Coming Out
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12 жыл бұрынFor a video update of what happened after go here: • A Summer of Being Out:...
I love you guys. I just thought you should know. I wanted it to be and feel natural so I didn't do any editing except for adding something in at the end.
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@MrIvorfan 9 жыл бұрын
I so admire this young man’s courage. To my mind, one’s sexual orientation is similar to being right- or left-handed. Irrational homophobia causes so much psychological suffering and pain (as in Jacob’s case). This young man is NOT one of the world’s problems, but homophobia IS. On the EVIDENCE of the science of the matter, Jacob can no more change his sexual orientation than any of us can change the colour of our skins. With this I send a special comforting hug for you, Jacob.
@michelinearthebise2783 4 жыл бұрын
Bravo! Well said I agree 100%.
@SteveFarmerMusic 11 ай бұрын
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@marktaylor6581 2 ай бұрын
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@VicuSan 2 ай бұрын
❤👏👏👌
@frailjar7 9 жыл бұрын
I feel like I'm seeing myself in the mirror. I'm 31. I have not come out yet to my family. But I have come out to my closest friends. I loved hearing this, Jacob!
@brainstorm558 10 жыл бұрын
this guy is so cute. is it possible not to love him ???
@mikedennington8856 10 жыл бұрын
ur right.
@vallflorea2476 9 жыл бұрын
his honesty makes him so adorable
@Dako108 4 жыл бұрын
But can he love himself after all the negative Christian indoctrination? Christianity is so removed from what Christ intended. So mean and narrow and heartless and just plain Godless.
@josephadiaz8343 2 жыл бұрын
♥️✌️😎🙏
@KinLungh 9 жыл бұрын
you are such a brave person! "I won't be silent any longer" -- words for the day
@redhood8141 4 жыл бұрын
Great words to live by
@donaldjohnson491 8 жыл бұрын
JACOB -- Simple, quietly eloquent, direct, honest, and very moving. Good for you. I am a 70-year-old American now living in Great Britain. And yes, I love you back. -- Donald in Cardiff
@davidolien2828 6 жыл бұрын
You are an amazing human being. You have every right to be proud of who you are. The world is a better place because of your sincerity, your courage, your humanity . You are a gift to mankind.
@KSai207 9 жыл бұрын
Nice job... UBU I just came out at 48 this past February. *hugs*
@GlynRobinson 5 жыл бұрын
Kevin N. Saisi I’m 49 now and still can’t.
@redhood8141 4 жыл бұрын
Well, no Matter what age you guys are, just know that you are awesome and loved
@josephblake1746 4 жыл бұрын
Your kindness, honesty, and peace of mind will definitely inspire others. Loving one self is not always easy. You are a testament to goodness. You are REAL.
@redhood8141 4 жыл бұрын
@@josephblake1746 Well you are amazing yourself, hope you are doing well 😄
@josephblake1746 4 жыл бұрын
@@redhood8141 Thank you sir. I am well. One day at a time. I understand this fine young man and feel for him. He is handsome yes, outside. His heart yearns for so much more. My tears flow for him and now for you. We care, we try so hard, we give. We receive. Oh so much do we receive. Thank yoi.
@Tave100 10 жыл бұрын
Jacob, You brought tears to my eyes. You are such a beautiful person outside, but most of all INSIDE. I hope you have people in real life you can talk to and celebrate who you are. All the best!!
@1616admiral 10 жыл бұрын
I know your video is over a year old but I just saw it for the first time. I have so much respect and adoration for you that I'm not sure I can even put it into words. Thank you so much for sharing your story and such a pivotal moment in your life. This was so powerful I felt like you were talking directly to me. And all of the positive comments after just made this whole experience worth while. You truly made my night. God Bless and best of luck!!
@garysdeskcom 10 жыл бұрын
You come across as a very sensitive person. I do not see how anybody could hate you for not being straight. My hope is that, in time, you will come to really love your sexuality and yourself. Big virtual hug.
@fneigh5 10 жыл бұрын
This video sends out a message that is immortal, about love, about people and about acceptance. This video is a representation of everything I have hope for in this world. Thank you Jacob you are amazing. We love you.
