This movie seems absolutely amazing I don’t understand how I never heard of it

Wait....19 years old?!?!

@@firewarrior5828 yup Damon (with some help from Affleck) essentially wrote the script when he was that young

Or he's not a great therapist.

@@assholable The story of the making of this movie is almost as good as the movie itself. I have listened to Kevin Smith go on about it as in was involved with the studio head whom we will not name.

what??? XD XD

Even the cameraman was laughing so much. You can see the camera shaking lol.

beat me to it. lol

Yeah, that little squeaky wheeze Matt does toward the end is not your typical Hollywood laughter. He's trying so hard to breathe and hold it together.

Amazing acting how when he’s bringing it back to like bitter sweet “she’s been dead two years and that’s the s@!* I remember” Matt Damon is prepared to continue laughing as Will would, but when what was said actually hits the laugh stops and his smile drops.

And why there is camera shake because the cameraman is laughing hard too

Yes cuz nobody can act like they are laughing.

It's actually a well known known fact about that scene.

@@Prakriti2041 I didn't know it! What's well known to you, is new to someone else! @heathbunny3313, thank-you for sharing :) Are there any other scenes in here that are improv? I've never watched this before!

@@xavierpaige5937 In the final scene of the movie Will leaves a note for Sean(Robin). The note ends with, “If the Professor calls about that job, just tell him, sorry, I have to go see about a girl,” which is a line Sean says to Will earlier in the film. Robin wasn’t scripted any lines but while filming he muttered, “Son of a bitch.. he stole my line.” Everyone agreed that it was solid gold and the perfect ending, so it made the final cut.

I love your username.

it's not your fault

Robin Williams will never die, not truly.

I was lucky enough to meet Robin in New York about 15 years ago, just walking along the street. He was so gracious in stopping to chat and take photos. I still can’t believe it really happened, especially now he is gone.

His suicide was one of very few that I feel like I can understand, and kind of accept. Lewy Body Dementia was destroying what made Robin, Robin. His amazing brain was failing and there was no stopping it. So he left as Robin and on his own terms.

"OK we're gonna see an on screen mini therapy session" --me during that moment

Exactly! I love the “practicing what you preach” about this. The guys covered the toxic masculinity and completely smash through the barriers when each other needs it. And I like how that’s how they bring in that Jonathon isn’t Alan’s therapist for this reason: they can just be friends and cohorts in the show. It’s wonderful to see! Thank you!! And who didn’t grow up in the 90s and after not lose it when Robin passed? It still hits home.

@@tryphazzard2771 I’m here for ~this~…! …because of him. Rest easy, Funny Man, Rest In Peace.

I totally agree. Y'all are an example of wholesome masculinity that all guys should aspire to be

Dude came here to say it but you said it so well yes exactly! The tone shift Jonathan is like “oh my friend needs therapist Jonathan a little bit “ and just pivots beautifully.

Maybe you should consider talking with someone about that. You don't have to have problems, but neither will it hurt.

Yes! That one hit me hard, I am still thinking about that sentence...

That got me harder than anything I've read up on. Some words I think I needed to hear over the year.

That can apply to every teenager actually

The infinite natural born therapist skill infjs have 🥰

Wehre can i find it? Sorry for my Bad Englisch

this

@@deabo1935 It's a whole series on ao3 called "Another little piece of my mind". Therapy begins in part 3.

@@nickycurtis9060 Danke

Hiii, i would so love to read it, where can i find it ??

Abused so bad wouldn’t even know I was abused.

Yep and calling them difficult. My dad’s parents still talk about my dad acting out in his teen/early twenties like he was so “ornery” and a “troublemaker”. When the truth was that he was taking any excuse not to be home and he had a lot of anger/resentment that they gave him. I have to physically restrain myself when I hear these phrases. I wish I’d never known them, but my mom forces us to have contact because she believes family is “more” important

My mother used to call me stupid and useless when I would get bad grades in school. Deep down (or as it was said in the video - “on an emotional level”) I still believe I am worthless to this day (I am 22) and I believe it affects my life considerably. I hope to one day be able to afford therapy so I can get through this with professional help. I still love my mom though. She raised 7 sons, I can not even imagine what it was like for her to do that. We are all only human, it is just so sad that we can and do hurt one another so much.

A cop once blamed me for abuse I had suffered at the hands of someone else. I don't hate cops, but I can't really afford to trust them.

