That JRE clip is actually insane. Guest opens up about one of the most sensitive and personal things one can share and Joe gives his focus to the MMA clip in the background

Inauthenticity is the source of most problems socializing. People think people won’t like the real them, but unless you’re genuinely rude, people will appreciate what makes you unique.

"I want to see what you just said written on paper." I know that's not something you say to a person, but my goodness, I love that.

1. Bully banter 2. Mocking others' mistakes 3. Being a negative nancy 4. Disrespectful distractions 5. Repeatedly talking over someone 6. Inauthenticity

I learnt how annoying i can be to other people. I'll definitely correct my mistakes and be a better person. Thank you fornthis great video!!

I really admire how careful you are to judge a specific behavior as helpful or less helpful, while asserting a given person is more than a clip or a conversation. That really keeps it classy, and it's very kind and gracious.

"It's not who you are underneath, but what you do that defines you." That's the quote that went through my head as I watched this. Great episode!

I can't explain to you how much it hurts when ur trying to open up to someone and they keep getting distracted by something that just doesn't matter. And idk what's worse, if they do it on purpose or not.

"Snuck" has been a word for the better part of two centuries.

I think the power of not saying things is underrated, if you don’t put yourself up it allows others to do that in their own mind

Neil DeGrasse Tyson really was accurately represented in the short clip, he believes that he's smarter than he is and that it gives him the right to talk over and down to others.

I am autistic and it is incredibly difficult for me to gauge how to friendly tease someone without hurting them.

The negative Nancy tip is legit, and it applies as a general rule with social groups as well. You can absolutely vent to your social groups especially with good friends, but you shouldn’t dwell in that mindset for too long and especially let it become what you’re known for. I knew a guy in high school that always had this mindset, no matter what the situation was he was always unhappy about it, always complaining, and worst of all if he didn’t like something he would basically want everyone to feel the same way about it. Then he’d get upset and wonder why nobody invited him to things or wanted him around, and especially why he couldn’t get a girlfriend. People don’t want to be brought down, and even if they don’t dislike you as a person if they expect to feel that way around you they probably won’t be super anxious to have you along.

This is why I just love the Charisma on Command channel. Always dropping gold after gold. Amazing video. Powerful and useful lesson. God bless you.

What a great call out at 5:10 by Andrew Schulz regarding someone looking at their phone during a conversation: "What bothers you right now?" "Nothing. You looking at your phone while we're doing this interview. And everyone seeming disinterested." "What do you mean?" "'Me taking time out of my day to do this and then feeling like I'm forcing you guys to do the podcast."

I like how you fit a clip of rogan being on the other side for once. Showing even the best make mistakes

I do agree that you can interrupt people when they are talking. But some people don't let you talk ever, they want to talk alone. So if you want to talk you have to interrupt them!

I feel the phone one so hard. I used to DM for my group. 12 years, 8 of it before everyone had phones. Once phones became ubiquitous, I would get so frustrated. I would spend hours planning an adventure and in the middle of the climatic moment, half the table is looking at their phones.

cutting people off when they're talking is probably one of my worst habits. And it is so hard to get rid of because it is just spontaneous, I will usually cut someone and realize what I did a second after and get mad at myself.

Here I am learning about basic human etiquette as if I am an alien 👽

Neil deGras Tyson explained it perfectly the last time he was on the JRE. He figured out early in his career that he needs to talk in sound bites. He practiced and practiced. I think Now it’s hard for him to have an actual conversation. He’s to concerned about trying to blow peoples minds with little facts that he doesn’t listen to what the other person is saying.

When I hear someone talking bad about another person it instantly triggers something in me that makes me dislike you and feel something that I should be cautious around you” not trust you”.

To play devils advocate for talking over people, some people lack the ability to stop talking or they talk in circles, repeating themselves. Talking over people is rude, but sometimes people need to be cut off.

Very much on point. I notice a lot of these habits when I talk to people, and I find myself guilty of some of them on occasion. Insecurity is the source of many of these instances; not wanting to reveal who You truly are and how You truly feel.

That Neil Degrasse Tyson JRE Episode was honestly unlistenable to because of how much he interrupted.

People think if they look bad it’ll make people like them less when in reality if you show your mistakes and imperfections it makes you relatable as a human and shows you’re secure, realize you don’t need to worry as much about what other people think and if your friends make you feel bad when you make mistakes they’re most likely bad friends, it shows they don’t have your well being in mind. You can always choose your friends

I believe this is your best video to date. More straight forward thorough insight instead of anecdotal snippets to support the narrative. Five stars

My husband’s uncle (who I’m not close to) decided to get a laugh at my expense in a public setting. He called me fat and ugly at a lunch with MY neighbors. Side note: I bodybuild so not fat but rude anyways… Also pretended to not know my name and dismissively waved his hand calling me Rachel, Rosanna etc… This backfired spectacularly. I walked away from the interaction and his wife cried out in horror. My husband told him “you really effed up” and everyone else was generally disgusted and stunned. Not sure why some people think getting a laugh at someone else’s expense is a good thing. It just makes you look like a jerk.

