How to Transform Yourself in Solitude | Useful Ways to Spend Time Alone

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Hermits, regardless of why they’ve chosen their lifestyles, may have closed themselves off from one world; they’ve gained another: a world that’s potentially much deeper and fulfilling. It’s no surprise that hermits have appeared in many cultures in human history. Another example are the Christian desert mothers like Syncletica of Alexandria who abandoned the city and spent the rest of her life in a crypt. Or Hindu philosopher Ramana Maharshi who meditated for many years at a temple, and Rabbi Yosef Yozel Horowitz who spent years of his life in seclusion.
But even though a stronger connection with God and the prospect of enlightenment are the grounds on which these hermits secluded themselves; there’s also a more mundane reason why spending time alone can be beneficial: it’s an opportunity for self-transformation.
Being alone can be a transformative experience if we utilize it correctly; which is backed up by numerous accounts in the field of psychology (see links in the description) as well as philosophy and spiritual teachings like Buddhism.
Now, this video doesn’t recommend becoming a hermit nor socially isolated in ways that are unhealthy and destructive, or gives any ‘advice’ for that matter. Solitude is a tool, which can be used for good and bad, in moderation and excess, and this video explores the benefits that solitude can have. The information presented to you is mainly based on the author’s reasoning and observations, supported by different sources. Video: How to transform yourself in solitude, and useful ways to spend time alone.
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00:00 - Intro
02:07 - (1) A chance for self-knowledge
05:26 - (2) A chance to let go of fixed views and groupthink
08:25 - (3) An opportunity to become more self-sufficient
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@Profound79 3 жыл бұрын

"One who looks outside, dreams. One who looks inside, awakens." - Carl Jung

@Uriel-Septim. 2 жыл бұрын

"Know thy self" - oracle of delphi. “Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom, Mastering others is strength; mastering yourself is true power.”- Lao Tzu. “know yourself and you will win all battles” - Sun Tzu.

@Leelz247 2 жыл бұрын

I do both 😆

@withinmypower9999 2 жыл бұрын

How?@Rubim Ellmelech... Be specific

@Uriel-Septim. 2 жыл бұрын

@@withinmypower9999 How what ? please elaborate. Those are quotes from Lao and Sun Tzu and the Oracle of Delphi, may I suggest that you read "The art of war" and look in to Greek history "Know thy self" (in Latin: Nosce te ipsum) is one of the Delphic maxims and was the first of three maxims inscribed in the pronaos (forecourt) of the Temple of Apollo at Delphi. But if you want to interpret on it, lets try a bit, by knowing yourself in and out, you will know what you stand for and can stay true to yourself etc. other people will have a hard time persuade you, to do things that is`t in your best interest, like most advertising is designed to do, or stray from your path, as you will have one since your know yourself and what you want, you will not be a pawn in the hands of others with a stronger will power, but be the master of yourself, by knowing yourself you will know your own strengths and weaknesses and therfor is able to work on your weaknesses and use your strenghts to it fullest, you will know your limitations and that will enable you to stay humble and know that you don´t know it all and that will allowe you to learn. "True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing" --Socrates.

@DerScheisse 2 жыл бұрын

Um yeah. Can someone knock tf out now? "If one makes it through a day without killing oneself it was a good day" - Someshit Schopenhauer prolly said.

@ReynaSingh 3 жыл бұрын

“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone”

@harrytd 3 жыл бұрын

Pascal, if I remember rightly? And he is right.

@deshawnwest9538 3 жыл бұрын

All of humanity’s problems stem from that one fish that wanted to walk

@davewelbylivinginhistinyti4796 3 жыл бұрын

All of humanity's problems is that man wants to be the best in a god like figure, but he's to stupid to know how. Love to all and, all to love. Namaste 🙏

@charleswhitford2026 3 жыл бұрын

All of humanity's problems are rooted in greed. All transgressions and sins begin with greed.

@covalentbond7933 3 жыл бұрын

@@deshawnwest9538 if a time-machine is invented I want to kick that fish back in

@Peter_Parker69 3 жыл бұрын

Been voluntarily isolated in the forest here in Norway for years now. First it was because I was severely depressed, now I just can't get enough of the peacefulness.

@atulkatti80 3 жыл бұрын

Happy for you bro

@cdracos1 3 жыл бұрын

At least you have a good internet signal !

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

Living The Dream 👌

@southlondon86 3 жыл бұрын

Happy for you too! I’m envious!

@adamnasser8707 3 жыл бұрын

ooh ! Iam happy for you. You are a blessed man .I dreams Everyday of An oportunity to be Alone in nature

@alijafari4148 3 жыл бұрын

"Be alone, that's the secret of invention; be alone, that's when ideas are born." Nikola Tesla

@Vishal006 3 жыл бұрын

Wasn’t he the guy that died of loneliness and depression and didn’t even get much recognition for helping with the discovery of the lightbulb. Whereas Thomas Edison had his ‘invention factory’ which was a group of inventors that worked together to create inventions and it is they that succeeded

@natural-Beast 3 жыл бұрын

@@Vishal006 that is the oficial narative

@abhishekpoudel500 3 жыл бұрын

@Vishal006 when live gives you a choice to be Tesla or Edison. be the Tesla.. U will not be a slave..

@dpc3324 3 жыл бұрын

@@Vishal006 He was also a gay man that, despite helping the British govt in war, was chemically castrated by that some government for being gay

@thehousethatjackbuilt3422 3 жыл бұрын

What people don't want to understand is that if you want to be a loner, you have to have cluster A personality disorder, so you can enjoy being alone and in solitude. If you're a normal person without those traits of cluster A personality disorder, It's going to be very difficult for you to find enjoy being alone more than one week

@Paul-eb2cl 3 жыл бұрын

...instead of being alone in a group, it's better to have real solitude all by yourself. - Faye Valentine (Cowboy Bebop - Jupiter Jazz (Part 1))

@Munkaa 3 жыл бұрын

A man of culture, well said mate!