Many cases?! TRY ALL CASES. They train you to abuse yourself even when they’re dead…..or out of their lives, it’s called malignant shame…..I lived with it for 45yrs….I’m 52 and have been healing FINALLY from horrifically abusive parents and yea plenty physical but that’s not the abuse which destroys your soul. Long term Verbal/emotional abuse just rips your soul into pieces….it massively affected all of my life….I married a man like my mom almost paid with my literal life and only now 12yrs AFTER he went to prison for trying to kill me …..am I FINALLY healing that…and still working on my childhood. I share this not to trauma dump….but maybe someone similar to me will read and realize….there’s HOPE 🤷🏼‍♀️ I did think there was until only 8yrs ago. Found th right therapist…..I’ve had many never worked. I got one just like in this movie. She CONNECTED with me personally not super fast like in movie….but that’s a movie. But very realistic….a good therapist is gonna have to be able to take metaphorical hits in the beginning etc… Anyways….I e rambled enough ❤️

You can literally see it in his eyes when he immediately sees what’s going on and goes full empathetic. That’s not just being a therapist that’s being a good friend right there

I thought that was a bit at first then when I saw tears--real shit. The tone shifted so fast lol

So precious

That was just a normal therapy session between them and we were lucky to see it caught on film. 😂

I wonder if therapists have to actively think about that kind of thing or if it just becomes subconscious.

i found myself scoffing at this because it's so difficult for me to take criticism but i'm just now thinking... i don't think i've ever been truly respected in my life. i don't think i've ever even truly been *heard* in my life.

@@dietotaku I'm glad you have realized this. Hopefully this will be the first step to being able to surround yourself with people who make you feel heard and respected. I have seldom been fortunate enough to experience that, either. Yeah, when he was differentiating between therapists who lead with calling their clients out on their bullshit and therapists who wait until they have developed enough rapport with their clients for their relationship to withstand that . . . I couldn't stop thinking about two therapists that I had briefly. Both years ago. Both were students, bless their hearts--maybe early to mid twenties--and you would think that nobody had ever clued them in on the idea that constructive criticism might be better received once you had earned that person's trust. From the beginning, every session with both of them felt more like being in a philosophy class. Every single thing I said was questioned. Like I can see integrating a *little* bit of "philosophy class" into therapy sessions. If I understand correctly, in ancient pre-Christian times, philosophers were the closest thing they had to therapists. They would help people work through their issues by questioning their assumptions and encouraging them to think critically. Then Christian pastoral counseling was developed (and I assume some form of counseling within other religions? but I'm not very informed on that) and then Freud came along. But yeah, inter-personal relating 101--you really should earn someone's trust before you spend an hour critiquing them. I think that one of these guys not only didn't seem to know that trust was something that the therapist needed to earn, but he seemed to have the idea that trust was something that I was obligated to *give* him as his client! He pressured me to divulge a very personal secret, quite early in our therapeutic relationship!

Sometimes we are just too afraid of not really being respected that it's really hard for us to feel respected even when the person trying to help us is doing everything right.

@@messinalyle4030 I have had therapist/ councilors who do this weird power trip and feel entitled to my trust and respect. Particularly when I was a teenager and a really young adult. I think alot of this stems from the therapist/councilor feeling superior to the patient in some way. I really don't think it ever occured to them that they should be trying to make other patients and myself feel respected and heard. I see this alot when mental health professionals are working with teenagers and it's so toxic and unhelpful.

Precisely. I recently had a counsellor who did not understand or respect my autism at all and instead treated me like I was some troublesome delinquent who always argues eith my teachers and is the fault of everything. She told my parents I shouldn't get love and comfort when I have a meltdown and called it a tantrum. Needless to say I don't see that ableist hag anymore. Admittedly, she did help in a few ways, but I refuse to have a counsellor that doesn't respect me and treats me like a villain.

Sorry what?! You ended up giving therapy to your therapist ?

@@catherinethorstenberg8957therapists are ppl too as shown in the movie when Robin Williams’ character is sensitive to topics about his dead wife

Yeh, you see him see him and then presents a question that forces him to reflect on his feelings. Brilliant.

Also just being a friend

Also being a responsive co-host.

@@estherpettigrew3042 nana guys, that's the therapist look lol

I miss Robin William because every time I watched him on screen, he brought so much warm.

Exactly the same as my history of therapy. I looked for qualified therapists experienced in trauma, but all my therapists wanted was to talk about my trauma AGAIN retraumatizing me. I've picked up different things like the Rewind Technique (movie theater) that no therapist ever discussed or had an equivalent for. PTSD is bad hypnosis, a subconscious groove etched in emotions/mainly fear, at least in my experience, and intellectualizing/languaging the problem just didn't fix that animal fear and anger.

I always feel like if I come across like I know what is happening they won’t take me seriously and they’ll just say I’m diagnosing with Google.

@@saorise28 I think only the worst therapists would do that, and most would really like that you are trying to take affirmative steps. You are like the student whose teacher shows up because you are now ready to learn. I would go back to a therapist if I can find one who goes beyond talk therapy, therapy can be wonderful.

Sooooo true! I feel more self aware of my own emotions than before but realize that just because I'm aware doesn't always necessarily mean I know what's best to do next or how to respond with things. Admittedly, I overthink a TON. I like their advice that having guidance can help.

@@DogOnAKeyboard I do too, since I am little, always thinking abour my emotions and lack of them sometimes or why I do things.

I still can’t break down. Abuse is so awful as adults we are blessed if we even recognize it as abuse in the first place. Just don’t remember it, and can’t heal

Exactly!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

I cry Everytime I see that scene. I can feel it, sometimes during therapy I would have appreciated a hug, just to cry like he does and feel the comfort, it's a shame therapists don't do that 😞

Its the katharsis. Its why ancient Greeks invented theatre.

