Holy hell. This hit me like a ton of bricks. I really needed to see myself in this way. Thank you ladies. I have barely left my house in 3 months. All I do is lie in bed and sleep. I've pushed everyone away. Life is very "serious" and I won't let anyone see me. Finally tears. Thank you.

I have chronic fatigue, hypothyroidism, and perfectionism, and I think this might be the first time "letting go" was adequately explained in 20 years of spiritual life. Thank you, Teal.

I watch Teal Swan videos every chance I get and I swear this woman has helped me more than 20 years of therapy and self analysis.

"you want connection, and your exhausted because you keep trying to earn it." 🥺

"I am done doing jobs I don't want to do...but now I feel there is nothing I can do at the moment until I have the energy." - Exactly how I feel.

It hurts to watch the denial of pain and defensiveness and it's hard to recognize so much of this in me. Very helpful video

I have been suffering from chronic fatigue syndrome for at least the past thirteen years and chronic pain for almost three years. This is the third or fourth time that I've watched the video because I've been at different stages with my healing. For me it stems from not feeling like I'm good enough/ unworthiness, having low self-esteem/ low confidence, having a high standard for myself, putting too much pressure on myself, feeling like I have to work extra hard to keep up with everyone else. I have this trauma from not being unconditionally loved as a child, being constantly rejected or disapproved of, not being encouraged or emotionally supported, needing to be a certain way to behave, fit in or be good, and being overly controlled/ bossed around and made to feel that I always should be doing things that I don't want to do in order to be loved and accepted and survive. So there is this feeling of "have to" do things instead of "want to". And, at the same time, not being told "good job" or "I'm proud of you" or the things I do want to do not being approved of, which caused me to not be able to be or express myself to the extent that I should be able to. All of this caused me to be a perfectionist, be overly committed or devoted to things (overdrive state), be very self-critical, take things way too seriously, not be decisive or sure about myself or my decisions, not be as joyful, lighthearted, and carefree as I would be otherwise, care way too much what others think about me, want other people's approval and be defensive when others take issue with something I'm doing, be a do gooder people pleaser at the commands/ direction of others. Some of those things are more apparent with where I'm at now and others I feel like I'm pretty much past. I didn't used to have this level of awareness and I've come along way from where I've been. I'm also sensitive to other people's energy and that in combination with all of the emotional abuse, negativity from others (anger, worrying, complaining, toxicity) is a recipe for disaster (or expansion if I want to say it from a higher perspective). What I'm working on now is unconditionally loving myself, being non-judgmental towards myself, accepting myself as I am, loosening up, being cool, chill and calm/ easy with myself, not trying too hard or too fast to heal, being with myself/ not instantly trying to feel different if I feel bad or overwhelmed, letting things go since everything doesn't have to be perfect, reminding myself to be patient since healing and life-improvement takes time/ not everything can happen all at once. Generally I'm good at staying afloat and continuing to move forward. 👍 Right now I'm actually excited about my future because I'm doing a lot better than I was in the past and I know my life will get even better in time. Connection is the underlying component because I've pushed people away/ lost friendships due to not feeling good enough or worthy of being with them. I know I spun in circles with what I typed, but once I started typing, I just kept adding and adding. 😉 Awareness can be fun. 🙌

“We often prevent the very thing we want”

18:07 - Timestamp for when Teal begins to the answer how to Heal Chronic Fatigue... Here she explains the process of relaxing/resting to get in touch with authenticity, by "no longer identifying with the guilt of Conditioning." Up to this point we just see the diagnosis of the cause (anxiety/obligation to "never feeling good enough" focused into obsessively working to be "good"). I have lots of compassion for all empaths, because I have struggled with this myself (a lot) and it has been a long recovery. Societal conditioning has made most of us a pile of raw nerves. God bless everyone that struggles with the conditioning of bypassing our authenticity

"Stop telling me that I need to be different." Yes! That is the solution. A difficult concept to convey but Teal handles this very well.

Teal was being authentic. a lot of people down in the comments are having a hard time accepting a part of who she is because its not always the same nurturing, warm fuzzy feel good teal we often perceive in her other videos. i respect her for coming into her true self knowing the spiritual community would embrace every aspect of her even if its the aggressive and the perceived less empathetic version. A lot of you guys are forgetting she's just a person like you and me.