@viraj3975 3 жыл бұрын

☺☺☺

@vans2548 3 жыл бұрын

carry that weight.

@urmama54 3 жыл бұрын

and whatever happens, happens.

@WindHashira 3 жыл бұрын

See you someday, somewhere space cowboy or cowgirl! 🚀 🤠

@heathrunyon4036 3 жыл бұрын

I’m at peace when I’m alone. That’s why I travel alone and hike alone. Self love is peaceful!

@davenchop 3 жыл бұрын

from my personal experience in both of those endeavours it helps to have a dog with you...

@JudicialBrat 3 жыл бұрын

Until you get attacked or mugged out of nowhere. Better have a weapon.

@iraholden3606 3 жыл бұрын

@@JudicialBrat Honestly the odds of that are incredibly low, been doing it myself for 6 years, including through cities at night and never had something like this happen, though I'm a big bloke

@Lalabooey 3 жыл бұрын

@@iraholden3606 sadly women can’t relate

@iraholden3606 3 жыл бұрын

@@Lalabooey True, assumed from his profile Sol was a bloke

@remmer7010 3 жыл бұрын

In an unhappy marriage for 23 years because I was afraid to be alone. Finally realized I was alone already. Moved out on my own and the loneliness disappeared. I now love being alone. Can't believe I ran away from it for so long.

@unknowninfinium4353 3 жыл бұрын

Congrats dude. Take pride in the life you build.

@solidfuel0 3 жыл бұрын

@@unknowninfinium4353 she is not bro.. she was my wife

@GUCC1197 3 жыл бұрын

@@solidfuel0 Are you happy now she’s gone?

@solidfuel0 3 жыл бұрын

@@GUCC1197 yes we were unhappy for 23 years. We both are better people now. I just regret that I wasted my only life being in unhappy marriage. I should have ended it when she first cheated on me 20 years ago

@GUCC1197 3 жыл бұрын

@@solidfuel0 That’s painful. Hope you can heal now💗

@geekygirl01 3 жыл бұрын

When alone, you are not comparing yourself to others. I feel like people that like to be alone are the most grounded as they don’t seek the attention or approval of anyone

@True38 2 жыл бұрын

Very true. I'm an introvert and don't use any social media anymore except KZfaq and messenger from time to time. You can always feel the pull though, especially if you are without social contact for too long. That's why the best way to live is to just work, find a partner, work out, and go out and have some fun. Vacation is also good and getting away from your normal routines.

@brad8440 2 жыл бұрын

I agree 👍. I have been very codependent on what others think of me and always have to be around people to be ok for many years. Now coming to a place in my late in my 40s, I love spending time with myself and learning the true me

@lorddominator8099 Жыл бұрын

All interaction is civil and respectful, also people have real problems unnecessary quarrels are avoided.

@Triadii Жыл бұрын

That is just one of the great comforts about being alone

@continentalgin 3 жыл бұрын

If you go through a traumatic experience, and in weeks following that, you are alone and not really accomplishing anything, take heart in the fact that you are busy healing in stillness, which is very worthwhile. Don't think you are lazy, be positive.

@laudashra Жыл бұрын

this is beautiful, thank you

@Aaronkatriel Жыл бұрын

Needed to read this.

@Poorpixie Жыл бұрын

Needed this. Thank you

@paytonparke594 Жыл бұрын

this is true, it's good to allow yourself to just do nothing. :)

@stylinzon Жыл бұрын

thank you :(

@Eternalised 3 жыл бұрын

*If you are lonely when you're alone, you are in bad company.* ― Sartre

@Christrulesall2 3 жыл бұрын

Agreed. An idle mind is the devil's work shop.

@carlos4477 3 жыл бұрын

Also.....”Hell is other people.”

@Christrulesall2 3 жыл бұрын

@@carlos4477Or to put it more direct, Narcissist are hell. These people are not human.

@iraholden3606 3 жыл бұрын

@@Christrulesall2 No, 'Narcissists' (who don't exist as a seperate kind of people) are just ordinary people who are very insecure and cope with this by pretending to be someone better than they actually are. If you actually love yourself you wouldn't be a narcissist, you require self hatred to be narcissistic

@Christrulesall2 3 жыл бұрын

@@iraholden3606I agree. I didnt mean that in a literal since. I meant from their morals. They are very immature people who have a false delusion that they must live up to the perception on what people what them to be and to achieve it, they must be willing to step over anybody and anything to get what they want. Thats who these people are. They have no conscience in the traditional sense. Its alll about them and are to be avoided at all cost. They will destroy you.

@vv4ra 3 жыл бұрын

i'm in love with solitude since i was a kid. i never fit in and finally after maaaany years i realized that i should stop pretending like a "normal" person and just be my real self. i'm a loner and i'm cool with it.

@elenasoto03 3 жыл бұрын

The worst times in my life came when I tried to "fit"

@TopsyCret 3 жыл бұрын

I feel exactly the same...

@hermitcell8568 3 жыл бұрын

When I am with people I am alone ,when I am on my own I don’t feel alone ,I feel happy and content.

@Shantelldale 3 жыл бұрын

✌🏼

@mngardener6016 2 жыл бұрын

Me as well. Finally stopped trying to swim against the current.

@centocerez 3 жыл бұрын

I broke up with my gf of 15 years and moved out of our house one month before the pandemic hit. I spent most of the last year alone, for the first time in my life. It was hard at first, but now I haven't felt better in years. I made a lot of changes to my life and habits, I'm working through my issues and anxiety, I grew a lot and really got to know myself. It's like my mind is clearer and more focused. And more importantly I found out I don't NEED anyone in my life, there's just a few people that I WANT in my life. I spent too much time and energy worrying about what people thinks of me when I'm completely fine on my own.

