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@Parisinseptember 57 минут бұрын
My first date when amazing. We kept in contact even planned a second date and the day off he canceled and never heard from him.
@lolitzshelly7229 Сағат бұрын
This video always heals the hole in my heart I’ve inflicted on myself. In small ways and big ways. Thank you!
@masikasauda7673 Сағат бұрын
Thank you so much
@erikaabrown5570 2 сағат бұрын
This was really helpful Susan, I kept thinking there was no effort and it was put on my shoulders but now I see a fresh perspective.
@user-ms6hu9gj3m 6 сағат бұрын
Needed this thanks
@Kay-ln3kx 8 сағат бұрын
Always go with your gut!
@tinamtliu 9 сағат бұрын
This is such good advice. Thanks Susan!
@pennymice1821 13 сағат бұрын
Damn i've strayed away from the things that used to make me happy for someone who didn't even want me
@samuraispiritsx 15 сағат бұрын
Hi Susan, thank you for the videos. You are such a beautiful and smart lady.
@marciamenage931 16 сағат бұрын
Please contact me for an ingenious phenomenal scamming story, not too sure how I can give you my contact details without putting them on this site.
@inserter400 21 сағат бұрын
Maybe the Indian guy wants her to contact him so he can run away with her but wants to know she is up for it ,just a thought.
@qusaiabdoun Күн бұрын
Could this be a sign of hot and cold?
@RodneyBrown Күн бұрын
My girlfriend just asked for time and space, strange because she was the one doing all of the calling and texting daily, and coming over to my home.
@GetBackDown Күн бұрын
Oh no no nooooooooo. ☹☹☹
@danepinar3506 Күн бұрын
You are very right there, Susan. Consistency… and I think it is also our responsibility to handle moments of anxiousness. We need to be able to evaluate if our anxiety is reasonable or if our minds are just getting ahead of us.
@GetBackDown Күн бұрын
Dannnnng. Happened with a friend 30 years ago. Lucky (???) for me, my ex-best friend went after him. Problem solved. Both ousted.
@Chris-hp2gg Күн бұрын
Looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now?😂
@annielynn8730 Күн бұрын
But what happens when you can easily come up with the proof? I’m not trying to be combative, I want to get better, but mentally I really don’t know how to think about it past that
@Msfabwealthy1 Күн бұрын
THANK YOU SIS, I WALKED AWAY BECAUSE I KNOW I DESERVE THE BEST
@mikyl-fo8rh 2 күн бұрын
An apology brings closure to both, and if it’s not too little too late, the one that was done wrong may be moved by your contrite heart and desire to reconcile.
@FreeFlow__ 2 күн бұрын
gut feeling is where your ego sits. It wants to feel pain to feed from it.
@a.d.b535 2 күн бұрын
Mine was a 2 year and said No way is he interested in marriage. We're broke up now.
@annas9720 2 күн бұрын
Your outfit is beautiful ❤️🌸💐
@Passport2Pleasure 2 күн бұрын
Determining your relationship orientation is key here! It doesn't have to be all or nothing. Commitment can look many different ways.
@SusanWinter 2 күн бұрын
Thank you for that commentary. I think it’s a very important aspect of our current day understanding.
@Passport2Pleasure Күн бұрын
@@SusanWinter agreed 💗
@BooBear5 2 күн бұрын
I love this video, in fact I'd say I needed it 💓 thank you. Do you have any more advice about self-forgiveness, when faced with severe regret for breaking something up due to your own avoidance? what you said about cracking open is so beautiful. i hope that for myself amid the pain of regret
@lenguage 2 күн бұрын
I´ve watched more than 20 videos regarding this issue, this by far is the best video for advice.
@rebeccaskibicki633 3 күн бұрын
Hi Susan! I just searched for a video on KZfaq on how to love yourself. And this video popped up and the person that wrote to you, her name was Rebecca as well! What a kawinkadink huh? I cried when I heard what you said and it made so much sense. I just subscribed to your channel and look forward to watching more! Thank you!
@GetBackDown 3 күн бұрын
I was dating in the 80's and "adult dating" in the 90's. The second you were smooching meant you were exclusive. Where I lived, anyways. The negotiation for monogamy means I'm not going to date any time soon. Thank you For the warning. 😊😊😊
@SusanWinter 3 күн бұрын
I don't want this to dissuade you from dating. And probably the people you would be dating (if you like to date within your age group) have the same mentality. Generally speaking. So I think you are safe because you come from a generation that understood how to have a relationship. But as a word of warning, and especially to GenZ and Millennials, don't assume anything. Always be clear on what you're looking for and the parameters of how that functions. Thanks for your commentary.