I‘ll never forget desperately trying to muffle the noise of me helplessly bawling in the theatre, same reason. I’m a survivor of childhood and young adult abuse (physical/mental, R, DV & SA), and I swear I felt Damon’s “Don’t f*ck with me” all the way to the depths of my soul. Thank goodness my best friend from early childhood onwards, who knew what I’d been through growing up was with me, and she just basically held me & shielded me from view until I regained my composure. Frankly? I’ve always felt this movie and those roles were both those two talented men’s best work, ever.

@@linamen2544 Unfortunately, many therapist shy away from that due to allegations and blurred boundaries. Touch is very healing but in a therapeutic environment, we have to be careful because it can be misconstrued and be harmful.

Same

That was pure emotional intelligence in a bottle, loved it too

Your first statement is so true. I lost my sister when I was 11. I didnt see her often because she lived on the other side of the country (USA), and I didnt see her at all the last few years before her passing, but hell she was my sister. Im 21 now and not a day goes by where I don't think about her. I don't cry anymore, but I do miss her. I know I always will.

Such a powerful statement, so true

Yeah….

Same was not expecting that to hit me the way it did…

This makes me feel better. It describes me well, but I always felt like I was broken for not following my own advice, which is one more shame (I'd say THE shame) to add to the pile.

Reminds me a lot about doctors (or lawyers) being the worst patients (clients). If they do it for themselves. There's a lack of perspective to be effective at your job.

You can also see that the camera is moving a bit because the cameraman also did not expect it and had to laugh, too!

Matt Damon’s laugh in that scene is contagious

Then Matt Damon turned around and improvised the story of his brothers in the barn loft in Saving Private Ryan.

Yeah and he improvised that because he noticed how nervous Matt was so he got him laughing to loosen him up a bit. I don't blame him, imagine you're just starting in the movie biz and you have an entertainment legend in front of you, I would be nervous too

Best improvised line was one of the most iconic "Son of a bitch, he stole my line"

Robin unfortunately had Lewy Body Dementia that was diagnosed after his death, his brain was rotting and his wife said in his last few months he was losing track of his orientation to his surroundings and himself, becoming paranoid and irritable and that they had to sleep in seperate rooms and have someone monitor him. I can’t even imagine how horrible that would have been for Robin and his family to go through. The doctors who diagnosed his LBD said it was one of the worst cases they’d encountered of the disease and they said within 5 or so years he would have ended up in a nursing home with a severe loss of function and independence before his eventual death. As tragic and awful as his death was, there’s some relief that he could still have the ability to realise what was happening and chose to end his life on his own terms while he was still functioning and not end up as a completely different person. I’m sad as well what happened in the last few years of his life and also sad for some of my friends who also had Grandparents or family members suffering from Alzheimer’s or other dementia-related diseases (one of my friends had her Grandpa die from LBD).

I saw Robin doing stand up in Chicago in 2000 something. The show was great, rather blue, and when then house lights came up, he saw a family with two kids, pre-teen, sitting in the front row seats. He was so upset, chastising them, saying “this isn’t Mork and Mindy”. He struggled to go on with the rest of the show, so cognizant of these stupid parents and the young kids. He kept joking about DCFS showing up. It made me love him and respect him all the more.

He would stop to talk to fans while jogging outside his home in LA . Truly truly nice guy. He loved ppl and thus he understood human experiences.

Same.

...have been studying psychology for a little over 2 years, now. As I still had been doubting my own abilities and ideas, this was enormously helpful. So, I think I can relate to your reaction. 😅❤️

Me too. Especially when I remember What Dreams may Come, and how for a long time even the doctors didn't know what truly happened to him. It's so sad.

Same

Same. I’m still not fully over it and feel unnecessarily sad when I see his movies

national treasure.

For me, him and Anton Yelchin

I don't think it's goofy! There's some really poignant stuff there. 🙂

It's on our list for future episodes! Not sure how soon we'll get to it, but there's definitely a lot to talk about there. (And you know we love PIXAR)

@@CinemaTherapyShow Is “Malcom & Marie” on that list too? 🥺🤔🧐

It has real themes and topics about parenting and I would totally watch that.

This would be great.

hahah

I think that should be part of their opening every time lol

Same.

💯

I kick myself at that scene… because I (relatively speaking, of course) came to terms with my past, yet logically I know I must admit to some culpability of the situations I put myself into. In fact, I even have to even be thankful for the times got out jam with just a split lip, busted nose, or the odd tooth loosened. Honestly.. I might have become a strictly worse person if it were for a few of the timely bootings in my development cycle (a few of the others probably didn’t help, but some did). Yet I try to explain that to people & they say, “You’re just making excuses for other people”. Nah; I was a bad kid that was shaped by real monsters to be an okay-ish human being as an adult.

The pleasing look in Robin's eyes, too, add something. He's not try to be a therapist, he just wants him to know so fucking bad. And Matt Damon sobbing in return. Those insane wails. So fucking... The one guys said raw, and yeah.