@FirstLast-zr9cy 3 жыл бұрын

Good for you man. The journey is difficult in the beginning but then you find a rhythm that works and brings peace. Life is too short to waste time with the wrong people, which drives home even more the point to make yourself the best company you keep. ✌🏼

@nunyanunya6398 3 жыл бұрын

My family is dead. I'm alone. Naw, it's shitty

@TheHomeinspections 3 жыл бұрын

Just split from my g/f of 11 years. I'm in the same situation but starting to adjust. Thanks for posting , we are not really alone after all

@ataricr 3 жыл бұрын

thank you for this yo. glad ur good 🤍 this inspired me today

@nunyanunya6398 3 жыл бұрын

Rumor is..they usually want to get married by the first decade.

@Dacademeca 3 жыл бұрын

*"Solitude is good for great minds but bad for small ones."* - Victor Hugo

@sdla690 3 жыл бұрын

Well said. does everyone define solitude the same way?

@antonboludo8886 3 жыл бұрын

I live alone, where I can have peace and quiet when I want, but I go out and socialize with ease everyday.

@clemensundt6268 3 жыл бұрын

Sometimes I feel like the quotes in the comment section are pretty elitist and often focus on how your behavior is superior to others. Maybe it's just my feeling, any thoughts?

@sheet3335 3 жыл бұрын

Me atm and yes it is very bad

@sheet3335 3 жыл бұрын

@@clemensundt6268 i didn't notice that because I have a small mind :

@IsaacJoshi 3 жыл бұрын

Only when you are alone do you find out who you really are

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

TRUTH 👌

@coolpfpbut9505 3 жыл бұрын

Ive been alone for a year and I dont know wtf I want or am

@notsure1135 3 жыл бұрын

Even then...

@Super_Broly 3 жыл бұрын

@@coolpfpbut9505 there is not set time and you shouldn't make it a goal to be alone or mindful, these things should happen naturally. And when they do your response to being alone shouldnt be to seek out others or feel as if you arent content. Instead you should learn to embrace this freedom, and along the path, the door way to the true you will be revealed, but even still, not everyone is made to be alone and maybe you arent one that would benefit from solitude. You have to answer that first.

@eheheh3263 3 жыл бұрын

This lady said you find out who you are when you interact with other people...

@squirrelcovers6340 Жыл бұрын

OMG YES! No annoyances, no dealing with someone else's problems. Peace, quiet, calm and soothing. There's nothing better than solitude. Hermits Unite, Alone, at Home😂

@marielajung6744 Жыл бұрын

😂😂😂😂 yesssss

@magnatarbeing8749 Жыл бұрын

If hermits united then they wouldn't be alone.

@carolinaalcazar.4620 10 ай бұрын

@@magnatarbeing8749sarcasm my dear

@gayanngodfrey2824 2 ай бұрын

Hi fren

@sasacabalquinto 3 жыл бұрын

Some people doesn't want to be alone because they're afraid to face their own demons that they can easily point on other people

@alitkhalife7028 3 жыл бұрын

❤

@hlogilehlogonolo5438 3 жыл бұрын

My mom said that she hates being alone because she’s scared of her thoughts, that surprised me and saddened me to the core.

@cindyrelleee8095 3 жыл бұрын

Some people have anxiety

@jJust_NO_ 2 жыл бұрын

this is really true.... i dont like people who blame and cant the responsibility of their own selves.

@luke-1-804 2 жыл бұрын

@@jJust_NO_ don't worry about anyone else

@supremepartydude 2 жыл бұрын

As a guy who was a bachelor for 20 years after high school, I think I can speak on this topic. Being content to be by yourself means being classified by your family, friends, associates as a loser and a loner. They don't care to hear that you enjoy your own company and love yourself. They want to hear that you want a big wedding followed by lots of kids they can play with. When you don't fulfill their expectations, you will only get their total disgust.

@ananya.a04 Жыл бұрын

It's not just you, brother. This is a very typical Indian thing you hear from relatives, and it's even worse for girls because we have a 'biological clock' and 'need to have kids while we still can because women are only worth something when they are wives or mothers'. While I admit that having a biological limit to having children is a harsh reality for many, but it is not the only fulfillment in life, is it? Many may not want children or families, and I think as a society we should accept such individuals as well.

@Animalis_Mundana Жыл бұрын

You're not bullshitting at all.

@danacoleman4007 Жыл бұрын

Screw those assholes. They just want to suck you into the same crap that they're a part of. Stay strong!

@carribgirl007 Жыл бұрын

They mean well, however they are programmed minded. Many people are.

@WorldifySanity Жыл бұрын

Oh it is much, much worse as a woman.

@degenjmartin9368 3 жыл бұрын

Loneliness is hell, Solitude is peace.

@simondewit6119 3 жыл бұрын

I never feel alone or lonely, when I'm by myself. When I am amongst other people, it's when I on the other hand, feel the most lonely. I'm trying to learn to appreciate time with others though, but it will never be better then alone time.

@Shwettyapple 3 жыл бұрын

The only way to think my own thoughts without interference from others.

@michaelbarry8373 2 жыл бұрын

Should have your own thoughts while with others.

@goldmund2902 3 жыл бұрын

I had trouble with depression 2 years prior. At some point I basically cut contact to 95% of my contacts, went regularly on long walks alone without my cellphone. I did this for half a year, in which i realized that i was not pursuing my own goals in life and was overly hung up with what others might think about me (as I always felt like the odd one out, as some see me as a weirdo). I am now heading in a way different direction and am way happier. I've always was okay with being alone from time to time, but the in few years before my depressive state, i was constantly with other people, as i was a quite prominent student at my university department. Now i am confident that spending time alone is probably one of the most important aspects of a happy life, for me.