@jademuller8548 3 күн бұрын
Your videos are amazing
@fazebot2405 3 күн бұрын
You shouldn’t be tormented if you know she’s with another guy than she shouldn’t even exists in your life no more. Don’t be a will smith haha.
@drkaidi 3 күн бұрын
"Everything in life is sales." I love how you connected the "I statements" to selling, coming from a place of power and confidence, asserting what YOU want in life, regardless of whether the other person can give it to you or not 💕
@SusanWinter 3 күн бұрын
Dr Kaidi! Yes, after being bombarded by marketers over the years, I realized we do need to SELL the benefits of whatever style of relationship we desire. We need to have a compelling reason for why we want what we want and why it will benefit our partner and the relationship. Thanks for chiming in Dr. Kaidi
@mannymurillo687 3 күн бұрын
I got the boyfriend after chatting with him for over a year. I never burn the bridge...but I used to unlike him because I knew I could like him alot. We been dating. Thanks look bright so far.
@SusanWinter 3 күн бұрын
good for you, Manny!
@femininefitness1 3 күн бұрын
Wrong feels like putting a square peg into a round hole 👏 Nailed it, as always, Susan! 🤩🙌🏽
@diane2413 3 күн бұрын
Great video as always Susan. I had a hard time with this because in the beginning he said, I want this to be a relationship. I ended up getting frustrated after about a year of living together we had a disagreement and he said that I am the only woman he wants and he is not considering anyone else unless I died, then maybe. So then i knew. I wish i could have had a good conversation rather than wait for it to erupt. But we got through it.
@SusanWinter 3 күн бұрын
Congratulations for finding your way to partnership Diane. Whatever you did, it worked. And I would imagine that you must have felt a sincerity in his heart or you wouldn't have stayed an entire year. I have many clients who are frustrated by a lack of 'label' for their relationship. Yet in all actions and behaviors, their partner is completely with them. It's simply helps them to feel secure.
@Shaza824 3 күн бұрын
Great advice ❣️💕🙏
@SusanWinter 3 күн бұрын
thanks share
@KB-jl9nl 3 күн бұрын
Heard our song again today driving home from the gym!All I can say is. Here I go again!!😂❤
@SusanWinter 3 күн бұрын
Hey KB!! Right. ❣❣❣❣❣
@GetBackDown 3 күн бұрын
Ohhhh....it happens.....😟
@eb3644 3 күн бұрын
If I was funner lol.
@LuisRodriguez-ql1os 3 күн бұрын
What if your girlfriend looking at another girl but they say they not into girls that they straight what now
@Iamsam-jl5fn 3 күн бұрын
What not to do: Sleep with a man after your second date.
@YouTubeUzername 4 күн бұрын
I have always thought that if men don’t bring it up then you already know where you stand but you made a lot of good points!
@SusanWinter 3 күн бұрын
You're not wrong. But, why not test out another method-negotiation. The assumption is that they don't want exclusivity because they're not closing the deal with you. But perhaps they have a fear, and a valid fear, based upon the last partner who was needy and controlling. In that case, they may be afraid that exclusivity will bring them back to the same horrible place they were trying to leave. That's why the negotiation is key.
@YouTubeUzername 4 күн бұрын
I have always thought that if men don’t bring it up then you already know where you stand but you mentioned a lot of good points!
@OurFavouriteClips 4 күн бұрын
The classiest most elegant coach there is 🎉
@SusanWinter 3 күн бұрын
Thank you very much for this. I really appreciate your wonderful commentary. It's important to frame how to have an effective conversation with our partner as we define the relationship. I know this is tricky for a lot of people, and we end up, giving all the power to our partner to decide the terms of the engagement. I think we should have the option of being able to confidently offer our preference, and highlight the benefits. (I shot this after a speaking engagement as I saw the light was coming through the room so beautifully.)
@barkharani2693 4 күн бұрын
I'm the first one to comment... 🎉
@SusanWinter 4 күн бұрын
Hi Bark!!!!
@beverlypatterson2550 4 күн бұрын
Love the fact that you are direct yet thoughtful and clear in answering questions and concerns.❤ Giving both sides of the circumstances insightful advice is also helpful and important. You have a wonderful calling for helping others, thank you.😊🎉❤
@SnYu-y5r 4 күн бұрын
Fake love ?
@SnYu-y5r 4 күн бұрын
Basically alone lol 😅 i love it 😁
@SnYu-y5r 4 күн бұрын
Theres nothing to date lol 😆 i love it
@SnYu-y5r 4 күн бұрын
Im not young lol 50ish
@SnYu-y5r 4 күн бұрын
So over it