@bonuccicris 8 жыл бұрын
Of course I love you back! It couldn't be otherwise. Wearing your heart on your sleeve like you did on this video almost made me stretch my arms towards the monitor, wanting to hug you. I don't know if you're in a relationship at the moment, but if you are, he's the most fortunate guy on the planet.
@markm6488 10 жыл бұрын
I am 50yrs old now, and I come from the same background, so I can see just where you are are coming from. It makes me happy to see young people like you who have escaped from that prison, and have done it while they are still young. god bless you. ( the real God, not the one in peoples religion, the one that said love one another, as I have loved you.) mark
@KhenpoGurudasSunyatananda 10 жыл бұрын
I am sure that your courage and your honesty will bring comfort and courage to many other young people. Thank you for this. You did an incredible and articulate job of being who you are. Anyone who fails to love that was never worth your love to begin with.
@bhmbos 10 жыл бұрын
Jacob, the world is blessed with a honest person like you! I send you lots of love.
@bradleyhays4218 6 жыл бұрын
You have just spoken the words that have been going thru my head for so long. You are a beautiful person!!
@leotred 9 жыл бұрын
Love from Holland! I am impressed by the way you express yourself, choosing and tasting your words as you move through your story. Beautiful. I wish you a fearless life!
@dab7963 8 жыл бұрын
You are beautiful. So glad you came out.
@joelwatson5813 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing with us. You are amazing and have such integrity. Your strength and all the positive comments are so encouraging. You did great. You keep being you and keep being honest with yourself.
@Nomade857 9 жыл бұрын
You have a friend in me. I know how this feels as have been there myself. Be proud of yourself !!
@midashy97213 Жыл бұрын
I loved this video so much Jacob and I love you for making it to help others. In fact a week or so after watching it I came out on social media, first day of June, Pride month. I am 56 years old and knew I was Gay at 15 but due to some traumatic events in High School I stayed in the closet for 35 years. Came out to family at 50 and my best friend from HS at 55 and now everyone else at 56. Best thing I ever did. A huge weight lifted off my shoulders, finally being me for the first time in my life, out and proud.
@4773266 8 жыл бұрын
Dear Jacob, The most sincere, well spoken, and articulate “Coming Out” confessional I do believe I’ve heard from someone so young but at the same time mature and self confident. "Good on you” Jacob! I wish you love, fun, and happiness. Yours, Malcolm McKay, Nassau, The Bahamas
@redhood8141 4 жыл бұрын
I couldn't agree more. This was a great Comment
@calebjackson789 11 жыл бұрын
I have watched many coming out videos, but yours touched me the most out of them all. Even as an out guy, this video made me cry. You put so much emotion in this video. Thank you for posting it, not for me, but for others who haven't found the strength yet.
@weda0604 9 жыл бұрын
The biggest problem is we've been told for our entire lives by the majority of society that we are wrong or improper. It's what makes it hard or awkward to say "I'm gay" even to ourselves. Time makes it easier to say that and be our true selves. It's truly amazing how many people really don't care, when you think about it. Maybe that was just my experience but I never would have imagined that of everyone I've told (many people), not one has been unkind or taken a distaste to my presence. I'm glad you're able to be out and true to yourself!
@cardoman87 11 жыл бұрын
Wow! I felt goosebumps!!! The way you speak to the camera and the way you show your feelings really got me. I could feel your despair and your need to show the world who you are without hiding and without faking... Seeing you like that makes me want to hug you, to show you there are people that can accept *you*, however you are. You seem like a sensitive, beautiful human being and i'm sure someday you'll find the man of your dreams. Greetings from Argentina!
@vladimirradisic 9 жыл бұрын
Wonderful and genuine human being: I love you.
@TnDon 7 жыл бұрын
This is a powerful statement delivered in a most effective way, young man. All stories of this genre should be presented this way. I'm now subscribed and will binge on all your videos until I know your whole story. Hope you're well and leading a fulfilling life in the intervening years. Don Hern from East TN.