I just found this video after searching what EMPATHS can do that are totally drained. It wasn’t what I thought I was looking for but I watched it anyway. She brought me to tears. I could identify with everything she said. I always give my all for others but never get it back. I push myself so hard people say I’m a machine. I have slowly lost every personal connection I’ve ever had. My mother, my ex, my stepkids, my father, my daughter, my sister, my other daughter, years of no contact with old friends. Then I met a Narcissist who I still cohabitate with. What’s left of me is all but gone. But I know I’m here for a reason and I won’t let go. I have a higher purpose! Teal made me realize something I guess I always knew, yet put off.... way off into the future. A “build it and they will come” sort of attitude. I realize I can’t wait. I must do it now. I need to connect to the people in my life NOW. This chronic fatigue/fibromyalgia/narcolepsy BULL SHIT will end! I will allow people in. I’m 54! If they don’t want to hear it I don’t need them in my life. I MATTER. ❤️

I literally broke down crying. This is SO ME. I am SO SERIOUS.

Teal is provoking her - Provocation is a respected tool in councelling/therapy, especially for those where nothing else is working! ;)

Teal : "Can you notice the thoughts you're thinking?" Me : "I'm tired."

This was just like a real therapy session. I can completely identify with this woman, so I could imagine myself saying the same things and getting the answers. Thank you, Teal! Thank you, brave woman who went up there! And thank you, Claris Sinclair for posting the video!

I have been a serious person since I was like 3 years old. I remember looking at myself, other adults and even children with this tension in my mind, heart, and body. I can really relate to her, it makes me tear up to see her on stage because I'm looking right at that exhausted aspect of myself. When Teal said the story about reaching out and needing to hold onto something, I cried. Yes, I want to be liked and loved for who I am. All of it.

The fact that alot of people think teal is attacking her, because she’s fighting that woman’s resistance to help her, is truly laughable.

Teal is stressing the importance of vulnerability and in a sense getting the lady to break the glass of protection she's built around her. I have major depression so I'm always tired but if I shared that burden for more and more people, I would feel lighter. This is why support groups are so important. I am only learning how to be okay with not being okay with a person who is also okay with me not being okay. But yes she should give herself permission first. ❤

"You connect with them, they don't connect with you" Wow. Had not thought about that distinction.

I think everyone here is of the consensus that the information and wisdom Teal is providing here is accurate and true for the person on stage, but that it is being delivered in a manner that is not compassionate, yes? As a friend of Teal, something you may not know is that she is a Reflector personality type, which means she is a more intense mirror for what is going on in your internal world. She was accurately portraying the subconscious mind of the woman on stage and bringing the light of consciousness to it on a greater level so she could witness it and see it. This was as authentic as it gets, which isn't always easy for a lot of people to conceive of, especially when there is a held expectation of how Teal is supposed to be on stage, and when that expectation isn't met, she is met with quick judgments and criticisms. If you truly want to understand where Teal was coming from during this session, please consider attuning to her or using something such as the octopus technique and insert yourself into her perspective. Chronic fatigue is no walk in the park; it's my wish that this woman and anyone else watching that has struggled with it find a buried treasure within this video that will catalyze your recovery. :)

Burst of laughing and crying at the same time at the very first words of the answer "What causes chronic fatigue? Chronically doing things you don't want to do." and Bam! Just like that!!! How does this woman surprise me every time?!!

I have Chronic Fatigue but getting better. I watched this 2 years ago and was angry but watching it now I see that Teal is SPOT ON. I believe that many people with CFS are in a cycle of addiction with toxic relationships, ie validation.

I really related to this. I didn't think she was "too harsh" its honesty, its clarity, if it seems to harsh for others I can only say its only because you are in the space of being a "good" person. We don't need to sugar coat to learn about our selves we need truth. Thank you teal. I am going to ask for support here; if I do offer my real vulnerable self to family or others and they shame me, or try to change my state of feeling what do I do from there. Example: my dad asks how I am today and I say well I feel depressed and don't understand my purpose in life and he responds whats wrong with you, you have a wonderful life, or lacey you have so many gifts and are such an amazing person you have no reason to feel that way.. or my sister in law asks how i feel and I tell her not so good today i laid in bed all day crying she says ill help pay for therapy or why are you crying and I tell her from feeling abandoned as a child and she says well our parents did the best they could.... this is what i am hiding my feelings from others. Thank you for your support.

