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Communication Hacks/Sexual Attraction - Susan Winter

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Susan Winter

Susan Winter

7 жыл бұрын

How can you tell your partner what you need without sounding demanding? What if you’re physically attracted to someone with a horrible personality? In these two viewer questions I explain how to effectively communicate your needs by using incentive rather than by demanding, and how attraction occurs (even when it’s irrational).
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@sweatslaysparkle7869
@sweatslaysparkle7869 6 жыл бұрын
This person sounds exactly like me. I asked for communication very plainly and clearly. The more I didn't receive it, the more resentful I became.
@ezgicetin5855
@ezgicetin5855 6 жыл бұрын
You have become one of my role models. So elegant and articulate. I try to learn from you. My question/suggestion for a video is this. I've been recently shut down by an older gentleman because of age gap. We've been on three fantastic dates and slept together too which was also nice. I felt very heartbroken. I've benefited from your age gap videos but maybe you can do some about older guy/younger girl thing. All the best x
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 6 жыл бұрын
Ezgi Çetin thank you for your kind words! I’m sorry your older man got scared (certainly that must be the case). Oddly, some people choose a preemptive dump to make sure they leave before they get hurt. It’s a compliment to your power. But the outcome it’s desirable.
@kacmevsim1306
@kacmevsim1306 5 жыл бұрын
Perfectly said, also remember to get this guide to Sexual Roleplays with Over 100 Demonstrated Sex Games, should be first result on google when you copy & paste search the key-phrase: SEXUAL ROLEPLAYS COUPLESEXGUIDE
@teejay8043
@teejay8043 5 жыл бұрын
These videos are still relevant even a year later!
@lw1343
@lw1343 6 жыл бұрын
There are a lot of advice videos telling men not to text the woman constantly because it comes across as clingy and smothering which women run from. Maybe that's why the complaing woman's man doesn't text back regularly. Just a thought.
@NarnianLady
@NarnianLady 5 жыл бұрын
And constant texting from a man who is not interesting (as a partner or as a friend) is indeed clingy and smothering..! I have been in the receiving end of non stop text bombarding from a guy I clearly had told 'No, thanks!' .. Going No Contact (and later changing my cell phone number) was the only way to get rid of the harassment. Some men indeed are clingy!
@adday.
@adday. 4 жыл бұрын
I've been dating for 25 years and let me say, men are not doing anything because of any videos.
@sarahjaneross2918
@sarahjaneross2918 Жыл бұрын
@@adday. 😅🙈 haha,
@anniemedicalmassage
@anniemedicalmassage 7 жыл бұрын
"Live a little bit longer, the testosterone will die down and you'll think more clearly". LMAO! Very well said Susan!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Thank you Annie. He's a good guy. Love his honesty. And so bright!! Love your comment and happy to make you giggle.
@MonicaSancio
@MonicaSancio 7 жыл бұрын
EXCELLENT QUOTE by Susan Winter!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Monica Fit thanks!!
@MonicaSancio
@MonicaSancio 6 жыл бұрын
Susan Winter Thank YOU, Susan!!
@Lana0624
@Lana0624 7 жыл бұрын
Love all of your videos Susan! Always great advice. Thanks
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Lana Lane thank you!!
@luulips
@luulips 7 жыл бұрын
Yes it's true we all have different needs that make us feel loved.
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Good morning! Love your comment. So true. It may seem illogical to us, but whatever the 'thing' is that tells our mate "we care about you" is a language we need to learn. Thank you luuplips.
@vivianapetrasova4095
@vivianapetrasova4095 7 жыл бұрын
Susan i love your videos !! You help me & inspire me so much ❤️❤️
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Viviana Petrasova thank you!! That makes me happy!
@sharathsuma7556
@sharathsuma7556 7 жыл бұрын
Very Informative , Susan . Thank you . You touched upon a very important point , there are always ways to get things done without being demanding .
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Thanks Sharath.
@k.w.1459
@k.w.1459 7 жыл бұрын
People would do well to listen, watch or read about the five love languages. I found it to be helpful. Now if all people understood how to "speak" in another's love language things would be a bit easier. 😊
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
K W, that's a great suggestion. Thanks for adding this important commentary.