Apparently the therapy scenes when filmed moved between the script and the improv skills of Damon and Williams, showing how they were both masters of their craft (doesn’t hurt that Damon was involved in writing the script, probably gave both actors a feeling of safety to take things farther).

@@steveleeart It’s actually one of the things about Williams; you didn’t hire him with the expectation that he wasn’t going to riff. It’s not that he made it an official rider in his work contract, the man was an mad, ad-libbing genius. You wouldn’t hire Gordon Ramsay to make you a Hungry Man meal; you wouldn’t hire Neil deGrass Tyson to teach kindergarteners STEM; you just didn’t expect Williams to not work the material he was given & make it his his own. No matter who’s the person let the genius do their thing, and be honoured for the time you’ll always be able to say you worked together. I would have been grateful just to have looked him in the eye & shook the man’s hand, thank him making my childhood what it was.

Don't forget the bargaining phase.

I’m sorry that happened to you. I hope you are doing somewhat better mentally now?

@@theredalpha7290 Everyday is an uphill battle, the good days are starting to outpace the bad though. I have my support system, and surround myself with people who love me.

you are incredibly strong for sharing your story, wishing you nothing but the best

😢

It’s the hardest thing to hear. I have a story similar to yours and now I’m working on healing with therapy I hope you are too

I hope you are doing well 😌☺️

I hope you are doing better, and please know you are NEVER alone.

I hope you’re okay, the world would not be better without you and you are not alone 💛

Yeah, I feel ya man. I wasn’t planning anything yet, but that’s about when I started thinking about it. That’s when I started getting sick, never did get any better, about the only progress that was made is they figured out how to slow things down despite not learning why I’m falling apart to begin with. To be honest, I’m still there; Robin keeps me hanging on. Even if it could be called an act of mercy, loss of life still hurts others who care; I hear ya.

I don’t know you but I’m glad you stayed and you are important to the world and your loved ones and friends ❤️

Oof ikr lmao

Some people don't need therapy for just a year or so though. Some need long-term therapy to work out problems that will always keep coming up, and cause a myriad of other issues. PTSD, clinical depression, anxiety disorders, ADHD and most personality disorders need therapy for at least 5 years, usually more, and sometimes for all their life.

@@Lucy666Fernandez I'm not agreeing or disagreeing, but I recently read a book by a German Psychiatrist (Manfred Lütz) who flat out says that if therapy is good, it should be short, and if it isn't short, it isn't working (or it's the therapist milking their patient). Just a thought.

@@Alison-dt5wo I mean, some people need someone to talk to who can give a (relatively) unbiased opinion on what's going on in your life. Especially with chronic conditions that can't be cured and even when treated will periodically relapse into some harmful episode (depressive, psychotic, dissociative, etc.) during which they might need counseling. And it helps when your counselor already knows your history and what helps you best.

@@Lucy666Fernandez Yeah, I get that. I hope most people have someone in their network they can talk to, but I know a lot of people don't. Anyways, the author generalises a lot (which he admits himself) to make the book more accessible. His point, however, is that there's a "trend" in people seeking mental health support although they're not ill (e.g. feeling sad if your friend died is healthy, you're not depressed) and thus taking away therapy spaces from people who have "real" illnesses. Again, I'm not agreeing or disagreeing, just thought it was an interesting (unexpected) viewpoint.

No, it fact it makes it worse, because as you look in the class around you, you realize there’s people in the room your in who don’t have the best of intentions for being there. Some people shouldn’t have some information.

@@locomadman 10000% agree. I saw this a lot in some of my classes and it used to infuriate me so much

@@katherinekwon4074 can you clarify?

I always thought that therapy are for weaklings and idiots this guy and this video was the perfect sign that i was always right omg so good to have your beliefs proven right just in front of you

@@rafaellima381 There’s a popular saying, “You always hate what you recognize & dislike about yourself”; far be it to me to try stopping you from going with that instinct, especially in this case, but.. You shouldn’t be so hard on yourself. It’s not your fault

That's awesome. My moms a clinical psychologist. She'd love that

he picked that sweater cause it's the same color as his beard🤣

You could see Jonathan turn on his therapist speak when this happened. He closed his eyes and asked the question because at that moment Alan was trying to deflect by drinking some water. Making room to feel the grief and move past it is great therapy.

Little split-second therapy session right there. 😂

He cares so much he just couldn’t turn it off there. These two are great

I cried. I miss him too.

What a lousy thing to say, therapist!

What a horrible therapist. I don’t think anything needs to be said about your crying. Just to let it out and let it all come out without interruption till the person is done. Horrible to think a therapist would invalidate a person like that horrible shit

I wouldn’t consider that person a therapist after an experience like that, wow..

Those experience sounds horrible but also gives the feeling like maybe they wanted you guys to think past your tears. It’s not that crying is unacceptable, it’s that it’s also not the end of the conversation. People can get stuck at the crying part and not progress in processing their feelings. I’ve gone through so many therapist since my adolescence, unfortunately they’re not one size fits all like other doctors. Once my friend was describing how her therapist was really professional and almost cold, not complaining just noting it. I said that would be so uncomfortable for me, mine was really personable, kept very clear and professional boundaries, but was otherwise friendly in our sessions. My friend thought that would make her feel uncomfortable. There’s a lot of social and cultural nuance that sometimes gets overlooked when finding a therapist. I learned this the tedious way going through all those therapists.

