Confucius | The Art of Becoming Better (Self-Cultivation)

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Isn’t it the case we should always stay true to ourselves? Which means that we ought to know who we are, and organize our lives in ways that are compatible with our personalities?
When we look for a partner, for example, we look for someone that we’re compatible with, and in regards to education and work, we need to do something that fits our characteristics.
However, "not knowing who we are" seems to be a problem. But luckily, this problem can be solved by taking a personality test, by talking to a counselor, or perhaps by going on a long solo-trip around the world to (quote on quote) “find ourselves”. Because, after all, our true selves lie somewhere hidden deep within.
Right?
Well, according to Michael Puett, Harvard professor of Chinese History and author of the book The Path, this way of thinking is extremely limited and even dangerous when it comes to how we live our lives.
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In Chinese philosophy, there’s no fixed ‘self’ the way we see it in the Western world. Who we are, and what we could become is much more tangible, than a fixed set of characteristics that define a personality.
This Eastern ‘self’ is always evolving, changing, losing, and gaining, and isn’t so much defined by what’s within, but by what we do. So, it cannot be found, but it can be cultivated.
Self-cultivation is a psychological process that’s part of the ancient Chinese system of thought called Confucianism. Its founder, Confucius, firmly believed in the power of ritual, and how it can make our lives better.
This video explores the art of becoming better, based on the teachings of Confucius.
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00:00 Intro
02:38 On Confucius
04:15 The "self"
06:52 Focusing on change
08:30 The power of ritual
10:35 Self-cultivation

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3 жыл бұрын

A disclaimer: the intention of this video is not to support certain governments or indoctrination of any kind. It simply intends to highlight the effects that ritual can have, and how we can harness this power to improve ourselves. I'm aware that this idea goes against the usual undercurrent of this channel with common themes like acceptance and non-conformity. I'm pretty sure the idea of self-cultivation as presented here will be regarded as 'too simplistic' by mental health professionals. Nevertheless, I think this idea is interesting and I want to keep an open mind (which is what this channel does: exploring ideas). Also, this video is not against counselors and personality tests (au contraire): it reflects on how some people tend to cling to their 'personality types'. Thank you.

@Juginohero2137 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you

@brookesfriend8359 3 жыл бұрын

Somebody in AA told me that in the begining, to "FaKe it TilL you makE it"

@guillermochavez2170 3 жыл бұрын

@@brookesfriend8359 Fake it until you make it does not sound genuine to me maybe I don't understand the true meaning behind it.

@Any_Friday 3 жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you you included this disclaimer. Because there are certain governments that have corrupted and edited Confucius to conform to their way of manipulating the populace. Their interest is not to nurture individualism, as it is to force conformity to the state.

@Spoeism 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah you were treading a fine line there. The individual motivation determines indoctrination vs self cultivation. Also "faking it", can lead to "breaking it". Current wide spread cultural results, WAY too many people are faking it these days leading to a chain reaction based on what cause n' effect?

@ICEcoldJT 3 жыл бұрын

“Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”

@Danskadreng 3 жыл бұрын

Mindfulness ^

@ShardsofWisdom 3 жыл бұрын

"Don’t make your move right away, even against what seems overt and plain; sometimes false things give the appearance of truth." Seneca

@MrJaffer2011 3 жыл бұрын

you must be the master of short notes!!! you just said everything in one sentence.

@seeknre8390 3 жыл бұрын

This works

@aymanel5198 3 жыл бұрын

Totally helpful

@sarared2292 3 жыл бұрын

Yes after years and years of trying to find myself to be happier I realized the secret is daily rituals. It works like magic for me.

@ayesha8809 3 жыл бұрын

Whats your ritual?

@sarared2292 3 жыл бұрын

@@ayesha8809 mostly self care rituals. A morning routine and bedtime routine. Also other things I try to do everyday to take care of home. Taking care of yourself and your environment ritualisticly everyday brings peace and real self confidence.

@antoniosinstrumental3820 3 жыл бұрын

Seeking “happiness” has been the most well known thing that society has put on us... And seeking happiness will never happen. Because it has already been within us my man.

@ChubakaSteven 3 жыл бұрын

Most human behavior in any given day is strictly a ritualizatiom -- that's why people find it hard to change bad habits. It's not so much the thing, it's the attachment to the ritual. The brain is lazy, it wants to do what it has done before.