I think what’s happening here was teal being really concerned for her wellbeing. While she seems really harsh this is meant to get her fastest out of her destructive pattern which will send her into the most miserable life. This is an opportunity of a lifetime. Out of all these people she is there. Teal honors it and is committed to helping the best and most she can.

This poor lady is so so programmed. It will take more than this session to break her through

Very much disagree with some of the negative comments here. Maybe it's the difference of US culture, needing to be PC and always coddling people. No. The straight truth is what is necessary sometimes. These people are on stage because they invited and needed truth. Why such disrespect for that authenticity? There is more compassion in that, in certain situations, it's all individual. There was a lot of love and opening to understanding here.

Wow! This resonates with me more than most things I have ever watched on here. I really identify with the girl on the right, and feel that if it was me on stage in her place, the conversation with Teal would have been very very similar. I can see so many aspects of myself in her, and that feels uncomfortable but also that I am not alone! :) I understand where she is coming from. I have been diagnosed with ME/CFS in the past few months, but have been experiencing symptoms for a long time now. I knew there was more to it than some random medical condition, a genetic susceptibility, back luck etc., and have been searching for answers. I know I overthink/worry a lot, and suspected that was the cause, but to start healing, you need to know why you do those things and nurture/caretake that aspect of yourself, instead of saying "I have to get better" over and over, putting pressure on yourself, feeling guilty, trying meditation/other things with good intentions, but they don't work because of all the resistance, pressure etc. I totally get that now. Feeling inspired!

She says at the beginning "I should cry". That's her key.

This helped me understand so much. I am also tense and serious.

wow i have chronic fatigue and listening to this video when yu got to the part where yu said i couldnt hive myself to people it made me emotional and cry and thats amazing but i knew i cant connect i cant talk but i didnt know it causing me to be sick ....i listen to others but i dont talk cuz noone listens anyways etc.. i dont trust people ...and i think its ok to stay alone but its not ...

I have the exact same problem as the woman in the video and i bursted into tears several times during the talk, because teal revealed such a profound truth, as if she was talking directly to me and i have never seen this from this perspective and it is so eyeopening. thank you so much teal!

This poor woman was so uncomfortable when teal was making fun of her and Teal was completely inconsiderate. Teal doesn’t validate things she doesn’t relate to, believe in or understand clearly. This made me lose so much respect for her. Of course she’s serious! She’s suffering immensely.

For 25 years of my life, I have chronically worried over the smallest of stuff. Constantly analyzing everything and worrying is fucking tiresome. ‘Throw’ in repeated childhood trauma and being told one day at 9 years old that my father is dead. Constantly shutting your mouth when your 6ft1 200+ pounds and you’re being took for a c**t. Being bullied by short kids in school when I favored physical strength and height all because of that trembling fear inside. Even to this day I continue to shut my mouth when I disagree with a lot of the shit that comes out of the people’s mouths around me. And I wonder sometimes how I can be unwell with ME/CFS? Jesus. In this beautiful woman’s situation, even in her attempt to “let go” she’s holding. I do it myself. This woman is just ❤️. And just to clarify, I’ve been bed-bound, house-bound in pure silence because of my brain is unable to tolerate sensory stimuli. Loneliness has been my closest. The fatigue is not tiredness. Working a 12 hour shift is tiring. Having to live in a ground floor apartment because of your body’s lack of ability to climb the stairs because of fatigue. I hope this woman is in a healthy place inside. ⭐️

This needs to blast shared among the chronic fatigue community and with doctors. That being said, has anyone else developed this condition as a result of being authentic and in return being only conditionally loved/unaccepted/rejected by others 100% of the time?