@@dinkerz thinking past your tears I feel only occurs once the charge of the emotion has settled which only occurs after holding space + facilitating expression. There is no thinking after tears unless the tears are out plus the emotion is gone plus explored. I really believe a good therapist does not really need to tell much, they need to listen, the client can figure it out for themselves once they are treated right as they learn to advocate for themselves and hear their desires and deep responses to certain circumstances that no one else will be able to give advice to. A good therapist holds space thats it. Hold space, hold clear boundaries, keep it safe, teach self advocation by asking questions thts it there is no teaching or advice giving I feel maybe a little in the beginning if the client is unaware of certain terms or situations like what constitutes abuse or what fawning is or fight or flight but yeah thats my opinion on things I hope we all get therapists someday for free because we need a safe space to sit with ourselves free for exploration of our desiresd our true nature our passion our plreasure our psin our suffering our everything that crops up at any point always valid always legitimate always helpful to guide us where we need to be for our true desires plus needs to met .....

Hope you are ok :)

As someone who was abused and mistreated for so long growing up, same.

Sometimes you just feel it's because you were born. It goes so deep...

I have come to realise that it wasn't because I was bad.... I was actually a very very good child. It was because my parents were not good people. But when you are little and your physical and mental survival depends on these people who gave birth to you, it's just too horrifying to even dream that mom and dad are the bad ones.

It's thanks to Robin that I accept my flaws and NEVER STOP trying or doing! I will admit, the Genie is my absolute favorite role of his!!!! He may be physically gone, but his spirit will NEVER DIE!!!! #RobinWilliamslover4ever

Robin was absolutely amazing, I remember thinking “Who is this guy?” when I first saw him in Mrs Doubtfire when I was 10 absolutely splitting my sides with laughter. Good Will Hunting is truly one of his crowning achievements and it made me realise that despite how absolutely hilarious and talented he was with comedy he was even more talented with dramatic acting and that is what I believe was his true calling. I remember being shocked the day the news came out and my English teacher was absolutely devastated as well, given that he had shown Dead Poets Society many times in his classes when it was on the English Curriculum for many years. My Mum and Dad loved his films as well, and they loved him in this when I showed it to them for the first time a couple of weekends ago, my Mum said he really nailed the entire aspects of a practicing psychologist and how it’s about building a fruitful relationship based upon trust and also giving the client strategies to improve themselves and their mental wellbeing. God Bless Robin what a beautiful man he was! ❤

Its a weird thing, but sometimes thinking of it as my fault gives me a (false)sense of control. If it was my fault I could've done the right thing and it wouldn't have happened. Truly knowing I had absolutely no control over the situation is sometimes scarier. Logically? I was 3, I weighed maybe 35 pounds total. Nothing I did was going to change what was happening.

@@C-SD I'm sorry

@@C-SD I totally get what you're saying about taking control. Those parts of my life (at 5years old) I remember so clearly and I tell myself it happened because I wanted attention, but really I was just playing a game that was suggested to me by someone that clearly knew what they were doing to me at that time. At 13years old I thought I made it up (again to get attention) cause no one talked about it ever again since it came out. And now at 21 I don't have a clue of how to deal with people, especially men, and think my only purpose is to keep their attention on me by doing whatever they want or keep it down low to get minimal attention. What I actually wanted to say though is, I will cry uncontrollably at the "it's not your fault"-scene whenever I watch the movie

CSA survivor here. I went to CBTherapy and it really helped me get through a lot of stuff. I also had EMDR therapy which was good. I'm too far gone and that is not me making a negative self fulfilling prophecy - I will always have PTSD from childhood trauma and some things that seem totally unrelated will trigger. The trick is not being stuck there. I have the tools to cope and take mental health days to check in with myself, reflect, how am I feeling and it's ok to cry FGS man or woman, child or adult. I Just did it with Alan there when he said how much he missed Robin Williams. I felt that, because I feel the same way. I'm hurt because someone who gave me so much joy in my life growing up and watching the screen, died by suicide - it just really hit me. We lost a legend. I manage to revisit to reach into the depths of my soul, to comfort my inner child as she is in pain all the time and it does take many visits and re-visits. What keeps me on my toes with it is fighting to get it (CSA) or any child abus3 (is that word zukked?) stopped. That I could be another child's hero to prevent it from happening in the first place and secondly, if it does happen, the proper steps are taken to ensure a) it does not happen again, b) that you get justice for such a horrific crime perpetrated onto you and c) that you get therapy early enough so you can heal the developing brain rather than the developed brain. In my case, CSA was covered up. It was silenced - so not allowed to talk about, not allowed to take it to the authorities - nothing and I was also told by that cult I was raised in to stop going to my therapist because she would turn me away from God (what they really meant was they would lose a recruit). That is one of the things I and many others have been fighting to get changed. To ensure that any abus3 is reported to the authorities. Also we don't want pity because pity brings shame to it and it makes us feel less than. What we need is congruence, understanding and love without conditions attached. To all fellow survivors. We're strong, we're brave and one thing that helps me get through on a daily basis is this "They failed to break me" .