@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265 3 жыл бұрын

So important Sara

@Eternalised 3 жыл бұрын

"Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated" - Confucius

@satnamo 3 жыл бұрын

A simple life is a good life because a good life is simple. Simple is beautiful. Simple; But not too simple. Simplicity is the ultimate form of sophistication. Love, patience+simplicity=3 greatest treasures of mankind; But man tends to chase the ends And forgets the root. Returning to the source is returning to tranquility.

@phiswe 3 жыл бұрын

Either that or: “Life is really complicated, but we insist on making it simple” - Confusion

@andistheinforitbutso7513 3 жыл бұрын

@@satnamo well said

@flamingaish 3 жыл бұрын

Perspectives :)

@windseekervideo 3 жыл бұрын

Not really by Confucius.

@PhilosophyToons 3 жыл бұрын

"The man who says he can, and the man who says he cannot, are both correct." -Confucius

@daviddorf 3 жыл бұрын

"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right!" -Boss Baby

@Tom-Travels 3 жыл бұрын

That's why Confucius did not have any friends.

@sugarray710 3 жыл бұрын

@@Tom-Travels so?

@user-pu4lv6pr5v 3 жыл бұрын

@@Tom-Travels If he did not have any friends his teachings wouldn't survive.

@Tom-Travels 3 жыл бұрын

@@user-pu4lv6pr5v - Not true. The Apostle Paul also didn't have any friends. The one man he thought was his friend... Stoned him.

@AlexBlank 3 жыл бұрын

If we'e open to continually changing, we won't get too attached to the outdated versions of us we might be too afraid to let go of.

3 жыл бұрын

I think that's a good way to put it, yes. It seems that many people struggle to 'update' the views they have of themselves and others as well.

@BuffaloBillBtch 3 жыл бұрын

Interesting thought, I think I somewhat live like this without ever putting it quite like that. I simply wish to find my limits on various fields and "make the most of it".

@planetary-rendez-vous 3 жыл бұрын

There's fear to change of our selves and also fear of how others would perceive our new self. And the latter is more limiting in my opinion. But I think it heavily depends on the environment for this fact, whether it encourages change or not.

@BuffaloBillBtch 3 жыл бұрын

@@planetary-rendez-vous You are absolutely correct, the people you surround yourself with are one of the biggest factors in how easily one can try to change themselves. Everybody has certain roles in each group of people they are with. I am lucky in a way that my friend group has same sort of interests and I can openly share my want to change in various ways and they are totally fine with it.

@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265 3 жыл бұрын

Well said

@Dacademeca 3 жыл бұрын

"Everything Has It's Beauty, But Not Everyone Sees It.." - Confucius

@Tom-Travels 3 жыл бұрын

Beauty is over rated.

@flamingaish 3 жыл бұрын

@@Tom-Travels what does that even mean?

@yourtypicalinternetcommenter11 3 жыл бұрын

that’s such a BS, someone gets cancer it’s ugly and painful and scary, is there any beauty in cancer? -No, only pain and fear and suffering. This BS philosophy gaslights us into thinking that it’s not life it’s us, we can’t see the beauty in everything when in reality there are some things that are absolutely terrible and it’s ok to be negative sometimes.

@Dacademeca 3 жыл бұрын

@@yourtypicalinternetcommenter11 i see yur point, or maybe its not seeing the buety in everything but maybe its seeing opportunities in everything. Or you can always turn ugly things into goods or advantages. Like cancer might be terrible ugly and bad but you can use that opportunity to become healthier and appreciate life more on what really matters.

@gwang3103 2 жыл бұрын

Which chapter in the Analects? Which verse?

@JamesTheNomadic 3 жыл бұрын

“There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within” - Miyamoto Musashi

@marcbow 3 жыл бұрын

Obviously Mushashi wasn't aware of anabolic steroids and performance enhancing drugs lol

@tap356 3 жыл бұрын

@@marcbow Steroids won't turn a Volkswagen into a Mustang.

@sshvdow6894 3 жыл бұрын

@@tap356 bruh

@free2tingleasmr918 3 жыл бұрын

"we are what we repeatedly do. Excellence therefore is a habit."

@Tom-Travels 3 жыл бұрын

I agree!

@StoicBuddhist1 3 жыл бұрын

-Aristotle

@KJ-pu8dw Жыл бұрын

As is degredation. Depends what we repeatedly do.

@dandare1001 Жыл бұрын

It becomes your nature, once it is a habit.

@the_krym 3 жыл бұрын

"Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power" Laozi

@JaysonT1 3 жыл бұрын

Random quotes guy?...

