ll call back for sure

@@caseybanana8114 Ahaha, I have no issue finding dates, I just don't like doing it or going on them because I find it difficult to connect with people & I have very peculiar standards. Truthfully, this has been the first time I have been left clueless after a first date. It's a very bizarre thing, because my expectations were far from reality. I got too excited, and expected a lot from the beginning and that's my fault. I'll take your advice though ;)

I don't chase women any longer. If they're interested in you, they'll go out with you. If they don't show interest they're not into you so why bother with them? They're going to be bad in the sack.

@@dat2ra problem is, i have a hard time getting them to find interest in me..

After seeing several videos, at this point is annoying how repetitive that behavior is

agreed, but even just the camera will do that

There may be some truth to that. It's the nature of conformity, although there are too many different names for the same concepts. I'm always having to translate into whatever "language" a person understands. I think in patterns and drop down into words. Language divides the mind and perception into too many compartments. When I tell people I've studied qabalah, this is essentially what I'm referring to and has nothing to do with religion and is more like the binary machine code underlying the Matrix or the nature of the universe and physics. The human mind complicates the simple, such as E=mc2. But I'm not a man, human or genius, because no human would claim to be human, no man would claim to be a man, and no genius would claim to be a genius. Everybody knows that. It's common sense. "Common sense is the collection of prejudices acquired by age eighteen." - Albert Einstein

How about "no worries, I'll let you know when I'm free next". Then ghost.

@poopscoop exactly

@@muskokamike127 Its up to you how you respond but in my opinion, she'll know you're pretending to have "forgotten" the date as a way to save your pride. People arent that gullible.

@@muskokamike127 You also get to decide if and when she's good enough for you.

@@Thewiseone124 while it's unlikely, she may have pulled out of the date for a genuine reason hence why i send the text. It means if her reason for flaking was genuine and she's actually interested, she'll hit you up another time to meet up. If she ghosted you or stood you up, thats another matter altogether and i'd agree that in that case you should just move on. Up to you though man, only do what makes you comfortable and live your best life

Yup that sounds desperate silence is the best answer.

🤣🤣

Nobody cares.

Lel flat earth.. I think you are doing them a favour.

Unknown IP I make 7 figures a year after tax. What do you make bro? Prob work at Mc Donald’s lmao. Loser

@@TheFlatEarthChannelcom what do you work as.

Hussain Alshara I own video game outsourcing studio. Marketing studio and a run a Airbnb rental company, along side invest in a bunch of original IP projects. I employ over 100 employees.

Most of the time I already had plans to be at a location, so if she shows, she shows.

This is what I do, I text them an hour or so before trying to get some sort of "confirmation". Rule of thumb for first dates: thursday is probably the best night to schedule. It is more likely she will flake on you if you have a first date scheduled over the weekend. She might bail on you for her friends or a party for example. If I've already gone out a couple times with a girl and I know she can be flaky, the way I invite her out is something like "hey this friday I'm gonna go grab a bite and some drinks at so and so bar. You are welcomed to join me" That way you make it seem like you're going with or without her. And that's the idea, you should go even if she flakes. Always invite a girl out to places that you want to go to - do it for you, not for her

You guys don't understand yet. ALWAYS take your "date" to places you normally wanted to go anyways. For example I invited this chick if she wanted to come to a record store I go to. Guess what? I was going to do that anyways to buy some used records. Invite her to a bar you enjoy going to by yourself, that way if she doesn't show up, you can just hit on other chicks at the bar or play pool and have fun anyways. Invite her to the beach, but bring your board with you in your car so if she doesn't show up you can get some surf in. I do this with every single date. I never go on dinner dates early in a relationship.

Humility is key brother, you learned from those failures and it makes you stronger.

Get her off that pedestal, she does not deserve it

"OK" is a perfect complete response to a flake text

Sorry but it wasn't because she liked you and was scared. Grow up

how long have you been together?

@@bnlhu 7 years on the 21st of August matter of fact. 😎

@@keid1020 well congratulations man, not a lot of people make it that long. Just remember to always protect your assets and to have an exit plan, divorces break men, the court system is vicious

Just like Instagram likes!

I would word it: "Ah. Well u can make it up to me later. 😏😉😁" don't give her the choice. Imply that I will dictate the terms!

@@fan-i-am 'later' is the weakness in your sentence. Later can be 5 years later in her head, which is equal to 'never'.

@Godhand Yupp

@@GodhandPlusOne this is just going to make them think they won..trust me, dont block her just stop texting her. That's enough

@dadidgital that's alot of steps that lead to nothing. And you would have to know that specific woman actually cares. Best bet just dont respond and move on

Nah that still happens with 30 year olds. Happens all the damn time. If anything, it seems like it has become more common in my 30s. Never in my life had I had more problems with dating than in my 30s. I remember being broke and fat in my early 20s and had more dates lined up than I do today.