Haven't finished, but that's terrible, it's quite abusive towards the girl, I don't like it at all. Not the content, but you can bring it across in a much nicer, more caring way. Then actually the girl wouldn't have felt high stress, but would have opened her heart from the beginning. And using the audience for confirmation is quite mean, too. The girl came with an open, loving heart and is being 'ridiculed' (yeah, of course she's looking for approval, but I think it is better to first give the approval so the person can feel safe and then talk about etc.). Feels like Teal Swans' shadow is acting here, she needs to be cool and all-knowing. I feel the woman was courageous, because she was being authentic and true, even when Teal made the audience confirm her. And yes, Teal is right about the conditional love etc. but she doesn't address it the right way at all. The woman would be better off with a kind, empathetic psychologist giving her the warmth and safety she needs, so she can relearn, not somebody showing her off as an example of tension.

this is one of the most needed messages that I will ever hear

This was AMAZING! I'm so glad I ignored the negative critiques and watched this anyway.

Thank You to both ladies for getting up on that stage. As someone that’s suffered from Narcolepsy & has been alone their entire adult life, it’s a brave thing to have done what they did. I don’t know if I could allow myself to be that vulnerable.

My psychologist used to confront me in this kind of way. Now I can really see my resistance, anger, denial, elusiveness and lack of awareness. Once I accepted what she was telling me I finally felt release. I can see this exactly right now.

Parts of this were hard to watch, but ultimately she took it to place that really made sense. I so needed to hear this message. Sometimes it takes getting uncomfortable in order to make a break through. And I really felt a break through happen today. Thank you.

An eye-opening experience watching that! Thanks from the bottom of my soul for sharing!

I've been rewatching this video for 2 years and I'm really thankful to whoever posted it. It's so brilliant and insightful, best advice on cf out there ❤

Teal! With no exaggeration this was the best video I have ever watched. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with the world.

I'm only at the beginning but an observation - Teal said a tension existed in the two audience member stemming from: " I have to get everything correct." My fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue was triggered by domestic violence in the form of a physical attack and acute narcissistic abuse. When that person put me through three years of life threatening litigation (hard to explain the details but my son's and my life were threatened) it was imperative that I "got everything correct" in terms of strategizing to reach the life sustaining end goal with this malignant narcissist. We won but I still suffer physically. Hoping to find out some interesting healing information on this video..

I know Ms Swan sounds Hard Hash No No She is THEE most important Realistic, Genuine Helper you can or will find. She is teaching me Teaching us Telling us We Have The Power From Within Within ourselves Its reachable Its doable The energy to heal from any chronic diseases is Within our own power. Thanks Ms Swan.

A true teacher in my perception is one willing to go through and be a part of the growth that we are asking for and need.

I feel like I can learn way more from Teal's videos than I can in my college success class.

Oh God she is so desperate to get better. I could feel her pain. She is in so much pain. Teal swan has the guts to do it . Hats off to her. Teal demonstrated it well about how this lady was not letting go off her desperation to be different. I know Teal was " apparently" hard here but the point is " Truth" sets us free. We all have to go through the pain to come out of it . There is light at the end of the tunnel. But we have to cross the tunnel how long it may be with patience.

I think doing stuff you don't want to do is only part of it. A lot of it has to to do with the energy system not working properly because of abuse - being smacked and shouted at, constantly having to defend yourself during your childhood. Also the state of mind where other people's feelings matter but your own feelings don't. If you feel like it is your responsibility to fix everyone but don't believe you deserve anything yourself, then fatigue will result. Heartbreak and repressed crying from all kinds of sadness. These things lead to one doing things they don't want to do because the heart gets closed down so you can't do your heart's desire, therefore you do things you don't want to do. A combination of all these factors cause the energy system to get weaker, then the poisons in the water and bad food will not be flushed out very easily and really serious illness results. So far what I've seen in this video is a cop out. I think Teal Swan gets a lot of credit for saying very little.

what Teal said in the end about what she witnessed at the age of 8 is pure bravery. And it also illustrates the point. She shows how to be vulnerable authentic and share her reality. And her unique way of doing things: on stage even.