@jetaime8941 2 жыл бұрын

In Chinese: 勝人者有力，自勝者強。 Book: 文子 ; Chapter: 下德

@cutiemeowie8352 2 жыл бұрын

Doing both means you are a legend

@Koaki913 3 жыл бұрын

Was having a depressive meltdown while sitting alone in my house but somehow after watching this it feels like I've been soothed.

@Kidkromechan 2 жыл бұрын

If you have depression then search this in youtube: (LISTEN TO THIS EVERY DAY) Earl Nightingale - The Strangest Secret (FULL) - Patrick Tugwell It can probably help you

@Koaki913 2 жыл бұрын

@@Kidkromechan Thank you for the recommendation, I have added it to my favorites list. I was going through a dark time, I had sustained an injury in my knee requiring surgery and was really having anxiety over the thought of my mortality. But I have been studying stoic philosophy and it has greatly improved my mental state.

@sarahB06 2 жыл бұрын

it’s been a year hope you’re doing better 🤍

@duncanharvey3959 2 жыл бұрын

Same

@heavymeddle28 3 жыл бұрын

I've been trying to find myself for almost 50 years and it turned out that I was here. All along

@OLiSaNofficial 3 жыл бұрын

All you had to do was, hear

@katherineg9396 2 жыл бұрын

Wherever you go, there you are.

@True38 3 жыл бұрын

There's no "finding yourself", it's only creating yourself and adapt to different roles, mainly work roles. You alone are responsible for who you wish to be and who you do not wish to be, and then manifest that being in the world. This is critical because if you don't define yourself, society will and it will put you into a box/role that they feel is the most appropriate. At that point, you have lost all power over who you are so never fall into that trap. People will always tell you "who you are" but this is not to be taken seriously, as you should just be everything to everyone while focusing on your main role and path in life. At the end of the day, nobody cares what you do so just do whatever you want and don't feel pressured by anyone else and what they are doing. That means that you should also avoid social media like the plague, as it's pure poison and will only make you depressed when comparing yourself to other's "perfect lifestyle" which is of course only a very small portion of their otherwise miserable life like most people. My advice is to focus on your core, strengths, and values and try to find work that is most relatable to those. You have some particular interests, something that you are drawn to, perhaps even a talent that the world needs. If so, it's your duty in life to fulfill those needs. Be all you can be and never be afraid to experiment with yourself and those around you. Remember that life is short so don't waste it on things and people that you don't like.

@sarahB06 2 жыл бұрын

you have no idea how badly i needed this 🙏 you’re an angel truly

@KingDUzumaki 2 жыл бұрын

these are great sentiments, i always understood it but sometimes it takes another to make one truly understand. cheers mate, hope your journey continues to be prosperous. memento mori 🤘

@True38 2 жыл бұрын

@@sarahB06 Thank you, I'm just trying to stay true to myself in a world I otherwise regard as fake. I hate trying to fit in all the time when in reality, I can't stand most people, and I do NOT want to be like most people! I want to be my unique self no matter what the consequences. How is living like an empty shell any better? It isn't! Every single person on this planet needs to find their own true power and path in life regardless if it's "wrong" or "right". That all depends on YOU and who YOU are!

@doisaEFE 2 жыл бұрын

I completely agree. I strive to be better every day at the things I enjoy. I'm sick of people defining me and what I should be doing with my life. I'll pursue what I enjoy, better myself in multiple areas of my life, fulfill my goals and live a minimalistic life. I don't need toxic friends/family members. Stay zen everyone!

@True38 2 жыл бұрын

@@doisaEFE Agree 100%. Fuck em all!

@nehainthebay 3 жыл бұрын

Taking personality tests to know who we are may turn into a short cut that makes us complacent. “Ah, so the test says this is who I am and so now I can behave this way.” Instead, if we are aware of our actions and thoughts and open to change and adapting, we truly learn who we are. Thanks for helping philosophize on this very important topic. 🙏🏽

@ashwinidombale7158 3 жыл бұрын

Finally someone said it.That's what I felt odd,looking within and going to a counseler to know what we are doesn't go together.

@whiteboxwithbluelights1473 3 жыл бұрын

Soo true. Thanks. 😊🙏😁

@planetary-rendez-vous 3 жыл бұрын

Tests needs to be helpful not directing. Tests are flawed.

@UnknownUser-ye7fb 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! Needed to hear this, because as soon as i knew my personality type, and seeing people that says that my personality type should be like this, that, etc., I started acting way differently, doing everything that might type “should be doing”.

@praxis22 3 жыл бұрын

I went through a phase of taking personality tests. A friend even gave me a credit to get a paid test, with In depth scoring, etc. I always came out as INTP, which in the main I would identity with. Then I remember taking another, which defined me as an Architect. To which I completely rebelled. Went to look at the other types, found one I preferred. Complete nonsense all of them, but a good way to understand who you are to an extent.