So basically "Don't be a jerk" and make other people feel bad.... if only more people understood emotional intelligence 😊

These videos are excellent! Articulating intuitive hunches I always felt, but never was able to fully realize.

I’m an easy going person, but I want to be taken seriously when needed. There are other people that always seem quick to judge or are in a bad mood most of the time. I think it’s funny how people have to adjust the words we use to ask a question or make a statement just to be able to work with people that are hard headed. These people need to adjust how they actively listen to others. Eff them!

It's incredible that even really charismatic people can make such bad blunders in conversation, that can even go as far as alienating their conversation partner.

I appreciate that this was pointed out in 6:25. People tend to look at clips and shorts videos of something someone did wrong, and come to a conclusion where that's what they are. Not just celebrities deal with it, but people with a large following always deal with people like that.

These videos are so useful in helping me write characters!! Thanks

I was never a big fan of NGT, but after seeing him on JRE, I couldn't stand the guy. His ego is the size of Jupiter. 😅 Great episode. I've become really conscious about the phone cue and I've trying to distance myself from it more. A side note, if someone likes something that I don't and innocently brings it up, I'll sometimes jab at it with some levity, being receptive to how the other person seems to feel. I'll also often make it clear that it's fine to have varying opinions and I wouldn't be judging them for liking it. Finally, it's good to come up with something that you do admire or appreciate about that thing, too. That way you're not just leaving a subject with a disconnect from the other person, but you're actually connecting with them and possibly learning more about that thing as well as the person you're talking to.

I struggle with talking over people that one is my biggest down fall. I think i am talking then someone talks after then I remember something else related and i need to say it before i forget so i talk over someone.

Imagine Neil DeGrassi doing a talk on how to be charismatic. That’s be hilarious.

What are some challenges one should do and learn to drastically improve? A weak man is one mistake away from humiliation and disrespect. Minimize your weaknesses, Don't try to remember everything. Our brain is known to forget ideas. write things down, Keep track of your time-consuming habits and do more of what's working and less of what's wasting time, Whenever possible, respond to any challenge, whether you have the strength or not, with civility and gratitude, When it comes to emotional and mental well-being, never “settle”, The internet is a tool for learning and making your life better, not for arguing with strangers you'll never meet, You are most attractive when you don't show neediness, desperation, or a constant need for security. Be safe with yourself, Everything is 100 times easier when you have a clear vision of where to go, Learning a scalable skill that will increase your income over time is where the focus should be, Invest in a hobby outside of work that makes you happy, increases your mental clarity, and leads to a fulfilling life.

That Barbara clip on woopie totally floored me! Haha!

When people are nervous they make many of these blunders

Always great content ❤ NGL I kind of lived for that whoopie comment from Barbara 😂 the view bullies everyone so fair game😂

Very good advice. I'll be sure to keep it in mind

So true. One person who was always trying to show people could not understand why people didin't like them, their whole family was the same.

Always great content

I could see using bully banter to write characters who are pretending to like each other but who actually have issues with one another. Personally though, I don't think I would use phone addiction to show disinterest in a scene as it is overdone. The use of a distraction is great though. Your character is sharing something personal at a waffle house and their companion is trying one drop of each different syrup in each crispy chamber of their waffle. The character finished with some clever point and the companion looks like they are mulling it over only to push one particular syrup away from them in disgust. Honestly, I love bad behavior cues and what not to do videos like this because they are so useful in making dynamic and believable encounters.

These things should be taught in school. And I’m saying that as a schoolteacher.

In Rogan's defense, his podcasts with Niel are pretty much just Niel talking at and over Rogan.

This video is very underrated in my opion compared to the other videos you post. I sometimes feel I will get more value from a video that has a title along the lines of "things that deter your progress/cause you to lose value" rather than videos titled "how to be better/7 ways to make people like you more". It takes courage and a different mindset to really accept that you might have habits that can be fixed.

didn't expect this video to be this good. good job CoC.

Finally, a video I can relate to on this channel.

respect people's value, teasing at their strength not too much, and be authentic with taking care of characters you play.

Schulz was on point. But didnt need to go that hard. Being right is not the same as being kind.

I’m glad u show when celebrities DO mess up and they’re human jus like the rest of us

WONDERFUL VIDEO!

Does being socially awkard and quiet come across as hostile? I have a lot of trouble starting and maintaining convos at work. I think my colleagues believe I'm unapproachable. I hate that i give off this energy when it's not intentional

Snuck is completely acceptable to use. Confidently incorrecting people

It was good caveat to point out. This isn't to say they're bad people, but moments in time we can learn :)

"Trying hard to look good is what makes you look bad" 😅 Emotionally mature ppl telling immature ones abt their feelings.

What a clean transition at 3:58. Props to the editor.

We live at times of telepathic technology, and its also possible to connect people with negative telepathic feelings.

Good points.