It's so hard to overcome helplessness. To really empower yourself with self esteem and physical strength. I really look foreward to future me defending herself in any situation by all means necessary. I made a long way and I hope to keep progressing. I hope you too and everyone else.

That's really sweet. Good on you, my guy ^^

That's an amazing story. These women saw your value and proved it through tremendous effort and support. My wish for you is that you truly feel your own value now or soon. Best wishes, sincerely.

@@pamelahofman1785 Thank you for your thoughts, I truly appreciate them! I have been thinking about your comment all day trying to decide if I find value in myself… and it’s not that I don’t, it’s that I don’t think like that. I’m one of the old breed of men that truly believes that as a man my primary function is to protect and provide. If I’m not meeting those two ends, then no, I have no value. Over the past few months I’ve been enduring a shoulder injury that is at time rather painful. Despite the discomfort however, my wife still EXPECTS me to act like a man; load the luggage into the car, fix the door, change the tire, etc. It isn’t that she’s demanding, I KNOW that if I said I couldn’t, or that it hurt too much she’d absolutely do whatever needed to be done to get the task taken care of for me. But she knows me well enough to know that I NEED that expectation from her to give me value, so she never preempts me by saying “don’t do that, you will hurt yourself.” My value is reflected in being that man she wants/needs/expects me to be, when she appreciates the work I do. I am happiest with myself when she tells me “You worked really hard today, let me rub your shoulder.”

I’m a little high man but man was this sweet as f*ck. God bless

How wonderful to read this David. Some love coming to you from this random stranger. Thank you!

Just the opening of this video when he said it and Matt Damon shrugs it off with an "I know!"... instant tears. I've had the same conversation in years past with my therapist regarding my own abuse (from multiple adults in my family), molestation, and trauma. I even had that same conversation with my inner child last week.

It makes me cry everytime because I was mentally/emotionally abused my whole childhood by the one person who should have loved me most, the one who gave me life, brought me into this world. There are days when I very much wish she had just gotten an abortion so I wouldn't have to exist in this world I never asked to be in. This is my biggest reason I fully support abortion, because I should have been aborted. She shouldn't not have had children.

@@wendy645 I wish you happy healing.

I cry every time. Every. Time. And you know what? I can barely cry about my own life. I go thru all kinds of pain & cannot shed a tear. But this scene...I guess all the unshed tears come out then.

Sobbing right now

It's not so slight, it's a tremor!

Is your name Hunting?

@@traviscalvert8498 Yes.

I still cry when I see that scene. I can feel Will's shame and pain 😞

Me too....

Yeah lol, I knew a girl that was balling her heart out and I just jumped to saying it's not your fault a bunch of times. I prayed she hadn't watched the film.

@@rolandmata6395 and I pray that worked😂

My art teacher Good Will Hunted me and I reacted just like he did. I didn’t realize till a year later she Will Hunted me lmao. It helped me recognize that I needed help tho.

That's awesome! Thanks so much for sharing!

I cry just from thinking about thinking about it.

I had to turn my pillow over and I ended up crying on both sides.

I saw that seen and since I haven't seen good will hunting.. I was crying gasping for air like 2 mins straight

I did that a lot in therapy 😂 it’s so much easier to talk about anything else

Oh that was me. It's scary to speak some things to life.

You kinda get it though. They don't want to face laying something bare before you and having it examined. If they say it on the way out, it gives them a chance to come to terms with you knowing and come to the next session with it established already.

I am totally guilty of doing that. it just takes me about an hour to warm up. if we had two consecutive hours, that's a different story

@@Firsona This is how I came out to my parents. I was heading out the door to go to the mall with my friends, said "BTW IM TRANS" and then left for SIX HOURS

We're looking for movies that we can talk about (other than Rain Man, which is... Problematic.)

@@CinemaTherapyShow yeah it’s a problem when most blockbuster movies rarely show people on the spectrum. There’s a list of movies that feature autism, but most of them are movies that go under the radar. Even then, a lot of them show the low-functioning end of the spectrum. If we’re going with popular movies, then Rain Man would be best.

@@CinemaTherapyShow Temple Grandin is one I remember seeing in high school, it's a biopic based on a female scientist that is on the spectrum

@@ultraviolet119 Yeah, Temple Grandin is great! Based on a true story, her autism isn't portrayed as a strange superpower (the way most movies portray people on the spectrum) but as something that allows her to see the world in a way that is unique and needed in the world. However, it is very honest in talking about the struggle that people with autism face. As a non-autistic person, my first watch of this movie helped me better understand the struggles autistic people experience with issues like sensory overload. It also does a good job depicting the struggle that those who love an autistic person (Temple's mom) face as they try to help them without invading their personal space or comfort zone. I think it is a good movie option, but I am just speaking from personal experience.