@TheDhammaHub 3 жыл бұрын

Thinking of the self as something permanent inevitably leads to suffering. When we cling to something that is impermanent and that thing or concept changes, we experience loss

@diegolemos066 3 жыл бұрын

It's not who I am underneath, but what I do that defines me. - Bruce Wayne/Batman

@VerenaSatriani 3 жыл бұрын

Everyday we can be better, no matter how slow our pace is. Keep doing the best.

@alecia2891 2 жыл бұрын

So true 🤏

@vitorluigi2911 3 жыл бұрын

These videos are like painkillers for my soul

@ShahabAhmad1398 3 жыл бұрын

There is something about einzelgänger and his content that you simply can't find in the likes of the pursuit of wonder and school of life. Not that I have any major issues with those channels though I don't really care for school of life. Einzelgänger vids have such a peaceful feeling

@karltanner3953 3 жыл бұрын

It's a vibe. His videos have this aura of calmness.

@averagep3rson954 3 жыл бұрын

From my experience this channel have some vibes and genuine aura. While school of life give a lot of good info but does not give us time for self reflection and its visuals is overwhelming.

@mountaintruth1deeds533 3 жыл бұрын

Eat the meat, spit out the bones, in general.

@timmenhoff 2 жыл бұрын

check out "Freedom in thought" channel

@advaithhegde5553 3 жыл бұрын

Confucius principles: 1)'The self' -Learn about yourself. Think about yourself properly. Know yourself. 2) Set your behavior according to situation. 3)Involve yourself in the rituals. 4)You can change if you follow 'fake it till you make it'.

@4ksilentwalk485 3 жыл бұрын

For the past 20 years I have been having green tea with dark chocolate and dry fruits 30 min after my dinner. I always look forward to have my tea time. This ritual keeps me content. I cannot imagine my life without my after dinner tea time. Also, every Saturday I go for long walks and mid way I treat myself with a cappuccino at Costa, and just the sound of coffee making at Costa and sense of coffee keeps me calm. :)

@jamesmcfarland1521 8 ай бұрын

Makez very muxh $enze🎉🎉

@HelloHello-iu4ht 3 жыл бұрын

I spent hours and hours, days and years trying to be something I am not, I denied my traits and only focused on what I wanted to be, I realized after a breakdown that I was being unrealistic. I believe in the concept of the false self and how it is a major cause of mental health conditions. I believe you can develop traits and expand your skills, but some things you can spend a lifetime trying to attain and it will never come naturally, not only that but cause psychological issues at the same time.

@elbob3631 3 жыл бұрын

How did you get out

@m.zulkarnain7246 3 жыл бұрын

This is why taoism comes to save the day because it certainly in a way illustrates the reality of how ego can hurt us in all aspects of our live,so to my limited understanding one must embrace taoism to carry on with confucianism because self-progress starts only when the ego dies and we go with the flow.

@shrin210 3 жыл бұрын

My traits is being lazy, what should i do? 😅😭

@biggiebossie6656 Жыл бұрын

@@m.zulkarnain7246 thank you for this comment my friend

@AspieGamer1986 3 жыл бұрын

I grew up never knowing that I was different than others due to my Aspergers diagnosis. No one was there to tell me let alone teach me socially. I have a high strung mother, and I learned from her that life was stressful of course her anxiety didn't help matters much. I wanted to be happy but I haven't been most of my life and am tired of it. I'm bitter at my mom for the fact she never grew into a stronger person. I've been bitter and angry for many years of my life. I see my true self buried underneath all this darkness and anger I've carried over these many years. I've repressed emotions for a long time and am tired of having my past be the thing that holds me back.

@Zepster77 Жыл бұрын

Forget your Mom’s shortcomings. We can’t keep blaming others…

@user-vj4ye1rn3c 9 ай бұрын

加油

@borys2767 3 жыл бұрын

"Be the change you want to see"..Love that statement.

@Diana-gt1rv 3 жыл бұрын

Confucius is such a great philospoher and I totally agree with him. Each one of us is a "diamond in the rough" and through self-cultivation we can transform ourselves into the persons we be want to be and who we really are deep in our core.

@QuietlyMagnetic 3 жыл бұрын

“Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.” ― Jordan Peterson

@schindy6385 3 жыл бұрын

@@PratibhaRaut333 same

@truenorthaffirmations7049 3 жыл бұрын

🔥🔥

@ZhongGuoge 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! We all can be better ourselves than yesterday.