Wow, ok, so this really hit home. I used to watch Teal in 2013-15 but after I stopped resonating with her videos. Now I felt that I need to watch this one because I also struggle with exhaustion, basically I'm unable to work since last year, though I kept telling myself that I could, I just chose to take a break. But the honest truth it, I am exhausted and have no energy. I have to admit this. So I really admire these two women on the stage and want to thank them for being brave and playing out this "game of torture" with Teal, because it is an eyeopening for many of us out there. So,thank you! It was like I was watching myself, totally scary. Teal is really good at this, taking you back on track, or at least showing you the reality. And this is love too! This really requires courage, to be open, "give yourself to others". To stop sugar coating. I kept telling out things like "look at the bright side", but as Teal said, that just makes one feel invalidated. Wow. I have a strong emotional guidance system, but also a strong mind and am good at forcing myself to do stuff. But there is only so far... I would like now to stop and courageously be open, be honest, be there. Feel the fear and be open about it. Feel like shit and tell others. Stop trying to be "oh so spiritual". Just be and feel the uncomfortable. And see who stays, who leaves, who comes to my life. Feel a bit disoriented. But i feel like this is it.

As someone with CFS I am in two minds about this. I did get a very bad gut feeling at the beginning with the way she was speaking to the woman. I do not like how she belittled her and shut her down. I feel like she could have got her message across in a much kinder way. However, her actual message was, in some ways, a breath of fresh air. People with my illness are constantly made out to be lazy. I wont even say stereotyped because no one with cfs is a lazy person. We are contanty being told we just need to get out more and do more by people with very little understanding. As you can see from this video Teal is challenging her for doing too much which does show a better understanding of cfs than the majority of the population. People with cfs do too much, worry too much, pressure themselves too much and Teal has a good understanding of this and it is a breath of fresh air to hear someone telling a person with cfs that they need to just stop and be with their pain rather than they should be doing xyz that they probably tried years ago. I feel like in some ways this message was probably lost on the poor woman as she probably retraumatised her by being what was actually quite abusive. its such a shame she couldnt have got what was actually a good message across in a kinder way

Woooooooaah. I had 'CFS' and though it's harshly executed it's exactly what's needed to break through the stubbornness of CFS thinking. Trying to constantly be and feel good enough through work that we don't want to do or trying to push away feelings, constantly exhausting ourselves and not being true to others around us for fear of not being perfect - masks that tire us out. We can exhaust ourselves through trying to be 'perfect', just because subconsciously we're trying to draw people closer to us through exhaustion and needing to be cared for. It really is a disease of lack of connection, taking things too seriously, hiding truth, and constantly trying to do/mask and not be. Thanks for making me see this so clearly...

Thanks you very much, I am suffering with chronic fatigue right now and I felt some reliefs seeings others peope suffering from that and having also difficulty to share their negatives émotions and problems. It was so eyey opening and I recognise myself as this guys who like to show the cool partf of himself, the happy face, and scared to talk about his problem because, yes I am thinking " If I am too negatie people will be bored, scared and get away from me. Wouah, it motivated me to share more authenticaly with others about thoses aspects of who DOESN'T FEEL GOOD.

Asking for help. Opening up. Even though you are terrified they will hate you or leave you. It’s too exhausting not to be at some point. OMG. This is how I feel. And like you said I had to literally collapse and that was my body saying: STOP AND ASK FOR HELP. Did they run away. Yes! 99 per cent of them did. But then people who I didn’t even know, or barely know, somehow came out of the woodwork. That was when my guides helped me. They went and got those people and sent them to me. Trust me that the rejection of people who I asked for help not help was the most terrifying part. I knew my friends were going to abandon me and not be there for me. I knew my family were going to be abandon me and not be there for me. And then just going through that pain was such a relief and because my worst fears were confirmed but I was in a better place to move forward

this video was life changing for me ...thank you ❤

Omg Im crying so hard after 10 min!! Thank you Teal for this!!

I just realised I was the initial cause of my daughters chronic fatigue. Understanding is healthy for me . I am also understanding how she is pulling herself out of it. Now I can see and support. This is life changing especially for the next generation

the girl in black and me are so similar - mannerisms, speech, acting serious all the time, everything. I watched this video a few hours ago and since then I tried to give less shits, tried to act and express the way I feel instead of “let’s pretend everything is dandy and walk on eggshells so that nobody gets upset with me”. and it feels liberating, its like a chunk of pressure fell off. I’m probably not going to become a completely different person overnight, but if I manage to live my life more like this even after coming off the influence of the video (like 2-3 days), then I can already tell Id become much less stressed and nuts and much happier in life. Thanks for the video

thank you for uploading this.