@@CinemaTherapyShow Fantastic beasts and where to find them could be an interesting choice as well for this! Newt's character arc is fascinating and it portrays someone who's socially challenged without succumbing to stereotypes (in my opinion at least). Btw, can also highly recommend the youtuber 'Pop Culture Detective' and his take on Newt.

I started crying because this is me everyday because of anxiety and it's really freaking hard sometimes. 💔

So true! For me, with an anxiety disorder that went of the rails(got worse to the point I almost couldn't work because of OCD) therapy saved me, got my life back because they taught me skills to deal with it. Wishing you the best and I hope therapy can do the same for you ❤️

i knew this was true, but i never had an explanation for why it was so bad for me until i was diagnosed with ocd. diagnosis and treatment changed my life

@@mayochupenjoyer so happy for you!

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yeah, the camera”man” on this extremely professional set, shook the camera?!

I had that same experience but as an adult. Felt like she was asking the wrong questions too. Felt like talking to a brick wall

Gosh that was relatable. How are you doing now?

@@kuroinokitsune I'm seeing another therapist that is a much better fit for me

@wolfchild yes, I did switch to someone else

@@SapphireSeahorse494 that's awesome:)

can I send you ding dongs?

I never noticed this and it's stunning. Absolutely beautiful. Thank you.

Great catch! I never would've caught on

I just thought the bo-peep line was William’s improv to the character’s sheep wish

@@tacticallemon7518 could've been that too... Robin Williams' improv was kind of genius in that way.

There’s something about how the cameraman was laughing too and that’s why the camera gets shaky

And you tend to be more introspective. Making it even harder to know when you are lying to yourself.

aw that’s just Resistance talking. If you feel safe and can relax into the invitation and/or even share that you’re *not* relaxing into it, a lot of amazing moments can happen. Is it a trick if it’s effective?? Resistance has a few tricks itself and telling us the invitation from therapist won’t work b/c we know what’s up is one of them. Brains can be silly things… mine can be anyway. Thinks it’s helping me when instead it’s locking me in a box.

your comment made me cry but in a good way. I haven't really watched the video yet...

I feel this an awful lot... No matter how good I am at something, I still feel like I'm not enough. I feel like I need to earn my place in this world and I am failing that. I even KNOW all of this, but as they said in the video, knowing and feeling are not the same thing... I've had therapy for a while and I've learned a lot about how to deal with my pitfalls... I still have NO IDEA why I even started to think and act like this. I know of no trauma in my past, I've had a bit of trouble in school with schoolmates but I always got by well enough and I always had very good grades. Even after school I never just dropped everything, I studied for a while, I took job training, I worked and now I am 25 and none the wiser, still feeling as lost as I did as a 14 year old... I just want to understand... Sorry for the long text. I felt like sharing, as you did and I want to thank you for writing down a bit of your story. I hope you can learn to heal and live a good life.

@@Srynan you don't have to "earn" the right to therapy by consciously remembering bad situations and traumatic events. Therapy is great if you find the right one. My first therapist was wonderful when I needed to language my trauma in an intellectual framework. I'm still looking for a therapist who can help me with that second stubborn monkey mind piece that totally operates subconsciously out of fear. Good luck to you.

@@Srynan ah, lol, went back and read your comment again, and you've had therapy, sorry for my "holding forth" on going to therapy.

@@Srynan I know where my feeling of not good enough came from... it is a result of a complicated interplay between culture, physical disability and my parents reaction to the 2. For the longest time, I'd avoid the words trauma and abuse when describing my childhood... even now, those words somehow feel wrong... but my old therapist (I moved away)

I thought that moment was really cool too, glad someone else caught that. You can tell from that Jono is legit

I just love it when a comment like this expresses EXACTLY what you felt/feel/thought

Thank you

Stallone did write other things but he hates writing

They functionally brought me to the best place I could possibly be at and even taught me how to maintain it. These videos are invaluable

and now, via Zoom... nada.

For me it's not even touch. If someone even acknowledges that I'm upset instead of ignoring it, I can't control my body and I just breakdown immediately 🙃

What helps in a situation like that?

Wow, I thought I was the only one. I fight hard to maintain my composure and the instant someone acknowledges that something's wrong and sounds concerned or empathetic or they hug me I lose it and then I get angry really quickly about it lol

@@breezy3392 Im just always hyper aware of my emotional status. I’m trying to acknowledge and own what I’m feeling more around those I trust. I never use to acknowledge what I was feeling and it would blow up on me. The more i acknowledge my feelings when they’re happening the less it blows up in my face. I use to think I was just emotional,unreasonable or needy and by acknowledging it I thought that made me less of a person. I know better know, but it’s taken years.

We all could Andrew. We all could. Let’s do the work!

Wishing you the best. I can tell you from personal experience that it’s difficult. I’m exhausted from most sessions. But I do see the progress. A couple things I personally have to remember: 1) I don’t need perfection to make progress 2) Slow progress is infinitely better than no progress. Hope you find someone you can connect with and trust.

I hope you find someone to work with soon. ❤ Takes time, but it can get better.