@truenorthaffirmations7049 3 жыл бұрын

@@ZhongGuoge 🔥🔥

@SammyxSweetheart.02 3 жыл бұрын

Peterson is a Christian apologetic that has contradicting arguments. There are many videos that debunk some of his recorded debate ideas, with others like Sam Harris. He can never put his ideas into simpler terms that are easier to understand, and continuously overcomplicates basic questions when asked to him (i.e Do you believe in God?)

@dinil5566 3 жыл бұрын

This channel makes me feel better knowing that I'm not the only weirdo out there.

@Paul-eb2cl 3 жыл бұрын

You're not on your own, there are plenty of us weirdos out here, maybe we should start a club :)

@ahsanarshad4420 3 жыл бұрын

@@Paul-eb2cl I'm in

@dinil5566 3 жыл бұрын

@@ahsanarshad4420 haha. Club is never my thing but still I'm in

@Paul-eb2cl 3 жыл бұрын

@@ahsanarshad4420 Awesome, that's two of us XD

@ahsanarshad4420 3 жыл бұрын

@@Paul-eb2cl np. This club has been formed

@SlytherinShark888 3 жыл бұрын

I've discovered the benefits of daily ritual with the quarantine and my life has improved significantly. It's empowering to see self-cultivation as a result of maintaining ritual.

@trikaruniaaji7670 3 жыл бұрын

"Be the change that you want to see."

@annabellacrewe8858 2 жыл бұрын

Good, that You bring forth the immense importance of rituals, big and small, in daily life as well as in community. Nowadays it's not conscious to people in the western world, that we lost most of our "social cement". Individualism has erased the ritual gatherings we used to have throughout the yearthousands, few peaces left here and there like the celebrating of midsummer fex. Celebrating the different seasons give us grounding as human beings remembering our connectedness to Nature. We cannot all like flootball games that much !🌱

@Ashad1st Жыл бұрын

The background video is so peaceful that every word goes directly inside our head. Agree?

@BlackStripePro 3 жыл бұрын

" A holes can be pleasant and kind. " ----- Best line ever.

@lionzion619 3 жыл бұрын

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” ~Will Durant (No, not Aristotle, but it almost, since it's in a book which explains Arisrotles moral philosophy, but it's more of a summary than a quote)

@jhonnalbisa8422 2 жыл бұрын

"Always find the slight sight of light in the dark abyss" a quote I made and followed back then that has been a great part of my journey in life. I was always able to see the positive stuff in every kerfluffle I experience.

@Morn2moon 3 жыл бұрын

My cat never works on trying to change herself and she is very happy and content. I have found that trying to change oneself inherent a feeling of self-rejection of who one is. And if one rejects who one is and "what" one is; that feeling brings about negative feelings that projects in one's personality... it prohibits self-love and acceptance. I have found that once one accepts one's self as is; improvements start to show naturally because at that point one isnt working against one's self but from one's self... going with the flow of natural self-expression. .. which could be expressed through rituals ... which becomes a natural manifestation of the self... like my cat sitting at the window every night before she goes to bed. Of course one can improve in natural skills and abilities... but then such things aren't the self. My cat worked to improve her skills but not herself. She doesn't think that there is anything amiss about her (a wise perception) In other words.... YOU are FINE but if you like; you can improve on your skills.Thanks for the video... food for thought. Enjoy your day 😊💖

@blingclem 3 жыл бұрын

"The height of cultivation always runs to simplicity" - Bruce Lee

@Aeturnist 3 жыл бұрын

Fake it until you make it !! It's very powerful thing when you have anxiety and fears. Faking is hard first but it will eliminate your fears subsequently and make you calm. When you calm what you feel is happiness !!!

@RK-vt9xd 4 ай бұрын

So true

@sarared2292 3 жыл бұрын

“Stop focusing on who we are but who we can become” gold👌 Let go go of who you are and stop limiting yourself

@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265 3 жыл бұрын

Lifelong application of this .. means you become happier and happier

@jeansoo-learngrowserve3266 3 жыл бұрын

I agree that rituals and behavior change is the key to changing yourself. Some changes I've made are becoming an early riser to have time for myself, cutting out junk and eating only healthy food, exercising daily, journaling every night and etc... These rituals have made me feel more happy and at peace with life! ♥️😌

@danielsalgueiro2549 3 жыл бұрын

So easy listen to it. I’m study English these days, I want to travel when Covid “over” “finish” idk lol

@danielsalgueiro2549 3 жыл бұрын

@I’m Fatman thx man! I’m already don’t care about accent, especially cuz I practice ‘conversation’ alone. I speak Brazilian Portuguese btw :)

@Lowlitstudio 3 жыл бұрын

The human soul needs a life of meaning. Chasing happiness will surely lead to the opposite. Meaning is key.