@kayanatorx3 2 жыл бұрын

woah this sounds EXACTLY like what happened for me 2-3 years ago from depression and other issues.

@sigrid3553 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you both for sharing! 👍

@IsaacJoshi 3 жыл бұрын

We can grow best when we arent worried about what others think 🙏

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

AMEN to THAT ❣️

@sudheermuthoju9859 3 жыл бұрын

Obviously dude💥

@tejaswinilakkaraju258 3 жыл бұрын

But how to stop worrying about what others think?

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

@@tejaswinilakkaraju258 We have to realize that we don't have any control over HOW people think. We only have control over HOW we think. We have the power to not let others, have the power over our thoughts. As we age it get easier ❣️ Meditation can also help.

@ninakoinz8477 3 жыл бұрын

I have grown to love my solitude. I treasure it.

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

Me too 🤗

@unknowninfinium4353 3 жыл бұрын

I been noticing and enjoying it too. More and more infact down to the point I look forward to it. As often as can.

@Good-Happens Жыл бұрын

❤me as well!

@sallylemon5835 2 жыл бұрын

"They didn't leave me, they lost me." "I never lose them, I only lose interest in them" If you ever felt, well.. disregarded and insignificant, turn the tables and keep visualize it till it became reality.

@radiancemussington9131 2 жыл бұрын

Yhh…this is highly subjective. Some people are better off to be left alone even if they don’t understand. Sometimes you leave because they don’t want to change themselves. Sometimes they leave because you don’t realize your own flaws.

@chickadee317 2 жыл бұрын

People are not lost they are returned

@loganthekiwimaster4421 Жыл бұрын

@@chickadee317 stoicism core

@viummovae 3 жыл бұрын

Carl Jung loved solitude. In his autobiography, he wrote 'Outward circumstances are no substitute for inner experience. Therefore my life has been singularly poor in outward happenings. I cannot tell much about them, for it would strike me as hollow and insubstantial. I can understand myself only in the light of inner happenings. It is these that make up the singularity of my life' ..........Thank you Einzelganger 👁 your videos are great.

@robertoorsi3203 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, but Carl Jung was married, had several children, and even extramarital affairs. So technically he was not completely alone all his life.

@WindHashira 3 жыл бұрын

Great quote. I'm glad I came across it.

@WindHashira 3 жыл бұрын

@@robertoorsi3203 you don't understand. Just because someone has a family or significant other, that doesn't mean they can't have feelings of aloneness. I have a wonderful family, yet I feel so alone at times.

@mts2639 3 жыл бұрын

@@WindHashira Well, he's right in saying that. Jung was happily married to his wife, and she was quite involved in his work too. The kind of solitude this videos points to is a different level of solitude.

@viummovae 3 жыл бұрын

@@mts2639 Carl Jung after having the 'regular lifestyle' to which roberto points out when to live totally alone. I think we are not talking about different solitudes in here... after all, we [most of us] are born in a family that will introduce us to life in society. The choice of the hermit is not a childhood one, I guess...In any case, I think we are talking about the same kind of solitude 🙂

@Dacademeca 3 жыл бұрын

*"Solitude is where one discovers one is not alone."* - Marty Rubin

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

We are never truly alone, when we love our selves ❣️🤗❣️

@maximuscomfort 3 жыл бұрын

@@janycebrown4071 I love me too

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

@@maximuscomfort Awesome possum 💕

@ayaaly2866 Жыл бұрын

Wow loved that

@ramontavaresdacruz2256 3 жыл бұрын

As someone who usually isolate myself whenever I feel the desire so, I also would like to bring up that interaction is also a necessity for self-seaching as much as isolation. When you're alone you do have a better chance to know yourself - but to know yourself alone may not be your whole self, since being alone denies you of everything else that's also you when accompanied. It is crucial to be at easy with being alone, but we can't deny that when we're close to people, we're also given the chance of being ourselves, and human interaction bring some exclusive experiences which you can't achiev alone. I see isolation as the place where I go to synthetize all the new information and stimulus I received interacting with the world and myself

@rafrosenberg5408 3 жыл бұрын

Awesome Comment. I agree. There has to be in my opinion a mirroring soul. Someone preferably a therapist who has knowledge of trauma by going through it his/ her self and healed it within themselves. Being alone can bring up things from early on which have to be processed, validated, felt to integrate. It's extremely difficult to sift through this with a fragmented self.

@dumfriesspearhead7398 Жыл бұрын

The irony is that when I'm with other people that is when I'm LEAST myself. I know myself better alone.

@Kuza.Madeit Жыл бұрын

@@dumfriesspearhead7398 facts i put a mask on around most people because i know they wouldn’t except me for who I really am and I would just end up being ghosted for being too”quiet/boring” im by myself so I don’t have to worry about my brain flooding with negative thoughts when i get around others like am i not talking enough? Do i look good enough right now? Are they looking at me?

@Koko________ Жыл бұрын

I love this thank you

@carolinaalcazar.4620 10 ай бұрын

This is beautiful

@FutureMindset 3 жыл бұрын

The most important thing about solitude is that away from all the noise, we have the chance to reflect. Giving ourselves the ability to reflect is the key to self-actualization.

@matheussanthiago9685 3 жыл бұрын

''in the desert you can remember your name, cause there ain't no one for to give no pain''

@cryb0rg 2 жыл бұрын

I not only love being alone, I crave it. I've never quite been able to get how people can be afraid of or hate being alone. Being with people you love and going through things together is magical in its own right, but so is solitude (in a whole different way).