@lucyjones955
@lucyjones955 7 жыл бұрын
Well said Susan! Happy Friday!
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Same to you, Lucy!!
@crisj7704
@crisj7704 6 жыл бұрын
Classy, timeless advice.
@tinysteps2330
@tinysteps2330 6 жыл бұрын
Love it. Great to see some humour.
@JosefaNescu
@JosefaNescu 6 жыл бұрын
Hi Susan! I'm from Romania, watching you for quite a while and loving your speaking, advises, videos, and the way you treat the themes, from an objective psychological perspective. Still, there is one subject I haven't heard too much, or not at all. It's about meeting a potential partner for relationship that is deeply wounded from a previous relationship. So you find yourself in a new relationship with this person, as a sign that he/she enjoys your company, or he/she's feeling good with you, or seeing his/her future with you.... BUT!you strangely are facing constant manifestation of paranoia , traumas, and revenges for things you never done, but you could bet the previous partner done before you. You feel your partner has a trust issue due to these traumas, you would like to help, but he/she won't admit at all they have this issue, and the more you try, the worse they act. So what can we do in these situation? Where we consider the person we found has indeed potential, and worth the patience... how can we get through this stage of rage, traumas, feeling undervalued and not trusted...just because someone else screwed it before us, and hurt our partner that bad? Thank you so much Susan :)
@sia00
@sia00 6 жыл бұрын
JosefaNescu I
@ibrahimhersi8282
@ibrahimhersi8282 6 жыл бұрын
I love you Susan...all the way from London, UK. 🇬🇧
@crawfish069
@crawfish069 6 жыл бұрын
Part 1: very similar to love languages. Reading the 5 love languages website helped me so much! :) It's a must read!
@hosoiarchives4858
@hosoiarchives4858 6 жыл бұрын
She is mostly right this time
@ilsewenzel7227
@ilsewenzel7227 6 жыл бұрын
what about guys who say things like: girlie, I'll see you when I see you or group all women together by saying "Women!"
@cliffdariff74
@cliffdariff74 2 жыл бұрын
boundaries
@starstern1077
@starstern1077 3 жыл бұрын
I love your hair susan. Do you ever wear it up?
@lifepaper257
@lifepaper257 5 жыл бұрын
How do i submit a question? Where do we send it?
@seeya7610
@seeya7610 7 жыл бұрын
Hi Susan I need your advise as I'm going through emotional pain I'm not sure if you remember me I commented once about my long distance bf and preemptive dump he did when we met .. and trying to contact me after I came back from meeting him ...going very mad at me at first then getting better ...we talking on and off ..you advised me to open up and tell him all and I did and he was happy to know all that and opened up as well and told me his situation and I told u that as well .. so we did talk for couple of days after .. he wanted to see me again but unfortunately ( I didn't tell him that but due to finances and other circumstances) I said not possible right away may be later because I was just there a month ago and we live in 2 different countries ... he ignored my text after that for few days I feel it was due to that reason because he is tired of his situation and want somebody there for him So he sent a weird text to me that saying oh sorry he just met someone yesterday and they clicked and now meeting for coffee next day and if it wasn't for the distance and that woman is only 140 miles away ready committed and ready to join him .. I was shocked 😳 like this is impossible like in one day he found a committed relationship.. but because I knew he psychology I said 'ok go ' and that was the last conversation He read my other texts that he ignored on what's app a week after and never been on WhatsApp after that I think I told u he had PTSD and I also feel he has avoidant attachment style due to all the trauma since childhood and divorce and family closet to him abandoned him like always and going through very rough time and was hospitalized after I return as well But I know he cares for me and I love him and care for him as well and worrying if he is ok ? Because the break up was all bluff can't be true What should I do ? Should I text him after being dumped ? Or wait ? I can't leave him in pain like this but don't want to get hurt too ? Please advise
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
Hi See Ya. Here are my thoughts (this is first impressions as we're not in an official session where I can ask detailed questions): All was good until you didn't explain but the only thing that kept you away from seeing him was 'money.' As you didn't clarify that, he ran to protect himself and made up a story about suddenly finding someone close. (That's to punish you for not visiting). Childish, yes. One last option for you: write him a letter, clarify money was the only reason for not coming, tell him you really cared, you're sorry it's over, and wish him well.