I watched this video 2 years ago, 1 year ago, half a year ago and again now. I have changed a lot since then. I have tried to heal for years. Whenever I traveled the world I was never really enjoying myself, always trying to either fix myself or achieve something. Nothing seemed to help until I started to open up to people about my pain. Since I did, I can go for walks again. I have more energy. Less pain. I also practice Nervous System Regulation and Somatic Tracking which definitely was an aid. If you don't have friends to reach out to, try to get a somatic therapist. Healing is very much possible. I still need some more time but I know that I can fully heal as soon as I give up on trying to be something beyond myself to prove my worth and become loveable. I'll update on this if someone comments and asks for tips.

Right around 32:00 where this woman is asking for specific advice..."as if she were a five year old"...I was feeling like she really needed Teal to make a simple statement of advice, rather than point out what she's doing to herself over and over again.... I love ya Teal, but this felt like torture to me. Instead of JUST STOP!!!!, I felt like the only way she was going to understand and actually be ABLE to do what's necessary...was to hear....calmly, compassionately and in a non-judgmental tone, that she DESERVES the care that she needs....That there is nothing wrong with that part of her that needs that care.....that she should stick up for that part of her and ignore any and all thoughts that suggest otherwise. It almost felt like her own pattern of feeling like she's not "perfect" was unconsciously triggering a judgmental attitude from you. As a result, I feel like she was falling more deeply into her dysfunctional thinking and therefore less able to actually grasp the meaning of what you were saying. Ouch!

When we start seeing from higher perspectives, and have been thoroughly informed enough on human behavioural patterns, we can only be ADORATION AND AWE for Teal and this video - it truly has been one of the most helpful in 60 years of learning about who I am .. Bless you and thank you SO much..Teal !

Wow. I have had chronic fatigue syndrome for five years and I do think she might have hit the nail on the head, but her delivery was horrifying. She was mean, condescending and totally devoid of compassion in the way the delivered the message. I kept trying to ask this question at a different workshop, and now I'm so grateful I didn't get picked. If she spoke to me that way I would have told her to go bleep herself and walked off of that stage. I really hope the woman feels better and isn't too damaged by that callous behavior.

I am sorry, Teal, for what you had to go through as a 8 year old

This happened to me after my divorce. My son’s father screwed us over in every way. My son was only five, so he wasn’t aware of the bad things. I tried so hard to shield him from it. I tried to carry on like nothing was wrong, tried to be the perfect single mom for him even though I was heartbroken, in shock, and with no resources. After 6 weeks of staying with people, no calls from his dad, (heartbreaking to know) my son and I finally moved into an apartment. My body just gave out and I’ve not been the same since.

This one was the best of all it got me so emotional :x Teal is the best spiritual teacher ever

When I think of Teal,I feel Universe loVe💗 No words can express my gratitude. You are helping Big time many people. Keep doing🙏🏿💙🙏🏿

Teal is just allowing herself to be a MIRROR to the lady.s lack of SELF approval ...

Ohhh, so is it like conditionally loving yourself only when you are productive.

Once again, I was led to look at what has been up for me and what my selves needed. I love you. Thank you for giving, healing, which I think is simply you being you because you love to do it. Big Hug. I am grateful for you.If I could I would make it so no one would say or do unpleasant things to you. Thank you once again for your help.

Thanks for sharing this has really helped me. I've followed a lot of personal development and have been putting pressure on myself to achieve and had pushed a lot of things and people away and didn't allow myself to have fun as I had felt guilty for not achieving more. Thanks again :)

I have no idea how I feel about this video. Part of me totally connects with Teal's advice, and another part of me ended up feeling so much empathy and embarrassment for the woman, that I ended up being tired. I feel like Teal could have DEFINITELY handled this better, with kindness and compassion. Jheez.

Wow, another brilliant workshop from Teal.

Teal, you're making me cryyyy. Thank you for this.