@Cybernaut551 3 жыл бұрын

When I first saw "how to be a better person" was I moved, dumbfounded, dumbstruck, in awe?

@margonautxo 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. I’m at an extremely rough time in my life where I’m about to sit my final exams for collage. I feel lonely, abandoned, isolated. Hence why I’ve adapted this “asshole” like mentality, which I realise is getting me nowhere, and leading to me feeling more lonely. This video couldn’t have been recommended at a better time.

@maryjohannah1234 3 жыл бұрын

feeling miserable then had a notification about this one 3mins ago, timely.

@JaysonT1 3 жыл бұрын

What?

@zovalentine7305 3 жыл бұрын

"....and with all thy getting, get understanding...." ~ King Solomon, Proverbs 4:7

@jacksaitama5729 3 жыл бұрын

I'm just 2:30 mins into this video and i just cant comprehend how high in quality is this Video. The way you put is justttt beautiful. Lots of love from INDIA my friend.

@freezo244 3 жыл бұрын

I have always resisted forming routines (rituals) in my life but have lately been considering establishing a few. This video helps me understand the benefits of them. Thank you!

@Ruhan885 3 жыл бұрын

Embrace the chaos

@freezo244 3 жыл бұрын

@@Ruhan885 haha! Yes! Good point!

@Lukearthwalker 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you. This channel just keeps getting better and better.

@bludeguilherme 3 жыл бұрын

This channel is amazing. I feel like I learned so much since I started watching these vídeos. Keep up the good work

@terrycaldwellORST 3 жыл бұрын

That "Aholes can become pleasant and kind" slipped in at the end caught me off guard 😄😄

@kanikacr2568 3 жыл бұрын

I've an introverted personality.it's my personal experience that most of the people misunderstood introvert people as they're rude or egoistic person etc so you're saying that we should change ourselves and try to become more people's person(in my case).I'd tried that to become a extrovert person but in that process i didn't become extroverted person but i start loosing myself also and i didn't like that so I've decided not to change myself anymore. Be who you are.

@rightcliquegod7653 3 жыл бұрын

This who you are isn't something we were born with it's a series of experiences from our childhood outside of our control that shaped the personality of the people we are to day. So if I care too much what others think,low self-esteem or I fear being criticized by people which makes me rather prefer staying alone than interracting with other people, it is safe sure but with time it'll become a burden which might to serious problems both mental and physical. Hastag an ex introvert i guess xd

@orianeo6947 3 жыл бұрын

@@rightcliquegod7653 I agree with you that a lot of our personality is shaped by experience, if not most of it. But I do think we are born with certain traits that influence how these experiences shape us. For example someone might be born as a rather sensitive person, and later in life, based on how that sensitivity was nurtured, the person will turn out one way or another. If this persons sensitivity was nurtured and encouraged by their environment, they could perhaps turn out to become a great artist. But if they had to repress that sensitivity because their parents saw sensitivity as weakness, that person might not turn to out a great artist at all. But rather someone bitter, or even aggressive from having had to repress this part of them all of their life. So you turn out with 2 completely different people because of nurture, even though they were born with the same trait.

@betterapproachtolife.motiv3265 3 жыл бұрын

That is all our goals ... to simply be who we are .. and keep improving on that

@hossainshamil2132 3 жыл бұрын

You're videos are really good to keep oneself calm and collected. Thanks for the videos and keep it up .

@shywolf321 3 жыл бұрын

My favorite video on this channel at this moment. Thank you!

@nestoryassenga7995 3 жыл бұрын

This channel makes me feel and rethink how real life works, i love your ur contents and the comments are all awesome 🤗

@dugmai 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. With self cultivation and with progress in this endeavour it is important to stay humble.

@jessejohn7 Жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for posting / sharing this with us! I needed this. Thank you

@Lily-gb7jq 3 жыл бұрын

This is making me motivated to do new things to expand my comfort zone and become better. Too bad it's already 2am and I need to go to sleep. I should start watching these types of videos in the morning along with my coffee. New habit.