@seeya7610
@seeya7610 7 жыл бұрын
Susan Winter thanks Susan you are such a wonderful human being and always reply to help out can't thank you enough ❤️ I'm still debating if I should or should not .. I might but I'm afraid he might ignore me again or won't reply or get mad or push me away as always ..Not sure where is he now ? And if he ignored me that would hurt me 😞 not sure if he even loved me or attached to me .. do u think with ur experience he has feelings for me and it's worth to peruse ?
@ankurmohan4180
@ankurmohan4180 5 жыл бұрын
Very well said Susan, but in my case the situations reversed! She isn't giving me a final closure and again she is silent ...I message her almost everyday but just not today...cause last week she asked for a coat online 200$.. and I had paid bills that Sunday and my limit for my card needed another day to be buy her the same coat which offended her say, love for men is action not words....where actions need to speak louder than words....and she stood silent for almost 2 weeks now!I even showed her receipts of my bills paid the same date...but she said her ex was same in that category where my intensions to her are pure and real!
@ankurmohan4180
@ankurmohan4180 5 жыл бұрын
Also she said there is no future with you! Once! But she didn't block me on social media and I can message to explain and talk direct as in how can we fix it! Tell me....else make sure that you want me to go away ... cause she's got like 476 friends in her account and more than half of them are male single guys...I just can't crack this puzzle, Susan! Enlighten me!
@alvinhah3367
@alvinhah3367 5 жыл бұрын
@@ankurmohan4180 she is/was using you to buy her things.
@ankurmohan4180
@ankurmohan4180 5 жыл бұрын
@@alvinhah3367 how can you be so sure...?
@alvinhah3367
@alvinhah3367 5 жыл бұрын
@@ankurmohan4180 I guess I can't be completely sure, but her behavior seems very irrational that she couldn't wait a day for an unnecessary bag. How's things going with you two now?
@ankurmohan4180
@ankurmohan4180 5 жыл бұрын
@@alvinhah3367 not talking....she blocked me....I was pushy with messaging trying to open communication...but I don't know she is 45 and I am 35 ....maybe she is a 50% narcissist with bigger egos..but I still invested 10 months of my time and effort to the point it started getting drained. ..
@MarioArroyo-uc2fc
@MarioArroyo-uc2fc 2 ай бұрын
Love life ❤️
@MarioArroyo-uc2fc
@MarioArroyo-uc2fc 2 ай бұрын
Love my case manager so beautiful and very nice and cute
@63Baggies
@63Baggies 6 жыл бұрын
Like most men; I find texting both trivial and juvenile. JUST PICK UP THE PHONE!!!!!
@johnnyjavelin5408
@johnnyjavelin5408 6 жыл бұрын
“ the testosterone will die down you’ll think normally “ you lost me there lady
@lucije1936
@lucije1936 3 жыл бұрын
👏💖🌷
@Last_one_before_I_go
@Last_one_before_I_go 7 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry...Men shut down on the example you gave because he's probably thinking "WTF is this all about?" Better for men to keep their mouths shut than to say the wrong word (which starts the frustration fight). There's just way too much complex explanation designed to provide elaborate justifications for molly-coddling high maintenance, insecure people... make sure you sell that advice with a bottle of aspirin.
@SusanWinter
@SusanWinter 7 жыл бұрын
The female mind tends to over-think and over-analyze. If the conversation is not on point, muddled, vague or rambling... Then indeed the aspirin is necessary.
@63Baggies
@63Baggies 6 жыл бұрын
Homertoeclipper LMAO....
@andrecameron3130
@andrecameron3130 6 жыл бұрын
Why females have so much envy for each other?
@crisj7704
@crisj7704 6 жыл бұрын
People have envy for each other, it's not just restricted to female gender okay??? Seriously this question sounds immature.
@johnnyjavelin5408
@johnnyjavelin5408 6 жыл бұрын
As clever as this lady is , men should still be wary when taking dating/ attraction advice from a woman
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