Update guys: I found a therapist to work with, it took me a LOT of sessions to feel comfortable enough to fully open up without 'deflecting with humour' and finally get serious, we're going through my repressed memories from childhood which is actually quite enlightening. I only really remember snippets from my childhood, small flashes of memory. We're currently going through some of the abuses I suffered as a child, it's painful, it's terrifying but we gotta push through the pain, take each hit as it comes and maybe stop making light of my own situation. On a more positive note, it really is helping a LOT, I thought I was okay before but maybe I just got used to being so bad for so long. More importantly, just do the work and, Watch movies!

I wish you luck sir. Immerse yourself in it and be ok to say if you don't feel the person your working with is right. I feel that, that is something I run into a lot where people force themselves to stay working with a therapist despite not feeling its the right fit. Its Ok to feel that, point that out, and if needed find a different therapist. :)

Going off of that, Will might have been testing him without thinking to. He prodded expecting nothing, but finally got what he wanted

Personally I don’t appreciate someone assuming I’d help them in fight, particularly if THEY were being the stupid one. Now if they were just jumped, obviously I would and should help, but basically don’t expect me to help you if you walked into it.

I thought it was effective because it was two tough guys from Southie communicating in a common and familiar "language." Will was a physical fighter (that's why he was on probation) and Sean probably was, too, out of necessity. This was how they both grew up. Sean knowing Will can push his buttons and Will knowing Sean isn't going to stand for that kind of bullshit helped, in a perverse way, to build trust-a worthy opponent commands respect. Finally, the fact that Sean stayed in "the fight" to continue the therapy further proved to Will that this was someone to be reckoned with, unlike the other therapists who quit when the going got tough.

thanks for bringing this up. and it’s totally true, so much depends on the director. in a stage play, the stage manager is also a basic part of the glue that holds things together. i had this job a bit off off off, and have been told it was good to have me there to be depended on. (others a film totally depends in different ways are - cinematographer, editors, etc.)

Right? It's like you suddenly realize the other side of the coin of intellectualization (not feeling your feels) is this awesome ability to stop you spiraling and, if in a fight, become patient and calm while someone is loosing their shit, as if you had studied for years conflict resolution and de-escalation tactics.

"Not only did it allow me to grieve for the childhood I was never able to have" Why was this helpful?

@@jliller “Necessity is the mother of all invention.”. Don’t tell me you haven’t heard this or discovered it to be strictly accurate. Are the logical leaps from that self-explanatory; or are you really asking for his personal experience with coming to terms with getting dealt a bad hand & making-do with it? Because everyone’s got stories. Even the folk who’s forks started out being made of pure platinum. I bet you did to, even if it were something as “simple” as having to share a bathroom with a sibling growing up. Even if that was the biggest hardship in anyone’s life, that’s their hardship. The actual what-&-why of it rarely matters, for the most part. Me? There’s a reason I call myself “madman”; not a happy tale, but I leaned from the experiences. Could say more, I guess… But how is that going to help? Is this some sort of competition that no one really wants to win anyway?? Or are you legitimately looking for someone to help teach you how to utilize the past into something useful? Truth is like this; stuff happens, you deal or you learn to cope; worse case scenario, it’s simply limping by with bad coping skills. Or, like Robin showed us, you don’t. When told to choose between bad options, “None of the Above” is always a choice still. There’s usually better options, sometimes there’s not; no matter which way you go, make the best choice for you either way.

This is me too!!!!

@@locomadman The definition of hardship is "severe suffering or privation." If your worst hardship was not actually a hardship yet it still gets you down you don't need to grieve, you need a proverbial slap in the face. You put in a lot of effort to answer my questions, but you didn't really answer my question. Let me rephrase/expand it. There are a lot of ways you can lose your childhood. A variety of turmoil and instability - including but not limited to broken homes, parents with substance abuse issues, and crushing poverty. Abuse. Disabilities and chronic health issues. Developmental issues. I'm not asking to compare scars. Grieving can be a useful process because at the end you're emotionally prepared to move on. Your dog died, but you can get another dog. Your spouse left you or died, but you can start dating again. Your parent died, but you have other family and loved ones in your life. But that doesn't seem relevant for a lost childhood. You can never get those years back. You might find parental figures, a family, stability, trust. But you can never replace what you lost. The experiences, the development, the childhood friends and memories can't be replaced. There is no do-over. And you will probably have to live the rest of your life with some idea of what you missed because you will meet lots of people who had all those normal things you didn't.

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I totally relate. That scene is so powerful and healing. Someone has heard him, me. Validated at last!

I literally fast forwarded to the “it’s not your fault” part to see if they react the way I do every time I watch that part. My father too was verbally and emotionally abusive but luckily he was no where near as bad as his multiple step dads were to him. He was a saint to not allow himself to delve out his past horrors onto me and my brother the way it was done to him. He ended up killing himself when I was 11. It took a long time for me to accept that none of that was my fault…

I feel you, wolfie.

I can relate. Now as an adult I am moving forward. I still can be trigger but I am more prepared.