@Kellycreator Жыл бұрын

After a sixteen year marriage which I often felt lonely, even around friends, I dated for years but learned to enjoy my own company more. It’s nice to touch base with familiar faces from my home town but since the plandemic, I feel like it’s a lot of effort. You can have meaningful interactions with people online and since the experimental vaccines, there is a community of like minded individuals that can share their experiences in forums or via vlogs like these. Staying away from mainstream living has effectively saved me from being a candidate. I made an informed decision using my own inner compass, not herd mentality or coerced by employer as I’m self employed. If a situation ever arose where we all had to help each other, I believe the “hermits” would be better at organising etc as we’d see more clearly through the chaos. Peace to anyone reading this ❤😊

@MikeJackson690 Жыл бұрын

Oh man, the part about hanging out with people that we don't really like to not feel alone... I did exactly that with a group of "friends" who ended up betraying me when going through a tough time. I ended up in hospital because of it. The only silver linings are that it ended those "friendships" and my mindset changed for the better.

@dragutintheslav-veliki790 Жыл бұрын

Lived for 2.5 years in the woods on the hills all alone. Best 2.5 years of my life, I could do anything and I had time to do everything before going to bed, no stress, no deadlines and no need to hurry up with anything. That time was so calming and full of life's lessons that usually people pay institutions to get.

@MihaelaClaudiaPuscas 3 жыл бұрын

“Telling an introvert to go to a party is like telling a saint to go to Hell.” ― Criss Jami, Killosophy

@LuisSierra42 3 жыл бұрын

I wouldn't call myself a saint but being in parties does feel like hell to me

@alitkhalife7028 3 жыл бұрын

@@LuisSierra42 🤣smart

@iraholden3606 3 жыл бұрын

Introverts don't exist

@matheussanthiago9685 3 жыл бұрын

@@iraholden3606 you don't exist

@Shantelldale 3 жыл бұрын

Right

@Trinx09 3 жыл бұрын

His voice calms my anxiety filled soul. Lol

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

Breath. Always remember to take DEEP BREATHS❣️

@sirgoosehonk2716 3 жыл бұрын

Laugh out loud

@myrna4445 3 жыл бұрын

Solitude is very different from loneliness. Many people are surrounded by others yet feel very lonely. That is why when people suicide many will say, they seemed happy, there were no red flags. There were red flags, but people just assume that because the person doesn’t show outward appearance of sadness doesn’t mean they are battling struggles within.

@kieransimpson4965 3 жыл бұрын

Yes, particularly people who don't have an understanding of depression. Perhaps they see things in more black and white terms - 'this person's OK because they are laughing.' For some people, ignorance is bliss, they cannot cope with it. Some people lack the ability to read between the lines aswell. And some people just want to leave interactions feeling better about themselves, or at least not feeling worse. . I feel like I'm saying everything and nothing here really!

@happierabroad 3 жыл бұрын

that's because you don't connect with the people around you. if you did you wouldn't feel alone.

@dumfriesspearhead7398 Жыл бұрын

@@kieransimpson4965 You said everything here, very succinctly. Thank you. In my experience, most people know but ignore it because they cannot deal with the potential implications of knowing.

@KRAZEEIZATION 3 жыл бұрын

I love being alone for long stretches. Walking, running, driving. I’ve always been into solo pursuits, music, reading, photography. I can spend time with people but there’s always a cut off point. Weddings, parties, social outings are a chore for me, so I always have an excuse ready!

@Kytreeswerving 2 жыл бұрын

Spending time alone the right way is important. Stay active. Use your body and mind and be an observer of your actions. And be curious about what you can do next. Don’t sit by yourself and do nothing. That’s where the problems start.

@Kristen-ek9rz Жыл бұрын

I've learned more wisdom by sitting by myself and doing nothing.

@rosarosa3048 11 ай бұрын

"If you need a real friend, God is sufficient" Master Nursi

@EricaGrafton 2 жыл бұрын

I have been using iv drugs for about 2.5 years. Also homeless and then in an institution for the last 3 months, so I have some catching up to do on this channel. The last 3 months have given me a new perspective of solitude. You replied to an email of mine in January of 2020, before the pandemic and not even 1 year into my relapse. It was more meaningful than I can express. Even 4 months later I was still important enough to get some of your time. I copied down what you said, and soon I will be able to implement the ideas to create a new family. However, this video reminds me that I need to become more comfortable being alone. Still. I have realized that I have/had more people in my life (healthy ones) than I originally thought. Consumed with memories of the ones who left, the ones who stayed suffered. I suffered and prayed for death because of the abandonment of a shit load of assholes. I intend to face the demons I refused to in 2005 when I originally got clean. I intend to become my own best friend. Starting right now, I will look at the thoughts and emotions I sought to escape. I have known this on an intellectual level, but it feels easier today than it did yesterday. Thank you for being a part of my recovery.

@willowwhite7196 2 жыл бұрын

Wow! That is the spirit! Success to you!

@milenabuchanan6486 2 жыл бұрын

this is wonderful, good luck and success with the rest of your journey!

@DystopianApocalypse 2 жыл бұрын

Keep on keeping on, you got this!

@annmorgana2848 2 жыл бұрын

all the best to you, sending ❤️

@ARA-ee9yr Жыл бұрын

You are a thriver. I believe in you

@scaredfolks5923 3 жыл бұрын

Just be careful to not isolate yourself too much. I like my solitude so much I never go out. You’ll forget how to be social and interact with people for the times it is important like a job interview or teamwork.

@darkverse6100 Жыл бұрын

Its better to be alone than to be with people who make you feel alone. Came out of an 8 year narccicist relationship. Great video.

@AaronHendu Жыл бұрын

I have spent the past 5-10 years becoming what others have termed "an urban hermit". It has been the most influential period of my 37 year life so far. My life had been full of abuse and i had known nothing else. Ive found love and support within myself. And am finally beginning to prosper.

@nienketimmerman1801 Жыл бұрын

🍀☀️🌸

@SIERRATREES 9 ай бұрын

urban hermit - - I love that.