My God that's me. I always feel like I have to make myself better before I can connect with anyone but in reality trying to make myself better is only pushing everyone else away and that is the direct mirror into what's going on inside. I am so far away from me because I'm not letting myself hurt. Instead I run away from that hurt. Just when I thought I was doing a great job in being there for myself. Makes complete sense way I was on the fence about helping other people emotionally. The more I help others the farther I feel from myself. I need people to be there for me no matter how I'm feeling. At this moment I can't be there for others. Not until I stop running from myself! I freaking hate that people treat my emotions like they would a bug. They just want them to go away.

You totally rocked this Teal!!!!!! I cannot thank you and these ladies enough. Perfect timing for me. This topic has been my core issue. Love you!!!!!!!

I love watching teal explain these concepts to people who can hear the message. It’s a layer type message. She can only give what we are able to receive. She only scratched the surface with the first question.

I did lose some close friends by opening up about my issues but maybe I those were ppl who were close to me based on the fact that I was there for them and not being open about what I needed. I couldn't open up to the person I love and she asked me to and she is gone far away now. I guess I have to make myself filled with integrity and become transparent & Finn who would be there for me to be open about my openness. Thanks for this. Darn. I wish I found this 5 years ago..

Man i can relate to this alot feeling like i need to feel better before i deserve connection with people.. Teal says you gotta let that go but i think it's just not possible.. when your an adult love and connection with people IS in fact highly conditional upon you providing value to other people or feeling good etc.. especially the case when you want to be succesful with girls.. so i don't see how to solve this issue really..

exquisite message Teal - truly exquisite!

Wow Teal. I was going to say you have no idea how much you just helped me with this (by "chance") viewing, but I know that you do. And I don't even have chronic fatigue, but so much of it fit. Thank you once again. (I SO LOVE AND SUPPORT YOU, baby girl!)

Thanks for posting, I really needed to hear this :)

This is NOT Tough Love! This borders on ABUSE! The reason so many people are reacting with “this bothers me. . . . . this doesn’t feel like love. . . . . this is not right,” is because Teal Swan is NOT being compassionate and accepting. She is putting on a show for the audience. She is NOT joining the woman where she is and accepting her. Humans who are tuned into their own innate goodness get uncomfortable when they see a fellow human being treated in this callous manner. Teal Swan is giving the woman more of what she already has experienced throughout her whole life, a sense of “I’m wrong, there’s something wrong with me, I’m not good enough.” When a healer gives true compassion the receiver (and the audience) does not laugh nervously. They become quiet and perhaps a little teary-eyed, as they feel the love flowing, unconditionally. Although Teal has good knowledge and is correct in her intellectual assessment of chronic fatigue, this method is harsh and unlikely to create permanent change. I admit I did not watch the video all the way through. When Teal gets up and plays God, telling the other woman to lie down on the floor, I had enough. Teal is re-playing what likely happened to her as a child, except now she is playing the role of perpetrator. Unless Teal ends the session by lying on the floor and inviting the other two women to yell at her, it’s doubtful woman number one will become more self-compassionate and self-accepting, or that her chronic fatigue will improve. If you want real healing and good spiritual guidance, I invite you to check out Kristin Neff at self-compassion.org, Brene Brown at brenebrown.com or Tara Brach at www.tarabrach.com. All humble and compassionate women, who know their stuff AND practice it. . . . . . . but don’t go to their workshops or read their books to improve yourself. Do it because you love learning and want discover all there is!

🥺🥺 You are such a blessing Teal ❤

Thank you Teal! So much appreciation.

Thank you for that Teal you helped me understand why I feel chronic fatigue and chronic pain and tension within myself and showed me how to understand my feelings and that the reason I feel this and also how to remedy this by accepting my fatigue and accepting myself and by seeing and telling myself I have the right to feel this way and I fully understand why I feel this way. I am fully with myself! I will never abandon myself every again now I am slightly understanding more about why I am me. xxxx

Listen people. Teal withheld approval because these people are approval junkies and that's what is ruining their lives. She has to make a big change for them in a short amount of time. This is a time honored teaching method. To the coaches here who say "I'd never do that" maybe you won't go to certain places that could help your clients because you need THEIR approval. There is more than one way to teach and show and guide.

Amazing material. thank you for sharing.

THANKYOU SO MUCH FOR UPLOADING THIS!!!