@jasonwright8324 10 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your coming out experience. It was honest and from the heart and it took a great deal of courage. I hope you have been able to find peace and comfort within yourself and with those who are important to you.
@alpinu 10 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot for this video and your honesty and courage. Big respect. It is impossible not to love you. Best wishes!
@JChrisTurner1234 3 жыл бұрын
I am just now finding and watching this video some 9 years after you made it. I hope you have prospered and done well since. You really touched my heart and it reminded me of how hard it was for me when I was growing up in a small town and school.
@MEVMontana 4 жыл бұрын
Jesus Jacob! It’s 2020 now but your video is still fresh and encouraging. I admire the straightforwardness of your thoughts and speech. It really would have made a difference for me if I had run into videos like yours earlier. I think your genuine honesty will make a difference for me. So thanks a lot and good wishes to you. Martin
@PsychoJerk810 11 жыл бұрын
I really admire your strength and bravery. I seriously almost cried, out of happiness than you could accept yourself and out of sadness that we in some people eyes will longer be looked on as human. But times flows on and the sands are changing, which makes be hope for a better future. Thank you for your story.
@OneFortified 12 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this! I related a lot to your story in many ways, fighting an internal battle and coming to the conclusion that it's not something that I can change. I came out recently and I have found that is getting better. Being open and honest about who you are is one of the best feelings.
@edwelty 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. How are you now? Hugs from Colorado.
@basil1906 11 жыл бұрын
i know how you feel. i had my coming out with 28. only a few month ago. its so hard at the beginning and it gets easier. im still working with it and beeing proud of myself. its so amazing beeing able to stop hating yourself, for something you cannot change.
@rollydoucet8909 4 жыл бұрын
I just found your video today, nearly eight years after you made it. I trust by now, that your well past the uncertainties and enjoying a productive, rewarding life. I also hope you're in company of good friends, and still close to your family.
@joechesal4062 5 жыл бұрын
Good for you, Jacob ! Congratulations on your coming out story, and your very personal story you shared so openly and beautifully. You are now free, and owe no explanations to anyone. You are who you are and you are loved. If there are haters, they are the losers for not getting to know you and love you as you are. You are courageous, very sweet, honest, handsome, and very lovable, and I hope you have a fantastic life just being YOU ! Yay, Jacob ! !
@JasonOnEarth 9 жыл бұрын
This is awesome! I felt the exact same way. You are definitely accepted. Look around and see people's attitudes are changing for the better. May you be happy, Jacob. :-)
@stdbiu26 9 жыл бұрын
i just watched your coming out video and it seemed very emotional for you, you will feel much better with yourself for your honesty and will help others as well you are a beautiful young man and i hope you get all you want in life thanks kerovac xxx
@jeroengortworst9994 9 жыл бұрын
Thanks so much, I think your story is very inspiring. I subscribed! I realized when I made my own coming out video, I should be so lucky to have so many supportive people around me. I wish you all the best!
@frcgfd107 6 жыл бұрын
I love the color of your shirt, it suits you perfectly! Jacob, you are a beautiful person and I hope you found the right person to love you for who you are and not condemn you or judge you.
@JasonOnEarth 11 жыл бұрын
This is a lot how I used to feel about myself. Great coming out story, Jacob. Thanks for sharing a part of yourself and you help encourage others to be genuine with themselves and others as well. It feels good to be who you were born to be. Peace and take care.
@okroy1 11 жыл бұрын
Congrats, I hope you have the happiest life you can have. I was the same age when I came out and haven't regretted one minute. It made me feel alot better about myself and happier about who I am.
@jamesrobiscoe1174 4 жыл бұрын
Jacob -- You just now (2020) appeared on my screen and your face led me to listen to your story. Your voice was so tired fading, I'm sure you had comments and outreaches that could pull you up and set you on your feet again. I'd like to imagine you found a love and life since this video. I get a heartglow every time I hear a brother got through a period of emptiness. Love and light to you! -- New York James
@johndorman8743 6 жыл бұрын
Jacob - I stumbled across this video when I was watching some other videos tonight. I am so glad to see you at an earlier time in your life as it gives me a glimpse into how you have become the extraordinary man that I know today. I am so glad that I know you and that I call you my friend, you dear, sweet man.