@_Eric._ 3 жыл бұрын

I know alot of people agree that solitude gives way to self improvement or healing. But that's not always the case (Imo). I'm introverted for the most part and have been single for most of my life since I deal with depression and and anxiety. I realised that not everybody can be secluded by themselves, I don't like being surrounded by noisy people yet I still look for that one person who will enjoy and appreciate quiet moments and being away from people every once in a while. I'm the kind of person who has grown up being the qiuet, reflective one surrounded by alot of judgemental and uncomfortably loud people yet I still depend on some social attention (specifically from certain type of people) in order to know what my positives and negatives are by comparing those certain people's opinions on me with my own. I guess I subconsciously look for approval from certain people, This my way of growth and maturity.

@twoprayingbuddhas892 3 жыл бұрын

I agree, as what esther perel said in her study that only we can learn to find ourselves in our relationships with others, what i wanted to say as well is that seclusion and being alone once in a while maybe healthy for some people who needed it but some people may not

@Jeri- 3 жыл бұрын

Eric, l used to maintain friendships bcz l thought that was the right thing to do, but l was much more at ease alone, now l don't bother with friendships, there's times l find I'd like someone to talk to but not everyone fits the kind of person l would feel comfortable with, l find my Faith fills 99% of gaps in my life and brings great peace, plus the need for approval left, we're spiritual beings and this life is a place of learning,

@iliveinsideyourhouse3943 3 жыл бұрын

Well, humans are a social species after all.

@nachiketh3650 3 жыл бұрын

Nope that is not the whole picture. Being introverted and solitude is not the same thing. The goal from solitude is to not even rely on approval. I would elaborate more but this forum seems inappropriate. But as someone similar to you (I'm 20) I''d say that there's a lot more to it than simply growth or maturity. It is rather about the paradigm itself.

@Jeri- 3 жыл бұрын

@@nachiketh3650 🍃 Introversion is a sign of the soul needing healing, all issues in the mind come from a hurt in the soul, yes, l agree, needing solitude is not the same as being Introverted, people who like solitude are whole, l used to be introverted, my upbringing made me that way, but finding and having a relationship with Jesus healed me where hundreds of self help & phycology books failed, bcz the problem isn't in the mind it's in the Soul, which can only be reached spiritually,

@marleneg7794 Жыл бұрын

In another life I spent 45😊 days in solitary confinement while in jail. Changed my life in every way I emerged changed refreshed grateful and restored.

@Dragonmoonful Жыл бұрын

I just lost my best friend. And I have to regain the ability to be able to be happy on my own again. This video reminds me that it isn't so bad to be alone. It's helping me finding my peace again. I used to be happy on my own, just do things that will make me happy. I was perfectly fine on my own. But ever since I met my ex-best friend, I slowly opened up and learned to rely my happiness on other. I started focus on doing what make us or my bestie happy. I let myself be comfortable like that for a long time. But now it's all gone, and I have to be with myself again. I know I can manage this, since I used to be happy alone before. But I have forgotten how I can be happy on my own and scared to be alone. I try to regain that feeling, that ok-ness. This video gives me a peace of mind and is helping.

@magicarp9437 Жыл бұрын

good luck on your journey, i hope you find your own happiness soon. have a good day

@TimelordUK Жыл бұрын

I cant imagine the horror of NOT being alone! I love it

@Kusumi4chan 3 жыл бұрын

Literally got ditched yesterday and this shows up. Perfect timing as always 🙏

@ellajo1209 3 жыл бұрын

I’m glad your mind is open to the riches that solitude can bring you at this difficult time. I hope you will okay, thrive and laugh again sometime soon. Look after yourself. Best wishes.

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

Today is the first day of the rest of your life! I hope that you are doing well 🤗

@Kusumi4chan 3 жыл бұрын

@ellajo1209B @Janyce Brown Thank you so much for your kind words! It means so much, I hope to get better soon. Best wishes to all 💐

@dannybarly441 3 жыл бұрын

@@Kusumi4chan how are you now ? I hope everything is better for you now

@Kusumi4chan 3 жыл бұрын

@@dannybarly441 thank you for asking, this came out as a surprise hah it's been only a month, so it has been rough. Talking about it helps, not pushing oneself to heal faster helps... And dreaming about better tomorrow. One day it will be a distant memory and I am looking forward to that.

@gillb9222 7 ай бұрын

I have been isolating, initially due to depression, for 6 years now and I love it. I have my pets, I have a comfortable place to live, I speak to my children regularly (they live elsewhere as adults) and I get what I need delivered. I'm happier now than I have ever been. I can love as I like, wear what I like and be who I am rather than having to put on a mask and pretend to be someone I'm not for the sake of other people. I am neurodivergent and people are hard work for me so without that social interaction I am less stressed and have found peace in my life. I don't feel lonely ever. I wish I could go outside more and enjoy the world but if its a choice of going out and having to engage with people or staying in amd being quiet and peaceful I would take the latter every time

@newfound_glory 3 жыл бұрын

You know, the same thing can be said about "falling in love". When you're in it - you can accept lots of things, though when break-up happens, life is started being smashed, thought at the same time some new ways, new ideas can flood into one's mind. Also, for me it's hard to learn something new when I'm in love, due to that "love inebriation". In my case solitude after the break-up has given me clarity and new ways of living.

@tracywilliamsliterature 3 жыл бұрын

January 2020 i decided to spend a year in solitude, meditating and observing my own mind. One of the best decisions i ever made.

@rmn8818 Жыл бұрын

Thank you i feel better now and i have to go back here and listen to your lessons in order to remind myself that living alone is for my own wellness.

@elsa8578 2 жыл бұрын

“What a lovely surprise to discover how unlonely being alone can be.” - Ellen Burstyn

@ericpouw4591 3 жыл бұрын

Solitude is like a hole dat needs to be filled. That has not always to do with being alone. Bad company is often worst. Without connection you are better of alone. I prefer nature and animals to people.