They days are long but the decades are short. Men age like fine wine, women age like sour milk.

hahaha

@John Volken She's a 6/10!? I need to move to Russia. Have you been to an American Walmart?

They do bud.

It would probably make them want you even more

@@joshy2joshy Thats probably true Josh...lol we both have the same first name

@@GodhandPlusOne and then they get only reinforcement of these beliefs because of social media echo chamber.

Oh I would have done it in front of her while laughing with the manager.

😂😂😂🐐

Rommullus - what was the point then? You should have done right in front of her so that she got the point!

@@wiseonwords like I said, ultra petty, childish and dumb. I don't do stuff like that anymore. Just airing it out and letting it go. Easier to vent to the internet than to people I know.

Nice but next time don’t set up a second date if she flakes on the first one. If she’s not trying to rearrange a later date then you have to move on. Love the irony in your story though lol

I am comfortable with following my guts. It's not about manipulation for me either. Oh, and i don't have dates. :Ddd I can't believe i dodged so many bullets!!

True

Women made it that way: the offer adapts to the demand

As long as it's not choke-the-chicken...well how does that work out for you?

A few examples of responses to that question?

Well said my man

When a girl flakes, she thinks she might have a better option than you but doesn't want to burn her bridge with you either. That';s why they'll never be upfront about it.

Understand women, they're not programmed to be up front.

As a few people have already pointed out, many of the narcs are just looking for validation, makes them feel good to know they can have you if they want, flaking probably feels better to them than a thousand Facebook likes

@@NeonagiYer exactly.

Bc I'm dating multiple women. If they can do it why can't I? Plus I wanna be her #1 ,but she's probably #4 to me lol

I know what ur saying. And I agree. But I would modify the reply from a question to a statement, like this: "Ah. Well, you can make it up to me later. 😏😉😁" That way I keep the power/dominance/ assertiveness etc without giving her a choice. 😊 see how she responds

@@fan-i-am Her interest would need to be very high (which it probably isn't, given the context) or else this looks like you've already compromised your interests for a promise of sex, one that she didn't even make.

@@dreamcore that's my point. If her interest isn't that high then u should keep sailing. And I'm coming from christian perspective of securing the relationship before sex.

Exactly. Even being "flirty" seems to be letting her know that you still want her, which gives her the power. I would say to wait for HER to extend a hint or invitation of another date or whatever, and then make sure it is on your terms. Otherwise, she just never sees you again.

Lol wtf

@Thanos That's a fairly plausible argument. How is that a load of bullshit?

Absolutely concur Schiggah. In the hierarchy of men that she has access to, if she doesn't know you well enough to make a determination if you're the best character match, she has nothing else to go on other than the physicality of her matches. I would say that overwhelmingly so, most women flake because they're not interested in you because they're not attracted to you. I think the minority is women who have boyfriends/husbands who flake because they couldn't meet the logistical requirements to be a whoring cheater.

@Thanos you're just defensive and are not looking at the truth.

@Thanos Bluepilled

@Thanos yeah and for $400 he'll tell you how he did it!

C'MON BRO THAT'S NOT IT BRO YOU GOTTA HAVE GAME BRO. BRO!

Matt M unfortunately every women like to play games

Cyberneticxylem You said it BRO You can’t just tell her she made you upset Bro What’s wrong with that guy BRO ?

@@idobackflipz you don't just say "you hurt me!" Lol. You tell her she disappointed you. She let you down. She embarrassed herself. Those kind of responses make them feel ashamed of their behaviour and the good ones smarten up. You don't say your feelings are hurt. You express disappointment in their lack of respect for others and themselves shame works with children. It works with women

Matt M I hear you man . Honestly I just thought cybers comment was funny so I was adding to it .

its australians thinking thats the thumbs up

She pretty much gets a free meal/coffee and they can't even bring themselves not to flake on that lol

Your strategy seems like it would work just fine ..... if you are trying to date men. If you aren't willing to use subtlety to assert power in a relationship dynamic then you are gonna have to just settle for what women decide to give you instead of what you really want.

If she is still interested, she will offer to make it up. And then you can choose the terms.

I believe in giving one or two chances early on if she is genuinely apologetic. But if the behavior continues? Gone.

I think it will actually work better in a smaller place. You set yourself up as the strong quality man with standards against the limited pool of weakness. Won't take long for word to get around that you are the prize and they will compete for you.

@@root1657 Not in my experience, but thank you for your advice :)

Improve yourself with no expectations

"Dating pool is limited" is not a real thing. It is an excuse. No way you are forced to stay with a person because there is no other around. Like it's not just the two of you on a desert island.

@@blitzchips8109 Dude what are you even talking about? I live in a town that has 10000 inhabitants. Half of which are female, quarter or MORE are older women (serbia has a negative birth rate) at least quarter are under age, many girls are abroad or studying somewhere. You do the math. "is not a real thing..." Yeah, it's all in my imagination buddy.