@joshuameach3227 10 жыл бұрын
Amazing story of you Jacob… your story really touch my heart. my tears drop because of the emotion of you that express that you want every one to accept who you are. you're wonderful person, smart, and beautiful human. Much love.
@delightglow 11 жыл бұрын
What a beautiful heartfelt message. I admire you so much for being brave and accepting who you are. I'm sure you will find so many who admire and love you. Have a great life and be proud of being honest and liking yourself.
@mike35273527 4 жыл бұрын
Such a great guy. Thank you for sharing to help others. You are going to have an amazing life.
@zaktalentedandbravesaab9028 2 жыл бұрын
I keep watching ur video over and over and over i feel ur pain as u spoke i saw the fear but most of all u were brave my man u have a brifht future ahead of u enjoy it and eye love you with all mh being god bless u my son 💖
@pump066 11 жыл бұрын
Very moving video Jacob, I hope everything's well with you and the people you love can love you back! We've all gone through the same thing and even you will see it gets better.All the best and lots of love from Sweden!
@indiangiverxoxo 11 жыл бұрын
Jacob, you are a very brave, loving, strong, and caring person. I absolutely understand your terror in not being able to get "that" feeling to go away. I am NOT out and hate myself every single day because I cannot defeat this feeling. I have thought of suicide, but rejected that idea as weak. But, I am so happy that you are free and able to release a pressure that confined your heart for so many years. When I am brave enough, when I can love myself ... I, too, will be as brave as you. God Bless
@mattthompson1659 11 жыл бұрын
Thank you soooo much for sharing the beautiful person that you are with us. I applaud your bravery and will support you if no one else does. We are people and deserve love and respect. You have both from me. Congratulations and Good Luck!
@ThinkItBig 11 жыл бұрын
Jacob!!!! I'm so proud of you and I'm so glad everything is going well. This video brought tears to my eyes. I can just see how honest and genuine you are. I just wanted to give you a big fat hug! I wish you all the best and many great years ahead. Lots of Love from Atlanta, Wes
@BENITOHERNANDEZ75 11 жыл бұрын
Great job in sharing your story. I watched it all because it felt very genuine and honest,open. I'm sure you feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. I'm sure you'll inspire and give strength to other. Your a good looking guy and I think people will love you and will find you have more friends. Chin up and keep sharing you experiences, good or bad.
@MrBradGangnon 7 жыл бұрын
Happy National Coming Out Day 2016! I shared the story again this morning. :)
@brianharvey6566 6 жыл бұрын
I'M APPROACHING, THE BIG - 50 - Next Year and am Just Now Learning To Face this REALISATION, Myself :) You're So Brave Jake' & This Ole'Guy Sallutes You, for having the courage to Stand UP and be True to WHO You REALLY ARE *****
@MIOB24 12 жыл бұрын
I feel so identified with this video. I'm pretty much going through the same at the moment and all the same thoughts you just expressed have gone through me as well. Thank you :)
@TonyGarciaamg 11 жыл бұрын
Just discovered your video and I love you and accept you. I went through what you went through a long time ago. You made a decisive choice to be who you are and love who you are. You will experience acceptance and some rejection - but from all you've said, I believe you can deal with all of it and remember those friends who reject you - were anot true friends. Your true friends will remain friends because of who you are not what you are. Be proud of yourself-you're brave to own your life.
@HPfan18 10 жыл бұрын
You deserve all the love in the world from the people in your life. When I think about living my life, I think about it like you do, living everyday and treating everyone with love and compassion. We all deserve the same love and compassion. Measure your life in love!
@pauljohnson8534 11 жыл бұрын
One of the most moving and heartfelt coming out stories I have seen on KZfaq.
@jwb9020 11 жыл бұрын
Way to go! I waited until I was 41 to come out. Even got married and had 2 kids thinking it would just go away. Your story touched my heart as it sounded just like mine during my early and teen years. You have to feel like a huge weight has been lifted from your shoulders.