@gosoviral8460 2 жыл бұрын

I’m 18 turning 19 years old and I actually spend 90% of my life alone. friend groups, relationships, just gone like that. I rarely hangout but I realized time with yourself even when you don’t like the loneliness is that there are many blessings in disguise…You just have to find them.

@rokosolo3652 3 жыл бұрын

One word: HEALING 😇 Thank you.

@vivekbhange7150 Жыл бұрын

@alancat2705 3 жыл бұрын

even covid19 and self isolation has separated the men from the boys as regards mental attitude . some people can't live without their lives cluttered with modern living ; while others it has been a revelation in getting rid of the cluttered life !. making a positive out of a negative situation !. :) seiriyokuzenyo !

@MrFryhead957 3 жыл бұрын

Thats been me. Without the lockdowns, I wouldn't have changed my habits and mindset

@dullknifefactory 3 жыл бұрын

I've been alone my entire life and don't see that ever changing.

@dullknifefactory 2 жыл бұрын

@@unusual6523 I'm busy

@melodies5622 Жыл бұрын

Is it possible to be addicted to being alone? Just recently became a grandma and still.. prefer to be alone. It so peaceful! Grew up with lots of drama in the home.. a divorce and a brother struggling with coming to terms with dad being gone (he was domestically violent towards mom and I). Immediately had my own kids at a young age (3 kids by 23).. chaos has been most of my life.. this peace is so.. peaceful. ❤

@lavish_1717 3 жыл бұрын

I love solitude, I learn so much more about myself when I’m spending time alone.

@grayj7441 Жыл бұрын

My solitude starts and ends at home. As a Cook i am grateful to serve the public. It's what i have been for 35 years. As for home i have a small family of Cats inside and out. As well as the wild critters i feed every night. The time to myself is filled with painting, science, literature. My dream come to life🖤

@SIERRATREES 9 ай бұрын

sounds great !

@justchill4885 Жыл бұрын

Found out my gf was cheating on me, broke up with her. My friend group at the time isolated and vindicated me for having different political views. So I spent the past 3 years isolated and rebuilding who I really am. I found who I was, found new friends, and I'm in better mental and physical shape now, than I ever have been. Solitude has saved my life time and time again. I simply can't understand those who Constantly have to be in the presence of others.

@havefaithtarot 2 жыл бұрын

Love that quote “if you can’t live alone, you were born a slave. You may have all the splendors of the mind and the soul, in which case you’re a noble slave, or an intelligent servant, but you’re not free.” Wow. Love it.

@dumfriesspearhead7398 Жыл бұрын

Or should it be if you can't BE alone.

@rodfrancis9160 Жыл бұрын

I find my time alone goes so quickly. It makes me appreciate and value my lone time and look forward to finishing my shift and arriving home to no one.

@vitorluigi2911 3 жыл бұрын

Came here faster than light. this videos are so good that one second without watching them is potentially a sin

@loganguidry7667 3 жыл бұрын

This dude einzelganger always spittin 😈

@marlonjormungand7845 3 жыл бұрын

Fits the channels name. Einzelgänger means alone-walker in german.

@animelvr99 3 жыл бұрын

I did not know that

@fortunatelebelo259 3 жыл бұрын

I’m just in love with the accent 😊

@Robert-cy3qx 2 жыл бұрын

You are so kind!!! I love you, beautiful soul!!

@JAytch2010 3 жыл бұрын

I've been feeling an intense need to be alone. This serves as confirmation that this is the right path. Thank you!

@rovhalt6650 Жыл бұрын

Being in solitude is a good way of finding yourself. More people in society should do it.

@Iam_ramankaur 2 жыл бұрын

loved this. This actually makes us more strong when we don't seek the love outside. when we seek everything outside which is available within us, then this means we need to love ourselves more.

@seamuseclipse Жыл бұрын

excellently said!!

@kriszen846 3 жыл бұрын

Sisters and brothers do not rush to solitude :) If you are here to live long enough it probably comes on its own :) On the other hand after 3 years seclusion, joy of any company is appreciated a lot :) Take care :)

@patrickhicks9880 Жыл бұрын

How can you ever really think for yourself or even be yourself if you're never alone?

@jonvia 2 жыл бұрын

I feel very drained when around others so being in solitude is a gift from the gods for someone like me! I get a lot done when alone whether its for my music career or for reflectional reasons in learning where I need to improve as a human being.

@nunopereira265 Жыл бұрын

Solitude is literally like a good friend that helps you grow but it lives inside of you and it manifests when exterior factors don't interfear

@morelandevents9058 2 жыл бұрын

Solitude is very helpful for me as a empath it helps me recharge myself and it is one of my self care tool.

@kharris0465 Жыл бұрын

I am back to eating better and exercising. I am doing those two things first. I have knocked an item off of my bucket list also. I am going to keep going. Alone.

@shaonic 3 жыл бұрын

I needed this... I have been binging these vids all morning.... trying to find some peace of mind... I lost my grandmother a few hours ago and I honestly don’t know what to do with this empty feeling. Spending my time in solitude is all I feel like doing

@macelvee 3 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry you're grieving. I hope you find some peace in your solitude. 🙏

@annenymety209 3 жыл бұрын

Peace be with you 🙏🏼💔

@grammiekats8771 3 жыл бұрын

When I lost my dad a year ago I spent several hours alone. I got myself out of the house and was comforted by the sunshine on my face, the beautiful clouds, listening to the birds, noticing little purple flowers, touching the leaves. Then I realized I was surrounded by my dad and there is where I found comfort. I pray you find comfort.