@mat-tilde 3 жыл бұрын

I scrolled past this video twice today, both times reading the title as ‘becoming bitter’ and then having to scroll back to confirm what I thought I saw. The actual video was much more insightful! For a while now, I’ve noticed similar patterns in my life that I’ve just chalked up to me being who I am while simultaneously getting frustrated that I am unable to change. My issue has always been talking to people and making connections. I never really did anything about it because I’d talk myself out of social situations often without realising it. I definitely agree with the ‘fake it till you make it’ approach though and have been employing something similar in my life recently to overcome this issue. Sometimes just pretending you’re at least a little bit more confident than you feel can make all the difference.

@doesntmatter3654 3 жыл бұрын

I don't know when have I agreed this much with something on KZfaq. Marvellous work!

@samuelebincoletto637 3 жыл бұрын

Confucius is without a doubt my favourite Chinese philosopher, thank you so much for this video.

@ristopaasivirta9770 3 жыл бұрын

When Stanislavski was building his "system", a way of teaching actors on how to develop characters, he found that although some characters are to be developed from the inward out, ie. built upon the psychology of the character, scenes and emotions can often times be made authentic through repeated action. If you constantly are doing what an angry person would be doing: throwing objects, shouting, cursing at everything, frowning; soon you will find yourself to be angry, even thou you started doing those actions with no internal emotion. Similarly if you laugh and smile artificially long enough soon you find yourself to be genuinely happy. Funnily enough in the 21st century through neuroscience we have found out that our brains are constantly reading our faces to try and decide what emotion we should be feeling. The reflex of smiling is faster than our inner conscious so just doing the act of smiling can lead our brains into thinking that we should feel happiness.

@yoshi8508 3 жыл бұрын

“A Daoist embraces our natural state and approaches life conformable to the force of nature” this resonates so strong with me

@danelobe2524 3 жыл бұрын

I threw away pride, and most of my worries left with it. I became free from the thoughts of others and happiness filled the void. I sold all my extra vehicles and traded up for a smaller home. Now I am not owned by my possessions and free time and money piled up faster than I could use it. Peace and security now own my doorway. I now live surrounded by comfort and simplicity........

@raquelmorocho7250 3 жыл бұрын

Just today I decided to do something different. And it worked. Without to know the " As if it" rule something turns for good forever. Great thematic. Greetings from an ecuadorian girl who lives in Germany.

@ayasavid9807 3 жыл бұрын

“Stop focusing on who we are but instead who we can become”

@Coodykween 3 жыл бұрын

Seeing this video was like a reassurance hug.

@MsDebbiedebby 3 жыл бұрын

This!!! This is what I’ve been trying to get the ppl in my life to understand, didn’t know there was a whole “religion” or established philosophy about it.

@noreenjenny7039 3 жыл бұрын

It is liberating listening to you. Be the change ❤ I need to work more on it! Thank you 🙏🌹❤😍

@behindthepie9430 3 жыл бұрын

your videos never disappoint. thank you, keep up the good work.

@MikuHayeon 3 жыл бұрын

This video hits home and somehow is what I needed to hear. Thank you so much 🙏

@alevsozer7924 3 жыл бұрын

I love the message of this video, and I needed to hear it. Thank you

@prasenjeetsaurav2334 Жыл бұрын

"A holes can become pleasant and kind" laughed out really loud. Btw love your content.

@praxis22 3 жыл бұрын

Yup, "Confidence is an act, anyone can fake it"

@millieilenelynnfetzig1576 3 жыл бұрын

Einzelganger, you have hit the head of the nail once again, right through my thick ass skull. I’ve been needing to adopt new rituals since intravenous drug use carries its own rituals. In reality, we have these rituals regardless of intent, because we are creatures of habit. Be it morning coffee/evening tea and reflection/planning (stoic) or fixing a rig. Or planning our wardrobe to look like a soccer mom despite our extra curricular activities. Thanks for being part of the grounding experience I have held onto during the last year or so. I hope you will be here in this new state of “attempting to flourish”.

@rhianGT 3 жыл бұрын

This one really hit hard, perfect example thank you.

@FelipeKana1 3 жыл бұрын

A few years back I had a few morning rituals that helped me to through a stressful job. Then I quit the job, eventually, and now I don't "need" the rituals, and started to forget them. But I surely miss them. Not only I miss those rituals, I miss the bit if order my day to day life had, even if my life is much better now. Still not sure how to restart a ritualistic routine in my current moment, tough. Yeah, rituals are important. Great video. Something else: this discrepancy in beliefs, this way of seeing ourselves as something concrete and immutable... I agree, its deeply problematic. Not to mention the connection to misused concepts like "souls", in recent years I consider that it revealed even worse facets, like people who would go under deep surgery or heavy hormonal treatments to forcefully change one's body into something that the person thinks "it is" inside.