There's two guys at my work that take their break together. The sit right next to each other and stare at their phones the entire time. They don't talk or share videos. I can't help but wonder if they're in a long term relationship and have gotten to the point where they are happy just being together.

Bully banter also works in an environment where it's to be expected Specifically places where having thick skin is a prerequisite

Great content, you gotta do a Matt Rife charisma breakdown

Another vid that helps me learn how to quickly avoid future contact with people I don't care for.

a looot of people acted this way around me and i hated them with a passion. i thought i just couldnt take a joke

Summary: Don't make fun of others Listen Be authentic and positive

This is a tough one with young supervisors. It is impossible to train while you are texting. If someone has to ask you four times before you acknowledge a person speaking to you at work there is a problem. I don't want to "narc" about cell phones but in the case of supervisors who are supposed to be supervising it is depressing and feels like you're being shut out/put down. I go on Facebook too, at HOME when I'm done with work. I'm trying to be understanding; but how does one interrupt one's supervisor while they are actively involved in texting and reading tic tocs, without appearing rude, to access information needed from them? Is there a "right way?"

It is snuck into the room Not sneaked

I can't even remember her name...the singer chick who said, "I want to see what you just said written on paper"...I'M DYING HERE!!!! I've never liked her much, but that comment carved out at least a tiny amount of respect. LMAO!!!!

Love how steiny triggered a whole video, fax

Neil is definitely unlikeable.

The number one thing that turns me off to people is when they ask for my help with something then either criticize my effort or expect me to complete their task without their assistance.

I was a big fan of NDT since I am also a researcher and have been into science my whole life, but I made the mistake of watching too many videos of his interviews. Now I skip a video every time I see him.

Barbra is savage

That one guy getting called out for being fake is sooo rough. It's like he doesn't know who he even is.

Great video

brilliant

You should analyze the discussion between the social genius Adam Friedland and Neil DeGrasse Tyson. Truly one of the conversations of all time

Got damn that Joe rogan clip got me dying

All these problems if they exist, roots only to one single problem, the "inability to"listen".. If the world starts listening for a while and in return with no solutions that would definitely be a great therapy.. I personally feel these days listening is probably the bestest communication ever.. I get to listen to too many friends around me abt their problems, relationships but ig only some of them even know which actor i like the most.. Jai shri krishn

Now we need a video on how to respond to these situations

I mean, just don't tease anyone you don't know. Plain and simple, lol. The examples in the video where the teasing works is when both people already know each other.

I can see myaelf needing to work on these outside of the phone thing. Im hard of hearing if im in a conversation with someone i have to watch their mouth, so phone is away if i am interacting. I do have a grumpy sarcastic sense of humor, my friends love it but with new people it tends to make people take a few steps back

Tyson is unlikeable. The guy is rude, dismissive, condescending, and unwilling to even listen to people talk about something he's made his mind up over.

Hi! Could you maybe do a video about Ava Mercer (Kaleidoscope) and what makes her seem elegant and classy? Thank you

When I meet people I always ask questions about them to start the convos. Most of the time it's fine. Once in a while I'll meet someone that when I start asking questions about them they don't take it well. It's like they think I'm the FBI or CIA lol. I ask questions to find common ground and go from there.

I know someone who constantly talks over everybody and I can only tolerate them in small doses. Diverting the conversation doesn't work with this person at all.

Love languages can help us communicate better with other people, but they can also help us love ourselves. There are five groups that acts of love might fall into. They are: - Acts of Service - Gift-Giving - Physical touch - Quality Time - Words of Affirmation Maybe you’re needing some personal words of affirmation - try reflective journaling! Do you respond best to physical affection from others? Try fulfilling this for yourself with a relaxing bath and an evening of pampering. What activity makes you feel loved the most?

DAMN! Barbara flamed Whoopi 😅

That comment Barbara made to Whoopi : "Got dam".

I hate people who can't make jokes without offending others. You don't necessarily have to make jokes all the time and if you do make sure to keep other people's feelings in consideration.

im guilty of 2 of these. still and often. but i also am so authentic in my insecurity, that people be like "oh well hes f'd up for life anyhow, lets not be mad with him" :P

ya i have a coworker that loves to tell me all about her life and I give her my full attention but when i start to talk about my life she stares at her phone and doesnt even reply back! so rude!

Whew! Picking my nose didn't make the list! Must be something else I'm doing that's turning people off!

I wish I had the luxury to learn in charisma university, but as an alternative can you guys kindly suggest me few resources to boost charisma 🛐

This all boils down to bad habits that insecure, un-self-aware people do. Work on yourself, be self-aware, learn the social cues of others, and treat people like you want to be treated, and you will never fall foul to these damning social antics... It's cliché, but true!

I didnt realize id laugh so much when i clicked on this vid

Ok so you say that these clips dont mean that the person is generally unlikeable but that's definitely the case with Neil Degrasse Tyson. I think you know that and thats why hes the thumbnail. It also got me to click the video to hear about how irritating he is so well played.

Bro the tik tok dance thing was totally agreeable