@kevinb.jacksonsr.6066 4 жыл бұрын
You are a very inspiring young man continue to live the life the best that you can and make yourself happy at all the times. Always continue to motivate and love yourself when I suppose come your way as it pertains to this lifestyle hold your head up high be proud and know that you are loved by yourself
@bbj2captain 11 жыл бұрын
So many people identify with your story, including myself. Everything you said is exactly what others and myself feel before coming out. It's a great feeling finally being able to fit into your own skin! I hope I am as articulate when I come out to my parents.
@ndjoneill 11 жыл бұрын
BRAVO! This is actually the first video of yours that I've seen, and I was amazed at how well spoken and strong you are. I certainly wasn't as brave when I first came out! Everything you said is truly inspiring and struck a chord deep down inside with me and with I'm sure many others. Now I'm going to watch your other videos :-) Brilliant job!
@serhankara8163 10 жыл бұрын
What an amazing answer. I am lost in my thoughts. Thank you both
@jigajigajumba 12 жыл бұрын
Stay strong! You're strong and brave! :) Watching this video made me tear up. I understand what you're feeling. It takes courage and true self respect and loving to be able to do what you just did ^^ Love
@kontact666 11 жыл бұрын
You're the brightest person ever. You're sweet, kind, gentle. I really admire you. What a beautiful human being you are! You're worthy of best things. And I'm thankful for your coming out.
@garygreely7782 5 жыл бұрын
Much, Much love sent to you. You be your authentic self, and love yourself. Coming out is never easy as some may think, but you did it publically and you can be proud of yourself.
@jeffc3339 10 жыл бұрын
You are such a wise man. Your story is so touching. Only good things can happen now you accept yourself.
@kalilnegron5185 11 жыл бұрын
Very proud of you for coming out. Came out recently as well. Navy here, in VA Beach. Where are you stationed?
@dougtaua 11 жыл бұрын
"…being gay make me, ME" I love that quote of yours. Sooo dope!
@montemendoza 11 жыл бұрын
I am so glad that you made it through the many trials you have faced in life. May God always watch over you and keep you safe. I wish I had seen your video when I was in eighth grade. To be historically accurate and honest: When I was in eighth grade, I wish I had read your story chiseled on a cave wall. It would have given me strength to get through the hard times, to love myself much more, and to face the velociraptors without screaming like a little girl.
@InSomeWaysYes 12 жыл бұрын
Good for you! It was a long journey for me accepting myself too, but am happier than ever for it. You should never be ashamed of who you are. Greetings from the UK.
@MichaelLee-bk2ii 10 жыл бұрын
heyyyyy,buddy..thx for speaking out ur true feeling to us..it's really difficult..actually i guess things in China are more easily to be accepted..but anyway, we can't make all the people love us, and i'm sure no one can be loved by all..so,just keep being urself with ur courage, honesty, kindness, let people know we are worth "LOVE"!!
@brianjoubert5241 11 жыл бұрын
Wow Jacob... I admire you for sharing. I hope that after doing what you have done, people will respect you and treasure you as you deserve. I have only recently been introduced to these feelings, at 18.... yes, I am a late bloomer but family issues over the years have blocked these thoughts out. Being my final year, it is stressful enough, as u may know. I am confused with these feelings. My question is, how did you come to terms with how you felt. with your feelings. Best of luck :)
@philip77006 11 жыл бұрын
Welcome Jacob! Thank you for your honesty. Your beautiful . And your message is compelling. Love ya!
@petervankeuren6644 7 ай бұрын
I am 81. I came out to my parents when I was 17. They were supportive. I am grateful. I wish you all the luck in the world.
@braggarmybrat 11 жыл бұрын
When I finally came out to my family and friends, I could finally start to live. No more secrets or lies. I hope you can feel the weight has lifted, now you will live for you and those you love. And to those who can't love you back, well, good riddance. Leave them behind and find joy. Blessings to you brother...
@thestral03 11 жыл бұрын
this is the first time ever i write a post on youtube...i didn't do it before cause every video i saw wasn't as worthy as yours...u really touched my heart...and made me cry...which is not a really simple thing to do...i really see a lot of myself in u and thank u for your amazing words...they are the perfect ones for someone who needs help and confort...i wish u the best in life and that you can find a guy that deserves u cause there are a few like u right now...