@sundos.3 3 жыл бұрын

A video worths thousands advices! I live how your channel is somehow changing me since I discovered it in April/May 2020. Of course change takes time and I am trying to be patient with the habits I want to change in myself. I didn’t feel time passing in this video! Thanks a lot Einzelgänger!

@peterpaulparker 3 жыл бұрын

Another great video. Thank you. I totally agree with what you are saying here. When I was a professional musician I was just that. Nothing else would distract me with the task in hand. The gigs dried up and it became harder to find a band as the music business, as we knew it at that time, emploded. Now I have taken up Ki Gong and started to teach it. I have been building on my skill set now and am now producing educational webinars and also running a You Tube channel (and this isn't a plug by the way) to help me talk about my new found knowledge. I have been taught through the Tao philosophy from Korea, which originates in Sundo. It seems that the conciusions from all the Asian Eastern countries are much the same in many of there creeds and rituals. Knowwledge is a facinating journey and I look forward to your videos. Thank you for sharing. :)

@RockomusiK 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, I'm loving this channel. 😊

@doisaEFE 2 жыл бұрын

I'm having epiphanies as I watch/listen to your videos. Thank you for summarizing the valuable lessons from various philosophers throughout your videos!

@midnari 3 жыл бұрын

The master said, "Have no friends not equal to yourself." - Confucian Analects. Book 1, Hsio R, VIII

@mr.atomictitan9938 3 жыл бұрын

Your video just helped my understood most of what I was reading about for Confusianism. Like a cloudless sky, this makes so much sense. thanks!!!!!!!!

@kasondaleigh Жыл бұрын

I am really enjoying this channel. Thank you.

@ncjohnso08 3 жыл бұрын

That was beautiful and a much healthier way to look at one’s self.

@heyaheyo1420 3 жыл бұрын

Just started watching your vids, amazing my friend! It's been truly helpful.

@franciscojaviermongemunoz8537 3 жыл бұрын

I really love this video it's shown me several things that are so real and we can apply them everyday.

@a.g.1419 3 жыл бұрын

Amazing video. When i feel lost and unsure your videos pop up in my feed, thanks to them i am back on my way as always.💖

@jadesky7010 3 жыл бұрын

I like hearing stuff like this at 0.5... sounds better to me. Thank you master!

@castroirabradleys.4655 3 жыл бұрын

Being labelled as something makes you feel like you have an identity and having an identity allows you to feel special. Filling a role or purpose for society. Not until you realize the person who labelled you consciously or subconsciously has already manipulated you. I believe that cultivation is awareness of something or self then doing something about it. Depends on what fits right to your void or "label"

@shivashaktiyoga108 8 ай бұрын

this video is such a gift. thanks for sharing wisdom

@Ji-wz7ys 3 жыл бұрын

this is great, thank you very much for making the video!

@JoseIgnacioMora5 3 жыл бұрын

Just what I was looking for. Thanks again man :)

@tylersizelove7521 3 жыл бұрын

Moving to a new place and changing jobs was not something I was comfortable with, but seeing as how my current situation became stale and limited I see how this path is totally necessary.

@isabelldawn 3 жыл бұрын

Great content. I enjoy all of your videos!

@mariahelizabeth_ent 2 жыл бұрын

So needed this 💯

@minhvotran1115 3 жыл бұрын

i have followed your videos since the number of subscribers is less 100k, now it's blooming at amazing speed. you deserve it and thank you for the video.

@MindNow 3 жыл бұрын

*I think we should all strive for becoming better, right? Self reflection and being self analytical is the best thing u can do* 🙏 Since I have been doing it nearly a year now, I see how strong my ego is...

@user-ko5nz2yo8e 3 жыл бұрын

thank you very much. this video just spoke right to my heart. and such a huge burden has been lifted off my mind.

@onestep1646 2 жыл бұрын

everyone should watch this im sure it would help many people and give hope to many people to know the power of change is in all of us

@soap.333 2 жыл бұрын

Man. I am in love with your content mate. Idk if you’re going to see this a year after making this but man your content adds value to my life. I am consistently self cultivating and being the change I want to see within. Thank you.

@MasteryOrder 2 жыл бұрын

Be the change that you want to see in the world around you. We are all responsible for our times! Build yourself into a man of character and strength, a man of his word and master some useful skills that you can put in the service of others and you will have a great and fulfilling life. If you are interested in topics related to manhood and masculinity, feel free to challenge yourself with some ideas on the Mastery Order Channel and, of course, challenge back if you have other points of view. Looking forward to your opinions. All the best to you!