Yeah man I signed up to a few lately,

Its nature bro, you've been taught wrong

i agree with you, sincerely, but i think all that needs to be said is, if you want to deal with women, this is what it takes. theres a reason they call it "game"

The secret is not to take it personally. That’s why experienced men treat it like a numbers game.

Was seeing this smoke’n hot girl from the same church I attended. On the con side, she had two kids. However, she was doing a very good job of raising them on her own. Even with the two kids she was in demand and guys were interested in her. She was a hotty for sure, a good personality, fun to be around, kept a good house, knew how to cook, honest, and even though she was hot she could be trusted not to cheat. She was looking for a man in her life, made no secret about it, and there was no shortage. Even in her blessed position she was selective about who she would let in. She was the whole package except for the kids. They weren’t good or bad, just normal kids for their age. One girl and one boy. I got along with both of them fine. I liked playing board games with them on the living room floor with their mother also playing along with us. Everything seemed to be going fine and other guys at the church would give me this “you lucky dog” look as I would pass them in the hallway. So, now my boss is having his annual fall festival at his large home/farm. His wife is a schoolteacher and she has all sorts of fun activities planned for the kids that will be coming. She spent money on supplies based on how many kids are coming. My boss has tractor/hay rides planned for the kids, paint ball for the adults, a barbeque, a bond fire, plenty of food and refreshments, a large screen television….. it’s a big event and it’s good to be seen at these sorts of things when they happen. We are allowed to bring a guest and I asked “Karla” if she wanted to join me. She had come to other in office parties and was familiar with most of the people that would be there. She said yes, and the deal was sealed. On the day of, the morning of the festival I call her to verify times and other things. We were expected there around 1430hrs. later that day. Now here comes the sh!t test. She announces to me over the phone that she would like me to come over at the scheduled time but instead of picking her and the kids up she wants me to delay our departure and help her clean her house for about two hours (I suspect that had I gone for this it would be more than two hours) before we leave to go to the festival! I am shocked at this request. She knows how important it is for me to be there and that I had already committed to my boss that I would be there, on time, and would be bringing a case (500 to a case) of paint balls. It came out of left field. When did she know this and why did she wait till now to tell me this? She said she wanted the house to be clean in case the social workers came over to look at the children’s living environment. Really? And you chose now to clean the house and is two hours of cleaning really going to make a difference on an already orderly house? I was calm and told her that I would be glad to come over and pick her and the kids up at the planned time and take them all to the festival as planned without delay but would not be willing to spend any time cleaning up her house or waiting for her to do so. She said, it’s only two hours. I reminded her that I had committed to being at the festival at 1430hrs.. and was responsible for bringing paint balls and other items that are also expected to be there on time. At this time of the year it starts getting dark around 1730hrs.. So, any paintballing would have to be over by then. Being two hours late would put my arrival at 1630hrs. You do the math. She said, well can’t you be two hours late. I said, yes I can but I am not going to do it for the reason of cleaning your house. That’s not a good reason. I politely told her that if she wanted to clean her house it was certainly fine with me and I would make excused for her and her kids not being at the festival and that I was still planning on attending and arriving on time with or without her and her children. She stuttered a little at this and then asked me if she could drive there on her own after cleaning her house and arrive late at the festival. I told her if she wanted to do that it would be fine with me. The bosses house/farm was not close and I started to give her directions. I could tell she wasn’t getting it. She had trouble getting around the city she lived in, much less out in the country. She had already gotten in too deep to change her mind about cleaning her house and instead come with me to the festival. So, when it became painfully obvious she was not going to be able to drive herself out to the festival later in the day, she conceded that she would just stay home and not go. I wished her all the best and we hung up. I went to the festival without her and when asked about where she was, I just said that things came up and she was not able to attend. I know all the guys wanted to see her. As I said, she was smoke’n hot. Well anyways her phone stopped ringing and after about a week she called me and asked if everything was alright. I was very polite and told her that things were fine. I can tell she wanted to ask me why I hadn’t called her, but she didn’t. We had a very cordial conversation and I could also tell she was a little puzzled. On that same call I made no future promises to see or call her, and I could tell she wanted me to. When I would see her in church I would always smile and say hi to her and sometimes she would even stop in the hallway to talk with me. She never asked me to stop over or why I wasn’t calling her or stopping over but I could tell she wanted me to ask her if I could come over sometime or to make plans to go out with her for some activity. Not happening. As far as I was concerned she had given me a sh!t test and I passed and she failed and was now dealing with the consequences of her “test”. Fortunately, I am in a position in life where I don’t have to be clingy. I put girls/orbiters in the friend zone, they don’t put me in the friend zone. With that move she had reached her expiration date, she could easily be replaced, and she knew it. I dropped her faster than a prom dress on prom night. I don’t know why she thought she could play that card with me, but she did, and when she did, and put it on the table, it was set and game.