@cchsweatherman 10 жыл бұрын
You're truly an inspiration to many out there like myself who have gone through the struggle.
@samgsea 11 жыл бұрын
Reminds me of my first couple of coming out videos. It's so much better that your time to come out was 16 years earlier in life than mine. Awesome.
@MrONeil1981 11 жыл бұрын
It's very forthright video. Even more so, your inner conflict and somber conveyance of this message is truly palpable. Brutha, always live your best life.
@Megamike073 4 жыл бұрын
All the videos I've seem this last few day's all the guy's (generally from USA) are all adorable and hope they are having a wonderful life since uploading. X
@braceman89 11 жыл бұрын
Jacob, I seen a lot of "Coming out videos". Your coming out video is the best. You put a lot of thought what you was going to say in every word. That shows me you sincre what you said. No hating you. Yes love you back. Proud of you for coming out. Thank you for serving our country. We need more people like you. I wish you the best in your future.
@char652006 11 жыл бұрын
Wow, can feel all the emotions from you in your voice. You're a very nice looking guy that has nothing to be nervous about. You have a lot of people willing to support you. I hope other young people see this and learn something. We all find ourselves when we're meant too.
@edgarmayorga8419 3 жыл бұрын
This is just one of the many parts of him. Well done, I can sense your courage through the screen and an unstoppable force inside of you.
@loboboy5113 11 жыл бұрын
Great! You are amazing!!! It took me 24 years to come out, and it's true there are family, and friends who don't want you anymore, but most people do...I love you! Your message is great!!!
@esterhoff5308 11 жыл бұрын
This is one of the best videos I've seen. Thank you for making it. It inspires me
@pathfinderdoc 11 жыл бұрын
Jacob your a great guy and allways be yourself . This is the best comeing out story i have ever seen .Thank you jacob . all the best chris
@JacobThomasMPLS 11 жыл бұрын
That is awesome to hear! I am so glad you can be comfortable and love who you are. I do now too! It just took me a whole lot longer.
@zechr40 11 жыл бұрын
boy u literally almost made me cry.... i have been wanting to be true to my self for years and havent and im 19 already and im still in struggle just because of the hateful environment that im in ....but u stay strong and thanks for this vid it gave me a little bit of extra courage
@xelakram 3 жыл бұрын
I have great admiration for this young man. This video is from 2012, I notice. I do hope that he is well, enjoying life, and taking good care of himself. 👍
@Talismannuwe 10 жыл бұрын
this is very touching - me - you are a VERY strong person -- and for that millions are loving you !!
@joeythomas2743 11 жыл бұрын
What you are doing to help others on their journey is truly beautiful. I do not know you so this may hold no meaning, but i am truly proud of you. You have worn your heart on your sleeve and been truly vulnerable in order to make others live easier and that is something that I am sure will touch many. Your sexuality does not define you, but your actions do, Your actions show that you are a giving, selfless, and generous soul and I believe that you will reap the benefits of such. Mad respect bro!
@crossfire1605 11 жыл бұрын
Hi aftreffect. Thank you for your wonderful and genuine video! I can see that took a lot of courage and was from your beautiful heart. Everything you said was almost exactly what i'm going to be telling my parents next month. Like you i've struggled with it for a long time but i'm now happy with who i am. Hope to see more videos from you. :-)
@RushProbeSix 11 жыл бұрын
Much love here, bro. Kudos to you for all that you are.
@mikejrexec 11 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story. Very brave and deserving of so much love.
@gingerztube 10 жыл бұрын
You are so sweet and genuine, thanks for sharing your story.
@obrian2 11 жыл бұрын
this video is powerful... im so glad you finally were able to accept yourself. i went through all of those self hating thoughts and emotions also and i still have some lingering issues but for the most part i am comfortable
@davidwhitfield7864 11 жыл бұрын
This video was very touching indeed. Good on you for coming out and good luck with everything in the future.