Yet again, Teal has told me what I needed to hear, rather than what I wanted to hear.

20,000 likes. Thank you so much Teal. I really related. Every second was like I myself was sitting up there in place of the invitees. Brought me to tears. Extremely grateful for the opportunity to watch and learn. Big warm hug.

I deserve to be accepted and loved without having to be good enough or earn it. That is a hard painful thought.

The cry of my heart - I'm hurting. I need help. I have nothing left to give. Can you see me? Are you with me? Will you love me? And one by one they walked away. Lazy. Feeling sorry for yourself. I need things, and you don't have my supply. Worthless. So I chance everything it feels like - will you help me? Can you tell me it's going to be ok? That you believe in me? The responses I got were - if I was you. If you would just. Where's your faith. You're going downhill. Everybody's sick of your shit. Is that the best you can do? I don't Have time to. You must have done something wrong. You're crazy. Why can't you... Whats the hurry to heal? So I can do. So I'm worth something. So people want something from me. So.i can take care of myself.. So even if they don't love me, they will still seek my presence for their personal benefit before abandoning me again. But then the gift is the perception that there's the value of me. The only thing desirable. Nobody picked.me. after decades of pouring out = nobody ever saw me. Only what I did for them. If they acknowledged that. It became common currency. Their deserts. Not recognized as a gift or sacrifice or even special. Worthless. Everything I gave was nothing but it was all of me. Now I must scrape myself together for parts. Tell myself the truth no matter how bad it hurts. I spent myself in the wrong way. Wasted. I could have chosen something eise. Someone else. They didn't like me as a door mat. I don't give 2 shits if they like what I'm bringing forward. It's what I have and it's my gift to.myself. All of the rejected parts are beautiful and I love them. I'm going to bring them out and enjoy them. How much of myself did i try to leave behind? A whole self for. These parts my family may not want, but I do! I love me. I can work with them. I know someone will enjoy me. There are people who.want to give me gifts without expecting anything in return. People that fins me funny, smart and beautiful. People that want me to call them. Love me just as I am. Flaws and all. Not looking for a reason to put me down. I don't have to be afraid. I did this and the lesson is that I taught these people that my presence meant supply at no cost. No matter how they treat me, there will be no consequence. No cost = free=of debatable value because it was never negotiated. I attracted those takers. I never gave them a reason to see ME. I wouldn't even let me see me. I've always known thar any need on my part was rejected abd scorned. As my body cried out, 8 manifested my belief into.this world. If I'm not pleasing....I am reviled. I am alone. Nobody's coming. I'll show them, they should have known I'd have something they wanted once again. I'll give it to.someone else! No. No I won't. The time of me seeing these traits as the ones worthwhile are over. Can u learn to live out of what i have left? Will I have the courage to show myself in all of my nakedness? Can I believe this is beautiful? This pain? This sorrow? This brokenness. This truth. I was never a faulty being when I came in. I was perfect. Wonderful with no changes. Wild and free. All of those parts that I was taught to reject. I take them back! They're mine! These may not work for anyone else. But they work for me! I like them! I will! I won't! And who's going to make me? I'm not going to shut up. I want to hear what I have to say! Pp I'm important. How I feel about things matters. More than anything else, more than anyone else, I AM! I choose me. I will learn who.i am and never apologize for who that is again. I'm not wrong. I'm perfect, just the way i am.

Watched this twice so far. Hits home.

I can relate to this woman insanely and everything Teal is telling her too. The problem is moreso that Teals approach might be too harsh and honest for her level of awareness and openness. I think the woman simply cannot understand how she could be loved unconditionally if she feels bad, is negative and brings others down. I can't understand it either. Why would anyone care, it makes no sense. Shes trying to understand mentally because she couldn't feel it emotionally, but mentally it makes no sense when there's no physical evidence of unconditional love. Someone just saying it can mean nothing. Teal is pointing out for her to just be ok with not being ok because other's see it as ok too. There's a disconnect.

God bless this poor lady....to fnd strengh .self realisation.and self heal.

Thank you!!! This is /was really me and your words are a BIG relief..!!! 💙💜❤💖💛💚🎄❄🎀

This will go down as one of the greatest moments ever