@MrFryhead957 3 жыл бұрын

Hope youre okay, heres a heart for your grandma 💜

@ivoriangodess1 2 жыл бұрын

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

@logicandreason9935 3 жыл бұрын

At first, loneliness seems like a curse that has been stricken upon you, but as you remain in loneliness for longer, you start to realize, much of the pain and stress in your life is due to other people coming in to your life ( He/she did this or that to me, he/she thinks that of me, etc). The most amazing gift lonely people have is PEACE. Another thing that comes along with it is the ability to discover yourself and find who you are, no one can do that but yourself, for the person to decide his or her own path in his or her life is and is always ought to be the one who can fully and truly decide their path.

@degenjmartin9368 3 жыл бұрын

You've fully articulated what i thought about in my head that i couldnt express with words...I also want to add that for me, i think most people who resist being alone with their inner voice and live life in the momentum of other peoples expectations, dont realise that their constantly living in a state of reaction, to their environments actions.

@davidarundel6187 2 жыл бұрын

I've lived in cities & it's been lonely not knowing anyone, until they catch my accent. I'm better off, without other pepole, acting out their lives, & not really caring about others. This Christmas, was a good example - those whom I know to be alone or lonely, were contacted, just prior to, with small gifts, to help them feel cared about - those who were helped are all over 85 years - the "youngest" being, 101.5 years. Namaste 🙏 💟

@PureNRG2 Жыл бұрын

It doesn’t necessarily need to be all or nothing. Take your solitude or enjoy others as you need.

@dailydoseofmedicinee 3 жыл бұрын

👍This can also help a person to form or discover their identity without any outside distractions. Solitude also provides time for contemplation, growth in personal spirituality, and self-examination.

@davidschantz5363 3 жыл бұрын

Being alone is not the same as being lonely. Learn to love thyself and you will eventually learn to love others....

@margarettickle9659 7 ай бұрын

Im 72. I finally enjoy being by myself. Wish I was intelligent enough to appreciate myself in the past. Learned to appreciate myself by filling the hole in my life with knowledge. Do not waste your time in pity when information will fill the loneliness.

@hyapastrebe4984 2 жыл бұрын

Psalms 46:10 " Be still and know that I'm God." Amen.

@natural-Beast 3 жыл бұрын

I grow better in solitude but we need people to see ourselfs in them,for better or worse.

@okeekpagha2126 3 жыл бұрын

I think there's a lot of material that talks about solitude as the best form of self actualization, but that doesn't point to the whole truth. We also need people, the push and pull, the grind of achieving something and measuring ourselves against yardsticks to see just how much of our growth and realisation will hold up in the day to day existence we live. I find that solitude is a thing of the mind that helps you gain understanding. But confidence and trust are built by being out there and acting out what's on your mind. If not, it's easy for anxiety to creep in.

@natural-Beast 3 жыл бұрын

@@okeekpagha2126 I totaly agree,once solitude revealed some answers its time to get back in the world.

@finding_mojo 3 жыл бұрын

Dude, I just love the simple, straightforward, common sense stuff you produce. It's wonderfully sane and sound. Love your work.

3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, Peter!

@jeremyfridley2862 3 жыл бұрын

I just received my copy of "Stoicism for Inner Peace". I'm very excited to sit down and start it, this evening! Thanks for all your work!

@mvrao29 7 ай бұрын

You have an indomitable spirit to inculcate noble values in fellow humans. God Bless you 🙏

@sleepy-sheepy6517 Жыл бұрын

I really envy the people who have had good experiences in isolation but I spent most of my life growing up alone. I would spend summer in my room by myself with nothing but my own thoughts to keep me company. This made me into the incredibly intelligent and introspective person I am now but it also warped my sense of reality quite incredibly. When your mind is left to wander it will come to some crazy conclusions. Ones I’ve had to learn weren’t actually “reasonable” or “logical” but simply my mind running loose and never getting corrected because I had no one to talk to. Even simple stuff like how my brother abused me. I didn’t know until I jokingly told a story and my friends all looked at me in horror and said “that’s abuse” interacting with the outside world is really integral for your development

@woodroblue8332 3 жыл бұрын

Luv being alone cause people always looking for new ways to make other around them miserable

@sharinaross1865 8 ай бұрын

I've enjoyed solitude. Helps with introspective mindset.

@lorddominator8099 Жыл бұрын

Just me and my dog. The woods are amazing to think and explore

@janycebrown4071 3 жыл бұрын

When I was little I would have panic attacks when I was alone. Now I LOVE my alone time 💕

@liafuentes326 3 жыл бұрын

I love being free. Detachment heals the soul.

@legginglovers966 2 жыл бұрын

It’s true I went inside… and found out a lot about myself… it’s wonderful….

@JonnieShipbaugh-dc9wk 11 ай бұрын

Solitude can be beneficial but a life worth living is one in service and blessing to others. Our example is Jesus of the Christian Bible.

@lessmore444 3 жыл бұрын

Solitude & silence are now far more valued & enjoyed than noisy social situations. If I had to choose one over the other it wouldn't be difficult. A balance of both is optimal.

@qwertyki9367 3 жыл бұрын

i dont get peoples issue with social interaction. you dont have to be their friends. you could just talk to them and dont expect too much from people

@lessmore444 3 жыл бұрын

@@qwertyki9367 social interaction sans expectations are quite easily enjoyed. To a point. Balanced with solitude. Many find solitude uncomfortable, I’m not one of them. Time alone actually seems to increase the value & quality of socializing. We’re all different & we’re all the same in thinking we’re different.

@captc0ck5lap60 2 жыл бұрын

"Freedom is the mother of joy, and solitude is its midwife"

@paytonparke594 Жыл бұрын

Last year I fell into depression so I iscolated myself and hid from people. At that time, I felt lonley and felt that I needed connection, and perhaps I did. But during depression I was determined to better myself and started to educate myself and learn how to be a happier in life and kinder to myself. By the end I changed drasically and for the better. Solitude really improved my outlook on life, happiness, perception, and overall changed me as a person.